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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How many of u fancy urselves as doms or even dommes

Follows automatically what do u think qualifies u to call urself a Dom/domme

Again the good old fifty shades rears its head with many a Dom wannabe but how to spot a real Dom

Views opinions and ideas are all very welcome as everything is beneficial in the interest of satisfying my curiosity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont know. guess ya have to be a bit of a dick, not care and humilate the girl. Probably strike a bit of fear into her. She has to feel she does not deserve his attention. I could be like that but who would want to be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"dont know. guess ya have to be a bit of a dick, not care and humilate the girl. Probably strike a bit of fear into her. She has to feel she does not deserve his attention. I could be like that but who would want to be."

Ok huni u have been grossly misinformed as to what qualifies as a Dom

A guy who behaves like a dick is exactly that a dick in no way is he ever going to be likened to a Dom.

A true Dom doesn't need to hit abuse or beat a sub it isn't a state of violence

A Dom assumes command without the need for any actual violence it's a persons aura not a mental decision of ok today I want to beat the shit out of that bitch

Thanks to the familiarisation of certain areas of bdsm many people have found themselves misinformed as to what exactly is meant by Dom/sub Hence there is a need for the clarification of these terms I do believe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dont know. guess ya have to be a bit of a dick, not care and humilate the girl. Probably strike a bit of fear into her. She has to feel she does not deserve his attention. I could be like that but who would want to be."

Absolutely in no way is this what an experienced Dominant would think of a submissive or act towards him/her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dont know. guess ya have to be a bit of a dick, not care and humilate the girl. Probably strike a bit of fear into her. She has to feel she does not deserve his attention. I could be like that but who would want to be."

This is exactly what we encountered when we first joined the site, we were looking for another dominant male but jus found any guys who claimed to be werent at all and acted similarly to the way above described, i am just glad we never met any of them, and it put me off a lot. Though if any real dom guys are reading this, get in touch!! lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"dont know. guess ya have to be a bit of a dick, not care and humilate the girl. Probably strike a bit of fear into her. She has to feel she does not deserve his attention. I could be like that but who would want to be.

This is exactly what we encountered when we first joined the site, we were looking for another dominant male but jus found any guys who claimed to be werent at all and acted similarly to the way above described, i am just glad we never met any of them, and it put me off a lot. Though if any real dom guys are reading this, get in touch!! lol "

Exactly as I said oh and can they contact me too the actual dominant males please not the I think I am ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great post!

I've encountered a few of those "Doms"

It would be wonderful to find a Dom.

Sigh...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Great post!

I've encountered a few of those "Doms"

It would be wonderful to find a Dom.

Sigh..."

Maybe Santa can bring us one

I've heard he really exists

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion the Dom/sub scenario is one that has to be based on respect

The Dom especially while maybe not outwardly showing it when playing has to have respect for the sub

For no other reason than the fact the sub is willing to do whatever it takes to please them and this in itself can lead them into harm both mental and physical

So therefore the Dom/domme needs to have the greatest respect and take care not to overstep the boundaries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just want to clarify i never mentioned any act of violence. by fear i meant the fear of the unknown. The only experience i know of a doms was with a girl and i was sub. I enjoyed it. She blindfolded me walked me around on my hands and knees infront of a party then whipped me. I was blind folded as well. ID like to learn more about what both roles intake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i liked the film secretary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i liked the film secretary "

Well that film shows a D/s relationship, where the dom has real love for the sub, a beautiful film, one of my top shows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just want to clarify i never mentioned any act of violence. by fear i meant the fear of the unknown. The only experience i know of a doms was with a girl and i was sub. I enjoyed it. She blindfolded me walked me around on my hands and knees infront of a party then whipped me. I was blind folded as well. ID like to learn more about what both roles intake. "

Just curious as I saw your post on the thread about looking for bulls, you say you cuckold couples, so in a sense then you would have experience of domming? I would assume in cuckold couples there is some sort of discussion beforehand to make sure everyone is happy with the situation, which is applicable to the dom/sub scenario also

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By *wilighteyesWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

oh yes thats us,,,,, all us Doms and Dommés all we do is beat the shite out of ppl , whack whack whack,,,,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"dont know. guess ya have to be a bit of a dick, not care and humilate the girl. Probably strike a bit of fear into her. She has to feel she does not deserve his attention. I could be like that but who would want to be.

Absolutely in no way is this what an experienced Dominant would think of a submissive or act towards him/her "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv done cuckold a few times. Its not dom sub do. Cuckold is more that the male enjoys been humiliated. Id spoken to him before and he really liked running around obeying myself and his wife. He was also allowed join in but only when i said. She was happy to go along with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Iv done cuckold a few times. Its not dom sub do. Cuckold is more that the male enjoys been humiliated. Id spoken to him before and he really liked running around obeying myself and his wife. He was also allowed join in but only when i said. She was happy to go along with it. "

But cuckold is a form of domination is it not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just another invasion by us the brits ( all tongue in cheeck folks )

Dom/Subs relationship works on respect and boundaries for both sides, weve seen many levels of dom/sub behavoiur and it depends on the indivual how far that goes. Some like impact play but the sub also does otherwise she or he wouldnt do it, Some like the sensual dom, the Dom is there for there pleasure but also the subs pleasure its about mutaul pleasure mutual respect.

Some subs will want things, me as a Dom wont do! and some Doms want to do things that the sub wont so they each go find a Dom/Sub that suits them or play at there level due to respect for each other.

There should be safe words and these to be listened too at all times with no exceptions and in all involvement talk and listen to each other.

This is one of the reasons we dont play Dom/Sub roles with stranmgers that ask How can you trust someone you dont know???

Therefore we get to know our play mates and talk and build our relatonship up togther respecting everyone wishes and boundaries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

suppose it is. But its not one on one is more alpha male thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"suppose it is. But its not one on one is more alpha male thing."

I dont understand what your meaning at all...Could you maybe explain what your meaning???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well in dominating but its dominating another male not a woman. he is watching us while i play with her. Im not dominating her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well in dominating but its dominating another male not a woman. he is watching us while i play with her. Im not dominating her. "

Yes but it is still dom/sub scenario wether it be male or female it doesn't really make a difference, you are still the dom in that situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just another invasion by us the brits ( all tongue in cheeck folks )

Dom/Subs relationship works on respect and boundaries for both sides, weve seen many levels of dom/sub behavoiur and it depends on the indivual how far that goes. Some like impact play but the sub also does otherwise she or he wouldnt do it, Some like the sensual dom, the Dom is there for there pleasure but also the subs pleasure its about mutaul pleasure mutual respect.

Some subs will want things, me as a Dom wont do! and some Doms want to do things that the sub wont so they each go find a Dom/Sub that suits them or play at there level due to respect for each other.

There should be safe words and these to be listened too at all times with no exceptions and in all involvement talk and listen to each other.

This is one of the reasons we dont play Dom/Sub roles with stranmgers that ask How can you trust someone you dont know???

Therefore we get to know our play mates and talk and build our relatonship up togther respecting everyone wishes and boundaries "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"just another invasion by us the brits ( all tongue in cheeck folks )

Dom/Subs relationship works on respect and boundaries for both sides, weve seen many levels of dom/sub behavoiur and it depends on the indivual how far that goes. Some like impact play but the sub also does otherwise she or he wouldnt do it, Some like the sensual dom, the Dom is there for there pleasure but also the subs pleasure its about mutaul pleasure mutual respect.

Some subs will want things, me as a Dom wont do! and some Doms want to do things that the sub wont so they each go find a Dom/Sub that suits them or play at there level due to respect for each other.

There should be safe words and these to be listened too at all times with no exceptions and in all involvement talk and listen to each other.

This is one of the reasons we dont play Dom/Sub roles with stranmgers that ask How can you trust someone you dont know???

Therefore we get to know our play mates and talk and build our relatonship up togther respecting everyone wishes and boundaries "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dom/Sub is sexless, in meaning doesnt matter what sex there are or who playing with who, rules are the same.

To be honest i think you may be confused or not sure, maybe do abit of research or join a fetish site they have a lot of writings of rule, behavour, role etc etc

and get a understanding on the different terminology meanings and the difference betwene the scenes and then get into a Fetish or Dom role before doing anything that adds to the number of so called Doms not knowing what they are doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just another invasion by us the brits ( all tongue in cheeck folks )

Dom/Subs relationship works on respect and boundaries for both sides, weve seen many levels of dom/sub behavoiur and it depends on the indivual how far that goes. Some like impact play but the sub also does otherwise she or he wouldnt do it, Some like the sensual dom, the Dom is there for there pleasure but also the subs pleasure its about mutaul pleasure mutual respect.

Some subs will want things, me as a Dom wont do! and some Doms want to do things that the sub wont so they each go find a Dom/Sub that suits them or play at there level due to respect for each other.

There should be safe words and these to be listened too at all times with no exceptions and in all involvement talk and listen to each other.

This is one of the reasons we dont play Dom/Sub roles with stranmgers that ask How can you trust someone you dont know???

Therefore we get to know our play mates and talk and build our relatonship up togther respecting everyone wishes and boundaries "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never said i was a dom. my first reply to the tread was Dont know. I just spoke about the experiences iv had. Its something im intersted in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"never said i was a dom. my first reply to the tread was Dont know. I just spoke about the experiences iv had. Its something im intersted in. "

I didnt or wouldnt call you a Dom,

i said what i said so to give you advice on what to do, as by your comments i knew you didnt know ie dont know.

"guess ya have to be a bit of a dick, not care and humilate the girl. Probably strike a bit of fear into her. She has to feel she does not deserve his attention. I could be like that but who would want to be."

So we explained the respect thing then you went on to talk about cuck and not being same as with man not women hense making no sense so we replied to explain doesnt make a difference and then explained what we think you should do as to not upset or make a mistake when you dont know what your talking about wasnt meant in a offencefull way

it was meant as help so you dont turn into another ignorant single bloke who has no idea of a scene apart from what he watches on porn, and has a missunderstanding of the scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"never said i was a dom. my first reply to the tread was Dont know. I just spoke about the experiences iv had. Its something im intersted in.

I didnt or wouldnt call you a Dom,

i said what i said so to give you advice on what to do, as by your comments i knew you didnt know ie dont know.

"guess ya have to be a bit of a dick, not care and humilate the girl. Probably strike a bit of fear into her. She has to feel she does not deserve his attention. I could be like that but who would want to be."

So we explained the respect thing then you went on to talk about cuck and not being same as with man not women hense making no sense so we replied to explain doesnt make a difference and then explained what we think you should do as to not upset or make a mistake when you dont know what your talking about wasnt meant in a offencefull way

it was meant as help so you dont turn into another ignorant single bloke who has no idea of a scene apart from what he watches on porn, and has a missunderstanding of the scene. "

Yes I also find it strange for someone who plays the part of bull in a cuckold scenario to think that dominant men must have to be assholes in order to be one. It doesn't make much sense to me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a very interesting discussion, I have always been a dominant male but have never advertised that fact nor practiced it, mainly because I agree with the above, I can't see how these forms if roleplay are workable untill the sexual relationship is quite advanced. It is almost all physcological in its origin, the verbal and physical side only manifesting after the dom had been established.a tricky one to post on as some ppl find these subjects off putting but u would suggest that it can only develop after several meets.also most doms are actually very caring and protective, essentially worried about their ' pride' if u like and the idea of not providing complete satisfaction for a female under their guise would cut deeper than with non doms. Sry if ppl dnt like the sound of this post, but its the truth of it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's certainly not something I would dream of getting into with a random swing meet.

But I have indulged with people that I know very well from here or have met repeatedly.

I think it's very difficult for others who aren't into it to understand it or the psychology behind it as a lot view it as strange or misogyny.

Each to their own but thank god for the ones that are genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This post has been an education.

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By *ts artMan
over a year ago

Londonderry

From reading this Thread from your first post to this one I would say it has been. Im not being direspectfull towards you Jhonjoe in this. But it does highlight the un-informed nature of some peoples ideas of D/s etc.

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By *hink_KinkCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

I'm a Dom but I'd say this site isn't the best to find one on. Hell, even over on a dedicated kink site a decent Irish male Dom can be hard to find!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree mr kink above, sure you know me from there and it's really hard to find a true Dom there..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there are a lot of misgivings on what a Dom/me is. there are many different types for certain life styles .BDSM and Gorean just to name a couple. i myself am a Gorean Master..not Dom. there is a huge difference. as the original poster sweetnkinky has come to find. i am not gonna talk about methods here as i will not aid in the mistreatment of submissives at the hands of an idiot

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By *ts artMan
over a year ago

Londonderry

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By *ts artMan
over a year ago

Londonderry


"there are a lot of misgivings on what a Dom/me is. there are many different types for certain life styles .BDSM and Gorean just to name a couple. i myself am a Gorean Master..not Dom. there is a huge difference. as the original poster sweetnkinky has come to find. i am not gonna talk about methods here as i will not aid in the mistreatment of submissives at the hands of an idiot"

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I often refrain from posting here but the last sentence of the above post speaks volumes.

The D/s relationship is not about humiliation per say, it is more about trust and commitment.

If you have the honour and trust of a sub or slave or vice versa,then you will understand.

If not then fair enough.

Its not the only type of way I like to play by no means.

What goes on in that aspect of things is something for that place.

I do have to say I that, although I understand it, I regret the upsurge in the mr grey type things that have come about of late (yes the small ''m'' and ''g'' were intended,)

I'm sorry if this post doesn't sit well with anyone but Ive biting my tongue maybe for to long and thats not a good thing..... er ... lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm starting to think that mr grey may have awakened people's interests in many areas where they would never have looked before

In some occasions people have taken what aspects they please from the lifestyle but is that not always the case where people are concerned.

They hear what they want to hear see what they wish to see and believe what they wish to believe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm starting to think that mr grey may have awakened people's interests in many areas where they would never have looked before

In some occasions people have taken what aspects they please from the lifestyle but is that not always the case where people are concerned.

They hear what they want to hear see what they wish to see and believe what they wish to believe. "

I have never read 50 shades and it doesn't really interest me. Being submissive is something that has interested me for a long time, but I do agree that it takes a great amount of trust in order to reach that stage with another person, I know for a fact if there was ever anything I felt uncomfortable doing it would stop immediately. What is worrying is these guys who think that they know it all and will do whatever they want with no regard or care for the other person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm starting to think that mr grey may have awakened people's interests in many areas where they would never have looked before

In some occasions people have taken what aspects they please from the lifestyle but is that not always the case where people are concerned.

They hear what they want to hear see what they wish to see and believe what they wish to believe.

I have never read 50 shades and it doesn't really interest me. Being submissive is something that has interested me for a long time, but I do agree that it takes a great amount of trust in order to reach that stage with another person, I know for a fact if there was ever anything I felt uncomfortable doing it would stop immediately. What is worrying is these guys who think that they know it all and will do whatever they want with no regard or care for the other person."

I agree some people will always feel they know it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the narrow minded people thought about. It the sub has the safe word and can stop it at any time!

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By *egularFunMan
over a year ago

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Real D/s is not about being a dick and just treating her/him like shit. It's more like the most intimate, trusting and devoted relationship two people can have.

It's far more than a physical thing...

The sub places herself in the hands of the Dom, he in turn cherishes her gift, respects it, while they both explore her devotion, her limits. In some ways, they are each other's property as much as anything else. And yes, the sub has the safe word, you would have to be crazy to play at D/s without one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

guys. seriously. i understand alot trying to help here. but....giving out this stuff like this is giving the wannabe info to aid in their bullshit.

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

It all boils down to peoples preferences.

The main thing is trust. If a couple are into the dom/sub scene then it's all about pushing boundaries but also setting some ground rules where the dom knows not to cross. I have by no means perfected the art of domination but I most cpls I have chatted to and played with on cam seem to enjoy it and come back for more. Most cpls I have chatted to that are into either cuckold or just sub/dom situations do comment on the amount of guys who think or say they are dom but are really only thinking that sub / cuckold cpls are an easy shag!!

Cheers J

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By *eWantHerCouple
over a year ago

belfast

My humble thoughts...

I am a dominant man. I am simply that. I am not, nor would I want to be dominant with all women.

My submissive and I complement each other. My desire to dominate is instinctive. It is not to degrade her nor is it degrading to her, because she is secure in her submissiveness. We each recognize and accept our worth, and our need for someone to trust and fulfil our needs. She expects a man to stand strong and be a man. She desires and flourishes in the strength and control I provide. In return, she presents control of her body, unqualified trust and honesty, and the faithfulness of her heart. She submits because I have earned her trust. Her submission is enabled because I have opened my heart and soul to her. Because I have listened to her words with my ears and heart, I can embrace my duty – to help her become all that she desires - to help her grow and develop and become sure, strong, and proud in her womanhood. She does not submit as acceptance of inferiority, but from strength and passion. She has thrown away her fears and inhibitions. She tells me of the needs of her heart and body and I accept the responsibility and honour.

She is a woman. She is not weak or inferior because of it. She is a treasure to be cherished, and because I have proven worthy in her eyes, she has given me her only true treasure of life; dominance over you. What she gives is not abnormal, but pure, natural, and the rarest gift a woman can give a man. She has given me complete and unshakable assurance of her commitment to become more. Her submissiveness is a magnificent gift and sacred responsibility. I accept this from her with humility and joy. I understand the rarity and purity of this gift.

I am not dominant because of any superiority on my part - not because I claim to be more intelligent or wiser. I am not dominant because of the strength or the mass of my body. Within the bounds of our relationship...it is my duty to protect her while teaching; care for her while exercising discipline when required; nurture her while pushing boundaries; and express my pleasure when she performs as expected. My duty must ensure that she knows that under my care - NO harm will come to her as a result of actions taken by me..or her.

What she gives freely cannot in reality be bought. And we both become better for it.

...for what it's worth.

A

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By *ungstud9inchesMan
over a year ago

Nova Scotia

I'm dying to find sub ladies, but they are very rare, i'm an extra dominant guy in bed and would love a sub partner, hope some sub women out there reads it and contacts me.. F x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My humble thoughts...

I am a dominant man. I am simply that. I am not, nor would I want to be dominant with all women.

My submissive and I complement each other. My desire to dominate is instinctive. It is not to degrade her nor is it degrading to her, because she is secure in her submissiveness. We each recognize and accept our worth, and our need for someone to trust and fulfil our needs. She expects a man to stand strong and be a man. She desires and flourishes in the strength and control I provide. In return, she presents control of her body, unqualified trust and honesty, and the faithfulness of her heart. She submits because I have earned her trust. Her submission is enabled because I have opened my heart and soul to her. Because I have listened to her words with my ears and heart, I can embrace my duty – to help her become all that she desires - to help her grow and develop and become sure, strong, and proud in her womanhood. She does not submit as acceptance of inferiority, but from strength and passion. She has thrown away her fears and inhibitions. She tells me of the needs of her heart and body and I accept the responsibility and honour.

She is a woman. She is not weak or inferior because of it. She is a treasure to be cherished, and because I have proven worthy in her eyes, she has given me her only true treasure of life; dominance over you. What she gives is not abnormal, but pure, natural, and the rarest gift a woman can give a man. She has given me complete and unshakable assurance of her commitment to become more. Her submissiveness is a magnificent gift and sacred responsibility. I accept this from her with humility and joy. I understand the rarity and purity of this gift.

I am not dominant because of any superiority on my part - not because I claim to be more intelligent or wiser. I am not dominant because of the strength or the mass of my body. Within the bounds of our relationship...it is my duty to protect her while teaching; care for her while exercising discipline when required; nurture her while pushing boundaries; and express my pleasure when she performs as expected. My duty must ensure that she knows that under my care - NO harm will come to her as a result of actions taken by me..or her.

What she gives freely cannot in reality be bought. And we both become better for it.

...for what it's worth.

A"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met a number of sub and Dom/me people on this site and others and, as with most aspects of life, it takes all sorts.

If someone wants to give a couple of spanks, shout some obscenities and get off- well sometimes that's all a sub wants too and who are we to judge? There are almost as many subs who 'dom from the bottom' but if they both (all? ) enjoy it then why not? Also someone who is sub to one person may not be so with another (without being switch either), just as a dom doesn't have to wear black leather all the time why label everything?

I think the BDSM community get a bit too hung up on names and rules and forget it's supposed to be fun. You can call yourself a Master or the Emporer of China for all I care - doesn't make it true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My humble thoughts...

I am a dominant man. I am simply that. I am not, nor would I want to be dominant with all women.

My submissive and I complement each other. My desire to dominate is instinctive. It is not to degrade her nor is it degrading to her, because she is secure in her submissiveness. We each recognize and accept our worth, and our need for someone to trust and fulfil our needs. She expects a man to stand strong and be a man. She desires and flourishes in the strength and control I provide. In return, she presents control of her body, unqualified trust and honesty, and the faithfulness of her heart. She submits because I have earned her trust. Her submission is enabled because I have opened my heart and soul to her. Because I have listened to her words with my ears and heart, I can embrace my duty – to help her become all that she desires - to help her grow and develop and become sure, strong, and proud in her womanhood. She does not submit as acceptance of inferiority, but from strength and passion. She has thrown away her fears and inhibitions. She tells me of the needs of her heart and body and I accept the responsibility and honour.

She is a woman. She is not weak or inferior because of it. She is a treasure to be cherished, and because I have proven worthy in her eyes, she has given me her only true treasure of life; dominance over you. What she gives is not abnormal, but pure, natural, and the rarest gift a woman can give a man. She has given me complete and unshakable assurance of her commitment to become more. Her submissiveness is a magnificent gift and sacred responsibility. I accept this from her with humility and joy. I understand the rarity and purity of this gift.

I am not dominant because of any superiority on my part - not because I claim to be more intelligent or wiser. I am not dominant because of the strength or the mass of my body. Within the bounds of our relationship...it is my duty to protect her while teaching; care for her while exercising discipline when required; nurture her while pushing boundaries; and express my pleasure when she performs as expected. My duty must ensure that she knows that under my care - NO harm will come to her as a result of actions taken by me..or her.

What she gives freely cannot in reality be bought. And we both become better for it.

...for what it's worth.

A"

Nice speah sure weve seen this writing before you on a another site? fet

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By *eWantHerCouple
over a year ago

belfast

bicplbpool,

Yes. He (Solemn) was on fet for quite a while until he found his sub. Now W/we are simply looking for a playmate.

He posted this to share that D/s is more than a bit of kink, a slap or some bondage. Don't misunderstand...the sexual aspect is a lot of fun and builds trust while exploring oneself and building confidence in a subs sensuality, sexuality and experience.

But there is so much more than that - He, through tasks, challenges, a firm hand and more often a quiet word, develops His sub, helps her to grow as a woman, guides her along the path both have chosen, reminds her of the strength He sees inside her.

Yes, the sub serves Him - in a way that can not be captured so easily in a word like "serve". She aches to hear His approval or see His smile, because He has given her more than can be put into words with His leadership, His thoughtfulness, His careful attention, His empathy and His strength.

May all submissives find their true Dominant and never settle for anything less.

A&m

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"bicplbpool,

Yes. He (Solemn) was on fet for quite a while until he found his sub. Now W/we are simply looking for a playmate.

He posted this to share that D/s is more than a bit of kink, a slap or some bondage. Don't misunderstand...the sexual aspect is a lot of fun and builds trust while exploring oneself and building confidence in a subs sensuality, sexuality and experience.

But there is so much more than that - He, through tasks, challenges, a firm hand and more often a quiet word, develops His sub, helps her to grow as a woman, guides her along the path both have chosen, reminds her of the strength He sees inside her.

Yes, the sub serves Him - in a way that can not be captured so easily in a word like "serve". She aches to hear His approval or see His smile, because He has given her more than can be put into words with His leadership, His thoughtfulness, His careful attention, His empathy and His strength.

May all submissives find their true Dominant and never settle for anything less.

A&m"

BRAVO!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nicely put!

It's not all about control and pain it's about a VERY deep connection and trust.

I see a D/s relationship more like two pieces of a jigsaw.. Separately they are just two funny shapes, but put them together and they make something beautiful.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nicely put!

It's not all about control and pain it's about a VERY deep connection and trust.

I see a D/s relationship more like two pieces of a jigsaw.. Separately they are just two funny shapes, but put them together and they make something beautiful. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nicely put!

It's not all about control and pain it's about a VERY deep connection and trust.

I see a D/s relationship more like two pieces of a jigsaw.. Separately they are just two funny shapes, but put them together and they make something beautiful. "

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By *ot2badCouple
over a year ago

drogheda

my feelings on this is that the whole sub dom thing is very very overated.equality is the key.. yes i understand that is all to do with fantasy.. but on the other hand and this is just what i believe.. what makes a dom want to be dom.. it eeks a little of danger to me.. gimps in closets.. women taken and molested.. tread carefully with your fantasies.. and with who you carry out those fantasies with.. trust.trust.trust and trust... is the key to fantasy and once its broken even a little get the hell outa there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my feelings on this is that the whole sub dom thing is very very overated.equality is the key.. yes i understand that is all to do with fantasy.. but on the other hand and this is just what i believe.. what makes a dom want to be dom.. it eeks a little of danger to me.. gimps in closets.. women taken and molested.. tread carefully with your fantasies.. and with who you carry out those fantasies with.. trust.trust.trust and trust... is the key to fantasy and once its broken even a little get the hell outa there."

real Doms know it is the sub holds the true power. a sub will always be a sub...a Dom cant be a Dom without a submissive. we go to great lengths to make a submissive feel safe within the power THEY allow us to have

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By *i n biCouple
over a year ago

louth

dont agree with you that a sub will always be a sub.its all roll play and rolls can very easily be swapped..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So glad this topic was brought up...

Think I may have found someone very very interesting..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aw, that's very sweet of you to say links..

What...oh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"bicplbpool,

Yes. He (Solemn) was on fet for quite a while until he found his sub. Now W/we are simply looking for a playmate.

He posted this to share that D/s is more than a bit of kink, a slap or some bondage. Don't misunderstand...the sexual aspect is a lot of fun and builds trust while exploring oneself and building confidence in a subs sensuality, sexuality and experience.

But there is so much more than that - He, through tasks, challenges, a firm hand and more often a quiet word, develops His sub, helps her to grow as a woman, guides her along the path both have chosen, reminds her of the strength He sees inside her.

Yes, the sub serves Him - in a way that can not be captured so easily in a word like "serve". She aches to hear His approval or see His smile, because He has given her more than can be put into words with His leadership, His thoughtfulness, His careful attention, His empathy and His strength.

May all submissives find their true Dominant and never settle for anything less.

A&m

BRAVO!!!!"

We know the scene was just asking was it posted on fet as we had seen it thats all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So glad this topic was brought up...

Think I may have found someone very very interesting..

"

and who would that be? hehe :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dont know. guess ya have to be a bit of a dick, not care and humilate the girl. Probably strike a bit of fear into her. She has to feel she does not deserve his attention. I could be like that but who would want to be."

Not at all. My Master is nothing like that he is kind, caring & I trust him completely.

Being a Dom is nothing like you describe & I find your description offensive.

My Master knows me better than I know myself & pushes my limits & would never ever humiliate me out with my limits

What you described is a bully not a Dom.

I'm never happier caring & looking after my Master & hope to please him in everything I do & say

Jx

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over a year ago


"dont know. guess ya have to be a bit of a dick, not care and humilate the girl. Probably strike a bit of fear into her. She has to feel she does not deserve his attention. I could be like that but who would want to be.

Not at all. My Master is nothing like that he is kind, caring & I trust him completely.

Being a Dom is nothing like you describe & I find your description offensive.

My Master knows me better than I know myself & pushes my limits & would never ever humiliate me out with my limits

What you described is a bully not a Dom.

I'm never happier caring & looking after my Master & hope to please him in everything I do & say

Jx"

awesome serve with fire and passion girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dont agree with you that a sub will always be a sub.its all roll play and rolls can very easily be swapped.."

Sorry to invade from across the water but it's not all roll play at all and rolls not easy for some to swap at all.

Some do play at this but for some its not a game at all.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dont know. guess ya have to be a bit of a dick, not care and humilate the girl. Probably strike a bit of fear into her. She has to feel she does not deserve his attention. I could be like that but who would want to be.

Not at all. My Master is nothing like that he is kind, caring & I trust him completely.

Being a Dom is nothing like you describe & I find your description offensive.

My Master knows me better than I know myself & pushes my limits & would never ever humiliate me out with my limits

What you described is a bully not a Dom.

I'm never happier caring & looking after my Master & hope to please him in everything I do & say

Jx

awesome serve with fire and passion girl "

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dont agree with you that a sub will always be a sub.its all roll play and rolls can very easily be swapped..

Sorry to invade from across the water but it's not all roll play at all and rolls not easy for some to swap at all.

Some do play at this but for some its not a game at all.

Cali"
its a lifestyle choice not a game,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dont agree with you that a sub will always be a sub.its all roll play and rolls can very easily be swapped..

Sorry to invade from across the water but it's not all roll play at all and rolls not easy for some to swap at all.

Some do play at this but for some its not a game at all.

Cali its a lifestyle choice not a game, "

It is for me too. I can't choose to be submissive. It's just something I am. Although not to all.

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