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"Am single " Helpful contribution.... I wonder will thete be an D'ohs!! | |||
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"Cannot accommodate usually a clue" Is it though? I take issue with this. With women it's safety and with men it's cheating. | |||
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"Cannot accommodate usually a clue" Would agree with this to some extent, but I don't think this is always true. I am separated, living in a house share now. Can be very hard for me to accommodate | |||
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"Cannot accommodate usually a clue Is it though? I take issue with this. With women it's safety and with men it's cheating." Yep, like how many single men, let's say, in their 30s or 40s, do you know that live in their own house or rent on their own?..Very few? | |||
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"Cannot accommodate usually a clue" I disagree especially for separated guys who need to share accommodation  | |||
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"Cannot accommodate usually a clue I disagree especially for separated guys who need to share accommodation "Single guys too as per previous posters. | |||
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"Cannot accommodate usually a clue" Huge amount of people on here wouldn'tlet any fabber near their house at all....its a completely different part of their world to fab Its safe,its private and not to be used for casual sex | |||
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"Cannot accommodate usually a clue Is it though? I take issue with this. With women it's safety and with men it's cheating." we've met attached so doesn't bother me . | |||
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"Cannot accommodate usually a clue" It's more of a question of won't than cannot for me, and honestly any man I've met tends to take their own safety just as seriously as I do. People assume that I am married because I don't accommodate or because I don't divulge personal info. It doesn't bother me. As for the percentage of attached/married single males, it's high I reckon. Some are honest about their status, most are not, imo. | |||
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"I agree....There seems to be a very high number of married/attached & cheating men here from my experience of chatting..At least half I think.. I'd love to know the true ratio though..Are the single men outnumbered by married/attached/cheating........It appears to be so......." I'm single, in case you want to ask me for marriage tomorrow | |||
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"Hi all just curious to know as strong demographic of the males on here are attached or married. What has been your favourite thing about fab in ireland in comparison to other sites or apps? "As opposed to other sites I have been on Fab has allowed me to be totally honest about my relationship situation and helped me to meet people in similar situations or those who are not bothered by my status. | |||
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"Is it just me doesn't quite understand the question? Are you asking for the favourite Fab encounters of men who are married/attached (and here without their partner's knowledge)?" What the favourite thing is about fab as seem as their is so many here in comparison to other sites and apps. Curious to know how it differed from the others and what they enjoy about it | |||
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"Is it just me doesn't quite understand the question? Are you asking for the favourite Fab encounters of men who are married/attached (and here without their partner's knowledge)? What the favourite thing is about fab as seem as their is so many here in comparison to other sites and apps. Curious to know how it differed from the others and what they enjoy about it " Are you asking why is fab so popular with married people? | |||
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"I’m married (happily so) and have my wife’s permission to be on here. I’ve only used fab as opposed to other apps. In my opinion my experience is enjoying the thrill and excitement of meeting someone new or trying new experiences, for however long that experience lasts. In terms of cheaters, I’ve seen a few profiles were women have openly admitted to being on here without their partner’s knowledge so it seems to be a broad thing rather than limited to just men, although I dare say the balance would be tipped more towards men. That being said, I’m not here to judge. You have your own situation going on and that’s your business and you deal with it how you see fit. Apologies if that response isn’t very clear but the question wasn’t too clear either." Its open to interpretation but I think you gave a very clear answer. I guess from my 10 years here most are attached or married that I talk to but it's just I guess my interpretation and not necessarily true. I do want to make it clear that the post was addressed to married men and not cheaters as I wasnt looking for negative input rather those mens perspectives and words on how they have found it. For me fab hasnt changed in how it operates over the past ten years I've been here. Its stand the test of time in digital world. Unlike other apps it's less judgment, fun and never got on the band wagon of charging people to use the account to get the shag haha alot of other apps dont provide the openness to talk about your desires sexually or cater to that as much as here. I havent left fab once in my ten years here and always drawn back. Other apps/sites have come and gone. It's really a playing field for everyone. Was just curious to know from a married man perspective as again in my ten years I've spoke to many. Again it wasnt a judgment on the fact they were married. Curious mind leading for information from the cats mouth haha thanks everyone for yer words and input here  | |||
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"Cannot accommodate usually a clue" best clue is always "im married or im attached" in profile or when starting ti chat. no point in hiding it i think. | |||
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"Cannot accommodate usually a clue" Not necessarily. I don’t accommodate for various personal reasons but I’m not attached | |||
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"Maybe I'm being a bit old school here, but how do the men who "have their partners permission " work that, is it like " I'm going on a swingers website riding all around me ,are you OK with that wifey" and she goes "ya cool" , how does that work? As to me that seem a bit odd, this coming from a happily married cpl with each other 27yrs so maybe that makes it difficult to understand. " Plenty of women on here in that scenario too. There are also many couples here that play separately. So that conversation wouldn't be that difficult! | |||
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"Maybe I'm being a bit old school here, but how do the men who "have their partners permission " work that, is it like " I'm going on a swingers website riding all around me ,are you OK with that wifey" and she goes "ya cool" , how does that work? As to me that seem a bit odd, this coming from a happily married cpl with each other 27yrs so maybe that makes it difficult to understand. " Speaking for myself, it’s not a black and white a “I’m going on a swingers site and riding all round me…ya cool?” My wife’s mental health meds and perimenopause have all but wiped out her libido. I haven’t complained or made her feel bad about it for the last few years. She appreciates this given that she knows how high my drive is so she said I could have nsa fun until her drive improves. Again, this is only my situation, but just highlighting that things may not be as black and white as you may think | |||
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"Maybe I'm being a bit old school here, but how do the men who "have their partners permission " work that, is it like " I'm going on a swingers website riding all around me ,are you OK with that wifey" and she goes "ya cool" , how does that work? As to me that seem a bit odd, this coming from a happily married cpl with each other 27yrs so maybe that makes it difficult to understand. Plenty of women on here in that scenario too. There are also many couples here that play separately. So that conversation wouldn't be that difficult!" I know a few couples on here that play separately, their reasons can vary from 1 has more time than other half, or one has higher sex drive than other. Would the higher percentage of married men on hete so be on here with wife knowledge so? Hence why most profiles tent to stay away from them ? | |||
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"Maybe I'm being a bit old school here, but how do the men who "have their partners permission " work that, is it like " I'm going on a swingers website riding all around me ,are you OK with that wifey" and she goes "ya cool" , how does that work? As to me that seem a bit odd, this coming from a happily married cpl with each other 27yrs so maybe that makes it difficult to understand. Plenty of women on here in that scenario too. There are also many couples here that play separately. So that conversation wouldn't be that difficult!" We are a couple who play together and separate. | |||
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" My wife’s mental health meds and perimenopause have all but wiped out her libido. I haven’t complained or made her feel bad about it for the last few years. She appreciates this given that she knows how high my drive is so she said I could have nsa fun until her drive improves. " Fair play to you for not complaining or not making her feel bad. Big of you. Hang on now, I'll go and find a medal for you.... | |||
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"Maybe I'm being a bit old school here, but how do the men who "have their partners permission " work that, is it like " I'm going on a swingers website riding all around me ,are you OK with that wifey" and she goes "ya cool" , how does that work? As to me that seem a bit odd, this coming from a happily married cpl with each other 27yrs so maybe that makes it difficult to understand. Speaking for myself, it’s not a black and white a “I’m going on a swingers site and riding all round me…ya cool?” My wife’s mental health meds and perimenopause have all but wiped out her libido. I haven’t complained or made her feel bad about it for the last few years. She appreciates this given that she knows how high my drive is so she said I could have nsa fun until her drive improves. Again, this is only my situation, but just highlighting that things may not be as black and white as you may think "If shes on hrt theres one with testosterone in it, that increases the libido but of course she would have to speak with her gp about it. | |||
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"Maybe I'm being a bit old school here, but how do the men who "have their partners permission " work that, is it like " I'm going on a swingers website riding all around me ,are you OK with that wifey" and she goes "ya cool" , how does that work? As to me that seem a bit odd, this coming from a happily married cpl with each other 27yrs so maybe that makes it difficult to understand. Speaking for myself, it’s not a black and white a “I’m going on a swingers site and riding all round me…ya cool?” My wife’s mental health meds and perimenopause have all but wiped out her libido. I haven’t complained or made her feel bad about it for the last few years. She appreciates this given that she knows how high my drive is so she said I could have nsa fun until her drive improves. Again, this is only my situation, but just highlighting that things may not be as black and white as you may think
If shes on hrt theres one with testosterone in it, that increases the libido but of course she would have to speak with her gp about it. "She’s started on HRT and on just recently started on testosterone, but we’ll see how long it takes to take effect as it can be a slow process. | |||
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" My wife’s mental health meds and perimenopause have all but wiped out her libido. I haven’t complained or made her feel bad about it for the last few years. She appreciates this given that she knows how high my drive is so she said I could have nsa fun until her drive improves. Fair play to you for not complaining or not making her feel bad. Big of you. Hang on now, I'll go and find a medal for you...." Was only highlighting that while there are married people on here, their situation may be something instead of mere cheating. Wasn’t looking for clout of praise. | |||
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" My wife’s mental health meds and perimenopause have all but wiped out her libido. I haven’t complained or made her feel bad about it for the last few years. She appreciates this given that she knows how high my drive is so she said I could have nsa fun until her drive improves. Fair play to you for not complaining or not making her feel bad. Big of you. Hang on now, I'll go and find a medal for you...." A rather unfair comment. Would you prefer he said nothing and suffered in silence? Is that the key to a happy marriage? I don't think so. Mrs. | |||
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"I think the word we're looking for here is "cheating" Vs "married". Most of us are married! When a couple have fully informed consenting agreements it's a non-issue. If someone is cheating you're risking you own safety and well being. Aggrieved spouses won't think twice about outing you. " This is bang on, when we speak to couples on here, we're very much gut based if something fells wrong in our gut we walk away, there has been situations when a fella trips himself up when that happens we're out, the last thing we want is some pissed off wife knocking on our door after finding out bout her cheating fella whose invented a story involving us to get he's lying ass out of jail. | |||
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" My wife’s mental health meds and perimenopause have all but wiped out her libido. I haven’t complained or made her feel bad about it for the last few years. She appreciates this given that she knows how high my drive is so she said I could have nsa fun until her drive improves. Fair play to you for not complaining or not making her feel bad. Big of you. Hang on now, I'll go and find a medal for you.... A rather unfair comment. Would you prefer he said nothing and suffered in silence? Is that the key to a happy marriage? I don't think so. Mrs." I don't care why married men cheat, nobody's business but their own. But this wouldn't be the first time a guy has mentioned menopause being the reason he's not having sex at home, as if women should be more lenient towards them. | |||
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" My wife’s mental health meds and perimenopause have all but wiped out her libido. I haven’t complained or made her feel bad about it for the last few years. She appreciates this given that she knows how high my drive is so she said I could have nsa fun until her drive improves. Fair play to you for not complaining or not making her feel bad. Big of you. Hang on now, I'll go and find a medal for you.... A rather unfair comment. Would you prefer he said nothing and suffered in silence? Is that the key to a happy marriage? I don't think so. Mrs. I don't care why married men cheat, nobody's business but their own. But this wouldn't be the first time a guy has mentioned menopause being the reason he's not having sex at home, as if women should be more lenient towards them. " I had no expectations of her being more lenient towards me. The thought of playing elsewhere didn’t even cross my mind until she brought it up and she suggested it by giving her full consent. I nearly asked for it in writing because I was certain it was a prank. Also, peri menopause wasn’t the only issue affecting her drive it was her mental health meds too. I’m not using it as an excuse seeing as this was her idea. | |||
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" My wife’s mental health meds and perimenopause have all but wiped out her libido. I haven’t complained or made her feel bad about it for the last few years. She appreciates this given that she knows how high my drive is so she said I could have nsa fun until her drive improves. Fair play to you for not complaining or not making her feel bad. Big of you. Hang on now, I'll go and find a medal for you.... A rather unfair comment. Would you prefer he said nothing and suffered in silence? Is that the key to a happy marriage? I don't think so. Mrs. I don't care why married men cheat, nobody's business but their own. But this wouldn't be the first time a guy has mentioned menopause being the reason he's not having sex at home, as if women should be more lenient towards them. " But that's not cheating if she agreed. He's actually done the right thing here and is getting his needs fulfilled elsewhere with permission while she isn't able. | |||
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" My wife’s mental health meds and perimenopause have all but wiped out her libido. I haven’t complained or made her feel bad about it for the last few years. She appreciates this given that she knows how high my drive is so she said I could have nsa fun until her drive improves. Fair play to you for not complaining or not making her feel bad. Big of you. Hang on now, I'll go and find a medal for you.... A rather unfair comment. Would you prefer he said nothing and suffered in silence? Is that the key to a happy marriage? I don't think so. Mrs. I don't care why married men cheat, nobody's business but their own. But this wouldn't be the first time a guy has mentioned menopause being the reason he's not having sex at home, as if women should be more lenient towards them. I had no expectations of her being more lenient towards me. The thought of playing elsewhere didn’t even cross my mind until she brought it up and she suggested it by giving her full consent. I nearly asked for it in writing because I was certain it was a prank. Also, peri menopause wasn’t the only issue affecting her drive it was her mental health meds too. I’m not using it as an excuse seeing as this was her idea." I wasn't suggesting your wife be more lenient, it was women here I meant. And I didn't meant to offend, apologies for that.. it just irks me when men talk about menopause as though it's something women will just 'get over'. So again, apologies. | |||
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"I am a wife who previously "gave permission" to her husband to look elsewhere. I believe that sex can be separate from a married relationship as well as obviously a great part of it too. Two people cannot always compromise. If one person wants sex and one person does not there is no in between. I knew that my husband did not want to leave the marriage and husbands on here probably do not. I was never pressured or made to feel bad for not wanting sex...but I did still feel guilty anyway. It made our relationship better when he was on this site. " Maybe couples like you could start a thread on your experiences. Giving enough details whilst discrete about how it affected your marriage for both good or bad? Hopefully all for good but we are all grown ups. I would be fascinated. | |||
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"I am a wife who previously "gave permission" to her husband to look elsewhere. I believe that sex can be separate from a married relationship as well as obviously a great part of it too. Two people cannot always compromise. If one person wants sex and one person does not there is no in between. I knew that my husband did not want to leave the marriage and husbands on here probably do not. I was never pressured or made to feel bad for not wanting sex...but I did still feel guilty anyway. It made our relationship better when he was on this site. Maybe couples like you could start a thread on your experiences. Giving enough details whilst discrete about how it affected your marriage for both good or bad? Hopefully all for good but we are all grown ups. I would be fascinated." Not sure that there are many married women on this site that would have been in my position, although I know of maybe one other couple.... | |||
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" My wife’s mental health meds and perimenopause have all but wiped out her libido. I haven’t complained or made her feel bad about it for the last few years. She appreciates this given that she knows how high my drive is so she said I could have nsa fun until her drive improves. Fair play to you for not complaining or not making her feel bad. Big of you. Hang on now, I'll go and find a medal for you.... A rather unfair comment. Would you prefer he said nothing and suffered in silence? Is that the key to a happy marriage? I don't think so. Mrs. I don't care why married men cheat, nobody's business but their own. But this wouldn't be the first time a guy has mentioned menopause being the reason he's not having sex at home, as if women should be more lenient towards them. I had no expectations of her being more lenient towards me. The thought of playing elsewhere didn’t even cross my mind until she brought it up and she suggested it by giving her full consent. I nearly asked for it in writing because I was certain it was a prank. Also, peri menopause wasn’t the only issue affecting her drive it was her mental health meds too. I’m not using it as an excuse seeing as this was her idea. I wasn't suggesting your wife be more lenient, it was women here I meant. And I didn't meant to offend, apologies for that.. it just irks me when men talk about menopause as though it's something women will just 'get over'. So again, apologies. " I know only too well that women cannot simply “get over it” when it comes to menopause any more than a person with depression cannot simply “cheer up”. But thank you for clarifying. Folks, don’t be coming after this lady for her points of view. She had the grace and decency to reach out to me, explain and apologise. I have accept and we’re all friends. Let’s move on. | |||
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"I am Married... why I am here... for fun ..... love the risk ... adriline... as long as both parties know ... whats the harm .... and don't plague me with the cheating and morals crap ...... we are here to fun laugh get naked ..... " Not here to judge or lecture, have you meet many people on here? Have you told them all your home situation? | |||
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"I am Married... why I am here... for fun ..... love the risk ... adriline... as long as both parties know ... whats the harm .... and don't plague me with the cheating and morals crap ...... we are here to fun laugh get naked ..... " Some people think "morals crap" is important, and that "both parties know" should include your chosen life-partner. | |||
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"I am Married... why I am here... for fun ..... love the risk ... adriline... as long as both parties know ... whats the harm .... and don't plague me with the cheating and morals crap ...... we are here to fun laugh get naked ..... " Evidently you have no morals to worry about | |||
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"Cannot accommodate usually a clue" Can be a clue of a single dad with kids/teenagers/college age kids living at home. It's not always easy, we do our best. We must always be positive in our assumptions of other people's limitations | |||
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"Cannot accommodate usually a clue" And yet you dont accomadate 
There are lots of couples and single ladys dont accomadate for reasons of privacey and safety are guys not afforded the same | |||
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"Cannot accommodate usually a clue And yet you dont accomadate
There are lots of couples and single ladys dont accomadate for reasons of privacey and safety are guys not afforded the same "Were a couple on fab if you read my profile | |||
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"Cannot accommodate usually a clue" My profile says I can't accommodate. That's because I won't accommodate. I don't want strangers in my house because I value my safety and my privacy. That's a right everyone has, be it a woman, a man, or a couple. | |||
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"Cannot accommodate usually a clue And yet you dont accomadate
There are lots of couples and single ladys dont accomadate for reasons of privacey and safety are guys not afforded the same Were a couple on fab if you read my profile "I have read it but i am just pointing out that people accomadating or not means nothing more that it doesnt suit then to do so for many reasons and thats across the board | |||
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"Cannot accommodate usually a clue And yet you dont accomadate
There are lots of couples and single ladys dont accomadate for reasons of privacey and safety are guys not afforded the same Were a couple on fab if you read my profile
I have read it but i am just pointing out that people accomadating or not means nothing more that it doesnt suit then to do so for many reasons and thats across the board "I never said all ... Ring marks were removed is also questionable | |||
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