FabSwingers.com forum: Sex talk.

By *electableicecream OP Man
43 weeks ago

The West

I was having coffee with a friend this morning and she said something along the lines of

'All the men I've met are really awkward when it comes to talking about safe sex, other partners and don't really know how to talk about what they like or don't'

It got me thinking about this kind of communication which, largely because of fab, I have become accustomed to. But perhaps in vanilla dating/hooking up it's less common?

Do you talk about safe sex with new partners?

Are you good at communicating what feels good and what doesn't before, during or after sex?

Or do you just go with the flow?

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By *electableicecream OP Man
43 weeks ago

The West

The duplicate thread was deleted so if you replied there it is unfortunately now in the ether.

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By *og-ManMan
43 weeks ago

somewhere

"The duplicate thread was deleted so if you replied there it is unfortunately now in the ether.

And I made one of the most honest insightful and heart warming replies I ever made in that thread

Feck

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
43 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

"The duplicate thread was deleted so if you replied there it is unfortunately now in the ether.

And I made one of the most honest insightful and heart warming replies I ever made in that thread

Feck

Goddamnit I'd be raging

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
43 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

I'd like to think that the swinging community are able to talk up front about this stuff. In the dating world I suspect they are less open about talking about it. We are ahead of the curve with regards safe sex.

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By *antra MassageMan
43 weeks ago

South Side.

If I was to compare swingers with kinksters ( from the dark site), I'd say the kink community are more aware and open about conversations relating to all shades of sexuality. In Ireland, fabbers are, generally, quite vanilla, discrete(secretive?), and not always fully sex conscious, sti conscious, and Risk aware. Maybe that's because I don't often develop the intimacy and connection required for this deep and so satisfying conversation around sex. But, when I find them, it feels so liberating.

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By *ro_boner_publicoMan
43 weeks ago

North County

I always try to bring it up as early as possible.

There's little more frustrating (for me and the couple) than having mutual attraction and getting invested before finding out that we have different preferences regarding safe sex.

It's a hard and fast "always" for me, and prevarication usually means someone would like to avoid using condoms for sex.

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By *orYourThighsOnlyMan
43 weeks ago

Midlands

Swinging or dating - I always ask and communicate to see everyone on the same page.

Johnnys got ya covered

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

They can be either very awkward or very erotic conversations.

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By *adger BrocMan
43 weeks ago

Co. Cork

Sorry I already used up all my wit and wisdom on another similar thread.

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