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By *amson4Delilah OP Couple
over a year ago

ballina

Is it just me or has good sex gone out the window for porn style bend her over & bang her hard type sex?

I find men go to fingerblast instead of foreplay & stimulation... I personally want intimate, good hot sex where my sex partner reads my reactions & listens to my reactions to gauge his next move rather than intertain himself with how hard he can bang me..

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Delilah xx

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By *arrot_in_a_boxCouple
over a year ago

kinda dublin

Rom Coms have done me dirty! The girlfriend expects lavish gestures of love and effection, when all I wanna do is finger blast and blow my beans

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

I gave it up for this reason. It was was the one of the best decisions I ever made for myself.

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By *leasurer77Man
over a year ago

Athlone

"Rom Coms have done me dirty! The girlfriend expects lavish gestures of love and effection, when all I wanna do is finger blast and blow my beans

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

It really has. For years I thought the moaning bone was in the fanny area from watching porn but I've only ever been able to hit the funny bone.

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By *panishRebelMan
over a year ago

Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland

Porn is generally about making money. Most of it is boring SHITE.

Every now again I think, yeah I could do with some... Then after 5 minutes I'm yawning.

Give me the real deal any day. Even the simple stuff on videos here. Because there's a chance you might meet the people you watch. For me that makes all the difference.

I love figuring some one out. Also getting the same in return.

Porn for me is only when desperate and no other options. Even then... Meah

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By *panishRebelMan
over a year ago

Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland

Although share watching works for me though. But there's a transaction element to that.

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By *r_Insatiable666Man
over a year ago

Cork

Sure it's bad enough when you're an adult, but it's teaching impressionable teens far worse things tbh.

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By *liver ThomasMan
over a year ago

Drogheda

"Is it just me or has good sex gone out the window for porn style bend her over & bang her hard type sex?

I find men go to fingerblast instead of foreplay & stimulation... I personally want intimate, good hot sex where my sex partner reads my reactions & listens to my reactions to gauge his next move rather than intertain himself with how hard he can bang me..

Interested in views from the lads & ladies on this..

Delilah xx"

In reply to the actual question op, I dont believe so. Certainly not with a man my age. Maybe the younger bucks consider themselves obliged to compete with the notions that that's how sex works and how women desire it. But fir those of us who've been married and in long term relationships, we understand that the sex is always better when you make an effort to connect and explore sensuality. A long slow sensual session always wins out. U hope you find more thoughtful lovers in the future.

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By *amson4Delilah OP Couple
over a year ago

ballina

"Is it just me or has good sex gone out the window for porn style bend her over & bang her hard type sex?

I find men go to fingerblast instead of foreplay & stimulation... I personally want intimate, good hot sex where my sex partner reads my reactions & listens to my reactions to gauge his next move rather than intertain himself with how hard he can bang me..

Interested in views from the lads & ladies on this..

Delilah xx

In reply to the actual question op, I dont believe so. Certainly not with a man my age. Maybe the younger bucks consider themselves obliged to compete with the notions that that's how sex works and how women desire it. But fir those of us who've been married and in long term relationships, we understand that the sex is always better when you make an effort to connect and explore sensuality. A long slow sensual session always wins out. U hope you find more thoughtful lovers in the future."

To be fair I haven't played with lads younger than 30 so my judgement is on lads from mid 30's to 50 ish.. & as another poster mentioned it must be a mindfield with younger ones just starting their sexual journeys & thinking bend her over & bang her is now mainstream..

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By *ewcouplesdCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

"Is it just me or has good sex gone out the window for porn style bend her over & bang her hard type sex?

I find men go to fingerblast instead of foreplay & stimulation... I personally want intimate, good hot sex where my sex partner reads my reactions & listens to my reactions to gauge his next move rather than intertain himself with how hard he can bang me..

Interested in views from the lads & ladies on this..

Delilah xx

In reply to the actual question op, I dont believe so. Certainly not with a man my age. Maybe the younger bucks consider themselves obliged to compete with the notions that that's how sex works and how women desire it. But fir those of us who've been married and in long term relationships, we understand that the sex is always better when you make an effort to connect and explore sensuality. A long slow sensual session always wins out. U hope you find more thoughtful lovers in the future.

To be fair I haven't played with lads younger than 30 so my judgement is on lads from mid 30's to 50 ish.. & as another poster mentioned it must be a mindfield with younger ones just starting their sexual journeys & thinking bend her over & bang her is now mainstream..

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Maybe you should try under 30 for research purposes

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"Is it just me or has good sex gone out the window for porn style bend her over & bang her hard type sex?

I find men go to fingerblast instead of foreplay & stimulation... I personally want intimate, good hot sex where my sex partner reads my reactions & listens to my reactions to gauge his next move rather than intertain himself with how hard he can bang me..

Interested in views from the lads & ladies on this..

Delilah xx"

Omg I could have written this post myself

Following 20 years of monogamy with my husband I noticed a huge difference in how things "were done" nowadays as opposed to back then when I was single and dating.

I agree, porn has started stuff like fingerblasting and the inevitable squirting which wasn't a thing in the 90's. The older guys are much more sensual than the younger guys, it's just a complete turn off when they have no interest in kissing or sensuality

I feel sorry for younger women who are dealing with this or worse again, think it's what should be getting them off!

Mrs.

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By *amson4Delilah OP Couple
over a year ago

ballina

"Porn is generally about making money. Most of it is boring SHITE.

Every now again I think, yeah I could do with some... Then after 5 minutes I'm yawning.

Give me the real deal any day. Even the simple stuff on videos here. Because there's a chance you might meet the people you watch. For me that makes all the difference.

I love figuring some one out. Also getting the same in return.

Porn for me is only when desperate and no other options. Even then... Meah"

It may be just my perception but even the videos on here are just amateur porn with the majority being her taking it.. him cuming on her face, humping her hard or fingerblasting her till she squirts..

Don't get me wrong I do enjoy all of the above...but not all the time..

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By *amson4Delilah OP Couple
over a year ago

ballina

"Is it just me or has good sex gone out the window for porn style bend her over & bang her hard type sex?

I find men go to fingerblast instead of foreplay & stimulation... I personally want intimate, good hot sex where my sex partner reads my reactions & listens to my reactions to gauge his next move rather than intertain himself with how hard he can bang me..

Interested in views from the lads & ladies on this..

Delilah xx

In reply to the actual question op, I dont believe so. Certainly not with a man my age. Maybe the younger bucks consider themselves obliged to compete with the notions that that's how sex works and how women desire it. But fir those of us who've been married and in long term relationships, we understand that the sex is always better when you make an effort to connect and explore sensuality. A long slow sensual session always wins out. U hope you find more thoughtful lovers in the future.

To be fair I haven't played with lads younger than 30 so my judgement is on lads from mid 30's to 50 ish.. & as another poster mentioned it must be a mindfield with younger ones just starting their sexual journeys & thinking bend her over & bang her is now mainstream..

Maybe you should try under 30 for research purposes

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Purely for research & educational purposes

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast

Surely good sex comes with experience and age. We were all young once, when kissing and touching was a highlight and a guarantee to get you off. We mature and find out more of what makes that particular lip bite, why does she curl her leg around me when I do that, how come her head rolls back and makes all those guldering noises that sound so good in a passionate session.

Anyone who is happy with wham, bam, fingerblast can stick with their porn

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By *ewcouplesdCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

"Is it just me or has good sex gone out the window for porn style bend her over & bang her hard type sex?

I find men go to fingerblast instead of foreplay & stimulation... I personally want intimate, good hot sex where my sex partner reads my reactions & listens to my reactions to gauge his next move rather than intertain himself with how hard he can bang me..

Interested in views from the lads & ladies on this..

Delilah xx

In reply to the actual question op, I dont believe so. Certainly not with a man my age. Maybe the younger bucks consider themselves obliged to compete with the notions that that's how sex works and how women desire it. But fir those of us who've been married and in long term relationships, we understand that the sex is always better when you make an effort to connect and explore sensuality. A long slow sensual session always wins out. U hope you find more thoughtful lovers in the future.

To be fair I haven't played with lads younger than 30 so my judgement is on lads from mid 30's to 50 ish.. & as another poster mentioned it must be a mindfield with younger ones just starting their sexual journeys & thinking bend her over & bang her is now mainstream..

Maybe you should try under 30 for research purposes

Purely for research & educational purposes

"

28 could be a good age to try again for research purposes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my ex ever wanted was to be bent over and fucked hard, rarely kissed during sex , so it’s not only lads

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

So women dont like when you ch*ke them and spit on their face before fucking their mouth so hard they cry

Fuck that shit .....bring back the hairy beaver porn on betamax

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"So women dont like when you ch*ke them and spit on their face before fucking their mouth so hard they cry

Fuck that shit .....bring back the hairy beaver porn on betamax

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The pink gin is going down well then

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By *amson4Delilah OP Couple
over a year ago

ballina

"Is it just me or has good sex gone out the window for porn style bend her over & bang her hard type sex?

I find men go to fingerblast instead of foreplay & stimulation... I personally want intimate, good hot sex where my sex partner reads my reactions & listens to my reactions to gauge his next move rather than intertain himself with how hard he can bang me..

Interested in views from the lads & ladies on this..

Delilah xx

Omg I could have written this post myself

Following 20 years of monogamy with my husband I noticed a huge difference in how things "were done" nowadays as opposed to back then when I was single and dating.

I agree, porn has started stuff like fingerblasting and the inevitable squirting which wasn't a thing in the 90's. The older guys are much more sensual than the younger guys, it's just a complete turn off when they have no interest in kissing or sensuality

I feel sorry for younger women who are dealing with this or worse again, think it's what should be getting them off!

Mrs."

Yip.. exactly

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By *amson4Delilah OP Couple
over a year ago

ballina

"Surely good sex comes with experience and age. We were all young once, when kissing and touching was a highlight and a guarantee to get you off. We mature and find out more of what makes that particular lip bite, why does she curl her leg around me when I do that, how come her head rolls back and makes all those guldering noises that sound so good in a passionate session.

Anyone who is happy with wham, bam, fingerblast can stick with their porn

"

Yes Mr Belfast.. your speaking my language

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By *amson4Delilah OP Couple
over a year ago

ballina

"Is it just me or has good sex gone out the window for porn style bend her over & bang her hard type sex?

I find men go to fingerblast instead of foreplay & stimulation... I personally want intimate, good hot sex where my sex partner reads my reactions & listens to my reactions to gauge his next move rather than intertain himself with how hard he can bang me..

Interested in views from the lads & ladies on this..

Delilah xx

In reply to the actual question op, I dont believe so. Certainly not with a man my age. Maybe the younger bucks consider themselves obliged to compete with the notions that that's how sex works and how women desire it. But fir those of us who've been married and in long term relationships, we understand that the sex is always better when you make an effort to connect and explore sensuality. A long slow sensual session always wins out. U hope you find more thoughtful lovers in the future.

To be fair I haven't played with lads younger than 30 so my judgement is on lads from mid 30's to 50 ish.. & as another poster mentioned it must be a mindfield with younger ones just starting their sexual journeys & thinking bend her over & bang her is now mainstream..

Maybe you should try under 30 for research purposes

Purely for research & educational purposes

28 could be a good age to try again for research purposes

"

Well I suppose I should keep my research going..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely figuring out what your partner likes is all part of the enjoyment or is that just me. No matter what position or if its just a quickie there is time to touch each other,kiss,stroke etc. If your doing it right your partners touch or kiss during sex can send you wild.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"All my ex ever wanted was to be bent over and fucked hard, rarely kissed during sex , so it’s not only lads"

I wonder did she learn that from porn too.

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By *r_Insatiable666Man
over a year ago

Cork

"Is it just me or has good sex gone out the window for porn style bend her over & bang her hard type sex?

I find men go to fingerblast instead of foreplay & stimulation... I personally want intimate, good hot sex where my sex partner reads my reactions & listens to my reactions to gauge his next move rather than intertain himself with how hard he can bang me..

Interested in views from the lads & ladies on this..

Delilah xx

In reply to the actual question op, I dont believe so. Certainly not with a man my age. Maybe the younger bucks consider themselves obliged to compete with the notions that that's how sex works and how women desire it. But fir those of us who've been married and in long term relationships, we understand that the sex is always better when you make an effort to connect and explore sensuality. A long slow sensual session always wins out. U hope you find more thoughtful lovers in the future.

To be fair I haven't played with lads younger than 30 so my judgement is on lads from mid 30's to 50 ish.. & as another poster mentioned it must be a mindfield with younger ones just starting their sexual journeys & thinking bend her over & bang her is now mainstream..

Maybe you should try under 30 for research purposes

Purely for research & educational purposes

28 could be a good age to try again for research purposes

"

24 is a reasonable and good age for experimentation

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By *osyRedLipsWoman
over a year ago

Kildare

Only older people will get this reference but sometimes I feel like the Puppet formerly known as Bosco because some men try to shove their hold hand up inside me!

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By *r_Insatiable666Man
over a year ago

Cork

I don't think good sex is tied to older age more so maturity.

I was no and am not Mr. Sex BUT I was very quick to learn and understood that porn was ugly.

Now if you really want to see the poison of my generation and lower, the Japanese word for pervert is a place to start

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By *r_Insatiable666Man
over a year ago

Cork

"Only older people will get this reference but sometimes I feel like the Puppet formerly known as Bosco because some men try to shove their hold hand up inside me! "

How dare you! I used to listen to gift grub, I know of the ancient texts

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By *lueDressWoman
over a year ago

Bath

Give Me expert gentle seductive sensuous Love making any day....

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By *amson4Delilah OP Couple
over a year ago

ballina

"All my ex ever wanted was to be bent over and fucked hard, rarely kissed during sex , so it’s not only lads

I wonder did she learn that from porn too."

I'd be wondering too

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

A lot of free streaming amatuer porn is of questionable origin too and I believe there is a subconscious price to pay when watching.

Streaming porn is a stimulant that can be abused like any other and at any age. It won't affect everyone but many young and older adults alike will be susceptible. Add an increasingly fractured social structure and a couple of years of lock down and the numbers start to add up.

I stopped watching porn because I could see how it was affecting my experience.

I had loads of great surprises after I stopped completely. Things I wouldn't have thought of like closing my eyes. I didn't know I had become so visually orientated.

The net benefits are huge. I discovered that I am in fact a much more sensually orientated lover than I ever knew. Sex for me is much less genital centric now. I much more aware of my partner's response have learned to quiet my mind enough to simply become lost in the dialogue of sensation.

Most recently I climaxed through skin touch alone. I don't think I ever would have learned that with my old habits.

That's just my experience. Everyone's will be different

I talk to my teen about porn. I think that's a very important discussion to have.

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By *r_Insatiable666Man
over a year ago

Cork

"A lot of free streaming amatuer porn is of questionable origin too and I believe there is a subconscious price to pay when watching.

Streaming porn is a stimulant that can be abused like any other and at any age. It won't affect everyone but many young and older adults alike will be susceptible. Add an increasingly fractured social structure and a couple of years of lock down and the numbers start to add up.

I stopped watching porn because I could see how it was affecting my experience.

I had loads of great surprises after I stopped completely. Things I wouldn't have thought of like closing my eyes. I didn't know I had become so visually orientated.

The net benefits are huge. I discovered that I am in fact a much more sensually orientated lover than I ever knew. Sex for me is much less genital centric now. I much more aware of my partner's response have learned to quiet my mind enough to simply become lost in the dialogue of sensation.

Most recently I climaxed through skin touch alone. I don't think I ever would have learned that with my old habits.

That's just my experience. Everyone's will be different

I talk to my teen about porn. I think that's a very important discussion to have.

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From all the forum posts, I gotta give you props for being so honest and respectful with your opinion.

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By *eeperscreepersMan
over a year ago

Tipp

There seems to be a generation of folks that think porn sex is the "norm" and behave as such. I find pornhub has been damn near unwatchable in recent years.

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By *he zephyrCouple
over a year ago

The Sol

"Is it just me or has good sex gone out the window for porn style bend her over & bang her hard type sex?

I find men go to fingerblast instead of foreplay & stimulation... I personally want intimate, good hot sex where my sex partner reads my reactions & listens to my reactions to gauge his next move rather than intertain himself with how hard he can bang me..

Interested in views from the lads & ladies on this..

Delilah xx"

I think it's important to make your needs clear from the beginning. Some women may want that sort of sex because of the physicality of it and the lack of intimacy. While others prefer a longer, slower meet.

I think porn has affected people's perceptions of casual sex, especially casual hook-ups via sites like fab where you might expect it to be more wham bam thank you mam.

Say what you like and what you expect in advance and throughout the meet

And slow it down if that's what you need.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"So women dont like when you ch*ke them and spit on their face before fucking their mouth so hard they cry

Fuck that shit .....bring back the hairy beaver porn on betamax

The pink gin is going down well then

"

Thats in the fridge for someone else arriving tomorrow

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"So women dont like when you ch*ke them and spit on their face before fucking their mouth so hard they cry

Fuck that shit .....bring back the hairy beaver porn on betamax

The pink gin is going down well then

Thats in the fridge for someone else arriving tomorrow

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Is the chocolate for her too or is it likely not to survive the night?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think watching too much isn't good for you but it does come in handy when you're alone and tired. It comes in handy when you've been flat out a few times and want to try some of it out too.

It's like sex , sometimes, like on a d*unken after nightclub first night, no one cuming, crazy fuckfest it's exactly what you need, but the morning after sensual fuck will be the one you remember, in saying that , I'll remember the night before with a glint in my eye.

Take it or leave it .

I enjoy making it and watching it back too.

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By *ro_boner_publicoMan
over a year ago

North County

I was making this same comment to some friends recently. The expectations for casual sex have changed dramatically over the last 20 years.

In the early 2000s, passionate long foreplay and slow intimate sessions were much more the norm.

Some of the changes I like; squirting and fingerblasting are damn good fun, even ragdoll sex and facefucking etc. are all great in their place,

I only hope the casual intimate loving session doesn't disappear. Its simplicity recommends it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both like porn and send each other links on stuff we might want to try.

But there has to be a balance in love making and porn sex.

The first play party I attended (Mr)I got involved on the bed with a lady.

30 seconds going down on her she pulls me up and said fuck me.Was a massive turn off if I'm honest.Was porn to blame or the substance she was on .

Possibly both.

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By *xcited And CuriousCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

"A lot of free streaming amatuer porn is of questionable origin too and I believe there is a subconscious price to pay when watching.

Streaming porn is a stimulant that can be abused like any other and at any age. It won't affect everyone but many young and older adults alike will be susceptible. Add an increasingly fractured social structure and a couple of years of lock down and the numbers start to add up.

I stopped watching porn because I could see how it was affecting my experience.

I had loads of great surprises after I stopped completely. Things I wouldn't have thought of like closing my eyes. I didn't know I had become so visually orientated.

The net benefits are huge. I discovered that I am in fact a much more sensually orientated lover than I ever knew. Sex for me is much less genital centric now. I much more aware of my partner's response have learned to quiet my mind enough to simply become lost in the dialogue of sensation.

Most recently I climaxed through skin touch alone. I don't think I ever would have learned that with my old habits.

That's just my experience. Everyone's will be different

I talk to my teen about porn. I think that's a very important discussion to have.

"

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Great post.

I (Mr) use porn. Happily single for years, so it was either memories or imagination or porn that I used for stimulation. But "porn" encompasses so many different kinds of scenes or scenarios. For me, the more believable that they were real people, the better. Actors & actresses have never really done it for me.

I think this is why fab (as an example) is so stimulating - these are images & videos of REAL PEOPLE, who get off on showing themselves and sharing. The motivation to share isn't to get paid, but for personal stimulation of some sort.

We were at an event recently where we watched a woman being finger-blasted by a man. She seemed to enjoy it. I (Mr) think it looks coarse and disrespectful. P (Mrs) was intrigued.

It's unlikely we'll ever try it. Nor me cumming on her face, nor choking her, nor throat-fucking her, nor pounding... I wouldn't even slap her ass.

I LOVE spending hours "making love" - teasing, caressing, kissing... making love for me (Mr) has always been about taking time, savouring it... Happy to let the animal out too, but never without absolute respect

I hope my kids don't come to think porn is how sex should be. I feel sorry for for anyone - man or woman, old or young - for whom porn sex is all they experience.

Interesting thread.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

Probably worth noting that porn didn't invent a good hard fuck.

Whatevers good is good!

There's nothing wrong with porn no more then there is with drugs or alcohol. It's something can be really enjoyed by most and have a profoundly negative affect on others.

Trends will come and go.

Rule 34 of the internet:

"There is porn of it. No exceptions"

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By *panishRebelMan
over a year ago

Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland

"Only older people will get this reference but sometimes I feel like the Puppet formerly known as Bosco because some men try to shove their hold hand up inside me! "

I'm crying after reading that...

But yeah I agree with the general consensus. The art of sex, of making love is where I want things.

Although on occasion there is a time for wam bang.... If there is no other option.... And porn is addictive especially to young uns....

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

Male gay porn is more authentic and sometimes they might even kiss

The women are just acting most of the time and can fake it far more easily. They bore the bejaysus out of me. Mrs

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By *ukeM8519Man
over a year ago

Leitrim & Dublin

Every porn video now is step mom, step sister, step brother. Too weird for me sorry.

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By *xBelMorriganMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Porn is entertainment - it isn't sex and conflating the two is a massive issue.

Also putting the blame on porn and not society (particularly in Ireland with our cultural Catholic shame around sex) refusing to invest in comprehensive sexual education which is not solely about reproduction is just a lazy scapegoat.

We should teach comprehensive sex ed including porn literacy so young people both know how to distinguish between porn and real consent focused sex.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

Your absolutely right about education though it's improved a lot in fairness. My teen has had porn awareness modules in school and this week has two talks about consent.

Porn is sex though. It might be badly shot in a living room or made by corporations but they are still fucking and as sex work its a legitimate pursuit in the entertainment industry.

Trenchcoat X produced by Stoya and Kayden Kross is an excellent example of consent focused porn made by women for women.

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By *llthewaysMan
over a year ago

City centre/Naas

Porn is a terrible example of good sex in the main, IMHO.

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By *astelloWoman
over a year ago

Far far away

I completely agree. It creating a unrealistic view of sex and sexuality. From body image to foreplay and also creating additional issues with consent.

Give me real people anyday..

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By *atherjackhackettMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

I find most porn to be a turn off more than a turn on. Just hard banging and screaming at the slightest touch. Some videos here too. In real life I like to mix it up and yes there's a time for a fast hard bang but hard to beat lots of foreplay and sensual sex.

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By *eeperscreepersMan
over a year ago

Tipp

"Every porn video now is step mom, step sister, step brother. Too weird for me sorry. "

Yup same, as usual the yanks ruin it for everyone

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By *xcited And CuriousCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

I (Mr) think the catholic argument is largely null at this stage. I think we're far more sexually enlightened now than even just 20 years ago, and that the Irish religion oppressing sexuality element is (rightly) fading away.

Porn is entertainment, no doubt, but it is sex entertainment. It is commonly used to replace or substitute or supplement or augment actual sex, and it does have its place and it can have value.

Schools now do seem to have porn-awareness classes or content, again rightly - porn could be a seriously dangerous influence on impressionable people, of any age.

Recent questions on the fab forum (eg, mother/daughter action) suggest some people do seem to absorb some objectively unrealistic porn content as being realistic or viable in the real world. Sex with a mother and daughter is probably among the least likely sexual scenarios encountered in the real world.

If porn is the ONLY exposure someone has to sex then I imagine their perspective or perception of what's "good" will be driven by which porn scenarios turn them on the most. And whether with porn or in the real world, we all have natural turn-ons, preferences, kinks and fetishes. We don't choose these or decide on them - they're simply what turns us on the most, sometimes probably surprising to ourselves. But if we have a balanced and morally-decent general disposition, then we'll know where the line should be drawn and - crucially - we respect our partner(s) regarding what they would be OK with.

If exposure to sex through ONLY porn distorts or corrupts someone's morals or leads them to believe that the more extreme or unrealistic stuff is actually OK or even normal, then yes - porn is absolutely doing us (society/community/mankind) wrong.

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By *otass and scorpioCouple
over a year ago

limerick cork tipperary clare waterford

Porn is a load of bollox

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

Parents aren't doing right by their children either, expecting the schools to teach their kids about sex because they don't know how to approach it themselves. Or they are out of touch with the real world and don't realise what their children have access to online.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

"Parents aren't doing right by their children either, expecting the schools to teach their kids about sex because they don't know how to approach it themselves. Or they are out of touch with the real world and don't realise what their children have access to online."

I agree with this completely. As parents we are the primary educators and the onus is on us to mind or own kids.

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By *amson4Delilah OP Couple
over a year ago

ballina

"Parents aren't doing right by their children either, expecting the schools to teach their kids about sex because they don't know how to approach it themselves. Or they are out of touch with the real world and don't realise what their children have access to online."

100% agree with this.. I'd like to think I'm proactive when it comes to educating my now 17 year old & have been age appropriately talking to her about sex & relationships all her life so as there is no embarrassment or nothing is off limits to talk about. But talking to other parents of kids of similar age they are shocked at me providing my daughter with condoms & incouraging her to be confident & own having them in her wallet. It's not that I want her sleeping around but I want her safe & confident if She wants to have sex with a lad.

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By *ublinGirl92Woman
over a year ago

Hell

"Is it just me or has good sex gone out the window for porn style bend her over & bang her hard type sex?

I find men go to fingerblast instead of foreplay & stimulation... I personally want intimate, good hot sex where my sex partner reads my reactions & listens to my reactions to gauge his next move rather than intertain himself with how hard he can bang me..

Interested in views from the lads & ladies on this..

Delilah xx"

Yes it has! Porn is so unrealistic and you can absolutely tell who watches too much of it.

I'd rather be with someone who had no experience at all than someone who's only experience was from porn.

Literally had a guy try to spit in my mouth without warning because he saw it in porn. Such a horrible experience.

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By *amson4Delilah OP Couple
over a year ago

ballina

"Is it just me or has good sex gone out the window for porn style bend her over & bang her hard type sex?

I find men go to fingerblast instead of foreplay & stimulation... I personally want intimate, good hot sex where my sex partner reads my reactions & listens to my reactions to gauge his next move rather than intertain himself with how hard he can bang me..

Interested in views from the lads & ladies on this..

Delilah xx

Yes it has! Porn is so unrealistic and you can absolutely tell who watches too much of it.

I'd rather be with someone who had no experience at all than someone who's only experience was from porn.

Literally had a guy try to spit in my mouth without warning because he saw it in porn. Such a horrible experience. "

Sweet Jesus..

that is horrible

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By *xcited And CuriousCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

" Literally had a guy try to spit in my mouth without warning because he saw it in porn. Such a horrible experience. "

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I (Mr) think that's very sad.

That's some parent's son, who could be a nice guy, potentially capable of being a considerate and skilled and generous lover, but with nothing but porn and/or "lads" humour and conversation to guide him, he hasn't a clue about making love in the real world.

It's also sad that you had to experience it, and have the realisation that this is how young men behave today, or perhaps how they think a woman wants them to behave... I'd hate to think my daughters would meet a man like this...

Agree that parents do need to step up. But what if the parents don't have a clue themselves?

I've told my son that most porn is not a realistic representation of how people who respect each other make love, and that (my own values here), the woman's experience has to matter more than the man's, or at least the same as the man's.

I wonder is porn telling women that they should want what porn men do to porn women?

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

Any time I wank, I’d watch porn. Not always the same but something different each time more than likely. Why? I think because it’s a variety and the actors know what they’re doing. I don’t find amateur porn near as exhilarating. I tried amateur porn and don’t get the same kick at all.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

Our youngsters are now way more advanced also and have access to a lot more. You’ll probably find 10-12 yos knowing way more than you think they do.

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By *aptainpuffinMan
over a year ago

Ballincollig

Omg porn is bonkers ! Who expects everyone to be perfectly shaven prior to sex and then perform like a stallion before finishing on their partners eyes ? Bonkers ..

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By *enusalMan
over a year ago

tipperary Limerick London,Germany

Porn is completely over rated and why its more acceptable today is probably 2 fold

A. Younger generation don't have same level of experience/ been together etc.

So it becomes normalised in society. Intimacy is less important are very young age.

Grows more important with time.

B. The older generation.. me..lol

Is of old school, lots of kissing..( OMG ITS A MUST!!) sensual and slow. Rewarding yes. Longer yes . Satisfying yes.

While a hint of porn within this is fine , but the old reliable is always a win situation

This is what I believe more and more people want ...open to correction!!!

I hope you find what your looking for and enjoy what you want...X

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By *orney 999Man
over a year ago

galway

I love foreplay it makes it more fun like going in for the kill were is the fun in that

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By *xcited And CuriousCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

Gimme 70% time spent on the build-up (flirting, kissing, teasing, oral, playing with position...), 10% time on the release/climax, and 20% on the afterglow...

Imagine a 20 year-old porn-accustomed lad reading that...

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

"Gimme 70% time spent on the build-up (flirting, kissing, teasing, oral, playing with position...), 10% time on the release/climax, and 20% on the afterglow...

Imagine a 20 year-old porn-accustomed lad reading that...

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Imagine any 20yr old reading that...

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By *arrot_in_a_boxCouple
over a year ago

kinda dublin

"Gimme 70% time spent on the build-up (flirting, kissing, teasing, oral, playing with position...), 10% time on the release/climax, and 20% on the afterglow...

Imagine a 20 year-old porn-accustomed lad reading that...

Imagine any 20yr old reading that...

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If those 20yr olds could read, they'd be very upset.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

Is there good porn advice for younger people beyond pointing out the negatives?

It's not a subject I've broached with my eldest. And it's certainly an age sensitive topic. But at his age he is allowed to appreciate a small amount of alcohol on special occasions and is able to understand the difference between drug abuse and recreational use where it's legal.

How do you explain in an age appropriate way that porn can be enjoyed and be complimentary and educational for sexuality and kinks?

There's loads of excellent porn studios and content creators that make ethical productions.

Younger people know where and how to buy alcohol and it's a given that they will make there own mistakes with often unfortunate or hilarious consequences.

Drugs are illegal so there is a natural barrier and deterrent and by and large drug awareness is pretty good in Ireland.

Porn is an anomaly among these. It's not often talked about, can have life changing effects and can be accessed for free on any device by anyone old enough to use a device.

They will want to see it for themselves no matter the education source.

How to make them aware and guide them in the right direction?

When are teens and young adults old enough to understand and heed advise like that?

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By *oneyandbearCouple
over a year ago

Dundee

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By *oneyandbearCouple
over a year ago

Dundee

Haha!

"Rom Coms have done me dirty! The girlfriend expects lavish gestures of love and effection, when all I wanna do is finger blast and blow my beans

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there good porn advice for younger people beyond pointing out the negatives?

It's not a subject I've broached with my eldest. And it's certainly an age sensitive topic. But at his age he is allowed to appreciate a small amount of alcohol on special occasions and is able to understand the difference between drug abuse and recreational use where it's legal.

How do you explain in an age appropriate way that porn can be enjoyed and be complimentary and educational for sexuality and kinks?

There's loads of excellent porn studios and content creators that make ethical productions.

Younger people know where and how to buy alcohol and it's a given that they will make there own mistakes with often unfortunate or hilarious consequences.

Drugs are illegal so there is a natural barrier and deterrent and by and large drug awareness is pretty good in Ireland.

Porn is an anomaly among these. It's not often talked about, can have life changing effects and can be accessed for free on any device by anyone old enough to use a device.

They will want to see it for themselves no matter the education source.

How to make them aware and guide them in the right direction?

When are teens and young adults old enough to understand and heed advise like that?"

A Rubix cube is fixable and a teenager isn't , so to treat them both as pliable is foolhardy.

Just do your best my man , it's more than most , and it will be appreciated

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By *ickheadcuntCouple
over a year ago

Cork Ireland

"Is it just me or has good sex gone out the window for porn style bend her over & bang her hard type sex?

I find men go to fingerblast instead of foreplay & stimulation... I personally want intimate, good hot sex where my sex partner reads my reactions & listens to my reactions to gauge his next move rather than intertain himself with how hard he can bang me..

Interested in views from the lads & ladies on this..

Delilah xx"

100%

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