FabSwingers.com forum: Retiring

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Joined fab over a year ago and I have been hopeless here, i can’t get even get reply, let alone a meet. Not a bad looking guy (I thought ) haha but I think I would pull more birds in a convent than here. Don’t know what I’m doing wrong, but something is not right haha.. hopefully someone can give me some advice or I think it Might be time to hang up the boots. Pity because it seems soooooo fun here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice is to ask yourself some questions and answer them honestly.

Are you giving yourself the best opportunity?

What are you doing to maximise your chances of interactions here?

If you were a woman receiving a message from you right now, what would you think if you read your own profile?

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By *otownkid1967Man
over a year ago

Portlaoise

Blank profile doesn't help you . Get some pics up, get verified and get yourself along to a few meet and greets. Interact on the forums a bit and don't give up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with all of the above

Get some pics up on public

Flesh out your bio… make it appealing without sounding desperate

Search the forums for help on this topic, it just might be worth your while to stay….

Best of luck whatever you decide to do

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By *andytownMan
over a year ago

Gods Own Country

"pull more birds" line probably isn't what alot would like to hear... Each to their own thou and good luck for the future in what this mad wee place means to you

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By *yperbunnyxxxWoman
over a year ago

kilkenny

Use help a fabber forum to get verified

Your profile is sparse and doesn’t say much about yourself

You need a profile picture and it doesn’t have to be anything revealing, dressed in a suit etc

People do hook up here, but it’s not a hookup site

Women get initiated with messages and most women will ignore profiles that don’t have pictures and a bare bio

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

I'd definitely ignore your profile. It's nearly blank. No reason to reply to your message at all when nearly everyone else is way better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of the above, OP, I'd suggest getting yourself verified using the thread where other users offer to help, then flesh out your profile and take some pics. It's not that difficult. No guarantee of success, but your profile right now has zero appeal.

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By *ursecretmischiefCouple
over a year ago

The West

Three things straight away:

Blank profiles get complety ignored by most.

Second and most important in my opinion (Mr) Any male living in Dublin has advantage straight away. It's the busiest area on Fab. There has been numerous socials in Dublin over the last year and you haven't bothered to get to one!?

You're not really trying as much as you think. You are most likely just stumbling along sending off random messages from your blank profile?

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By *rish In DubaiMan
over a year ago

Carlow

There is ample resources on fab on how to improve your profile.

There is plenty of events for non verified members.

To me it just looks like your lazy and thought this would be a big sex fest.

Ya cant even be arsed to put up a profile pic or have more than 1 photo.

Look at the profiles from the people that responded to this question. The time, effort and energy they put into their profile.

That should tell you enough.

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By *ake2891Man
over a year ago

cork

No wonder, no pics, and 2 lines on you profile. Come on man. Get some pics up, describe yourself, what you looking for etc.. just put more up on your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pull more birds" is certainly not the correct attitude, here or anywhere tbh.

Try to be yourself, be honest, try to strike up an intellectual conversation & put up a profile pic.

I am sure there would be a lady willing to meet-verify you.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

""Pull more birds" is certainly not the correct attitude, here or anywhere tbh.

Try to be yourself, be honest, try to strike up an intellectual conversation & put up a profile pic.

I am sure there would be a lady willing to meet-verify you."

Yeah, if there's one thing I've learned on fab it's that chicks don't like it when you call them birds

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I include many photos to those I message and just try to start a conversation. Is that weird? Ha ok maybe I do need to update the profile a little bit.. i just don’t feel comfortable trying to sell myself or attract others with self flattery. It feels a bit cringey. I’m a fairly easy going guy looking for company from time to time, like a lot of people here. I’m not desperate to go to functions or anything like that. I wouldn’t consider that lazy haha.Fair enough points taken and understood. More pictures couldn’t hurt , but Do I really have to advertise myself like an appealing product. Thanks for the commments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I include many photos to those I message and just try to start a conversation. Is that weird? Ha ok maybe I do need to update the profile a little bit.. i just don’t feel comfortable trying to sell myself or attract others with self flattery. It feels a bit cringey. I’m a fairly easy going guy looking for company from time to time, like a lot of people here. I’m not desperate to go to functions or anything like that. I wouldn’t consider that lazy haha.Fair enough points taken and understood. More pictures couldn’t hurt , but Do I really have to advertise myself like an appealing product. Thanks for the commments"

No, but you may find more interest from people if there's something to whet the appetite. Otherwise you're just another blank profile in a sea of silhouettes doing nothing and wondering why you're getting nowhere.

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By *rish In DubaiMan
over a year ago

Carlow

Yes you do, same as you would on first date or tyring to make a first impression with someone you meet for the first time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was hoping the photos sent of myself and a willingness and interest to engage with that particular person might spark the slightest of interests haha a picture speaks a thousand words after all ..

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By *rish_GuyMan
over a year ago

Foxford

Firstly OP, you don't have to do anything you don't want to do. It's all up to you.

That said, if your sending photos with messages. Why haven't you pictures on here, for them to see for themselves? Alot of profiles say it in there bios "No pictures, no bio = No effered = No replies", or words like that. For all they know your a stocker, bot, etc.

You've gotten alot of good advice from other's on already.

I'll say this to you & you might answer me this question, other's can answer it or give there option aswell. If your passing an commercial building that the former business is closed down now. Then 1 day out of the blue, your passing & you see a sign on the door "Come in, we're open". On an evening the signs says "Sorry we're cloesd". Like would you go near that business/door, to see what's it like inside & what type of a business is it or would think it's a joke?

Another thing Fab is a Marathon, can be a slow 1 at that aswell. It's not a sprint. So you could be here awhile before thing's take off for you.

Eitherway good luck with it OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was hoping the photos sent of myself and a willingness and interest to engage with that particular person might spark the slightest of interests haha a picture speaks a thousand words after all .. "

Most people will look at the profile before ever opening a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op the thread is yours you can only decide what you want from here If it’s not for you then retire

It’s you’re choice

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

Generally, messages from a blank profiles with a pic attached will probably be regarded as unsolicited……

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By *osyRedLipsWoman
over a year ago

Kildare

Maybe the birds don't want to be pulled..

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By *arrot_in_a_boxCouple
over a year ago

kinda dublin

Have you tried the scatter gun approach?

Take the time to craft one perfect email, but generic enough to apply to everyone. And then just copy and paste to every person on the site.

If that doesn't work, I dunno what will

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By *hett and scarlettCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

As repeatedly said, blank profiles don’t catch attention. Even if you send pictures in a message and underlying question would be why there are none on the profile (cheating for example).

As was also said, you do have to sell yourself so your profile is the first step. Even couples need to do that. We click on a profile before we open a message and if we don’t like what we see, then the message content is largely irrelevant.

Being blunt, we’d delete your message based on your profile.

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By *leasurer77Man
over a year ago

Athlone

""Pull more birds" is certainly not the correct attitude, here or anywhere tbh.

Try to be yourself, be honest, try to strike up an intellectual conversation & put up a profile pic.

I am sure there would be a lady willing to meet-verify you.

Yeah, if there's one thing I've learned on fab it's that chicks don't like it when you call them birds

And birds hate it when you call them chicks!

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By *leasurer77Man
over a year ago

Athlone

Keep your profile exactly as it is op. There's enough competition here already

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I predict the Op will never leave, Op won't change his profile regardless of the good advice given, only to come back in a while posting a similar thread...

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By *amsevenMan
over a year ago

cork

All very good advice for the op. Iv tried it all bar attending socials. Just be aware none of it might work. Too many men to choose from therefore too easy to dismiss one for any reason whatsoever.

However unexpected things can happen and your luck can change.

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By *llthewaysMan
over a year ago

City centre/Naas

"I predict the Op will never leave, Op won't change his profile regardless of the good advice given, only to come back in a while posting a similar thread...

That seems to be the trend with forum posts like this, they are trying for some sort of sympathy shag?

Always nice to see a profile getting updated from threads though.

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By *ikewantstoplayMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"Maybe the birds don't want to be pulled.."

Spot on Rosy, it’s usually the guys that like to be pulled

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

Are you still on here?

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south

"Are you still on here?

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cheer up I pull more ladies in Dunnes and Asda then fab lol

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