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By *tagandVixen30s OP   Couple
over a year ago

Carrick

Looking to try a younger guy (18 or 19) any couples have experience meeting younger?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking to try a younger guy (18 or 19) any couples have experience meeting younger?"

Is there anyone aged 18-19 on fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

AHH ye it a be great

I'm sure u will find a young lad on here bouncing off the walls ,a couple be great though I like your thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Schools will be open again in September

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By *ingerNNutsCouple
over a year ago

dublin

No, I (ginger) am more interested in older guys…hence the age gap between Nuts and I, lol. Have you tried using the search feature on here and messaging a few to see what happens? No doubt you’d find what you’re looking for

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By *icklow20Man
over a year ago

sandyford

22 yo here well verified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been lucky enough to meet a few teen lads, I find them so hot and I’d do anything for them

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By *ickheadcuntCouple
over a year ago

Cork Ireland

That young is usually a shit show.

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By *chochamberWoman
over a year ago

Munster

Be careful of the unbalanced power dynamic between a just legal teenager and middle aged people. It's borderline ethically questionable, you could be creating trouble for yourself. An 18 year old brain is still developing and the maturity difference between 18 to 40ish is much more pronounced than a 38 year old to 60ish.

The 18 year old is just beyond childhood and limited life experience, as a more mature adult you should cautious of this.

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By *oe Cool xxxMan
over a year ago

South Dublin

They wudnt know that they’re doing so would be shite

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By *heBlowinsCouple
over a year ago

West Cork


"They wudnt know that they’re doing so would be shite "

Not into that young ourselves but will say age often has nothing to do with sexual performance in our experience - we've had fabulous times with very skillful young 20-somethings and more meh/whambam times with 40-somethings.. and vice versa of course..

Again, not condoning (teenagers are simply too young in our opinion) but some young guys know what they're doing

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By *phrodite72Woman
over a year ago

dublin/galway


"Be careful of the unbalanced power dynamic between a just legal teenager and middle aged people. It's borderline ethically questionable, you could be creating trouble for yourself. An 18 year old brain is still developing and the maturity difference between 18 to 40ish is much more pronounced than a 38 year old to 60ish.

The 18 year old is just beyond childhood and limited life experience, as a more mature adult you should cautious of this. "

This

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By *ickheadcuntCouple
over a year ago

Cork Ireland

Being a parent of an 18 and 21 year old, I really struggle with the idea of meeting someone there age. The thought of them being in this world and playing with people double there age doesn't sit right with me.

Sure, some can be mature for their age, but for the majority, in my experience, they are quite immature, and really not equipped for this world.

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By *orYourThighsOnlyMan
over a year ago

Midlands

If I drew some pimples on my face, wore thick rimmed glasses/goggles, wore some ankle socks skinny jeans and school uniform I could pretend to be 18

(Note to self: cover reclining hair line,

& bald patches, borrow my sisters ankle socks, wear sweat pants as legs to big for sunny jeans, get fat man school uniform. Polish teeth, brush shoes and punch myself in the face for wearing Clark Kent glasses)

Lol. Just having a laugh. But good luck if I was 18 I’d have given my left ball to bang yoi??

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By *tagandVixen30s OP   Couple
over a year ago

Carrick

going by the responses young guys are not recommended so must be hard for them to get a start here

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By *r_Insatiable666Man
over a year ago

Cork

I'm not THAT young thank God. When I was 22 on here, I constantly got "you're my sons age!"

Finding a horny 18-19 lad isn't difficult in the slightest... just maybe on here. There is a bit of a double standard there.

Saying that, I agree with some above, be careful and respectful. Some might have notions bigger than their balls.

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By *uriousVoyeurMan
over a year ago

Northside

Personally I'd say if you found a guy on here that age,go for it. He obviously knows what he wants if he's set up a profile. Just meet socially first and you'll soon determine if he's an immature teen or someone with sense. At 18 I'd have loved nothing more than an older woman taking me to bed. Which begs the question...is it more acceptable for an older woman to take an 18-19 yr old guy to bed than it is for an older guy to bed an 18-19 yr old girl?? If they're having sex at that age does it really matter what age group they choose to sleep with,as long as consent is given? Just to note...I have kids near that age and while I have no doubt they've fooled around with their gf/bf,I'd like to think that at 18-19 they'd be sensible enough to make their own minds up about their sexual partners!

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By *eth TVTV/TS
over a year ago

Mid Meath

My biggest worry with somebody saying they’re 18 or 19 would be that they’re adding a few years to their age. That is one mess that is very very hard to shake off.

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By *tagandVixen30s OP   Couple
over a year ago

Carrick

you would need to make sure you see id to verify their age which is simple to do

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By *otass and scorpioCouple
over a year ago

limerick cork tipperary clare waterford

24/25 onwards for us , but each to their own

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By *r_Insatiable666Man
over a year ago

Cork


"24/25 onwards for us , but each to their own "

If you want to give me a birthday gift for my 25th birthday, it's not too far away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking to try a younger guy (18 or 19) any couples have experience meeting younger?"

You would defo make a lot of teens dreams come true ,

When I was that ages a mature woman was always the fantasy ….. still is lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being a parent of an 18 and 21 year old, I really struggle with the idea of meeting someone there age. The thought of them being in this world and playing with people double there age doesn't sit right with me.

Sure, some can be mature for their age, but for the majority, in my experience, they are quite immature, and really not equipped for this world."

I’m sure they get teased all the time for having a sexy mum , it’s a blessing to you to be so hot and a curse for them lol

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By *obshortMan
over a year ago

Cork

No way, even do girls can be more mature than guys. But still no thanks.

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By *immyK67Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

I think its fucked up to be honest they are just about legal and still kids...I've an 18yr old lad whos sexually active but if i found out he was in a situation with 40 year olds there would be blue murder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think its fucked up to be honest they are just about legal and still kids...I've an 18yr old lad whos sexually active but if i found out he was in a situation with 40 year olds there would be blue murder"

This all the way

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By *mmortalValkyrieWoman
over a year ago

From a galaxy far far away


"I think its fucked up to be honest they are just about legal and still kids...I've an 18yr old lad whos sexually active but if i found out he was in a situation with 40 year olds there would be blue murder"

OP do you mind me asking why that barely legal age want?

Im curious is it a Age play senario?

Also just if it was a 40+ male looking for a Teen Girl I think there would be uproar.... curious that as a couple there is filter advice instead.....

X

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By *oxy2002Man
over a year ago

navan

I'm 21 year old guy, we could have a lot of new fun together, just call me up.

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By *tagandVixen30s OP   Couple
over a year ago

Carrick

young men seem to find it hard to get a start and porn gives them unrealistic expectations for sex and how to treat a woman in a respectful way.

Would it be beneficial for these young men to learn the reality for proper respectful sex with a mature experienced woman/couple and carry these lessons into the future.

Think it would lead to a healthier environment for young women?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"young men seem to find it hard to get a start and porn gives them unrealistic expectations for sex and how to treat a woman in a respectful way.

Would it be beneficial for these young men to learn the reality for proper respectful sex with a mature experienced woman/couple and carry these lessons into the future.

Think it would lead to a healthier environment for young women?"

Very good point.

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By *rBandMrsGCouple
over a year ago

Kilkenny


"Be careful of the unbalanced power dynamic between a just legal teenager and middle aged people. It's borderline ethically questionable, you could be creating trouble for yourself. An 18 year old brain is still developing and the maturity difference between 18 to 40ish is much more pronounced than a 38 year old to 60ish.

The 18 year old is just beyond childhood and limited life experience, as a more mature adult you should cautious of this. "

100% the above,

Brain doesn't properly mature until 26, in our case our general rule is 30. Maybe if really pushed we'd go 28, but no lower.

Personally it would just feel weird for any younger

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By *illow and FionnCouple
over a year ago

Cork


"Be careful of the unbalanced power dynamic between a just legal teenager and middle aged people. It's borderline ethically questionable, you could be creating trouble for yourself. An 18 year old brain is still developing and the maturity difference between 18 to 40ish is much more pronounced than a 38 year old to 60ish.

The 18 year old is just beyond childhood and limited life experience, as a more mature adult you should cautious of this. "

This is exactly the only advice you need

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By *tagandVixen30s OP   Couple
over a year ago

Carrick


"Be careful of the unbalanced power dynamic between a just legal teenager and middle aged people. It's borderline ethically questionable, you could be creating trouble for yourself. An 18 year old brain is still developing and the maturity difference between 18 to 40ish is much more pronounced than a 38 year old to 60ish.

The 18 year old is just beyond childhood and limited life experience, as a more mature adult you should cautious of this.

This is exactly the only advice you need"

We have know very immature men in their 40s and 50s. Think some young people can be very mature for their age and all that is lacking is experience. Would prefer that they gain the right experience and habits at a young age because when older it is too late.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I refrained from contributing before now, but I can't ignore it

I'm the parent of a 17 & an 18 year old. Regardless of the legality of their age, they are children with virtually no life experience.

The thought that a grown adult thinks that it's appropriate to speak about "trying" an 18 year old like they're nothing more than a new ice cream flavour makes my skin crawl. Anyone - man, woman, couple - who tried to use my child like that would feel the full force of my protective wagon-circling.

These young people are a bundle of hormones and emotions. They're learning to deal with the world at large. How to conduct relationships - not just sexual ones. We don't need to press the fast forward button on these things. Because living through and dealing with life and all it throws at them is how they learn to be grown ups. They should be exploring life and love with their peers, not being "taught" by someone 20 or 30 years their senior.

Imagine all the firsts you experienced as a late teen. Imagine how all those firsts have shaped your life. The things you learned about others and yourself. Now imagine an adult 20 or 30 years older, that should damn well know better, stealing that innocence for their own titillation.

This post goes way beyond leaving a bad taste in my mouth and I guarantee had a man posted it, he'd have had a new arsehole torn in him long before now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I refrained from contributing before now, but I can't ignore it

I'm the parent of a 17 & an 18 year old. Regardless of the legality of their age, they are children with virtually no life experience.

The thought that a grown adult thinks that it's appropriate to speak about "trying" an 18 year old like they're nothing more than a new ice cream flavour makes my skin crawl. Anyone - man, woman, couple - who tried to use my child like that would feel the full force of my protective wagon-circling.

These young people are a bundle of hormones and emotions. They're learning to deal with the world at large. How to conduct relationships - not just sexual ones. We don't need to press the fast forward button on these things. Because living through and dealing with life and all it throws at them is how they learn to be grown ups. They should be exploring life and love with their peers, not being "taught" by someone 20 or 30 years their senior.

Imagine all the firsts you experienced as a late teen. Imagine how all those firsts have shaped your life. The things you learned about others and yourself. Now imagine an adult 20 or 30 years older, that should damn well know better, stealing that innocence for their own titillation.

This post goes way beyond leaving a bad taste in my mouth and I guarantee had a man posted it, he'd have had a new arsehole torn in him long before now

"

Succinctly put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"young men seem to find it hard to get a start and porn gives them unrealistic expectations for sex and how to treat a woman in a respectful way.

Would it be beneficial for these young men to learn the reality for proper respectful sex with a mature experienced woman/couple and carry these lessons into the future.

Think it would lead to a healthier environment for young women?"

No. You have no right to do this. It's not your job. That's for parents to do. To teach their children. To help them grow into decent adults. You can't dress your need for sexual titillation up as some sort of service for the greater good. Sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Be careful of the unbalanced power dynamic between a just legal teenager and middle aged people. It's borderline ethically questionable, you could be creating trouble for yourself. An 18 year old brain is still developing and the maturity difference between 18 to 40ish is much more pronounced than a 38 year old to 60ish.

The 18 year old is just beyond childhood and limited life experience, as a more mature adult you should cautious of this.

This is exactly the only advice you need

We have know very immature men in their 40s and 50s. Think some young people can be very mature for their age and all that is lacking is experience. Would prefer that they gain the right experience and habits at a young age because when older it is too late."

An 18 year old SHOULD be inexperienced. It's not for you to decide what is the right experience. Will an isolated sexual experience with you teach them everything they need to know about life love and the universe? Will it teach them how to have a fulfilling sexual relationship with someone their age? Absolutely not. All you'd be doing is further adding to the unrealistic expectations you talk about elsewhere. Furthermore you could actually be causing harm.

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By *teppenwolfMan
over a year ago

Cork


"Be careful of the unbalanced power dynamic between a just legal teenager and middle aged people. It's borderline ethically questionable, you could be creating trouble for yourself. An 18 year old brain is still developing and the maturity difference between 18 to 40ish is much more pronounced than a 38 year old to 60ish.

The 18 year old is just beyond childhood and limited life experience, as a more mature adult you should cautious of this. "

Best post here

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By *illow and FionnCouple
over a year ago

Cork


"young men seem to find it hard to get a start and porn gives them unrealistic expectations for sex and how to treat a woman in a respectful way.

Would it be beneficial for these young men to learn the reality for proper respectful sex with a mature experienced woman/couple and carry these lessons into the future.

Think it would lead to a healthier environment for young women?

No. You have no right to do this. It's not your job. That's for parents to do. To teach their children. To help them grow into decent adults. You can't dress your need for sexual titillation up as some sort of service for the greater good. Sorry. "

Agreed, saying its a beneficial opportunity for young men to learn about reality feels like a manipulate justification. Most boys aged 18 are still kids. This whole "once you are 18 you are an adult" is just for legality purposes the reality is most 18 year old males are still young boys with posters on the wall

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

Working with young adults has never left me under any illusions that they are big kids.

No doubt there are exceptions.

I'd worry about young ones getting an early education might not be right fit them either.

Let them fumble around in the dark figuring it out, badly like the rest of us!

The best night of a young man's life with his fantasy milf might be the best education he could get. Or might ruin him with unrealistic expectations for his peers and leave him with a fetish he'll rarely get to satisfy.

Porn and fantasy have their place too.

No judgment here just my own two cents for whatever they are worth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Be careful of the unbalanced power dynamic between a just legal teenager and middle aged people. It's borderline ethically questionable, you could be creating trouble for yourself. An 18 year old brain is still developing and the maturity difference between 18 to 40ish is much more pronounced than a 38 year old to 60ish.

The 18 year old is just beyond childhood and limited life experience, as a more mature adult you should cautious of this. "

Brilliant response

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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin

I was chatting to two 24 year old ladies. One wanted to met. She then told me she was just 18 and so was the other lady.

I was advice to stir clear and glad I did.

Too much trouble

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By *ex coupleCouple
over a year ago

wexford


"Looking to try a younger guy (18 or 19) any couples have experience meeting younger?"

How’s your search goin

Curious to know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my day 18 year old males were men, very independent and probably had at least 2 years work under their belt and the life experience to go with it. Many of my peers slept with older women they met in the local pub and it didn’t mess any of them up.

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway


"In my day 18 year old males were men, very independent and probably had at least 2 years work under their belt and the life experience to go with it. Many of my peers slept with older women they met in the local pub and it didn’t mess any of them up. "

I think most will agree that teenagers these days are less streetwise and mature than 15/20 years ago.

Bear in mind that 18 year olds in 2023 went through 2 years of isolation from their peers and normal social interaction during covid. No 18 year old I know has anywhere near the maturity that you would expect in the past, even the limited maturity of most teenagers.

Honestly, this makes me very uncomfortable. If it was a man looking to meet an 18 year old girl, the reaction would be severe.

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"Be careful of the unbalanced power dynamic between a just legal teenager and middle aged people. It's borderline ethically questionable, you could be creating trouble for yourself. An 18 year old brain is still developing and the maturity difference between 18 to 40ish is much more pronounced than a 38 year old to 60ish.

The 18 year old is just beyond childhood and limited life experience, as a more mature adult you should cautious of this.

This is exactly the only advice you need

We have know very immature men in their 40s and 50s. Think some young people can be very mature for their age and all that is lacking is experience. Would prefer that they gain the right experience and habits at a young age because when older it is too late."

That (and your associated posts on this thread) is the creepiest thing I’ve read here in a long time. If you went near my kids looking to provide them with “experience”, I’d be at your door before you knew it

And I’d be teaching you a life lesson you wouldn’t forget

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

7 weeks ago I typed a reply to this thread similar to what has been said today but deleted without posting because I believed I would get shit on from a great height but it's good to see that others are of the same mindset.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West


"In my day 18 year old males were men, very independent and probably had at least 2 years work under their belt and the life experience to go with it. Many of my peers slept with older women they met in the local pub and it didn’t mess any of them up. "

You might be right. You might well be wrong though. There's no way for you to know what effect it had and they could very well spend their lives not knowing either.

There are probably exceptional young adults that could handle it with an adult that wasn't just using them but again I think that's unlikely to actually happen in real life.

There's a reason that sexual initiations of young men were conducted by high priestesses in our deep history.

It leaves an imprint on a malleable mind

My kids are being raised in a sex positive environment and when they come of age they will know how to recognise predators.

I'm still withholding judgment here. I've spent enough time on the Naughty Step this month.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

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By *aughty MilfCouple
over a year ago

Fermanagh/Monaghan Ireland , Northern Ireland

No interest in people that are same age has my kids .

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields


"going by the responses young guys are not recommended so must be hard for them to get a start here"

A lot of negativity around this, but we've (Mrs) has played with a few young guys, often they are more mature and switched on that people our age.

There's no more moral issues playing with a mature 18yo vs an immature 40 year old. I wouldn't let the negative comments put you off, as long as they are strangers. I'd suggest if you knew them in real life you should be careful you're not seen to be in a position of power (although totally legal, it could be a weird if it was like your friends son).

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

The irony in this thread. I think some parents need to realise that if they want their children to mature and grow up, they need to stop constantly treating them like their babies.

If you're the parent of someone who is over 18 and you think it's appropriate to involve yourself in their sex life and make rules on who they/can't have sex with then you need to get a grip off yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Be careful of the unbalanced power dynamic between a just legal teenager and middle aged people. It's borderline ethically questionable, you could be creating trouble for yourself. An 18 year old brain is still developing and the maturity difference between 18 to 40ish is much more pronounced than a 38 year old to 60ish.

The 18 year old is just beyond childhood and limited life experience, as a more mature adult you should cautious of this. "

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"The irony in this thread. I think some parents need to realise that if they want their children to mature and grow up, they need to stop constantly treating them like their babies.

If you're the parent of someone who is over 18 and you think it's appropriate to involve yourself in their sex life and make rules on who they/can't have sex with then you need to get a grip off yourself. "

Please explain where the “irony” is in the thread ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Call me a prude or whatever but this thread is not sitting right with me at all. The reasoning in why you want to have sex with a barely legal teen is beyond me. If it was a man of your age looking for a young teen girl this thread would definitely have gone differently.

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By *elle111Woman
over a year ago

NI

Crazy post this one and certainly got people all hot and bothered. I personally know of an older man who had his first teenage sexual experience with an older woman and that has definitely left its mark. Whether or not they think at the time they are mature for their age, it’s CAF or a great experience with years of hindsight and life experience they were taken advantage of by someone who should have known better and I would love to meet that woman today she would get a piece of my mind. Dangerous territory OP that could bite u on the ass.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West


"The irony in this thread. I think some parents need to realise that if they want their children to mature and grow up, they need to stop constantly treating them like their babies.

If you're the parent of someone who is over 18 and you think it's appropriate to involve yourself in their sex life and make rules on who they/can't have sex with then you need to get a grip off yourself. "

We might just have different ideas of what that parment child relationship looks like.

My eldest talks to me about everything that's happening in his life. I don't need to 'get' involved in anything. I'm already there in every way he needs up to and including his privacy.

Or to put it another way. As the primary carer it is our responsibility to nurture, educate and protect. As parents this work is selfless.

Did I just mansplain parenting? Maybe. It's just that your opinion struck me as perhaps warranting a simple clear explanation of what it means to love your child.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lost my virginity to an older woman as a teen and at the time I thought I was Johnny big balls boasting to my friends. However now as a parent to teens and with the benefit of hindsight, it really wasn’t a great experience and not one I would recommend

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By *immyK67Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

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By *immyK67Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Call me a prude or whatever but this thread is not sitting right with me at all. The reasoning in why you want to have sex with a barely legal teen is beyond me. If it was a man of your age looking for a young teen girl this thread would definitely have gone differently. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking to try a younger guy (18 or 19) any couples have experience meeting younger?"

As they say here each to their own, No Judgement Required

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

Have NOT read the thread.

Just pointing out that the law of the land states that at 18 you are responsible for making your own decisions about pretty much everything.

That may be to engage with a much older person in sexual activity but, if both are consenting, without coercion/ influence of any kind, that's perfectly legal, regardless of what anybody else thinks.

Just stating the facts.

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By *immyK67Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Have NOT read the thread.

Just pointing out that the law of the land states that at 18 you are responsible for making your own decisions about pretty much everything.

That may be to engage with a much older person in sexual activity but, if both are consenting, without coercion/ influence of any kind, that's perfectly legal, regardless of what anybody else thinks.

Just stating the facts."

We all know what the law says, this is about been appropriate/ethical. If you are in your 40s and wanna have sex with an 18yr old boy or girl I think your a pervert i dont give a fuck what the law says...

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne


"Have NOT read the thread.

Just pointing out that the law of the land states that at 18 you are responsible for making your own decisions about pretty much everything.

That may be to engage with a much older person in sexual activity but, if both are consenting, without coercion/ influence of any kind, that's perfectly legal, regardless of what anybody else thinks.

Just stating the facts.

We all know what the law says, this is about been appropriate/ethical. If you are in your 40s and wanna have sex with an 18yr old boy or girl I think your a pervert i dont give a fuck what the law says... "

Agreed. Your opinion is exactly what you are entitled to and nobody has any right to say it's wrong, as it's your own personal opinion. It won't be everyone else's but will be agreed upon by some and disagreed by others. Which is why there are laws set in statute, which lay out the legal reality, regardless of what one group agree/disagree with.

Those laws are subject to change through various means and mass public opinion/voting is one way of doing so.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West


"Have NOT read the thread.

Just pointing out that the law of the land states that at 18 you are responsible for making your own decisions about pretty much everything.

That may be to engage with a much older person in sexual activity but, if both are consenting, without coercion/ influence of any kind, that's perfectly legal, regardless of what anybody else thinks.

Just stating the facts."

It's fairly safe to assume that every one knows the law in respect of the legal age of consent.

The discussion that was initiated by the OP's post is whether informed consent is possible in an imbalanced power dynamic.

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By *ohnno74Man
over a year ago

Limerick

This is a hot topic and there would naturally be a sensitive issue for parents. As parent myself and also as a man who lost my virginity to an older woman when I was 19, I can see merit on both sides.

Due to personal circumstances I grew up quick so was mature for my age, and I appreciate that that is not always the case. The beautiful woman I met was 35 and we clicked and was one of the bet experiences of my life and was grateful I had a patient teaching woman to show me the ropes about pleasing a woman. It formed my respect for women and how to treat them, like the princess and queens they are.

As a parent I would be concerned if my boy when he reaches 18 if he was to sleep with a 35 year old woman. He is nearly 17 now and I have started chatting with him about sex so that he can make informed decisions when it is his time. When 18 I will trust that he will be informed, educated and mature enough that he will be prepared which I feel is my job as a father.

In life we have apprentices who learn from older experienced professionals. I started an apprenticeship when I was 18 working with gas installations so was responsible for ensuring work was done to a high safety standard under the supervision of a qualified professional.

I think that the onus is on the older more experienced person to ensure that the younger person is ready for sex. 18 is legal by law but care must be taken regarding the morality of it all and the care of the 18 year old is paramount.

All 18 years are not the same, just as all 40 years are not the same. So each person must be taken on their own merit and as parents we have to ensure that our kids are informed and when they reach legal age to can make their own decisions with confidence. But it will not stop us worrying as parents which is our right and burden. I learned more from my mistakes in life and I expect it will be the same for my boy, but I will make sure I am there at all times to guide rather than dictate, advise not lecture.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"7 weeks ago I typed a reply to this thread similar to what has been said today but deleted without posting because I believed I would get shit on from a great height but it's good to see that others are of the same mindset. "

Just to elaborate on this.

When I typed and deleted a comment when this thread first started, there were no comments on the thread about dynamics or degrees of maturity.

The line I took issue with was about wanting to "try" an 18 year old.

I've commented on threads before when people refer to "having guys" or "trying an older woman" or bucket lists wanting to "try out" people based on age or body shape.

Too many on here talk about respect and don't practice it.

People are reduced to disposable commodities and become things to be tried rather than equals.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

To me the issue isn't about whether it's ok to have sex at 18 (where I was raised it was 16 which seemed perfectly reasonable)... the issue is having a big age gap and the uneven balance of power. Life experience brings a lot of benefits and the ability to influence/persuade/coerce someone much much younger does raise ethical concerns. Just because something is technically legal doesn't make it ethically sound. Abusers like to try and live in that gap between legal and ethical which allows them to get an unbalanced power with their sexual partner which means they can do nearly anything they like. The younger party might well not even realise that they are being taken advantage of until later in life. The older party may not even realise what they are doing either and just acting instinctively. It's good to be conscious about this stuff and think about our own behaviour and how we exert our power over those with less power, and choose whats ok rather than just say whatever is legal is ok.

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"This is a hot topic and there would naturally be a sensitive issue for parents. As parent myself and also as a man who lost my virginity to an older woman when I was 19, I can see merit on both sides.

Due to personal circumstances I grew up quick so was mature for my age, and I appreciate that that is not always the case. The beautiful woman I met was 35 and we clicked and was one of the bet experiences of my life and was grateful I had a patient teaching woman to show me the ropes about pleasing a woman. It formed my respect for women and how to treat them, like the princess and queens they are.

As a parent I would be concerned if my boy when he reaches 18 if he was to sleep with a 35 year old woman. He is nearly 17 now and I have started chatting with him about sex so that he can make informed decisions when it is his time. When 18 I will trust that he will be informed, educated and mature enough that he will be prepared which I feel is my job as a father.

In life we have apprentices who learn from older experienced professionals. I started an apprenticeship when I was 18 working with gas installations so was responsible for ensuring work was done to a high safety standard under the supervision of a qualified professional.

I think that the onus is on the older more experienced person to ensure that the younger person is ready for sex. 18 is legal by law but care must be taken regarding the morality of it all and the care of the 18 year old is paramount.

All 18 years are not the same, just as all 40 years are not the same. So each person must be taken on their own merit and as parents we have to ensure that our kids are informed and when they reach legal age to can make their own decisions with confidence. But it will not stop us worrying as parents which is our right and burden. I learned more from my mistakes in life and I expect it will be the same for my boy, but I will make sure I am there at all times to guide rather than dictate, advise not lecture."

“ I think that the onus is on the older more experienced person to ensure that the younger person is ready for sex.”

Read that again.

It’s exactly the kind of self serving, self justifying, self monitoring statement a certain type of person (you know the type I mean) would come out with. It places all the power with the “experienced person”…

As I said before , creepy as fuck.

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

I'm not even physically attracted to young ones... especially that age!they only kids...

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

A 20 year gap is normally not frowned upon here but I do understand the concerns raised as we speak of teenagers. And I agree the choice of words in the op is terrible. It doesn't make anyone though a 'certain type of person'.

I would assume that a 18/19 year old on fab who actually turns up to a meet has had his/her first sexual experience a while ago and is now looking for advanced adventures. We're not talking of a totally unexperienced virgin. I can't imagine the latter hanging out here to make their first experience.

Just a thought...

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By *tagandVixen30s OP   Couple
over a year ago

Carrick


"A 20 year gap is normally not frowned upon here but I do understand the concerns raised as we speak of teenagers. And I agree the choice of words in the op is terrible. It doesn't make anyone though a 'certain type of person'.

I would assume that a 18/19 year old on fab who actually turns up to a meet has had his/her first sexual experience a while ago and is now looking for advanced adventures. We're not talking of a totally unexperienced virgin. I can't imagine the latter hanging out here to make their first experience.

Just a thought... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have NOT read the thread.

Just pointing out that the law of the land states that at 18 you are responsible for making your own decisions about pretty much everything.

That may be to engage with a much older person in sexual activity but, if both are consenting, without coercion/ influence of any kind, that's perfectly legal, regardless of what anybody else thinks.

Just stating the facts.

We all know what the law says, this is about been appropriate/ethical. If you are in your 40s and wanna have sex with an 18yr old boy or girl I think your a pervert i dont give a fuck what the law says... "

Pervert: a person whose sexual behaviour is regarded as abnormal and unacceptable.

That's everyone on this site so from a Vanilla point of view

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By *tagandVixen30s OP   Couple
over a year ago

Carrick


"Have NOT read the thread.

Just pointing out that the law of the land states that at 18 you are responsible for making your own decisions about pretty much everything.

That may be to engage with a much older person in sexual activity but, if both are consenting, without coercion/ influence of any kind, that's perfectly legal, regardless of what anybody else thinks.

Just stating the facts.

We all know what the law says, this is about been appropriate/ethical. If you are in your 40s and wanna have sex with an 18yr old boy or girl I think your a pervert i dont give a fuck what the law says...

Pervert: a person whose sexual behaviour is regarded as abnormal and unacceptable.

That's everyone on this site so from a Vanilla point of view"

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West


"Have NOT read the thread.

Just pointing out that the law of the land states that at 18 you are responsible for making your own decisions about pretty much everything.

That may be to engage with a much older person in sexual activity but, if both are consenting, without coercion/ influence of any kind, that's perfectly legal, regardless of what anybody else thinks.

Just stating the facts.

We all know what the law says, this is about been appropriate/ethical. If you are in your 40s and wanna have sex with an 18yr old boy or girl I think your a pervert i dont give a fuck what the law says...

Pervert: a person whose sexual behaviour is regarded as abnormal and unacceptable.

That's everyone on this site so from a Vanilla point of view"

Consenting adults having sex isn't abnormal or unacceptable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have NOT read the thread.

Just pointing out that the law of the land states that at 18 you are responsible for making your own decisions about pretty much everything.

That may be to engage with a much older person in sexual activity but, if both are consenting, without coercion/ influence of any kind, that's perfectly legal, regardless of what anybody else thinks.

Just stating the facts.

We all know what the law says, this is about been appropriate/ethical. If you are in your 40s and wanna have sex with an 18yr old boy or girl I think your a pervert i dont give a fuck what the law says...

Pervert: a person whose sexual behaviour is regarded as abnormal and unacceptable.

That's everyone on this site so from a Vanilla point of view

Consenting adults having sex isn't abnormal or unacceptable."

I think you might find that an orgy or a threesome for example might be considered abnormal by the general non fab public...

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West


"Have NOT read the thread.

Just pointing out that the law of the land states that at 18 you are responsible for making your own decisions about pretty much everything.

That may be to engage with a much older person in sexual activity but, if both are consenting, without coercion/ influence of any kind, that's perfectly legal, regardless of what anybody else thinks.

Just stating the facts.

We all know what the law says, this is about been appropriate/ethical. If you are in your 40s and wanna have sex with an 18yr old boy or girl I think your a pervert i dont give a fuck what the law says...

Pervert: a person whose sexual behaviour is regarded as abnormal and unacceptable.

That's everyone on this site so from a Vanilla point of view

Consenting adults having sex isn't abnormal or unacceptable.

I think you might find that an orgy or a threesome for example might be considered abnormal by the general non fab public..."

My objection is more to do with your sweeping generalisation than any specific example

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm simply pointing out the definition of the word you used to describe the OP could be used to describe yourself...and myself...and everyone on this site.

Anyway I've made my point. Have a nice weekend!

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West


"I'm simply pointing out the definition of the word you used to describe the OP could be used to describe yourself...and myself...and everyone on this site.

Anyway I've made my point. Have a nice weekend!"

I think you might have gotten me confused with someone else. I didn't use the word pervert anywhere in this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm simply pointing out the definition of the word you used to describe the OP could be used to describe yourself...and myself...and everyone on this site.

Anyway I've made my point. Have a nice weekend!

I think you might have gotten me confused with someone else. I didn't use the word pervert anywhere in this thread.

"

My apologies, I did get you confused with another poster.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West


"I'm simply pointing out the definition of the word you used to describe the OP could be used to describe yourself...and myself...and everyone on this site.

Anyway I've made my point. Have a nice weekend!

I think you might have gotten me confused with someone else. I didn't use the word pervert anywhere in this thread.

My apologies, I did get you confused with another poster."

No problem.

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By *s SingletWoman
over a year ago

Kilkenny

At 43 years old I've have the pleasure of the company of an 18 year old man, met several times, very satisfied everytime. I've never been with someone younger before but he definitely changed my mind

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By *ecret-64Couple
47 weeks ago

Wrexham

Oh several times.

They try harder, stay harder and pound harder.

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By *exy man 82Man
47 weeks ago

miltown

Do you think

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By *rish In DubaiMan
47 weeks ago

Carlow


"Looking to try a younger guy (18 or 19) any couples have experience meeting younger?"

Love this. Good luck.

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By *rish In DubaiMan
47 weeks ago

Carlow

Alot of opinions on here and alot of people forgetting people have different things they want to experience. We post negative comments on this.

Never seen negative comments on cuckold, hotwifing, DDLG, woman looking to get with older guys, watersports and all other kinks or things people want to experience.

OP don't be discouraged from looking. And fair play for having the courage and honesty and putting yourself out there.

We all have our kinks and we should not be discouraged from exploring them once they are legal.

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By *ickey ThumbWoman
47 weeks ago

South Down


"Alot of opinions on here and alot of people forgetting people have different things they want to experience. We post negative comments on this.

Never seen negative comments on cuckold, hotwifing, DDLG, woman looking to get with older guys, watersports and all other kinks or things people want to experience.

OP don't be discouraged from looking. And fair play for having the courage and honesty and putting yourself out there.

We all have our kinks and we should not be discouraged from exploring them once they are legal. "

Even if it is morally or ethically wrong? Not all 18 year olds are the same. I'd certainly be delivering a large helping of discouragement to anyone wanting to "try" my 18 year old just to fulfil a kink or notion

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By *rish In DubaiMan
47 weeks ago

Carlow


"Alot of opinions on here and alot of people forgetting people have different things they want to experience. We post negative comments on this.

Never seen negative comments on cuckold, hotwifing, DDLG, woman looking to get with older guys, watersports and all other kinks or things people want to experience.

OP don't be discouraged from looking. And fair play for having the courage and honesty and putting yourself out there.

We all have our kinks and we should not be discouraged from exploring them once they are legal.

Even if it is morally or ethically wrong? Not all 18 year olds are the same. I'd certainly be delivering a large helping of discouragement to anyone wanting to "try" my 18 year old just to fulfil a kink or notion

"

Most things on this site are ethically wrong tho.

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By *he Cupid coupleCouple
47 weeks ago

Cupidville

My bucket list included being fucked by a teenager and a very old guy. The teenager was very good. He absolutely pounded me for 2 mins lol before cummimg in my pussy. The good news he got hard within another 2 and left another load in my ass (again after 2 mins)

The oldest guy was 73 but cudnt get hard and eventually just wanked over my face

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By *orkguy086Man
47 weeks ago

Happy to travel or get Hotel

I actually lost my virginity just after turning 18 to an older couple I met on a different site...

Met the woman 1st for day and night of fun and then a few weeks later met them as a couple. It was hot as fuck being 18 and in that circumstance

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By *electableicecreamMan
47 weeks ago

The West

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By *electableicecreamMan
47 weeks ago

The West


"

Most things on this site are ethically wrong tho. "

I'm struggling to figure this one out.

I mean mostly what happens on this site is consenting adults arranging to meet and fuck.

Where's the ethical dilemma?

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
47 weeks ago

East / North, Cork


"Never seen negative comments on cuckold, hotwifing, DDLG, woman looking to get with older guys, watersports and all other kinks "

I've seen many negative comments here about all of those things. Sometimes very forcefully.

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By *DLGirlCouple
47 weeks ago

littleville

Yes. For another few months anyway.

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By *ex coupleCouple
47 weeks ago

wexford


"Looking to try a younger guy (18 or 19) any couples have experience meeting younger?"

We are still on the lookout

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By *uphoria21.Couple
47 weeks ago

cork city

Rob here when I first joined at 18y first meet was with a couple in there 40s it was incredible. Still have done memories of the silver springs hotel room haha

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By *ex coupleCouple
47 weeks ago

wexford


"Rob here when I first joined at 18y first meet was with a couple in there 40s it was incredible. Still have done memories of the silver springs hotel room haha "

Hot

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By *rish In DubaiMan
47 weeks ago

Carlow


"

Most things on this site are ethically wrong tho.

I'm struggling to figure this one out.

I mean mostly what happens on this site is consenting adults arranging to meet and fuck.

Where's the ethical dilemma?"

No dilemma.

Here is the definition of unethical.

"not conforming to approved standards of social behavior".

Most things on this site are not approved social behaviour.

There is no denying that.

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By *electableicecreamMan
47 weeks ago

The West


"

Most things on this site are ethically wrong tho.

I'm struggling to figure this one out.

I mean mostly what happens on this site is consenting adults arranging to meet and fuck.

Where's the ethical dilemma?

No dilemma.

Here is the definition of unethical.

"not conforming to approved standards of social behavior".

Most things on this site are not approved social behaviour.

There is no denying that.

"

If you scroll down past the first hit on Google you'll find the Miriam Webster definition:

Unethical

Not conforming to a high moral standard : morally wrong : not ethical

There is nothing morally wrong about consensual sex.

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By *rish In DubaiMan
47 weeks ago

Carlow


"

Most things on this site are ethically wrong tho.

I'm struggling to figure this one out.

I mean mostly what happens on this site is consenting adults arranging to meet and fuck.

Where's the ethical dilemma?

No dilemma.

Here is the definition of unethical.

"not conforming to approved standards of social behavior".

Most things on this site are not approved social behaviour.

There is no denying that.

If you scroll down past the first hit on Google you'll find the Miriam Webster definition:

Unethical

Not conforming to a high moral standard : morally wrong : not ethical

There is nothing morally wrong about consensual sex."

Ok here's another definition.

Unethical behavior can be defined as actions that are against social norms or acts that are considered unacceptable to the public.

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By *ursecretmischiefCouple
47 weeks ago

The West


"

Most things on this site are ethically wrong tho.

I'm struggling to figure this one out.

I mean mostly what happens on this site is consenting adults arranging to meet and fuck.

Where's the ethical dilemma?

No dilemma.

Here is the definition of unethical.

"not conforming to approved standards of social behavior".

Most things on this site are not approved social behaviour.

There is no denying that.

If you scroll down past the first hit on Google you'll find the Miriam Webster definition:

Unethical

Not conforming to a high moral standard : morally wrong : not ethical

There is nothing morally wrong about consensual sex.

Ok here's another definition.

Unethical behavior can be defined as actions that are against social norms or acts that are considered unacceptable to the public.

"

To the public where though? Mainly Ireland? Certainly not to Europeans, Asians, many parts of the Americas.

A hangover from our susceptible society in the past?

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By *rish In DubaiMan
47 weeks ago

Carlow


"

Most things on this site are ethically wrong tho.

I'm struggling to figure this one out.

I mean mostly what happens on this site is consenting adults arranging to meet and fuck.

Where's the ethical dilemma?

No dilemma.

Here is the definition of unethical.

"not conforming to approved standards of social behavior".

Most things on this site are not approved social behaviour.

There is no denying that.

If you scroll down past the first hit on Google you'll find the Miriam Webster definition:

Unethical

Not conforming to a high moral standard : morally wrong : not ethical

There is nothing morally wrong about consensual sex.

Ok here's another definition.

Unethical behavior can be defined as actions that are against social norms or acts that are considered unacceptable to the public.

To the public where though? Mainly Ireland? Certainly not to Europeans, Asians, many parts of the Americas.

A hangover from our susceptible society in the past?"

Yup, I don't agree with it. Think there should be no shame in expressing yourself or speaking about what you like. Once you're not breaking the law.

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By *electableicecreamMan
47 weeks ago

The West

Swinging is unethical?

Threesomes are unethical?

Hook ups are unethical?

Your stretching your definition of the word to a way that no one actually uses it.

And according to the dictionary definition you are quite literally wrong.

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By *rish In DubaiMan
47 weeks ago

Carlow


"Swinging is unethical?

Threesomes are unethical?

Hook ups are unethical?

Your stretching your definition of the word to a way that no one actually uses it.

And according to the dictionary definition you are quite literally wrong.

"

Are watersports ethical? Is hotwifing ethical? Is cuckolding ethical? Is DDLG ethical? Is BDSM ethical?

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

As we say here each to their own, we all have our own/ make our choices and let's try respect them even if we agree or disagree,let them be

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By *rish In DubaiMan
47 weeks ago

Carlow


"As we say here each to their own, we all have our own/ make our choices and let's try respect them even if we agree or disagree,let them be "

100% this. No one should judge.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago


"As we say here each to their own, we all have our own/ make our choices and let's try respect them even if we agree or disagree,let them be

100% this. No one should judge. "

Phew thank you knowbody ever agrees with me here lol

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By *electableicecreamMan
47 weeks ago

The West


"Swinging is unethical?

Threesomes are unethical?

Hook ups are unethical?

Your stretching your definition of the word to a way that no one actually uses it.

And according to the dictionary definition you are quite literally wrong.

Are watersports ethical? Is hotwifing ethical? Is cuckolding ethical? Is DDLG ethical? Is BDSM ethical?

"

Those are all consensual sexual acts performed between adults so yes they are ethical.

Is it kink shaming if you say someone's kink is unethical?

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By *rish In DubaiMan
47 weeks ago

Carlow


"Swinging is unethical?

Threesomes are unethical?

Hook ups are unethical?

Your stretching your definition of the word to a way that no one actually uses it.

And according to the dictionary definition you are quite literally wrong.

Are watersports ethical? Is hotwifing ethical? Is cuckolding ethical? Is DDLG ethical? Is BDSM ethical?

Those are all consensual sexual acts performed between adults so yes they are ethical.

Is it kink shaming if you say someone's kink is unethical?"

Ok and consensual sexual acts performed between a 19 year old and a someone plus 30 isn't ethical?

This is what you're saying yes?

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By *electableicecreamMan
47 weeks ago

The West


"Swinging is unethical?

Threesomes are unethical?

Hook ups are unethical?

Your stretching your definition of the word to a way that no one actually uses it.

And according to the dictionary definition you are quite literally wrong.

Are watersports ethical? Is hotwifing ethical? Is cuckolding ethical? Is DDLG ethical? Is BDSM ethical?

Those are all consensual sexual acts performed between adults so yes they are ethical.

Is it kink shaming if you say someone's kink is unethical?

Ok and consensual sexual acts performed between a 19 year old and a someone plus 30 isn't ethical?

This is what you're saying yes? "

You can scroll up to read my feelings about age gaps and young adults.

Conflating 'basically everything on this site' with one particular thing doesn't make all those other things unethical.

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By *ickey ThumbWoman
47 weeks ago

South Down


"Swinging is unethical?

Threesomes are unethical?

Hook ups are unethical?

Your stretching your definition of the word to a way that no one actually uses it.

And according to the dictionary definition you are quite literally wrong.

Are watersports ethical? Is hotwifing ethical? Is cuckolding ethical? Is DDLG ethical? Is BDSM ethical?

Those are all consensual sexual acts performed between adults so yes they are ethical.

Is it kink shaming if you say someone's kink is unethical?

Ok and consensual sexual acts performed between a 19 year old and a someone plus 30 isn't ethical?

This is what you're saying yes? "

Potentially it might not be. Not all 18/19 year olds are equal. Also see comments above re power dynamics. Furthermore the idea of "trying" a young person just to fulfil the fantasy of the older person. I've explained at length above why I feel it's unethical

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Good luck with your desire .

Everyone has an opinion,

Some people just need a soap box.

Fuck all the begrudgers

X

Happy riding in 24

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By *tagandVixen30s OP   Couple
47 weeks ago

Carrick

Did not think that this topic would be so divisive.

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By *affa31Woman
47 weeks ago

Galway

You didn’t think expressing a desire to try a teenager would be divisive?

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By *uriousVoyeurMan
47 weeks ago

Northside


"Did not think that this topic would be so divisive."

This subject is always going to be divisive! Everyone has an opinion and some refuse to acknowledge the other side of the discussion! They're right,end of story! Doesn't matter which side they're on!And there's also an element of hypocrisy with some... they'd have no problem sleeping with an older person when they were 18/19 but flip out if their 18/19 yr old done the same! In my view (for what it's worth),you're doing nothing wrong as long as you meet the 18/19yr old and they are mature enough to decide if they want to join ye! Best of luck whatever happens!!

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By *ickey ThumbWoman
47 weeks ago

South Down


"Did not think that this topic would be so divisive.

This subject is always going to be divisive! Everyone has an opinion and some refuse to acknowledge the other side of the discussion! They're right,end of story! Doesn't matter which side they're on!And there's also an element of hypocrisy with some... they'd have no problem sleeping with an older person when they were 18/19 but flip out if their 18/19 yr old done the same! In my view (for what it's worth),you're doing nothing wrong as long as you meet the 18/19yr old and they are mature enough to decide if they want to join ye! Best of luck whatever happens!!"

Perhaps part of why they'd flip out if it was their own child is BECAUSE they slept with someone much older at that age

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
47 weeks ago

East / North, Cork

I think ethics are a personal thing. That means what one person finds unethical another may not.

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By *uriousVoyeurMan
47 weeks ago

Northside


"Did not think that this topic would be so divisive.

This subject is always going to be divisive! Everyone has an opinion and some refuse to acknowledge the other side of the discussion! They're right,end of story! Doesn't matter which side they're on!And there's also an element of hypocrisy with some... they'd have no problem sleeping with an older person when they were 18/19 but flip out if their 18/19 yr old done the same! In my view (for what it's worth),you're doing nothing wrong as long as you meet the 18/19yr old and they are mature enough to decide if they want to join ye! Best of luck whatever happens!!

Perhaps part of why they'd flip out if it was their own child is BECAUSE they slept with someone much older at that age"

Quite possibly. But if I'm not mistaken,the posters on this thread that were teenagers and slept with someone older all said it was fantastic and have very happy memories of it! There will obviously be some that regret it but if we're honest and open about sex and sexuality with our children as they reach that age, surely they can make their own minds up? At that age they are young adults!

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By *ealitybitesMan
47 weeks ago

Belfast


"Did not think that this topic would be so divisive.

This subject is always going to be divisive! Everyone has an opinion and some refuse to acknowledge the other side of the discussion! They're right,end of story! Doesn't matter which side they're on!And there's also an element of hypocrisy with some... they'd have no problem sleeping with an older person when they were 18/19 but flip out if their 18/19 yr old done the same! In my view (for what it's worth),you're doing nothing wrong as long as you meet the 18/19yr old and they are mature enough to decide if they want to join ye! Best of luck whatever happens!!"

I've never had sex with anyone older than me and I've spoken often enough on here as to why my lower age filters are not up for negotiation but none of that is relevant to the point I've already made in this thread.

People start threads here saying they want to try an older woman, try a BBW, try a black man, etc etc and it's the word "try" that I take issue with.

I've had couples with a younger woman in their teens or early 20s who are able to bypass my filters because the male half is above my lower age range.

Almost every one of those have said the reason they got in touch was that they wanted to "try" a much older man.

Reducing people to commodities and things to try is a no no as far as I'm concerned.

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By *uriousVoyeurMan
47 weeks ago

Northside


"Did not think that this topic would be so divisive.

This subject is always going to be divisive! Everyone has an opinion and some refuse to acknowledge the other side of the discussion! They're right,end of story! Doesn't matter which side they're on!And there's also an element of hypocrisy with some... they'd have no problem sleeping with an older person when they were 18/19 but flip out if their 18/19 yr old done the same! In my view (for what it's worth),you're doing nothing wrong as long as you meet the 18/19yr old and they are mature enough to decide if they want to join ye! Best of luck whatever happens!!

I've never had sex with anyone older than me and I've spoken often enough on here as to why my lower age filters are not up for negotiation but none of that is relevant to the point I've already made in this thread.

People start threads here saying they want to try an older woman, try a BBW, try a black man, etc etc and it's the word "try" that I take issue with.

I've had couples with a younger woman in their teens or early 20s who are able to bypass my filters because the male half is above my lower age range.

Almost every one of those have said the reason they got in touch was that they wanted to "try" a much older man.

Reducing people to commodities and things to try is a no no as far as I'm concerned. "

I get that...and agree to a point! The word "try" in that context isn't nice. But if that couple said they'd "love to be with an older guy" would it have made a difference? What I mean is,if it was phrased differently would you have considered it?

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By *ealitybitesMan
47 weeks ago

Belfast


"Did not think that this topic would be so divisive.

This subject is always going to be divisive! Everyone has an opinion and some refuse to acknowledge the other side of the discussion! They're right,end of story! Doesn't matter which side they're on!And there's also an element of hypocrisy with some... they'd have no problem sleeping with an older person when they were 18/19 but flip out if their 18/19 yr old done the same! In my view (for what it's worth),you're doing nothing wrong as long as you meet the 18/19yr old and they are mature enough to decide if they want to join ye! Best of luck whatever happens!!

I've never had sex with anyone older than me and I've spoken often enough on here as to why my lower age filters are not up for negotiation but none of that is relevant to the point I've already made in this thread.

People start threads here saying they want to try an older woman, try a BBW, try a black man, etc etc and it's the word "try" that I take issue with.

I've had couples with a younger woman in their teens or early 20s who are able to bypass my filters because the male half is above my lower age range.

Almost every one of those have said the reason they got in touch was that they wanted to "try" a much older man.

Reducing people to commodities and things to try is a no no as far as I'm concerned.

I get that...and agree to a point! The word "try" in that context isn't nice. But if that couple said they'd "love to be with an older guy" would it have made a difference? What I mean is,if it was phrased differently would you have considered it?"

No, because I don't meet anyone outside my age filters

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By *electableicecreamMan
47 weeks ago

The West

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By *electableicecreamMan
47 weeks ago

The West


"I lost my virginity to an older woman as a teen and at the time I thought I was Johnny big balls boasting to my friends. However now as a parent to teens and with the benefit of hindsight, it really wasn’t a great experience and not one I would recommend "

This guy didn't seem to think it was that great in hindsight.

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By *uriousVoyeurMan
47 weeks ago

Northside


"I lost my virginity to an older woman as a teen and at the time I thought I was Johnny big balls boasting to my friends. However now as a parent to teens and with the benefit of hindsight, it really wasn’t a great experience and not one I would recommend

This guy didn't seem to think it was that great in hindsight."

Yep,and a few posts up I said that obviously some will regret it! Every single one of us have done things we we wish we hadn't...but my point all along is we can only advise and encourage our children to make the right choices! If they're mature enough to be sexually active then we have to let them make their own decisions! All we can do is offer advice and be there for them if they need us! At 18/19 we can't manage their lives! Especially when it comes to sex!

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47 weeks ago

Really couldn’t imagine going that young. 18/19 year olds are leaving certificate students. Would just be total ick for me. Definitely moral and ethical issues around it that are too much for me to think about.

Editing it to someone in search of an 18/19 year old possibly still doing their Leaving Certificate female it just goes too far.

I would have a very strong opinion that this site should be restricted to 21 if not 23 plus minimum.

A random meet in a pub is one thing but actually going out searching for someone barely out of school- possibly still in school just sparks a whole other conversation.

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