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By *ilverjay OP   Man
over a year ago

Meath

I must be doing something wrong. Maybe the wrong approach.

Always try to be polite and cordial. Nearly always send face pic in first message.

But seldom get a reply. Indeed most messages aren't even opened.

I know some people get loads of messages and can't or don't have chance to see all.

So how do you introduce yourself?

And do any of the ladies make the first approach?

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

We rarely answer message and even more rarely meet anyone off the back of messages. Connections are much better made in person at socials / events / chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I saw someone mention yesterday that they had 300 messages that morning alone - I’d imagine the women get swamped.

Personally think theres nothing wrong with the polite approach - I’d imagine quite a few people know each other from the social events thiugh so they’re not really looking for totally new people - unless they’re hung like a horse or something

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

There is a fine line between polite and sycophantic.

Women with lazy profiles get told they are stunning every day so one more won't make a lot of difference.

Some people don't like receiving facepics in an opening message because they see it as a lack of discretion and many look at the senders profile before they open the message and often the content is irrelevant if they don't like what they see.

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

I generally don't open messages anymore, i much perfer to message first myself, i only tend to meet or look for company when im attending a social event...

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

I don't send cold messages for prospective meets. Honestly there is no point.

Find another way

Doing a forum Search for advice will provide you with loads of your advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My new policy is to not send first messages, catch a lady’s eye and she’ll message you

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

If you build it they will cum

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

City Centre, Dublin


"I must be doing something wrong. Maybe the wrong approach.

Always try to be polite and cordial. Nearly always send face pic in first message.

But seldom get a reply. Indeed most messages aren't even opened.

I know some people get loads of messages and can't or don't have chance to see all.

So how do you introduce yourself?

And do any of the ladies make the first approach?"

You’re prob not sending enough dickpics

Don’t overthink, just send a photo of your todger and a “how are ye?”

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By *taylor122Man
over a year ago

dublin

Can’t have enough beercan’s or sky remote comparison pics attached to that cold opening mail !!

…..works nearly none of the time

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By *oxxxVixenCouple
over a year ago

Tipp, Clare,


"Can’t have enough beercan’s or sky remote comparison pics attached to that cold opening mail !!

…..works nearly none of the time "

No you're doing it wrong... don't bother saying hi or any of that nonsense just tell them you're passing by their local superman's in 10 mins and ask if they fancy the ride!

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By *oxxxVixenCouple
over a year ago

Tipp, Clare,


"Can’t have enough beercan’s or sky remote comparison pics attached to that cold opening mail !!

…..works nearly none of the time

No you're doing it wrong... don't bother saying hi or any of that nonsense just tell them you're passing by their local superman's in 10 mins and ask if they fancy the ride! "

** Supermacs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

No you're doing it wrong... don't bother saying hi or any of that nonsense just tell them you're passing by their local superman's in 10 mins and ask if they fancy the ride! "

Thanks for that, explains what I am doing wrong

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By *oxxxVixenCouple
over a year ago

Tipp, Clare,


"

No you're doing it wrong... don't bother saying hi or any of that nonsense just tell them you're passing by their local superman's in 10 mins and ask if they fancy the ride!

Thanks for that, explains what I am doing wrong "

Sorry, couldn't help myself!

But I do wish you luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

No you're doing it wrong... don't bother saying hi or any of that nonsense just tell them you're passing by their local superman's in 10 mins and ask if they fancy the ride!

Thanks for that, explains what I am doing wrong

Sorry, couldn't help myself!

But I do wish you luck x"

Don’t be Sorry I was being sarcastic

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By *oxxxVixenCouple
over a year ago

Tipp, Clare,


"

No you're doing it wrong... don't bother saying hi or any of that nonsense just tell them you're passing by their local superman's in 10 mins and ask if they fancy the ride!

Thanks for that, explains what I am doing wrong

Sorry, couldn't help myself!

But I do wish you luck x

Don’t be Sorry I was being sarcastic "

Phew....

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By *osyRedLipsWoman
over a year ago

Kildare

I only really meet at events now but before that most of my meets I was making first move. They have something appealing about their profile to intrigue me enough to reach out. But as I said here before if your a guy here with fuck all effort profile don't expect the women sliding into your inbox looking for a shag.

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By *rish_GuyMan
over a year ago

Foxford


"I only really meet at events now but before that most of my meets I was making first move. They have something appealing about their profile to intrigue me enough to reach out. But as I said here before if your a guy here with fuck all effort profile don't expect the women sliding into your inbox looking for a shag. "

So that's where I'm going wrong?

Personally I stopped messaging people on here awhile back. For the same reason as you said OP. From now on, either they've massaged me first or it's something to do with something on the forum or we've massaged eachother beforehand. Otherwise I don't bother messaging people anymore.

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