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By *unflower OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

So many men think that domination is rough, aggressive and violent.

Do we have any caring doms here?

Someone who can gently grab my neck and whisper into my ear how he adores my body.

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By *ildarekinkstersCouple
over a year ago

kinkytown

Try the fet place if you're not already on there

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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin

I would not say I'm a dom, but a kind caring gent.

I don't mind playing along with your fantasy.

You do have a hot body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aftercare is as important as the act also

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By *s SingletWoman
over a year ago

Kilkenny

This is why I have my daddy but would never have a dom

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By *amBam212Man
over a year ago

Newtownards


"So many men think that domination is rough, aggressive and violent.

Do we have any caring doms here?

Someone who can gently grab my neck and whisper into my ear how he adores my body."

This

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By *tockings199Couple
over a year ago

Waterford


"So many men think that domination is rough, aggressive and violent.

Do we have any caring doms here?

Someone who can gently grab my neck and whisper into my ear how he adores my body."
Does it have to be a man ??

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By *illow and FionnCouple
over a year ago

Cork


"So many men think that domination is rough, aggressive and violent.

Do we have any caring doms here?

Someone who can gently grab my neck and whisper into my ear how he adores my body."

That would be me

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By *unflower OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

I’ve registered this morning. Trying to figure out how it works

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By *unflower OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

True, but I’m talking about the whole dynamic

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By *unflower OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

It does. As a switch I don’t see women as a dom

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By *ohnFKMan
over a year ago

Where the Streets Have No Name

I've been told I'm something of a pleasure dom

But I didn't look it up or anything so I wouldn't be sure...

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south


"I've been told I'm something of a pleasure dom

But I didn't look it up or anything so I wouldn't be sure..."
it’s about Communication between you both as to what you want and the man in question will fulfil your wish’s

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By *unflower OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

You aren’t sure that you are a dom? Or that you’re pleasure dom?

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By *unflower OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

There should be some education before communication. And 50 shades of grey is not an educational video

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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin

I'm a gent, I'll whisper in your ear.

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By *axlecool03Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"So many men think that domination is rough, aggressive and violent.

Do we have any caring doms here?

Someone who can gently grab my neck and whisper into my ear how he adores my body."

I think the ideal dom is an alpha male .. someone who does what he wants and makes others do the same … the questions you should ask yousekf is what kind if a dom do you want z… someone who tells you what he wants or someone who makes you do what he wants by hook or crook …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd consider himself to be a caring dom.

He doesn't class himself as a dom because he feels as though he isnt educated enough in it to hold that title (he can see the importance and value in it) but I feel as though we have a dominant dynamic to where I would class him as my dom

I've had lads want to be the rough and ready dom who want what they want and some who feel a sense of entitlement almost.

Himself has opened my eyes that a real genuine dom cares about your pleasure, comforts, boundaries, after care and just a good sense of safety and respect. I think submission is something that is earned...and I cant imagine anyone else ever earning it the way he has for me. Of course, no one would match him as a dom or his importance.

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By *axlecool03Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"I'd consider himself to be a caring dom.

He doesn't class himself as a dom because he feels as though he isnt educated enough in it to hold that title (he can see the importance and value in it) but I feel as though we have a dominant dynamic to where I would class him as my dom

I've had lads want to be the rough and ready dom who want what they want and some who feel a sense of entitlement almost.

Himself has opened my eyes that a real genuine dom cares about your pleasure, comforts, boundaries, after care and just a good sense of safety and respect. I think submission is something that is earned...and I cant imagine anyone else ever earning it the way he has for me. Of course, no one would match him as a dom or his importance. "
i think this is an absolute definitionnof an alpha … i have researched and an alpha is not some one who is agressive but someone who cares for his loved ones and gives them an opportunity to live a chosen life … very well described

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By *xplorer2023Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"I'd consider himself to be a caring dom.

He doesn't class himself as a dom because he feels as though he isnt educated enough in it to hold that title (he can see the importance and value in it) but I feel as though we have a dominant dynamic to where I would class him as my dom

I've had lads want to be the rough and ready dom who want what they want and some who feel a sense of entitlement almost.

Himself has opened my eyes that a real genuine dom cares about your pleasure, comforts, boundaries, after care and just a good sense of safety and respect. I think submission is something that is earned...and I cant imagine anyone else ever earning it the way he has for me. Of course, no one would match him as a dom or his importance. "

This is a very sweet message!

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By *s SingletWoman
over a year ago

Kilkenny


"I'd consider himself to be a caring dom.

He doesn't class himself as a dom because he feels as though he isnt educated enough in it to hold that title (he can see the importance and value in it) but I feel as though we have a dominant dynamic to where I would class him as my dom

I've had lads want to be the rough and ready dom who want what they want and some who feel a sense of entitlement almost.

Himself has opened my eyes that a real genuine dom cares about your pleasure, comforts, boundaries, after care and just a good sense of safety and respect. I think submission is something that is earned...and I cant imagine anyone else ever earning it the way he has for me. Of course, no one would match him as a dom or his importance. "
very well put, we are the same

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By *cottybear74Man
over a year ago

kilkenny


"So many men think that domination is rough, aggressive and violent.

Do we have any caring doms here?

Someone who can gently grab my neck and whisper into my ear how he adores my body."

Yes

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By *itlbeeCouple
over a year ago

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We can probably blame porn for that, where being disrespectful seems to be the norm.

I think a lot of guys will play that role, but they aren't usually the ones who will call themselves a Dom on their profile. They are more of a service top, they enjoy doing what you enjoy. They can give you the experience you want. But they aren't the type to go on being "dominant/alpha male".

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By *unflower OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

Great story! You are a lucky girl.

It’s not that hard to get some education

Seems like he knows a lot already

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By *unflower OP   Woman
over a year ago

Dublin


"We can probably blame porn for that, where being disrespectful seems to be the norm.

I think a lot of guys will play that role, but they aren't usually the ones who will call themselves a Dom on their profile. They are more of a service top, they enjoy doing what you enjoy. They can give you the experience you want. But they aren't the type to go on being "dominant/alpha male"."

You are right! Porn has ruined the understanding. And because bdsm is still a taboo to discuss, there is a huge lack of educational events.

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

To be honest I get tired of the white knighting and the criticism of different dominant dynamics.

It's fine to say something is not for you, but there are backhanded criticising comments which are unnecessary.

At the end of the day it comes down to the submissive (and the Dominant) to do proper due diligence before they play or enter into a relationship, and to walk if the Dominant (or submissive) is not providing what was agreed or discuss in an open manner if they realse they need something different . Neither the Dom or sub should impose in the other.

Quiz the Dominant on their style. Are they out and about in the community? Do they just do bedroom bondage? Are they willing to give references?

Do people meet the other party and have several discussions about the relationship?

When talkng is the other person really listening? Is each party clear about they want? People can interpret words and phrases differently.

What is each party bringing to the table in regard to submission and Dominance? D/s is a two way street

People talk about Dominants and import their own definition. These days the words "Dominant" and "submissive" each have different meanings to different people. Therefore people have to do the work to see what will be actually provided and what they want. The other site has information on choosing Doms.

Good Luck.

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By *iggy200Man
over a year ago

beside the seaside

Oh yes bring it on dun laoghaire Dave piggy

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south


"Oh yes bring it on dun laoghaire Dave piggy"
The problem is we need to stop thinking that we could see through each other because if you do you’re missing a lot !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So many men think that domination is rough, aggressive and violent.

Do we have any caring doms here?

Someone who can gently grab my neck and whisper into my ear how he adores my body."

Yes the amount of Men who misinterpret the Dom/Sub Switch scenario is quite alarming....Some actually think it involves physical assault.... I've also been asked many times what my pain threshold is....I'm not a fan of pain at all....

I had to delete some of my bio because it was been seriously misinterpreted.... (I had Dom/Sub Switch Role~Play in my bio, but it's removed now, because of some disturbing dms I was getting)....

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By *on Draper2.0Man
over a year ago

Maynooth


"So many men think that domination is rough, aggressive and violent.

Do we have any caring doms here?

Someone who can gently grab my neck and whisper into my ear how he adores my body."

I once had a torrent of abuse from a young ish lady on here. I use the word lady for lack of another one. She list it when I claimed that a real dom is not there for himself, he is there for the sub and has a duty of care toward her. Same for female doms. The sub is the most important person.

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By *ilvursurfaMan
over a year ago

city road

This is what I mean by dom it sounds soo much better this way

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By *orYourThighsOnlyMan
over a year ago

Midlands


"So many men think that domination is rough, aggressive and violent.

Do we have any caring doms here?

Someone who can gently grab my neck and whisper into my ear how he adores my body."

You’ll just have to communicate entirely with the man. Relays your likes, dislikes and what you want to explore. Don’t assume he will know, we don’t lol we are visual creatures us men, google pics, videos etc. Communicate throughly. Leave no stone unturned.

Some like firm dom, some like soft dom some like no dom. communication n partaking as attentively in what he enjoys is key…

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By *iking4HireMan
over a year ago

monaghan

I would consider myself a Dom but definitely not into pain , probably more it's the control aspect .

Exploring your play partner , learning which sensation has what effect , teasing with tempo , make them beg for it , then let them have it till they can take no more .

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south


"I would consider myself a Dom but definitely not into pain , probably more it's the control aspect .

Exploring your play partner , learning which sensation has what effect , teasing with tempo , make them beg for it , then let them have it till they can take no more . "
You need the older guy the oil to your _unflower set the seeds to your fantasies by telling what you need !!!

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