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Same sex cheating V opposite sex cheating

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By *og-Man OP   Man
52 weeks ago

somewhere

From a conversation I had today with a female fabber

Cheating on a partner

Would it be more painful if your partner was cheating with someone of the same sex as them or would it be equal to cheating on you with someone as the same sex as you

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
52 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

Equal. If you know that your partner would feel you're being disloyal having sex with someone else then it doesn't matter if it's with a same-sex person or opposite sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I agree that it would hurt either way though possibly additional pain if you discovered that your partner was cheating with a same sex person if you never suspected they were bi.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
52 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

It very much depends on the relationship though obviously and what you have agreed and talked about. For example it might be more painful if your partner kissed someone else than had sex if that something you've explicitly said you don't want to happen. I guess the worst betrayal is one that you KNOW your partner would be in great pain over, but do it anyway.

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By *otownkid1967Man
52 weeks ago

Portlaoise

Cheating is cheating what ever way you look at it.

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By *electableicecreamMan
52 weeks ago

The West

I think I would feel more hurt if I find out that my partner had an entire extra dimension to their sexuality while also finding out they had cheated.

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By *r_Insatiable666Man
52 weeks ago

Cork

I'd more than likely prefer if a partner cheated same sex but that's the better of two evils. There's no way I would attempt to continue a relationship afterwards.

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By *adrarfjordr VoyeurMan
52 weeks ago

Waterford

It would make no difference, I would assume, but as it hasn't come up I can't say for sure

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
52 weeks ago

Home

Cheating is cheating no matter what it is

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By *ohnsmithMan
52 weeks ago

South Tipperary

Is texting a married person cheating?

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
52 weeks ago

East / North, Cork


"Is texting a married person cheating?"

It is if their (or your) partner would consider it cheating

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By *andC1000Couple
52 weeks ago

Ashford


"Cheating is cheating what ever way you look at it."

Exactly this. It hurts the same either way especially when the lies continue. Knowing a partner would rather fuck or sext someone other than you hurts like hell and is completely demoralising and confidence shattering

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By *ildarekinkstersCouple
52 weeks ago

kinkytown

I'll be honest and if I catch hate for it I don't care but honestly think same sex cheating would be worse especially if the person cheating wasn't honest about their sexualitiy. To betray someone's trust and love is bad but to not be honest with the person you are in a relationship in, the person who is meant to know everything about you and it turns out that you fancy the same sex it would definitely hurt which they never knew. Would definitely hurt.

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By *electableicecreamMan
52 weeks ago

The West


"I'll be honest and if I catch hate for it I don't care but honestly think same sex cheating would be worse especially if the person cheating wasn't honest about their sexualitiy. To betray someone's trust and love is bad but to not be honest with the person you are in a relationship in, the person who is meant to know everything about you and it turns out that you fancy the same sex it would definitely hurt which they never knew. Would definitely hurt. "

Same

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By *j2000Man
52 weeks ago

mayo

On a certain level I would find same sex cheating not as bad as they were getting something I couldn't give them

The other way would feel like I was a failure in some way

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By *exymonkeyplayCouple
52 weeks ago

navan

I tend to agree same sex isn’t as bad however BE HONEST! I am bi, I’ve always been honest about it. If I was with a women I would be honest and I don’t see why anything needs to be a secret. I ended a marriage due to finding a web of lies and deception. It wasn’t the sex act that hurt the most, it was the intent to keep the truth from me. If someone was honest and go I made a mistake (one shag mistake), be with either sex then it in my eyes can be worked through. If it’s an ongoing affair with deception and lies, then I’d be in the mindset that the other person couldn’t give a shit about me so “see yeah later!” Why be in a relationship if your cheating? Children, home, connivence are not reason as it’s not because you care about the person your with! And you can’t give you full self to the family or your partner if your cheating.

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By *ojos jugsWoman
52 weeks ago

Bangor

Nowadays i`d say it would be equal but few years back and I would have said it was worse finding out your partner had been cheating with someone of the same sex. It would have been the shame of it more than anything and finding out your partner had a whole side to them you never knew about.

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By *rAndMrsRightCouple
52 weeks ago

newtownabbey

This happened over 12 years ago.

I was open with my ex ex ex ex partner, told him I was bi, told him that I do like kissing women and taking it further with them.

He told me it was hot and sexy.

I did end up having a wee night with a woman and was so extremely excited to tell him all about it and he just sunk. Our relationship has never been the same since, but it wasn't the reason why we broke up.

What I took from it was that it doesn't matter which sex you're with, unless you have expressed permission to do something - it's cheating and it hurts people just as much.

Missus

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By *ustinSiderMan
52 weeks ago

Belfast

I mean, it would hurt either way, but I imagine I would be able to cope with it a bit better if my partner cheated with a woman rather than a man.

I'd still be hurting but I feel I could reason with myself that as a man, I can't be a better woman than a woman. I can't compete in that regard.

Maybe the other woman was able to offer her a dimension, or something, that I couldn't. Though it still wouldn't make it right.

Whereas, if the cheating happened with another man then my mind would be going into overload wondering what he was able to do or provide that I couldn't.

Just my penny's worth.

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By * la carteCouple
52 weeks ago

Dublin

If you're cheating, regardless whether same sex or opposite sex, there's obviously something seriously wrong with your relationship.

It's the lies and deceit that hurt the most. So if a partner is also hiding a side of their sexuality, then cheating with a same sex person would add an extra dimension to the hurt caused, in my opinion.

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