FabSwingers.com forum: competitiveness On fab

By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

From the lounge

Do you see any part of Fab as being a competition? Whether it's vying for attention on the fora. Getting the attention of the person you find attractive. Do you see fab as being competitive? Are you competing for anything on here?

I have reflected on this and I suppose there is the odd thread where people are asked to comment on sexy profiles and you’re thinking ‘it d be nice to get mentioned ‘. But being into group meets means I am not so affected by this I guess …

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Isn't the whole site a competition to see who gets the ride

We all wanted to take part in that race when we started out and then everyone runs on their own track

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there are elements of it for sure but it's not something that affects me because I can't be arsed competing for attention. Like me, don't like me, meh...don't really care

The one place I've noticed where competitiveness is rife, is on some group chats leading up to events; who can show the most flesh, who can be the most outrageous, who can talk the loudest, who can be the biggest personality in the "room". Totally makes my shit itch. It's refreshing when a group is just chatting instead of people trying to outdo each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are constantly at the mercy of their insecurities and see everything as a competition. Their sense of self-worth is dependent on how they are seen by others.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Many meets are competitive (but not all). 1 party advertises a meet, and invites others to compete to be accepted. Party places are limited so there is competition for places. The favoured people will do better than others. A true equal 1 on 1 meet can happen also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See who cums the most

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

Of course there's competitiveness.

Chat groups are notorious for it and I rarely join any now before any events.

The sly digs on updates about certain members.

The stories circulating that someone told someone who told someone else but can't remember who the originator of it all was.

The list is endless

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

My animal brain still feels the competitive nature of the mating ritual.

My ego doesn't like to share attention.

I watch them go by. They are human things.

It's the Garden of Delights

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By *1CorkCouple
over a year ago

London

Being honest, we used to like to see a new pic doing ok in the Irish hot pics, but we’ve accepted our level as bottom of page 2 or top of page 3 so the ‘competitive’ willing has evaporated on that front.

Wouldn’t think there’s any competition for meets. The more active we see couples we’re attracted to, the better - it’s not like there’s a limit on the amount of meets or a deadline in time.

We don’t go in for local events, so not exposed to any competition for invites or competition for popularity with attendees/ hosts.

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

City Centre, Dublin

I do think a lot of elements of fab can be seen as competitive particularly with the amount of fellas on here

The forums in particular are competitive but in a ridiculous way, a lot of new fellas in particular pick their lane and then try to be:

Biggest Jack the lad

The most “genuine”

The most “thoughtful”

The most “understanding”

The nicest “nice” guy

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Ye just need to look at the Hotpics to see where the compitation is raging.....ive seen some load up a pic and if it doesn’t get to the top they'll remove it and load up a more daring one, the lengths some go to to get there is sad really....

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By *ildarekinkstersCouple
over a year ago

kinkytown

"Ye just need to look at the Hotpics to see where the compitation is raging.....ive seen some load up a pic and if it doesn’t get to the top they'll remove it and load up a more daring one, the lengths some go to to get there is sad really.... "

And the constant updating of the status to new pics up

Never understood that because people would see it in the updates regardless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You only have to take a look through the hot photos to see a degree of competitiveness, the whole "fab this photo if..." gives us serious cringe, it's gone up a gear in the last while to "fab this pic for a friend request"

Each to their own we suppose

Other than in chat groups and seeing it on the forums that's the only competitiveness we've witnessed

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Think I could get to number one with that bikini on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think I could get to number one with that bikini on

Let's make it happen

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By *astelloWoman
over a year ago

Far far away

Isnt this whole site about competition?

Like the mating game, vying for attention.

From pics, veris , hotpics, status updates, forum comments.

And there is nothing wrong with it. A David Attenborough documentary showcases the lengths species go for a ride.....

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By *ouple 0073Couple
over a year ago

donegal

I'm only in competition with myself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Isnt this whole site about competition?

Like the mating game, vying for attention.

From pics, veris , hotpics, status updates, forum comments.

And there is nothing wrong with it. A David Attenborough documentary showcases the lengths species go for a ride..... "
imagine five blokes doing a dance routine trying to woo you into bed like one of Attenboroughs scenes

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By *rakesterlingMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Nope... Not at all... Has nothing to do with competitiveness... Not a single thing... Nada... A run for hot porridge in a nunnery would be Hunger Games in terms of competitiveness compared to Fab...

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By *ymbunny2016Man
over a year ago

Bangor

The pics especially appear to have serial posters seeking validation. Or statuses asking people to fab them etc

Nobody is averse to having the ego massaged however

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

I don’t feel any competitiveness on here in the slightest..

I’m just me doing my thing.. I’m not comparing myself to anyone else or watching to see who is doing what to others..

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

Competitiveness is human nature, it ensures our survival ... 'survival of the fittest' and all of that. Fab is no different.

How you treat others in the process is what matters however.

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By *llthewaysMan
over a year ago

City centre/Naas

I don't find myself in competition with anyone else to be honest.

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

Im not competing, as there is NO competition.

I'm simply the best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With the ratio of men to women on fab, there is competition whether you think youre in it or not. Just have to try and stand out some way

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By *exesrangerMan
over a year ago

Jameson main bar

Nope...I couldn't give a hoot who is in front of behind me in said competition. As bog said earlier we all have our own track and I'm perfectly happy to stop mid race and have myself a lil picnic if my heart desires it. I'm in no hurry and I'm happy observing the scenery as I toddle along. Stick me down on page 20 and if you see me there gives a nod and a ??

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By *exesrangerMan
over a year ago

Jameson main bar

Drink

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By *exesrangerMan
over a year ago

Jameson main bar

Wink ....ffs get it together man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s definitely 1 or 2 ladies who I imagine get upset when they’re not top of the hotlist

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

Or a more considered answer...

Men are competitive by nature, its a survival instinct. So, men will compete to get the ride, to procreate the species. In general, the race is to get sex. To the winner the spoils.

From what I observe in the women on Fab, they freely and without inhibition display their bodies to as many men as possible, and choose one, of maybe a few, of the top 5% of handsome, healthy, virile men. Here on Fab, women can easily find, and attract these men, where our societie's rules of mating dont apply. Women dont have to compete too much on Fab, as, generally they are only looking for a casual sex partner, whereas in society, they seek a mate with more attrributes like commitment, fidelity, status, earning capacity, etc. Off Fab, women have to compete harder for a suitable mate.

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By *exesrangerMan
over a year ago

Jameson main bar

"With the ratio of men to women on fab, there is competition whether you think youre in it or not. Just have to try and stand out some way "

Stand out??? Nah mate the hidden gems are always the best find.

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By *ifes GoodMan
over a year ago

Irelands Atlantic Way, Algarve

"Some people are constantly at the mercy of their insecurities and see everything as a competition. Their sense of self-worth is dependent on how they are seen by others. "

In a nutshell ….

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By *TinyDelight-Woman
over a year ago

City Centre

"Some people are constantly at the mercy of their insecurities and see everything as a competition. Their sense of self-worth is dependent on how they are seen by others. "

Excellent. I think the perception of competitiveness on fab comes solely from within a person and not from anywhere else.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I think we all have a natural streak of competitiveness in us when it comes to 'mating'. Nothing wrong with blowing your own trumpet now and then to get some attention.

However there's plenty of unhealthy competitiveness on here too often coupled with drama, machiavellian plotting and jealousy. I steer clear of any such action and I took myself out of the hot pic competition years ago after being marginaly drawn into one of those fab queen hen fights.

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By *ildarekinkstersCouple
over a year ago

kinkytown

"I think we all have a natural streak of competitiveness in us when it comes to 'mating'. Nothing wrong with blowing your own trumpet now and then to get some attention.

Fab queen hen fights

that's a good one

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

I’m in competition with three people, myself, Mother nature and Father Time.

Father Time isn’t a variable, or can’t be altered so I dismiss it but try to make the most of it as Nast I can.

Mother Nature, yes, she’s going to have an effect on me, some things I can do something about, some things I can’t.

Myself, this I can control, it’s entirely up to myself what I post and how I conduct myself here, on the forum, in private messages and at meets, this is me.

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By *xcited And CuriousCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

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"I think there are elements of it for sure but it's not something that affects me because I can't be arsed competing for attention. Like me, don't like me, meh...don't really care

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It's great to see the craic on those social medias - it's good for a first-timer to suss out that the group seems down-to-earth and good fun.

But the pre-event social chats on KIK or whatever seem to particularly feature the odd single male trying to appear the most fun, sort of declaring their alpha-ness, the Jack-the-lad type of guy.

Does that appeal to women & couples? Would that entice a woman or couple to seek that guy?

There's obviously room for everyone in any social setting, but how might a quieter woman or couple best go about refusing or rejecting the not-necessarily-welcome attentions of the Jack-the-lad type of guy at a fab or swinger event? The loudest guy isn't always the funniest or best company...

I imagine the most competition would be between or among single males?

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

I can feel it happening guys

“ The FS awards 2023” live from city west

Ur hosts for the evening Bog-Man,Linden & Cas777

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I have never felt that fab is a competition in any way for me and my journey on here.

I put pics up when I feel like taking them and because I like them enough to put them up on my profile. I never felt the need to compete for anyone's attention on here,people either like me or they don't.I have met some amazing people and I have walked away from some when any drama started as I cannot be arsed with it or having to compete with anyone. If they want to make it a competition they can go ahead and take the win as I can't be bothered with it.

Yes it's nice to get attention at times on here but I don't feel I need to compete with anyone on here to get it.

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"I can feel it happening guys

“ The FS awards 2023” live from city west

Ur hosts for the evening Bog-Man,Linden & Cas777"

Successful applicants will be required to wrestle in a pool of jelly.

Also taking applications via PM for ring girls…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just my humble opinion on this! I’ve notice a few females on here that had posted daily pics for a while and were always on page number1 and sometimes topped the fabbed list but lately haven’t seen anything from them. In all probability their “fans” got bored with them and they dropped down the popularity ratings. Quality rather than quantity in my opinion always works best ! Happy Fabbing everyone

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

"I can feel it happening guys

“ The FS awards 2023” live from city west

Ur hosts for the evening Bog-Man,Linden & Cas777

Successful applicants will be required to wrestle in a pool of jelly.

Also taking applications via PM for ring girls….."

This is gonna be a classy affair

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"I can feel it happening guys

“ The FS awards 2023” live from city west

Ur hosts for the evening Bog-Man,Linden & Cas777

Successful applicants will be required to wrestle in a pool of jelly.

Also taking applications via PM for ring girls…..

This is gonna be a classy affair "

I wouldn’t have it any other way, I can wear a dickie bow if that helps?

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

"I can feel it happening guys

“ The FS awards 2023” live from city west

Ur hosts for the evening Bog-Man,Linden & Cas777

Successful applicants will be required to wrestle in a pool of jelly.

Also taking applications via PM for ring girls…..

This is gonna be a classy affair

I wouldn’t have it any other way, I can wear a dickie bow if that helps?"

Tuxedo

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"I can feel it happening guys

“ The FS awards 2023” live from city west

Ur hosts for the evening Bog-Man,Linden & Cas777

Successful applicants will be required to wrestle in a pool of jelly.

Also taking applications via PM for ring girls…..

This is gonna be a classy affair

I wouldn’t have it any other way, I can wear a dickie bow if that helps?

Tuxedo "

Agreed…..

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By *llthewaysMan
over a year ago

City centre/Naas

I'd make a great ring boy.

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"I'd make a great ring boy.

Yes, apologies, I should have said ring people…..

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By *arrot_in_a_boxCouple
over a year ago

kinda dublin

I like to treat it like a competition anyway. That's why I always come first

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"Just my humble opinion on this! I’ve notice a few females on here that had posted daily pics for a while and were always on page number1 and sometimes topped the fabbed list but lately haven’t seen anything from them. In all probability their “fans” got bored with them and they dropped down the popularity ratings. Quality rather than quantity in my opinion always works best ! Happy Fabbing everyone

Or maybe one of them met a bloke,started a relationship and they both left fab.....

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"I'd make a great ring boy.

Yes, apologies, I should have said ring people…..

So there's a ring involved....bags I'm not Gollum

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By *llthewaysMan
over a year ago

City centre/Naas

I just thought I'd look good in booty shorts haha

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"I'd make a great ring boy.

Yes, apologies, I should have said ring people…..

So there's a ring involved....bags I'm not Gollum "

OMG, ok…..

, ring people/elves/goblins/hobbits and everyone in between……

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By *anther PurrrsWoman
over a year ago

the Shadows Purrring or Roaring

Or maybe one of them met a bloke,started a relationship and they both left fab....."

Exactly that or simply having a break…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The snidey digs on this thread LOL. Usual carry on. Have a lovely Thursday everyone.

Xoxo

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"The snidey digs on this thread LOL. Usual carry on. Have a lovely Thursday everyone.

Xoxo

Was it my ring girls comment?……

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

"The snidey digs on this thread LOL. Usual carry on. Have a lovely Thursday everyone.

Xoxo

Who made a snide comment ?

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

"The snidey digs on this thread LOL. Usual carry on. Have a lovely Thursday everyone.

Xoxo

Was it my ring girls comment?……

RING PERSON

LORD OF MY RING

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"The snidey digs on this thread LOL. Usual carry on. Have a lovely Thursday everyone.

Xoxo

Was it my ring girls comment?……

RING PERSON

LORD OF MY RING

Are you taking application for that?….

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By *XlalaXXWoman
over a year ago

tipperary

"The snidey digs on this thread LOL. Usual carry on. Have a lovely Thursday everyone.

Xoxo

Was it my ring girls comment?……

RING PERSON

LORD OF MY RING

Are you taking application for that?….

"
no

Position filled

Lol

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"The snidey digs on this thread LOL. Usual carry on. Have a lovely Thursday everyone.

Xoxo

Was it my ring girls comment?……

RING PERSON

LORD OF MY RING

Are you taking application for that?….

Position filled

Lol"

Another day on Fab, another burn…..

Aloe vera anyone?……

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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago

The bog

Ive no interest in competing with anyone I just do me always have I'm like marmite ya either like me or don't either way I'm happy...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely the hot pics are where competitions take place. Last year there was a war of words on status updates waged and some very nasty remarks made amongst a group of irish women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive no interest in competing with anyone I just do me always have I'm like marmite ya either like me or don't either way I'm happy..."
..

This I like x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll give the same answer here as l did in the lounge... Nope... absolutely not do l ever feel lm in competition with anyone here or anywhere for that matter, if a person is anyway competitive here l just say to myself.." Knock yourself out "...

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By *itlbeeCouple
over a year ago

Nope, because sharing is caring!

I've even recommended couples to other couples and set them up together.

The whole nature documentary logic is for an animal that only has ONE mate at a time.

Sure, you can't play with everyone at the party. But if people like you, you swap usernames and go grab a drink another time.

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

"The snidey digs on this thread LOL. Usual carry on. Have a lovely Thursday everyone.

Xoxo

Was it my ring girls comment?……

RING PERSON

LORD OF MY RING

Are you taking application for that?….

Position filled

Lol

Another day on Fab, another burn…..

Aloe vera anyone?……

I've got some from the last burn I gave you

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"The snidey digs on this thread LOL. Usual carry on. Have a lovely Thursday everyone.

Xoxo

Was it my ring girls comment?……

RING PERSON

LORD OF MY RING

Are you taking application for that?….

Position filled

Lol

Another day on Fab, another burn…..

Aloe vera anyone?……

I've got some from the last burn I gave you

Thank God because my usual supplier has seriously underestimated the requirements of a “lifetime supply” for a member here…..

If 10% of these were carpet/friction burns I’d be a much happier man…..

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

"The snidey digs on this thread LOL. Usual carry on. Have a lovely Thursday everyone.

Xoxo

Was it my ring girls comment?……

RING PERSON

LORD OF MY RING

Are you taking application for that?….

Position filled

Lol

Another day on Fab, another burn…..

Aloe vera anyone?……

I've got some from the last burn I gave you

Thank God because my usual supplier has seriously underestimated the requirements of a “lifetime supply” for a member here…..

If 10% of these were carpet/friction burns I’d be a much happier man…..

Next time your having a frolic on a carpet ,make sure you rub your knees back and forth a few times.

Should give you your desired carpet burn

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By *appyhotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

Wife and I are quite competitive.

But her pics get fabbed more than mine so I’m losing by a mile

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By *on Juan the MADridMan
over a year ago

Lisbon/ North England/ Wales/ Madrid/

I am not competing, not sure what the rest of people do. Each one can enjoy fabs on the way that they wish.

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"The snidey digs on this thread LOL. Usual carry on. Have a lovely Thursday everyone.

Xoxo

Was it my ring girls comment?……

RING PERSON

LORD OF MY RING

Are you taking application for that?….

Position filled

Lol

Another day on Fab, another burn…..

Aloe vera anyone?……

I've got some from the last burn I gave you

Thank God because my usual supplier has seriously underestimated the requirements of a “lifetime supply” for a member here…..

If 10% of these were carpet/friction burns I’d be a much happier man…..

Next time your having a frolic on a carpet ,make sure you rub your knees back and forth a few times.

Should give you your desired carpet burn

I tried that but I was covered in coconut oil at the time so it didn’t work and I just ended up smelling like a big Piña colada…..

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

Aloe vera anyone?……

I've got some from the last burn I gave you

Thank God because my usual supplier has seriously underestimated the requirements of a “lifetime supply” for a member here…..

If 10% of these were carpet/friction burns I’d be a much happier man…..

Next time your having a frolic on a carpet ,make sure you rub your knees back and forth a few times.

Should give you your desired carpet burn

I tried that but I was covered in coconut oil at the time so it didn’t work and I just ended up smelling like a big Piña colada…..

Sounds delicious

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