FabSwingers.com forum: What am I doing wrong?

By *arkss OP Man
52 weeks ago

L. Derry

I'm sure you've all heard this before, but what do I have to do to peak some interest. Please feel free to have a look at my profile and any pointers would be very much appreciated.

Thanks

Charlie

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
52 weeks ago

There and Here

Getting along to some socials may help

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By *eeeeMan
52 weeks ago

tralee

Where are the socials happening this weekend

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By *osyRedLipsWoman
52 weeks ago

Kildare

"I'm sure you've all heard this before, but what do I have to do to peak some interest. Please feel free to have a look at my profile and any pointers would be very much appreciated.

Thanks

Charlie "

Being brutally honest some people won't meet bi or married people so that might go against you. Also being here over a year and not verified won't help either. Check the help a Fabber threads to see can you get coffee social.

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By *arkss OP Man
52 weeks ago

L. Derry

Thanks for that, appreciated incidentally do you know of any socials in the near future?

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By *arkss OP Man
52 weeks ago

L. Derry

Thanks for that, will do. But I'm just trying to be honest. I don't want to mislead anyone. I am bi but I have no problem playing straight.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
52 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

Your pics are in a style that are likely to only appeal to a particular niche of men. They are going to put most people off. Also you're unverified. Watch for forum for opportunities to attend an event for verification

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By *arkss OP Man
52 weeks ago

L. Derry

Thanks for that, all advice is appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I’d take out the bit about your wife’s illness in your bio .. it’s ok to just say your married .. personally I’m not a fan of dick pics on a profile but then we’re looking for different things .. I see some say about meet & greets but I’m guessing you’re probably looking to keep your business to yourself.. there is a life outside of fab don’t put to much emphasis on it .

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By *arkss OP Man
52 weeks ago

L. Derry

"Your pics are in a style that are likely to only appeal to a particular niche of men. They are going to put most people off. Also you're unverified. Watch for forum for opportunities to attend an event for verification "
Any suggestions on what I could do to change that perception?

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
52 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

"Your pics are in a style that are likely to only appeal to a particular niche of men. They are going to put most people off. Also you're unverified. Watch for forum for opportunities to attend an event for verification Any suggestions on what I could do to change that perception? "

Look at successful male profiles and that will give you some ideas of what works.

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By *arkss OP Man
52 weeks ago

L. Derry

"Your pics are in a style that are likely to only appeal to a particular niche of men. They are going to put most people off. Also you're unverified. Watch for forum for opportunities to attend an event for verification Any suggestions on what I could do to change that perception?

Look at successful male profiles and that will give you some ideas of what works. "
Thanks for that, will do

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By *electableicecreamMan
52 weeks ago

The West

Hi OP

To be frank, as the others have alluded above, in general your profile is unappealing when compared to some other guys profiles.

Your photos are mostly the same and and are not flattering you. Pick two that are different and leave it at that. Then maybe look at other guys photos for inspiration.

Being married isn't going to help but you are right to be up front about it.

Being bi is also going to narrow your options.

As is your age.

Your best bet is to go to social events. I honestly think that straight forward messaging isn't going to help you.

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By *itlbeeCouple
52 weeks ago

Format your profile better, use paragraphs.

Most people just don't want to get involved with people who are cheating. You never know what a hurt spouse is going to do. Good to be honest, but you need to respect other people wanting to avoid that.

If you're sex life is non existent on both sides, sounds like the best thing you could do is have a discussion and give her the same freedom to explore you are affording yourself.

There's nothing wrong with a platonic marriage if you want to have that.

Cheating is a bomb hanging over your life that might go off at any moment. not a good way to live.

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By *arkss OP Man
51 weeks ago

L. Derry

"Format your profile better, use paragraphs.

If you're sex life is non existent on both sides, sounds like the best thing you could do is have a discussion and give her the same freedom to explore you are affording yourself.

There's nothing wrong with a platonic marriage if you want to have that.

Cheating is a bomb hanging over your life that might go off at any moment. not a good way to live. "
Just for the record, my wife knows I'm on here. The reason is that my wife has a number of medical problems that make sex very painful and uncomfortable. I did have this on my profile, but someone suggested that it wasn't a good idea to have it on my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
51 weeks ago

"Format your profile better, use paragraphs.

If you're sex life is non existent on both sides, sounds like the best thing you could do is have a discussion and give her the same freedom to explore you are affording yourself.

There's nothing wrong with a platonic marriage if you want to have that.

Cheating is a bomb hanging over your life that might go off at any moment. not a good way to live. Just for the record, my wife knows I'm on here. The reason is that my wife has a number of medical problems that make sex very painful and uncomfortable. I did have this on my profile, but someone suggested that it wasn't a good idea to have it on my profile. "

If you are married with permission then say that - yes leave medical part out but put in that you have permission.

All your photos are the same. Cut it down to two and as suggested look at other profiles to vary the style - legs, chest, shower, a few funny arty type ones - no dic pics on public view.

Get to socials - loads advertised in forums - you have to be willing to travel though. Eg dv8 is on every Sunday in Dublin from 2 to 10pm, hungry cats run socials for unverified people as to others.

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