FabSwingers.com forum: Bullying

By *olverine OP Man
over a year ago

ennis

Is bullying a common practice on fab if someone doesn't agree with the majority views

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Can't say that it is common but it does happen now and again.

Then again what one person perceives as bullying another might see as dick measuring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can say never experienced it, but I hope it doesn't happen here as we are adults and looking and wanting the same thing,

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

If bullying is seeking to harm or coerce a person who is vunerable then no I have not seen that here.

I've seen pile ons

I've seen white knighting

I've seen flame wars (ask your parents kids)

I've seen shit posting

I've seen circlejerk

But I've not seen directly what I would consider bullying.

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By *rish_GuyMan
over a year ago

Foxford

Haven't seen any of it on here & don't want to either.

That said if someone feel it's happening to them. Don't be afraid to tell someone about it. Your not along, be that on here or in your normal life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep it goes on ok .

My first post here I had a couple of smart arses commenting, the usual keyboard warrior stuff.. Love to meet them in real life..see how brave they are, I was only looking info on meeting women and how to on this forum. Anyhow I more or less left the site,just felt it was full of thick cunts, it's not I know !! some nice people here ok actually.. . .lol

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By *otass and scorpioCouple
over a year ago

limerick cork tipperary clare waterford

Can’t say we’ve seen much bullying , but we have been accused of being homophobic because we prefer the men of the couples we meet to be straight … and have refused to meet some who weren’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can’t say we’ve seen much bullying , but we have been accused of being homophobic because we prefer the men of the couples we meet to be straight … and have refused to meet some who weren’t "

If yis hear of anyone bad mouthin me they might be telling the truth lol only messin

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By *igtasty121Man
over a year ago

Nowhere

Personal preferences are what this place is built on.. mad stuff

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By *otass and scorpioCouple
over a year ago

limerick cork tipperary clare waterford

"Can’t say we’ve seen much bullying , but we have been accused of being homophobic because we prefer the men of the couples we meet to be straight … and have refused to meet some who weren’t

If yis hear of anyone bad mouthin me they might be telling the truth lol only messin

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oh jeez we’ve heard terrible awful things , things we’d like to sexperience lol

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By *uicy_J66Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Never encountered any bullying just lots of sarcastic twats who think they are a bit superior

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can’t say we’ve seen much bullying , but we have been accused of being homophobic because we prefer the men of the couples we meet to be straight … and have refused to meet some who weren’t

If yis hear of anyone bad mouthin me they might be telling the truth lol only messin

oh jeez we’ve heard terrible awful things , things we’d like to sexperience lol "

Phew lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never encountered any bullying just lots of sarcastic twats who think they are a bit superior

This .. I just loves me banter and rugby

Nite all x lou

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By *otass and scorpioCouple
over a year ago

limerick cork tipperary clare waterford

"Never encountered any bullying just lots of sarcastic twats who think they are a bit superior

This .. I just loves me banter and rugby

Nite all x lou "
same here love the craic and banter , and rugby too !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never see bullying at all, only the usual fools with one of them passing a clickbait comment to trigger their team into action against people they don't agree with, but they do it in such a way as to not get a ban. I wouldn't term any of that bullying, just people being arsey because they have fuck all else going on in their life. Only happens in the Irish forums, which says a lot.

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By *eddybear37Man
over a year ago

everywhere kildare longford

OP can you define wat you class as bullying I have to disagree yes some ppl can be short and rude but as someone said we are all adults here for me if I receive a hurtful message it’s block and delete move on and for those who do send those messages there fab journey doesn’t usually go far

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By *ursecretmischiefCouple
over a year ago

The West

Seen lots of people get the piss ripped out of them alright!

Some take it to heart and some don't!

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

The definition of bullying often gets badly stretched here.

It's a subjective term in some ways so if you feel you're being bullied then maybe you are. There's probably a fine line between piss taking and bullying

I would like someone to explain to me exactly what constitutes bullying on this site though.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"The definition of bullying often gets badly stretched here.

It's a subjective term in some ways so if you feel you're being bullied then maybe you are. There's probably a fine line between piss taking and bullying

I would like someone to explain to me exactly what constitutes bullying on this site though. "

I think you can only talk of bullying if it's happening again and again over a stretch of time, kinda systematic.

What op is talking of is random fab mob picking, I wouldn't call it bullying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's also "cry bullying" where people's actions backfire on them and they then pretend to be the victim, not the instigator

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

Ballsbridge, City Centre

"Is bullying a common practice on fab if someone doesn't agree with the majority views "

I wouldn’t class it as bullying, I think it’s ppl used to being on their social media echo chambers where everyone shares their views and agrees with them and then their views meet the outside world. Ppl fundamentally disagreeing with you is not bullying

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By *ir Lance a CockMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Have seen a few posts about male profiles being rude and nasty to females if they dont reply straight away or if they wont meet. I tend to stay away from profiles with no pictures.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"The definition of bullying often gets badly stretched here.

It's a subjective term in some ways so if you feel you're being bullied then maybe you are. There's probably a fine line between piss taking and bullying

I would like someone to explain to me exactly what constitutes bullying on this site though.

I think you can only talk of bullying if it's happening again and again over a stretch of time, kinda systematic.

What op is talking of is random fab mob picking, I wouldn't call it bullying. "

I think you may be correct, and if so, it's a very important word being abused and demeaned yet again.

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By *andR2019Couple
over a year ago

Nunya

I’ve not seen any consistent bullying, however seen plenty of rudeness, belittling, white knighting, group piling on. All due to disagreements rather than any discord.

Yet that’s the way of the world, look at Facebook, twitter, instagram etc they’re all the same.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

If its in connection with the thread last week where you got called out then I wouldn't call it bullying

The women in question was very polite and gave her point of view which was completely different to your point of view

She didn't ask for a pile on and maybe you'll learn from it in the future

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

"There's also "cry bullying" where people's actions backfire on them and they then pretend to be the victim, not the instigator"

This. There is a clear demographic correlation between those feeling hard done by and those crying wolf.

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By *eddybear37Man
over a year ago

everywhere kildare longford

I totally agree with above posts

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Its rare enough to get someone consistently picked on.... it's usually just disagreements which are obviously fine

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By *TinyDelight-Woman
over a year ago

City Centre

"Is bullying a common practice on fab if someone doesn't agree with the majority views"

I actually enjoy the odd spanner being thrown in and enjoy the different opinions on a interesting topic being discussed. I always did see those who hold different views more interesting whether I agree with those views or not. Some are better at debating their point than others. It's not accepting a different point of view that causes friction. I don't see bullying but I can sense condescending behaviour at times. It's not attractive.

Some just throw in incendiary comments for the rise and that definitely adds flavour.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've had messages from people complaining that they were being victimised in particular forum threads and when I've gone and looked they hadn't even commented on those threads.

The obvious question then is how are you being victimised if you haven't posted?

The response has been that certain forumites shun them or hate them and are always having digs at them in various threads.

When I told them that if they live by the sword they will die by the sword I'm branded as "bad as those other bullies"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bullying unwanted negative behaviour, verbal, psychological or physical, conducted by an individual or group against another person (or persons) and which is repeated over time.

Don't think I've seen bullying here, yes I've seen posts been " attacked/commented/Ridiculed " on here by keyboard warriors by people who think their opinion is the right one. I've been on the receiving end of bitching on here but don't consider it bullying.

Take the majority of what happens here with a pinch of salt and follow your own path, there's 2 sides to a story often wires get crossed , stories are told and one person is believed over the other.

Sometimes it's just a matter of what someone posts is worded wrong and people read it differently.

And if anyone does feel their been bullied whether on here on in life, speak up, report it.

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By *eddybear37Man
over a year ago

everywhere kildare longford

Definitely take everything with pinch of salt

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By *angtasticallyMan
over a year ago

Drogheda

Can't say I've seen any form of bullying and those new words white Knighting lol theres probably lots of that..There probably clicks but that's OK to fab is fab

Ppl are here for there own reason

Maybe it's there inner self they need to look at and not others

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"Definitely take everything with pinch of salt "

Especially spuds.

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By *eddybear37Man
over a year ago

everywhere kildare longford

"Definitely take everything with pinch of salt

Especially spuds. "

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By *exy Saucy SocialsCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

"There's also "cry bullying" where people's actions backfire on them and they then pretend to be the victim, not the instigator"
This yes preech girl and they throw toys out of pram for rejection.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

"Can't say I've seen any form of bullying and those new words white Knighting lol theres probably lots of that..There probably clicks but that's OK to fab is fab

Ppl are here for there own reason

Maybe it's there inner self they need to look at and not others

Don't forget shitposting and circle jerk. Three are the cornerstones of every online community.

Other cornerstone's are all the very nice ones of course. But it's both that make it entertaining.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bullying, haven’t witnessed any.

People playing victim I see a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it's not commonplace

A majority disagreeing isn't bullying, nor is it necessarily a pile on despite it perhaps being perceived thus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of snide remarks which serve no purpose alright .. maybe it makes some people feel good about themselves.. but on a site like this it's always going to happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are definitely a lot of sly underhand remarks aimed at some people here. I've mentioned before the status updates aimed at a popular hotlist lady. Also another lady whose status updates were aimed at party ladies who were with "their man". These all were horrible for those involved. Notes are a great thing to help avoid the negative and bitchy people here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are definitely a lot of sly underhand remarks aimed at some people here. I've mentioned before the status updates aimed at a popular hotlist lady. Also another lady whose status updates were aimed at party ladies who were with "their man". These all were horrible for those involved. Notes are a great thing to help avoid the negative and bitchy people here. "

Yes it's all to easy on here due to the transient nature of the site ..

I guess the place works for people when they chat privately more so..its certainly very easy to see some of the long time verified people taking the piss in the cliques

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

Yes it's all to easy on here due to the transient nature of the site ..

I guess the place works for people when they chat privately more so..its certainly very easy to see some of the long time verified people taking the piss in the cliques "

Are you a member of the clique ?

Is there more than one clique?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No Michael of course I'm not...

It's just this subject has 43 replies in a short time...its clearly something lots have experienced.. Good thread

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

Ballsbridge, City Centre

Ah the cliques

The fab version of the illuminati/deep state

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

There is a term, bullying by exclusion which is fairly prevalent on fab as a whole where you encourage people to avoid others for all sorts of shallow reasons including lamppost pissing.

Anyone on here for any length of time will have been told at some stage not to talk to someone.

Most will dismiss it but it's just a more subtle form of bullying.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

As others have said I haven't seen bullying as such. Yes I've seen people disagreeing,yes I've seen pile ons in the forums especially towards men's posts. I've seen those who have stirred shite by the posts they put on then play the victim when people don't agree with them. I've seen digs at others and I've seen people voice their experiences on here and be told what they are saying is a dig as oppose to what has happened to them on here. But out and out bullying no I haven't seen it at least not on the forums.

Behind the scenes yes I've seen where people have been piled on and told to leave fab because they have been blacklisted by people who believe they have power on here. (it's one of the reasons I don't do groups as it's usually in these that crap like that happens).

Is that bullying ? Maybe it is,but you can only be bullied if you allow yourself to be. Especially on fab or any internet site. It's easier to ignore those,use the block button. Use notes to keep a record of those you want to avoid. And avoid falling into the drama and bull that happens on here.

People just disagreeing on the forums is not bullying though and it's a disservice to call it such.

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

I’ve experienced it first hand when I launched Flame Club Nights.

Not on fab itself but in group chats with the so called fab elite .

Intimidation , derogatory comments about me and my character , false allegations about me .

Also my several attempts to host flame in Dublin have been sabotaged .

At the time it was sh!t

I didn’t give it the air time .

Anybody that’s met me along the way knows I’m a straight talker . I don’t entertain bull sh!t .

I’m just here for a good time .

These people aren’t worth it .

I’m clearly living rent free in their heads lol.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

"There is a term, bullying by exclusion which is fairly prevalent on fab as a whole where you encourage people to avoid others for all sorts of shallow reasons including lamppost pissing.

Anyone on here for any length of time will have been told at some stage not to talk to someone.

Most will dismiss it but it's just a more subtle form of bullying. "

I've actually never been told not to talk to someone. I guess it's because I don't participate in group chats or messaging people about other people.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

"There is a term, bullying by exclusion which is fairly prevalent on fab as a whole where you encourage people to avoid others for all sorts of shallow reasons including lamppost pissing.

Anyone on here for any length of time will have been told at some stage not to talk to someone.

Most will dismiss it but it's just a more subtle form of bullying. "

Saying anything is prevalent on fab as a whole is a pretty sweeping generalisation IMO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is a term, bullying by exclusion which is fairly prevalent on fab as a whole where you encourage people to avoid others for all sorts of shallow reasons including lamppost pissing.

Anyone on here for any length of time will have been told at some stage not to talk to someone.

Most will dismiss it but it's just a more subtle form of bullying.

I've actually never been told not to talk to someone. I guess it's because I don't participate in group chats or messaging people about other people."

Nor have we, probably for exactly the same reasons

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"No Michael of course I'm not...

It's just this subject has 43 replies in a short time...its clearly something lots have experienced.. Good thread "

I don't know if you read all 43 replies but the vast majority appear to suggest it doesn't happen from what I've seen.

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"There is a term, bullying by exclusion which is fairly prevalent on fab as a whole where you encourage people to avoid others for all sorts of shallow reasons including lamppost pissing.

Anyone on here for any length of time will have been told at some stage not to talk to someone.

Most will dismiss it but it's just a more subtle form of bullying.

I've actually never been told not to talk to someone. I guess it's because I don't participate in group chats or messaging people about other people.

Nor have we, probably for exactly the same reasons"

Me neither.

Want to start a group chat about it?…..

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

I'm not sure we can say it doesn't happen... I'm sure it does. But it's certainly not rampant on the forums.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"There is a term, bullying by exclusion which is fairly prevalent on fab as a whole where you encourage people to avoid others for all sorts of shallow reasons including lamppost pissing.

Anyone on here for any length of time will have been told at some stage not to talk to someone.

Most will dismiss it but it's just a more subtle form of bullying.

I've actually never been told not to talk to someone. I guess it's because I don't participate in group chats or messaging people about other people."

I haven't been in a group chat in years but that didn't stop the messages warning me off people I engaged with in the forums and told how they were dangerous, hideous individuals and not how they appear.

I've even been sent facepics of other fabbers attached to messages saying you wouldn't want to meet her. Look at the state of her.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

The first woman I met on fab gave me a list of women who she considered poison. She hated everyone.

I shouldn't have been surprised that she ghosted me as soon as I met those people to make up my own mind.

They were all sound as it turns out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is a term, bullying by exclusion which is fairly prevalent on fab as a whole where you encourage people to avoid others for all sorts of shallow reasons including lamppost pissing.

Anyone on here for any length of time will have been told at some stage not to talk to someone.

Most will dismiss it but it's just a more subtle form of bullying.

I've actually never been told not to talk to someone. I guess it's because I don't participate in group chats or messaging people about other people.

Nor have we, probably for exactly the same reasons

Me neither.

Want to start a group chat about it?…..

Where we idly speculate as to who might be doing it and pass it on to anyone who will listen?

In!!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"There is a term, bullying by exclusion which is fairly prevalent on fab as a whole where you encourage people to avoid others for all sorts of shallow reasons including lamppost pissing.

Anyone on here for any length of time will have been told at some stage not to talk to someone.

Most will dismiss it but it's just a more subtle form of bullying.

Saying anything is prevalent on fab as a whole is a pretty sweeping generalisation IMO"

My comment is based on lots of previous forum comments from people more knowledgeable than I and more involved in the scene and every time a similar thread pops up someone will mention it.

Obviously some external chatgroups are renowned for it.

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"There is a term, bullying by exclusion which is fairly prevalent on fab as a whole where you encourage people to avoid others for all sorts of shallow reasons including lamppost pissing.

Anyone on here for any length of time will have been told at some stage not to talk to someone.

Most will dismiss it but it's just a more subtle form of bullying.

I've actually never been told not to talk to someone. I guess it's because I don't participate in group chats or messaging people about other people.

Nor have we, probably for exactly the same reasons

Me neither.

Want to start a group chat about it?…..

Where we idly speculate as to who might be doing it and pass it on to anyone who will listen?

In!!"

Well me could do that, but also boob pics, lots and lots of boob pics…..

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

I've actually never been told not to talk to someone. I guess it's because I don't participate in group chats or messaging people about other people.

I've even been sent facepics of other fabbers attached to messages saying you wouldn't want to meet her. Look at the state of her. "

I don't doubt your personal experience, or mine even. I doubt your exaggeration about how prevalent it is across the platform.

By your own admission you are not in chat groups, you don't sent messages and you don't do meets on fab.

That amounts to a pretty small sample size of anecdotal information.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is a term, bullying by exclusion which is fairly prevalent on fab as a whole where you encourage people to avoid others for all sorts of shallow reasons including lamppost pissing.

Anyone on here for any length of time will have been told at some stage not to talk to someone.

Most will dismiss it but it's just a more subtle form of bullying.

I've actually never been told not to talk to someone. I guess it's because I don't participate in group chats or messaging people about other people.

Nor have we, probably for exactly the same reasons

Me neither.

Want to start a group chat about it?…..

Where we idly speculate as to who might be doing it and pass it on to anyone who will listen?

In!!

Well me could do that, but also boob pics, lots and lots of boob pics…..

I only have my own, I'm afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No Michael of course I'm not...

It's just this subject has 43 replies in a short time...its clearly something lots have experienced.. Good thread

I don't know if you read all 43 replies but the vast majority appear to suggest it doesn't happen from what I've seen. "

Xxlalaxx has added first experience on it a few minutes ago .

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"There is a term, bullying by exclusion which is fairly prevalent on fab as a whole where you encourage people to avoid others for all sorts of shallow reasons including lamppost pissing.

Anyone on here for any length of time will have been told at some stage not to talk to someone.

Most will dismiss it but it's just a more subtle form of bullying.

I've actually never been told not to talk to someone. I guess it's because I don't participate in group chats or messaging people about other people.

Nor have we, probably for exactly the same reasons

Me neither.

Want to start a group chat about it?…..

Where we idly speculate as to who might be doing it and pass it on to anyone who will listen?

In!!

Well me could do that, but also boob pics, lots and lots of boob pics…..

I only have my own, I'm afraid"

Well in fairness, they would be a magnificent start……

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

Ballsbridge, City Centre

"There is a term, bullying by exclusion which is fairly prevalent on fab as a whole where you encourage people to avoid others for all sorts of shallow reasons including lamppost pissing.

Anyone on here for any length of time will have been told at some stage not to talk to someone.

Most will dismiss it but it's just a more subtle form of bullying.

I've actually never been told not to talk to someone. I guess it's because I don't participate in group chats or messaging people about other people.

Nor have we, probably for exactly the same reasons

Me neither.

Want to start a group chat about it?…..

Where we idly speculate as to who might be doing it and pass it on to anyone who will listen?

In!!

Well me could do that, but also boob pics, lots and lots of boob pics…..

I only have my own, I'm afraid"

And fantastic boobs they are

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

I want to be as smooth as _inden when I grow up

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"There is a term, bullying by exclusion which is fairly prevalent on fab as a whole where you encourage people to avoid others for all sorts of shallow reasons including lamppost pissing.

Anyone on here for any length of time will have been told at some stage not to talk to someone.

Most will dismiss it but it's just a more subtle form of bullying.

I've actually never been told not to talk to someone. I guess it's because I don't participate in group chats or messaging people about other people.

Nor have we, probably for exactly the same reasons

Me neither.

Want to start a group chat about it?…..

Where we idly speculate as to who might be doing it and pass it on to anyone who will listen?

In!!

Well me could do that, but also boob pics, lots and lots of boob pics…..

I only have my own, I'm afraid"

They're alright like...don't like to be in a boob clique

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've actually never been told not to talk to someone. I guess it's because I don't participate in group chats or messaging people about other people.

I've even been sent facepics of other fabbers attached to messages saying you wouldn't want to meet her. Look at the state of her.

I don't doubt your personal experience, or mine even. I doubt your exaggeration about how prevalent it is across the platform.

By your own admission you are not in chat groups, you don't sent messages and you don't do meets on fab.

That amounts to a pretty small sample size of anecdotal information."

I'm concede it may be a small sample size and maybe prevalent was a poor choice of words but I stand by the fact that it happens.

If someone who doesn't take part in groupchats and who's only involvement on the site is on the forums with no direct knowledge of all the goings on still somehow attracts warning messages from random women, what must it be like for those who are invested in all the drama?

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"I want to be as smooth as _inden when I grow up"

There’s nothing as smooth as a nice ice cream, quite delectable…….

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

I've actually never been told not to talk to someone. I guess it's because I don't participate in group chats or messaging people about other people.

I've even been sent facepics of other fabbers attached to messages saying you wouldn't want to meet her. Look at the state of her.

I don't doubt your personal experience, or mine even. I doubt your exaggeration about how prevalent it is across the platform.

By your own admission you are not in chat groups, you don't sent messages and you don't do meets on fab.

That amounts to a pretty small sample size of anecdotal information.

I'm concede it may be a small sample size and maybe prevalent was a poor choice of words but I stand by the fact that it happens.

I'd say that's a different question and subject to more speculation than I have info to be informed about.

Your not wrong about bitchy chat groups. They do exist but I believe it's a small subset of the general fab membership at best.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

"I want to be as smooth as _inden when I grow up

There’s nothing as smooth as a nice ice cream, quite delectable…….

Look at that. Effortless.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"I want to be as smooth as _inden when I grow up

There’s nothing as smooth as a nice ice cream, quite delectable…….

Look at that. Effortless. "

If you were an ice cream you'd lick yourself

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"No Michael of course I'm not...

It's just this subject has 43 replies in a short time...its clearly something lots have experienced.. Good thread

I don't know if you read all 43 replies but the vast majority appear to suggest it doesn't happen from what I've seen.

Xxlalaxx has added first experience on it a few minutes ago . "

And the first three words of the second sentence were “not on fab”…….

There’s no doubt it happens in one form or another to a greater or lesser degree, but obviously more than it should….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want to be as smooth as _inden when I grow up

There’s nothing as smooth as a nice ice cream, quite delectable…….

FYI I'd lick ya

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

"I want to be as smooth as _inden when I grow up

There’s nothing as smooth as a nice ice cream, quite delectable…….

Look at that. Effortless.

If you were an ice cream you'd lick yourself

Form a line please.

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By *oo32Man
over a year ago

tipperary

Hardly,difference of oponion,shit stirring

Then

You can always think.. would they say that if you were standing face to face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hardly,difference of oponion,shit stirring

Then

You can always think.. would they say that if you were standing face to face

99% of the time not a chance would they

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A difference in opinions can make good forum chats. Its just how you get your opinion across that makes the difference. Being rude condescending and bitter is not the way to go and usually signifies that there is something else going on in that persons life and are to be pitied.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"A difference in opinions can make good forum chats. Its just how you get your opinion across that makes the difference. Being rude condescending and bitter is not the way to go and usually signifies that there is something else going on in that persons life and are to be pitied. "

I'll take a pity shag if you're offering?

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

Anyway let’s focus on the positive things like all the good times with all the great people we’ve met through fab .

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

"Hardly,difference of oponion,shit stirring

Then

You can always think.. would they say that if you were standing face to face

I’d defo say it if I was in front of u

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

"Anyway let’s focus on the positive things like all the good times with all the great people we’ve met through fab . "

Sorry to hear you took flak for trying to spread a good vibe Lala

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"Anyway let’s focus on the positive things like all the good times with all the great people we’ve met through fab . "

And those still to meet….

Did ya like that ice cream man?…….

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

"Anyway let’s focus on the positive things like all the good times with all the great people we’ve met through fab .

And those still to meet….

Did ya like that ice cream man?…….

Im just sitting here with a notebook at this point.

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

"Anyway let’s focus on the positive things like all the good times with all the great people we’ve met through fab .

Sorry to hear you took flak for trying to spread a good vibe Lala"

Don’t be sorry mate it’s all good .

Everyday we learn things about ourselves and others.

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"Anyway let’s focus on the positive things like all the good times with all the great people we’ve met through fab .

And those still to meet….

Did ya like that ice cream man?…….

Im just sitting here with a notebook at this point."

Oh I don’t think you need any help, I’m just pushing the cringe element till Lala comes back and burns me again…..

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

"Anyway let’s focus on the positive things like all the good times with all the great people we’ve met through fab .

And those still to meet….

Did ya like that ice cream man?…….

Im just sitting here with a notebook at this point."

He’s smooth as f

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

"Anyway let’s focus on the positive things like all the good times with all the great people we’ve met through fab .

And those still to meet….

Did ya like that ice cream man?…….

Im just sitting here with a notebook at this point.

Oh I don’t think you need any help, I’m just pushing the cringe element till Lala comes back and burns me again…..

I was actually going to write something to that effect but I thought it more fun to watch Lala burn you solo

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

"Anyway let’s focus on the positive things like all the good times with all the great people we’ve met through fab .

And those still to meet….

Did ya like that ice cream man?…….

Im just sitting here with a notebook at this point.

Oh I don’t think you need any help, I’m just pushing the cringe element till Lala comes back and burns me again…..

I was actually going to write something to that effect but I thought it more fun to watch Lala burn you solo

You guys have got the wrong Impression of me

Thinkin I’m out here burning blokes for sport

Lolllllllllllll

YES I AMMMMMMM

BOW TO MY FEET BIATCHESSSS

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

I just automatically clench and get the Aloe Vera when I see Lala here….

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

Yes M’am……

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

"I just automatically clench and get the Aloe Vera when I see Lala here….

Why for the burns or anal ? Looooool

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

"Anyway let’s focus on the positive things like all the good times with all the great people we’ve met through fab .

And those still to meet….

Did ya like that ice cream man?…….

Im just sitting here with a notebook at this point.

Oh I don’t think you need any help, I’m just pushing the cringe element till Lala comes back and burns me again…..

I was actually going to write something to that effect but I thought it more fun to watch Lala burn you solo

You guys have got the wrong Impression of me

Thinkin I’m out here burning blokes for sport

Lolllllllllllll

YES I AMMMMMMM

BOW TO MY FEET BIATCHESSSS"

I'd definitely follow you into battle.

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

"Anyway let’s focus on the positive things like all the good times with all the great people we’ve met through fab .

And those still to meet….

Did ya like that ice cream man?…….

Im just sitting here with a notebook at this point.

Oh I don’t think you need any help, I’m just pushing the cringe element till Lala comes back and burns me again…..

I was actually going to write something to that effect but I thought it more fun to watch Lala burn you solo

You guys have got the wrong Impression of me

Thinkin I’m out here burning blokes for sport

Lolllllllllllll

YES I AMMMMMMM

BOW TO MY FEET BIATCHESSSS

I'd definitely follow you into battle."

I don’t engage in battles my lovely I’m just here for the friendly banter and endless anal opportunities.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

"Anyway let’s focus on the positive things like all the good times with all the great people we’ve met through fab .

And those still to meet….

Did ya like that ice cream man?…….

Im just sitting here with a notebook at this point.

Oh I don’t think you need any help, I’m just pushing the cringe element till Lala comes back and burns me again…..

I was actually going to write something to that effect but I thought it more fun to watch Lala burn you solo

You guys have got the wrong Impression of me

Thinkin I’m out here burning blokes for sport

Lolllllllllllll

YES I AMMMMMMM

BOW TO MY FEET BIATCHESSSS

I'd definitely follow you into battle.

I don’t engage in battles my lovely I’m just here for the friendly banter and endless anal opportunities. "

I'd follow you for the anal too in fairness

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"I just automatically clench and get the Aloe Vera when I see Lala here….

Why for the burns or anal ? Looooool"

Both?…….

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By *he zephyrCouple
over a year ago

The Sol

"Anyway let’s focus on the positive things like all the good times with all the great people we’ve met through fab .

And those still to meet….

Did ya like that ice cream man?…….

Im just sitting here with a notebook at this point.

Oh I don’t think you need any help, I’m just pushing the cringe element till Lala comes back and burns me again…..

I was actually going to write something to that effect but I thought it more fun to watch Lala burn you solo

You guys have got the wrong Impression of me

Thinkin I’m out here burning blokes for sport

Lolllllllllllll

YES I AMMMMMMM

BOW TO MY FEET BIATCHESSSS

I'd definitely follow you into battle.

I don’t engage in battles my lovely I’m just here for the friendly banter and endless anal opportunities.

I'd follow you for the anal too in fairness "

You 3 are cracking me up

What a beautiful lust-fest

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

You 3 are cracking me up

What a beautiful lust-fest

We’re trying to start a clique, and we’re going to call it, “I’d ride you into battle”, Aloe Vera not included……

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By *ushin realityCouple
over a year ago

swords

I've actually never been told not to talk to someone. I guess it's because I don't participate in group chats or messaging people about other people.

I've even been sent facepics of other fabbers attached to messages saying you wouldn't want to meet her. Look at the state of her.

I don't doubt your personal experience, or mine even. I doubt your exaggeration about how prevalent it is across the platform.

By your own admission you are not in chat groups, you don't sent messages and you don't do meets on fab.

That amounts to a pretty small sample size of anecdotal information.

I'm concede it may be a small sample size and maybe prevalent was a poor choice of words but I stand by the fact that it happens.

I'd say that's a different question and subject to more speculation than I have info to be informed about.

Your not wrong about bitchy chat groups. They do exist but I believe it's a small subset of the general fab membership at best."
but your a great addition to our group

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By *eeisbackMan
over a year ago

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Depends on ur term of bullying. I would say theres belittling and rudeness and people who look down on others and think there above or superior to others. I think its not only fab though its modern day life like I think when its done to kids its unacceptable but when its down between adults its seen as ok and its expected that you just get over it.

9 times out of 10 anyone who’s putting someone down or being part of a group who think there superior to the rest and belittles as group and joins forces to back each other up are lacking something in there life and use it to compensate for that.

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

"Depends on ur term of bullying. I would say theres belittling and rudeness and people who look down on others and think there above or superior to others. I think its not only fab though its modern day life like I think when its done to kids its unacceptable but when its down between adults its seen as ok and its expected that you just get over it.

And that’s it right there

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

You 3 are cracking me up

What a beautiful lust-fest

We’re trying to start a clique, and we’re going to call it, “I’d ride you into battle”, Aloe Vera not included……

Our battle cry will be Anal for All!

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

I genuinely don't see this is as something that happens regularly or is part of the culture of fab.

Everything else has already been said better then I can say it.

I'd wager that drama levels on Mumsnet would make even our most provactive members look like shrinking violets

Go hang out on Reddit for a while if you want see what it's like when that kind of behaviour is unchecked.

Fab, in general, is sound. Unless your a creep and then there is no mercy.

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By *olverine OP Man
over a year ago

ennis

I genuinely don't see this is as something that happens regularly or is part of the culture of fab.

Everything else has already been said better then I can say it.

I'd wager that drama levels on Mumsnet would make even our most provactive members look like shrinking violets

Go hang out on Reddit for a while if you want see what it's like when that kind of behaviour is unchecked.

Fab, in general, is sound. Unless your a creep and then there is no mercy."

What do you mean by no mercy...

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

You 3 are cracking me up

What a beautiful lust-fest

We’re trying to start a clique, and we’re going to call it, “I’d ride you into battle”, Aloe Vera not included……

Our battle cry will be Anal for All!"

All?…..

Ok…..

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By *unnerbenMan
over a year ago

Dublin / Cork

I haven’t seen bullying myself . As previous ppl have said though I have experienced people being very rude and insulting and just being nasty and assholes for no reason other than being assholes . I have been abused but I don’t think it’s bullying . It’s just them showing their true selfs .

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

Fab, in general, is sound. Unless your a creep and then there is no mercy.

What do you mean by no mercy..."

Creeps are not tolerated and they are reported. People talk to each other and mind each other.

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By *adger BrocMan
over a year ago

Co. Cork

"There is a term, bullying by exclusion which is fairly prevalent on fab as a whole where you encourage people to avoid others for all sorts of shallow reasons including lamppost pissing.

Anyone on here for any length of time will have been told at some stage not to talk to someone.

Most will dismiss it but it's just a more subtle form of bullying. "

.............

Ah...........and there was I thinking people stopped chatting, blocked or ghosted me because they thought I was "not their type". Would never have guessed that they were operating under instructions from some Fab overlord/lady.

Bullying by proxy.

It may be possible to badger a bully but it's definitely not possible to bully a badger.

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By *astelloWoman
over a year ago

Far far away

My experience has been mixed. Whilst I have met lovely social welcoming people at events. I have seen some snide and belittling comments through the forums. I guess keyboard warriors are everywhere and you will be nature always get counter views. No problem in healthy debate on a topic, but insidious directed comments with no value I deplore.

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By *olverine OP Man
over a year ago

ennis

Fab, in general, is sound. Unless your a creep and then there is no mercy.

What do you mean by no mercy...

Creeps are not tolerated and they are reported. People talk to each other and mind each other. "

And what about if one person wants to blacklist someone and tell lies about them is that tolerated is that minding each ,very easy for someone who thinks thay above someone with big circle of friends to make shit of someone...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been on fab a long time, throughout I would say yes I have seen on the forums what I class as school ground bullying. Cliques,groups pinpointing and targeting individuals. However its not something iv seen in recent years.

I personally have received some private messages because of my own personal preferences and my opinions albeit I wouldn't waste my energy on keyboard warriors however I can see how some people may feel bullied by such. I wouldn't waste my time or lose sleep over complete strangers

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By *ursecretmischiefCouple
over a year ago

The West

I have to be honest, lads. I do get slightly amused by the paranoia some people have on here. It could even be construed as arrogant.

There is no big group, constantly following your every move trying to ruin your time on Fab!

Are people being too sensitive, even a bit childish? It's just a random forum on the Internet, that most people don't even know exists.

"Why so serious!"?

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Fab, in general, is sound. Unless your a creep and then there is no mercy.

What do you mean by no mercy...

Creeps are not tolerated and they are reported. People talk to each other and mind each other.

I'd say there's a fair amount of cock and pussy blocking going on behind the scene.

Also what defines a 'creep'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have to be honest, lads. I do get slightly amused by the paranoia some people have on here. It could even be construed as arrogant.

There is no big group, constantly following your every move trying to ruin your time on Fab!

Are people being too sensitive, even a bit childish? It's just a random forum on the Internet, that most people don't even know exists.

"Why so serious!"?"

Funnily enough, when people look for drama they tend to find it

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By *ildarekinkstersCouple
over a year ago

kinkytown

"I have to be honest, lads. I do get slightly amused by the paranoia some people have on here. It could even be construed as arrogant.

There is no big group, constantly following your every move trying to ruin your time on Fab!

Are people being too sensitive, even a bit childish? It's just a random forum on the Internet, that most people don't even know exists.

"Why so serious!"?"

Big group? No but there are individuals who will take issue with others and go out of their way to badmouth them and make up stories about others. I've seen it myself in person in a past incarnation here. Myself and Dee have been on the receiving end of these individuals and their drama productions. It's not pleasant.

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By *ursecretmischiefCouple
over a year ago

The West

"I have to be honest, lads. I do get slightly amused by the paranoia some people have on here. It could even be construed as arrogant.

There is no big group, constantly following your every move trying to ruin your time on Fab!

Are people being too sensitive, even a bit childish? It's just a random forum on the Internet, that most people don't even know exists.

"Why so serious!"?

Funnily enough, when people look for drama they tend to find it"

"No drama, just here for fun"

....while actively seeking out as much drama as they possibly can. They love it!

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By *ursecretmischiefCouple
over a year ago

The West

"I have to be honest, lads. I do get slightly amused by the paranoia some people have on here. It could even be construed as arrogant.

There is no big group, constantly following your every move trying to ruin your time on Fab!

Are people being too sensitive, even a bit childish? It's just a random forum on the Internet, that most people don't even know exists.

"Why so serious!"?

People do that all time in the "real world". That's the drama they seek out!

Ita just a few gossipers in their village. It only really matters if you give a shit for their opinions!

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By *ildarekinkstersCouple
over a year ago

kinkytown

"I have to be honest, lads. I do get slightly amused by the paranoia some people have on here. It could even be construed as arrogant.

There is no big group, constantly following your every move trying to ruin your time on Fab!

Are people being too sensitive, even a bit childish? It's just a random forum on the Internet, that most people don't even know exists.

"Why so serious!"?

People do that all time in the "real world". That's the drama they seek out!

Ita just a few gossipers in their village. It only really matters if you give a shit for their opinions!"

True to an extent. Sometimes it does leak into the real world though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When issues being discussed are divisive, some people might think they are being picked on;if the majority don't agree with them. This is just life. If everyone agreed on everything it would be pretty freaking boring. In saying this , having an unpopular opinion is pretty normal for some people, being rude is too, bullying isn't , people call it out as soon as they see it.

That's what I see here anyway ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the gossiping and batching on here is more worrying

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

Just the once I felt hard done by when I dared to praise Bono and fell foul of a rather nasty backlash.

My God people here hate him with a passion. The usual begrudgery!

I still think he's great

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By *he zephyrCouple
over a year ago

The Sol

Fab, in general, is sound. Unless your a creep and then there is no mercy.

What do you mean by no mercy...

Creeps are not tolerated and they are reported. People talk to each other and mind each other.

Sounds like you fell out with someone, and it seems like they are turning their friends against you. Sounds like they were never your friends, whatever you thought. Fab is a bit harsh like that. Block them all and move on. Find the rides elsewhere

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over a year ago

"Just the once I felt hard done by when I dared to praise Bono and fell foul of a rather nasty backlash.

My God people here hate him with a passion. The usual begrudgery!

I still think he's great

Ah you're alright like, Bono is still a prick though

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"Just the once I felt hard done by when I dared to praise Bono and fell foul of a rather nasty backlash.

My God people here hate him with a passion. The usual begrudgery!

I still think he's great

Love the man.....genuinely nice bloke

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

Ballsbridge, City Centre

"Just the once I felt hard done by when I dared to praise Bono and fell foul of a rather nasty backlash.

My God people here hate him with a passion. The usual begrudgery!

I still think he's great

BONO!!!!!

GREAT?!!!??

Where’s the block button…..

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By *ursecretmischiefCouple
over a year ago

The West

"Just the once I felt hard done by when I dared to praise Bono and fell foul of a rather nasty backlash.

My God people here hate him with a passion. The usual begrudgery!

I still think he's great

It's usually the civil servants that don't like Bono, all that tax should be giving them pay rises!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just the once I felt hard done by when I dared to praise Bono and fell foul of a rather nasty backlash.

My God people here hate him with a passion. The usual begrudgery!

I still think he's great

It's usually the civil servants that don't like Bono, all that tax should be giving them pay rises!!!"

I'm a civil servant and didn't like bono long before I was a civil servant. Oh and the pay rises don't make much odds to the normal civil servants

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By *adger BrocMan
over a year ago

Co. Cork

I have used username search but cant find a Bono. He must have his profile hidden. If I met him I wouldn't know him from Adam. I hope you are not on Edge while Mullin that over.

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By *leasurer77Man
over a year ago

Athlone

"Never encountered any bullying just lots of sarcastic twats who think they are a bit superior

You hit the nail on the head!

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By *leasurer77Man
over a year ago

Athlone

"The first woman I met on fab gave me a list of women who she considered poison. She hated everyone.

I shouldn't have been surprised that she ghosted me as soon as I met those people to make up my own mind.

They were all sound as it turns out.

Possibly enjoyed your company and wanted you to herself. Maybe a shit way to go about it but it does happen.

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By *leasurer77Man
over a year ago

Athlone

"Hardly,difference of oponion,shit stirring

Then

You can always think.. would they say that if you were standing face to face

99% of the time not a chance would they"

Could be a great idea for a social, like the organised white collar boxing events. Fab white collar boxing.

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By *leasurer77Man
over a year ago

Athlone

"I haven’t seen bullying myself . As previous ppl have said though I have experienced people being very rude and insulting and just being nasty and assholes for no reason other than being assholes . I have been abused but I don’t think it’s bullying . It’s just them showing their true selfs . "

Could be an Arsenal thing!

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"Just the once I felt hard done by when I dared to praise Bono and fell foul of a rather nasty backlash.

My God people here hate him with a passion. The usual begrudgery!

I still think he's great

Ah you're alright like, Bono is still a prick though "

Oh wow you know him personally! Lucky duck

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"Just the once I felt hard done by when I dared to praise Bono and fell foul of a rather nasty backlash.

My God people here hate him with a passion. The usual begrudgery!

I still think he's great

BONO!!!!!

GREAT?!!!??

Where’s the block button….."

Fire away but remember I'll no longer be able to send you hangover nudes every Sunday morning

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

Fab, in general, is sound. Unless your a creep and then there is no mercy.

What do you mean by no mercy...

Creeps are not tolerated and they are reported. People talk to each other and mind each other.

I have had this experience. And the woman I described my experience with above did exactly that. She is a long established, respected swinger and after she ghosted me she started to tell people not to meet me.

I can only answer your question in respect of my own experience and I would say that if someone does that to you and you are a man in good standing in the community then it shouldn't matter. It still feels pretty shitty but at the end of the day what I learned is all that matters on here is that the people who's trust you have gained and given are not going to turn you away because one person has taken it upon themselves to try fuck your shit up.

People know there are two sides to every story and sensible people stay out of both and rely on their own judgement.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

Fab, in general, is sound. Unless your a creep and then there is no mercy.

What do you mean by no mercy...

Creeps are not tolerated and they are reported. People talk to each other and mind each other.

People know there are two sides to every story and sensible people stay out of both and rely on their own judgement."

Absolutely

We had 'hints' not to meet a guy and were unfriended/blocked aftetwards for meeting him.

We make up our own minds on people when we meet them.

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By *ursecretmischiefCouple
over a year ago

The West

Absolutely

We had 'hints' not to meet a guy and were unfriended/blocked aftetwards for meeting him.

We make up our own minds on people when we meet them."

Definitely, We have had someone warn us of a particularly dodgy individual and how he had threatened them. We would deem them trustworthy, and would heed their advice! But in general, we'd row our own boat.

Have also seen a few profiles stating they won't meet people who have met a certain profile or been to certain events, socials or parties! We wouldn't give them a second thought!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've never been warned against anyone. We have had people attempt to draw us into gossip about others - this activity immediately makes that person a non-runner for us. These are often the people who are sweet as pie on the forum - too sweet to be wholesome

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By *rAndMrsRightCouple
over a year ago

newtownabbey

When I was brand new on the scene, a well known and well established woman who I didn't even know existed started telling people that I'm a pr0s titute. On top of that back in the day people were able to create a bogus profile, message someone then delete profile and message would still stay in the receivers inbox.

I was receiving very nasty messages from deleted profiles on a weekly basis at the same time as that woman's poisonous rumours were being spread around the community.

People treated me weirdly and I didn't know why.

Fast forward a few months - someone even created a profile using my photos on a site where ladies sell sexual favours. Thankfully some kind souls spotted it and were kind enough to let me know about it so I could contact that sites admins to take it down.

There still are people who are told that I used to be a lady of the night to this day.

So much for working 70+ hour weeks in jobs that don't require one to get naked and doesn't involve sexual favours for over 13 years to progress my actual career.

That woman has been known to be extremely dramatic and manipulative. She didn't just hurt me, but a lot more women who happened to fall into her circle while pretending to be their best friend.

Aside from that little circle of the serpent queen herself and her blind worshippers I haven't really seen any bullying on fab.

Do some people disagree? Yes

Do they exchange words? Yes

Is it systematic? No

Is stuff directed towards anyone in particular? No

Just my personal point of view

Missus

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"We've never been warned against anyone. We have had people attempt to draw us into gossip about others - this activity immediately makes that person a non-runner for us. These are often the people who are sweet as pie on the forum - too sweet to be wholesome "

If you feel left out getting warnings just join one of those fab famous chat groups or a clique.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you feel left out getting warnings just join one of those fab famous chat groups or a clique.

We're very happy in our own exclusive clique of two thanks

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Ive been unfriended and blocked by women on here because I'm friends with someone else

Imagine sending an adult a message to say you can't be friends with her or I'll block you and then still chatting to them on the forums

I've spoken to women at socials who are all polite to me and then have found out afterwards that they send threats to other men saying they'll get them black listed from socials

So if someone feels bullied it must be a horrible experience and if it happens on the forums then hopefully its called out

I know years ago someone fucked me out of it on a thread and 2 decent men that are still on here had a go at him and he was removed from the site

I'd like to think there's still enough people on here that would do the same for anyone

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"I'd say there's a fair amount of cock and pussy blocking going on behind the scene "

That explains a lot……

Bastards….

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By *panishRebelMan
over a year ago

Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland

Fortunately as a relative new comer I have seen non of this bullshit bullying.

Can happen anywhere.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

"Just the once I felt hard done by when I dared to praise Bono and fell foul of a rather nasty backlash.

My God people here hate him with a passion. The usual begrudgery!

I still think he's great

BONO!!!!!

GREAT?!!!??

Where’s the block button…..

Fire away but remember I'll no longer be able to send you hangover nudes every Sunday morning

Wait what? What kind of clique is this!?

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"Just the once I felt hard done by when I dared to praise Bono and fell foul of a rather nasty backlash.

My God people here hate him with a passion. The usual begrudgery!

I still think he's great

BONO!!!!!

GREAT?!!!??

Where’s the block button…..

Fire away but remember I'll no longer be able to send you hangover nudes every Sunday morning

Wait what? What kind of clique is this!?"

I'm sure he appreciated the pics of James while they lasted

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By *adger BrocMan
over a year ago

Co. Cork

"Ive been unfriended and blocked by women on here because I'm friends with someone else

Imagine sending an adult a message to say you can't be friends with her or I'll block you and then still chatting to them on the forums

I've spoken to women at socials who are all polite to me and then have found out afterwards that they send threats to other men saying they'll get them black listed from socials

So if someone feels bullied it must be a horrible experience and if it happens on the forums then hopefully its called out

I know years ago someone fucked me out of it on a thread and 2 decent men that are still on here had a go at him and he was removed from the site

I'd like to think there's still enough people on here that would do the same for anyone "

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"Just the once I felt hard done by when I dared to praise Bono and fell foul of a rather nasty backlash.

My God people here hate him with a passion. The usual begrudgery!

I still think he's great

BONO!!!!!

GREAT?!!!??

Where’s the block button…..

Fire away but remember I'll no longer be able to send you hangover nudes every Sunday morning

Wait what? What kind of clique is this!?"

The magical kind

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By *oo32Man
over a year ago

tipperary

"Hardly,difference of oponion,shit stirring

Then

You can always think.. would they say that if you were standing face to face

99% of the time not a chance would they"

They def wouldn't

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