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By *astello OP   Woman
over a year ago

Far far away

Does it exist?

Have you experienced it?

What does mid life mean you?

Is it a crisis, a period of reflection or change or merely a token statement that people make.

Thoughts

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By *ilverjayMan
over a year ago

Meath

I think I'm goin through it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I'm goin through it"
...Same!

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By *aidRXTV/TS
over a year ago

ashbourne

I honestly think its the period in your life when you realise your mortality or that life is short and you begin to reflect or action things that you dont want to later regret not doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m ok anyway I think

I never use just for men

Always drove a motorbike

Always had my nipples pierced

Always had a lions head tattoo on my back

Maybe there is something going on

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

I've definitely hit mine but more like a 2/3 life crisis

I've always wanted to go to America and disappointed when I couldn't go for my 40th

So after 18yrs of regret I'm going to Vegas next month to see U2 in The Sphere

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West


"I've definitely hit mine but more like a 2/3 life crisis

I've always wanted to go to America and disappointed when I couldn't go for my 40th

So after 18yrs of regret I'm going to Vegas next month to see U2 in The Sphere

"

Living your best life!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Never had a crisis but had some life changing experiences just before turning 50.

No renewal involved because that infers having something in the first place.

The period of reflection lasted a full 10 years prior to that.

I'm the same person I was before but with add-ons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hitting fifty certainly changed my perspective, time running out; a rush to tick boxes on my bucket list and such.

If that's a midlife crisis, then yeah.

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By *rish_GuyMan
over a year ago

Foxford


"Does it exist?

Have you experienced it?

What does mid life mean you?

Is it a crisis, a period of reflection or change or merely a token statement that people make.

Thoughts

"

I believe it does alright. I think some people are better at not showing it to everybody(for some reason).

I personally don't think I'm going through it, right now. Others might think otherwise with me being on here.

I personally wouldn't call it a crisis of any kind. More like have a reflection of your life. Have a think of anything that you haven't done yet. But you want to do it & can do it aswell. Maybe there's something you'd like to change in your life before now & you do it aswell, if possible for you.

What about yourself OP?

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By *1shadesofnaughtyMan
over a year ago

South Limerick

I have the need to buy an s2000 is that a crisis?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At 45 years of age I can’t see myself living to 90, something tells me I’m past the mid life crisis stage!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly I think it’s more of a change of mindset. There’s still things you want to do or try, but instead of putting them of you just do it.

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

Belfast


"I've definitely hit mine but more like a 2/3 life crisis

I've always wanted to go to America and disappointed when I couldn't go for my 40th

So after 18yrs of regret I'm going to Vegas next month to see U2 in The Sphere

"

Sounds like a beautiful day….

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By *he zephyrCouple
over a year ago

The Sol

For me it definitely happened, but it was as to avoid a crisis, or at least to try and have a controlled landing lol.

I was happy out at turning 40, but I realised soon after that my energy wasn't the same. I was constantly exhausted.

Cue stock-take.

I had a look at where my energy was going, prioritised and made big changes from there....

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By *astello OP   Woman
over a year ago

Far far away


"I honestly think its the period in your life when you realise your mortality or that life is short and you begin to reflect or action things that you dont want to later regret not doing.

"

This seems to be a common theme of looking at your own mortality. Perhaps Covid also made people more introspective..

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By *astello OP   Woman
over a year ago

Far far away

A few major life events happened to me in the past few years. To make me question many aspects of my life.

To consider whats makes life flourish or fester. What brings joy or sadness. Its be quite cathartic when you become introspective. I wouldn't call it a crisis per se but others may...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've definitely hit mine but more like a 2/3 life crisis

I've always wanted to go to America and disappointed when I couldn't go for my 40th

So after 18yrs of regret I'm going to Vegas next month to see U2 in The Sphere

"

Jesus that’s brilliant enjoy every bit of it

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By *ildarekinkstersCouple
over a year ago

kinkytown

Haven't had one in the family thankfully but my old boss had one. Bought a souped up car, got hair implants and a few other things. Had to get rid of the car though as his wife wouldn't be in it with him. He was fairly henpecked

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West


"Haven't had one in the family thankfully but my old boss had one. Bought a souped up car, got hair implants and a few other things. Had to get rid of the car though as his wife wouldn't be in it with him. He was fairly henpecked "

My heart goes out to him. The defeat of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Covid made everyone think twice I personally have had an amazing life so far thanks to both of us

You’d have to ask herself for her response but a friend asked me once do you have a bucket list and I said no I think I’ve been lucky in life don’t have a huge house or anything nor fast cars

But what I do have is a great family that I’m proud of

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By *ildarekinkstersCouple
over a year ago

kinkytown


"Haven't had one in the family thankfully but my old boss had one. Bought a souped up car, got hair implants and a few other things. Had to get rid of the car though as his wife wouldn't be in it with him. He was fairly henpecked

My heart goes out to him. The defeat of it."

Mine didn't. He was a dickhead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haven't had one in the family thankfully but my old boss had one. Bought a souped up car, got hair implants and a few other things. Had to get rid of the car though as his wife wouldn't be in it with him. He was fairly henpecked

My heart goes out to him. The defeat of it.

Mine didn't. He was a dickhead "

Haha they usually are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know when I'm going to die, so I've decided to have an ongoing crisis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I’m in the middle of mine, made changes to my life style, got fit again, started lifting weights again and even started playing competitive rugby again. I think the driving force is a fear of being weak and frail later in my life. I consider this my mid life crisis and hope the math is right and that I’m only half way there.

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By *TinyDelight-Woman
over a year ago

City Centre

I don't do adulting, I'm a mermaid

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By *ickin2Man
over a year ago

Kilkenny


"I don't do adulting, I'm a mermaid "

Would be nice to meet with a mermaid but we do change. At 30 it was raising a family. At 40 it was college fees, rag week and conferring. Now I'm looking at 60 and somewhere in the middle of all of that my wife lost all interest in sex. Changed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This year, a death of a family member who was close in age to me, really made me think about my own mortality.

My new mantra is to be dulu about everything and enjoy every moment I can.

None of us are getting out alive and in 100 years time no one will remember me.

So I say fuck it and do it for the plot!

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By *herry...Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere


"I have the need to buy an s2000 is that a crisis?"

Absolutely not!! It's a necessity

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin


"I’m ok anyway I think

I never use just for men

Always drove a motorbike

Always had my nipples pierced

Always had a lions head tattoo on my back

Maybe there is something going on"

Well Lisa, you never know……

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By *ickin2Man
over a year ago

Kilkenny


"I have the need to buy an s2000 is that a crisis?

Absolutely not!! It's a necessity "
It takes 2 to tango and every second should be enjoyed to the fullest. It is really really beautiful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m ok anyway I think

I never use just for men

Always drove a motorbike

Always had my nipples pierced

Always had a lions head tattoo on my back

Maybe there is something going on

Well Lisa, you never know…… "

Haha I asked her to read what I posted she was having a time out bar with a cup of tea at the time

She just turned and said go way ya langer you don’t have any of them

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By *adger BrocMan
over a year ago

Co. Cork

Had my midlife blip in my early 40's. Recognized it for what it was and worked to get through it. Came out the other side with a strong desire to seize the day and live life to the full.

Carpe diem. You only live once.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have the need to buy an s2000 is that a crisis?

Absolutely not!! It's a necessity It takes 2 to tango and every second should be enjoyed to the fullest. It is really really beautiful "

You won't lose money on it so why not?

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

I was congratulated on my 30th birthday for reaching middle age by a colleague, apparently my lifestyle at the time wasn’t conducive to even reaching 60……

Crises is a very strong word, I think it’s more a period in time when you have the combination of the feeling that you’re still young enough, and the life experience of how to enjoy it, the more important question for me is how long it lasts, forever I hope, I love it……

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By *orYourThighsOnlyMan
over a year ago

Midlands


"Does it exist?

Have you experienced it?

What does mid life mean you?

Is it a crisis, a period of reflection or change or merely a token statement that people make.

Thoughts

"

I don’t think it means a crisis. It’s just you wise up. Look back over trivial stuff that annoyed you and you laugh at the bit of it you can remember. You reflect every 10 years. Age 10,20,30, 40 etc and focus on the stuff you can change and to hell with the rest. The body changes- you get more hair on your ass than on top of your head and a bit less tough. But it also spurs you on to force you to work harder and get yourself in better shape mentally and physically.

Once you follow your passion everything else slots into place. Everyone is replaceable life carry’s on. Do what brings you joy (including fab lol).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was congratulated on my 30th birthday for reaching middle age by a colleague, apparently my lifestyle at the time wasn’t conducive to even reaching 60……

Crises is a very strong word, I think it’s more a period in time when you have the combination of the feeling that you’re still young enough, and the life experience of how to enjoy it, the more important question for me is how long it lasts, forever I hope, I love it…… "

Enjoy how ever you choose we only get one shot

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By *ushin realityCouple
over a year ago

swords

Covid,plus menopause plus mid life crisis,I've had an few interesting yrs so far

Joined Fab

4 new Tattoos

Blonde blonde hair

Definitely the loss of close people in my life gave me the courage to change and start to live a life I always wanted to explore instead of pleasing others.The thought of been on my death bed and regretting not living life to its fullest was the final push.i want to be the old lady shocking all around with mad stories of what I did lol

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By *anandJCouple
over a year ago

Citywest

From the Greek “krinein” - meaning decision. Often understood as turing point. That’s how it got me… time when one realise that till now he used to live in accordance to social norms etc. and turned to live according to himself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Covid,plus menopause plus mid life crisis,I've had an few interesting yrs so far

Joined Fab

4 new Tattoos

Blonde blonde hair

Definitely the loss of close people in my life gave me the courage to change and start to live a life I always wanted to explore instead of pleasing others.The thought of been on my death bed and regretting not living life to its fullest was the final push.i want to be the old lady shocking all around with mad stories of what I did lol"

Much the same for us Lisa joined fab a while back with the intention of fulfilling what she now wants to try

Life is too short we intend to enjoy every minute with each other and for herself to try things that she never got the chance to try till now

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By *rish_GuyMan
over a year ago

Foxford


"Does it exist?

Have you experienced it?

What does mid life mean you?

Is it a crisis, a period of reflection or change or merely a token statement that people make.

Thoughts

I believe it does alright. I think some people are better at not showing it to everybody(for some reason).

I personally don't think I'm going through it, right now. Others might think otherwise with me being on here.

I personally wouldn't call it a crisis of any kind. More like have a reflection of your life. Have a think of anything that you haven't done yet. But you want to do it & can do it aswell. Maybe there's something you'd like to change in your life before now & you do it aswell, if possible for you.

What about yourself OP?

"

A continuation from me on me.

I was NEVER able to build a life(so to speak) for myself. As like where I wanted to be in (X) No of year's time, ie job, house etc. As anytime I tried to think like that it'd all go to shit. Whatever age I was or am, as it's not far from happening again to me. I'm VERY slowly trying to build a life for meself still. It'll either start falling into place(at last) or fall apart & go to shit again . Time will tell eitherway. I believe that I've less day's in front of me from now on. It's just trying to make them better for me, in someway, if possible. I also believe that some people wouldn't go through the mid life crisis, as they've been fitting for so long, trying to get things sorted. That it wouldn't affect them at all, as they'll have spend most if not all of they're life fitting to get thing's together for them, so to speak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the 13th of September I had to turn on heating ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's the 13th of September I had to turn on heating .. "

Fuck’n hell Lou if I turn on the heating I’m dead she’ll fuck me out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's the 13th of September I had to turn on heating ..

Fuck’n hell Lou if I turn on the heating I’m dead she’ll fuck me out"

Honest to god its raining out dark and its freezin .. I swear I've the heating on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Covid,plus menopause plus mid life crisis,I've had an few interesting yrs so far

Joined Fab

4 new Tattoos

Blonde blonde hair

Definitely the loss of close people in my life gave me the courage to change and start to live a life I always wanted to explore instead of pleasing others.The thought of been on my death bed and regretting not living life to its fullest was the final push.i want to be the old lady shocking all around with mad stories of what I did lol

Much the same for us Lisa joined fab a while back with the intention of fulfilling what she now wants to try

Life is too short we intend to enjoy every minute with each other and for herself to try things that she never got the chance to try till now

"

I would bet my bollocks, that you probably don't have a woman, and on the off chance thar you have , she hasn't got a clue you're on here, or even knows this place exists.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Covid,plus menopause plus mid life crisis,I've had an few interesting yrs so far

Joined Fab

4 new Tattoos

Blonde blonde hair

Definitely the loss of close people in my life gave me the courage to change and start to live a life I always wanted to explore instead of pleasing others.The thought of been on my death bed and regretting not living life to its fullest was the final push.i want to be the old lady shocking all around with mad stories of what I did lol

Much the same for us Lisa joined fab a while back with the intention of fulfilling what she now wants to try

Life is too short we intend to enjoy every minute with each other and for herself to try things that she never got the chance to try till now

I would bet my bollocks, that you probably don't have a woman, and on the off chance thar you have , she hasn't got a clue you're on here, or even knows this place exists."

Haha I have and she does do yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Covid,plus menopause plus mid life crisis,I've had an few interesting yrs so far

Joined Fab

4 new Tattoos

Blonde blonde hair

Definitely the loss of close people in my life gave me the courage to change and start to live a life I always wanted to explore instead of pleasing others.The thought of been on my death bed and regretting not living life to its fullest was the final push.i want to be the old lady shocking all around with mad stories of what I did lol

Much the same for us Lisa joined fab a while back with the intention of fulfilling what she now wants to try

Life is too short we intend to enjoy every minute with each other and for herself to try things that she never got the chance to try till now

I would bet my bollocks, that you probably don't have a woman, and on the off chance thar you have , she hasn't got a clue you're on here, or even knows this place exists.

Haha I have and she does do yours "

If you ask a question and the person you asked the question of is it not politeness to give an answer back

Sorry op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An hour later do these people stay up all night or are they just part of the certain groups that have chats

And then revert to fab we will never know thankfully

But everyone on this site should be face verified by the site that’s just our opinion

And anyone that isn’t shouldn’t have a complaint really

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By *readnbutter30Couple
over a year ago

portlaoise

I totally agree with you, its just when you reach the point that your not going to live for ever

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville

I think I started my midlife crisis (awaking) when I discovered crossdressing. Last few years I've come to the realisation life's too short and I need to embrace this side of me.

Could be hit by a bus tomorrow ya know.

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Does it exist?

Have you experienced it?

What does mid life mean you?

Is it a crisis, a period of reflection or change or merely a token statement that people make.

Thoughts"

Yes.

Yes.

Mid life for me started around the time I turned 40 - in terms of starting on the downward spiral of my midlife crisis.

I got physically strong by finally addressing unhealthy lifestyle choices but emotionally I became a wreck, particularly with changes in how I felt about my marriage, my children, my role as a stay at home mum, while dealing with childhood abuse.

I actually think the only reason I came out alive the other side was because I got "fit". The confidence I gained by sticking to a healthy diet with massive boosts along the way in what I could achieve - by myself - lifting heavy weights was phenomenal compared to virtually no self-confidence prior. Weight lifting gave me so much more than a different physique - resilience, stamina, determination, self-discipline, self awareness - without that experience, I'm pretty sure I would have done something stupid to myself in and around the time of big changes in my life which were interrupted by doing a stint in psych care, while I was re-evaluating, reflecting on the past and making changes in my life.

For the better

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

Same as A-la-carte, 40 was my turning point. I started running, focused on my diet and it became my new lifestyle. It helped that we moved to a new area and became friends with people already in that mindset.

Fab does help both of us to keep the weight in check.

I looked forward to my 50'th and partied like I was 21

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

My personal existential crisis is in full swing.

I was assessed as neurodiverse at forty. That explained a lot but boy did it raise questions for the future.

This year my career, my engagement and my home all evaporated. All unrelated and all unavoidable. No one was at fault anywhere. Just a series's of events.

I am a resilient person but resilient people often forget how much energy that requires.

My little mid life crisis brought me back to the bare metal. The basics. I try to be a great dad. To be a competent house holder, and to nurture the relationships that matter.

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin


"Does it exist?

Have you experienced it?

What does mid life mean you?

Is it a crisis, a period of reflection or change or merely a token statement that people make.

Thoughts

Yes.

Yes.

Mid life for me started around the time I turned 40 - in terms of starting on the downward spiral of my midlife crisis.

I got physically strong by finally addressing unhealthy lifestyle choices but emotionally I became a wreck, particularly with changes in how I felt about my marriage, my children, my role as a stay at home mum, while dealing with childhood abuse.

I actually think the only reason I came out alive the other side was because I got "fit". The confidence I gained by sticking to a healthy diet with massive boosts along the way in what I could achieve - by myself - lifting heavy weights was phenomenal compared to virtually no self-confidence prior. Weight lifting gave me so much more than a different physique - resilience, stamina, determination, self-discipline, self awareness - without that experience, I'm pretty sure I would have done something stupid to myself in and around the time of big changes in my life which were interrupted by doing a stint in psych care, while I was re-evaluating, reflecting on the past and making changes in my life.

For the better "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does it exist?

Have you experienced it?

What does mid life mean you?

Is it a crisis, a period of reflection or change or merely a token statement that people make.

Thoughts

Yes.

Yes.

Mid life for me started around the time I turned 40 - in terms of starting on the downward spiral of my midlife crisis.

I got physically strong by finally addressing unhealthy lifestyle choices but emotionally I became a wreck, particularly with changes in how I felt about my marriage, my children, my role as a stay at home mum, while dealing with childhood abuse.

I actually think the only reason I came out alive the other side was because I got "fit". The confidence I gained by sticking to a healthy diet with massive boosts along the way in what I could achieve - by myself - lifting heavy weights was phenomenal compared to virtually no self-confidence prior. Weight lifting gave me so much more than a different physique - resilience, stamina, determination, self-discipline, self awareness - without that experience, I'm pretty sure I would have done something stupid to myself in and around the time of big changes in my life which were interrupted by doing a stint in psych care, while I was re-evaluating, reflecting on the past and making changes in my life.

For the better "

I had a similar trajectory and in my early 40s was fitter and more confident than in my entire life. Unfortunately a triple whammy of divorce, both my parents becoming ill and dependent on me (as well as having 3 kids as a single parent), and development of chronic long term conditions myself - most likely due to stress - has left me unable to pursue physical fitness or the career change I wanted to make. Sometimes you just have to make the best of what you've got, while trying to be all things to the people you care about.

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Does it exist?

Have you experienced it?

What does mid life mean you?

Is it a crisis, a period of reflection or change or merely a token statement that people make.

Thoughts

Yes.

Yes.

Mid life for me started around the time I turned 40 - in terms of starting on the downward spiral of my midlife crisis.

I got physically strong by finally addressing unhealthy lifestyle choices but emotionally I became a wreck, particularly with changes in how I felt about my marriage, my children, my role as a stay at home mum, while dealing with childhood abuse.

I actually think the only reason I came out alive the other side was because I got "fit". The confidence I gained by sticking to a healthy diet with massive boosts along the way in what I could achieve - by myself - lifting heavy weights was phenomenal compared to virtually no self-confidence prior. Weight lifting gave me so much more than a different physique - resilience, stamina, determination, self-discipline, self awareness - without that experience, I'm pretty sure I would have done something stupid to myself in and around the time of big changes in my life which were interrupted by doing a stint in psych care, while I was re-evaluating, reflecting on the past and making changes in my life.

For the better

I had a similar trajectory and in my early 40s was fitter and more confident than in my entire life. Unfortunately a triple whammy of divorce, both my parents becoming ill and dependent on me (as well as having 3 kids as a single parent), and development of chronic long term conditions myself - most likely due to stress - has left me unable to pursue physical fitness or the career change I wanted to make. Sometimes you just have to make the best of what you've got, while trying to be all things to the people you care about."

And it's exactly that last sentence that hits the spot! It's about the people you care about - we can't change the hand we've been dealt but we can make the best of bad situations. Life might not be ideal, or the dream come true - but I fully believe in leaving a legacy of having loved and cared and done the best to support those I love. So fair deuce to conquering your changes and being there for those who need you! I hope you have a good support network to help on your bad days!

Believe me, the changes I started to implement haven't resulted in my end goals either - unfortunately life has a tendency to get in the way. I'm still not set up professionally the way I "should" or "could" be according to some, and lifestyle wise I'm a mess while I'm absolutely prioritising supporting my children with their needs.

So I've gone from physically fit and an emotional wreck while going through massive changes to feeling emotionally competent to handle pretty much anything life throws my way (and there's lots of shit thrown ) to back to relatively poor lifestyle with no exercise and less than wholesome foods.

I know which I prefer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We need to be kinder to ourselves, forgive ourselves and most of all speak to ourselves with the voice that we talk to everyone else with. We are not perfect and if we were, we would be bland and boring. That’s what I have learnt from my mid life crisis

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By *astello OP   Woman
over a year ago

Far far away

Thanks to the forum posters for such honesty and telling their stories of change, resilience and when a crisis is not a crisis.

"It's never too late for what you might have been"

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By *rish_GuyMan
over a year ago

Foxford


"Does it exist?

Have you experienced it?

What does mid life mean you?

Is it a crisis, a period of reflection or change or merely a token statement that people make.

Thoughts

Yes.

Yes.

Mid life for me started around the time I turned 40 - in terms of starting on the downward spiral of my midlife crisis.

I got physically strong by finally addressing unhealthy lifestyle choices but emotionally I became a wreck, particularly with changes in how I felt about my marriage, my children, my role as a stay at home mum, while dealing with childhood abuse.

I actually think the only reason I came out alive the other side was because I got "fit". The confidence I gained by sticking to a healthy diet with massive boosts along the way in what I could achieve - by myself - lifting heavy weights was phenomenal compared to virtually no self-confidence prior. Weight lifting gave me so much more than a different physique - resilience, stamina, determination, self-discipline, self awareness - without that experience, I'm pretty sure I would have done something stupid to myself in and around the time of big changes in my life which were interrupted by doing a stint in psych care, while I was re-evaluating, reflecting on the past and making changes in my life.

For the better

I had a similar trajectory and in my early 40s was fitter and more confident than in my entire life. Unfortunately a triple whammy of divorce, both my parents becoming ill and dependent on me (as well as having 3 kids as a single parent), and development of chronic long term conditions myself - most likely due to stress - has left me unable to pursue physical fitness or the career change I wanted to make. Sometimes you just have to make the best of what you've got, while trying to be all things to the people you care about.

And it's exactly that last sentence that hits the spot! It's about the people you care about - we can't change the hand we've been dealt but we can make the best of bad situations. Life might not be ideal, or the dream come true - but I fully believe in leaving a legacy of having loved and cared and done the best to support those I love. So fair deuce to conquering your changes and being there for those who need you! I hope you have a good support network to help on your bad days!

Believe me, the changes I started to implement haven't resulted in my end goals either - unfortunately life has a tendency to get in the way. I'm still not set up professionally the way I "should" or "could" be according to some, and lifestyle wise I'm a mess while I'm absolutely prioritising supporting my children with their needs.

So I've gone from physically fit and an emotional wreck while going through massive changes to feeling emotionally competent to handle pretty much anything life throws my way (and there's lots of shit thrown ) to back to relatively poor lifestyle with no exercise and less than wholesome foods.

I know which I prefer "

I apologise to the OP, the 2 Ladies in this post, aswell to the other people in this thread, for bringing the tone of this thread down with my post now.

The 2 ladies are(in most cases) life can & will throw some curvy ball's at some people, more so than other's. Look after family members as best as you can. If you've kid's in your life, try to give them memories & morals/standard's to live with/by.

(Now for the downer part)

While your doing your best to look after your parent/s or extended family members. They could be the reason your own health isn't good, be that mentally,physically or other things aren't working out in your life for you. By them always at you to do stuff for them, treating you badly.

While others that does little to nothing for them. They're jumping through hoops to help them, nearly always saying yes to these people. While nearly always saying no to you.

To change your life around for whatever reason. Could be seen as a mid life crisis, by come people. You could have to walk away, leave them alone & just get on with your own life. Not always an easy thing to do.

(Right bring on the grief about this post).

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By *astello OP   Woman
over a year ago

Far far away

There is no grief about your post. Facing change, difficult people and challenging situations. People react in many different ways..

Resilience is part of this and also accepting what you can and cannot change.

I can only speak for myself. My road involved 5 year process to which I read every self help book available. I then attended a gestalt counsellor for 2 years to unpick my brain. Did I have a crisis, in many ways yes. But do I feel more empowered, happier than ever and more fulfilled I do.

Each changed input =a changed output... That's my saying.. Not a book.. Good luck

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By *rish_GuyMan
over a year ago

Foxford


"There is no grief about your post. Facing change, difficult people and challenging situations. People react in many different ways..

Resilience is part of this and also accepting what you can and cannot change.

I can only speak for myself. My road involved 5 year process to which I read every self help book available. I then attended a gestalt counsellor for 2 years to unpick my brain. Did I have a crisis, in many ways yes. But do I feel more empowered, happier than ever and more fulfilled I do.

Each changed input =a changed output... That's my saying.. Not a book.. Good luck "

Ya,that's true alright. Glad to hear your happier now OP.

That's a good way to think about it & it's true aswell. THANK'S & you aswell OP.

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

No grief at all, Irishguy - sometimes toxic people need to be removed for ones own health or sanity. But sometimes the relatives you look after in sickness are those that looked after you - hence you want to reciprocate.

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By *anifestoMan
over a year ago

F

Not at all. No such thing. I other news I just spent over an hour looking at Porsche 911s

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By *outhDublinMan86Man
over a year ago

shankill

Think I’m starting mine. Started with buying a nice car thats barely out on the road, spend on stupid shit that I don’t need.

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By *tagNvixen69Couple
over a year ago

belfast

43 and I think I'm going through it, I've fecked sooooo many ppl of this past year customers and family, anyone that has pissed me over I've cut all ties wi them, I've changed jobs 3 times in past year, I've sacked useless tradies not getting their arse in gear for work I'm needing done.

But home life is totally awesome lol wife keeps me in line, she's the boss !!!

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