FabSwingers.com forum: Whats wrong with winks

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What’s your opinion on winks and why

I find winks very helpful

By winking at someone’s profile to me it shows that I’m interested in them as a couple or individual but also I don’t wanna send a text and wait for a reply if they even will reply if they wink back I know they’re interested and that’ll intrigue me even more into putting effort and keeping the conversation flowing

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

Winks are absolutely fabulous - especially from hidden profiles. We can get such an insight into who's got a lazy interest in us

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By *eadue stallionMan
over a year ago

Yes

"Winks are absolutely fabulous - especially from hidden profiles. We can get such an insight into who's got a lazy interest in us

Then keep the conversation flowing!

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By *ildarekinkstersCouple
over a year ago

kinkytown

Think a lot see them as lazy etc. To be honest we're partial to a bit of winking ourselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the fab equivalent of Sally O'Brien pulling you a pint of Harp

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By *ixenforfunWoman
over a year ago

banes mask

I rarely check them but every now and then ill do a run through and if a profile catches my eye ill certainly wink back or send a message

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Nothing wrong with them in principle but who initiates further contact then?

In my opinion the person sending the initial wink should follow that up with a message if they get a wink back.

More often than not they leave it up to the person they've winked to carry the load.

I rarely look at them. I noticed I had 6 new winks a few weeks ago and thought that was a bit strange until I realised some of them were sent 6 months ago and I hadn't looked at them.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

If we wink a profile, we've already decided together that we're interested, so if our wink is reciprocated, we will most definitely message and try to initiate a conversation.

Often though, if the opposite happens where we're winked and we return it, nothing further happens. They might look at our profile and then, nothing!

We've been winked about 5 times over the past few years by one profile and our return wink has always been ignored. After the 4th wink we messaged them rather than winking back. They read the message and didn't reply.

I thought that there was some kind of standard procedure for winks but some seem to use them for purposes other than being interested in us. Maybe people get a kick out of having winks returned, I dunno

I don't think it reflects well on them when they take no action after a returned wink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how could they resist winking or messaging you two back!

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

I thought it was meant to work the exact same way that Reality Bites mentioned above to be honest

The winks I don't reply to or do anything about are the ones you get from a woman trying to get her photo fabbed so she can be on the first page of the hot Irish photos

Its a bit needy to be honest

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By *razySexyCoolCorkWoman
over a year ago

Cork

I will wink a profile I'm interested in. I like them.

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By *ichael CoolMan
over a year ago

unknown

Must check my winks,lol

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

I wink and have been winked/wunked

back. Don't stress too much about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If we wink a profile, we've already decided together that we're interested, so if our wink is reciprocated, we will most definitely message and try to initiate a conversation.

Often though, if the opposite happens where we're winked and we return it, nothing further happens. They might look at our profile and then, nothing!

I don't think it reflects well on them when they take no action after a returned wink."

We try to do the same. And agree weird when others wink you and then nothing even if we decide to message them first. Only for them to then fab our pics. Fab is a weird place

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By *amsevenMan
over a year ago

cork

"It's the fab equivalent of Sally O'Brien pulling you a pint of Harp

And the way she'd look at ya

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By *irishladMan
over a year ago

Malahide

It’s probably considered a bit lazy by some but I use them to show interest along with fabbing a few of the pics in the profile, if I get a wink back I’ll send a mail and hope for a reply. Lazy as it may be it’s better imho than a one line “hi” or “wanna meet” message or a copy and paste message that are not only lazy but sometimes insulting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find winks are a good way to see who has an interest in us whereas friend requests can be viewed as just wanting to see what friend only pics we have and lads/people in general fabbing pics to show interest can just be lost in it so the winks do help us and we welcome winks but dont accept friend requests unless we've met in person

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

"I wink and have been winked/wunked

back. Don't stress too much about it"

If someone wunks me I message because the wunking etiquette is a little arcane.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"It's the fab equivalent of Sally O'Brien pulling you a pint of Harp

And the way she'd look at ya"

You could fry an egg...if ya had an egg...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never really look at them to be honest, if someone wants to contact us we prefer it to be a message

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By *osyRedLipsWoman
over a year ago

Kildare

Fun fact you can in fact wink yourself! I'm winking myself right now....

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"Fun fact you can in fact wink yourself! I'm winking myself right now...."

Will you reciprocate?

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"how could they resist winking or messaging you two back!

Aw thanks!

Maybe they think we're just looking for fabs on our pics

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By *oodOmensfor2Couple
over a year ago

Ennis

Remember the first time I winked someone. I was soo nervous as we weren't entirely sure how they worked and what the etiquette was.

It happens more and more though that when winking anyone back nothing else happens so we don't really pay that much attention to them anymore

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I find them pointless and superfluous. I rarely check my winks and I never send them.

I suspect they are more useful to couples to gauge an interest, but I wouldn't know...

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

I use winks a lot to show initial interest.

I've had a few great meets that all started with a wink.

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By *lay rock69Man
over a year ago

monaghan

Send winks all the time don't get to many back but it ok.

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By *ORETHANUSCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"If we wink a profile, we've already decided together that we're interested, so if our wink is reciprocated, we will most definitely message and try to initiate a conversation.

Often though, if the opposite happens where we're winked and we return it, nothing further happens. They might look at our profile and then, nothing!

I don't think it reflects well on them when they take no action after a returned wink."

We wink if we like s profile. If we get a wink back we like to message. Agreed, it is confusing if couples or singles wink and then ignore the message. Then again N&K fab is not exactly a normal place.

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

Serial winker here.

Almost always reply with at least a Thanks for the wink and fab any pics I like

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By *ythenMan
over a year ago

North Co. Dublin

"It's the fab equivalent of Sally O'Brien pulling you a pint of Harp

Ah brill …

.. it was a great line in that Harp add … showing our age here

“ Sally O’Brien and they way she might look at you”.

Enjoy for me Sally was my first Tv crush

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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago

City Centre

I find winks helpful too if you wink and I wink back it's an indication Id like to talk and vice versa. If you wink first however and I reciprocate and you don't follow up with a message I leave it. I won't chase after someone. There has to be mutual interest.

B x

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Nothing wrong with them, but loads don't check/notice them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What’s your opinion on winks and why

I find winks very helpful

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

Personally we like winks, if we wink someone and they wink back it can show if some interest before sending a message

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By *llthewaysMan
over a year ago

City centre/Naas

I find nothing wrong with winks, but I also don't send many. Normally if I like a profile enough to look and read it I will message, *if* we want the same things.

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By *teppenwolfMan
over a year ago

Cork

"Think a lot see them as lazy etc. To be honest we're partial to a bit of winking ourselves

Interesting to know

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast

I love a wink, or five

I’m across the room smiling at you and hoping that you’ll smile back

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south

"I love a wink, or five

I’m across the room smiling at you and hoping that you’ll smile back

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I wink I think when I see a sexy lady that’s hot but am not going to be meeting her, Just to show my appreciation or am saying into myself WoW

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By *ippje84Man
over a year ago

tipperary

I love getting a winks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a complete winker.

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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago

Waterford City

I can be pretty shy about making first contact with people cos I assume people aren't into until they really show it. So a wink or a fab is a gentle way for me to show interest and I don't feel so bad if I don't get a response to one. Lol

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By *iggBadDaveMan
over a year ago

Ards

Have to agree , I do send a wink to see if I get a reaction before sending a mail. I do get it that some ladies must get 100s a day and don't bother even looking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can be pretty shy about making first contact with people cos I assume people aren't into until they really show it. So a wink or a fab is a gentle way for me to show interest and I don't feel so bad if I don't get a response to one. Lol "

Yeah, this is the case for a lot of us I assume.

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

I don’t understand them….

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By *ublinGirl92Woman
over a year ago

Hell

I barely send winks and I never look at who's winked me. I tend to forget it even exists.

Same as my inbox sometimes lol

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By *arrot_in_a_boxCouple
over a year ago

kinda dublin

I love the winks. I'm not too bothered with emails, as we only go to organised events, so we'll see you when we see you. No point in messaging back and forth till the convo gets stale.

Winks are good to see who's interested. But I'd rather chat in person.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"I barely send winks and I never look at who's winked me. I tend to forget it even exists.

Same as my inbox sometimes lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since most women's profiles seem to get a lot of messages which they can't read all of and normally bulk delete, a wink at least might have some chance of being seen before deleting all the winks too. so i guess its usefullness is just down to the volume of messages or winks being recieved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Winks are absolutely fabulous - especially from hidden profiles. We can get such an insight into who's got a lazy interest in us

“Who’s got a lazy interest in us” brilliant

I’m never sending a wink again!!!

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By *xcited And CuriousCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

We've never winked anyone, but we have been winked.

TBH, we haven't been 100% sure of the function or purpose of a wink - is there a description or explanation on the site?

Our thinking was...

The initial wink says "I / we like your pics and we're interested in you", and is intended to open up a dialogue to advance the potential possibility of messaging, flirting, befriending, meeting...

Then it's up to the winkee to decide whether or not to return the wink to the winner.

A return wink says "I / we like your pics too, we're interested in you too, and would be happy to enter into a dialogue to advance the potential possibility of messaging, flirting, befriending, meeting...

Then it's up to the winker to open up that dialogue.

If the winkee doesn't like the winker's pics, they don't wink back.

That all about right?

Or is a wink just "Hey. You're hot!", with no expectation of response at all?

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By *ohnFKMan
over a year ago

Where the Streets Have No Name

Given the amount of traffic single girls (especially) & couples have to deal with, it makes absolute sense for them to send a wink to a profile that might catch their eye.

It's not like us single guys have loads of messages to be responding to.

I very rarely 'cold' message anymore, but have made many friends (

) that started off with a wink, that was responded to with a 'thanks for the wink' introductory message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure how can ya see with one eye

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

Absolutely nothing wrong with them. They give us a guide it someone has interest in us and viceversa

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By *akeMYSEEDMan
over a year ago

the greenway outdoor funNewry, Dundalk

No sometimes it, many girls have read the same thing over and over and and a wink let's the girl show if they are interested in continuing or just pass, I send winks and if I get one bk I try to start a conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I kinda assumed since half the profiles don't want men contacting them, or we will find you, that a wink is more like a hi, and if they are interested they will message. That way there not bombarded with messages

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By *on Juan the MADridMan
over a year ago

Lisbon/ North England/ Wales/ Madrid/

Wink out and wink back is the perfect way to start a chat, especially for ladies that declares inundated under emails… I know winks are not popular but I find them a perfect way to initiate the connection

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