FabSwingers.com forum: Timewasters on the Rise ....

By *adyKarmennTV OP TV/TS
34 weeks ago

Dublin

Or is it just me its happening?

Over the weekend i had 5 lads basically not show up! 3 were ones who were mailing me for a while and we had arrangements made but on the day when i checked in well im still waiting on those messages to be opened

Others just made last minute arrangements and said they were on the way but im still waiting haha!!

I was actually in the middle of chatting to a guy yesterday and he deletes his profile! There just seems to be a bigger amount of messers and timewasters on the site ...

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By *uxomplayCouple
34 weeks ago

Drumcondra

We have learned the hard way that a sincere person will have a quick chat on the phone before meeting.

You can root out time wasters early by letting them know you’ll want a call before setting off.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

This is exactly why I have posted that I'm going to the DV8 TGirl event on Friday and have told anyone that messages me that I'll be there.

No chit chat, just I'll be there if you want to meet me. Then i don't care about no shows as I'm going to be going anyway and I haven't wasted my time with endless online chat...

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By *adyKarmennTV OP TV/TS
34 weeks ago

Dublin

That’s a good idea! I had the plans already in place, spoke with the lads before and all was good then on day they ghosted!

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By *exyScientistsCouple
34 weeks ago

Castlebar

Definitely. Especially the younger ones...

I don't really expect people to show up all ghe time so I plan meets around my journey to get the shopping done

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By *adyKarmennTV OP TV/TS
34 weeks ago

Dublin

That’s the problem for myself I’m not always available for the socials because I work weekends but that’s a great way of avoiding it

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Unfortunately time wasters have always been an issue on here but I agree that it's gotten worse recently. Where has the old fashioned meet up and if something happens cool and if it doesn't cool gone to.

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By *ildarekinkstersCouple
34 weeks ago

kinkytown

Too many messers on here lately both new and well verified. Even doing socials is a waste as show for social then ghost for play. Used to be fun but increasingly more effort than it's worth sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

"That’s a good idea! I had the plans already in place, spoke with the lads before and all was good then on day they ghosted!"

Come to DV8 Friday if you are free

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By *hoenixagamTV/TS
34 weeks ago

Rural

"That’s a good idea! I had the plans already in place, spoke with the lads before and all was good then on day they ghosted!"

Tell me about it, they have no problems crossing boundaries or ability to read messages

I took time out because I got tired of the bolloxoligy, then the same dudes who were meant to meet would message me a week later asking how am I .

Do they live in a parallel universe or haven't any memory span lasting more than the time it takes to send a mail.

Then you have the guy's telling me, I'm not like all the rest of those lads I say I'll meet ill meet...

They then do the same as all the rest, then you have the other type of guy who's saying he's not like the guy's who say they're not like those guy's and they do the same, and so on .

You can't be up to them, oh and theres the guy who on Thursday said he's single, then a week later saying he's attached, you say I thought you said you're single. They say no I never said I'm single lol pmsl scroll down and there it is, same guy in a few previous messages saying they're not attached and single...

I only do spontaneous meets now, no more planning they are either going to get their asses into their cars and call out or fuck off lol

The bitch is on a roll today, ie me

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By *eijaWoman
34 weeks ago

City Centre

OP there have always been timewasters but lately there definitely seems to be an increase...it is really putting me off meeting new people. Total waste of my time!

I think I will stick to my usual plan of only meeting new people at socials

B x

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By *adyKarmennTV OP TV/TS
34 weeks ago

Dublin

Those days are well gone I think!

I know there’s always been timewasters which happens but it’s gone out of control now! I don’t understand at all why go through the effort of chatting sorting something and then not even show up

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By *hoenixagamTV/TS
34 weeks ago

Rural

"Those days are well gone I think!

Ironically when I was an admirer myself I'd always turn up, it's being a man and standing by my word.

Although I could have missed a few meets because a guy being intense puts me off too, it's hard to get the balance.

But I'll admit I have standards, and guys tend to approach sometimes as if I'm a nympho and easy, far from it....

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By *s LollyWoman
34 weeks ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Ive given up on meeting anyone the amount of times the car has to go for an nct or sky engineer was calling or working in a different location has come up is amazing as for ghosting that's a whole new thread in it's self

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By *adhatter and coCouple
34 weeks ago

Middle of mayo n peaceful tranquility

"This is exactly why I have posted that I'm going to the DV8 TGirl event on Friday and have told anyone that messages me that I'll be there.

No chit chat, just I'll be there if you want to meet me. Then i don't care about no shows as I'm going to be going anyway and I haven't wasted my time with endless online chat..."

And what happens if there’s a stampede of men at the club wanting to meet you Princess ?

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By *osie2023Woman
34 weeks ago

Tallaght

"Too many messers on here lately both new and well verified. Even doing socials is a waste as show for social then ghost for play. Used to be fun but increasingly more effort than it's worth sometimes"

Same. Met a guy for a social and got on great but then he let me down when it came to meeting up for play. Didn’t even text which I think is so rude, so I was left sitting here. At least make up an excuse but don’t waste someone’s time

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By *carlett!Woman
34 weeks ago

"This is exactly why I have posted that I'm going to the DV8 TGirl event on Friday and have told anyone that messages me that I'll be there.

No chit chat, just I'll be there if you want to meet me. Then i don't care about no shows as I'm going to be going anyway and I haven't wasted my time with endless online chat..."

That's exactly what I do now too. If they want to meet me they can go to the dv8 Sunday social. No ticket or invite needed. How easier could it be like. So many time wasters.

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By *ethmeonfireMan
34 weeks ago

Dublin

Not want to start a fight here but couples are doing the same. Got stood up on Saturday

Glad to have blocked, reported and suspended their account.

And what is with the people asking for some money on Revolut?

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By *s LollyWoman
34 weeks ago

The pub then supermacs ...

"Not want to start a fight here but couples are doing the same. Got stood up on Saturday

Glad to have blocked, reported and suspended their account.

And what is with the people asking for some money on Revolut?"

Fair play for reporting

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By *rusader1Man
34 weeks ago

Dublin

It is unfortunate when people go to considerable expense (financially and time wise) to organise meets and this kind of thing happens.

The reality and fantasy of swinging are two very different things as the majority of us know, plus the fact that this site allows many fantasists to set up profiles is a hard thing to challenge.

So why wouldnt people become disheartened by it....

Rant over....

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By *ethmeonfireMan
34 weeks ago

Dublin

"Not want to start a fight here but couples are doing the same. Got stood up on Saturday

Glad to have blocked, reported and suspended their account.

And what is with the people asking for some money on Revolut?

Fair play for reporting

Just in the last week I have reported 5 accounts all of them gone off fab

It is just crazy now

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By *rusader1Man
34 weeks ago

Dublin

"Ive given up on meeting anyone the amount of times the car has to go for an nct or sky engineer was calling or working in a different location has come up is amazing as for ghosting that's a whole new thread in it's self

Dont give up just yet...

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By *s LollyWoman
34 weeks ago

The pub then supermacs ...

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By *s LollyWoman
34 weeks ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Dont give up just yet...

That time has come and gone......

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By *ugby 123Couple
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34 weeks ago

O o O oo

"Not want to start a fight here but couples are doing the same. Got stood up on Saturday

Glad to have blocked, reported and suspended their account.

And what is with the people asking for some money on Revolut?"

Always report people asking for money please

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By *reyingbeardMan
34 weeks ago

city

Dont give up just yet...

That time has come and gone......"

Good to hear it's gone again so

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By *ugby 123Couple
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34 weeks ago

O o O oo

Arranging meets and not turning up is something that should be reported please, along with someone asking for or offering money

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