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"Seriously, does anyone else's skin crawl when someone calls you Babe, Hun or luv when they don't know you... Actually anyone that calls me Babe...is not my type of human
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At time's ya. 
Their ton or what form I'm in can have an effect on it aswell.
It's up there along with someone using verbs ,aswell( Not saying verbs should be used,some people can't help themselves). | |||
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"Seriously, does anyone else's skin crawl when someone calls you Babe, Hun or luv when they don't know you... Actually anyone that calls me Babe...is not my type of human
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B x"I wouldn't come to limerick so because the townies love saying "hi-ya luv" down here. | |||
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"Seriously, does anyone else's skin crawl when someone calls you Babe, Hun or luv when they don't know you... Actually anyone that calls me Babe...is not my type of human
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B x"Yes! Especially when it's someone I don't even know | |||
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"I was in my local supervalu today the checkout girl asked how was your day hun she was a teenager, I did reply as I'm a lady.. I am lol .. but I hate pet names " I actually don't mind being called Hun by people close to me..strangers no..it's the context too.. B x | |||
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"That'll do pig!
Great Movie "Have ya seen the zombieland version? | |||
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"I was in my local supervalu today the checkout girl asked how was your day hun she was a teenager, I did reply as I'm a lady.. I am lol .. but I hate pet names I actually don't mind being called Hun by people close to me..strangers no..it's the context too.. B x" Same if I know the person .. not a stranger and she was a teenager I'm old enough to be her Mam | |||
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"That'll do pig!
Great Movie
Have ya seen the zombieland version? "Eh no lol | |||
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"That'll do pig!
Great Movie
Have ya seen the zombieland version?
Eh no lol"Its very funny!
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"That'll do pig!
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Wasn't it, just "I have the jigsaw in my fridge | |||
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I have the jigsaw in my fridge "I lol'd at that! | |||
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"I couldn't care less what people call me to be honest.." same here | |||
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"That'll do pig!
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Wasn't it, just
I have the jigsaw in my fridge
I lol'd at that! "I have though. It's the 3d version coz I'm a grown up (aperantly) | |||
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"Not particularly. Around its more boi or lad tho "It's world known that ye call people boi, down there, unless they're living under rock's.
Limerick would nearly be the same aswell. | |||
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"I couldn't care less what people call me to be honest.." I'm sure I've been called worse | |||
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"I couldn't care less what people call me to be honest.. I'm sure I've been called worse "Same | |||
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"Not particularly. Around its more boi or lad tho
It's world known that ye call people boi, down there, unless they're living under rock's.
Limerick would nearly be the same aswell. "not its sham and kid in limerick | |||
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"Different counties have different slang when talking to people... " Ya,that's true alright. | |||
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"Not particularly. Around its more boi or lad tho
It's world known that ye call people boi, down there, unless they're living under rock's.
Limerick would nearly be the same aswell. not its sham and kid in limerick "I knew a Limerick man & he used to use boi. I'm sure there used aswell. Sham would be a Galway thing aswell. | |||
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"Not particularly. Around its more boi or lad tho
It's world known that ye call people boi, down there, unless they're living under rock's.
Limerick would nearly be the same aswell. not its sham and kid in limerick
I knew a Limerick man & he used to use boi. I'm sure there used aswell.
Sham would be a Galway thing aswell. "he must have been a blow in or maybe form the cork border | |||
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"Not particularly. Around its more boi or lad tho
It's world known that ye call people boi, down there, unless they're living under rock's.
Limerick would nearly be the same aswell. "So it’s boy even if you’re under rocks come out here boy | |||
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"Not particularly. Around its more boi or lad tho
It's world known that ye call people boi, down there, unless they're living under rock's.
Limerick would nearly be the same aswell. not its sham and kid in limerick
I knew a Limerick man & he used to use boi. I'm sure there used aswell.
Sham would be a Galway thing aswell. he must have been a blow in or maybe form the cork border "South of the City alright. Nearer to the city than the Cork border, at the same time. | |||
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"Not particularly. Around its more boi or lad tho
It's world known that ye call people boi, down there, unless they're living under rock's.
Limerick would nearly be the same aswell.
So it’s boy even if you’re under rocks come out here boy " | |||
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"Not particularly. Around its more boi or lad tho
It's world known that ye call people boi, down there, unless they're living under rock's.
Limerick would nearly be the same aswell. not its sham and kid in limerick
I knew a Limerick man & he used to use boi. I'm sure there used aswell.
Sham would be a Galway thing aswell. he must have been a blow in or maybe form the cork border
South of the City alright. Nearer to the city than the Cork border, at the same time. "See some people think it’s boi it’s not it’s a simple boy not meant in anyway to offend Same as when someone says go way ya langer If someone from cork says your some langer it doesn’t mean that they dislike you | |||
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"Not particularly. Around its more boi or lad tho
It's world known that ye call people boi, down there, unless they're living under rock's.
Limerick would nearly be the same aswell. not its sham and kid in limerick
I knew a Limerick man & he used to use boi. I'm sure there used aswell.
Sham would be a Galway thing aswell. he must have been a blow in or maybe form the cork border
South of the City alright. Nearer to the city than the Cork border, at the same time.
See some people think it’s boi it’s not it’s a simple boy not meant in anyway to offend
Same as when someone says go way ya langer
If someone from cork says your some langer it doesn’t mean that they dislike you "Personally I wondered what was the right way to spell it, alright.
Personally I've never been called that face to face, not yet anyway's. I always knew that alright. | |||
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"Seriously, does anyone else's skin crawl when someone calls you Babe, Hun or luv when they don't know you... Actually anyone that calls me Babe...is not my type of human
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B x"Chill out babe... Sure ya know your self love ... There only being friendly hun . | |||
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"Seriously, does anyone else's skin crawl when someone calls you Babe, Hun or luv when they don't know you... Actually anyone that calls me Babe...is not my type of human
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B x"I feel your pain...fecking hate that too | |||
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"Seriously, does anyone else's skin crawl when someone calls you Babe, Hun or luv when they don't know you... Actually anyone that calls me Babe...is not my type of human
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B x"Yes hate it too..! Although being male don’t happen as much.. hate hate hate being called hun.! If I’m in a relationship then I’d call herself babe a bit but don’t be going ott on the pet names | |||
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"As another cockney I do like being called babe or darling and would never take offence and love calling people honey " If only you were willing to meet someone my age I’d call you all the names | |||
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"Seriously, does anyone else's skin crawl when someone calls you Babe, Hun or luv when they don't know you... Actually anyone that calls me Babe...is not my type of human
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B x" What do you like to be called first thing in the morning sexy | |||
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"Hey I don't know you and this is crazy you can't have my number so don't call me baby sing it with me now "Now I can't stop singing that | |||
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"So what’s the alternative..hello there, you, gorgeous, ugly,bitch,cunt..!! It’s only a word In the absence of a name but in my experience most who don’t like or feel a word is inappropriate use that nonsense to belittle the person.!!" Hello or hi would be sufficient, no? | |||
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"So what’s the alternative..hello there, you, gorgeous, ugly,bitch,cunt..!! It’s only a word In the absence of a name but in my experience most who don’t like or feel a word is inappropriate use that nonsense to belittle the person.!! Hello or hi would be sufficient, no?" Exactly | |||
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"Hi there, what you babes talking about? "Wouldn't you like to hun | |||
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"Hi there, what you babes talking about?
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"Hey I don't know you and this is crazy you can't have my number so don't call me baby sing it with me now
Now I can't stop singing that "Literally was listening to the song while posting my version light bulb moment right there | |||
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"So what’s the alternative..hello there, you, gorgeous, ugly,bitch,cunt..!! It’s only a word In the absence of a name but in my experience most who don’t like or feel a word is inappropriate use that nonsense to belittle the person.!! Hello or hi would be sufficient, no?" it would for sum but the same people will crucify you no matter!!! | |||
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"A Woman at work repeatedly says Hi darling , im like wtf it’s not even a word that slips easily off the tongue I think she’s possibly being a condescending bitch though "Just reply every time with " alright petal " | |||
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"Think its tottally disrespectful to call anyone u don't know babe hun etc When u haven't even seen or met them Some might like it But me if I was chatting to someone who refrain for referring to them as one of thoose pet names Just me " For you to think it's totally disrespectful it means that you are assuming the person means it disrespectfully. It can only be deemed "meant as disrespectful" by the person who said. If you feel disrespected when somebody says it it's because you are assuming they are being disrespectful without clarifying that with them. As you can see from most posts here they are an actual effect being endearing. Does it change things to view it from the point of view that anyone who says that to you ,actually is trying to be friendly or endearing towards you rather than disrespectful? | |||
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"So what’s the alternative..hello there, you, gorgeous, ugly,bitch,cunt..!! It’s only a word In the absence of a name but in my experience most who don’t like or feel a word is inappropriate use that nonsense to belittle the person.!! Hello or hi would be sufficient, no?" Clearly some people like to express more endearment in their greetings ! | |||
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"Think its tottally disrespectful to call anyone u don't know babe hun etc When u haven't even seen or met them Some might like it But me if I was chatting to someone who refrain for referring to them as one of thoose pet names Just me For you to think it's totally disrespectful it means that you are assuming the person means it disrespectfully. It can only be deemed "meant as disrespectful" by the person who said. If you feel disrespected when somebody says it it's because you are assuming they are being disrespectful without clarifying that with them. As you can see from most posts here they are an actual effect being endearing. Does it change things to view it from the point of view that anyone who says that to you ,actually is trying to be friendly or endearing towards you rather than disrespectful?" Could the same not be said of someone putting an arm round you to talk to you or placing their hand on your knee while chatting? Perhaps they're only being friendly but that's irrelevant if it's unwanted. Winking, wolf-whistling, being leery. It goes on and on. In every single piece of training I've done in management, mentoring & safeguarding it is absolutely about how the action is received, not how it was intended. If we continue to make the excuse "oh but they didn't mean any harm by it, they're just being friendly" it leaves us in a society where it's still OK to cop a feel of a work colleague, to call someone by a nickname that belittles them, to cat-call someone in the street. It literally takes a split second to check your behaviour and ask yourself "might this be unwanted?" Someone thinking their behaviour is friendly and endearing is not an acceptable excuse | |||
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"Think its tottally disrespectful to call anyone u don't know babe hun etc When u haven't even seen or met them Some might like it But me if I was chatting to someone who refrain for referring to them as one of thoose pet names Just me For you to think it's totally disrespectful it means that you are assuming the person means it disrespectfully. It can only be deemed "meant as disrespectful" by the person who said. If you feel disrespected when somebody says it it's because you are assuming they are being disrespectful without clarifying that with them. As you can see from most posts here they are an actual effect being endearing. Does it change things to view it from the point of view that anyone who says that to you ,actually is trying to be friendly or endearing towards you rather than disrespectful? Could the same not be said of someone putting an arm round you to talk to you or placing their hand on your knee while chatting? Perhaps they're only being friendly but that's irrelevant if it's unwanted. Winking, wolf-whistling, being leery. It goes on and on. In every single piece of training I've done in management, mentoring & safeguarding it is absolutely about how the action is received, not how it was intended. If we continue to make the excuse "oh but they didn't mean any harm by it, they're just being friendly" it leaves us in a society where it's still OK to cop a feel of a work colleague, to call someone by a nickname that belittles them, to cat-call someone in the street. It literally takes a split second to check your behaviour and ask yourself "might this be unwanted?" Someone thinking their behaviour is friendly and endearing is not an acceptable excuse " The same couldn't be said for physical contact. that isn't like-for-like at all. However you given your money's been positioned are well aware of this. To be noted too ,this isn't in reference to workplace scenarios it's in reference to everyday life chats. I could perceive you as an argumentative for the sake of being argumentative on here from my perception and assumptions of the meaning behind your interactions and comments. Am I right ? Or in actual fact am I assuming the meaning behind your words and making wrong assumptions based on my own feelings ? | |||
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"Think its tottally disrespectful to call anyone u don't know babe hun etc When u haven't even seen or met them Some might like it But me if I was chatting to someone who refrain for referring to them as one of thoose pet names Just me For you to think it's totally disrespectful it means that you are assuming the person means it disrespectfully. It can only be deemed "meant as disrespectful" by the person who said. If you feel disrespected when somebody says it it's because you are assuming they are being disrespectful without clarifying that with them. As you can see from most posts here they are an actual effect being endearing. Does it change things to view it from the point of view that anyone who says that to you ,actually is trying to be friendly or endearing towards you rather than disrespectful? Could the same not be said of someone putting an arm round you to talk to you or placing their hand on your knee while chatting? Perhaps they're only being friendly but that's irrelevant if it's unwanted. Winking, wolf-whistling, being leery. It goes on and on. In every single piece of training I've done in management, mentoring & safeguarding it is absolutely about how the action is received, not how it was intended. If we continue to make the excuse "oh but they didn't mean any harm by it, they're just being friendly" it leaves us in a society where it's still OK to cop a feel of a work colleague, to call someone by a nickname that belittles them, to cat-call someone in the street. It literally takes a split second to check your behaviour and ask yourself "might this be unwanted?" Someone thinking their behaviour is friendly and endearing is not an acceptable excuse " What's also important to note is your use of the words unwanted. If someone uses an endearing term to greet you they cannot know its unwanted unless you have stays at it beforehand and in which case it would not longer be considered endearment, rather agitation. What you may be referring to is PC culture! This is where you cannot say anything that comes naturally to you if there is even the slightest doubt it may be misinterpreted by others. Frankly that's not a world I want to live in and thankfully it seems globally it's not a world that people want to live in either. Management and work scenarios are completely different world because everybody is covering their own a**. | |||
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"Think its tottally disrespectful to call anyone u don't know babe hun etc When u haven't even seen or met them Some might like it But me if I was chatting to someone who refrain for referring to them as one of thoose pet names Just me For you to think it's totally disrespectful it means that you are assuming the person means it disrespectfully. It can only be deemed "meant as disrespectful" by the person who said. If you feel disrespected when somebody says it it's because you are assuming they are being disrespectful without clarifying that with them. As you can see from most posts here they are an actual effect being endearing. Does it change things to view it from the point of view that anyone who says that to you ,actually is trying to be friendly or endearing towards you rather than disrespectful? Could the same not be said of someone putting an arm round you to talk to you or placing their hand on your knee while chatting? Perhaps they're only being friendly but that's irrelevant if it's unwanted. Winking, wolf-whistling, being leery. It goes on and on. In every single piece of training I've done in management, mentoring & safeguarding it is absolutely about how the action is received, not how it was intended. If we continue to make the excuse "oh but they didn't mean any harm by it, they're just being friendly" it leaves us in a society where it's still OK to cop a feel of a work colleague, to call someone by a nickname that belittles them, to cat-call someone in the street. It literally takes a split second to check your behaviour and ask yourself "might this be unwanted?" Someone thinking their behaviour is friendly and endearing is not an acceptable excuse The same couldn't be said for physical contact. that isn't like-for-like at all. However you given your money's been positioned are well aware of this. To be noted too ,this isn't in reference to workplace scenarios it's in reference to everyday life chats. I could perceive you as an argumentative for the sake of being argumentative on here from my perception and assumptions of the meaning behind your interactions and comments. Am I right ? Or in actual fact am I assuming the meaning behind your words and making wrong assumptions based on my own feelings ? " Not just workplace situations. I've trained and mentored in all sorts of areas and in various roles both voluntary and in employment - preschool, schools, clubs, sports - from I was 17. I'm still a safeguarding officer today in a voluntary capacity. And although you chose to highlight the unwanted physical contact, I did mention others that weren't physical. Unwanted verbal interactions can be just as distressing even when the person "was just being friendly and endearing". | |||
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"Think its tottally disrespectful to call anyone u don't know babe hun etc When u haven't even seen or met them Some might like it But me if I was chatting to someone who refrain for referring to them as one of thoose pet names Just me For you to think it's totally disrespectful it means that you are assuming the person means it disrespectfully. It can only be deemed "meant as disrespectful" by the person who said. If you feel disrespected when somebody says it it's because you are assuming they are being disrespectful without clarifying that with them. As you can see from most posts here they are an actual effect being endearing. Does it change things to view it from the point of view that anyone who says that to you ,actually is trying to be friendly or endearing towards you rather than disrespectful? Could the same not be said of someone putting an arm round you to talk to you or placing their hand on your knee while chatting? Perhaps they're only being friendly but that's irrelevant if it's unwanted. Winking, wolf-whistling, being leery. It goes on and on. In every single piece of training I've done in management, mentoring & safeguarding it is absolutely about how the action is received, not how it was intended. If we continue to make the excuse "oh but they didn't mean any harm by it, they're just being friendly" it leaves us in a society where it's still OK to cop a feel of a work colleague, to call someone by a nickname that belittles them, to cat-call someone in the street. It literally takes a split second to check your behaviour and ask yourself "might this be unwanted?" Someone thinking their behaviour is friendly and endearing is not an acceptable excuse The same couldn't be said for physical contact. that isn't like-for-like at all. However you given your money's been positioned are well aware of this. To be noted too ,this isn't in reference to workplace scenarios it's in reference to everyday life chats. I could perceive you as an argumentative for the sake of being argumentative on here from my perception and assumptions of the meaning behind your interactions and comments. Am I right ? Or in actual fact am I assuming the meaning behind your words and making wrong assumptions based on my own feelings ? Not just workplace situations. I've trained and mentored in all sorts of areas and in various roles both voluntary and in employment - preschool, schools, clubs, sports - from I was 17. I'm still a safeguarding officer today in a voluntary capacity. And although you chose to highlight the unwanted physical contact, I did mention others that weren't physical. Unwanted verbal interactions can be just as distressing even when the person "was just being friendly and endearing". " As you can read above . I highlighted your use of the word unwanted! I also gave you a real life example of how interpretation of one's meaning without clarification lends itself to misinterpretation on the part of the interpreter!!!! ( which you've not taken up) The key being . Is someone wrong for using an endering term because it is unknowingly unwanted or incorrectly interpreted? | |||
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"You didn't answer ... you just listed your credentials. I didn't ask you for examples , only to address the points raised instead of avoiding them . Its ok not if thats what you want to do . "You've chosen not to see where I've already answered you. But it's ok if that's not what you want to do | |||
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"You didn't answer ... you just listed your credentials. I didn't ask you for examples , only to address the points raised instead of avoiding them . Its ok not if thats what you want to do .
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