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By *amien9010 OP   Man
over a year ago

ashbourne

So with all the new sexuality and fluidity about,it’s going to make it difficult to make out the he’s from the She’s, the them from the they’s, the it’s from the single blokes pretending to be couples . Just a thought from an ageing he him horny single bloke with a devilish sense of humour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If in doubt, politely ask the person which pronoun they prefer to use. It's not difficult.

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By *arrot_in_a_boxCouple
over a year ago

kinda dublin


"If in doubt, politely ask the person which pronoun they prefer to use. It's not difficult. "

Ah, I don't think it's that simple. It's in the same ballpark as politely asking a woman if she's pregnant just because she is fat.

What happens when they get upset, thinking that she's so ugly that someone actualy confused her for a man.

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By *1shadesofnaughtyMan
over a year ago

South Limerick

Tipp/county

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By *exesrangerMan
over a year ago

North Cork

[Removed by poster at 21/09/23 16:20:41]

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By *exesrangerMan
over a year ago

North Cork

Is it popcorn time??.

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By *andy and ZukoCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"So with all the new sexuality and fluidity about,it’s going to make it difficult to make out the he’s from the She’s, the them from the they’s, the it’s from the single blokes pretending to be couples . Just a thought from an ageing he him horny single bloke with a devilish sense of humour "

Single blokes with couples profiles verifying themselves over and over

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"If in doubt, politely ask the person which pronoun they prefer to use. It's not difficult.

Ah, I don't think it's that simple. It's in the same ballpark as politely asking a woman if she's pregnant just because she is fat.

What happens when they get upset, thinking that she's so ugly that someone actualy confused her for a man.

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A good solution of you're unsure and uncomfortable asking is to introduce yourself alongside your pronouns and offer them the opportunity to do the same. Either that or just avoid gendering language completely unless absolutely necessary.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

Better to politely ask what they prefer rather than misgender in my experience.

It's generally acceptable to use they if talking about someone when your not sure.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

How about we go by our names cuts out any chance of someone getting offended.

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By *adger BrocMan
over a year ago

Co. Cork

Pat, Ger, Sam, Lou, Bobby, Jackie, Georgie, just a few of the gender ambiguous names in common use.

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By *arrot_in_a_boxCouple
over a year ago

kinda dublin


"If in doubt, politely ask the person which pronoun they prefer to use. It's not difficult.

Ah, I don't think it's that simple. It's in the same ballpark as politely asking a woman if she's pregnant just because she is fat.

What happens when they get upset, thinking that she's so ugly that someone actualy confused her for a man.

A good solution of you're unsure and uncomfortable asking is to introduce yourself alongside your pronouns and offer them the opportunity to do the same. Either that or just avoid gendering language completely unless absolutely necessary. "

I'm simply not going to introduce myself by my pronouns unless i'm directly asked. If someone is worried about being misgendered, then it's up to them to introduce themselves by their pronouns.

But if I'm unsure, yeah, I would just use their name to avoid the whole situation

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By *arrot_in_a_boxCouple
over a year ago

kinda dublin


"Better to politely ask what they prefer rather than misgender in my experience.

It's generally acceptable to use they if talking about someone when your not sure."

I dunno if it's better. If someone asked my mother if she was a man, it would ruin her Christmas

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By *amien9010 OP   Man
over a year ago

ashbourne

Some people taking this very seriously ??

I think the lunatics have taken over the asylum. Thankfully the disabled toilets are gender neutral lol

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By *arrot_in_a_boxCouple
over a year ago

kinda dublin


"Some people taking this very seriously ??

I think the lunatics have taken over the asylum. Thankfully the disabled toilets are gender neutral lol "

It'll be a cold day in hell when there's a gender neutral toilet in my household!

Haha

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West


"Better to politely ask what they prefer rather than misgender in my experience.

It's generally acceptable to use they if talking about someone when your not sure.

I dunno if it's better. If someone asked my mother if she was a man, it would ruin her Christmas "

She is Santa though right? Right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people taking this very seriously ??

I think the lunatics have taken over the asylum. Thankfully the disabled toilets are gender neutral lol "

The toilets are not disabled, the people who use them are.

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By *amien9010 OP   Man
over a year ago

ashbourne


"Some people taking this very seriously ??

I think the lunatics have taken over the asylum. Thankfully the disabled toilets are gender neutral lol

The toilets are not disabled, the people who use them are."

Very true but the word is challenged mea culpa but if it’s challenged anyone can use them. Back to square 1

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"If in doubt, politely ask the person which pronoun they prefer to use. It's not difficult.

Ah, I don't think it's that simple. It's in the same ballpark as politely asking a woman if she's pregnant just because she is fat.

What happens when they get upset, thinking that she's so ugly that someone actualy confused her for a man.

A good solution of you're unsure and uncomfortable asking is to introduce yourself alongside your pronouns and offer them the opportunity to do the same. Either that or just avoid gendering language completely unless absolutely necessary.

I'm simply not going to introduce myself by my pronouns unless i'm directly asked. If someone is worried about being misgendered, then it's up to them to introduce themselves by their pronouns.

But if I'm unsure, yeah, I would just use their name to avoid the whole situation "

If you go and read what I said again you'll see I was talking about how to potentially deal with not being comfortable asking someone how they like to be addressed. I wasn't talking about someone being worried about being misgendered... I was talking about how to respectfully find out how they like to be addressed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people don't mind being misgendered by accident in my experience, it's the deliberate shit that's bothersome

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West


"Most people don't mind being misgendered by accident in my experience, it's the deliberate shit that's bothersome "

Yep.

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By *amien9010 OP   Man
over a year ago

ashbourne

What I was really talking about was the fluid people and how they should identify on here hood you are all so pent up . Chill pills needed guys

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West


"What I was really talking about was the fluid people and how they should identify on here hood you are all so pent up . Chill pills needed guys "

The Genderqueer, non-binary and gender fluid people I know tend to go with they/them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see anyone pent up. I know I was just giving an honest - and hopefully informative - answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I was really talking about was the fluid people and how they should identify on here hood you are all so pent up . Chill pills needed guys "

Male, female, trans man or woman... I've met and talked to people with all of these identities and can understand their thoughts and feelings on all of them.

But non binary and gender fluid people who's gender can change literally hourly or daily, they should both come under the umbrella term of "attention seekers"

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By *emper-fudgeMan
over a year ago

Blackrock

I think the Australians have it best, just call everyone a Cunt

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

Me, you…..

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By *unnitoesWoman
over a year ago

Belfast


"So with all the new sexuality and fluidity about,it’s going to make it difficult to make out the he’s from the She’s, the them from the they’s, the it’s from the single blokes pretending to be couples . Just a thought from an ageing he him horny single bloke with a devilish sense of humour "

Definitely a personal pronoun nightmare! Btw, you don't need the apostrophes in your pronouns there, they are all just plurals

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