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"Ok I know I’m going to get varied opinions on this so I’ll just lay out my point, but before that I understand a lot if not all women get some kind of abuse on here which to be honest needs to be stamped out. I like a profile that’s honest & straightforward ie if I don’t reply means I’m not interested or face pic in first msg it’s not a dating site so no need to msg for days, all that and everything like it is fine, but then you have the nasty & demanding profiles like put blah blah in msg or jog on or fuck off now I understand that’s saying basically it’s my rules & if you don’t like it do one, I’m sorry I don’t care how stunning your pictures are but that’s just made you so unattractive.. am I in the wrong here? Feel free to discuss " I'm not sure what your question is OP. No one deserves to receive abuse. The ladies also receive a lot of pleasure( I use that term loosely) Women here are not passive to the dynamic that may happen on the site. But there's always room for a new sheriff in town.  | |||
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"If you find women setting boundaries unattractive, it really says more about you..." I don't think the OP said he finds women setting boundaries on attractive rather women on attractively setting boundaries, ie "fuck of " And such unnecessarily bitchy high horse type shite  | |||
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"Ok I know I’m going to get varied opinions on this so I’ll just lay out my point, but before that I understand a lot if not all women get some kind of abuse on here which to be honest needs to be stamped out. I like a profile that’s honest & straightforward ie if I don’t reply means I’m not interested or face pic in first msg it’s not a dating site so no need to msg for days, all that and everything like it is fine, but then you have the nasty & demanding profiles like put blah blah in msg or jog on or fuck off now I understand that’s saying basically it’s my rules & if you don’t like it do one, I’m sorry I don’t care how stunning your pictures are but that’s just made you so unattractive.. am I in the wrong here? Feel free to discuss " Correct me if I'm wrong , I think I get what your saying . Its the fact that there is a substantial amount of female profiles that read obnoxiously pushy, demanding and rude.. and it in itself is highly unattractive? | |||
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"My profile was always on the witty side. More often than not, I'd respond to messages into my single woman profile when it was active - even just a thanks but no, thanks. And I wasn't a big blocker of profiles either, still am not. I can count on one hand the amount of abuse I got back. My personal opinion - you get back what you put out there. If a profile isn't attractive, that includes the text, not just the images, then I move on. A negative, demanding text gives off a negative, demanding image - no, thank you but the best of luck on their demanding endeavours .
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"Ok I know I’m going to get varied opinions on this so I’ll just lay out my point, but before that I understand a lot if not all women get some kind of abuse on here which to be honest needs to be stamped out. I like a profile that’s honest & straightforward ie if I don’t reply means I’m not interested or face pic in first msg it’s not a dating site so no need to msg for days, all that and everything like it is fine, but then you have the nasty & demanding profiles like put blah blah in msg or jog on or fuck off now I understand that’s saying basically it’s my rules & if you don’t like it do one, I’m sorry I don’t care how stunning your pictures are but that’s just made you so unattractive.. am I in the wrong here? Feel free to discuss Correct me if I'm wrong , I think I get what your saying . Its the fact that there is a substantial amount of female profiles that read obnoxiously pushy, demanding and rude.. and it in itself is highly unattractive? " That's how I interpreted the original post too... and I agree, there are plenty of those and it is very unattractive | |||
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"If you find women setting boundaries unattractive, it really says more about you..." Feel free to read my msg again I’m all for boundaries i clearly state that .. thanks | |||
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"My profile was always on the witty side. More often than not, I'd respond to messages into my single woman profile when it was active - even just a thanks but no, thanks. And I wasn't a big blocker of profiles either, still am not. I can count on one hand the amount of abuse I got back. My personal opinion - you get back what you put out there. If a profile isn't attractive, that includes the text, not just the images, then I move on. A negative, demanding text gives off a negative, demanding image - no, thank you but the best of luck on their demanding endeavours .
I stick with profiles I find attractive, in picture and writing "Thank you that’s exactly my point & you've actually put it out there a lot better than I have | |||
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"If you find women setting boundaries unattractive, it really says more about you... I don't think the OP said he finds women setting boundaries on attractive rather women on attractively setting boundaries, ie "fuck of " And such unnecessarily bitchy high horse type shite "Thank you | |||
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"Ok I know I’m going to get varied opinions on this so I’ll just lay out my point, but before that I understand a lot if not all women get some kind of abuse on here which to be honest needs to be stamped out. I like a profile that’s honest & straightforward ie if I don’t reply means I’m not interested or face pic in first msg it’s not a dating site so no need to msg for days, all that and everything like it is fine, but then you have the nasty & demanding profiles like put blah blah in msg or jog on or fuck off now I understand that’s saying basically it’s my rules & if you don’t like it do one, I’m sorry I don’t care how stunning your pictures are but that’s just made you so unattractive.. am I in the wrong here? Feel free to discuss Correct me if I'm wrong , I think I get what your saying . Its the fact that there is a substantial amount of female profiles that read obnoxiously pushy, demanding and rude.. and it in itself is highly unattractive? " Basically that’s it .. I’m all for boundaries but rude & obnoxious no | |||
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"You have a a few lines on your own profile about gay and Bi men Is that agression or just a preference " Does it read as aggressive or preference ? | |||
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"You have a a few lines on your own profile about gay and Bi men Is that agression or just a preference Its as much a preference as asking for a word to be quoted in a reply to be honest Does it read as aggressive or preference ?" | |||
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"You have a a few lines on your own profile about gay and Bi men Is that agression or just a preference Its as much a preference as asking for a word to be quoted in a reply to be honest Does it read as aggressive or preference ?" Apparently it reads like an Echo | |||
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"You have a a few lines on your own profile about gay and Bi men Is that agression or just a preference Its as much a preference as asking for a word to be quoted in a reply to be honest Does it read as aggressive or preference ? Apparently it reads like an Echo "Wait now  ... I see it now | |||
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"Ok I know I’m going to get varied opinions on this so I’ll just lay out my point, but before that I understand a lot if not all women get some kind of abuse on here which to be honest needs to be stamped out. I like a profile that’s honest & straightforward ie if I don’t reply means I’m not interested or face pic in first msg it’s not a dating site so no need to msg for days, all that and everything like it is fine, but then you have the nasty & demanding profiles like put blah blah in msg or jog on or fuck off now I understand that’s saying basically it’s my rules & if you don’t like it do one, I’m sorry I don’t care how stunning your pictures are but that’s just made you so unattractive.. am I in the wrong here? Feel free to discuss " Everyone is different here , if you find someone unattractive, for whatever reason , don't message them , people here find something in a person's profile or pics that turns them off straight away , if that happens so what ? Find someone that you are attracted to or interested in and message them..leave the ones that you don't like behind ..what you don't like someone else thinks they're absolutely brilliant and beautiful. | |||
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"Sure there are some unnecessarily aggressive women's profiles. Same goes for some male profiles." And couples
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"Sure there are some unnecessarily aggressive women's profiles. Same goes for some male profiles. And couples
I am afraid its everywhere "Suck it | |||
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"Sure there are some unnecessarily aggressive women's profiles. Same goes for some male profiles. And couples
I am afraid its everywhere
Suck it "Left or right  | |||
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"Sure there are some unnecessarily aggressive women's profiles. Same goes for some male profiles. And couples
I am afraid its everywhere
Suck it
Left or right "I'll go straight in lol | |||
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"Ok I know I’m going to get varied opinions on this so I’ll just lay out my point, but before that I understand a lot if not all women get some kind of abuse on here which to be honest needs to be stamped out. I like a profile that’s honest & straightforward ie if I don’t reply means I’m not interested or face pic in first msg it’s not a dating site so no need to msg for days, all that and everything like it is fine, but then you have the nasty & demanding profiles like put blah blah in msg or jog on or fuck off now I understand that’s saying basically it’s my rules & if you don’t like it do one, I’m sorry I don’t care how stunning your pictures are but that’s just made you so unattractive.. am I in the wrong here? Feel free to discuss Correct me if I'm wrong , I think I get what your saying . Its the fact that there is a substantial amount of female profiles that read obnoxiously pushy, demanding and rude.. and it in itself is highly unattractive? " Yeah, I also think get what you saying. That there are allot of rude guys out there pushy and rude towards the ladies. I have had a guy been pushy to suck my cock! Said no, and they don’t read bio… very rude! So I stand on ladies side I can understand why most times they don’t want to reply to men. | |||
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"That's the beauty of a profile. We can look at it and assess if that person is someone we might like to engage with. Whether it's aggression or entitlement or 30 floating cocks or slagging off other people, these are the things that allow us to initially assess potential compatibility " This. The handy thing about assholes is that they are assholes nearly everywhere, so can mostly be easily identified. | |||
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"Women have to be agressive on this site ,the amount of messages they get everyday some abusive ,the only way to get through to some people is to be aggressive or borderline abusive "Women do not have to be aggressive back. Its a stranger....why would you answer and lower yourself to their level by being aggressive back to that stranger. I just ignore and block. Never have I answered a stranger being rude to me. | |||
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"There's this thing in psychology called the Fundamental Attribution Error. People tend to over attribute other people's behaviours to their personality, and under attribute it to their situation. We do the opposite for ourselves - blaming bad behaviour on our situation. I feel like that's what's going on here. People say they know women get more abuse, dick pics, people who are cheaters, pic hunters etc etc. But they say their choice of words on their profiles is because they have a bad personality - and are a bitch. It could equally be a frustrated person responding to a situation of dealing with a lot of bad actors? I've seen a lot of bios written by women where I see defensiveness. A guy might label it aggressive, but what I see is someone being assertive about a specific situation they have experienced, or fear experiencing. We all know the bar is very low for women to be called bitchy or aggressive. I've seen things I don't like on others profiles too. But if I'm not a good match, that's it. I wouldn't label it "aggressive" unless they were mailing me directly. I think it's their profile bio, and they don't owe anything to a stranger passively reading it. We're always being told to be "nicer",because random men won't find it attractive. I don't think it's my job to be attractive to every possible man. Sometimes women, just like men, get pissed off and frustrated. Sometimes people don't actually want men on fab to message them, they keep the profile active just for parties etc. We all know fab has WAY too many men for the number of women, and frustration runs high when the swinging fantasy isn't matched by reality. " What an excellent post and food for thought | |||
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"There's this thing in psychology called the Fundamental Attribution Error. People tend to over attribute other people's behaviours to their personality, and under attribute it to their situation. We do the opposite for ourselves - blaming bad behaviour on our situation. I feel like that's what's going on here. People say they know women get more abuse, dick pics, people who are cheaters, pic hunters etc etc. But they say their choice of words on their profiles is because they have a bad personality - and are a bitch. It could equally be a frustrated person responding to a situation of dealing with a lot of bad actors? I've seen a lot of bios written by women where I see defensiveness. A guy might label it aggressive, but what I see is someone being assertive about a specific situation they have experienced, or fear experiencing. We all know the bar is very low for women to be called bitchy or aggressive. I've seen things I don't like on others profiles too. But if I'm not a good match, that's it. I wouldn't label it "aggressive" unless they were mailing me directly. I think it's their profile bio, and they don't owe anything to a stranger passively reading it. We're always being told to be "nicer",because random men won't find it attractive. I don't think it's my job to be attractive to every possible man. Sometimes women, just like men, get pissed off and frustrated. Sometimes people don't actually want men on fab to message them, they keep the profile active just for parties etc. We all know fab has WAY too many men for the number of women, and frustration runs high when the swinging fantasy isn't matched by reality. " Amen | |||
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"Women have to be agressive on this site ,the amount of messages they get everyday some abusive ,the only way to get through to some people is to be aggressive or borderline abusive "No it isn't, proven by the no aggressive or rude active female profiles on here | |||
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"There's this thing in psychology called the Fundamental Attribution Error. People tend to over attribute other people's behaviours to their personality, and under attribute it to their situation. We do the opposite for ourselves - blaming bad behaviour on our situation. I feel like that's what's going on here. People say they know women get more abuse, dick pics, people who are cheaters, pic hunters etc etc. But they say their choice of words on their profiles is because they have a bad personality - and are a bitch. It could equally be a frustrated person responding to a situation of dealing with a lot of bad actors? I've seen a lot of bios written by women where I see defensiveness. A guy might label it aggressive, but what I see is someone being assertive about a specific situation they have experienced, or fear experiencing. We all know the bar is very low for women to be called bitchy or aggressive. I've seen things I don't like on others profiles too. But if I'm not a good match, that's it. I wouldn't label it "aggressive" unless they were mailing me directly. I think it's their profile bio, and they don't owe anything to a stranger passively reading it. We're always being told to be "nicer",because random men won't find it attractive. I don't think it's my job to be attractive to every possible man. Sometimes women, just like men, get pissed off and frustrated. Sometimes people don't actually want men on fab to message them, they keep the profile active just for parties etc. We all know fab has WAY too many men for the number of women, and frustration runs high when the swinging fantasy isn't matched by reality. " The thing is we choose how to express frustration and defensiveness.... its difficult in the heat of a conversation, no real reason in a bio ... unless this is what we wish to convey! We as a society, I feel do owe a certain amount of civility to eachother , now I know thats not always the case in fab or online in general, however its probably more necessary now than ever 
In terms of only being on here for parties .... use your filters rather that being demanding and insulting in your bio. Just a thought. | |||
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"Women have to be agressive on this site ,the amount of messages they get everyday some abusive ,the only way to get through to some people is to be aggressive or borderline abusive
No it isn't, proven by the no aggressive or rude active female profiles on here "Aggression never solved anything Respect and consent are where it’s at | |||
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"There's this thing in psychology called the Fundamental Attribution Error. People tend to over attribute other people's behaviours to their personality, and under attribute it to their situation. We do the opposite for ourselves - blaming bad behaviour on our situation. I feel like that's what's going on here. People say they know women get more abuse, dick pics, people who are cheaters, pic hunters etc etc. But they say their choice of words on their profiles is because they have a bad personality - and are a bitch. It could equally be a frustrated person responding to a situation of dealing with a lot of bad actors? I've seen a lot of bios written by women where I see defensiveness. A guy might label it aggressive, but what I see is someone being assertive about a specific situation they have experienced, or fear experiencing. We all know the bar is very low for women to be called bitchy or aggressive. I've seen things I don't like on others profiles too. But if I'm not a good match, that's it. I wouldn't label it "aggressive" unless they were mailing me directly. I think it's their profile bio, and they don't owe anything to a stranger passively reading it. We're always being told to be "nicer",because random men won't find it attractive. I don't think it's my job to be attractive to every possible man. Sometimes women, just like men, get pissed off and frustrated. Sometimes people don't actually want men on fab to message them, they keep the profile active just for parties etc. We all know fab has WAY too many men for the number of women, and frustration runs high when the swinging fantasy isn't matched by reality. " Very well articulated. It reminds me of the the silly signs you can often see in shops, or take aways. Eg.. Careful This Cup Contains Hot Liquid, on a coffee cup...... Obviously some where along the line someone got mad due to spilling a hot cup of coffee on themselves and blamed the retailer. Ya ye I know I go a bit off tangent sometimes | |||
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"There's this thing in psychology called the Fundamental Attribution Error. People tend to over attribute other people's behaviours to their personality, and under attribute it to their situation. We do the opposite for ourselves - blaming bad behaviour on our situation. I feel like that's what's going on here. People say they know women get more abuse, dick pics, people who are cheaters, pic hunters etc etc. But they say their choice of words on their profiles is because they have a bad personality - and are a bitch. It could equally be a frustrated person responding to a situation of dealing with a lot of bad actors? I've seen a lot of bios written by women where I see defensiveness. A guy might label it aggressive, but what I see is someone being assertive about a specific situation they have experienced, or fear experiencing. We all know the bar is very low for women to be called bitchy or aggressive. I've seen things I don't like on others profiles too. But if I'm not a good match, that's it. I wouldn't label it "aggressive" unless they were mailing me directly. I think it's their profile bio, and they don't owe anything to a stranger passively reading it. We're always being told to be "nicer",because random men won't find it attractive. I don't think it's my job to be attractive to every possible man. Sometimes women, just like men, get pissed off and frustrated. Sometimes people don't actually want men on fab to message them, they keep the profile active just for parties etc. We all know fab has WAY too many men for the number of women, and frustration runs high when the swinging fantasy isn't matched by reality. Very well articulated. It reminds me of the the silly signs you can often see in shops, or take aways. Eg.. Careful This Cup Contains Hot Liquid, on a coffee cup...... Obviously some where along the line someone got mad due to spilling a hot cup of coffee on themselves and blamed the retailer. Ya ye I know I go a bit off tangent sometimes "
Not really the same though ... If you went into a coffee shop and it said be "careful cup contains hot water, Go f*** yourself if you get burnt and get the fuck out if you don't do what I say and want "
Then I think it migh be similar
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"There's this thing in psychology called the Fundamental Attribution Error. People tend to over attribute other people's behaviours to their personality, and under attribute it to their situation. We do the opposite for ourselves - blaming bad behaviour on our situation. I feel like that's what's going on here. People say they know women get more abuse, dick pics, people who are cheaters, pic hunters etc etc. But they say their choice of words on their profiles is because they have a bad personality - and are a bitch. It could equally be a frustrated person responding to a situation of dealing with a lot of bad actors? I've seen a lot of bios written by women where I see defensiveness. A guy might label it aggressive, but what I see is someone being assertive about a specific situation they have experienced, or fear experiencing. We all know the bar is very low for women to be called bitchy or aggressive. I've seen things I don't like on others profiles too. But if I'm not a good match, that's it. I wouldn't label it "aggressive" unless they were mailing me directly. I think it's their profile bio, and they don't owe anything to a stranger passively reading it. We're always being told to be "nicer",because random men won't find it attractive. I don't think it's my job to be attractive to every possible man. Sometimes women, just like men, get pissed off and frustrated. Sometimes people don't actually want men on fab to message them, they keep the profile active just for parties etc. We all know fab has WAY too many men for the number of women, and frustration runs high when the swinging fantasy isn't matched by reality. Very well articulated. It reminds me of the the silly signs you can often see in shops, or take aways. Eg.. Careful This Cup Contains Hot Liquid, on a coffee cup...... Obviously some where along the line someone got mad due to spilling a hot cup of coffee on themselves and blamed the retailer. Ya ye I know I go a bit off tangent sometimes "Stella Liebeck required skin grafts after a cup of coffee she had bought in McDonald's spilled on her thighs in New Mexico in the early 90s. Mind you, the warning wouldn't have covered the company anyway as the temperature they served their coffee at was deemed to be dangerously high anyway. | |||
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"The way I see it is every single woman, man and couple always do start with a nice and positive profile. Maybe gently expressing a few boundaries. Then after being on for a while they notice a pattern in messages they're getting i.e. "wanna fuck here's my dick pic". They add into their profile a polite "please don't offer us any last minute meets and please don't send us your dick pic in an opening message" Some read it, some don't, they still receive same amount of "wanna fuck, here's my dick". They get a little frustrated with people who blatantly ignore their preferences, so they change their profile to "we have a life outside fab, so do not do last minute meets, don't send us dick pics - we prefer personality over genitals". Still, not much changes, they still receive same amount of wanna fucks and dick pics. It's even more frustrating as it is blatantly obvious that people who send them don't care about their preferences. So the profile changes again to something like "jog the fuck on with your dick pics and wanna fucks". Nobody ever joins a site where they want to meet people and decide to create an aggressive profile. That anger and frustration are built through countless messages blatantly ignoring boundaries and preferences. Missus " i take the point that its a fucked way of expressing boundaries and one's self. Many many many males on here get the same kind of messages from other males.... Don't see nearly as many such male bios ! I believe the skewing numbers has somewhat created a subculture of certain women who believe because they're in demand they can be c***.... simple as . Thankfully the majority of females and couples don't adopt tyes pedestal position.
Like many people have said here it doesn't really matter because those profiles will only attract a certain type and if you are not that type chances are you won't want anything to do with the people in those profiles anyway.
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"The way I see it is every single woman, man and couple always do start with a nice and positive profile. Maybe gently expressing a few boundaries. Then after being on for a while they notice a pattern in messages they're getting i.e. "wanna fuck here's my dick pic". They add into their profile a polite "please don't offer us any last minute meets and please don't send us your dick pic in an opening message" Some read it, some don't, they still receive same amount of "wanna fuck, here's my dick". They get a little frustrated with people who blatantly ignore their preferences, so they change their profile to "we have a life outside fab, so do not do last minute meets, don't send us dick pics - we prefer personality over genitals". Still, not much changes, they still receive same amount of wanna fucks and dick pics. It's even more frustrating as it is blatantly obvious that people who send them don't care about their preferences. So the profile changes again to something like "jog the fuck on with your dick pics and wanna fucks". Nobody ever joins a site where they want to meet people and decide to create an aggressive profile. That anger and frustration are built through countless messages blatantly ignoring boundaries and preferences. Missus " Indeed you have a point - but it goes to show that changing up the profile to become more and more demanding, aggressive or obnoxious or whatever term you wish to describe the language in such a profile, doesn't make an ounce of a difference in the number of those types of messages received. So why bother showing an unpleasant shop window when it may ultimately also turn away the decent people who have now been turned off you. And I'll say it again - you reap what you sow, for the most part. | |||
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"At the end of the day the only real metric that matters is if you are happy with the results of the what you've decided to show. Not everyone is going to like it one day or the other so if a bio is interpreted as aggressive and they are still getting laid then... jog on "Tbf .... you could be a woman with no head and 2 arses, both with the scutters on here , and your still getting fucked | |||
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"The way I see it is every single woman, man and couple always do start with a nice and positive profile. Maybe gently expressing a few boundaries. Then after being on for a while they notice a pattern in messages they're getting i.e. "wanna fuck here's my dick pic". They add into their profile a polite "please don't offer us any last minute meets and please don't send us your dick pic in an opening message" Some read it, some don't, they still receive same amount of "wanna fuck, here's my dick". They get a little frustrated with people who blatantly ignore their preferences, so they change their profile to "we have a life outside fab, so do not do last minute meets, don't send us dick pics - we prefer personality over genitals". Still, not much changes, they still receive same amount of wanna fucks and dick pics. It's even more frustrating as it is blatantly obvious that people who send them don't care about their preferences. So the profile changes again to something like "jog the fuck on with your dick pics and wanna fucks". Nobody ever joins a site where they want to meet people and decide to create an aggressive profile. That anger and frustration are built through countless messages blatantly ignoring boundaries and preferences. Missus Indeed you have a point - but it goes to show that changing up the profile to become more and more demanding, aggressive or obnoxious or whatever term you wish to describe the language in such a profile, doesn't make an ounce of a difference in the number of those types of messages received. So why bother showing an unpleasant shop window when it may ultimately also turn away the decent people who have now been turned off you. And I'll say it again - you reap what you sow, for the most part." Forgot to add another point... Those people will also start receiving multiple messages stating "I've read your profile, just shooting my shot" or some version of "if you don't ask you don't get" Missus | |||
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"At the end of the day the only real metric that matters is if you are happy with the results of the what you've decided to show. Not everyone is going to like it one day or the other so if a bio is interpreted as aggressive and they are still getting laid then... jog on
Tbf .... you could be a woman with no head and 2 arses, both with the scutters on here , and your still getting fucked "One is fucking. The other is friction. Like I said, happy with the results. | |||
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"The way I see it is every single woman, man and couple always do start with a nice and positive profile. Maybe gently expressing a few boundaries. Then after being on for a while they notice a pattern in messages they're getting i.e. "wanna fuck here's my dick pic". They add into their profile a polite "please don't offer us any last minute meets and please don't send us your dick pic in an opening message" Some read it, some don't, they still receive same amount of "wanna fuck, here's my dick". They get a little frustrated with people who blatantly ignore their preferences, so they change their profile to "we have a life outside fab, so do not do last minute meets, don't send us dick pics - we prefer personality over genitals". Still, not much changes, they still receive same amount of wanna fucks and dick pics. It's even more frustrating as it is blatantly obvious that people who send them don't care about their preferences. So the profile changes again to something like "jog the fuck on with your dick pics and wanna fucks". Nobody ever joins a site where they want to meet people and decide to create an aggressive profile. That anger and frustration are built through countless messages blatantly ignoring boundaries and preferences. Missus " Sounds a bit like a trial and error approach with no learning curve. Surely at some stage you should notice that your profile blurb changes have no impact on the message influx from people who don't read profiles.
Anyhow there's negative and demanding profiles out there, genuinely created by all themselves without any external impulses. Who cares?.... if that's what they wish to portray themselves, so be it. | |||
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