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"I think fab is a general cross section of society so you're going to get groups of friends that are fairly exclusionary due to the fact they're similar and familiar. Doesn't mean they're being malicious. And even if it does then that's just friends groups anywhere depending on the people" I love this answer it’s like I agree but don’t agree Thanks for the input .. I know where you’re coming from | |||
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"Ok I’ve been on & off this for years so I’m certainly not a newbie .. 1 thing that’s always popped up in conversations is how clique Irish fab is … so I’m asking you is Irish fab Clique? My answer from my experiences in my area would be a definite yes " Definately is. I'm here a month only, and I've only banged 76 snobs. Ashamed.com | |||
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"I wouldn't say it's a clique as such. A lot of people know each other from socials and meet and greets.I have made a lot of good friends this way and don't consider that I'm part of a particular clique or group. " I'd agree with this. As time goes many form friendships which can grow into friendship groups. Perhaps from the outside looking in this can appear clique-ish but it's really no different to other areas of our lives where friendship groups may form. I wouldn't say that there's an all-encompassing Irish group or clique, more a number of groups that may sometimes overlap. Are some exclusionary? Probably. Are some intimidating? Probably. Is that always intentional? Probably not. | |||
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"I wouldn't say it's a clique as such. A lot of people know each other from socials and meet and greets.I have made a lot of good friends this way and don't consider that I'm part f a particular clique or group. " This is the answer I was looking for what you’re saying is actually Clique .. i know you don’t see yourself as been clique but your answer says otherwise.., it’s like unless you’re involved in socials and meet & greets well then you’re outside the group .. thanks so much | |||
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"I wouldn't say it's a clique as such. A lot of people know each other from socials and meet and greets.I have made a lot of good friends this way and don't consider that I'm part f a particular clique or group. This is the answer I was looking for what you’re saying is actually Clique .. i know you don’t see yourself as been clique but your answer says otherwise.., it’s like unless you’re involved in socials and meet & greets well then you’re outside the group .. thanks so much " Totally agree with you there | |||
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"If you look at the forums as a very very small group of people who chat and have a laugh maybe you could call it a clique but there's a vast amount of people on fab who never go on the forums.Instead they only meet at private parties and have fun .....are they a clique also Isn't the whole site a clique until you get known So you agree with me then? Everyone has to start somewhere...be it in school,work,football team,golf club or fab and I presume its only natural to think everyone is cliquey until you get to know others and become friends on here I mostly meet people at socials where I chat to friends and introduce myself to others who Ive never met and I think most others do the same It's normal human behaviour in my opinion " | |||
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"I wouldn't say it's a clique as such. A lot of people know each other from socials and meet and greets.I have made a lot of good friends this way and don't consider that I'm part f a particular clique or group. This is the answer I was looking for what you’re saying is actually Clique .. i know you don’t see yourself as been clique but your answer says otherwise.., it’s like unless you’re involved in socials and meet & greets well then you’re outside the group .. thanks so much " If you don't attend socials, you need to work ten times harder to meet people. It's that simple. | |||
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"I wouldn't say it's a clique as such. A lot of people know each other from socials and meet and greets.I have made a lot of good friends this way and don't consider that I'm part f a particular clique or group. This is the answer I was looking for what you’re saying is actually Clique .. i know you don’t see yourself as been clique but your answer says otherwise.., it’s like unless you’re involved in socials and meet & greets well then you’re outside the group .. thanks so much If you don't attend socials, you need to work ten times harder to meet people. It's that simple." You’re actually agreeing with me .. thanks So unless you’re part of a group you don’t stand a chance that’s what I’m taking from this | |||
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"If you look at the forums as a very very small group of people who chat and have a laugh maybe you could call it a clique but there's a vast amount of people on fab who never go on the forums.Instead they only meet at private parties and have fun .....are they a clique also Isn't the whole site a clique until you get known Everyone has to start somewhere...be it in school,work,football team,golf club or fab and I presume its only natural to think everyone is cliquey until you get to know others and become friends on here I mostly meet people at socials where I chat to friends and introduce myself to others who Ive never met and I think most others do the same It's normal human behaviour in my opinion " I agree totally with your saying there bog . But it's the chat/ telegram groups is the problem now . | |||
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"I wouldn't say it's a clique as such. A lot of people know each other from socials and meet and greets.I have made a lot of good friends this way and don't consider that I'm part f a particular clique or group. This is the answer I was looking for what you’re saying is actually Clique .. i know you don’t see yourself as been clique but your answer says otherwise.., it’s like unless you’re involved in socials and meet & greets well then you’re outside the group .. thanks so much If you don't attend socials, you need to work ten times harder to meet people. It's that simple. You’re actually agreeing with me .. thanks So unless you’re part of a group you don’t stand a chance that’s what I’m taking from this " I went to my first social with 24 hours notice and walked in knowing 2 people at it I'm still friends 5 years later with people that I met that night Lots of people don't go to socials and meet people for play Lots of people expect things to fall into their laps with no effort and dont get anything out of fab | |||
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"If you look at the forums as a very very small group of people who chat and have a laugh maybe you could call it a clique but there's a vast amount of people on fab who never go on the forums.Instead they only meet at private parties and have fun .....are they a clique also Isn't the whole site a clique until you get known Everyone has to start somewhere...be it in school,work,football team,golf club or fab and I presume its only natural to think everyone is cliquey until you get to know others and become friends on here I mostly meet people at socials where I chat to friends and introduce myself to others who Ive never met and I think most others do the same It's normal human behaviour in my opinion I agree totally with your saying there bog . But it's the chat/ telegram groups is the problem now . " So do something about it and set up your own group | |||
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"In my experience the people most concerned about cliques are usually butthurt because they can't get meets or have been blacklisted or blocked for being a dick at some point. " Nope on all accounts | |||
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"I wouldn't say it's a clique as such. A lot of people know each other from socials and meet and greets.I have made a lot of good friends this way and don't consider that I'm part f a particular clique or group. This is the answer I was looking for what you’re saying is actually Clique .. i know you don’t see yourself as been clique but your answer says otherwise.., it’s like unless you’re involved in socials and meet & greets well then you’re outside the group .. thanks so much If you don't attend socials, you need to work ten times harder to meet people. It's that simple. You’re actually agreeing with me .. thanks So unless you’re part of a group you don’t stand a chance that’s what I’m taking from this I went to my first social with 24 hours notice and walked in knowing 2 people at it I'm still friends 5 years later with people that I met that night Lots of people don't go to socials and meet people for play Lots of people expect things to fall into their laps with no effort and dont get anything out of fab " Cool story but ? | |||
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"I genuinely expect another ban from the forums soon … which if happens proves how Clique Irish Fab can be " The mods are UK based. Besides why would you get a ban? You asked a question and you got answers. Someone even agreed with you. I'd call that a result. | |||
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"I genuinely expect another ban from the forums soon … which if happens proves how Clique Irish Fab can be " Ah you should be ok . We are not tarring everybody here on fab with the same brush | |||
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"I genuinely expect another ban from the forums soon … which if happens proves how Clique Irish Fab can be Ah you should be ok . We are not tarring everybody here on fab with the same brush " So are you two part of a clique now  | |||
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"I genuinely expect another ban from the forums soon … which if happens proves how Clique Irish Fab can be The mods are UK based. Besides why would you get a ban? You asked a question and you got answers. Someone even agreed with you. I'd call that a result. " Really ? Do I have to explain Irish forums are famous for people getting bans for upsetting the Applecart … I’m not looking for a result I’m looking for a fair balance of opinions some agreed some didn’t some came in with nonsense .. calm down | |||
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"I genuinely expect another ban from the forums soon … which if happens proves how Clique Irish Fab can be Ah you should be ok . We are not tarring everybody here on fab with the same brush So are you two part of a clique now "No definitely not | |||
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"I genuinely expect another ban from the forums soon … which if happens proves how Clique Irish Fab can be The mods are UK based. Besides why would you get a ban? You asked a question and you got answers. Someone even agreed with you. I'd call that a result. Really ? Do I have to explain Irish forums are famous for people getting bans for upsetting the Applecart … I’m not looking for a result I’m looking for a fair balance of opinions some agreed some didn’t some came in with nonsense .. calm down " I've only ever seen people getting bans for breaking forum rules. If you've gotten banned then I'd say that's on you. Do you think there is a clique because you have been excluded? What have you been excluded from? And why? | |||
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"I genuinely expect another ban from the forums soon … which if happens proves how Clique Irish Fab can be The mods are UK based. Besides why would you get a ban? You asked a question and you got answers. Someone even agreed with you. I'd call that a result. Really ? Do I have to explain Irish forums are famous for people getting bans for upsetting the Applecart … I’m not looking for a result I’m looking for a fair balance of opinions some agreed some didn’t some came in with nonsense .. calm down I've only ever seen people getting bans for breaking forum rules. If you've gotten banned then I'd say that's on you. Do you think there is a clique because you have been excluded? What have you been excluded from? And why?" I’ve been excluded from nothing because I don’t ask to be included in anything.. as I said I’m on this long enough to know there are cliques i know of many girls who’ve left not cos of weirdos but of groups cos they fell fowl of someone usually a woman & cos of the site & nature of the beast many men follow suit .. by the way I’ve had so many PMs over this so I’m not the only one who thinks this .. it’s easy to get a ban on the forums all you need is a clique to report | |||
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"I genuinely expect another ban from the forums soon … which if happens proves how Clique Irish Fab can be The mods are UK based. Besides why would you get a ban? You asked a question and you got answers. Someone even agreed with you. I'd call that a result. Really ? Do I have to explain Irish forums are famous for people getting bans for upsetting the Applecart … I’m not looking for a result I’m looking for a fair balance of opinions some agreed some didn’t some came in with nonsense .. calm down I've only ever seen people getting bans for breaking forum rules. If you've gotten banned then I'd say that's on you. Do you think there is a clique because you have been excluded? What have you been excluded from? And why? I’ve been excluded from nothing because I don’t ask to be included in anything.. as I said I’m on this long enough to know there are cliques i know of many girls who’ve left not cos of weirdos but of groups cos they fell fowl of someone usually a woman & cos of the site & nature of the beast many men follow suit .. by the way I’ve had so many PMs over this so I’m not the only one who thinks this .. it’s easy to get a ban on the forums all you need is a clique to report " Ah I see. Your writing on behalf of girls and men who left fab. It's just that you wrote in your original post that you thought there was a clique based on your experiences. | |||
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"I genuinely expect another ban from the forums soon … which if happens proves how Clique Irish Fab can be The mods are UK based. Besides why would you get a ban? You asked a question and you got answers. Someone even agreed with you. I'd call that a result. Really ? Do I have to explain Irish forums are famous for people getting bans for upsetting the Applecart … I’m not looking for a result I’m looking for a fair balance of opinions some agreed some didn’t some came in with nonsense .. calm down I've only ever seen people getting bans for breaking forum rules. If you've gotten banned then I'd say that's on you. Do you think there is a clique because you have been excluded? What have you been excluded from? And why? I’ve been excluded from nothing because I don’t ask to be included in anything.. as I said I’m on this long enough to know there are cliques i know of many girls who’ve left not cos of weirdos but of groups cos they fell fowl of someone usually a woman & cos of the site & nature of the beast many men follow suit .. by the way I’ve had so many PMs over this so I’m not the only one who thinks this .. it’s easy to get a ban on the forums all you need is a clique to report Ah I see. Your writing on behalf of girls and men who left fab. It's just that you wrote in your original post that you thought there was a clique based on your experiences." Yep people I know who’ve left because of the “Cliques” are part of my experience as well as my own experiences.. why are you trying so hard to discredit me? | |||
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" Yep people I know who’ve left because of the “Cliques” are part of my experience as well as my own experiences.. why are you trying so hard to discredit me? " I don't find any of your assertions credible. You say there are cliques but haven't really been able to point out anything that proves that. | |||
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" Yep people I know who’ve left because of the “Cliques” are part of my experience as well as my own experiences.. why are you trying so hard to discredit me? I don't find any of your assertions credible. You say there are cliques but haven't really been able to point out anything that proves that." You’re part of a clique .. you’re a forum clique that’s why you’re questioning me .. you don’t like what you’re reading cos you don’t control it … Mike Drop | |||
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I'm simply someone who likes interaction, one of whose forms is forum posting.
Yes there are many Fab users who don't post in the forums but still have interaction on Fab.
So you're basically classifying people into forum poster clique and non-posting clique? Is that it?
Listen, if you don't want to interact with people, why would you be on Fab?
If you feel the need to classify groups, then you may not be getting the essence of the place.
At the end of the day, make the best of it that you can and allow others to do the same, without resurrecting the frankly rather boring Clique debate perhaps. | |||
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"I'm posting in the forum so I'm part of a clique? Ah here
I'm simply someone who likes interaction, one of whose forms is forum posting.
Yes there are many Fab users who don't post in the forums but still have interaction on Fab.
So you're basically classifying people into forum poster clique and non-posting clique? Is that it?
Listen, if you don't want to interact with people, why would you be on Fab?
If you feel the need to classify groups, then you may not be getting the essence of the place.
At the end of the day, make the best of it that you can and allow others to do the same, without resurrecting the frankly rather boring Clique debate perhaps. "Read again it’s person specific not pointed at you .. not here to give you free attention.. have a good night | |||
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"people posting in the forum so theyre part of a clique? Ah here
We're simply people who likes interaction, one of whose forms is forum posting.
Yes there are many Fab users who don't post in the forums but still have interaction on Fab.
So you're basically classifying people into forum poster clique and non-posting clique? Is that it?
Listen, if you don't want to interact with people, why would you be on Fab?
If you feel the need to classify groups, then you may not be getting the essence of the place.
At the end of the day, make the best of it that you can and allow others to do the same, without resurrecting the frankly rather boring Clique debate perhaps.
Read again it’s person specific not pointed at you .. not here to give you free attention.. have a good night "Is that better? I hadn't intended to speak for everyone but maybe the changes suit. Not for me to decide. Cheers but I don't need/look for free attention, whatever that's meant to imply. | |||
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"people posting in the forum so theyre part of a clique? Ah here
We're simply people who likes interaction, one of whose forms is forum posting.
Yes there are many Fab users who don't post in the forums but still have interaction on Fab.
So you're basically classifying people into forum poster clique and non-posting clique? Is that it?
Listen, if you don't want to interact with people, why would you be on Fab?
If you feel the need to classify groups, then you may not be getting the essence of the place.
At the end of the day, make the best of it that you can and allow others to do the same, without resurrecting the frankly rather boring Clique debate perhaps.
Read again it’s person specific not pointed at you .. not here to give you free attention.. have a good night
Is that better?
I hadn't intended to speak for everyone but maybe the changes suit.
Not for me to decide.
Cheers but I don't need/look for free attention, whatever that's meant to imply."OMG You inserted yourself into the conversation.. anyway I’m off take care | |||
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"I wouldn't say it's a clique as such. A lot of people know each other from socials and meet and greets.I have made a lot of good friends this way and don't consider that I'm part f a particular clique or group. This is the answer I was looking for what you’re saying is actually Clique .. i know you don’t see yourself as been clique but your answer says otherwise.., it’s like unless you’re involved in socials and meet & greets well then you’re outside the group .. thanks so much " Sorry ,don't see it your way. Its no different than playing a team sport. Being part of a team isn't being in a clique. Yes I speak privately to other fabbers , it's not all about sex, believe it or not, I have made great friends on here but still don't consider it being part of a clique. | |||
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"I wouldn't say it's a clique as such. A lot of people know each other from socials and meet and greets.I have made a lot of good friends this way and don't consider that I'm part f a particular clique or group. This is the answer I was looking for what you’re saying is actually Clique .. i know you don’t see yourself as been clique but your answer says otherwise.., it’s like unless you’re involved in socials and meet & greets well then you’re outside the group .. thanks so much Sorry ,don't see it your way. Its no different than playing a team sport. Being part of a team isn't being in a clique. Yes I speak privately to other fabbers , it's not all about sex, believe it or not, I have made great friends on here but still don't consider it being part of a clique." Mate this isn’t the premier league it’s a sex site … I’ll leave it there … wow .. off to bed | |||
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"I wouldn't say it's a clique as such. A lot of people know each other from socials and meet and greets.I have made a lot of good friends this way and don't consider that I'm part f a particular clique or group. This is the answer I was looking for what you’re saying is actually Clique .. i know you don’t see yourself as been clique but your answer says otherwise.., it’s like unless you’re involved in socials and meet & greets well then you’re outside the group .. thanks so much Sorry ,don't see it your way. Its no different than playing a team sport. Being part of a team isn't being in a clique. Yes I speak privately to other fabbers , it's not all about sex, believe it or not, I have made great friends on here but still don't consider it being part of a clique. Mate this isn’t the premier league it’s a sex site … I’ll leave it there … wow .. off to bed " Yeah, probably best to leave it there. Wow..me too  | |||
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"people posting in the forum so theyre part of a clique? Ah here
We're simply people who likes interaction, one of whose forms is forum posting.
Yes there are many Fab users who don't post in the forums but still have interaction on Fab.
So you're basically classifying people into forum poster clique and non-posting clique? Is that it?
Listen, if you don't want to interact with people, why would you be on Fab?
If you feel the need to classify groups, then you may not be getting the essence of the place.
At the end of the day, make the best of it that you can and allow others to do the same, without resurrecting the frankly rather boring Clique debate perhaps.
Read again it’s person specific not pointed at you .. not here to give you free attention.. have a good night
Is that better?
I hadn't intended to speak for everyone but maybe the changes suit.
Not for me to decide.
Cheers but I don't need/look for free attention, whatever that's meant to imply.
OMG You inserted yourself into the conversation.. anyway I’m off take care "Are you being exclusionary with that comment? Because it's a forum and everyone is free to add opinion to the question posed. Inserting oneself into the conversation is kinda how it works 
You'll get a range of opinions too so I'm not sure why you're getting salty with people who don't agree with you.
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"I genuinely expect another ban from the forums soon … which if happens proves how Clique Irish Fab can be The mods are UK based. Besides why would you get a ban? You asked a question and you got answers. Someone even agreed with you. I'd call that a result. Really ? Do I have to explain Irish forums are famous for people getting bans for upsetting the Applecart … I’m not looking for a result I’m looking for a fair balance of opinions some agreed some didn’t some came in with nonsense .. calm down I've only ever seen people getting bans for breaking forum rules. If you've gotten banned then I'd say that's on you. Do you think there is a clique because you have been excluded? What have you been excluded from? And why? I’ve been excluded from nothing because I don’t ask to be included in anything.. as I said I’m on this long enough to know there are cliques i know of many girls who’ve left not cos of weirdos but of groups cos they fell fowl of someone usually a woman & cos of the site & nature of the beast many men follow suit .. by the way I’ve had so many PMs over this so I’m not the only one who thinks this .. it’s easy to get a ban on the forums all you need is a clique to report " No, anyone can report a post. You don't need to be part of a clique. And regardless of who you are, or who you're friends with, a post will only be removed (and perhaps a ban issued) if the post breaks forum rules. | |||
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"I genuinely expect another ban from the forums soon … which if happens proves how Clique Irish Fab can be The mods are UK based. Besides why would you get a ban? You asked a question and you got answers. Someone even agreed with you. I'd call that a result. Really ? Do I have to explain Irish forums are famous for people getting bans for upsetting the Applecart … I’m not looking for a result I’m looking for a fair balance of opinions some agreed some didn’t some came in with nonsense .. calm down I've only ever seen people getting bans for breaking forum rules. If you've gotten banned then I'd say that's on you. Do you think there is a clique because you have been excluded? What have you been excluded from? And why? I’ve been excluded from nothing because I don’t ask to be included in anything.. as I said I’m on this long enough to know there are cliques i know of many girls who’ve left not cos of weirdos but of groups cos they fell fowl of someone usually a woman & cos of the site & nature of the beast many men follow suit .. by the way I’ve had so many PMs over this so I’m not the only one who thinks this .. it’s easy to get a ban on the forums all you need is a clique to report " I know of people who have left the site because of pressure from people on chatgroups and some who have left because of individuals. There will always be people who deny that these things happen while claiming that this is a very inclusive community and that anyone feeling excluded just isn't making an effort. Thankfully though not every group is like that and it's not unique to fab. I've seen similar experiences across social media platforms. At the same time there are a lot of imaginary cliques and some people confuse forum productivity with popularity. Any time I've commented on one of these type of threads I've been accused of being part of the problem or being part of the clique. It's hilarious and annoying at the same time. Hilarious because I've never met or even spoken to the vast majority of people who post in the forums every day so I'm not sure how I can be cliquey with complete strangers. It's annoying because anyone paying attention knows that I often go against the grain and have a different opinion to many forum regulars so if others think I'm toeing the party line or following the herd I really need to try harder. At the same time I don't get banned for having an opinion. So to answer your question op. The Ireland forum or Irish fab is no more cliquey than the Lounge or swingers chat where people compete for attention in whatever way they can. I've been to a handful of socials and didn't find half of them as welcoming as some would make out but then again I've never needed to be part of social groups to click on here. | |||
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"I wouldn't say it's a clique as such. A lot of people know each other from socials and meet and greets.I have made a lot of good friends this way and don't consider that I'm part f a particular clique or group. This is the answer I was looking for what you’re saying is actually Clique .. i know you don’t see yourself as been clique but your answer says otherwise.., it’s like unless you’re involved in socials and meet & greets well then you’re outside the group .. thanks so much Sorry ,don't see it your way. Its no different than playing a team sport. Being part of a team isn't being in a clique. Yes I speak privately to other fabbers , it's not all about sex, believe it or not, I have made great friends on here but still don't consider it being part of a clique. Mate this isn’t the premier league it’s a sex site … I’ll leave it there … wow .. off to bed " One point to make and it's a bugbear of mine, it's a swinger lifestyle site not a sex site. There is a difference there is more to swinging than sex believe it or not. Secondly there has always been cliques on Fab, as there is in any large social group. If anyone feels left out because they don't feel part of the "clique" then forget about it and find your own "tribe" so to speak. As long as someone isn't an arsehole people will welcome you. | |||
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"Very glad to see that there has been a very lively debate on this whole clique thing on here . It's good to raise awareness on the topic eh " I think we could write up the conclusion to this study as: Entitled men tend to get their feelings hurt when their every whim is not attended to. It is obvious that failure of others to agree to what they want, when they want is blatantly organised by sinister groups, who have picked them from tens of thousands, to actively target for exclusion. We await the findings of the tribunal. | |||
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"Very glad to see that there has been a very lively debate on this whole clique thing on here . It's good to raise awareness on the topic eh I think we could write up the conclusion to this study as: Entitled men tend to get their feelings hurt when their every whim is not attended to. It is obvious that failure of others to agree to what they want, when they want is blatantly organised by sinister groups, who have picked them from tens of thousands, to actively target for exclusion. We await the findings of the tribunal." I have to admit. This gave me a giggle | |||
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"Very glad to see that there has been a very lively debate on this whole clique thing on here . It's good to raise awareness on the topic eh I think we could write up the conclusion to this study as: Entitled men tend to get their feelings hurt when their every whim is not attended to. It is obvious that failure of others to agree to what they want, when they want is blatantly organised by sinister groups, who have picked them from tens of thousands, to actively target for exclusion. We await the findings of the tribunal. I have to admit. This gave me a giggle "Me too  | |||
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"Very glad to see that there has been a very lively debate on this whole clique thing on here . It's good to raise awareness on the topic eh I think we could write up the conclusion to this study as: Entitled men tend to get their feelings hurt when their every whim is not attended to. It is obvious that failure of others to agree to what they want, when they want is blatantly organised by sinister groups, who have picked them from tens of thousands, to actively target for exclusion. We await the findings of the tribunal." And what about the women eh ?? No mention of them in your comment eh | |||
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"Very glad to see that there has been a very lively debate on this whole clique thing on here . It's good to raise awareness on the topic eh I think we could write up the conclusion to this study as: Entitled men tend to get their feelings hurt when their every whim is not attended to. It is obvious that failure of others to agree to what they want, when they want is blatantly organised by sinister groups, who have picked them from tens of thousands, to actively target for exclusion. We await the findings of the tribunal. And what about the women eh ?? No mention of them in your comment eh " The OP is a man isn't he, you've had a lot of input here as well, from what I can see you're also a man | |||
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so discretion, trust, chats and "clique" type of relationships are going to be formed...
Anyway if there is a clique here with a special secret hand job  I mean handshake, do let aul Timmy here know as I'd love to be enlightened about all the secrets of carnal knowledge that you're most likely keeping to yourselves.
Ya greedy naughty feckers! 
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" The swinging community is relatively small in Ireland and usually not something openly discussed at the dinner table so discretion, trust, chats and "clique" type of relationships are going to be formed...
Anyway if there is a clique here with a special secret hand job I mean handshake, do let aul Timmy here know as I'd love to be enlightened about all the secrets of carnal knowledge that you're most likely keeping to yourselves.
Ya greedy naughty feckers!
"The secret handjob is transmitted to new initiates of the clique behind the road sign at Junction 14. You must arrive at midnight on a full moon wearing only the traditional blindfold and codpiece. | |||
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"I genuinely expect another ban from the forums soon … which if happens proves how Clique Irish Fab can be The mods are UK based. Besides why would you get a ban? You asked a question and you got answers. Someone even agreed with you. I'd call that a result. Really ? Do I have to explain Irish forums are famous for people getting bans for upsetting the Applecart … I’m not looking for a result I’m looking for a fair balance of opinions some agreed some didn’t some came in with nonsense .. calm down I've only ever seen people getting bans for breaking forum rules. If you've gotten banned then I'd say that's on you. Do you think there is a clique because you have been excluded? What have you been excluded from? And why? I’ve been excluded from nothing because I don’t ask to be included in anything.. as I said I’m on this long enough to know there are cliques i know of many girls who’ve left not cos of weirdos but of groups cos they fell fowl of someone usually a woman & cos of the site & nature of the beast many men follow suit .. by the way I’ve had so many PMs over this so I’m not the only one who thinks this .. it’s easy to get a ban on the forums all you need is a clique to report I know of people who have left the site because of pressure from people on chatgroups and some who have left because of individuals. There will always be people who deny that these things happen while claiming that this is a very inclusive community and that anyone feeling excluded just isn't making an effort. Thankfully though not every group is like that and it's not unique to fab. I've seen similar experiences across social media platforms. At the same time there are a lot of imaginary cliques and some people confuse forum productivity with popularity. Any time I've commented on one of these type of threads I've been accused of being part of the problem or being part of the clique. It's hilarious and annoying at the same time. Hilarious because I've never met or even spoken to the vast majority of people who post in the forums every day so I'm not sure how I can be cliquey with complete strangers. It's annoying because anyone paying attention knows that I often go against the grain and have a different opinion to many forum regulars so if others think I'm toeing the party line or following the herd I really need to try harder. At the same time I don't get banned for having an opinion. So to answer your question op. The Ireland forum or Irish fab is no more cliquey than the Lounge or swingers chat where people compete for attention in whatever way they can. I've been to a handful of socials and didn't find half of them as welcoming as some would make out but then again I've never needed to be part of social groups to click on here. " ............. I never thought I would say this but I totally agree with the above post. The reality of fab has finally bitten. | |||
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Anyway if there is a clique here with a special secret hand job I mean handshake, do let aul Timmy here know as I'd love to be enlightened about all the secrets of carnal knowledge that you're most likely keeping to yourselves.
Ya greedy naughty feckers!
The secret handjob is transmitted to new initiates of the clique behind the road sign at Junction 14.
You must arrive at midnight on a full moon wearing only the traditional blindfold and codpiece."We recently held World Handjob Championships at Junction 14 It was close, but I managed to beat off some stiff competition | |||
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"Very glad to see that there has been a very lively debate on this whole clique thing on here . It's good to raise awareness on the topic eh I think we could write up the conclusion to this study as: Entitled men tend to get their feelings hurt when their every whim is not attended to. It is obvious that failure of others to agree to what they want, when they want is blatantly organised by sinister groups, who have picked them from tens of thousands, to actively target for exclusion. We await the findings of the tribunal. And what about the women eh ?? No mention of them in your comment eh The OP is a man isn't he, you've had a lot of input here as well, from what I can see you're also a man " Yeah the last time I looked yes iam a man lol lol Let's just rephrase it so Women, couples and men on here | |||
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"Very glad to see that there has been a very lively debate on this whole clique thing on here . It's good to raise awareness on the topic eh I think we could write up the conclusion to this study as: Entitled men tend to get their feelings hurt when their every whim is not attended to. It is obvious that failure of others to agree to what they want, when they want is blatantly organised by sinister groups, who have picked them from tens of thousands, to actively target for exclusion. We await the findings of the tribunal. And what about the women eh ?? No mention of them in your comment eh The OP is a man isn't he, you've had a lot of input here as well, from what I can see you're also a man Yeah the last time I looked yes iam a man lol lol Let's just rephrase it so Women, couples and men on here" Oops my apologies now let's state for the record "persons" "people " | |||
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" And what about the women eh ?? No mention of them in your comment eh The OP is a man isn't he, you've had a lot of input here as well, from what I can see you're also a man Yeah the last time I looked yes iam a man lol lol Let's just rephrase it so Women, couples and men on here" I guess the answer to that is it's usually only men who make posts complaining about cliques and those men are usually upset because they can't get meets, have been removed from a chat group or been refused that invitation to an event. Do you have any examples of women are couples being affected by the Fab Clique or are you mostly speaking from your own recent experience? | |||
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" The swinging community is relatively small in Ireland and usually not something openly discussed at the dinner table so discretion, trust, chats and "clique" type of relationships are going to be formed...
Anyway if there is a clique here with a special secret hand job I mean handshake, do let aul Timmy here know as I'd love to be enlightened about all the secrets of carnal knowledge that you're most likely keeping to yourselves.
Ya greedy naughty feckers!
The secret handjob is transmitted to new initiates of the clique behind the road sign at Junction 14.
You must arrive at midnight on a full moon wearing only the traditional blindfold and codpiece.
We recently held World Handjob Championships at Junction 14
It was close, but I managed to beat off some stiff competition "-------------------- When I got to junction 14 (clad in codpiece and blindfolds in hand) there was a food stall there with the sign:
"Cheeseburgers: €5
Fries: €3
Special Handjob €10"
So I walked up to the counter and asked the blonde  working there
"Are you the one giving the handjobs?"
"Yes, I am," she replied seductively
"Well then, wash your hands coz I want a cheeseburger."
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"This post is giving off poor me vibes in a really unflattering way. From some, not all. There are friendship groups on here, people have spoken for a long time and/or met before. Friendships are naturally formed due to familiarity. Yes a lot of the friendship groups are formed from socials but if you've no interest in attending them, how do you expect to be included? If you saw a group of friends having dinner or drinks would you call them a clique? Be insulted that they didn't ask you, a stranger to them, to join? I'm sure there are some mean girls type friendship groups on here, that don't want to invite new people in but is that something you'd want part of anyway? Fab is what you make it, everyone's experience of it will be different. Why not try to let your personality shine through, interact with people in a positive rather than negative way. Make your own friends and not jump on everyone else because it's not working out how you would like. " Well said indeed | |||
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"This post is giving off poor me vibes in a really unflattering way. From some, not all. There are friendship groups on here, people have spoken for a long time and/or met before. Friendships are naturally formed due to familiarity. Yes a lot of the friendship groups are formed from socials but if you've no interest in attending them, how do you expect to be included? If you saw a group of friends having dinner or drinks would you call them a clique? Be insulted that they didn't ask you, a stranger to them, to join? I'm sure there are some mean girls type friendship groups on here, that don't want to invite new people in but is that something you'd want part of anyway? Fab is what you make it, everyone's experience of it will be different. Why not try to let your personality shine through, interact with people in a positive rather than negative way. Make your own friends and not jump on everyone else because it's not working out how you would like. Well said indeed" | |||
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"The way I see these kind of posts is men complaining about fab not being like a regular dating app. I.e. any given dating app doesn't have a community within it, anyone is free to catfish, call people names, throw their toys out of the pram for rejection, abuse and do as they please with anyone without any accountability as nobody will ever know. All you have to do is is match with your next victim and get your kicks off again and again until the end of time. On fab you can't do that - abuse one woman and if she's a "part of the mystical clique" - she'll let her pals know how rotten you are in her private mail, or that you catfished her, or maybe you were pushy with her (not you, OP, I don't know you), but my point is - one can't get away with their malicious intentions on here, nor with their temper tantrums and outbursts... then once people spot the red flags - they don't want to meet the red flag and the red flag once again let's their colours shine in public to the whole community being all butthurt that nobody let them into the magical "clique". God forbid people look out for each other. Missus " Man bashing at its best 
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"The only time I would have seen what could be called a clique on here was nearly a decade ago. They've long since gone. " Are you sure | |||
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"The way I see these kind of posts is men complaining about fab not being like a regular dating app. I.e. any given dating app doesn't have a community within it, anyone is free to catfish, call people names, throw their toys out of the pram for rejection, abuse and do as they please with anyone without any accountability as nobody will ever know. All you have to do is is match with your next victim and get your kicks off again and again until the end of time. On fab you can't do that - abuse one woman and if she's a "part of the mystical clique" - she'll let her pals know how rotten you are in her private mail, or that you catfished her, or maybe you were pushy with her (not you, OP, I don't know you), but my point is - one can't get away with their malicious intentions on here, nor with their temper tantrums and outbursts... then once people spot the red flags - they don't want to meet the red flag and the red flag once again let's their colours shine in public to the whole community being all butthurt that nobody let them into the magical "clique". God forbid people look out for each other. Missus Man bashing at its best
Is this not the same for all demographics in the fab comunity not just men but also couples and women I would say it is "Erm, you're very obviously looking to pick a fight here, I anticipated a comment like yours to pop up. So yeah, the only place where I mentioned specifically men is at the very beginning of my comment - as OP happens to be a man, as well as the rest of the time that I have ever seen these threads to be created by men. Not once have I witnessed a couple or a woman create the "clique" threads, so yeah I'm "man bashing" men for creating these threads boohoo, bite me lol Now if you weren't so infuriated by your own temper tantrum over this big scary "man bashing" thing that I've done at the start- you would have been able to read this paragraph " my point is - one can't get away with their malicious intentions on here, nor with their temper tantrums and outbursts... then once people spot the red flags - they don't want to meet the red flag and the red flag once again let's their colours shine in public to the whole community being all butthurt that nobody let them into the magical "clique". God forbid people look out for each other. " and notice that it was not gender specific. A red flag is a red flag, no matter what genitals attached to it. Don't know why I had to spell it out for you, but hey if the shoe fits | |||
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" And what about the women eh ?? No mention of them in your comment eh The OP is a man isn't he, you've had a lot of input here as well, from what I can see you're also a man Yeah the last time I looked yes iam a man lol lol Let's just rephrase it so Women, couples and men on here I guess the answer to that is it's usually only men who make posts complaining about cliques and those men are usually upset because they can't get meets, have been removed from a chat group or been refused that invitation to an event. Do you have any examples of women are couples being affected by the Fab Clique or are you mostly speaking from your own recent experience?" Yes there was a couple from cork i think had a popcorn up about not being able to break into the scene its there the title is beyond me at this moment but i have seen it | |||
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"The way I see these kind of posts is men complaining about fab not being like a regular dating app. I.e. any given dating app doesn't have a community within it, anyone is free to catfish, call people names, throw their toys out of the pram for rejection, abuse and do as they please with anyone without any accountability as nobody will ever know. All you have to do is is match with your next victim and get your kicks off again and again until the end of time. On fab you can't do that - abuse one woman and if she's a "part of the mystical clique" - she'll let her pals know how rotten you are in her private mail, or that you catfished her, or maybe you were pushy with her (not you, OP, I don't know you), but my point is - one can't get away with their malicious intentions on here, nor with their temper tantrums and outbursts... then once people spot the red flags - they don't want to meet the red flag and the red flag once again let's their colours shine in public to the whole community being all butthurt that nobody let them into the magical "clique". God forbid people look out for each other. Missus Man bashing at its best
Is this not the same for all demographics in the fab comunity not just men but also couples and women I would say it is
Erm, you're very obviously looking to pick a fight here, I anticipated a comment like yours to pop up.
So yeah, the only place where I mentioned specifically men is at the very beginning of my comment - as OP happens to be a man, as well as the rest of the time that I have ever seen these threads to be created by men. Not once have I witnessed a couple or a woman create the "clique" threads, so yeah I'm "man bashing" men for creating these threads boohoo, bite me lol
Now if you weren't so infuriated by your own temper tantrum over this big scary "man bashing" thing that I've done at the start- you would have been able to read this paragraph " my point is - one can't get away with their malicious intentions on here, nor with their temper tantrums and outbursts... then once people spot the red flags - they don't want to meet the red flag and the red flag once again let's their colours shine in public to the whole community being all butthurt that nobody let them into the magical "clique".
God forbid people look out for each other. " and notice that it was not gender specific.
A red flag is a red flag, no matter what genitals attached to it. Don't know why I had to spell it out for you, but hey if the shoe fits "But knowing there have being others that have posted similar threads and that your experience on fab is vast Ican only sumise you posted for a reaction and I feel that your comment was exactly as I said No tantrum here as LIKE you I have being round the fab block and know when something needs to be called out I am not looking a row but just pointing out the same topic has before and most likely will again be posted by all demographics on fab | |||
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"The way I see these kind of posts is men complaining about fab not being like a regular dating app. I.e. any given dating app doesn't have a community within it, anyone is free to catfish, call people names, throw their toys out of the pram for rejection, abuse and do as they please with anyone without any accountability as nobody will ever know. All you have to do is is match with your next victim and get your kicks off again and again until the end of time. On fab you can't do that - abuse one woman and if she's a "part of the mystical clique" - she'll let her pals know how rotten you are in her private mail, or that you catfished her, or maybe you were pushy with her (not you, OP, I don't know you), but my point is - one can't get away with their malicious intentions on here, nor with their temper tantrums and outbursts... then once people spot the red flags - they don't want to meet the red flag and the red flag once again let's their colours shine in public to the whole community being all butthurt that nobody let them into the magical "clique". God forbid people look out for each other. Missus " Well said | |||
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"Ok I’ve been on & off this for years so I’m certainly not a newbie .. 1 thing that’s always popped up in conversations is how clique Irish fab is … so I’m asking you is Irish fab Clique? My answer from my experiences in my area would be a definite yes " Dunno really,maybe...maybe not Def friends that know each other, If anyone is in a clique could ye please let us know | |||
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"This post is giving off poor me vibes in a really unflattering way. From some, not all. There are friendship groups on here, people have spoken for a long time and/or met before. Friendships are naturally formed due to familiarity. Yes a lot of the friendship groups are formed from socials but if you've no interest in attending them, how do you expect to be included? If you saw a group of friends having dinner or drinks would you call them a clique? Be insulted that they didn't ask you, a stranger to them, to join? I'm sure there are some mean girls type friendship groups on here, that don't want to invite new people in but is that something you'd want part of anyway? Fab is what you make it, everyone's experience of it will be different. Why not try to let your personality shine through, interact with people in a positive rather than negative way. Make your own friends and not jump on everyone else because it's not working out how you would like. " The visual of a stranger walking over to a group of friends at dinner and standing there scowling and whining rudely at them, until they make space for them to join them, is the perfect image in my head for some of these posts. Ella | |||
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"I'd like to know just how deep this clique goes. Is it on the forum? I think by and large most people on the forum aren't using as a direct route to meets. It's a bit of craic. The social/events circuit? Private events are private. The hosts reserve the right to curate their guest list to the benefit, safety and privacy of everyone. If you've been a knob and that's known then you can't really expect invite. That leaves EVERYONE ELSE. Which is most people on Fab. All the people who joined to find people who also want to have sex. If they don't want to meet you that's pretty much just normal life. So can anyone actually identify this clique and talk about how it works? Feels like it should be in the conspiracy thread. " It will never be identified this type of thread appears every now and again rehashed by all sorts for different reason | |||
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"I'd like to know just how deep this clique goes. Is it on the forum? I think by and large most people on the forum aren't using as a direct route to meets. It's a bit of craic. The social/events circuit? Private events are private. The hosts reserve the right to curate their guest list to the benefit, safety and privacy of everyone. If you've been a knob and that's known then you can't really expect invite. That leaves EVERYONE ELSE. Which is most people on Fab. All the people who joined to find people who also want to have sex. If they don't want to meet you that's pretty much just normal life. So can anyone actually identify this clique and talk about how it works? Feels like it should be in the conspiracy thread. " I won't give examples because it wouldn't be fair on the people who are no longer here and I don't tell other people's stories. Every time one of these threads appear it gets the same response and while I completely agree and have already said above that many of the cliques are imaginary there are a lot of fabbers who over the years have invited people to join various chatgroups. Many of those were described as places of safety where those in them could be kept updated about predators etc. All sounds great except how many women have posted in the forums over the years, and I don't restrict that to the Irish forum, saying how they had to leave particular groups because they had fuck all to do with safety and everything to do with finding info on other fabbers and sharing facepics and personal details? If I as someone who speaks to very few through this site can personally know 10 or 12 women with this experience and at least 5 or 6 men who have been on the receiving end then while it may not be widespread it certainly is not a myth or a conspiracy. I include myself on that list as I have been shown messages from chatgroups of people asking for my name and personal info and people I have verified have been asked if they have my facepic? I have had complete strangers at a social approach me knowing not just my fab name but my real name and saying they recognised me from my pic in the presocial chatgroup which was strange as not only was I not in that chatgroup but when I had enquired before the social, I had been told by the organisers that there was no chatgroup. These were not random blank profiles asking these questions btw but high profile forum characters who are more than happy to publicly deny the existence of such things. Of course you can make what you will from all that and say that maybe it was all a misunderstanding but I'm not that gullible or blinkered. | |||
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"I'd like to know just how deep this clique goes. Is it on the forum? I think by and large most people on the forum aren't using as a direct route to meets. It's a bit of craic. The social/events circuit? Private events are private. The hosts reserve the right to curate their guest list to the benefit, safety and privacy of everyone. If you've been a knob and that's known then you can't really expect invite. That leaves EVERYONE ELSE. Which is most people on Fab. All the people who joined to find people who also want to have sex. If they don't want to meet you that's pretty much just normal life. So can anyone actually identify this clique and talk about how it works? Feels like it should be in the conspiracy thread. I won't give examples because it wouldn't be fair on the people who are no longer here and I don't tell other people's stories. Every time one of these threads appear it gets the same response and while I completely agree and have already said above that many of the cliques are imaginary there are a lot of fabbers who over the years have invited people to join various chatgroups. Many of those were described as places of safety where those in them could be kept updated about predators etc. All sounds great except how many women have posted in the forums over the years, and I don't restrict that to the Irish forum, saying how they had to leave particular groups because they had fuck all to do with safety and everything to do with finding info on other fabbers and sharing facepics and personal details? If I as someone who speaks to very few through this site can personally know 10 or 12 women with this experience and at least 5 or 6 men who have been on the receiving end then while it may not be widespread it certainly is not a myth or a conspiracy. I include myself on that list as I have been shown messages from chatgroups of people asking for my name and personal info and people I have verified have been asked if they have my facepic? I have had complete strangers at a social approach me knowing not just my fab name but my real name and saying they recognised me from my pic in the presocial chatgroup which was strange as not only was I not in that chatgroup but when I had enquired before the social, I had been told by the organisers that there was no chatgroup. These were not random blank profiles asking these questions btw but high profile forum characters who are more than happy to publicly deny the existence of such things. Of course you can make what you will from all that and say that maybe it was all a misunderstanding but I'm not that gullible or blinkered. " The sharing of other people's information and face pics has been going on since I was here as a single male and was always something myself and Dee were uncomfortable with. It's a high factor of us not doing the face pic Friday threads that was so popular here for a long time. | |||
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"The way I see these kind of posts is men complaining about fab not being like a regular dating app. I.e. any given dating app doesn't have a community within it, anyone is free to catfish, call people names, throw their toys out of the pram for rejection, abuse and do as they please with anyone without any accountability as nobody will ever know. All you have to do is is match with your next victim and get your kicks off again and again until the end of time. On fab you can't do that - abuse one woman and if she's a "part of the mystical clique" - she'll let her pals know how rotten you are in her private mail, or that you catfished her, or maybe you were pushy with her (not you, OP, I don't know you), but my point is - one can't get away with their malicious intentions on here, nor with their temper tantrums and outbursts... then once people spot the red flags - they don't want to meet the red flag and the red flag once again let's their colours shine in public to the whole community being all butthurt that nobody let them into the magical "clique". God forbid people look out for each other. Missus Man bashing at its best
Is this not the same for all demographics in the fab comunity not just men but also couples and women I would say it is "Goodness, I didn't see this as man bashing at all? (I am a man) I thought the example used was a reasonable point on how one might 'perceive' a clique on one side (from their point of view), as opposed to other side where there might simply be friends who are willing to stay in contact & communicate. | |||
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"I'd like to know just how deep this clique goes. Is it on the forum? I think by and large most people on the forum aren't using as a direct route to meets. It's a bit of craic. The social/events circuit? Private events are private. The hosts reserve the right to curate their guest list to the benefit, safety and privacy of everyone. If you've been a knob and that's known then you can't really expect invite. That leaves EVERYONE ELSE. Which is most people on Fab. All the people who joined to find people who also want to have sex. If they don't want to meet you that's pretty much just normal life. So can anyone actually identify this clique and talk about how it works? Feels like it should be in the conspiracy thread. I won't give examples because it wouldn't be fair on the people who are no longer here and I don't tell other people's stories. Every time one of these threads appear it gets the same response and while I completely agree and have already said above that many of the cliques are imaginary there are a lot of fabbers who over the years have invited people to join various chatgroups. Many of those were described as places of safety where those in them could be kept updated about predators etc. All sounds great except how many women have posted in the forums over the years, and I don't restrict that to the Irish forum, saying how they had to leave particular groups because they had fuck all to do with safety and everything to do with finding info on other fabbers and sharing facepics and personal details? If I as someone who speaks to very few through this site can personally know 10 or 12 women with this experience and at least 5 or 6 men who have been on the receiving end then while it may not be widespread it certainly is not a myth or a conspiracy. I include myself on that list as I have been shown messages from chatgroups of people asking for my name and personal info and people I have verified have been asked if they have my facepic? I have had complete strangers at a social approach me knowing not just my fab name but my real name and saying they recognised me from my pic in the presocial chatgroup which was strange as not only was I not in that chatgroup but when I had enquired before the social, I had been told by the organisers that there was no chatgroup. These were not random blank profiles asking these questions btw but high profile forum characters who are more than happy to publicly deny the existence of such things. Of course you can make what you will from all that and say that maybe it was all a misunderstanding but I'm not that gullible or blinkered. " I feel I also need to add that this is not a case of sourgrapes over someone not wanting to meet me but actually the complete opposite. These questions are being asked by people who were not happy that I would not meet them or friends of friends. If at any stage in my fab journey I had been rude or obnoxious or worse to any of these people I would hold my hands up and say they've got a point and don't want anyone else bumping into nasty old me but saying no is a hanging offence where some are concerned. | |||
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"This post is giving off poor me vibes in a really unflattering way. From some, not all. There are friendship groups on here, people have spoken for a long time and/or met before. Friendships are naturally formed due to familiarity. Yes a lot of the friendship groups are formed from socials but if you've no interest in attending them, how do you expect to be included? If you saw a group of friends having dinner or drinks would you call them a clique? Be insulted that they didn't ask you, a stranger to them, to join? I'm sure there are some mean girls type friendship groups on here, that don't want to invite new people in but is that something you'd want part of anyway? Fab is what you make it, everyone's experience of it will be different. Why not try to let your personality shine through, interact with people in a positive rather than negative way. Make your own friends and not jump on everyone else because it's not working out how you would like. The visual of a stranger walking over to a group of friends at dinner and standing there scowling and whining rudely at them, until they make space for them to join them, is the perfect image in my head for some of these posts. Ella " I keep picturing it | |||
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"I’m not in a clique. I am in a cult though "Ugh excuse me, why have I not been invited to join! Rude!! | |||
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"I’m not in a clique. I am in a cult though
Ugh excuse me, why have I not been invited to join! Rude!! "I’ve said too much | |||
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"I’m not in a clique. I am in a cult though "Are sacrifices still a thing... I suppose you'd be hard bet to find a vestial virgin on here Headhunting is def out,it gets messy. The flogging part would prob appeal to some,as would the burning(wax) Is there a uniform?ooohhhh have ye a handshake? | |||
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"I’m not in a clique. I am in a cult though
Ugh excuse me, why have I not been invited to join! Rude!!
I’ve said too much "They’ve been brainwashing us with sex!!!! I knew it | |||
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"Very glad to see that there has been a very lively debate on this whole clique thing on here . It's good to raise awareness on the topic eh I think we could write up the conclusion to this study as: Entitled men tend to get their feelings hurt when their every whim is not attended to. It is obvious that failure of others to agree to what they want, when they want is blatantly organised by sinister groups, who have picked them from tens of thousands, to actively target for exclusion. We await the findings of the tribunal." Sydney University has given millions in grants to ensure thorough academic research into the matter. | |||
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"I’m not in a clique. I am in a cult though
Ugh excuse me, why have I not been invited to join! Rude!!
I’ve said too much "First rule of the cult- don’t mention the cult | |||
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"I'd like to know just how deep this clique goes. Is it on the forum? I think by and large most people on the forum aren't using as a direct route to meets. It's a bit of craic. The social/events circuit? Private events are private. The hosts reserve the right to curate their guest list to the benefit, safety and privacy of everyone. If you've been a knob and that's known then you can't really expect invite. That leaves EVERYONE ELSE. Which is most people on Fab. All the people who joined to find people who also want to have sex. If they don't want to meet you that's pretty much just normal life. So can anyone actually identify this clique and talk about how it works? Feels like it should be in the conspiracy thread. I won't give examples because it wouldn't be fair on the people who are no longer here and I don't tell other people's stories. Every time one of these threads appear it gets the same response and while I completely agree and have already said above that many of the cliques are imaginary there are a lot of fabbers who over the years have invited people to join various chatgroups. Many of those were described as places of safety where those in them could be kept updated about predators etc. All sounds great except how many women have posted in the forums over the years, and I don't restrict that to the Irish forum, saying how they had to leave particular groups because they had fuck all to do with safety and everything to do with finding info on other fabbers and sharing facepics and personal details? If I as someone who speaks to very few through this site can personally know 10 or 12 women with this experience and at least 5 or 6 men who have been on the receiving end then while it may not be widespread it certainly is not a myth or a conspiracy. I include myself on that list as I have been shown messages from chatgroups of people asking for my name and personal info and people I have verified have been asked if they have my facepic? I have had complete strangers at a social approach me knowing not just my fab name but my real name and saying they recognised me from my pic in the presocial chatgroup which was strange as not only was I not in that chatgroup but when I had enquired before the social, I had been told by the organisers that there was no chatgroup. These were not random blank profiles asking these questions btw but high profile forum characters who are more than happy to publicly deny the existence of such things. Of course you can make what you will from all that and say that maybe it was all a misunderstanding but I'm not that gullible or blinkered. " This is the reason why I would never join any chat groups outside of socials, the only exception is the 2 hiking groups I'm in! I do join the social group chats but only like to be added in a week beforehand to get to know a few fabbers before a social! I'm a social butterfly and chat to as many as I can lol!! If I see people on their own, I'd go over and chat to them! | |||
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"The way I see these kind of posts is men complaining about fab not being like a regular dating app. I.e. any given dating app doesn't have a community within it, anyone is free to catfish, call people names, throw their toys out of the pram for rejection, abuse and do as they please with anyone without any accountability as nobody will ever know. All you have to do is is match with your next victim and get your kicks off again and again until the end of time. On fab you can't do that - abuse one woman and if she's a "part of the mystical clique" - she'll let her pals know how rotten you are in her private mail, or that you catfished her, or maybe you were pushy with her (not you, OP, I don't know you), but my point is - one can't get away with their malicious intentions on here, nor with their temper tantrums and outbursts... then once people spot the red flags - they don't want to meet the red flag and the red flag once again let's their colours shine in public to the whole community being all butthurt that nobody let them into the magical "clique". God forbid people look out for each other. Missus Man bashing at its best
Is this not the same for all demographics in the fab comunity not just men but also couples and women I would say it is
Goodness, I didn't see this as man bashing at all? (I am a man)
I thought the example used was a reasonable point on how one might 'perceive' a clique on one side (from their point of view), as opposed to other side where there might simply be friends who are willing to stay in contact & communicate."I also thought this post was about opinions of the possible existence of Fab 'clique(s)' on the Forum and not a poor me as it relate to both male and female. | |||
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