FabSwingers.com forum: My first meet next week ?

By *lowinthedark OP Man
40 weeks ago

Roscommon

Hey,

I’ll be on a business trip next week in a nice hotel south Dublin already paid. I’m looking for my first meeting experience and considering the amount of single man and time wasters on this website, I’m taking the time to post here in case you’re interested.

I’m a single man (really single) in its 30´s, clean, polite and well mannered. I only require discretion for my job other than that I have nothing to hide and my profile has face pics.

If any woman are interested, hit me up

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By *ofusplusCouple
40 weeks ago

Limerick

Maybe clarify what you mean by 'interested'. I assume it's a social coffee/drink?

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By *lowinthedark OP Man
40 weeks ago

Roscommon

Definitely a drink to break the ice and see how it goes and then the room is there to have some fun

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By *s LollyWoman
40 weeks ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Think it's the "room is there" would put me off

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By *s LollyWoman
40 weeks ago

The pub then supermacs ...

I live about 2mins away from a popular hotel and get messages all the time like last night "wanna meet" no thanks i don't go to random lad's hotel rooms....ok wanna meet for a drink and food before i even answered he'd message but the room is there for fun

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By *lowinthedark OP Man
40 weeks ago

Roscommon

Well I understand that but I the end of the day I’ve never seen people having fun in the middle of the street ?????.

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By *s LollyWoman
40 weeks ago

The pub then supermacs ...

"Well I understand that but I the end of the day I’ve never seen people having fun in the middle of the street ?????. "

I'm not saying that but when you emphasise "there's a room for fun" it might turn people off

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By *lowinthedark OP Man
40 weeks ago

Roscommon

if it does that means this person and I aren’t looking for the same thing and it’s fine. On the other hand I’m definitely open for a drink or food and it can stay there if no one feel the vibes to go further. Also it’s ain’t a shitty hotel in a gloomy place. anyways, thanks for your input.

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By *electableicecreamMan
40 weeks ago

The West

OP in my experience nearly all women will want to meet for a social and then plan a meet for another day if the attraction is there.

I don't think any woman is going to feel comfortable going to a meet, even a social one, if sex is already so overtly on the table before you've even come face to face..

It's too much pressure and of course there is risk. As men we generally don't have to worry about how a woman is going to react if we say no.

That's not the case for women. Every woman, particularly on fab, will have had an uncomfortable experience refusing a man who's expectations were too high.

You have your room ready, your fantasy all set up and your excited. Try to imagine how a woman would feel saying no to you. It's awkward and likely to be disappointing for you.

You could be the nicest guy in the world and they still wouldn't want to risk it.

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By *lowinthedark OP Man
40 weeks ago

Roscommon

Absolutely good point and I totally understand that but so far I ain’t forcing anyone, even I my meeting offer. Just to clarify.

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By *electableicecreamMan
40 weeks ago

The West

"Absolutely good point and I totally understand that but so far I ain’t forcing anyone, even I my meeting offer. Just to clarify. "

Of course. I don't think anyone is suggesting that your forcing anything.

Just don't be surprised if you don't get the response your hoping for.

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By *lowinthedark OP Man
40 weeks ago

Roscommon

Thanks mate, I don’t expect much I’m just new to this world and discovering it. I ain’t dying if nothing happens there haha. Take care !

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By *itlbeeCouple
40 weeks ago

You'll always b far better NOT mentioning the hotel room, or hinting at fun.

You can say your staying in Dublin for work. But your going to be far more likely to get a meet if you don't make people feel you are expecting anything.

That way people who aren't sure about you are far more likely to give you a chance over the coffee.

I meet only with my partner and we still only meet for a social initially. Rejecting someone to their face is pretty awful and most want to avoid it, so if your putting someone on the position of having to do that, they probably won't meet you.

It's normal, we all know people that wait till after a Tinder date to text saying they "didn't feel a spark" or something.

On top of that we all know us women have always been less inclined to fuck randomers because of our very real fear of sexual violence.

Even though we are here to find casual sexual partners, we are still going to be cautious and often can't afford to take a gamble on a total stranger.

So this talk of "being here for the same thing" doesn't matter when we're coming in with a lot more risk and danger on our part.

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By *ndie and CindyCouple
40 weeks ago

Dublin

"Absolutely good point and I totally understand that but so far I ain’t forcing anyone, even I my meeting offer. Just to clarify. "

“So far I ain’t forcing anyone” …………….well that’s a statement to clarify with

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By *hilaboutMan
40 weeks ago

kilkenny

Think your rushing it abit lad .

Gotta sort a few socials first n see is the spark there the room might become part of it down the line but dont see it all happening the one night

Best of luck all the same

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By *og-ManMan
40 weeks ago

somewhere

Op I think the main problem is that youre unverified so will find it difficult but maybe not impossible to find someone to hook up with in your room

You've been open ,you're looking for sex and maybe you'll find a woman that will take a chance if she gets good vibes off you if she meets for coffee

You're only on 7 weeks and some men on here never get a meet at all no matter what you might have heard about the site

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By *chochamberWoman
40 weeks ago

Munster

No profile pic, you need one.

Free room, you want to use - just keep quiet about the room.

You ll have better luck with "I m in town for a few nights, am open to social company at x location, how about a coffee or tea?"

First meeting is an assessment meeting only.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
40 weeks ago

My town

Good luck on your request op .

Don't be disheartened if nothing comes of it ( no pun )

But only 7 weeks and no veris it's kinda hard to get meets.

To help you along from time to time people post on forums they doing ,

Socials to help people getting verified. Might be worth keeping eye on forums when next one is coming up.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
40 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

Nothing wrong with asking. It's might be a little hopeful, but fuck it nothing ventured nothing gained. Good luck OP.

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By *asual777Man
40 weeks ago

i travel all over

Good luck OP

Hope you get a nice coffee

And get laid also if you two hit off

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By *TinyDelight-Woman
40 weeks ago

City Centre

Good luck with your night OP.

It might be worthwhile listing this in the meets and events section. Lot's of people use this tool as it's a handy way to find out when people are meeting and what types of meet they are looking for, social or otherwise.

All the best.

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