FabSwingers.com forum: Married men and women

By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

What do you guys think of married men and women being on here without the other halfs concent and would you meet with maried people

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By *rAndMrsRightCouple
47 weeks ago

newtownabbey

It's not fair on their partner. Worst form of betrayal with life changing consequences.

Wouldn't start preaching to anyone about how wrong they are on a night out if accidentally discovered that they're attached.

Absolutely under no circumstances would get in any way sexually involved with them either.

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By *og-ManMan
47 weeks ago

somewhere

One of the most devisive issues on fab and most men and women will probably differ on it as will couples

In my opinion as long as the person you're meeting or playing with knows then thats fine once they agree to it

Other than that its no one else's business

There's lots of men,women and couples verified by and have verified people who are married and yet they still have on their profiles

That they don't play with married people

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

Ive noticed that about some saying no married or attached but yet have married verifications lol

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
47 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

I believe cheating on your life partner is wrong.. I don't have anything against those who do it, but wouldn't knowingly choose do partake in it.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

"Ive noticed that about some saying no married or attached but yet have married verifications lol"

I think when people say this they generally mean, no married/attached without partner's permission

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
47 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

"Ive noticed that about some saying no married or attached but yet have married verifications lol"

It's ok to change your mind. I've cheated and been cheated on, and it doesn't feel good. Perhaps the guilt over what was done previously made them change their choices of future partners. Maybe a jilted wife knocked at the door afterwards. Who knows.

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By *urfdudeMan
47 weeks ago

WEXFORD

If you are cheating on a partner then its wrong.

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By *ofusplusCouple
47 weeks ago

Limerick

It's the direct opposite of swinging, so it's a No from us.

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By *ofusplusCouple
47 weeks ago

Limerick

"One of the most devisive issues on fab and most men and women will probably differ on it as will couples

In my opinion as long as the person you're meeting or playing with knows then thats fine once they agree to it

Other than that its no one else's business

There's lots of men,women and couples verified by and have verified people who are married and yet they still have on their profiles

That they don't play with married people

We've been lied to a few times about peoples marital/attached status and no doubt others have as well.

I also have an issue with cheaters being referred to as merely 'married'. We're also married. Why not call it what it actually is?

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

I would always have been of the opinion that cheating was wrong and no exceptions.

But who am I to judge someone else, I don’t know their circumstance or what they are going through. I suppose what I am saying it’s none of my business as long as the person they are with is fully informed and consents.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

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By *osyRedLipsWoman
47 weeks ago

Kildare

My particular pet hate with attached people who after reading my profile stating no attached people will proceed to slide into my inbox stating they are not like the other attached people and I should make a exception because they are "genuine"

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

It should not be done

Both together R not

At all

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
47 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

"My particular pet hate with attached people who after reading my profile stating no attached people will proceed to slide into my inbox stating they are not like the other attached people and I should make a exception because they are "genuine" "

And it's interesting how EVERY cheating person has a totally reasonable justification that makes it okay and ZERO of them just fancy a fuck on the side.

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By *og-ManMan
47 weeks ago

somewhere

"One of the most devisive issues on fab and most men and women will probably differ on it as will couples

In my opinion as long as the person you're meeting or playing with knows then thats fine once they agree to it

Other than that its no one else's business

There's lots of men,women and couples verified by and have verified people who are married and yet they still have on their profiles

That they don't play with married people

We've been lied to a few times about peoples marital/attached status and no doubt others have as well.

I also have an issue with cheaters being referred to as merely 'married'. We're also married. Why not call it what it actually is?"

Yes its cheating but the op asked about married in fairness and it is the opposite of swinging but a hell of a lot have said they don't count themselves as swingers and just use the site for sex

What do you do when you find out afterwards that the man or couple you've played with are not single but merely fb or cheating on partners

How does it make you feel

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By *agic mike1Man
47 weeks ago

around

I knew when I saw this thread that it was going to cause a view of mixed feelings regarding cheating.

I'm married and my lady friend (or lover as we call each other) in also married.

We are together on and off for nearly 6 years.

Yes we know what we are doing to our other half's, but we enjoy being together.

We aren't getting the same enjoyment at home sexually as when we are together.

So if we are happy at what we are doing, and happy together, then I'm sorry if it takes cheating to make us happy.

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By *s SingletWoman
47 weeks ago

Kilkenny

I'm definitely of the opinion that what happens behind someone else's front door is not my business and as long as the person is prepared for whatever could happen as a result I'm not going to judge

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By *eeking_sensuality77Woman
47 weeks ago

Athlone

I will never knowingly have as much as a coffee with someone who is attached, not to mind anything more.

I despise the act of cheating and will never be complicit in it.

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By *ind PaddyMan
47 weeks ago

South County Dublin

If I'm chatting to someone on fab, I always let them know I'm married. My wife has MS, she doesn't know I'm on here. We have not been intimate because of her illness.

I've not gone off with anyone as ladies do not feel comfortable going behind my wife. You could call it cheating alright. Sometimes the stress of the illness gets very frustrating for both of us. Each to your own.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

People who are ok with cheating on their spouses. 9 times outta 10 will cheat everyone else in their lives.

If they don’t care about their spouse what makes anyone think they will ever give a fuck about you.

Grow a pair and leave it’s really that simple.

Ppl will argue the kids the mortgage etc etc.

What do you think a child will value more a happy and fulfilled parent or a big house ?

You may loose a bit by breaking up but anything can be gained back.

There really are no excuses

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By *etergemmaCouple
47 weeks ago

South Dublin Area

"People who are ok with cheating on their spouses. 9 times outta 10 will cheat everyone else in their lives.

If they don’t care about their spouse what makes anyone think they will ever give a fuck about you.

Grow a pair and leave it’s really that simple.

Ppl will argue the kids the mortgage etc etc.

What do you think a child will value more a happy and fulfilled parent or a big house ?

You may loose a bit by breaking up but anything can be gained back.

There really are no excuses "

100% correct

Still waiting on a good reason to be a cheater on here, no matter how many times it gets asked, there's never been a justified answer.

You are just lowest of the low.

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By *itlbeeCouple
47 weeks ago

There are lots of reasons to avoid cheaters.

Even aside from then"judging" aspect.

Even if you were morally okay with it.

They are simply not reliable people.

Good casual sex partners are honest, good communicators, and reliable.

With someone who is cheating they are going to be sneaking around, likely to change plans at the drop of a hat of their spouse is onto them. You also couldn't rely on them for consistent STI testing and good sexual health.as an STI test for someone whose supposed to be monogamous is a bit of a giveaway.

Not only that, but people who are being cheated on tend to suspect something, and often go on the hunt to catch their partner in the act. No one wants to be caught up in that if it comes out.

There are simply too many single people to have any reason to get involved in that drama.

It's really not a declvisive issue.

The only people who seem to think it's okay are the ones who are cheating. And they are welcome to each other.

But I couldn't handle it myself.

The anxiety of knowing every text and meeting is adding to a pool of evidence their spouse might stumble across and knowing how it will destroy their relationship. The idea of being part of that is a massive turn off.

In contrast, I'm really into the attached people who have full consent and encouragement from their partners.

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By *etergemmaCouple
47 weeks ago

South Dublin Area

"There are lots of reasons to avoid cheaters.

Even aside from then"judging" aspect.

Even if you were morally okay with it.

They are simply not reliable people.

Good casual sex partners are honest, good communicators, and reliable.

Not only that, but people who are being cheated on tend to suspect something, and often go on the hunt to catch their partner in the act. No one wants to be caught up in that if it comes out.

There are simply too many single people to have any reason to get involved in that drama.

It's really not a declvisive issue.

The only people who seem to think it's okay are the ones who are cheating. And they are welcome to each other.

But I couldn't handle it myself.

In contrast, I'm really into the attached people who have full consent and encouragement from their partners. "

Exactly.

And when you realize your relationship is so strong, loyal, open and trustworthy that you can share your partner with someone openly, you realize how special it is to be non monogamous and anyone cheating is doing the exact opposite to what it is to be non monogamous.

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By *aid backMan
47 weeks ago

by a lake with my rod out

The top tier cheaters are the "I love my partner we have a great relationship but...."

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Every relationship is not black and white and sometimes couples find it better to stay together. It is not my place or anyone elses to judge.

Cheating is not a new thing as it has been going on forever. If a person is honest about their situation, it is surely up to the other person to decide whether to meet them or not. Its not my business!

I don't attend socials/parties/clubs but I would assume that people/couples who hate cheating and who run parties/socials etc would not have people attending who are playing without their partners consent. Morally they couldn't have them attend or take their money.

One other query, if you are playing with strangers at clubs etc, how do you know if they are cheaters or not? Do you ask?

Not being funny, I just wonder about these things.

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By *ind PaddyMan
47 weeks ago

South County Dublin

I'm not really looking to cheat on my wife, I'm looking for a female to socialise with, as it states on my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

It is a ginormous no no for me. Mam or woman...doesn't matter. If your partner doesn't know, then I don't want to know anymore either. It is gut wrenching to be on that other side and it isnt fair to do to a person for a quick fuck.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

If a married guy without permission has a big dick and a six pack, he will have verifications from women and couples who state "no married or attached men" on there profiles

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By *inkywife1981Couple
46 weeks ago

A town near you

We don't judge what someone cheats as we don't know their home life but we still don't want to be involved in someone's cheating and potential drama.

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

When I got a pm from someone asking me about their partner that was an end to me making excuses for cheaters.

The fact is even when people turn a blind eye and say they aren’t going to judge they can still be drawn into the drama. I don’t want that house on me. There’s no way of knowing what’s going to happen if people find out and I do not want to be part of it.

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
46 weeks ago

Portstewart

For us it would depend on the individual persons circumstances and it would be on a case by case choice by is after a conversation

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
46 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

"If a married guy without permission has a big dick and a six pack, he will have verifications from women and couples who state "no married or attached men" on there profiles "

Many many successful men here have neither massive dicks nor six packs. Those things don't seem to be the deciding factors for who women choose to meet.

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By *dventurousDuoxXCouple
46 weeks ago

Blaney

Lowest of the low.

Absolutely not it's a straight block if I read on a profile they are attached. If your willing to treat your other half with such disrespect how am I supposed to think you'll respect my boundaries or wishes as a complete stranger.

Everyone has their own situations and that's that but break it off stop being a scumbag

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By *hefabflamingosCouple
45 weeks ago

North Coast, NI

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By *hefabflamingosCouple
45 weeks ago

North Coast, NI

"It's the direct opposite of swinging, so it's a No from us."

Agreed!

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By *leasurer77Man
45 weeks ago

Athlone

"If a married guy without permission has a big dick and a six pack, he will have verifications from women and couples who state "no married or attached men" on there profiles "

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