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"Saying no, or not replying, is not time wasting. Timewasting is saying yes and then not actually carrying through" More often than not the term is aimed at people who say no. For me a timewaster is someone who has no interest in anything said on my profile and are just wasting their own time getting in touch. | |||
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"Saying no, or not replying, is not time wasting. Timewasting is saying yes and then not actually carrying through More often than not the term is aimed at people who say no. For me a timewaster is someone who has no interest in anything said on my profile and are just wasting their own time getting in touch. " Totally disagree. Saying no is the opposite of wasting time. It's being honest and not causing anyone to spend time me expecting or hoping for something to happen when it's not going to. | |||
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"Saying no, or not replying, is not time wasting. Timewasting is saying yes and then not actually carrying through More often than not the term is aimed at people who say no. For me a timewaster is someone who has no interest in anything said on my profile and are just wasting their own time getting in touch. Totally disagree. Saying no is the opposite of wasting time. It's being honest and not causing anyone to spend time me expecting or hoping for something to happen when it's not going to. " I agree with you. I meant that people who say no are often called timewasters by those they turn down. | |||
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"Saying no, or not replying, is not time wasting. Timewasting is saying yes and then not actually carrying through More often than not the term is aimed at people who say no. For me a timewaster is someone who has no interest in anything said on my profile and are just wasting their own time getting in touch. Totally disagree. Saying no is the opposite of wasting time. It's being honest and not causing anyone to spend time me expecting or hoping for something to happen when it's not going to. I agree with you. I meant that people who say no are often called timewasters by those they turn down. "  sorry I think I misunderstood you.
There is a word for people who don't accept people saying no, and it's not "timewaster"
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"Saying no, or not replying, is not time wasting. Timewasting is saying yes and then not actually carrying through" my idea of a time waster is. Someone who goes all the way pictures exchanged loads of chatting plan a meet then just disappears and won’t write back. So all that time was wasted really. Because we all know lad's this site ain’t easy at all for us and it takes up a lot of time | |||
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"Unless I've actually met the person I don't see anything as time wasted and even if I have met them it's only a chat over a coffee so nothing wasted either. If you go into every conversation with an expectation of sex there is a good chance you will feel someone is wasting your time if it doesn't turn out that way. I never do so that's probably why I've never had my time wasted and never had a no show. " Couldn’t agree more here, this place is a marathon and not a sprint, you need a lot of patience and of course politeness never hurts either ?? | |||
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"Seen a lot of people giving out about timewasters here lately, so a question what defines a timewaster or do people just see people wasting there time on the site trying to connect with then when they have already closed the door to ordinary guinne people....let's have a chat about it..." Timewasting is bothering people when the answer is in their profile. | |||
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"Early chats, getting to know each other, are all necessary to decide if we might be a match, or maybe to re arrange a meet for a few months time, when we're all available. " PM us if youd like  apologise for doing it on forum but a girl can dream | |||
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"A timewaster is someone who doesn't turn up for a pre-arranged meet. Anyone who thinks they're owed something just because they exchanged a few emails needs to take a serious look at themselves." | |||
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"Early chats, getting to know each other, are all necessary to decide if we might be a match, or maybe to re arrange a meet for a few months time, when we're all available. PM us if youd like apologise for doing it on forum but a girl can dream "Hello! You've blocked guys. Let's chat. | |||
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"A timewaster is someone who doesn't turn up for a pre-arranged meet. Anyone who thinks they're owed something just because they exchanged a few emails needs to take a serious look at themselves. "This exactly | |||
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"For me time wasters are the people who never intend to meet you when exchanging messages. Plenty of people will have things change and can't meet but the people who have zero intention can bother me." How do you know they had zero intention to meet? You may have said or done something that just made them realise that you're not compatible after all.. | |||
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"Women who take FOREVER to cum. Like... You're a grown woman, how have you not figured out how to get in the mindframe to cum yet?? Get on with it and quit wasting my time before I get an ergonomic injury here. " Classic | |||
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"For me time wasters are the people who never intend to meet you when exchanging messages. Plenty of people will have things change and can't meet but the people who have zero intention can bother me. How do you know they had zero intention to meet? You may have said or done something that just made them realise that you're not compatible after all.." If they have zero intention to meet from the start they will say so either on their profile or in a message, either way a person knows , people who have no intention to meet from the get go and do not say so will string people along for the kick of it . | |||
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"A timewaster is someone who doesn't turn up for a pre-arranged meet. Anyone who thinks they're owed something just because they exchanged a few emails needs to take a serious look at themselves." I Completely agree. In the vanilla world its called being stod up. I had one chatting all the time. I drove over an hour for a coffee. When I arrived loged off Disappeared. Were all adults here. If your not interested in meeting just say your not. | |||
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"Just had my 1st time water experience.. This fella.. mad to meet.. all chat for weeks..agreed to meet him tomorrow evening.. & he's gone to ground.. profile hidden.. It's just hilarious really.. I suppose either his mammy has him grounded.. or his secret GF/wife has plans for tomorrow.. hope he doesn't run out of tissues or socks to wank into.. " Don't you know he will. And I'm being presumptious here but maybe he may arrive prematurely. Lol. | |||
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"Just had my 1st time water experience.. This fella.. mad to meet.. all chat for weeks..agreed to meet him tomorrow evening.. & he's gone to ground.. profile hidden.. It's just hilarious really.. I suppose either his mammy has him grounded.. or his secret GF/wife has plans for tomorrow.. hope he doesn't run out of tissues or socks to wank into.. " Socks ???  | |||
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"Given this a lot of thought. For us a time waster is a person who doesn't show up for agreed meets and either doesn't give a reason or some bullshit reason. Also people who will lead you on about meeting for weeks or months with no intention to meet. (find these are the ones that are usually looking for dirty talk or pics which they won't get from us until there's at least a coffee to verify whether we want to take it further)" This
One guy blew us off one week before. The next message we get was ‘can’t believe anyone would stand you up. Wouldn’t be me. I’m available this Friday if you still want to explore’
No prizes for what happen this Friday. Ghosts us and blew us off and not a word from him. That’s a time waster and that’s very typical single men on here. There are exceptions of course, but IMO, exception to the rule   | |||
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"Given this a lot of thought. For us a time waster is a person who doesn't show up for agreed meets and either doesn't give a reason or some bullshit reason. Also people who will lead you on about meeting for weeks or months with no intention to meet. (find these are the ones that are usually looking for dirty talk or pics which they won't get from us until there's at least a coffee to verify whether we want to take it further) This
One guy blew us off one week before. The next message we get was ‘can’t believe anyone would stand you up. Wouldn’t be me. I’m available this Friday if you still want to explore’
No prizes for what happen this Friday. Ghosts us and blew us off and not a word from him. That’s a time waster and that’s very typical single men on here. There are exceptions of course, but IMO, exception to the rule "What about the guinne single guys looking to meet, you start a chat with a lady or couple everything go great but frist words about meeting up fora social or play meet, get ghosted or block, it that not time wasting.. | |||
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"I don’t know, what some considers as “time wasted” is subjective surely. Do you feel like it’s time wasted by talking to people on the internet? If you do, then they are time wasters "You miss the point, when you want to meet in the real world you get nothing in return not a yes or a no..nothing the chat stops... | |||
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"Given this a lot of thought. For us a time waster is a person who doesn't show up for agreed meets and either doesn't give a reason or some bullshit reason. Also people who will lead you on about meeting for weeks or months with no intention to meet. (find these are the ones that are usually looking for dirty talk or pics which they won't get from us until there's at least a coffee to verify whether we want to take it further) This
One guy blew us off one week before. The next message we get was ‘can’t believe anyone would stand you up. Wouldn’t be me. I’m available this Friday if you still want to explore’
No prizes for what happen this Friday. Ghosts us and blew us off and not a word from him. That’s a time waster and that’s very typical single men on here. There are exceptions of course, but IMO, exception to the rule
What about the guinne single guys looking to meet, you start a chat with a lady or couple everything go great but frist words about meeting up fora social or play meet, get ghosted or block, it that not time wasting.."No it's not. That's just a conversation fizzling out and one party losing interest. Do you feel every one off conversation you have with people in the pub or the supermarket is a waste of your time as well? If you find that conversation in general is a waste of your time that might explain your frustration. | |||
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"Given this a lot of thought. For us a time waster is a person who doesn't show up for agreed meets and either doesn't give a reason or some bullshit reason. Also people who will lead you on about meeting for weeks or months with no intention to meet. (find these are the ones that are usually looking for dirty talk or pics which they won't get from us until there's at least a coffee to verify whether we want to take it further) This
One guy blew us off one week before. The next message we get was ‘can’t believe anyone would stand you up. Wouldn’t be me. I’m available this Friday if you still want to explore’
No prizes for what happen this Friday. Ghosts us and blew us off and not a word from him. That’s a time waster and that’s very typical single men on here. There are exceptions of course, but IMO, exception to the rule
What about the guinne single guys looking to meet, you start a chat with a lady or couple everything go great but frist words about meeting up fora social or play meet, get ghosted or block, it that not time wasting.."No. Unless you expect everyone you're chatting with to meet you. In which case I'd suggest you might want to readjust your expectations. Yet another reason why I don't generally engage in "chat" with individuals. Invariably it's taken as some sort of commitment to meeting them | |||
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"Given this a lot of thought. For us a time waster is a person who doesn't show up for agreed meets and either doesn't give a reason or some bullshit reason. Also people who will lead you on about meeting for weeks or months with no intention to meet. (find these are the ones that are usually looking for dirty talk or pics which they won't get from us until there's at least a coffee to verify whether we want to take it further) This
One guy blew us off one week before. The next message we get was ‘can’t believe anyone would stand you up. Wouldn’t be me. I’m available this Friday if you still want to explore’
No prizes for what happen this Friday. Ghosts us and blew us off and not a word from him. That’s a time waster and that’s very typical single men on here. There are exceptions of course, but IMO, exception to the rule
What about the guinne single guys looking to meet, you start a chat with a lady or couple everything go great but frist words about meeting up fora social or play meet, get ghosted or block, it that not time wasting..
No. Unless you expect everyone you're chatting with to meet you. In which case I'd suggest you might want to readjust your expectations.
Yet another reason why I don't generally engage in "chat" with individuals. Invariably it's taken as some sort of commitment to meeting them"Well I try to live in the real world not cyberspace, meet people for chat and a coffee look like a thing off the past.... | |||
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"Given this a lot of thought. For us a time waster is a person who doesn't show up for agreed meets and either doesn't give a reason or some bullshit reason. Also people who will lead you on about meeting for weeks or months with no intention to meet. (find these are the ones that are usually looking for dirty talk or pics which they won't get from us until there's at least a coffee to verify whether we want to take it further) This
One guy blew us off one week before. The next message we get was ‘can’t believe anyone would stand you up. Wouldn’t be me. I’m available this Friday if you still want to explore’
No prizes for what happen this Friday. Ghosts us and blew us off and not a word from him. That’s a time waster and that’s very typical single men on here. There are exceptions of course, but IMO, exception to the rule
What about the guinne single guys looking to meet, you start a chat with a lady or couple everything go great but frist words about meeting up fora social or play meet, get ghosted or block, it that not time wasting..
No. Unless you expect everyone you're chatting with to meet you. In which case I'd suggest you might want to readjust your expectations.
Yet another reason why I don't generally engage in "chat" with individuals. Invariably it's taken as some sort of commitment to meeting them
Well I try to live in the real world not cyberspace, meet people for chat and a coffee look like a thing off the past...."So I chat to you and you expect that I'll meet you. I do the same for every other person that wants to chat and they all expect the same. Can you see where this is going? It's neither realistic,possible nor sustainable. | |||
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"Attitudes like the one shown by the OP we would see as a major red flag tbh" In what way.. | |||
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"Attitudes like the one shown by the OP we would see as a major red flag tbh In what way.." The attitude that simply exchanging a few messages leads to some kind of obligation. | |||
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"Attitudes like the one shown by the OP we would see as a major red flag tbh In what way.." I opened this forum to debate what people see as at timewaster is..there are a lot of different options on it..so why single me out.. | |||
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"Attitudes like the one shown by the OP we would see as a major red flag tbh In what way.. I opened this forum to debate what people see as at timewaster is..there are a lot of different options on it..so why single me out.." I think you've achieved that all by yourself | |||
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"Attitudes like the one shown by the OP we would see as a major red flag tbh In what way.. I opened this forum to debate what people see as at timewaster is..there are a lot of different options on it..so why single me out.. I think you've achieved that all by yourself " Why because you don't want to see where in come from.. | |||
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"Attitudes like the one shown by the OP we would see as a major red flag tbh In what way.. I opened this forum to debate what people see as at timewaster is..there are a lot of different options on it..so why single me out.. I think you've achieved that all by yourself Why because you don't want to see where in come from.." On the contrary, I believe I see exactly where you are coming from. | |||
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"Exchanging a few messages with people does not mean they are obliged to follow up with a "coffee and chat". If they are not interested, move on. " Yes I understand that, but the point I am try you to get is if people doge the question about meeting, won't give a reply, but still want to chat, | |||
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"I don’t know, what some considers as “time wasted” is subjective surely. Do you feel like it’s time wasted by talking to people on the internet? If you do, then they are time wasters
You miss the point, when you want to meet in the real world you get nothing in return not a yes or a no..nothing the chat stops..."It takes two to tango Just because YOU want to meet doesn’t mean the other side does Perhaps if you considered the other parties point of view and what they want instead of just what you want, you might have more success | |||
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"Exchanging a few messages with people does not mean they are obliged to follow up with a "coffee and chat". If they are not interested, move on. Yes I understand that, but the point I am try you to get is if people doge the question about meeting, won't give a reply, but still want to chat, " Then choosing to pursue what they obviously don't want is wasting your own time. | |||
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"Exchanging a few messages with people does not mean they are obliged to follow up with a "coffee and chat". If they are not interested, move on. Yes I understand that, but the point I am try you to get is if people doge the question about meeting, won't give a reply, but still want to chat, " Then you make the call that you're not on the same page, and either withdraw from the chat or continue chatting accepting the fact that they don't want to meet you. | |||
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"Op I chat to a few people on here every now and then Nothing major ...usually just catching up or forum discussion...just small talk I've met nearly everyone that I chat to .....99% for coffee or at a social There's 2 couples that I'd love to meet for coffee that I chat too every now and then ....hopefully I'll meet them eventually but I wouldn't classify any conversation I've had on here as time wasting Its all good and part of fab life Hard to believe but you dont have to want to get into their knickers to chat to anyone " Nicely done  | |||
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