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"It’s just bad manners and disrespectful. Even the fact Ghosted has entered our vocabulary shows how common place it is. " This I'm afraid, people are being actively encouraged to be self-absorbed and selfish in this brave new world | |||
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" This I'm afraid, people are being actively encouraged to be self-absorbed and selfish in this brave new world" The expression behaviour breeds behaviour comes to mind. It is as easy to be kind as not | |||
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" This I'm afraid, people are being actively encouraged to be self-absorbed and selfish in this brave new world The expression behaviour breeds behaviour comes to mind. It is as easy to be kind as not " Not if you've been told you are the centre of the universe | |||
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" This I'm afraid, people are being actively encouraged to be self-absorbed and selfish in this brave new world The expression behaviour breeds behaviour comes to mind. It is as easy to be kind as not Not if you've been told you are the centre of the universe " Sad but unfortunately true | |||
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"So had a date arranged for tonight, conversation had being going well.. and then suddenly ghosted out of nowhere. Why do people do that??
Such a waste of time getting ready and looking good "BTW, sorry to read this. She (presumung it's a she?!) will get her come uppings. | |||
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"Is ghosting cancelling at late notice or just not showing ?" In my experience it’s arranging a date and then the day of the date they go silent and never hear from them again | |||
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"So had a date arranged for tonight, conversation had being going well.. and then suddenly ghosted out of nowhere. Why do people do that??
Such a waste of time getting ready and looking good
BTW, sorry to read this. She (presumung it's a she?!) will get her come uppings."correct, she was a female. I'm so sorry that man did that to you as well. Some people have no consideration for other people's feelings either. | |||
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"Is ghosting cancelling at late notice or just not showing ? In my experience it’s arranging a date and then the day of the date they go silent and never hear from them again " this is 100% what had happened. | |||
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 first time was sat in pub waiting was told taxi was running late & be 20 mins or so & that's the last I heard but at least I picked the pub so the Guinness was good  | |||
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"Thank you all for the replies. I've being on the dating sites for a while and it's very rarely I get even a reply from a person. I've being told to have confidence and I'd get a date no problem.. well kinda hard to have confidence when let down constantly.. Anyway, I think it's time to realise it is gonna be the single life for me from here on in. Btw, this is not a 'poor me' text, just speaking out loud I guess "Everyone gets ghosted now and then in this game. Once you absorb this information then hopefully you will understand that it's not personal, so there is no need to take it personally and have it effect your confidence. | |||
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"Thank you all for the replies. I've being on the dating sites for a while and it's very rarely I get even a reply from a person. I've being told to have confidence and I'd get a date no problem.. well kinda hard to have confidence when let down constantly.. Anyway, I think it's time to realise it is gonna be the single life for me from here on in. Btw, this is not a 'poor me' text, just speaking out loud I guess "When someone does this, it is 100% about them and zero reflection on you | |||
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"Thank you all for the replies. I've being on the dating sites for a while and it's very rarely I get even a reply from a person. I've being told to have confidence and I'd get a date no problem.. well kinda hard to have confidence when let down constantly.. Anyway, I think it's time to realise it is gonna be the single life for me from here on in. Btw, this is not a 'poor me' text, just speaking out loud I guess
When someone does this, it is 100% about them and zero reflection on you"Thank you for the kind words, it's much appreciated | |||
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"Thank you all for the replies. I've being on the dating sites for a while and it's very rarely I get even a reply from a person. I've being told to have confidence and I'd get a date no problem.. well kinda hard to have confidence when let down constantly.. Anyway, I think it's time to realise it is gonna be the single life for me from here on in. Btw, this is not a 'poor me' text, just speaking out loud I guess
Everyone gets ghosted now and then in this game. Once you absorb this information then hopefully you will understand that it's not personal, so there is no need to take it personally and have it effect your confidence."Onwards and upwards, isn't that what people say.. | |||
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"Another story of being ghosted here too. Several months ago and well over it! He messaged at 6pm to say he was jumping into the shower and that he'd be there for 7.30 ~ last I heard from this self confessed sound lad!! Then of course I was blocked. Some people are so so pathetic. Karma sorts them though as far as I'm concerned." Some amount of single males lost between the shower and getting to a meet!! Fab’s very own Bermuda Triangle | |||
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"Has happened me twice now & it's so annoying, hard enough on here without the mind games first time was sat in pub waiting was told taxi was running late & be 20 mins or so & that's the last I heard but at least I picked the pub so the Guinness was good "At least there was a silver lining with the Guinness | |||
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"Sorry to hear it just had form , been ghosted myself by the same man on his way to collect me lol just goes missing for weeks . Silly me gives too many chances but no more . Write if off and let them jog on " Its a learning curve really. I'm sorry that some fella did that to you too. | |||
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"Has happened me twice now & it's so annoying, hard enough on here without the mind games first time was sat in pub waiting was told taxi was running late & be 20 mins or so & that's the last I heard but at least I picked the pub so the Guinness was good At least there was a silver lining with the Guinness "Exactly be worse if it was a few dodgy pints | |||
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"Seems to be the norm nowadays "Certainly isn't a nice thing to do but yeah it seems to be a common thing for both men and women to do. I'd rather just be honest. | |||
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"Has happened me twice now & it's so annoying, hard enough on here without the mind games first time was sat in pub waiting was told taxi was running late & be 20 mins or so & that's the last I heard but at least I picked the pub so the Guinness was good " wanna meet? | |||
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"I so hate it, I had same experience with few guys, then they come back asking for second chance, you had your time to shine, but you didn’t bother about it, so I never give second chance, has lots of fab guy who can keep their word . " I'd never need a second chance with you _osepearl.. Bob(",) | |||
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"I drove to kilkenny years ago for a coffee meet. Got to kilkenny, she told me she was held up and she'd be 10 mins late. She's at least 8 years late now " | |||
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"I drove to kilkenny years ago for a coffee meet. Got to kilkenny, she told me she was held up and she'd be 10 mins late. She's at least 8 years late now "Was the coffee even nice  | |||
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"I drove to kilkenny years ago for a coffee meet. Got to kilkenny, she told me she was held up and she'd be 10 mins late. She's at least 8 years late now
Was the coffee even nice "Yes, so nice I even had time for a second one and a slice of apple tart and cream | |||
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"So had a date arranged for tonight, conversation had being going well.. and then suddenly ghosted out of nowhere. Why do people do that??
Such a waste of time getting ready and looking good "Happens so much on here but generally on dating apps it's the same. I don't get why people can't just be adults and say they're not interested? So many timewasters unfortunately these days | |||
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"So had a date arranged for tonight, conversation had being going well.. and then suddenly ghosted out of nowhere. Why do people do that??
Such a waste of time getting ready and looking good
Happens so much on here but generally on dating apps it's the same. I don't get why people can't just be adults and say they're not interested? So many timewasters unfortunately these days "100% fully agree with what you said here | |||
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"Happened to us twice today in close succession and we even had the childcare taken care of. This appears to be a real issue up here unless you attend all these socials which is hard with other life commitments. " Same here it's happened us a few times on too, I really can't understand it, some people just don't understand it is for people to arrange childcare, think it's pure selfish personally. | |||
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"I always plan with no expectations. If it's a coffee meet, at worst I will enjoy a good coffee, or a beer. If it involves a drive, at worst I get to listen to good music. Sometimes that's all there is....and I still enjoy myself. I let the ghosts in the shadows " We've never been ghosted, but this is exactly our approach to prospective meets, no expectations. | |||
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"It’s so common, not so much on fab but on dating apps it’s rampant and any girl I talk to about dating says the same, it’s baffling!" I would never cancel on you. | |||
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"This has happened me so many times..but Ive learn that the good ones out number the bad one's so I just let it Go block and move on.." What you say is true, however the bad ones make it so much harder for the good ones to meet and date someone. Anyway positivity from here on I guess. | |||
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Or else is it a case that the chase is better than the catch....I do wonder....
I'm lucky it's never happened to me but I believe it's happening to lots of women here too....must be awful.... especially if they've really liked someone & looking forward to meeting....I think everyone should have a back up plan when meeting like having a friend you can meet just in case there's a no show.... especially after getting ready & looking fab.... try & make sure to go out anyway.....
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"This has happened me so many times..but Ive learn that the good ones out number the bad one's so I just let it Go block and move on.." looket here bog, I gave you genuinely excuses, you chose not to believe them.. ie . I had to put in the hens,,,, I had to shovel the rest of the wind up the hill on a calm night, several members of my family died at exactly the same time,,I couldn't get a taxi ,even though you live 500 meters away, I was delayed at the airport waiting for my boat to come in. Etc etc etc,, your were just impatient....... | |||
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"This has happened me so many times..but Ive learn that the good ones out number the bad one's so I just let it Go block and move on..looket here bog, I gave you genuinely excuses, you chose not to believe them.. ie . I had to put in the hens,,,, I had to shovel the rest of the wind up the hill on a calm night, several members of my family died at exactly the same time,,I couldn't get a taxi ,even though you live 500 meters away, I was delayed at the airport waiting for my boat to come in. Etc etc etc,, your were just impatient....... " Oh I'm writing ALL of these down | |||
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"Is ghosting cancelling at late notice or just not showing ?" Ghosting is when all of a sudden you're being ignored with no explanation..No shows is plain old fashioned being stood up.... Canceling at last minute isn't ghosting..at least they cancelled..!!!! | |||
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"This has happened me so many times..but Ive learn that the good ones out number the bad one's so I just let it Go block and move on..looket here bog, I gave you genuinely excuses, you chose not to believe them.. ie . I had to put in the hens,,,, I had to shovel the rest of the wind up the hill on a calm night, several members of my family died at exactly the same time,,I couldn't get a taxi ,even though you live 500 meters away, I was delayed at the airport waiting for my boat to come in. Etc etc etc,, your were just impatient....... Oh I'm writing ALL of these down "laughing here, I hope some of them work for you.. also,, the dog died ,, is another one,, even though it may be the dog you ran over in your rush to get to your date | |||
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"Has happened me twice now & it's so annoying, hard enough on here without the mind games first time was sat in pub waiting was told taxi was running late & be 20 mins or so & that's the last I heard but at least I picked the pub so the Guinness was good
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"Has happened me twice now & it's so annoying, hard enough on here without the mind games first time was sat in pub waiting was told taxi was running late & be 20 mins or so & that's the last I heard but at least I picked the pub so the Guinness was good
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Will you show up tho " oh!!is that how it works?!
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"It’s so common, not so much on fab but on dating apps it’s rampant and any girl I talk to about dating says the same, it’s baffling! I would never cancel on you." Absolutely everyone says that and then some don't bother showing up | |||
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"Its rudeness personfied. Sorry to hear op. But you cant judge everyone by the same low standards. Unfortunately on fab, its the veil of secrecy that allows people to do that. You mentioned traditional channels, perhaps better chance of a meet when people are more financially invested. " Thank you for your advice, it's always appreciated from yourself. I'm not sure what you mean by financially invested though? | |||
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"Has happened me twice now & it's so annoying, hard enough on here without the mind games first time was sat in pub waiting was told taxi was running late & be 20 mins or so & that's the last I heard but at least I picked the pub so the Guinness was good
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Will you show up tho
oh!!is that how it works?!
Didn't know you have to actually show up "Show up Go down Either works | |||
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"This has happened a few times to us too. You start to spot the signs... our attitude now is that its their loss "Well thos has made me feel better about being ghosted.. if someone will ghost you guys.. | |||
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"Ghosted is when the person you were meeting was never going to meet and they get something out of texting endlessy. was very surprised when I came onto this site to see that this is normal behaviour. Had assumed everyone here knew what this was ! " This happened me when I first joined the site... Was texting every day for weeks and thought it was building up to a really nice first meet then complete silence. The person who scraped me up off the floor and set me right again with a very hot meet more than made up for it  it can be an emotional rollercoaster tho eh | |||
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"No doubt some people get their kicks from leading the chase and just don't give two fucks about anyone, But in others some of it has to attributed to anxiety and fear, possibly a bit of self hatred as well in some, they're just burning up inside. Lord knows it can be so debilitating and then comes the self shame " If that how the site makes anyone feel then they should leave the site for their own mental health | |||
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"No doubt some people get their kicks from leading the chase and just don't give two fucks about anyone, But in others some of it has to attributed to anxiety and fear, possibly a bit of self hatred as well in some, they're just burning up inside. Lord knows it can be so debilitating and then comes the self shame " Very true | |||
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"No doubt some people get their kicks from leading the chase and just don't give two fucks about anyone, But in others some of it has to attributed to anxiety and fear, possibly a bit of self hatred as well in some, they're just burning up inside. Lord knows it can be so debilitating and then comes the self shame If that how the site makes anyone feel then they should leave the site for their own mental health " Can happen to anyone,in many aspects in life, anxiety is not only caused by mental health issues, sometimes the cure for one problem is the cause of another | |||
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"Thank you all for the replies. I've being on the dating sites for a while and it's very rarely I get even a reply from a person. I've being told to have confidence and I'd get a date no problem.. well kinda hard to have confidence when let down constantly..what's wrong with the single life you say it like its a bad thing im cery happily single and still enjoy life Anyway, I think it's time to realise it is gonna be the single life for me from here on in. Btw, this is not a 'poor me' text, just speaking out loud I guess " | |||
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"Unfortunately that happens a bit here . Few reasons for it One a fake profile Or two just a messy person that is hiding a lot of stuff Well rid mate you will find fun with genuine people here " Cheers lad. Dating isn't as good as it use to be many years ago, lot less hassle in the old days lol | |||
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"I've berm ghosted, and it seems some take great pleasure in it. Before Christmas I was chatting with someone for a few days, they were due to visit Cork and wanted to meet. Invited me to their hotel. Sent photos 'from the hotel room', etc etc. They said they'd meet me off the lift on floor 4. And once I got to floor 4 they disappeared, there was noone there, they probably weren't even in Cork. I'll never understand why they bother. " In fairness that's a horrible thing to do. Karma will get them no doubt. | |||
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Best thing to do is park it and move on.
It happened to me once years ago, took him a whole year to come back to attempt an explanation
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"I seem to get ghosted by people who have spent the previous while convincing me to meet them . Strange last behaviour on here " I don't really get the behaviour. I can conceive of some who just get the frights and pull out....but to not say anything and to string people along ....I can't write what I think as I would be so binned | |||
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"This has happened a few times to us too. You start to spot the signs... our attitude now is that its their loss
Well thos has made me feel better about being ghosted.. if someone will ghost you guys.. "Ok 2 things and 1st thing 1st.. your 1st photo Ohh my god.... and 2nd i cant understand why anyone would ghost you, or anyone else for that matter. Surely the person doing the ghosting must think other members talk to each other and although naming on the forums is not allowed.. naming between people who talk well.. a ghosters name will be passed round. .. did i mention your 1st pboto by the way?? | |||
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"This has happened a few times to us too. You start to spot the signs... our attitude now is that its their loss
Well thos has made me feel better about being ghosted.. if someone will ghost you guys..
Ok 2 things and 1st thing 1st.. your 1st photo Ohh my god.... and 2nd i cant understand why anyone would ghost you, or anyone else for that matter. Surely the person doing the ghosting must think other members talk to each other and although naming on the forums is not allowed.. naming between people who talk well.. a ghosters name will be passed round. .. did i mention your 1st pboto by the way?? "karma karma karma karma karma chameleon sung in C very flat lol it’s all swings and roundabout and they bar us it’s a time saving Measure for us to enjoy fabulous people of which there are numerous lovely people on here cheers | |||
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