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Can't say I know what your going through OP or I know how to help you either. All I can say to you(& other's) OP, don't be so hard on yourself(selves). If you feel like it's not working & you think that your slipping back to it again. You can always restart tomorrow a fresh. I'm sure it's not easy, you can do it. Don't be afraid to talk to someone, be that someone on here or somewhere else, either OP. I'm sure someone will be willing to listen to you & be able to help you aswell OP. | |||
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"OP good luck in your recovery. Thiamine deficiency is common in people with alcohol dependence. This is something to be discussed with your doctor and if you need Vit B1 supplements you'll get a prescription for the correct dosage. Probably best not to take medical advice from randomers on the internet in general though. That includes me. All the best OP. Courage to change the things you can..." And the wisdom to do it 
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"I read it exactly how it was written and no it is not a nice request. Take ownership of your own words. " Should we be supporting people who are dealing with their addiction rather then chastising them? If you’re referring to the OP’s post about a meet then I don’t think you did read it properly, it didn’t say anything about women in it. Good luck OP…. | |||
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"Anyone for a meet take my mind off drink x x " I hope you're doing ok. You'll find most folk on here supportive. We're rooting for you. | |||
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"Anyone for a meet take my mind off drink x x I hope you're doing ok. You'll find most folk on here supportive. We're rooting for you." As am I.  | |||
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"This is not an addiction support site. Randomers are not equipped to support someone with complex addiction issues, you need trained people to do that and there are plenty of free, suitably qualified support professionals available. Distraction meets / charity meets are not what this site is about. If someone wants a sponsor or a mentor for addiction issues, they need to go to AA. Well meaning people might try to help, but they themselves are then vulnerable to someone else's addiction issues. Better off to use a swinging site for swinging and use an addiction support service for addiction therapy. " Yes, But you know sometimes a kind word can mean a lot to someone that it is struggling. | |||
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"This is not an addiction support site. Randomers are not equipped to support someone with complex addiction issues, you need trained people to do that and there are plenty of free, suitably qualified support professionals available. Distraction meets / charity meets are not what this site is about. If someone wants a sponsor or a mentor for addiction issues, they need to go to AA. Well meaning people might try to help, but they themselves are then vulnerable to someone else's addiction issues. Better off to use a swinging site for swinging and use an addiction support service for addiction therapy. " Wow….. | |||
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"This is not an addiction support site. Randomers are not equipped to support someone with complex addiction issues, you need trained people to do that and there are plenty of free, suitably qualified support professionals available. Distraction meets / charity meets are not what this site is about. If someone wants a sponsor or a mentor for addiction issues, they need to go to AA. Well meaning people might try to help, but they themselves are then vulnerable to someone else's addiction issues. Better off to use a swinging site for swinging and use an addiction support service for addiction therapy. Yes, But you know sometimes a kind word can mean a lot to someone that it is struggling. " Exactly! It costs nothing to be kind. | |||
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"This is not an addiction support site. Randomers are not equipped to support someone with complex addiction issues, you need trained people to do that and there are plenty of free, suitably qualified support professionals available. Distraction meets / charity meets are not what this site is about. If someone wants a sponsor or a mentor for addiction issues, they need to go to AA. Well meaning people might try to help, but they themselves are then vulnerable to someone else's addiction issues. Better off to use a swinging site for swinging and use an addiction support service for addiction therapy. " Supports needed for any addiction come in a variety of forms, Hope you are getting all you need OP. Keep doing what you are doing and reaching out where needed. | |||
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"I have a few friends in recovery. They swear by meetings. " Meetings have kept me 25 months clean from all drugs and that includes alcohol which is a drug.. | |||
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"I'm (checks app) 456 days off alcohol myself. It definitely gets easier. You got this my friend "I think you mentioned something in another thread that seemed to stick in my brain, and sorry if I butcher the quote, “I used to drown in problems but now I swim in solutions” which I thought was rather lovely | |||
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"Thanks all for your support only coming on today as I was down over the comment that was mad. But now I know I have support thank you lol " OP I'm glad you are finding support and the strength to keep going. At the end of the day it doesn't matter where you find it as long as it works for you and doesn't harm anyone. I think if you read the second post from Echochamber you might find a deeper understanding of her point of view. There is no doubt that it is always good to reach out. I'm sure you can also understand that reaching out for sexual gratification to distract from from the withdrawal of an alcohol dependency is probably not going to help you as much as you think. On top of that, the process of drying out is difficult and your mental health may be in need of better support than a casual sex partner can provide you. If you stop and think of the person on the other side of your request I am sure you can understand why you may have gotten a bristling reaction. Nearly everyone knows someone who has suffered abuse from an alcohol dependant spouse. That abuse doesn't always end when the drinking ends. People are already cautious with a stranger on a sex site asking for a meet. They are right to be doubly cautious with someone in your position and are correct to have firm boundaries that are clearly communicated. And as hard as it may be too hear, it is entirely inappropriate to ask for a sex based meet (that's what fab is) to substitute alcohol or relieve your withdrawal symptoms. That said, this forum is a community and as you can see above there is encouragement for you here and I would encourage you to continue to engage in way that is positive and helpful to your recovery. I wish you the very best of luck. | |||
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"I'm (checks app) 456 days off alcohol myself. It definitely gets easier. You got this my friend
I think you mentioned something in another thread that seemed to stick in my brain, and sorry if I butcher the quote, “I used to drown in problems but now I swim in solutions” which I thought was rather lovely "Did I say that? Ah sure I'll take it anyway 
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"It's also important to be kind and protective to those that get inadvertently sucked into the black hole that is someone else addiction or healing from addiction journey. Believe me, there is a reason why there are specialised support services in place, which are available 24/7 and staffed appropriately with professional staff. A straight man with addiction issues (currently dry alcoholic) seeking distraction meets on a swingers website does not sit well with me. For anyone interested, there is a great book called "AA for friends and families of alcoholics", that is very illuminating about the effects of addiction on all those surrounding wet and dry alcoholics. It's not just the alcoholic that can be sick, the illness of addiction permeates to those that surround the addict, it can be cyclical and multi generational. The journey isn't over when someone stops drinking, they need professional support. That is not unkind to say. Addicts can inadvertently damage others, co-dependent people can be drawn to rush in and help and support. Often unqualified support people can do more harm than good and also be vulnerable themselves to the fall out of an illness that they are not equipped to deal with. Addiction is everywhere, everyone should educate themselves on when it's healthy to get involved and to what extent is it healthy to be an untrained support person. " are you and addict? Or do you work in the addiction profession? | |||
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"It's also important to be kind and protective to those that get inadvertently sucked into the black hole that is someone else addiction or healing from addiction journey. Believe me, there is a reason why there are specialised support services in place, which are available 24/7 and staffed appropriately with professional staff. A straight man with addiction issues (currently dry alcoholic) seeking distraction meets on a swingers website does not sit well with me. For anyone interested, there is a great book called "AA for friends and families of alcoholics", that is very illuminating about the effects of addiction on all those surrounding wet and dry alcoholics. It's not just the alcoholic that can be sick, the illness of addiction permeates to those that surround the addict, it can be cyclical and multi generational. The journey isn't over when someone stops drinking, they need professional support. That is not unkind to say. Addicts can inadvertently damage others, co-dependent people can be drawn to rush in and help and support. Often unqualified support people can do more harm than good and also be vulnerable themselves to the fall out of an illness that they are not equipped to deal with. Addiction is everywhere, everyone should educate themselves on when it's healthy to get involved and to what extent is it healthy to be an untrained support person. are you and addict? Or do you work in the addiction profession?" Same could be asked of u! Talking sense doesn't need a PhD  | |||
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"It's also important to be kind and protective to those that get inadvertently sucked into the black hole that is someone else addiction or healing from addiction journey. Believe me, there is a reason why there are specialised support services in place, which are available 24/7 and staffed appropriately with professional staff. A straight man with addiction issues (currently dry alcoholic) seeking distraction meets on a swingers website does not sit well with me. For anyone interested, there is a great book called "AA for friends and families of alcoholics", that is very illuminating about the effects of addiction on all those surrounding wet and dry alcoholics. It's not just the alcoholic that can be sick, the illness of addiction permeates to those that surround the addict, it can be cyclical and multi generational. The journey isn't over when someone stops drinking, they need professional support. That is not unkind to say. Addicts can inadvertently damage others, co-dependent people can be drawn to rush in and help and support. Often unqualified support people can do more harm than good and also be vulnerable themselves to the fall out of an illness that they are not equipped to deal with. Addiction is everywhere, everyone should educate themselves on when it's healthy to get involved and to what extent is it healthy to be an untrained support person. are you and addict? Or do you work in the addiction profession? Same could be asked of u! Talking sense doesn't need a PhD "Well I have done my addiction studies and finished them and I do work in the services. So I do think I would no what I'm talking about!! | |||
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"It's also important to be kind and protective to those that get inadvertently sucked into the black hole that is someone else addiction or healing from addiction journey. Believe me, there is a reason why there are specialised support services in place, which are available 24/7 and staffed appropriately with professional staff. A straight man with addiction issues (currently dry alcoholic) seeking distraction meets on a swingers website does not sit well with me. For anyone interested, there is a great book called "AA for friends and families of alcoholics", that is very illuminating about the effects of addiction on all those surrounding wet and dry alcoholics. It's not just the alcoholic that can be sick, the illness of addiction permeates to those that surround the addict, it can be cyclical and multi generational. The journey isn't over when someone stops drinking, they need professional support. That is not unkind to say. Addicts can inadvertently damage others, co-dependent people can be drawn to rush in and help and support. Often unqualified support people can do more harm than good and also be vulnerable themselves to the fall out of an illness that they are not equipped to deal with. Addiction is everywhere, everyone should educate themselves on when it's healthy to get involved and to what extent is it healthy to be an untrained support person. are you and addict? Or do you work in the addiction profession? Same could be asked of u! Talking sense doesn't need a PhD "Knowing what your talking is a lot better I would think. Your message is very misleading | |||
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