FabSwingers.com forum: Singles meeting couples

By *adylace OP Woman
over a year ago

Waterford City

Just wondering what singles experiences have been when meeting couples? I used to do it a lot and loved it at the start but I pretty much gave it up after a few bad experiences. I'm now considering dipping my toe back in and wondering what others experiences have been and how to avoid the pitfalls?

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By *oc09Man
over a year ago

near u

I have been with 2 couple over the last couple of months and both were great met for drinks first to see was there any vibes and went from there I'd always meet for coffee or drinks first make sure there genuine good people if ur just going to meet them in the dark without knowing what there like I think ur asking for trouble

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I've met couples at one stage. And while it started out good fun I found it turned into me being expected to be their plaything,and do who or what they expected me to do,and while it never turned nasty it was extremely uncomfortable at times when I refused to do what they expected. But I am glad I didn't give into pressure and it put me off meeting couples.

The attitude from some,not all couples that singles are their playthings and are not a person in their own right is wrong,but happens all too often on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a “couple” message me before , ask if I’d drive to their house at night , park in the drive, and he’s send out his wife. I was to fuck her in the car , not talk to her , and then send her back in and go..

100% was gonna end up banging a single bloke in a wig if I had been a big enough dummy to agree to that..

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By *adylace OP Woman
over a year ago

Waterford City

"I have been with 2 couple over the last couple of months and both were great met for drinks first to see was there any vibes and went from there I'd always meet for coffee or drinks first make sure there genuine good people if ur just going to meet them in the dark without knowing what there like I think ur asking for trouble "

Sorry. I should have said that I always do social meets first. Hookups were never really my thing.

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By *adylace OP Woman
over a year ago

Waterford City

"I've met couples at one stage. And while it started out good fun I found it turned into me being expected to be their plaything,and do who or what they expected me to do,and while it never turned nasty it was extremely uncomfortable at times when I refused to do what they expected. But I am glad I didn't give into pressure and it put me off meeting couples.

The attitude from some,not all couples that singles are their playthings and are not a person in their own right is wrong,but happens all too often on here. "

This is part of the problem I started having. Some and stress only some couples treat you as a glorified sex toy that's only there for their pleasure. I've also had couples that hadn't had a clear enough conversation with eachother beforehand and ended up in a full blown argument in front of me.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Only met a few couples and it went fine but on here Id imagine the biggest problem is ing out the couples that are really only a man with photo's of his parter that she doesn't know he has

You do socials to that out so then its really a good conversation to suss out if ye are compatible

Had a female friend that arranged to meet a couple and at the last minute got a list of rules sent to her

They included only female to female playing

No touching the male at all ..he was just to watch and play with his partner

She told them to fuck off

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By *owKeyTooMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Now this is the exact thing I have been waiting to talk about!

Awhile ago I made a profile on another site called Sdc-suppose you've heard of it?!

After I joined I was messaged by a couple who had lots of verifications, other people's references etc so I don't think it was a single man. Their profile portrayed themselves as the main party organisers for the South Dublin scene and I remember reading comments on their profile that they were connected to the UK killing kittens company when organising events here etc. You'd think they'd be aware of how to behave for interacting with a newbie etc?!

They literally told me they wanted to meet me in private and for us to get down to business almost immediately. Also as I don't have any dick pics on my profile to forward them directly to them.

Tbh I was apprehensive and wanted to first meet them for a social chat etc to see if we click etc. So I politely declined as their attitude was a bit too full on.

I could see they read my message but never replied.

After that I messaged others mainly to introduce myself etc and start slow and get to know each other better.... but oddly nobody responded at all. I got the impression that this couple essentially black listed me as I literally became the invisible man on there as I had been messaging back and forth with others so it wasn't only them that I was in contact with.

So much for that! It really turned me off the scene completely and I went on with my life.

To the others on this thread, yes I know the feeling of being used as an object for couples and it's not nice.

Tbh I was on here few years ago and didn't progress much so left here too but now back here so hopefully I will have a better experience! Fingers crossed.

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By *owKeyTooMan
over a year ago

Dublin

The attitude from some,not all couples that singles are their playthings and are not a person in their own right is wrong,but happens all too often on here.

Ouch not a good situation to be on! Hope you got out of there ok? No battle injuries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a “couple” message me before , ask if I’d drive to their house at night , park in the drive, and he’s send out his wife. I was to fuck her in the car , not talk to her , and then send her back in and go..

100% was gonna end up banging a single bloke in a wig if I had been a big enough dummy to agree to that..

Id almost guarantee I know the name of that profile, especially seeing your location

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell me “ they “ aren’t still on here

And if you’d been given the same wonderful offer

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've never met with couples or had a threesome or moresome but I did have that option open for years.

I was completely put off though by the attitude of most of the couples getting in touch.

Bearing in mind this was them making first contact with me and not the other way around so it was pretty entitled to introduce themselves with a list of demands and instructions.

I've had everything from, lose the beard, phone number, address and facepic right now or forget it and even told I was too old, too male and too straight to have any success on here but if I agreed to play bi and/or guarantee to "provide" a sexy lady they would think about adding me to their to-do list for future meets.

Every one of those instructions came from couples with 60-100 verifications and every one of them told me it was my loss because of who they were and they would ensure my fab life was finished simply because I said no.

I am one half of a couples profile on here and although circumstances mean we haven't met anyone apart from a couple of socials we are both adamant that no one will dictate to us but at the same time we will always treat any third party as an equal.

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

I just find it too awkward now. I'm not bi and state that very clearly yet more than once I've had my head pulled towards the other woman's breasts/vagina. I also have had both the male and female try to coerce me during a meet. It's horrible and a situation I don't want to be in again.

On our couples profile this is something we feel really strongly about. Our main concern is that EVERYONE is comfortable and enjoying the experience. It's not just for us

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By *owKeyTooMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"I've never met with couples or had a threesome or moresome but I did have that option open for years.

I was completely put off though by the attitude of most of the couples getting in touch.

Bearing in mind this was them making first contact with me and not the other way around so it was pretty entitled to introduce themselves with a list of demands and instructions.

Wow headbangers! Entitled aren't they,as if the world revolves around them.

Yes good for you to be yourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve met with a few couples from here and they’ve all been different experiences from a hotel meet, car meet and house meet but I’ve enjoyed every one. The couples are always really nice and genuine and good fun. I always am respectful of their wants and they do the same for me. A chat and a couple drinks beforehand always eases the nervousness of a new meet.

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By *oc09Man
over a year ago

near u

I think it's different for men and women when meeting with couples and I do agree that some couples think ur just there for them and nothing else but then on the other hand U get couples that are very respectful of ur boundaries and are very welcoming and nice its really just luck of the draw of who u get talking to.

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By *ustful ThoughtsWoman
over a year ago

Greystones

"Just wondering what singles experiences have been when meeting couples? I used to do it a lot and loved it at the start but I pretty much gave it up after a few bad experiences. I'm now considering dipping my toe back in and wondering what others experiences have been and how to avoid the pitfalls?"

As a couple we have met our fair of both male and female single profiles using this and a previous profile.

For us a 3sum is exactly that ie 3 individuals who are interested in playing on an equal basis.

We've had amazing times and would never regard the single joining us a 'plaything' or anything like that.

Yes, sometimes a social will give all 3 that sense of chemistry etc. Othertimes, that spark is just there and go for it.

Our thoughts are exactly same if either of us were meeting a couple on our own.

3 equals, nothing more and nothing less.

Sorry for anybody who has not had that experience.

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By *osyRedLipsWoman
over a year ago

Kildare

At the start I had few great meets with couples who are still good friends. Our meets were based on a solid foundation of what all of us wanted. But haven't organised one in few years. One of the following will happen they never wanted to meet they just love the idea of it only wanted sexy chats. Then there's the couples who treat me like they are ordering Just Eat come over and suck my hubby off. Then there's the long list of demands couples who give no thoughts of what I actually want. I can see why there's so few unicorns after my experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We hope that those singles who've met us have felt their pleasure is equally important. It's certainly what we strive for

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By *rJames_KerryMan
over a year ago

Kerry

I met a couple when I started here. A couple met me at the last min. A person who they planned to meet was a no-show.

I was in the right place right time.

Both parties were nervous. We made a little introduction. They were no real flow of play from them. Which was a real mood killer. Really hope this was a once off. And would like to experience this again.

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

I was in touch with one couple here for about a month. They talked a good game and promised the world. Even had video calls with them both.

After a while I raised Mrs just wanted a side piece to flirt with on WhatsApp while Mr was working. No meet date ever transpired.

I gave up and let them know it wasn't for me. Ghosted me instantly

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford

Any time I've played with a cpl the experience hasn't been the best. I've had a cpl fight in front of me I felt like I was 16 and caught by my mother it was mortifying. I'd love to dip my toe back in but the unknown is putting me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well for me was close to meeting with couple, but they wanted unprotected sex. And said no… And it does state on my profile! Just I am bit hung…So for me a almost first not a great start.

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By *tmanMan
over a year ago

newry

Played with a couple, things about meet discussed and agreed. Meet went well, they wanted to meet again. After trying to organise meet through here, they asked for phone number. I said iwas not comfortable doing that just yet. Must not have liked that answer as they now have blocked me!!!

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By *ol_ieMan
over a year ago

Dublin west

I have in the past and some great and others not so much.

I sometimes think that even numbers work better than odd ones as nobody feels left out.

Would be interested if I could find the right couple but it's hard to get everyone to click sometimes.

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By *ilywhite minxWoman
over a year ago

Kildare

When I was on fab 1st I made a few errors in judgment & sure we learn from our mistakes

they are some great couples here & few I've become friends with & had some very good times with aswell

,now I keep an open mind if it feels right sure why not have a bita naughty fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% was gonna end up banging a single bloke in a wig if I had been a big enough dummy to agree to that..

Id almost guarantee I know the name of that profile, especially seeing your location"

You must never be forced to do something you are not comfortable with.

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By *uniorendowedMan
over a year ago

London Derbyshire

My experience with couples on here have all been positive apart from a time when a couple I was seeing broke up.

To be honest I prefer the dynamic of a couple more than that of singles on fab. I’d say nobody is a monolith and just find the couple dynamic that works for you at that moment in time

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By *rish In DubaiMan
over a year ago

Carlow

I've had positive experiences.

But I've had a few where I've been messaging a couple for a few weeks. Going great, sharing pics, speaking regularly on KIK and then I get asked the question along the lines of.

I know your not Bi but are you Bi curious.

Would uou mind the hubby touching you and stuff like that.

Alot of wasted time and energy at that stage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been chatting with couples here for the last number of weeks with a view to meeting.

The majority are interested in meeting but when it comes to actually meeting, they keep putting it off for one reason or another.

I was recently contacted by a couples profile and we agreed to meet for a coffee 1st to see how everyone was with each other, only to be told last minute that it would be just the male as the female is no longer 'on the scene'

As a single male that cannot accommodate, the odds of me actually meeting a couple or even a female are very low in general. Never mind trying to distinguish who is actually who they say they are.

I'm getting the impression that lots of couples, females, males love the idea of meeting, probably really turns them on in that moment, but when it comes to actually meeting, they don't have motivation to follow through.

But like all have been saying in previous posts, I'm looking at the positives rather than the negatives.

Happy to chat with or even meet for a coffee/drink with anyone that is genuinely interested in meeting.

Happy fabbing everyone

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

I love meeting couples...but almost impossible to find genuine and well mannered ones .

Wanna fuck tonight wouldn't work for me im afraid.

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

We like to get to know someone before asking them to join us. Quickies really don't do anything for us and depending on how we get on it would probably be an overnight stay we offered

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By *ewrideMan
over a year ago

Surprised at so many negative experiences. Feeling lucky now

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By *llthewaysMan
over a year ago

City centre/Naas

Never meet a couple off Fab but have enjoyed both of the experiences in the past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No point in me contributing to this question as l've never had opportunity to be with another couple so l can't comment but a lot of replies here aren't positive.. mostly negative experience's

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

It’s 100 per cent the most challenging of meets

For me . One of the couple is almost always more interested than the other by far and the risk of cancellation i find to be very high .

I have had some great ones but I am much more likely to meet the lady on her own with the husband’s blessing or both at party than an MMF with a cohabiting/married couple

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By *peasinapod1Couple
over a year ago

dublin

We’ve met lovely singles on here and have to say all 3 enjoyed our fun .. ffm is our favourite but have had mfm .. and all looking for more we love the social side a few drinks and if all are happy on to play time .. no pressure equals more fun

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

Affs this is depressing....

Seems many couples are assholes!

On fhe other side .... hoodoo singles

I want to meet a couple ... it would have to be respectful

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"Affs this is depressing....

Seems many couples are assholes!

On fhe other side .... hoodoo singles

I want to meet a couple ... it would have to be respectful "

Sorry goooooo singles

Its been a rough week

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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago

City Centre

I've had some great experiences with couples over the years and have lots of great couple friends in the scene.

That being said I rarely meet couples these days but when I do I always meet them for a social first/or at a social event. It is so important to see if there's an attraction to both parts of the couple and also to see their dynamic. This does not come across by messaging.

I think you can gauge pretty quickly if a couple are for you and are meeting you for the right reasons. If you feel uncomfortable or see any form of jealousy take heed of these red flags.

Meeting a couple to fulfil their fantasy on their terms and with no regard to the single involved is an absolute no no in my opinion. It should be about mutual fun for all three involved. Obviously after discussing in detail their rules and if their rules work for you.

Communication is key.

A single should never ever feel like a commodity or a plaything for couples. Unfortunately, this does happen.

It's all about respect for all 3 people involved.

B x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had some great experiences with couples over the years and have lots of great couple friends in the scene.

I think you can gauge pretty quickly if a couple are for you and are meeting you for the right reasons. If you feel uncomfortable or see any form of jealousy take heed of these red flags.

Communication is key.

A single should never ever feel like a commodity or a plaything for couples. Unfortunately, this does happen.

It's all about respect for all 3 people involved.

B x

Well my case I did not feel respected… just because they wanted a creampie… unsafe sex

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By *oulernerMan
over a year ago

Dublin City

I've been talking to a few couples but so far it hasn't resulted in anything. Always do a social first and there needs to be a certain vibe in order to go into a more intimate scenario.

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By *ild WomanWoman
over a year ago

Carlow

Have met couples in the past and got on well with them. Same rules as meeting a single guy. All have to get on and have fun. I ran away from a couple at social because it was all about him and I felt she was really kine on it.

I ask about boundaries and tell them mine. And I will call time out if things don't go right.

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