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By *eeisback OP   Man
over a year ago

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Has fab changed compared to what it once was? It has changed in the past year or so. Harder to get to chat with and even meet ppl? Is it moved to another site/app?

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By *southguyMan
over a year ago

D18

More ghosts than a Halloween party at Caspers.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

The site hasn't changed. People have just become more cynical.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

It's pretty much identical for the last 10 years at least

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By *ildarekinkstersCouple
over a year ago

kinkytown

It's busier then when we started here over a decade ago. Seems to be less drama then there was here a few years ago (maybe because we avoid the drama kings and queens now)

Overall still the same in our opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's changed much.

You're just not fresh meat anymore

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland

Its like anything ,the novelty wears off after a while

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

I wonder do people that leave for a while and come back see things with Rose coloured glasses

I'm here 5 years.....everyone's got older,some have got wiser,some have gotten sexier with age, and thats it

My expectations never changed so I never thought it was better a few years ago than it is now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its like anything ,the novelty wears off after a while "

This

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

What or whom was once popular and new on here isn't anymore, it's a revolving door on fab of new people....

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By *limfitladMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"What or whom was once popular and new on here isn't anymore, it's a revolving door on fab of new people...."

Maybe your new tag line lolly.. like Beamish?

Consistency in a world gone ...

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By *exytvlegsTV/TS
over a year ago

North co dublin Ireland

A lot more time wasters and people that don't read profiles.

Hard to find a met in the last while

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By *ingpot!Man
over a year ago

West Cork

Seems the same as it always has in my experience (few years).. it certainly was more exciting when it was new but people are people and sex is sex and the UI hasn't changed a smidge so

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

The social side is huge, seems to have grown since before Covid and a lot of people are preferring those events to private meets now, in my opinion.

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By *adger BrocMan
over a year ago

Co. Cork

Non replys

Judgements

Blockings

Bans

Ghostings

Some nice chats

Some even nicer meets

Predictive text boobs

Real boobs

Dic pics

More dic pics

The odd fanny flash

The odd flash of inspiration

No. I guess nothing has changed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The social side is huge, seems to have grown since before Covid and a lot of people are preferring those events to private meets now, in my opinion."

I'd agree that that's the biggest change we've seen in our almost 5 years.

Other changes are negligible and I think are more likely due to us having changed (more experienced, less availability, a bit more world weary)

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By *rAndMrsRightCouple
over a year ago

newtownabbey


"The social side is huge, seems to have grown since before Covid and a lot of people are preferring those events to private meets now, in my opinion."

I think what happened was that all the "wanna fuck" brigade lost bars and clubs during covid where they would usually go out on a pull to prey on heavily intoxicated women and using manipulative and pushy tactics to get their one night stands, so they flooded fab for two years making one on one meets not so safe. So naturally women and couples now choose to seek out a safer space to meet new people as any self respecting organizer will naturally steer clear from inviting anyone who has been known to behave like a pest or worse.

My two pence in this

Missus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The social side is huge, seems to have grown since before Covid and a lot of people are preferring those events to private meets now, in my opinion.

I think what happened was that all the "wanna fuck" brigade lost bars and clubs during covid where they would usually go out on a pull to prey on heavily intoxicated women and using manipulative and pushy tactics to get their one night stands, so they flooded fab for two years making one on one meets not so safe. So naturally women and couples now choose to seek out a safer space to meet new people as any self respecting organizer will naturally steer clear from inviting anyone who has been known to behave like a pest or worse.

My two pence in this

Missus "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm here I think about 4 years. Yes there are some changes.The social and party scene have definitely taken off since I joined. I enjoy fab a lot and I have met some wonderful people from here.

I am not a party girl at all and have met some super men who are. I used to think that no one would be interested in me as I don't do group play etc. So these men I've met have changed my mind and showed me its possible to stay true to yourself and do things the way you're comfortable and happy with. It also shows me that yes guys do want more than casual encounters too.

I think some long term forum users have become so negative in their posts that they are like a dark cloud when they appear. Why they are constantly negative, who knows. I sometimes wonder why do they bother being here if they dislike everything Fab has to offer and constantly mention all they hate.

Fab like life is constantly evolving and we too have to move and grow also.

Have fun everyone and remember a smile is so much nicer than a frown. X

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

It's certainly easier to get a foot on the ladder these days with events for unverifieds and the "help a fabber out" threads. That's a bit change alright

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

The social side is fantastic for women as it gives them a safe space to meet vetted people and have fun.

I think that's the biggest selling point of Fab and it's a pity more women don't join on that basis. The stigma is still there unfortunately.

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By *ursecretmischiefCouple
over a year ago

The West

As a couple who didn't know this site existed 4 years ago, I haven't seen any real change in the site in that time. The exception is the number of events and parties, big and small, that appear to have increased significantly.

Given as its usually a certain section of single men complaining about the site, the increase in socials and parties is irrelevant to them as they don't bother to attend anyway.

With the increase in events, which a lot of couples and single women would prefer, has the amount of random meets might decreased?? So for them men, it's probably become stale.

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

Belfast

I joined fab during covid and I think it has changed, for the better

There’s always been profiles (almost exclusively single males) who have a whinge about how hard it is to get chats, socials, meets etc

I don’t know why they thought it would be easy in the first place.

There’s more socials and meet and greets than ever so it’s definitely easier despite what the naysayers say

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin


"The social side is huge, seems to have grown since before Covid and a lot of people are preferring those events to private meets now, in my opinion."

The socials were huge ten years ago too. They reduced in size for a while but glad to see them back. Things move in cycles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The social side is huge, seems to have grown since before Covid and a lot of people are preferring those events to private meets now, in my opinion.

I think what happened was that all the "wanna fuck" brigade lost bars and clubs during covid where they would usually go out on a pull to prey on heavily intoxicated women and using manipulative and pushy tactics to get their one night stands, so they flooded fab for two years making one on one meets not so safe. So naturally women and couples now choose to seek out a safer space to meet new people as any self respecting organizer will naturally steer clear from inviting anyone who has been known to behave like a pest or worse.

My two pence in this

Missus

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not sure why question marks.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West


"The social side is huge, seems to have grown since before Covid and a lot of people are preferring those events to private meets now, in my opinion.

I think what happened was that all the "wanna fuck" brigade lost bars and clubs during covid where they would usually go out on a pull to prey on heavily intoxicated women and using manipulative and pushy tactics to get their one night stands, so they flooded fab for two years making one on one meets not so safe. So naturally women and couples now choose to seek out a safer space to meet new people as any self respecting organizer will naturally steer clear from inviting anyone who has been known to behave like a pest or worse.

My two pence in this

Missus

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not sure why question marks. "

?? Is what comes up if you try to use a keyboard emoji instead of the Fab one's

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I don't think fab has changed much in the time I've been on here anyhow. The social scene has grown alright and that's great for those who enjoy them and it gives a lot of new people a chance to get into the scene.

Apart from that it's pretty much the same as it was when I joined. As others have said it ebbs and flows all the time with different people and things happening. People either will find their own path or they will give out about other people and the journey they are on for whatever reason.

Best thing I've found is just do fab your own way. If you love the social side embrace it if you prefer parties or one and ones than concentrate on that. Even if you are just on here for the forums or to post pics etc then fair play. It's not affecting anyone else so fill your boots and enjoy your own journey.

There is no right or wrong way and things will just continue on here like they have since the site started.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"The social side is huge, seems to have grown since before Covid and a lot of people are preferring those events to private meets now, in my opinion.

The socials were huge ten years ago too. They reduced in size for a while but glad to see them back. Things move in cycles. "

Maybe in Dublin but not much was happening for us culchies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The social side is huge, seems to have grown since before Covid and a lot of people are preferring those events to private meets now, in my opinion.

The socials were huge ten years ago too. They reduced in size for a while but glad to see them back. Things move in cycles.

Maybe in Dublin but not much was happening for us culchies "

The Midlands is now seeing an increase in group socials.

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By *panishRebelMan
over a year ago

Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland


"I don't think it's changed much.

You're just not fresh meat anymore "

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

- Not as many piranhas and trolls on the forums these days thankfully

- Harder to meet people (but then again I'm now in that older "more exclusive" category )

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By *itlbeeCouple
over a year ago

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I've only been here about 2 years, but I feel like the number of single men keeps exploding. Must be 100 men per couple now.

And possibly 200 men per single woman.

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By * fun time couple321Couple
over a year ago

tralee


"A lot more time wasters and people that don't read profiles.

Hard to find a met in the last while "

Definitely agree hardly no one reads profiles now,we are only on here a couple of years but do feel there is a huge amount of clowns on here nowadays.

Or maybe we are only getting them all now. Still alot of great people but you must through alot for to find them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is what you want from it it’s a site for god sake if you/or ye want something from it then get involved if not then so be it

It depends on what you/ye are looking for really

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By *xcited And CuriousCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"The social side is huge, seems to have grown since before Covid and a lot of people are preferring those events to private meets now, in my opinion.

I think what happened was that all the "wanna fuck" brigade lost bars and clubs during covid where they would usually go out on a pull to prey on heavily intoxicated women and using manipulative and pushy tactics to get their one night stands, so they flooded fab for two years making one on one meets not so safe. So naturally women and couples now choose to seek out a safer space to meet new people as any self respecting organizer will naturally steer clear from inviting anyone who has been known to behave like a pest or worse.

My two pence in this

Missus "

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This is interesting. We're only on here a year or so, so we can't comment on change over time, but the single male element has been curious to us from the start.

Some couples, single women, single males ARE looking for single males, and some aren't. But we were getting quite a few messages on joining from single males even though our profile mentioned we weren't interested.

Is being a single male in a swinger context akin to the guy who arrives at a party with no beer of his own? For those couples who are looking for single males, is that like bringing extra beer so the guy who arrives with none can have some? Maybe if the couple enjoys sharing their beer...

We've now been to two socials and two play parties. The single male element at these seems to us to correlate to that on fab too - some unsolicited attention, but easy enough to manage.

It must be very difficult for a single male to get anywhere on this scene. The 9s & 10s will probably do better than others, with the volume of single males out there and the resulting competing factor.

For the "wanna fuck" guys that pester women in regular bars, is this world a better option with a higher hit-rate?

Have you long-time fabbers seen a change in the ratio of couples vs single males over time?

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By *xcited And CuriousCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

PS...

On browsing the forums and reading profiles and seeing event organiser's stipulations & criteria regarding single males, we were expecting to observe or experience a higher level of pests than we've seen at the events we've attended. Any interactions we've had with single males have beed grand - none too pushy in a sexual sense, although a few milked the small-talk tactic beyond their welcome. We're not the youngest or fittest couple on here - we're really on here for our own excitement, not to facilitate other's intentions (unless they align with our own of course... )

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By *hinbutlong1Man
over a year ago

Trim

As a single male I’ve noticed a lot of couples profiles who are just single men and a lot more catfish… and I get a lot of messages from lads who have “straight” on their profile

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By *rAndMrsRightCouple
over a year ago

newtownabbey


"The social side is huge, seems to have grown since before Covid and a lot of people are preferring those events to private meets now, in my opinion.

I think what happened was that all the "wanna fuck" brigade lost bars and clubs during covid where they would usually go out on a pull to prey on heavily intoxicated women and using manipulative and pushy tactics to get their one night stands, so they flooded fab for two years making one on one meets not so safe. So naturally women and couples now choose to seek out a safer space to meet new people as any self respecting organizer will naturally steer clear from inviting anyone who has been known to behave like a pest or worse.

My two pence in this

Missus

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This is interesting. We're only on here a year or so, so we can't comment on change over time, but the single male element has been curious to us from the start.

Some couples, single women, single males ARE looking for single males, and some aren't. But we were getting quite a few messages on joining from single males even though our profile mentioned we weren't interested.

Is being a single male in a swinger context akin to the guy who arrives at a party with no beer of his own? For those couples who are looking for single males, is that like bringing extra beer so the guy who arrives with none can have some? Maybe if the couple enjoys sharing their beer...

We've now been to two socials and two play parties. The single male element at these seems to us to correlate to that on fab too - some unsolicited attention, but easy enough to manage.

It must be very difficult for a single male to get anywhere on this scene. The 9s & 10s will probably do better than others, with the volume of single males out there and the resulting competing factor.

For the "wanna fuck" guys that pester women in regular bars, is this world a better option with a higher hit-rate?

Have you long-time fabbers seen a change in the ratio of couples vs single males over time?"

The way I see single men - as good or bad as they are, they're what makes fab go round. They're the ones giving women and couples attention (wanted or unwanted it's still attention), they moan and groan - which gives us a reason to moan and groan back at them, they like most of the pictures, they make the site look busy. Without single men swinging scene would be a lot more boring than it is now.

All of that said - a huge proportion join the site expecting these animalistically horned up women who are desperately gagging for their magical cock to meet them at their first mating call and give them the most mind blowing night of passionate sex which will make porn look like amateur business.

When reality of the fact that they need to put in effort to present themselves better (be articulate and friendly, charming, charismatic, presentable, well groomed, respectful etc) hits them in the face like a cold wet dish cloth - they back pedal back to tinder.

From organisers point of view- over past 4 years our experience with single men has been very steady - as soon as you make it clear that a social meet and greet is just a social meet and greet and sex at the event isn't allowed - most of new faces who previously sang the songs of how interested they are in joining the community - dissappear of the face of earth.

Can't say if that's also other organizers experience as single men's tickets at others events are usually sold out first.

In our case is the complete opposite - we find it harder to see single men to commit and even then - single men usually are in the biggest proportion of no shows even after they've committed to attend.

Missus

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin


"The social side is huge, seems to have grown since before Covid and a lot of people are preferring those events to private meets now, in my opinion.

The socials were huge ten years ago too. They reduced in size for a while but glad to see them back. Things move in cycles.

Maybe in Dublin but not much was happening for us culchies "

I went to several large socials in Cork and limerick a decade ago. They were happening trust, me

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

If the men that don't turn up for socials knew that most men don't turn up for socials then more men would turn up for socials.

It's a no brainer. Spend months sending messages in vain trying to get a coffee meet or go to one social event and meet 20 women in one room.

I heard so many times about the lack of single men at socials that it was a factor in my decision to get over the nerves and go alone.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"The social side is huge, seems to have grown since before Covid and a lot of people are preferring those events to private meets now, in my opinion.

The socials were huge ten years ago too. They reduced in size for a while but glad to see them back. Things move in cycles.

Maybe in Dublin but not much was happening for us culchies

I went to several large socials in Cork and limerick a decade ago. They were happening trust, me "

Sure Nic was only a young wan then Wilder

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin


"The social side is huge, seems to have grown since before Covid and a lot of people are preferring those events to private meets now, in my opinion.

The socials were huge ten years ago too. They reduced in size for a while but glad to see them back. Things move in cycles.

Maybe in Dublin but not much was happening for us culchies

I went to several large socials in Cork and limerick a decade ago. They were happening trust, me

Sure Nic was only a young wan then Wilder "

Oh yes, of course, there's always that, wouldn't have even gotten served....

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"The social side is huge, seems to have grown since before Covid and a lot of people are preferring those events to private meets now, in my opinion.

The socials were huge ten years ago too. They reduced in size for a while but glad to see them back. Things move in cycles.

Maybe in Dublin but not much was happening for us culchies

I went to several large socials in Cork and limerick a decade ago. They were happening trust, me

Sure Nic was only a young wan then Wilder

Oh yes, of course, there's always that, wouldn't have even gotten served.... "

Yes, my pictures clearly show that i'm only 25

Yeah we knew about the Limerick events but were too scared to go

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin


"The social side is huge, seems to have grown since before Covid and a lot of people are preferring those events to private meets now, in my opinion.

The socials were huge ten years ago too. They reduced in size for a while but glad to see them back. Things move in cycles.

Maybe in Dublin but not much was happening for us culchies

I went to several large socials in Cork and limerick a decade ago. They were happening trust, me

Sure Nic was only a young wan then Wilder

Oh yes, of course, there's always that, wouldn't have even gotten served....

Yes, my pictures clearly show that i'm only 25

Yeah we knew about the Limerick events but were too scared to go "

Well that's on you

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"The social side is huge, seems to have grown since before Covid and a lot of people are preferring those events to private meets now, in my opinion.

The socials were huge ten years ago too. They reduced in size for a while but glad to see them back. Things move in cycles.

Maybe in Dublin but not much was happening for us culchies

I went to several large socials in Cork and limerick a decade ago. They were happening trust, me

Sure Nic was only a young wan then Wilder

Oh yes, of course, there's always that, wouldn't have even gotten served....

Yes, my pictures clearly show that i'm only 25

Yeah we knew about the Limerick events but were too scared to go

Well that's on you "

It surely is

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By *ushin realityCouple
over a year ago

swords


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- Not as many piranhas and trolls on the forums these days thankfully

- Harder to meet people (but then again I'm now in that older "more exclusive" category )

"
your still an absolute gem xxx

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

I don't think it's changed at all. Things are as they've always been, some amazing people and some not so much but a helluva lotta fun at times

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By *ung guyMan
over a year ago

kildare


"Has fab changed compared to what it once was? It has changed in the past year or so. Harder to get to chat with and even meet ppl? Is it moved to another site/app? "
yeah a lot since I joined. Way too many fakes and time wasters that ruin it for the genuine ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure if it has changed or not , but I love chatting on the forum its like free therapy lol one of the threads brought back some horrible memories from a old meet, I messaged a fab Friend I never met only chatting here, he gave some great advice .. so people can be friends without ever meeting , x

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By *aughtymorningMan
over a year ago

Dublin, Galway,

Why it is so hard for lady's to reply, when you text genuine text, with nice comments...do you need to be a weirdo or something??

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By *urfdudeMan
over a year ago

WEXFORD


"Why it is so hard for lady's to reply, when you text genuine text, with nice comments...do you need to be a weirdo or something??"

Fab has changed, since covid the world has opened up again, people are making up for lost time, have discovered more about what they want + like and are going for it. All positive stuff.

On the negative side the ratio of men to women is ridicolus, prob about 6 to 1 in womens favour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not sure if it has changed or not , but I love chatting on the forum its like free therapy lol one of the threads brought back some horrible memories from a old meet, I messaged a fab Friend I never met only chatting here, he gave some great advice .. so people can be friends without ever meeting , x"

There are some nice people on here I agree. Sometimes they can be hard to find as there’s so many other types on here too. What’s the saying “small fish in big pond” lol

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By *eeisback OP   Man
over a year ago

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Interesting reply’s. Agree on some and disagree on some also. The social scene has grown alot but it had changed from the social scene of the past where the past where there was less cliques and more variety as in it was more diverse now unless your a 10/10 or a people pleaser you don’t get the time of day. I agree on that it can be a bad place for single women and even single men and couples there is too mad weirdos and fake profiles thats not all what they make out to be and it can be a dangerous game meeting them kind of people.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"Interesting reply’s. Agree on some and disagree on some also. The social scene has grown alot but it had changed from the social scene of the past where the past where there was less cliques and more variety as in it was more diverse now unless your a 10/10 or a people pleaser you don’t get the time of day. I agree on that it can be a bad place for single women and even single men and couples there is too mad weirdos and fake profiles thats not all what they make out to be and it can be a dangerous game meeting them kind of people. "

Of course it's dangerous meeting fake profiles so why would you even chat to them?

Fab isn't a crèche and grown adults shouldn't need their hand held.

Fake profiles are really obvious which is why I've never even chatted to one in all my years here never mind arranged to meet one.

As to people giving someone the time of day, again, why would you want to meet anyone who only speaks to people pleasers?

I'm neither a 10/10 or an arse kisser and most people I've chatted to have messaged me first because I'm neither of those things.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

What's a 10/10?

I'll bet any two women will give you a different answer.

It's a red herring. As if women don't have different tastes.

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By *ingpot!Man
over a year ago

West Cork


"What's a 10/10?

I'll bet any two women will give you a different answer.

It's a red herring. As if women don't have different tastes."

Won't someone think of the 9/10's??

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By *andR2019Couple
over a year ago

Nunya


"Why it is so hard for lady's to reply, when you text genuine text, with nice comments...do you need to be a weirdo or something??"

Some will be swamped in messages, the single lady’s we know and talk too can have upto 300 odd messages sitting unread. So yours could be lost amongst them, no matter the content.

Then if they’ve opened it, they are either just not interested or might know you from the real world and would rather not have that conversation.

Fab itself pushes the non reply option, as people tend to get nasty when rejected. I’m not saying you are, just that’s the it can go on here.

You’ve just gotta keep trying and with luck and timing you’ll find someone.

G

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

Can I just say that ten years ago the idea/theory of "cliques" running the show was just as popular, if not the cause of way more rows than it is nowadays.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I just say that ten years ago the idea/theory of "cliques" running the show was just as popular, if not the cause of way more rows than it is nowadays. "

It's only a clique if you're not in it!

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By *andR2019Couple
over a year ago

Nunya


"Interesting reply’s. Agree on some and disagree on some also. The social scene has grown alot but it had changed from the social scene of the past where the past where there was less cliques and more variety as in it was more diverse now unless your a 10/10 or a people pleaser you don’t get the time of day. I agree on that it can be a bad place for single women and even single men and couples there is too mad weirdos and fake profiles thats not all what they make out to be and it can be a dangerous game meeting them kind of people. "

We aren’t 10/10 and get invited and go to plenty of events and without sounding horrible plenty of people there aren’t 10/10 either.

I do get the whole cliche thing, there are some on here and in the social side. Although sometimes it can be mistaking for friendship groups that have been formed for ages. Nothing an introduction hasn’t been able to help open it up.

G

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West


"What's a 10/10?

I'll bet any two women will give you a different answer.

It's a red herring. As if women don't have different tastes.

Won't someone think of the 9/10's?? "

I can't help you. Me being a 10 means I just wave from my ivory tower.

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By *ymbunny2016Man
over a year ago

Bangor

Been here 14 years, best way to describe it is peaks and troughs.

Social side has exploded compared to back in the day, far more organised and frequent.

More people on the site accentuates any issues that may arise

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By *ingpot!Man
over a year ago

West Cork


"What's a 10/10?

I'll bet any two women will give you a different answer.

It's a red herring. As if women don't have different tastes.

Won't someone think of the 9/10's??

I can't help you. Me being a 10 means I just wave from my ivory tower."

I ffffart in your general direction

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West


"What's a 10/10?

I'll bet any two women will give you a different answer.

It's a red herring. As if women don't have different tastes.

Won't someone think of the 9/10's??

I can't help you. Me being a 10 means I just wave from my ivory tower.

I ffffart in your general direction "

Your mother was a hamster and your father smelt of elderberries!

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Is it groundhog day?

Op every time you rejoin fab you're posting this kinda thread and every time you get similar answers.

Fab is still hotel california, guest come and go, sometimes it's busier sometimes it's quiet but not much changes overall. And it always be what you make of it.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"Can I just say that ten years ago the idea/theory of "cliques" running the show was just as popular, if not the cause of way more rows than it is nowadays.

It's only a clique if you're not in it!"

Damn! Oh wait, I'm in it, apparently.

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By *ushin realityCouple
over a year ago

swords

Well the conversation has improved a bit and I'm very impressed with the name calling your father smells of elderberries ha ha ha ,I love it xxx

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By *ingpot!Man
over a year ago

West Cork


"Well the conversation has improved a bit and I'm very impressed with the name calling your father smells of elderberries ha ha ha ,I love it xxx"

Fetchez la vache!!

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin


"Why it is so hard for lady's to reply, when you text genuine text, with nice comments...do you need to be a weirdo or something??

Fab has changed, since covid the world has opened up again, people are making up for lost time, have discovered more about what they want + like and are going for it. All positive stuff.

On the negative side the ratio of men to women is ridicolus, prob about 6 to 1 in womens favour. "

The ratio is a lot more one sided than that...

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West


"Why it is so hard for lady's to reply, when you text genuine text, with nice comments...do you need to be a weirdo or something??

Fab has changed, since covid the world has opened up again, people are making up for lost time, have discovered more about what they want + like and are going for it. All positive stuff.

On the negative side the ratio of men to women is ridicolus, prob about 6 to 1 in womens favour.

The ratio is a lot more one sided than that... "

Last time someone did the math it came out about 7:1 in Ireland.

That was from a sample size in every county

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

To be honest I've never understood the fascination with the ratio's of women to men

I mean for 99 percent of my sex life its been with one other person ( or just one person in total )

1 percent with couples or a group

So Thats fine I don't care about the 50,000 men and 100 women or whatever it is ....just one at a time is fine

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

If there was a room with 70 men and 10 women then there will be a lot more disappointed men than if there was an even split. Makes sense to me

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

What puzzles is that increased competition doesn't encourage better efforts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm here just over a year, it's quite a welcoming group if you're not a total arsehole. People are quick to help you get involved if you make the effort.

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By *rAndMrsRightCouple
over a year ago

newtownabbey


"If there was a room with 70 men and 10 women then there will be a lot more disappointed men than if there was an even split. Makes sense to me"

But... if all men in the same room are over 50 and if one of those women is in her early 20's and she's only into men who are no older than 35 - that leaves even more disappointed men and one disappointed woman.

That's where the preferences come in and lessen the chances for both men and women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If there was a room with 70 men and 10 women then there will be a lot more disappointed men than if there was an even split. Makes sense to me

But... if all men in the same room are over 50 and if one of those women is in her early 20's and she's only into men who are no older than 35 - that leaves even more disappointed men and one disappointed woman.

That's where the preferences come in and lessen the chances for both men and women. "

Indeed...like, even if there was only 1 man and me and we're not attracted to each other, then we're still not getting the ride

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Nope, people have changed, many left many new and many upped their game. Just be superior and play them at there own game

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By *rAndMrsRightCouple
over a year ago

newtownabbey


"If there was a room with 70 men and 10 women then there will be a lot more disappointed men than if there was an even split. Makes sense to me

But... if all men in the same room are over 50 and if one of those women is in her early 20's and she's only into men who are no older than 35 - that leaves even more disappointed men and one disappointed woman.

That's where the preferences come in and lessen the chances for both men and women.

Indeed...like, even if there was only 1 man and me and we're not attracted to each other, then we're still not getting the ride "

I will never understand why people think that ratios have much influence on anything.

Even if I was in a room with 400 men who are all attracted to me (highly unlikely, but let's pretend) 400/1 ratio. If 200 are married (personal preference not to get involved with anyone whos attached with or without permission), I'm not attracted to 150 physically (lets face it, not everyone is everyones cup of tea), I'm not attracted to another 45 mentally (some people just don't vibe) and last 5 left early (representing no shows). That leaves us at a 0/1 ratio... yet everyone around me keeps telling me about how easy it must be for me to find a match and I must have so much choice

Missus

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West


"If there was a room with 70 men and 10 women then there will be a lot more disappointed men than if there was an even split. Makes sense to me

But... if all men in the same room are over 50 and if one of those women is in her early 20's and she's only into men who are no older than 35 - that leaves even more disappointed men and one disappointed woman.

That's where the preferences come in and lessen the chances for both men and women.

Indeed...like, even if there was only 1 man and me and we're not attracted to each other, then we're still not getting the ride

I will never understand why people think that ratios have much influence on anything.

Even if I was in a room with 400 men who are all attracted to me (highly unlikely, but let's pretend) 400/1 ratio. If 200 are married (personal preference not to get involved with anyone whos attached with or without permission), I'm not attracted to 150 physically (lets face it, not everyone is everyones cup of tea), I'm not attracted to another 45 mentally (some people just don't vibe) and last 5 left early (representing no shows). That leaves us at a 0/1 ratio... yet everyone around me keeps telling me about how easy it must be for me to find a match and I must have so much choice

Missus"

Yeah but you have boobs so like..

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By *rAndMrsRightCouple
over a year ago

newtownabbey


"If there was a room with 70 men and 10 women then there will be a lot more disappointed men than if there was an even split. Makes sense to me

But... if all men in the same room are over 50 and if one of those women is in her early 20's and she's only into men who are no older than 35 - that leaves even more disappointed men and one disappointed woman.

That's where the preferences come in and lessen the chances for both men and women.

Indeed...like, even if there was only 1 man and me and we're not attracted to each other, then we're still not getting the ride

I will never understand why people think that ratios have much influence on anything.

Even if I was in a room with 400 men who are all attracted to me (highly unlikely, but let's pretend) 400/1 ratio. If 200 are married (personal preference not to get involved with anyone whos attached with or without permission), I'm not attracted to 150 physically (lets face it, not everyone is everyones cup of tea), I'm not attracted to another 45 mentally (some people just don't vibe) and last 5 left early (representing no shows). That leaves us at a 0/1 ratio... yet everyone around me keeps telling me about how easy it must be for me to find a match and I must have so much choice

Missus

Yeah but you have boobs so like.."

One boob

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope, people have changed, many left many new and many upped their game. Just be superior and play them at there own game "

Or just be yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If there was a room with 70 men and 10 women then there will be a lot more disappointed men than if there was an even split. Makes sense to me

But... if all men in the same room are over 50 and if one of those women is in her early 20's and she's only into men who are no older than 35 - that leaves even more disappointed men and one disappointed woman.

That's where the preferences come in and lessen the chances for both men and women.

Indeed...like, even if there was only 1 man and me and we're not attracted to each other, then we're still not getting the ride

I will never understand why people think that ratios have much influence on anything.

Even if I was in a room with 400 men who are all attracted to me (highly unlikely, but let's pretend) 400/1 ratio. If 200 are married (personal preference not to get involved with anyone whos attached with or without permission), I'm not attracted to 150 physically (lets face it, not everyone is everyones cup of tea), I'm not attracted to another 45 mentally (some people just don't vibe) and last 5 left early (representing no shows). That leaves us at a 0/1 ratio... yet everyone around me keeps telling me about how easy it must be for me to find a match and I must have so much choice

Missus"

Love this

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By *xcited And CuriousCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

Dan Ariely's video on attractiveness on The Big Think YouTube channel is pretty interesting in terms of some of the discussions on this thread. Worth a watch.

Are we OK to post YT links on forum posts?

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"Dan Ariely's video on attractiveness on The Big Think YouTube channel is pretty interesting in terms of some of the discussions on this thread. Worth a watch.

Are we OK to post YT links on forum posts?"

According to the rules yes you can

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Nope, people have changed, many left many new and many upped their game. Just be superior and play them at there own game

Or just be yourself "

You offering to help me be myself and I can help you be yourself

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By *elle111Woman
over a year ago

NI


"The social side is huge, seems to have grown since before Covid and a lot of people are preferring those events to private meets now, in my opinion.

I'd agree that that's the biggest change we've seen in our almost 5 years.

Other changes are negligible and I think are more likely due to us having changed (more experienced, less availability, a bit more world weary)"
Absolutely K I feel the same as you, it’s a revolving door of old timers and new hungry people although sometimes I’m absolutely starving lol. I’m just active off fab as well so it doesn’t all happen here and non sex hum drum life just tips the balance for me currently.

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By *arrot_in_a_boxCouple
over a year ago

kinda dublin

All changed, changed utterly

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By *xcited And CuriousCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Dan Ariely's video on attractiveness on The Big Think YouTube channel is pretty interesting in terms of some of the discussions on this thread. Worth a watch.

Are we OK to post YT links on forum posts?

__________

According to the rules yes you can "

__________

https://youtu.be/BzG0_aU_Fn0?

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By *ant111Man
over a year ago

Dublin 6

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By *ant111Man
over a year ago

Dublin 6


"All changed, changed utterly"

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By *inxySTV/TS
over a year ago

dublin

I first joined over ten years ago with a somewhat successful male/tv profile. I found people far more friendly, not necessarily any more open to meeting but less likely to argue in the forums.

I think all walks of life have become a bit more openly aggressive and more so when it's not face to face. That said you can always find some absolutely amazing people if you look hard enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems to me it's about 10 years older than when I first joined ten years ago.

Have left and rejoined a few times as it's definitely addictive. Have met some brill folk and very funny/sexy/ genuine people. Ash was my favourite: that ass! Don't think it has the same quality banter or engagement as it used to have but still some lovely members here and at times interesting and informative/funny forum threads.

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