FabSwingers.com forum: Manners it costs nothing

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So iv been on here and browsing through some really good profiles and I decided to send a message polite respectful messages with reading profiles ie age group ECT what the profile is looking for out of maybe close to 50 messages sent iv received back to replies is it so difficult to just respond and say no thanks or not for me ECT as it says manners cost nothing

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

It's a common complaint with hundreds of forum threads on the subject but with a very simple answer which is in the site FAQ's.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

"So iv been on here and browsing through some really good profiles and I decided to send a message polite respectful messages with reading profiles ie age group ECT what the profile is looking for out of maybe close to 50 messages sent iv received back to replies is it so difficult to just respond and say no thanks or not for me ECT as it says manners cost nothing "
what it comes down to is the volume of men on the site to women. There is way more men on here so women have the choice. She’s also probably getting a fair number of messages and can’t reply to them all.

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By *ixenforfunWoman
over a year ago

banes mask

Its like this. I look at a profile before i answer a message. If theres nothing in there for me ill delete. Yes manners dont cost anything but when you are hit constantly with why nots, eff you youre just a such and such so i stopped answering with no thanks. Even with my filters i still get a chunk of mail every day. I dont want to spend my evenings sending no thanks messages when i could be having chats with people i want to meet. The FaQs quite clearly state the stance on no replies.

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By *rAndMrsRightCouple
over a year ago

newtownabbey

OP, please read and reply to every single post below. It's only a polite thing to do. Manners cost nothing:

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/introductions/1508135

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1410052

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1284191

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1327454

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/wales/1265363

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1254220

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1235512

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/1201921

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1140611

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/ireland/1069151

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/956923

That's just a few.... there's hundreds if not thousands of more where it came from.

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

Ballsbridge, City Centre

Profile pics also cost nothing

Why would anyone respond to a profile that can’t even be bothered to put a photo up to show even vaguely anything about them

Put the violin away

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Wouldn't even open a message from a profile with no profile pic. If opened it by accident we would have zero interest as there are no profile pics either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Picture this the roles are reversed and men of Fab are highly in demand. Your inbox has hundreds of messages from women. Most of them not your type too far away or have blank profiles or just send hi messages.

Are you honestly going to spend all that time every day replying no thanks to every single message. Then reply all over again when they don't take no for a answer?

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By *antas_number_one_elfWoman
over a year ago

dublin

Nobody owes you a reply, and it doesn’t mean the person you message lacks manners, it means they’re not interested and there’s no point in wasting anyone’s time dragging that out.

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By *imisugarWoman
over a year ago

Rugby

You may get more responses if you work on your profile.

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By *aracarMan
over a year ago

waterford

I think people need to be thick skinned on this site people are not gonna reply to every message so move on. As long as your not getting rude replies just accept it's not you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sent messages yesterday some weren't replied to some were left unread. Did I feel the need to call a Wambulance no I just got over it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I sent messages yesterday some weren't replied to some were left unread. Did I feel the need to call a Wambulance no I just got over it! "

If you send me a message I will read it and respond

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By *anUTV/TS
over a year ago

Rural

Maybe you should alter your profile, trying to get into someone's mind would freak me out. Basically I'm impenetrable and quite savvy and self aware Sinclair couldn't even get into my psyche,I'm too clued in for any bullshit l.

Saying you like to push boundaries sounds like you're not really interested in boundaries and pushing someone's boundaries could be considered undermining someone's trust or ability to feel safe and comfortable

Pic's help too and desperation is definitely a red flag in my observations .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you want genuine feedback why not post one of the messages, maybe someone might give you some advice and it could help. Or don't.

It really is ladies choice all night , Evey night.

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By *exesrangerMan
over a year ago

city

Jaysus !!!!

I can't believe you sent out almost 50 msgs in just one sitting. 50?

How did it go ?

Super hot women

Hot women, and so on

All subjective to ones likes and dislike of course but you've no profile pic so it begs the question. How many msgs did you send to ppl with no profile pic ??

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By *rAndMrsRightCouple
over a year ago

newtownabbey

"Jaysus !!!!

I can't believe you sent out almost 50 msgs in just one sitting. 50?

How did it go ?

Super hot women

Hot women, and so on

All subjective to ones likes and dislike of course but you've no profile pic so it begs the question. How many msgs did you send to ppl with no profile pic ?? "

FANTASTIC point! Bravo!

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By *astelloWoman
over a year ago

Far far away

Manners cost nothing

But somedays I just want to be a bitch

But I am nice

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By *adrarfjordr VoyeurMan
over a year ago

Waterford

A friend of mine got about 100 messages in the first 20 minutes after registering here and she had over 300 by the end of the first hour so it can be difficult to get around to reading messages never mind replying

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By *rBandMrsGCouple
over a year ago

Kilkenny

"Picture this the roles are reversed and men of Fab are highly in demand. Your inbox has hundreds of messages from women. Most of them not your type too far away or have blank profiles or just send hi messages.

Are you honestly going to spend all that time every day replying no thanks to every single message. Then reply all over again when they don't take no for a answer? "

Few weeks back somebody shared a screenshot of their profile on kik and it had over 80 unread messages. From what I understand that can be on the low side for some people.

I can barely clear my personal email account and my work email, that many messages on fab would make me want to hire somebody for the fabmin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It also helps if you don’t just copy and paste other people’s bios…I’ve a good memory and I’ve read those ‘lines’ before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you honestly going to spend all that time every day replying no thanks to every single message. Then reply all over again when they don't take no for a answer?

Few weeks back somebody shared a screenshot of their profile on kik and it had over 80 unread messages. From what I understand that can be on the low side for some people.

I can barely clear my personal email account and my work email, that many messages on fab would make me want to hire somebody for the fabmin

I have over 500 messages and I can’t get rid off even half of them, help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It also helps if you don’t just copy and paste other people’s bios…I’ve a good memory and I’ve read those ‘lines’ before

Agree it’s so nothing when copy paste, I ignore them too

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

I'm offering a fabmin service going forward.

Will work for food.

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By *rBandMrsGCouple
over a year ago

Kilkenny

I have over 500 messages and I can’t get rid off even half of them, help

500!

How does somebody even manage with that?

Occasionally just select all and delete?

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

I just think its all the bloody womens fault

Feck sake ladies get your act together

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By *rBandMrsGCouple
over a year ago

Kilkenny

First day we created our profile it got about 30 messages first day and that was with no photos, it being a couple profile and very little text.

We blocked single men after that, even with our clear profile when we unblocked them a few weeks back we still got lots of messages

So blocked them again...

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By *arrot_in_a_boxCouple
over a year ago

kinda dublin

Am I out of touch?

No, it's the ladies who are wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nobody owes you a reply, and it doesn’t mean the person you message lacks manners, it means they’re not interested and there’s no point in wasting anyone’s time dragging that out. "

With some of the messages you’ve received and posted on on your profile… I can understand a complete reluctance to even open unsolicited messages

Very funny profile btw

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By *antas_number_one_elfWoman
over a year ago

dublin

"Nobody owes you a reply, and it doesn’t mean the person you message lacks manners, it means they’re not interested and there’s no point in wasting anyone’s time dragging that out.

With some of the messages you’ve received and posted on on your profile… I can understand a complete reluctance to even open unsolicited messages

Very funny profile btw"

Thank you I still lol when I read them too

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

Ballsbridge, City Centre

"Am I out of touch?

No, it's the ladies who are wrong."

Thank god, someone who gets it

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By *rish_GuyMan
over a year ago

Foxford

True, it doesn't alright.

That said, you say on your profile that you were on here before. Did you do this back then?

How did you get on then?

50 messages? That took some work. Fair do's to you.

Like what was said already, by the different posters.

You didn't help yourself, by doing that, considering you were on here in the past. Look after your own profile, interact on here more, then they (MIGHT) be willing to answer/interact with you. It mightn't be nice or easy. It's the luck of the draw, with being on here, more or less OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nobody owes you a reply, and it doesn’t mean the person you message lacks manners, it means they’re not interested and there’s no point in wasting anyone’s time dragging that out.

With some of the messages you’ve received and posted on on your profile… I can understand a complete reluctance to even open unsolicited messages

Very funny profile btw

Thank you I still lol when I read them too

My favourite is the one about you disappointing your ancestors. That must have hurt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll fire off some messages every now and then but usually include a face pic… some people reply some don’t… with all of the normal dating apps that people are used to seeing photos so it’s a bit 90’s to message someone with none up… can’t see you ever really getting anywhere without some visible…

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By *antas_number_one_elfWoman
over a year ago

dublin

"Nobody owes you a reply, and it doesn’t mean the person you message lacks manners, it means they’re not interested and there’s no point in wasting anyone’s time dragging that out.

With some of the messages you’ve received and posted on on your profile… I can understand a complete reluctance to even open unsolicited messages

Very funny profile btw

Thank you I still lol when I read them too

My favourite is the one about you disappointing your ancestors. That must have hurt

Not even a little bit. With the accommodation crisis I’m kind of honored to live rent free in those peoples head haha

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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin

"Nobody owes you a reply, and it doesn’t mean the person you message lacks manners, it means they’re not interested and there’s no point in wasting anyone’s time dragging that out.

With some of the messages you’ve received and posted on on your profile… I can understand a complete reluctance to even open unsolicited messages

Very funny profile btw

Thank you I still lol when I read them too

Did someone really offer you 4,000.00 euros

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By *antas_number_one_elfWoman
over a year ago

dublin

"Nobody owes you a reply, and it doesn’t mean the person you message lacks manners, it means they’re not interested and there’s no point in wasting anyone’s time dragging that out.

With some of the messages you’ve received and posted on on your profile… I can understand a complete reluctance to even open unsolicited messages

Very funny profile btw

Thank you I still lol when I read them too

Did someone really offer you 4,000.00 euros"
all of those messages are direct copy and paste! Someone asked me if I was on EI and got annoyed when I asked what EI was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nobody owes you a reply, and it doesn’t mean the person you message lacks manners, it means they’re not interested and there’s no point in wasting anyone’s time dragging that out.

With some of the messages you’ve received and posted on on your profile… I can understand a complete reluctance to even open unsolicited messages

Very funny profile btw

Thank you I still lol when I read them too

Did someone really offer you 4,000.00 eurosall of those messages are direct copy and paste! Someone asked me if I was on EI and got annoyed when I asked what EI was "

What is EI

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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin

"Nobody owes you a reply, and it doesn’t mean the person you message lacks manners, it means they’re not interested and there’s no point in wasting anyone’s time dragging that out.

With some of the messages you’ve received and posted on on your profile… I can understand a complete reluctance to even open unsolicited messages

Very funny profile btw

Thank you I still lol when I read them too

Did someone really offer you 4,000.00 eurosall of those messages are direct copy and paste! Someone asked me if I was on EI and got annoyed when I asked what EI was "

What is EI anyway. I've read your profile and some of the replies leave a lot to be desired. Half of those guys must be keyboard warriors. I've been to a few socials and most of the guys lads and ladies are sound. Sorry about the replies thankfully not all men are like that.

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By *xplicitMan
over a year ago

donegal

I accompanied a girl to a few socials parties and we also met on our own a few years back. At one point she had 1300 unread mails . OP I’m assuming you’re inexperienced on here, but you will soon realise sending unsolicited mail on its own simply doesn’t work .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok now we know what E.I is everyday is a school day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have over 500 messages and I can’t get rid off even half of them, help

500!

How does somebody even manage with that?

Occasionally just select all and delete?

I can’t delete al as I chatting with few guys and I don’t want to mess with them. I have a lot filters , but it’s not really working. 5 minutes online I will get from 5 messages and up.

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By *llthewaysMan
over a year ago

City centre/Naas

No reply is a reply on Fab. Simple as.

It sucks but that is the way the cookie crumbles.

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

Have a read of our profile and you may realise why most don't reply esp as you say you've seen some really good profiles!

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

Only 50 messages?

Phhhh, amateur……

Did you remember to attach a dic pic, just in case?

In this instance manners cost time, and some people don’t have much to waste, their saving their time by not replying and they’re saving your time by not giving to read a rejection, you really should be more grateful…..

To all who haven’t replied to my messages, thank you, I appreciate it…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look if u can't bother putting up a pic or two, why should anyone bother answering u

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By *iraeireMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Ah, the struggle is real. Even with a profile filled with enticing pics and a captivating bio, the chances on fab can still be slim. It seems that real women are quite rare around here.

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

"Ah, the struggle is real. Even with a profile filled with enticing pics and a captivating bio, the chances on fab can still be slim. It seems that real women are quite rare around here."

Lots of Real women but just the ratio of men is crazy so the odds are stacked.

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