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"No just been curious attached people get a lot of hate here. Maybe a little group for the attached people may work " Hate for Cheating on a life partner , oh the horror  | |||
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"Married, wife doesn't know about becky " How? | |||
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"A lot of these threads are here purely to stir the pot. " *taps the wooden spoon against the rim of the pot* Uh-huh... Every little helps  | |||
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"Personally the way I see it - I genuinely don't give a crap about what cheaters do as long as they steer clear from me and do clearly state on their profiles or from the very first message that they are here cheating on their partner/spouse, so I can make an informed choice weather I want to get involved with them or not. There's been a few instances lately when someone was parading as a single, swearing up and down about how single they are, hurt and deceived a lot of people in the process then cried crocodile tears about how judgy everyone is towards them. Shitty behaviour. M" Agree, and the attached ALWAYS want to be sneaking in and out of your house, jeopardising your safe space and not their own. I recently had a message asking did I want a 3sum in my house with a single And an attached F, both of whom I never met before. Eeeeh no thanks, my house is not a free hotel for attached people. They can be cheeky. | |||
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"Everyone is here for Their own reasons .. but to slate them is wrong if it's not for you just leave them alone..all the attached gather up see who's here " See that's the problem - a lot of cheaters lie about being single. Many people would steer clear from them if cheaters didn't lie about their relationship status, but hey ho. Even worse - some people who don't want to get involved with cheaters unknowingly met some and now they're being called a hypocrite for being deceived. I don't see how is it wrong to slate a cheater who deceives people about their relationship status and lures unsuspecting people into their cheating. | |||
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"Some are discreet and want no trouble just purely want nsa I dont really judge anyone .. everyone is here for the own reasons " Clearly they want no problem, unfortunately the problem isn't them, the problem is their husband/wife who has a MASSIVE fucking problem | |||
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"But what if their other half basically forces them here . We don't know what's going on behind closed doors. I just hope everyone is safe " Hahaha forced because your not getting sex at home no . Try doing the right way have a proper grown up adult chat find out what's wrong or leave them don't be a pussy and cheat there is never a good enough reason to hurt some like that . | |||
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"Non judgement ! Seems the ones the judge are often the ones that are seeking more than just nsa fun! In that case description clarity helps "Ah surely we must be wrong dearr sir, they are in a loving, stable relationship / marriage, and do not feel threatened in any possible way by all these deformed cheaters and vile liars! They are all above that, and have no need to explain themselves nor miss the opportunity to out all of these lowly beings into their rightful place. | |||
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"No just been curious attached people get a lot of hate here. Maybe a little group for the attached people may work " Why? | |||
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"The heat isn't bothering me.. I just see so much hate towards people who are attached.. then realised there's a lot of both men and women here who are attached " . Well no one ever mentioned o given out about attached ladies. It’s ok for a lady to cheat but it isn’t for a lad …. | |||
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"The heat isn't bothering me.. I just see so much hate towards people who are attached.. then realised there's a lot of both men and women here who are attached . Well no one ever mentioned o given out about attached ladies. It’s ok for a lady to cheat but it isn’t for a lad …. " Cheating is cheating...there is absolutely no difference if it is a man or a woman
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"The heat isn't bothering me.. I just see so much hate towards people who are attached.. then realised there's a lot of both men and women here who are attached . Well no one ever mentioned o given out about attached ladies. It’s ok for a lady to cheat but it isn’t for a lad …. " From my observations- only people who never mention cheating women are the men who want to fuck them. Rest of the people who don't want to fuck them - see them on the same plain cheating level and don't get involved. | |||
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"The heat isn't bothering me.. I just see so much hate towards people who are attached.. then realised there's a lot of both men and women here who are attached . Well no one ever mentioned o given out about attached ladies. It’s ok for a lady to cheat but it isn’t for a lad …. From my observations- only people who never mention cheating women are the men who want to fuck them. Rest of the people who don't want to fuck them - see them on the same plain cheating level and don't get involved. " Men cheating or women cheating it makes no difference there is still someone at home going to be heartbroken and feeling betrayed. | |||
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"Hands up or reply privately If you are attached" If it bothers someone that the person they're talking to or meeting or having a sexual encounter with is either single or in a relationship then clearly they've missed the whole point of no strings attached websites. If you're one of those then maybe have a look in the mirror and ask for your money back. You pay your money, take your chance/choice and either enjoy it or regret it. If you can't see that then you shouldn't be in the game. | |||
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"Hands up or reply privately If you are attached If it bothers someone that the person they're talking to or meeting or having a sexual encounter with is either single or in a relationship then clearly they've missed the whole point of no strings attached websites. If you're one of those then maybe have a look in the mirror and ask for your money back. You pay your money, take your chance/choice and either enjoy it or regret it. If you can't see that then you shouldn't be in the game. " If you don't know what swinging is, then maybe stop pretending that you do. | |||
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"Hands up or reply privately If you are attached If it bothers someone that the person they're talking to or meeting or having a sexual encounter with is either single or in a relationship then clearly they've missed the whole point of no strings attached websites. If you're one of those then maybe have a look in the mirror and ask for your money back. You pay your money, take your chance/choice and either enjoy it or regret it. If you can't see that then you shouldn't be in the game. If you don't know what swinging is, then maybe stop pretending that you do." Ha ducking ha Run along like a good little insecure "couple" and bring your feelings with you | |||
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"Hands up or reply privately If you are attached If it bothers someone that the person they're talking to or meeting or having a sexual encounter with is either single or in a relationship then clearly they've missed the whole point of no strings attached websites. If you're one of those then maybe have a look in the mirror and ask for your money back. You pay your money, take your chance/choice and either enjoy it or regret it. If you can't see that then you shouldn't be in the game. " Consider that maybe "the game" is very different for different people and some choose to act ethically and choose not to do to something they will regret later. | |||
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"No I'm only asking because there seems to be alot of attached people here that get hate from the singles. Might set up a group for the attached people " Not just from the singles | |||
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"Hands up or reply privately If you are attached If it bothers someone that the person they're talking to or meeting or having a sexual encounter with is either single or in a relationship then clearly they've missed the whole point of no strings attached websites. If you're one of those then maybe have a look in the mirror and ask for your money back. You pay your money, take your chance/choice and either enjoy it or regret it. If you can't see that then you shouldn't be in the game. If you don't know what swinging is, then maybe stop pretending that you do. Ha ducking ha Run along like a good little insecure "couple" and bring your feelings with you" You want a shovel for that? Dig dig dig | |||
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"I'm attached, my partner knows I'm on here. She's on a different site with my knowledge. Would I be in the group? Very confusing this " You see cheaters often can't own what they are. Instead, they are "attached" or "married". So technically a lot of us belong in their group  | |||
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"Yikes. Lots of defensiveness in this thread. I'd agree with those calling it out. Swinging falls under the "Ethical non-monogamy" (ENM) umbrella. Also known as CNM - consensual non-monogamy. Lots of us take that seriously. Especially couples, as we had to do the work to create this environment of trust and transparency in order to explore non-monogamy. Cheating isn't ethical, and it isn't consensual. It goes against all the ideals of what if means to open up. So yeah, people will be pissed off to hear "it's all the same because we're all having sex". This isn't a "no strings attached sex" site. It's a swinging site. There's a difference. I feel bad for the people who are unhappy in their relationships.I hope they can find solutions and maybe they will consensually open up. But there is no reason why swingers should be expected to facilitate or condone cheating. It's not ENM. " This hits the nail on the head. Bravo. Mic drop. | |||
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"As there are probably more singles and cheaters, such as myself, than there are genuine ENM swinger couples on here, the site name has probably now become something of a misnomer. I can understand how those who see themselves as behaving ethically in seeking sex outside of their relationship are annoyed that others have invaded their space. But when couples start to seek out Unicorns and Bulls to add to their sexual explorations the clear and distinct line between ENM and swinging, as it has become, starts to fade. But in fab, as in life, "you pays your money and you takes your chance" and it's entirely up to ENM'ers who they wish to engage with on here. Perhaps a site with the ENM specifically in the title would better suit those who are offended by us NonENM'ers being active on this site. Not defending Not judging Not whinging Just commenting. " It literally says swingers in the title
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"As there are probably more singles and cheaters, such as myself, than there are genuine ENM swinger couples on here, the site name has probably now become something of a misnomer. I can understand how those who see themselves as behaving ethically in seeking sex outside of their relationship are annoyed that others have invaded their space. But when couples start to seek out Unicorns and Bulls to add to their sexual explorations the clear and distinct line between ENM and swinging, as it has become, starts to fade. But in fab, as in life, "you pays your money and you takes your chance" and it's entirely up to ENM'ers who they wish to engage with on here. Perhaps a site with the ENM specifically in the title would better suit those who are offended by us NonENM'ers being active on this site. Not defending Not judging Not whinging Just commenting. It literally says swingers in the title
A forum is a place for everyone to express their opinions. Even ones you don't like."I absolutely 100% agree with you on both points. As I said at the end of my post I was mearly expressing my own equally valid opinion by way of comment on the thread and not disagreeing with or disliking anyone else's opinions. | |||
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"Yikes. Lots of defensiveness in this thread. I'd agree with those calling it out. Swinging falls under the "Ethical non-monogamy" (ENM) umbrella. Also known as CNM - consensual non-monogamy. Lots of us take that seriously. Especially couples, as we had to do the work to create this environment of trust and transparency in order to explore non-monogamy. Cheating isn't ethical, and it isn't consensual. It goes against all the ideals of what if means to open up. So yeah, people will be pissed off to hear "it's all the same because we're all having sex". This isn't a "no strings attached sex" site. It's a swinging site. There's a difference. I feel bad for the people who are unhappy in their relationships.I hope they can find solutions and maybe they will consensually open up. But there is no reason why swingers should be expected to facilitate or condone cheating. It's not ENM. " Can’t agree more with this 
I think CNM can bring so much growth to a marriage. Also fun and excitement. People should really try to open up and communicate in a clear and honest way with their partners, it’s worth it….. | |||
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"I'm attached, my partner knows I'm on here. She's on a different site with my knowledge. Would I be in the group? Very confusing this You see cheaters often can't own what they are. Instead, they are "attached" or "married". So technically a lot of us belong in their group " | |||
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"Love it. There is so much hate here towards the attached.. everyone to their own. And if someone is here and attached it's their business and nobody else should have a say about it " If you're meeting someone do you tell them you're attached but your other half does not know you're on here meeting people for sex? | |||
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"Some are discreet and want no trouble just purely want nsa I dont really judge anyone .. everyone is here for the own reasons Clearly they want no problem, unfortunately the problem isn't them, the problem is their husband/wife who has a MASSIVE fucking problem" This right here ?????? | |||
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"Some are discreet and want no trouble just purely want nsa I dont really judge anyone .. everyone is here for the own reasons Clearly they want no problem, unfortunately the problem isn't them, the problem is their husband/wife who has a MASSIVE fucking problem This right here ??????" What about it? You don't think I'm right that wives of cheating husbands, and husbands of cheating wives would generally have a big problem with this? | |||
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"Some are discreet and want no trouble just purely want nsa I dont really judge anyone .. everyone is here for the own reasons Clearly they want no problem, unfortunately the problem isn't them, the problem is their husband/wife who has a MASSIVE fucking problem This right here ?????? What about it? You don't think I'm right that wives of cheating husbands, and husbands of cheating wives would generally have a big problem with this?" Actually i think you're 100% right.. just noticed that while i used the "thumbs up" emoji from the keyboard rather than the icons on the screen... it actually came out as ? Marks... So my comment should have looked like. "This right here | |||
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"Ahh yeah it does that if you use the apple/android keyboard emojis, instead of the site ones. Sorry for misunderstanding you "No apology needed.. its all good  | |||
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