FabSwingers.com forum: “Straight Lads”

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok does anyone else get this or am I just the lucky/Unlucky 1 . Always seems to be a Friday night possibly when the drinks been flying, straight lads sending msgs hitting on me? Here’s a few examples

Mmmmmm you’re 1 sexy C**t

The body on you I bet you get loads of women (I don’t)

The best 1 yet : hey wanna be sucked off while watching straight porn we don’t have to make eye contact . Me : emmm no that’s gay .. them: no it’s not cos it’s straight porn

I know it could be someone winding me up but I get a lot of msgs from “Straight Lads” anyone else get it?

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Its not usually men winding you up just bi or gay men trying to have sex with you

Unfortunately not everyone can openly admit to being bi or gay on here as they assume that they'll have less chances to have sex if they do as some people block bi or gay men

It's a bit like the Nigerian email scams ....they send out thousands and get some replies which make it worth their while

You can block messages from men if you wish or just block those who do ask you for sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its not usually men winding you up just bi or gay men trying to have sex with you

Unfortunately not everyone can openly admit to being bi or gay on here as they assume that they'll have less chances to have sex if they do as some people block bi or gay men

It's a bit like the Nigerian email scams ....they send out thousands and get some replies which make it worth their while

You can block messages from men if you wish or just block those who do ask you for sex "

Thing is I’m not Gay or Bi & i clearly have that in my bio so I get msgs from straight men hitting are they saying there straight to bi pass the filters?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its not usually men winding you up just bi or gay men trying to have sex with you

Unfortunately not everyone can openly admit to being bi or gay on here as they assume that they'll have less chances to have sex if they do as some people block bi or gay men

It's a bit like the Nigerian email scams ....they send out thousands and get some replies which make it worth their while

You can block messages from men if you wish or just block those who do ask you for sex

Thing is I’m not Gay or Bi & i clearly have that in my bio so I get msgs from straight men hitting are they saying there straight to bi pass the filters?"

Often so as not to lessen their chances with women/couples who don't meet bi guys.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"Its not usually men winding you up just bi or gay men trying to have sex with you

Unfortunately not everyone can openly admit to being bi or gay on here as they assume that they'll have less chances to have sex if they do as some people block bi or gay men

It's a bit like the Nigerian email scams ....they send out thousands and get some replies which make it worth their while

You can block messages from men if you wish or just block those who do ask you for sex

Thing is I’m not Gay or Bi & i clearly have that in my bio so I get msgs from straight men hitting are they saying there straight to bi pass the filters?"

They also have straight on their profile so assume that there's more men like that on here

Its a fishing expedition really and every now and then someone takes a bite of the bait

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its not usually men winding you up just bi or gay men trying to have sex with you

Unfortunately not everyone can openly admit to being bi or gay on here as they assume that they'll have less chances to have sex if they do as some people block bi or gay men

It's a bit like the Nigerian email scams ....they send out thousands and get some replies which make it worth their while

You can block messages from men if you wish or just block those who do ask you for sex

Thing is I’m not Gay or Bi & i clearly have that in my bio so I get msgs from straight men hitting are they saying there straight to bi pass the filters?

Often so as not to lessen their chances with women/couples who don't meet bi guys. "

So basically everyone has an experience of it from couples profiles to Straight men … and there was me thinking I was irresistible

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've blocked all men so I don't get those messages at all but the reason I blocked them all was because I was getting messages asking for me to be their wingman or for them to be mine in the hope of hooking up with women.

I don't ever remember getting a message like you have mentioned.

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By *osyRedLipsWoman
over a year ago

Kildare

That's strange I don't think us women ever have that issue men always read our bios and our requirements

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Must be a different breed up north .. I’ve had them msgs to or the ones hey wanna share your experiences with me.. looking to bank some material.. but I genuinely get lots of msgs from straight men for sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, you're not unique. I'd say a good 95% of messages we receive haven't paid a blind bit of heed to our profile either

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Must be a different breed up north .. I’ve had them msgs to or the ones hey wanna share your experiences with me.. looking to bank some material.. but I genuinely get lots of msgs from straight men for sex "

So why don't you just block them all and problem solved?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's strange I don't think us women ever have that issue men always read our bios and our requirements

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That's strange I don't think us women ever have that issue men always read our bios and our requirements

I like the bit about junction 14 .. similar to what I get except it would be the dock road

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So why don't you just block them all and problem solved?"

My apologies for starting a thread

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

So why don't you just block them all and problem solved?

My apologies for starting a thread

No need to apologise but I'm curious if you have issues with messages like that why not put an end to them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So why don't you just block them all and problem solved?

My apologies for starting a thread

No need to apologise but I'm curious if you have issues with messages like that why not put an end to them? "
was sarcasm sorry .. I can & I will I just thought I’d put it out there & see if others had the same opinion or problem it’s called a discussion in a forum . If we all did this or did that then we’d have no discussions.. I will do what you said but I thought I’d discuss it first . Thanks

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By *otownkid1967Man
over a year ago

Portlaoise

Goes on all the time. Just adjust your filters to stop blokes sending you messages.

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By *ildGroverMan
over a year ago

rathfarnham

Sorry mate we all think we’re irresistible….. given that these messages often come from straight guys it clearly works from time to time…

There are reasons explained above

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By *andR2019Couple
over a year ago

Nunya

It’s the age old are you straight straight or fab straight!!

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By *taylor122Man
over a year ago

dublin

I also get a lot of this, its a profile pic thing

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

So why don't you just block them all and problem solved?

My apologies for starting a thread

No need to apologise but I'm curious if you have issues with messages like that why not put an end to them? was sarcasm sorry .. I can & I will I just thought I’d put it out there & see if others had the same opinion or problem it’s called a discussion in a forum . If we all did this or did that then we’d have no discussions.. I will do what you said but I thought I’d discuss it first . Thanks "

Why hadn't you done it after the first message you had issue with ?

Cause you like the attention

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So why don't you just block them all and problem solved?

My apologies for starting a thread

Why hadn't you done it after the first message you had issue with ?

Cause you like the attention

*Bangs head off table* it’s a discussion forum I wanted to discuss it .All input is appreciated no matter how wrong it is thanks

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

A discussion usually consists of questions and answers. Why not just answer the question?

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Used to get this a lot when I had a single male profile. Didn't bother me, deleting is easy

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

It's a fair question OP and I've seen a few discussions about it here and on the UK side.

The reasons it happens and steps to avoid it have all been posted.

You're right to ask as the 'Fab Straight' phenomena is a real thing. I would imagine that many of the men who are not out on fab are also not out in their lives. It's a sad fact that despite being quite a progressive country in our support our the LGBTQI population, we still have some growth to do. Especially outside of our cities and big towns.

It's also a bit sad that fab doesn't provide a more nuanced choice for gender, sex and sexuality. It's all a bit 90's round here.

I see many women proudly talk about being Spaghetti(straight until wet). Very few men talk like this.

Situationally Bi, hetero flexible, transitioning, non binary. There's so many variations and so much choice now.

Fab needs to get with the program as it's reinforcing old stereotypes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

For those interested I have set filters & blocked . Just thought I’d come here to discuss it . Have a great day

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's a fair question OP and I've seen a few discussions about it here and on the UK side.

The reasons it happens and steps to avoid it have all been posted.

It's also a bit sad that fab doesn't provide a more nuanced choice for gender, sex and sexuality. It's all a bit 90's round here.

I see many women proudly talk about being Spaghetti(straight until wet). Very few men talk like this.

Situationally Bi, hetero flexible, transitioning, non binary. There's so many variations and so much choice now.

Fab needs to get with the program as it's reinforcing old stereotypes."

Great answer & explains a lot .. Thank you

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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago

City Centre

OP take it as a compliment

Believe me so many 'Fab straight' men on here.

I really cannot understand it especially when we are all part of a very open minded community!

Maybe stick your filters on if it really annoys you!

B x

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By *leasurer77Man
over a year ago

Athlone

Got a "want that drained?" last night. I don't mind it at all. It's nice to be asked. When I politely decline I usually get a polite reply back. I don't block men because some message me about other things. As somebody said above; deleting is easy and it's not as if I'm bombarded anyway.

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

This often comes up, how many messages are we taking about here?

I get messages like this too, doesn’t bother me.

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By *panishRebelMan
over a year ago

Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland

So far I haven't had messages from straight men. But I think I have the settings set to block them.

I the beginning I was getting loads of messages from TV/TS and Gay men. While it's not my thing at least it was on their profiles who they are and what they were into, obviously limited by the options of a profile.

My previous experience of Tinder, was way worse. I discovered I was meeting TS at the agreed coffee bar etc or have been given prices for sex when I thought it was a tinder date.

I find Fab way more up front and straight forward. Not perfect. But no where is perfect.

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By *ildGroverMan
over a year ago

rathfarnham

"OP take it as a compliment

Believe me so many 'Fab straight' men on here.

I really cannot understand it especially when we are all part of a very open minded community!

Maybe stick your filters on if it really annoys you!

B x"

There are a lot of contradictions on fab.

I wouldn't describe it as a very opened minded community ... It is liberal when it comes to sex but that's often with strict limits.

For one reason or another women and couples often say "no bi guys".

Is this because of a perceived additional risk of STIs (women and couples) or because the guy is afraid of unwanted physical attention in a 3 sum (couples) who knows....

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

I've just unblocked single guys. For science.

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By *hris 1000200Man
over a year ago

kells

"Ok does anyone else get this or am I just the lucky/Unlucky 1 . Always seems to be a Friday night possibly when the drinks been flying, straight lads sending msgs hitting on me? Here’s a few examples

Mmmmmm you’re 1 sexy C**t

The body on you I bet you get loads of women (I don’t)

The best 1 yet : hey wanna be sucked off while watching straight porn we don’t have to make eye contact . Me : emmm no that’s gay .. them: no it’s not cos it’s straight porn

I know it could be someone winding me up but I get a lot of msgs from “Straight Lads” anyone else get it? "

I get it a lot,but hey a complement is a complement, I just say thanks and move on

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By *llthewaysMan
over a year ago

City centre/Naas

Wait a minute! Are yous saying we can read profiles on here? O thought you just clicked message, attach a cock pick and paste a "wanna fuq" message?

I have been doing this all wrong

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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago

City Centre

Wildgrover there certainly are many contradictions but the way I see it is if you are comfortable in your own skin if another man is in close quarters to you, you should be fine!! I hate all the alpha male bs

Take it as a compliment and move on!

I also think couples forget that bi men are well able to behave around straight men...well able to respect rules and boundaries like anyone else.

B x

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By *otownkid1967Man
over a year ago

Portlaoise

"Wildgrover there certainly are many contradictions but the way I see it is if you are comfortable in your own skin if another man is in close quarters to you, you should be fine!! I hate all the alpha male bs

Take it as a compliment and move on!

I also think couples forget that bi men are well able to behave around straight men...well able to respect rules and boundaries like anyone else.

B x

This 100%

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By *LIVEANDKICKING100Man
over a year ago

DUBLIN

My pics have been fabbed mostly by bi men or TVs/CDs.

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By *ildGroverMan
over a year ago

rathfarnham

Take it as a compliment and move on!

I also think couples forget that bi men are well able to behave around straight men...well able to respect rules and boundaries like anyone else.

B x

Maybe I didn't make it clear that I don't agree with those opinions... Though I have blocked single guys i would always have taken unsolicited mails as a compliment!

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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago

City Centre

Take it as a compliment and move on!

I also think couples forget that bi men are well able to behave around straight men...well able to respect rules and boundaries like anyone else.

B x

Maybe I didn't make it clear that I don't agree with those opinions... Though I have blocked single guys i would always have taken unsolicited mails as a compliment!

Got ya

B x

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By *elfastSteamWhistleMan
over a year ago

bangor

On a different site I had a too good to be true woman buy everything I was selling, lived local, liked all the things I liked, was up for it right this moment. Arrived and a man answered the door, oh x has just nipped out for a bit come on in and make yourself comfortable....

Fool me once and all that.

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"On a different site I had a too good to be true woman buy everything I was selling, lived local, liked all the things I liked, was up for it right this moment. Arrived and a man answered the door, oh x has just nipped out for a bit come on in and make yourself comfortable....

What did u do ?

Fool me once and all that.

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By *lorentino ArizaMan
over a year ago

Killarney

How bad can it be if somebody shows an interest in you, be they straight or whatever, just take it as a compliment.

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By *ol_ieMan
over a year ago

Dublin west

Just delete and move on..

Probably marginally better than getting no mail at all.

At least someone likes the look of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's strange I don't think us women ever have that issue men always read our bios and our requirements

To be fair ye gals are so easy going. We just need to send a dick pic and tell ye when we are in yer area for a quick car meet and it's all good

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