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Tough as a new male just got ghosted.

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By *ubbull26 OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin City

Hello fabbers, just a vent was meant to meet a couple who insisted on today only for no one to show up. Waited over 40 minutes before deciding to come home.

Just looking for a sulk it's hard to be a new male on the site without stuff like this happening.

So thread is people who arrange to meet up and then ghost why?

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By *ornywife20Couple
over a year ago

North Cork

Happens to everyone couples and females too .

Lot of rude time wasters on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens lad. You can't do anything about it but what you can do is choose your attitude about it. Choose not to dwell and instead look forward, onwards and upwards. As was quoted by someone here once it's like doing the electrical wiring "positive to positive, negative to negative and don't forget the earth"

Keep on fabbing and eventually the rest of the world will catch up.

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By *ubbull26 OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin City

Thanks makes me feel a bit better knowing it's the norm that there's time wasters.

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By *ecretSilverlinkMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Hello fabbers, just a vent was meant to meet a couple who insisted on today only for no one to show up. Waited over 40 minutes before deciding to come home.

Just looking for a sulk it's hard to be a new male on the site without stuff like this happening.

So thread is people who arrange to meet up and then ghost why? "

Don’t worry man. People have no manners etc. Just be yourself and only yourself if they block it’s their loss. You will be fine x

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By *ubbull26 OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin City

Thanks very much feeling a bit better now I'm not outside in the rain anymore haha.

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By *ecretSilverlinkMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I used to get myself down so much in the past etc but i’ve learnt only you can be the best you can be. If people don’t like it then that’s on them. Even if I don’t find someone attractive etc when they approach me I still say thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are plenty on here who are just out to take the piss and waste your time. Don't allow them to.

Do your due diligence. Are they verified? Are they well verified? Follow the verification trail. If it seems too good to be true that's because it often is. Don't be too hasty to meet. Spend a bit of time chatting first to get to know each other. How is the chat going? Is there anything sounds off? Are you really talking to a couple? Remember also, none of the above are a guarantee. If alarm bells are ringing ask for a social meet first or just pull out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I'm really sorry this happened to you like others said so many time wasters here not many thank god, it happens to us all me also just put on a smile and soldier on

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By *llthewaysMan
over a year ago

City centre/Naas

Sorry to hear it happened to you, hopefully you get more meets in the future to make up for it.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Not victim blaming but you'll get better at recognising dodgy profiles..you're only on here a few weeks .....good advice above and also block them

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By *unirishcplCouple
over a year ago

monaghan

Hope it was local. Lol. We flew to Madrid once after chatting etc with a couple for months and they never showed. Part and parcel of it all sometimes.

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By *panishRebelMan
over a year ago

Alicante Spain, and Cork City Ireland


"Hope it was local. Lol. We flew to Madrid once after chatting etc with a couple for months and they never showed. Part and parcel of it all sometimes. "

Now that would be pretty shitty. Having said that, I hope you enjoyed Madrid.

I spent a bit of time on Tinder due to Covid. I even drove for a few hours. I would make a new music mix for the car, pick a nice route. If there was a no show or a disaster meet, I still enjoyed the journey.

Probably best to keep doing the same with Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello fabbers, just a vent was meant to meet a couple who insisted on today only for no one to show up. Waited over 40 minutes before deciding to come home.

Just looking for a sulk it's hard to be a new male on the site without stuff like this happening.

So thread is people who arrange to meet up and then ghost why? "

Welcome to the Jungle..that's a kinda regular thing here ..some people just don't care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op your only 4 weeks on fab .. give it time,try chat on the forum. There is lots on the forum for newbies, hope my advice helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know the feeling op. couples tend to be the worst offenders.

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By *ubbull26 OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin City

Thanks for the kind words and advice everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well shit happens.inam here for while now and I am used to it. there is still good think that some of people will msg you that they can't meet at time so..

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

It's a regular thing on here unfortunately ive been on the receiving end more times than i care to mention....

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"Thanks for the kind words and advice everyone. "

If your only 4 weeks on fab and you have a meet with a couple ... thats better than most even if they didn't show....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a regular thing on here unfortunately ive been on the receiving end more times than i care to mention...."

You definitely deserve to be on the receiving end of things that are much more enjoyable Lolly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry this has happened to you! Head up, shake it off and carry on…..best of luck on the site mr!

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By *einster-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

Bad luck. Used to happen us and is a bummer when it happens. We're alot more selective now and don't rush into things like we did in the past

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By *leasurer77Man
over a year ago

Athlone

If you didn't block guys from messaging you we could ask who they are and avoid them!

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"If you didn't block guys from messaging you we could ask who they are and avoid them!"

Rumors are sins

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By *ich DesireMan
over a year ago

Ballon

I'm also new on fab and Iv had a few not so nice people in messages.

I have a question for those on the scene longer than I... What's the best way to put yourself out there/ introduce yourself to the scene? I'm hoping to find the balance between being interested and and coming across as overly egar

Any tips, especially from a female perspective would be appreciated

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"I'm also new on fab and Iv had a few not so nice people in messages.

I have a question for those on the scene longer than I... What's the best way to put yourself out there/ introduce yourself to the scene? I'm hoping to find the balance between being interested and and coming across as overly egar

Any tips, especially from a female perspective would be appreciated "

Try posting in this thread to meet for a coffee in carlow

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/ireland/1475346

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By *andR2019Couple
over a year ago

Nunya


"I'm also new on fab and Iv had a few not so nice people in messages.

I have a question for those on the scene longer than I... What's the best way to put yourself out there/ introduce yourself to the scene? I'm hoping to find the balance between being interested and and coming across as overly egar

Any tips, especially from a female perspective would be appreciated "

Talk away here in the forums, look out for the help a fabber thread or for the socials for unverified.

There’s also no size fits all answer to how to come across as everyone is different and looking for different things.

Also OP it happens to us all, unfortunately it’s the nature of the game.

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By *ich DesireMan
over a year ago

Ballon

Thanks for the tips guys, I'll be sure to try them out.

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"Thanks for the tips guys, I'll be sure to try them out."

Get your dick....

No beating round the bush

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By *rish In DubaiMan
over a year ago

Carlow


"Hello fabbers, just a vent was meant to meet a couple who insisted on today only for no one to show up. Waited over 40 minutes before deciding to come home.

Just looking for a sulk it's hard to be a new male on the site without stuff like this happening.

So thread is people who arrange to meet up and then ghost why? "

Saw you and might not have liked the look of you?

But you ever know.

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By *teppenwolfMan
over a year ago

Cork

Still no excuse for not formally advising they wouldnt be attending.

Happens everone at some stage.

No excuse for bad manners tho.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Report no-shows. Always. It's one of the options when you report someone

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By *teppenwolfMan
over a year ago

Cork


"Report no-shows. Always. It's one of the options when you report someone "

Good call.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

The Irish Forum is an underused Fab gem. Read, chat and learn. There is loads of advice on here. There are socials organised and promoted here for unverified profiles. This thread is updated often and lists all events:

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/ireland/1419100

Those not focusing on their profile and depending on private messaging are gonna fail 99% of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some great advice here guys. Very much appreciated. I always send a face pic in my first message and it turns out my mother was wrong. I'm not that handsome lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hope it was local. Lol. We flew to Madrid once after chatting etc with a couple for months and they never showed. Part and parcel of it all sometimes. "

Did that but it was the UK. Thankfully they told me 1 week before I flew so I didn’t go but I couldn’t get a refund on the flights. Best €160 lesson I learned though.

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