FabSwingers.com forum: Beyond the physical

By *electableicecream OP Man
40 weeks ago

The West

What turns you on besides looks?.

For example I recently discovered while talking to someone that open and clear communication is very attractive to me and even turns me on with the right person.

This came as a surprise to me because it's usually boobs.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
40 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

Someone who knows that they want and aren't afraid to make sure they get it.

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By *ofusplusCouple
40 weeks ago

Limerick

"What turns you on besides looks?.

For example I recently discovered while talking to someone that open and clear communication is very attractive to me and even turns me on with the right person.

This came as a surprise to me because it's usually boobs."

That's what i was going to say as well! Openness is quite attractive in contrast with a guy who tells you nothing in order to keep the upper hand.

Integrity is also very attractive, someone who will do the right thing regardless of the consequences to themselves.

Some might question the relevance in the swinging world, but when you've been subjected to the opposite, you realise that these traits still matter to you.

Mrs

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By *ealitybitesMan
40 weeks ago

Belfast

I've always found trust to be a greater turn on than anything physical.

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By *ofusplusCouple
40 weeks ago

Limerick

"I've always found trust to be a greater turn on than anything physical. "

Isn't trust an outcome rather than a trait? I think we're in agreement on the integrity thing. Isn't that why you trust them? We trust the people we know will do the right thing by us every time

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Openness in terms of their thinking, and just being a good all round egg are what I find the most attractive

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By *udding RoseWoman
40 weeks ago

Somewhere out there

To me it's starts from the first opening message!! When they pick a good topic to talk about, maybe they liked what I had to say on a forum thread etc!! That's a great starter of a conversation!!

Both people enjoying the conversation is a big plus!! people who are confident but not overly confident either! And also somebody who's not putting the pressure on to meet!

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By *ursecretmischiefCouple
40 weeks ago

The West

Besides looks...Compersion!

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By *ealitybitesMan
40 weeks ago

Belfast

"I've always found trust to be a greater turn on than anything physical.

Isn't trust an outcome rather than a trait? I think we're in agreement on the integrity thing. Isn't that why you trust them? We trust the people we know will do the right thing by us every time

The way I'm looking at it is someone placing their trust in me as a turn on.

Trusting me with them and their bodies.

Yes that involves integrity but I'm not looking at it as an outcome.

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By *panishRebelMan
40 weeks ago

Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland

Attitude has always been a turn on for me. Confidence, fiestiness but calm, self belief, respect, intelligence. These are some of the turn ons for me, there are more but you it gives the idea. Take all this away and no matter how gorgeous a woman looks, I struggle to interact.

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By *easingTimMan
40 weeks ago

Loughlinstown

Warmth

Openness (no, not that kind you perv

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Intelligence

Passion

Generosity

...and a kinky mind won't go astray

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By *ildarekinkstersCouple
40 weeks ago

kinkytown

Someone who can make me laugh. On the same wavelength when it comes to life in general. While Dee is a stunner and I'm lucky to be with her the above are the reasons I fell in love with her.

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By *easingTimMan
40 weeks ago

Loughlinstown

"Someone who can make me laugh. On the same wavelength when it comes to life in general. While Dee is a stunner and I'm lucky to be with her the above are the reasons I fell in love with her. "

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Get a room you guys...

...with a few viewing slots!

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By *annyZ100Man
40 weeks ago

Limerick

Girls with guitars

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By *ofusplusCouple
40 weeks ago

Limerick

"I've always found trust to be a greater turn on than anything physical.

Isn't trust an outcome rather than a trait? I think we're in agreement on the integrity thing. Isn't that why you trust them? We trust the people we know will do the right thing by us every time

The way I'm looking at it is someone placing their trust in me as a turn on.

Trusting me with them and their bodies.

Yes that involves integrity but I'm not looking at it as an outcome. "

Gotcha

I thought you meant you trusting them

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Dirty talk, gets me EVERY time

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By *astelloWoman
40 weeks ago

Far far away

Sense of humour. I really like witty intelligent humour.

Someome who can match the conversation is always a turn on.

But ultimately.. Laugh me into bed...

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By *easingTimMan
40 weeks ago

Loughlinstown

"Sense of humour. I really like witty intelligent humour.

Someome who can match the conversation is always a turn on.

But ultimately.. Laugh me into bed... "

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Best brush up on your knock-knock jokes lads if you want the aul headboard to be a knockin'

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By *adger BrocMan
40 weeks ago

Co. Cork

There was I trying to be King of the fab jungle and a Jack of all trades when I really should have played the Joker.

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By *ushin realityCouple
40 weeks ago

swords

Kindness

Good sense of humour, because I'm a slagging wagon

And smell, a sexy aftershave, even Lynx ,makes me quiver lol

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By *urvyLouLouWoman
39 weeks ago

Tyrone

Trust, ability to converse and laugh x

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By *dfabMan
39 weeks ago

Dunboyne

Bit of craic and being a pervert looking to explore new ways to orgasm

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By *orYourThighsOnlyMan
39 weeks ago

Midlands

Open n clear Communication. Thoughtfulness. Caring. Fun loving. Adventurer. Sense of humour. Naughtiness.

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By *1CorkCouple
39 weeks ago

Cork

Good thread. Very relevant to us, and we’d agree on the importance of all the personality traits mentioned in above posts. We’ve often discussed after a social meet how we weren’t so keen when a couple walked in, but we were ready to jump them after an hour chatting.

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By *eijaWoman
39 weeks ago

City Centre

Intelligence, talent and a good sense of humour.

You cannot beat a good conversation

Someone who is emotionally intelligent.

Openness too - someone who is open minded and willing to explore.

B x

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
39 weeks ago

South Down

Wit, wisdom, the confidence sweet spot, low key flirtatiousness, how they hold and conduct themselves, kindness and generosity of spirit, dress sense

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By *og-ManMan
39 weeks ago

somewhere

"Wit, wisdom, the confidence sweet spot, low key flirtatiousness, how they hold and conduct themselves, kindness and generosity of spirit, dress sense"

I was doing well till the dress sense

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
39 weeks ago

South Down

"Wit, wisdom, the confidence sweet spot, low key flirtatiousness, how they hold and conduct themselves, kindness and generosity of spirit, dress sense

I was doing well till the dress sense

I dunno BM, you're always well turned out

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By *affa31Woman
39 weeks ago

Galway

Humour, confidence (but not cockiness), eye contact, good communication and emotional intelligence are key for me.

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By *s LollyWoman
39 weeks ago

The pub then supermacs ...

"Wit, wisdom, the confidence sweet spot, low key flirtatiousness, how they hold and conduct themselves, kindness and generosity of spirit, dress sense

I was doing well till the dress sense

I dunno BM, you're always well turned out

Especially carrying a box of Offbeat Donuts quite the turn on

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By *chochamberWoman
39 weeks ago

Munster

Funny, relaxed, content, calm, interested in me, considerate, enthusiastic about life, adventurous, polite and gentlemanly. All very attractive.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
39 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

"Wit, wisdom, the confidence sweet spot, low key flirtatiousness, how they hold and conduct themselves, kindness and generosity of spirit, dress sense

I was doing well till the dress sense

I dunno BM, you're always well turned out

Especially carrying a box of Offbeat Donuts quite the turn on

Ive no idea what offbeat donuts are but I'm keen to find out

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By *exyScientistsCouple
39 weeks ago

Castlebar

Always always someone I can have a laugh with, someone who gets my sense of humour, doesn't get offended, can be a bit cheeky without being overly explicit and can string a few witty sentences or even a whole paragraph together...turns be on before I ever even see a face pic.

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By *og-ManMan
39 weeks ago

somewhere

"Wit, wisdom, the confidence sweet spot, low key flirtatiousness, how they hold and conduct themselves, kindness and generosity of spirit, dress sense

I was doing well till the dress sense

I dunno BM, you're always well turned out

Especially carrying a box of Offbeat Donuts quite the turn on

Ive no idea what offbeat donuts are but I'm keen to find out

I bring off beat Donuts to every social I go to at this stage

I have a funny feeling if I didnt have them I wouldn't get in the door

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By *oghunter33Woman
39 weeks ago

on the hill NordWest of

Smartness and a sense of humour I find rather convincing but it has to be the nonslippery kind.

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By *amesnplanesMan
39 weeks ago

Banbridge and Dublin

I was thinking a careful blend of humility and reality.

The hotwife and cuckold folks are enjoying the fun mental dynamic that exists between them. Single male friends are clearly ten a penny and just because you're (single guy) is fortunate enough to meet the selection criteria, it's just a little fun.

Nothing more and definitely not fifty shades of a poorly written novel

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By *voidingboredomMan
39 weeks ago

around

I'm a total sapiophile so if a woman is very intelligent and educated it really gets me going. Like a total expert in a subject I've never heard of

Or a woman who can do a cryptic crossword with ease (which for the life of me I can't)

In the same vein somebody really talented at something. From music to ceramics or jigsaws or rubix cubes or sudoku, hulahooping, anything really that's a genuine high level of ability outside the north

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Kindness.

Someone who takes joy in the simple things like baking scones.

Someone who actually listens to you and not just waits for their turn to speak.

Now if a woman told me what her favourite Friday The 13th movie was and exactly why its the best I think I would melt.

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By *aseylee324Couple
39 weeks ago

Valley of Squinting Windows

Emotional intelligence in men is something I find very appealing, not least because it's not the norm.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

"Emotional intelligence in men is something I find very appealing, not least because it's not the norm."

Let me know when you find one with this will you?

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By *hivers2020Woman
39 weeks ago

lolli land

Confidence & charisma - I’m like a moth to a flame. Add in a positive outlook, happy face and ability to take the piss out of me and make me laugh then I’m weak at the knees. The false flattery on here is absolutely wasted on me, I don’t like compliments from people I don’t know and have never met in real life

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By *aseylee324Couple
39 weeks ago

Valley of Squinting Windows

"Emotional intelligence in men is something I find very appealing, not least because it's not the norm.

Let me know when you find one with this will you?"

I've already got one, so it makes the bar very high!!

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