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By *ewcouple200 OP   Couple
over a year ago

dublin

Once again we've been let down by a single male. He made initial contact and messaged a lot. He asked on many occasions for a meet. Finally when we were available we made arrangements only to be ghosted by him. Considering he seemed more than keen we're at a loss to understand why this happens to lots of couples on here. Anyone care to give any insight.

NC 200 xxx

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By *ust M.A.IMan
over a year ago

Mullingar

More than likely he got cold feet...

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By *urFabFun21Couple
over a year ago

Somewhere


"Once again we've been let down by a single male. He made initial contact and messaged a lot. He asked on many occasions for a meet. Finally when we were available we made arrangements only to be ghosted by him. Considering he seemed more than keen we're at a loss to understand why this happens to lots of couples on here. Anyone care to give any insight.

NC 200 xxx"

We just put it down to thr thrill of the chase and eventual bottle job when it comes to actually meeting.

It's why we've decided not to bother trying to meet directly through the site any more and will attend parties and socials when we're less busy after summer.

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By *oleraine-coupleCouple
over a year ago

coleraine

Yes happened to us numerous times now. Think that it’s single guys excited by the idea and just bottling it when it gets real and married guys unable to make it happen.

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By *cerlass321Couple
over a year ago

kilkenny

unfortunately it happens more often than not for 1 reason or another

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By *illow and FionnCouple
over a year ago

Cork


"Once again we've been let down by a single male. He made initial contact and messaged a lot. He asked on many occasions for a meet. Finally when we were available we made arrangements only to be ghosted by him. Considering he seemed more than keen we're at a loss to understand why this happens to lots of couples on here. Anyone care to give any insight.

NC 200 xxx"

Male bravado is the most annoying trait amongst men. Most talk a big game

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Was it a social meet before a possible play meet

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

City Centre, Dublin


"Once again we've been let down by a single male. He made initial contact and messaged a lot. He asked on many occasions for a meet. Finally when we were available we made arrangements only to be ghosted by him. Considering he seemed more than keen we're at a loss to understand why this happens to lots of couples on here. Anyone care to give any insight.

NC 200 xxx

Male bravado is the most annoying trait amongst men. Most talk a big game"

I make it explicitly clear that I’m going to underwhelm….

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By *ewcouple200 OP   Couple
over a year ago

dublin

Was it a social meet before a possible play meet.

It was going to be a play meet after lots of back and forth

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By *iscreteguy321Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

I was let down by a couple 2 weekends ago in cahir. I was arranging a coffee meet, they were all eager to meet but when the time came they were a no show. Disappointing really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP sorry this happened to you both what a lousey thing to do on ye,pity he can't be named, try attended the Socials it's the best way to meet up with genuine people here honestly it's worth a try

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"Was it a social meet before a possible play meet.

It was going to be a play meet after lots of back and forth"

Have the other couples experiencing this also not met someone first or do they find they get let down after a social meet

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By *ot so needyMan
over a year ago

Galway

It happens to everyone not just couples.on my last profile 3 times I booked a hotel and they never showed 2 single ladies and one couple. But the ones who do kinda make it worthwhile.

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Its happens to lots of couples and single men because they are naive. In most of these situations its not about a person getting cold feet or something suddenly puts them off, it's the simply the case that they never had any intention to meet in the first place.

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By *aisyandTrigCouple
over a year ago

Cork,kerry

Happened us too it’s so infuriating especially when you organise childcare etc

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

AaaaAHghhhhghhaaaaahhhhgh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once again we've been let down by a single male. He made initial contact and messaged a lot. He asked on many occasions for a meet. Finally when we were available we made arrangements only to be ghosted by him. Considering he seemed more than keen we're at a loss to understand why this happens to lots of couples on here. Anyone care to give any insight.

NC 200 xxx"

A younger person? Perhaps he was afraid of your partner getting upset & hitting him a dig? Not being smart you know?

Maybe he’s just simple enough to get off on the thoughts & thrills of it, games are HUGE to people here & control too it’s more of a kink then people think!

Shitty experience for ye but maybe a beer or coffee to kick off hell I dunno even chat on the phone you’ll know fairly quick who’s got a spine & who doesn’t.

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By *ewcouple200 OP   Couple
over a year ago

dublin

Thanks for the replies and insight

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By *osyRedLipsWoman
over a year ago

Kildare

Don't take it personally happens so much here. They are the dreamers the tyre kickers the wank bankers who had no intention of meeting. They could also be attached and were never going to meet or just simply love the thrill of the chase. It happened to me 3 times in a row when I first joined few years ago waiting in hotels buy they flaked. I had coffee with all 3 before. It's why I only really meet at events now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Happened us too it’s so infuriating especially when you organise childcare etc"

Now that I’d say is absolute nightmare! I could see how that could wind up being harmful for the couple too that would defo go sideways for me I’d be cracking! Hope ye made tlgood use of being child free haha

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By *ex coupleCouple
over a year ago

wexford


"Once again we've been let down by a single male. He made initial contact and messaged a lot. He asked on many occasions for a meet. Finally when we were available we made arrangements only to be ghosted by him. Considering he seemed more than keen we're at a loss to understand why this happens to lots of couples on here. Anyone care to give any insight.

NC 200 xxx"

Happened us on several occasions all talk no balls literally

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By *aisyandTrigCouple
over a year ago

Cork,kerry


"Happened us too it’s so infuriating especially when you organise childcare etc

Now that I’d say is absolute nightmare! I could see how that could wind up being harmful for the couple too that would defo go sideways for me I’d be cracking! Hope ye made tlgood use of being child free haha"

We did lol sorted something else last minute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem with single men on fab...most of them arent actually single

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By *ikewantstoplayMan
over a year ago

somewhere

You played the fab single guy lottery and unfortunately lost

Maybe next time the balls will come out with your number on them

The odds are great here though

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By *ildarekinkstersCouple
over a year ago

kinkytown

Something similar happened us last week with us only he blocked us after it was all sorted for just a social. Has since unblocked us but hasn't contacted us since.

People are strange

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By *ex coupleCouple
over a year ago

wexford


"Once again we've been let down by a single male. He made initial contact and messaged a lot. He asked on many occasions for a meet. Finally when we were available we made arrangements only to be ghosted by him. Considering he seemed more than keen we're at a loss to understand why this happens to lots of couples on here. Anyone care to give any insight.

NC 200 xxx"

Happened us on several occasions all talk no balls literally

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By *ex coupleCouple
over a year ago

wexford

Fab is gone shocking for time wasters and fakes and no shows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a genuine single guy trying to meet couples and find it tough to break through to an actual meet.

No wonder it's hard for single males with clowns like that.

If any couples in Cork want to meet with a genuine single male that won't bottle it, please message me

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By *onty_400Man
over a year ago

dublin

Women do it too tbf.

I've had women block me for no reason on the day or day before a meet.

Horrible thing to do to anyone but life is full of unpleasant things

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By *pforfun17576Man
over a year ago

Kildare

Some guys ruin it for the rest of us

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By *immy123456888Man
over a year ago

city

Maybe he just got a better offer.

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By *huCullainMan
over a year ago

Rathowen

Maybe the wife wouldn't let him out.

There's a lot of single and straight men and women on here are that are neither single or straight.

Unfortunately being stood up or ghosted is getting more and more common on fab.

Keep the faith though, plenty of decent people still here.

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By *immy123456888Man
over a year ago

city


"Women do it too tbf.

I've had women block me for no reason on the day or day before a meet.

Horrible thing to do to anyone but life is full of unpleasant things"
Ah god no a woman or couple would never do such a thing.Because they are just perfect lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some guys ruin it for the rest of us "

I never understand this statement

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By *amesmckMan
over a year ago

city

Lol,

I can only imagine how annoying a no show is. Luckly ive never experienced it nor would i do that to anyone.

There may be a genuine reason, however stage fright is hard to overcome and the 1st group play is scary.

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By *ewcouple200 OP   Couple
over a year ago

dublin

Something similar happened us last week with us only he blocked us after it was all sorted for just a social. Has since unblocked us but hasn't contacted us since.

People are strange

Very strange!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The problem with single men on fab...most of them arent actually single "

And the ones that are married but in an open relationship are labelled as 'cheaters' and never given the time of day.

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By *otfun100Man
over a year ago

coleraine

We aren’t all bad. If I say I’m gonna meet I’ll meet

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By *eline5000Woman
over a year ago

dublin

Nothing new …

Couples can back out too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once again we've been let down by a single male. He made initial contact and messaged a lot. He asked on many occasions for a meet. Finally when we were available we made arrangements only to be ghosted by him. Considering he seemed more than keen we're at a loss to understand why this happens to lots of couples on here. Anyone care to give any insight.

NC 200 xxx"

We haven't had a meet yet and don't know the horrors of the LS.

However, as a compassionate member of society, himself would like to offer his body as a sexual sacrifice for your disappointment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing new …

Couples can back out too "

In all honesty, we've been ghosted more by couples than anything else so far.

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By *ol_ieMan
over a year ago

Dublin west

I have had 5 no shows in less than a month in the past from women and couples..

It happens..

It's a pain.

Just have to get on with it and try again with someone and hope it goes better.

It sadly is a part of the scene that has and will always exist.

Hope your next meet is more successful.

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By *eline5000Woman
over a year ago

dublin


"Nothing new …

Couples can back out too

In all honesty, we've been ghosted more by couples than anything else so far. "

They like to keep there options open lol

It’s the nature of the beast

Network network network

I think if u build up a rapport with a guy it can be more benificial

U may not believe it but singles guys can feel used by couples .. as can single ladies… sure ye can still get the ride of each other

And shaming the guy on here straight off bat won’t help u

There are lots of men that will turn up on demand do there duty and leave respectfully

God I’m loving my men today

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By *pforfun17576Man
over a year ago

Kildare


"Some guys ruin it for the rest of us

I never understand this statement "

A lot of people say they no longer meet single guys due to being let down... hence the guys not showing up ruin it for the guys who do

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By *eline5000Woman
over a year ago

dublin


"Some guys ruin it for the rest of us

I never understand this statement

A lot of people say they no longer meet single guys due to being let down... hence the guys not showing up ruin it for the guys who do"

Those couples need that bull.. supply and demand

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By *1CorkCouple
over a year ago

Cork

Verifications are key for reducing risk of the ‘bottling it’ excuse for a no show, and for screening the fake couple profiles who’ll engage right up to arranging a meet for the sad operator’s fictitious couple characters - the prospect of the catfished couple sitting alone obviously very arousing to him (generally a him).

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By *huCullainMan
over a year ago

Rathowen


"Verifications are key for reducing risk of the ‘bottling it’ excuse for a no show, and for screening the fake couple profiles who’ll engage right up to arranging a meet for the sad operator’s fictitious couple characters - the prospect of the catfished couple sitting alone obviously very arousing to him (generally a him)."

I was to meet someone that was well varified and she never showed up. Not the first time it's happened.

So vari's can be deceiving too.

It's fab life unfortunately

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By *eline5000Woman
over a year ago

dublin

I actually find a sat night can be worst for no show

Drink and u might be the just in case at end of but hey Ho

Get lots of numbers in ur black book and try not to get thick with them for the ghost

We can’t always have what we want

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By *oe Cool xxxMan
over a year ago

South Dublin

Fab is full of bullshiters and time wasters , 2/3 have I’ve made plans with either didn’t show and just ghosted on day of meet.

But having said bray had met lovely girls too.

A coffee or drink first is prob best bet pre playtime.

The single guys that don’t show up are ruining it for the genuine single guys though.

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By *jdubliMan
over a year ago

Perth

Pity

That makes genuine single mens more hard to get a meeting .. I try to arrange dates with well verified couples only as it happens for singles. Worst time happens to me when was let down after book hotel and travel to cork they just stop answer even got online read msg and no answer at all at last minute.

Feel like a clown

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By *rish_GuyMan
over a year ago

Foxford

That's C_€tish, it's cause of ejjits like this that mess it up for the rest of the good once. It's also why so many single guy's on here can't get meet verified, from women or Couples. Sadly we can't blame them for it either.

I'm still looking to be meet verified meself. So when I say I'm going to meetup, I'm seriously going to do my best to be there, cause of shit like this. That said if something dose go wrong I'm also going to do my best to tell the other people I can't make it,ASAP. It's only fair & the right thing to do.

Just take it on the chin & move on, ASAP. We're not all bastards. Hopefully this hasn't put ye off single guy's forever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never bottled a meet on or off fab yet. It's just a shitty thing to do

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By *OCONO5Couple
over a year ago

Sensual Center

It's the Joy's of fab ....has happened to us on more than one occasion...cold feet ...the hunt is over ...more than likely what someone else said "the Wife wouldnt let Him.....that's why they are off our Fab Menu

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By *inglouie90Man
over a year ago

dublin

Hard enough getting women and couple to write back without letting them down then.

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Welcome to my world, this is a regular accuracy for me on here

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By *osyRedLipsWoman
over a year ago

Kildare

In fairness I love some of the excuses the dead Granny is a classic. I had one fella cancel because he didn't want to be too tired to play golf next day in the afternoon! He should have being putting his balls in my mouth not on the green

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By *rAndMrsRightCouple
over a year ago

newtownabbey


"In fairness I love some of the excuses the dead Granny is a classic. I had one fella cancel because he didn't want to be too tired to play golf next day in the afternoon! He should have being putting his balls in my mouth not on the green "

Planning to meet us for a drink already killed at least 5 peoples relatives, caused a few car accidents, cut off at least 3 peoples WiFi, broke countless bones.... must be a bad curse

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By *osyRedLipsWoman
over a year ago

Kildare


"In fairness I love some of the excuses the dead Granny is a classic. I had one fella cancel because he didn't want to be too tired to play golf next day in the afternoon! He should have being putting his balls in my mouth not on the green

Planning to meet us for a drink already killed at least 5 peoples relatives, caused a few car accidents, cut off at least 3 peoples WiFi, broke countless bones.... must be a bad curse "

An awful bad curse if your a single guy on Fab and their Granny's better watch out as well. One poor fella his Granny died 3 times in a year. Sorrows and prayers

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Yeah it happens a bit too much unfortunately. I've had it as well from couples who I'm fairly certain were not

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By *ust M.A.IMan
over a year ago

Mullingar


"In fairness I love some of the excuses the dead Granny is a classic. I had one fella cancel because he didn't want to be too tired to play golf next day in the afternoon! He should have being putting his balls in my mouth not on the green

Planning to meet us for a drink already killed at least 5 peoples relatives, caused a few car accidents, cut off at least 3 peoples WiFi, broke countless bones.... must be a bad curse

An awful bad curse if your a single guy on Fab and their Granny's better watch out as well. One poor fella his Granny died 3 times in a year. Sorrows and prayers "

Lol this killed me lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In fairness I love some of the excuses the dead Granny is a classic. I had one fella cancel because he didn't want to be too tired to play golf next day in the afternoon! He should have being putting his balls in my mouth not on the green "

Pffft too tired for golf?! Sure it's only a walk. He wouldn't have been able for you at all

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By *otchocolate4uMan
over a year ago

Athlone/Galway/Dublin

it's shame this happened, when real person are unable to get meeting, after booked venue couple no show blocked me

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By *he MickMan
over a year ago

southside


"In fairness I love some of the excuses the dead Granny is a classic. I had one fella cancel because he didn't want to be too tired to play golf next day in the afternoon! He should have being putting his balls in my mouth not on the green "

Lol

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"In fairness I love some of the excuses the dead Granny is a classic. I had one fella cancel because he didn't want to be too tired to play golf next day in the afternoon! He should have being putting his balls in my mouth not on the green "

And he would have had a better chance of a hole in one

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"Fab is gone shocking for time wasters and fakes and no shows "

Maybe its a result of turning into a more social that meet site !

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Guess I've been lucky on here I've never had a no show on here.

I've had a few people who try and get sex talk or pics early on and I find when you don't agree they move on. I learned pretty fast when I joined here that those are the ones who are most likely not going to meet and just want wank material.

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By *rAndMrsRightCouple
over a year ago

newtownabbey


"Guess I've been lucky on here I've never had a no show on here.

I've had a few people who try and get sex talk or pics early on and I find when you don't agree they move on. I learned pretty fast when I joined here that those are the ones who are most likely not going to meet and just want wank material. "

Never had any sex talk on here with anyone I've never met.

Always make it very clear that a meet for a coffee/drink and a chat is what it is with no hidden agendas, so other person knows nothing is ever expected from them.

Them grannies still dying, car accidents still happening

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By *wingme22Man
over a year ago

Galway


"Was it a social meet before a possible play meet.

It was going to be a play meet after lots of back and forth"

Unfortunately another gobshite, his loss!

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By *eathernsilkMan
over a year ago

armagh

After social meet and several message I've had a couple either ghost me of completely delete their profile two days before a meet. I just assume somebody locally to them knew was blabbering etc.

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By *hett and scarlettCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"Once again we've been let down by a single male. He made initial contact and messaged a lot. He asked on many occasions for a meet. Finally when we were available we made arrangements only to be ghosted by him. Considering he seemed more than keen we're at a loss to understand why this happens to lots of couples on here. Anyone care to give any insight.

NC 200 xxx"

Feel your pain, OP. Been there ourselves, and on more than one occasion.

You could write a novel on the potential reasons, but at the end of the day, it wasn’t you, it was him.

Don’t let it get you down. Fuck him and wait for the potential massage shortly where he makes up and excuse and attempts to rekindle then ghost him back. Alternatively, block the MF.

Rhett and Scarlett x

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

Maybe his wife had made other plans for that night

There are fantasists everywhere unfortunately.

Hopefully your search is more fruitful in future op

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By *illow and FionnCouple
over a year ago

Cork


"Maybe he just got a better offer."

Did the single male in question just expose himself

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By *illow and FionnCouple
over a year ago

Cork

We once had a guy tell us last minute that he needed a nap and was too tired to meet Willow. Who BTW was meeting him solo

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Guess I've been lucky on here I've never had a no show on here.

I've had a few people who try and get sex talk or pics early on and I find when you don't agree they move on. I learned pretty fast when I joined here that those are the ones who are most likely not going to meet and just want wank material.

Never had any sex talk on here with anyone I've never met.

Always make it very clear that a meet for a coffee/drink and a chat is what it is with no hidden agendas, so other person knows nothing is ever expected from them.

Them grannies still dying, car accidents still happening

"

I do a social first as well .I guess I've just been lucky so with the people I have met so far

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin


"Maybe he just got a better offer.

Did the single male in question just expose himself "

Not from this profile anyway I’d say, but who knows about the others….

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By *ommando4Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin


"Maybe he just got a better offer.

Did the single male in question just expose himself

Not from this profile anyway I’d say, but who knows about the others…."

Couldnt be judging by your avatar

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By *ommando4Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin


"Maybe he just got a better offer.

Did the single male in question just expose himself

Not from this profile anyway I’d say, but who knows about the others….

Couldnt be judging by your avatar "

Which is very impressive I might add !

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

Prerogative is the reason

Shooting yourself in the foot is the result .

If I were to play devil's advocate however, Given the amount of bitching and moaning people do about each other on these forums I'd say some guys might worry what will they said about them and figure maybe its best avoid!

Just a thought

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin


"Maybe he just got a better offer.

Did the single male in question just expose himself

Not from this profile anyway I’d say, but who knows about the others….

Couldnt be judging by your avatar

Which is very impressive I might add !"

Ah stop…..

I’ll pass it on to the photography department…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He must have been mad not to meet

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By *osyRedLipsWoman
over a year ago

Kildare


"Prerogative is the reason

Shooting yourself in the foot is the result .

If I were to play devil's advocate however, Given the amount of bitching and moaning people do about each other on these forums I'd say some guys might worry what will they said about them and figure maybe its best avoid!

Just a thought "

The average man on Fab has no idea of the forums. I've given lot of advice over the years including telling them to check out forums for details of events etc. This was absolutely news to them they weren't aware or just never noticed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheer up I'll meet ya

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By *ust M.A.IMan
over a year ago

Mullingar


"

The average man on Fab has no idea of the forums. I've given lot of advice over the years including telling them to check out forums for details of events etc. This was absolutely news to them they weren't aware or just never noticed. "

In my area there are quite a lot of people that are not on the forums, and while it's true that a vast majority of men don't know about the forums it's not that hard to click on that icon and see what is it all about... That's how I discovered the forums

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By *j TruckerMan
over a year ago

monaghan


"Once again we've been let down by a single male. He made initial contact and messaged a lot. He asked on many occasions for a meet. Finally when we were available we made arrangements only to be ghosted by him. Considering he seemed more than keen we're at a loss to understand why this happens to lots of couples on here. Anyone care to give any insight.

NC 200 xxx"
way too much of that going on and then gives the proper people absolutely no chance really does boil my blood

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By *ust M.A.IMan
over a year ago

Mullingar


"way too much of that going on and then gives the proper people absolutely no chance really does boil my blood "

I'd say that one of the contributing factors, but not the primary one.

There are men who can't take no for an answer when it comes to fabs.

There are men who lie about their relationship status.

There are men who don't bother of composing a proper text when trying to talk to someone.

There are men that send dick pics as their opening line and there are men that when talking to a couple they don't have respect for the partner of the lady in that said couple.

All these are contributing factors, so it's not just one category of men...

It's sad but it's true, all you have to do is to be patient and respectful

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By *j TruckerMan
over a year ago

monaghan


"way too much of that going on and then gives the proper people absolutely no chance really does boil my blood

I'd say that one of the contributing factors, but not the primary one.

There are men who can't take no for an answer when it comes to fabs.

There are men who lie about their relationship status.

There are men who don't bother of composing a proper text when trying to talk to someone.

There are men that send dick pics as their opening line and there are men that when talking to a couple they don't have respect for the partner of the lady in that said couple.

All these are contributing factors, so it's not just one category of men...

It's sad but it's true, all you have to do is to be patient and respectful "
agreed

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"Prerogative is the reason

Shooting yourself in the foot is the result .

If I were to play devil's advocate however, Given the amount of bitching and moaning people do about each other on these forums I'd say some guys might worry what will they said about them and figure maybe its best avoid!

Just a thought

The average man on Fab has no idea of the forums. I've given lot of advice over the years including telling them to check out forums for details of events etc. This was absolutely news to them they weren't aware or just never noticed. "

Whats an average man ?

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"way too much of that going on and then gives the proper people absolutely no chance really does boil my blood

I'd say that one of the contributing factors, but not the primary one.

There are men who can't take no for an answer when it comes to fabs.

There are men who lie about their relationship status.

There are men who don't bother of composing a proper text when trying to talk to someone.

There are men that send dick pics as their opening line and there are men that when talking to a couple they don't have respect for the partner of the lady in that said couple.

All these are contributing factors, so it's not just one category of men...

It's sad but it's true, all you have to do is to be patient and respectful "

Oh stop ... my beating heart

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By *rishjohnny81Man
over a year ago

aghalee from tyrone

Well as a genuine single man I can only assume cold feet talked the talk but couldn’t walk the walk

Sadly it happens to genuine single ladies the genuine couples and us genuine single men it’s sad as we all all fab friends here

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By *ommando4Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin


"Well as a genuine single man I can only assume cold feet talked the talk but couldn’t walk the walk

Sadly it happens to genuine single ladies the genuine couples and us genuine single men it’s sad as we all all fab friends here "
Im a bit of a cunt so not a fab friend

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By *oy.2022Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Once again we've been let down by a single male. He made initial contact and messaged a lot. He asked on many occasions for a meet. Finally when we were available we made arrangements only to be ghosted by him. Considering he seemed more than keen we're at a loss to understand why this happens to lots of couples on here. Anyone care to give any insight.

NC 200 xxx"

I wouldn't let you down

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By *ildarekinkstersCouple
over a year ago

kinkytown


"Well as a genuine single man I can only assume cold feet talked the talk but couldn’t walk the walk

Sadly it happens to genuine single ladies the genuine couples and us genuine single men it’s sad as we all all fab friends here "

Oh we definitely ain't all fab friends

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By *ajRallying555Man
over a year ago

Galway .Limerick

Hi. He really giving us single men a Bad Name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We once had a guy tell us last minute that he needed a nap and was too tired to meet Willow. Who BTW was meeting him solo "

Seriously he needed a nap, I think he’s on the wrong site ffs

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By *heCumBackMan
over a year ago

Cork

Possibly Married without permission & got cold feet or could not escape

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By *rishguy086Man
over a year ago

Limerick

OP Hate hearing that this kind of thing happens..

Some guys would jump at the opportunity to meet but rarely, if not never, get it and then there's guys like this that get it and squander it. Making it very hard for the genuine Single males looking to meet.

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By *arl2020Man
over a year ago

ENNISKILLEN

Its guys like him that ruins it for other single guys i wudnt let u down are anyone if i plan to meet someone i would meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its guys like him that ruins it for other single guys i wudnt let u down are anyone if i plan to meet someone i would meet them "

How are they ruining it for other single guys?

Surely they are shortening the odds

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Lads posting he makes it difficult for us single blokes...no he doesn't..you make it difficult or easier for yourself...no one else is responsible for you

Lads posting......I'd definitely turn up no problem

You know the blokes/ women / couples say that too ...and sometimes don't turn up anyway

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By *ildarekinkstersCouple
over a year ago

kinkytown


"Lads posting he makes it difficult for us single blokes...no he doesn't..you make it difficult or easier for yourself...no one else is responsible for you

Lads posting......I'd definitely turn up no problem

You know the blokes/ women / couples say that too ...and sometimes don't turn up anyway "

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By *ust M.A.IMan
over a year ago

Mullingar


"Lads posting he makes it difficult for us single blokes...no he doesn't..you make it difficult or easier for yourself...no one else is responsible for you

Lads posting......I'd definitely turn up no problem

You know the blokes/ women / couples say that too ...and sometimes don't turn up anyway "

Lads jumping in here I would definitely show up became the pick me girls haha

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By *arl2020Man
over a year ago

ENNISKILLEN

Cause alot of women would get get fed up with lads letting them down so why bother with kther guys maybe im wrong but ive heard that from women before and couples they get fed up been let down so dont bother with single guys no more

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Cause alot of women would get get fed up with lads letting them down so why bother with kther guys maybe im wrong but ive heard that from women before and couples they get fed up been let down so dont bother with single guys no more"

And yet I bet most do still meet single guys . A lot gets siad like that as a way of saying no without being blunt and saying they just don't want to meet the person who messages them or that they have chatted to.

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By *UReadyMan
over a year ago

fairview

Works both ways , I was ghosted

And let down by a couple promising all

Sorts of fun . Really else

Me

Down a garden path ,drip feeding information right up to the last minute and then vaboom ignored . I reported them and blocked them

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

Lads lads lads lads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once again we've been let down by a single male. He made initial contact and messaged a lot. He asked on many occasions for a meet. Finally when we were available we made arrangements only to be ghosted by him. Considering he seemed more than keen we're at a loss to understand why this happens to lots of couples on here. Anyone care to give any insight.

NC 200 xxx"

When push came to shove you spoke to a person that is like so many here...a Timewaster.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi. He really giving us single men a Bad Name"

He could give " Love a bad name " too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once again we've been let down by a single male. He made initial contact and messaged a lot. He asked on many occasions for a meet. Finally when we were available we made arrangements only to be ghosted by him. Considering he seemed more than keen we're at a loss to understand why this happens to lots of couples on here. Anyone care to give any insight.

NC 200 xxx"
same just happened to me today, by a single female, i think its just the way it is.

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By *taylor122Man
over a year ago

dublin

Time wasters give the genuine guys a bad name but as many have mentioned it’s the bravado which turns cold once they face the reality of a meet.

There will always be last minute issues but if you were ghosted then it’s pretty obvious what it was

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By *xplicitMan
over a year ago

donegal

Down with this sort of thing

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By *an I Kiss youMan
over a year ago

Manchester City Centre

I would strongly suggest organised social events and parties to make initial contact with other singles and couples.

.

There you will only find people who actually made an effort, got off their big comfy sofas, dressed themselves, and drove or got a taxi to the venue with the intention of having fun and building connection with other like-minded people. These cannot be timewasters

.

Seriously, 5 minutes chat in the flesh is worth weeks of futile tedious online chats with faceless characters. Maybe this way you could avoid future disappointments and frustration.

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By *igglefunWoman
over a year ago

Cork

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By *leasurer77Man
over a year ago

Athlone


"Once again we've been let down by a single male. He made initial contact and messaged a lot. He asked on many occasions for a meet. Finally when we were available we made arrangements only to be ghosted by him. Considering he seemed more than keen we're at a loss to understand why this happens to lots of couples on here. Anyone care to give any insight.

NC 200 xxx"

This drives me mad. Guys like me would give our right arm to meet you but idiots who don't turn up, for whatever reason, ruin it for the genuine guys who do turn up.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"Once again we've been let down by a single male. He made initial contact and messaged a lot. He asked on many occasions for a meet. Finally when we were available we made arrangements only to be ghosted by him. Considering he seemed more than keen we're at a loss to understand why this happens to lots of couples on here. Anyone care to give any insight.

NC 200 xxx

This drives me mad. Guys like me would give our right arm to meet you but idiots who don't turn up, for whatever reason, ruin it for the genuine guys who do turn up."

Just out of curiosity, how did that ruin it for you?

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By *leasurer77Man
over a year ago

Athlone


"Once again we've been let down by a single male. He made initial contact and messaged a lot. He asked on many occasions for a meet. Finally when we were available we made arrangements only to be ghosted by him. Considering he seemed more than keen we're at a loss to understand why this happens to lots of couples on here. Anyone care to give any insight.

NC 200 xxx

This drives me mad. Guys like me would give our right arm to meet you but idiots who don't turn up, for whatever reason, ruin it for the genuine guys who do turn up.

Just out of curiosity, how did that ruin it for you? "

Because it gives single guys a bad name and leads others to think more of us won't show up.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"Once again we've been let down by a single male. He made initial contact and messaged a lot. He asked on many occasions for a meet. Finally when we were available we made arrangements only to be ghosted by him. Considering he seemed more than keen we're at a loss to understand why this happens to lots of couples on here. Anyone care to give any insight.

NC 200 xxx

This drives me mad. Guys like me would give our right arm to meet you but idiots who don't turn up, for whatever reason, ruin it for the genuine guys who do turn up.

Just out of curiosity, how did that ruin it for you?

Because it gives single guys a bad name and leads others to think more of us won't show up."

That's nonsense. Women aren't that thick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once again we've been let down by a single male. He made initial contact and messaged a lot. He asked on many occasions for a meet. Finally when we were available we made arrangements only to be ghosted by him. Considering he seemed more than keen we're at a loss to understand why this happens to lots of couples on here. Anyone care to give any insight.

NC 200 xxx

This drives me mad. Guys like me would give our right arm to meet you but idiots who don't turn up, for whatever reason, ruin it for the genuine guys who do turn up.

Just out of curiosity, how did that ruin it for you?

Because it gives single guys a bad name and leads others to think more of us won't show up."
what does it give single females, bc one let me down yesterday

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"Once again we've been let down by a single male. He made initial contact and messaged a lot. He asked on many occasions for a meet. Finally when we were available we made arrangements only to be ghosted by him. Considering he seemed more than keen we're at a loss to understand why this happens to lots of couples on here. Anyone care to give any insight.

NC 200 xxx

This drives me mad. Guys like me would give our right arm to meet you but idiots who don't turn up, for whatever reason, ruin it for the genuine guys who do turn up.

Just out of curiosity, how did that ruin it for you?

Because it gives single guys a bad name and leads others to think more of us won't show up.what does it give single females, bc one let me down yesterday"

She's obviously ruined it for the rest of them now!

There's no way I'm ever meeting any of them after that!

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

I'm with you Mike. Fuck them all after that.

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By *immy123456888Man
over a year ago

city


"I'm with you Mike. Fuck them all after that. "
But isn't that the problem they won't let us guys fuck them.

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"Once again we've been let down by a single male. He made initial contact and messaged a lot. He asked on many occasions for a meet. Finally when we were available we made arrangements only to be ghosted by him. Considering he seemed more than keen we're at a loss to understand why this happens to lots of couples on here. Anyone care to give any insight.

NC 200 xxx

This drives me mad. Guys like me would give our right arm to meet you but idiots who don't turn up, for whatever reason, ruin it for the genuine guys who do turn up.

Just out of curiosity, how did that ruin it for you? "

Your assuming he is genuine

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"Once again we've been let down by a single male. He made initial contact and messaged a lot. He asked on many occasions for a meet. Finally when we were available we made arrangements only to be ghosted by him. Considering he seemed more than keen we're at a loss to understand why this happens to lots of couples on here. Anyone care to give any insight.

NC 200 xxx

This drives me mad. Guys like me would give our right arm to meet you but idiots who don't turn up, for whatever reason, ruin it for the genuine guys who do turn up.

Just out of curiosity, how did that ruin it for you?

Because it gives single guys a bad name and leads others to think more of us won't show up.what does it give single females, bc one let me down yesterday"

Prerogative

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"I'm with you Mike. Fuck them all after that. But isn't that the problem they won't let us guys fuck them."

Speak for yourself

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By *aughtyKildareMan
over a year ago

tullamore

I’ve been let down a few times with no shows and it’s never nice, needless to say I’ve never stood anyone up from here and never would, if people change their mind about meeting at least have the decency to do it in time where the other side can make different plans not just blank them with a no show, it’s so unfair and extremely disrespectful. Sometimes I think it’s the excitement of the chase that really does it for them but just can’t deal with the reality of the physical meeting,

Anyway, I’m a respectful genuine discreet man that won’t let you down if plans are made ,

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By *pringbok95Couple
over a year ago

Limavady


"Once again we've been let down by a single male. He made initial contact and messaged a lot. He asked on many occasions for a meet. Finally when we were available we made arrangements only to be ghosted by him. Considering he seemed more than keen we're at a loss to understand why this happens to lots of couples on here. Anyone care to give any insight.

NC 200 xxx"

Obviously attached!! They just can't be honest about it. So frustrating.

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee


"I'm with you Mike. Fuck them all after that. But isn't that the problem they won't let us guys fuck them."

Lol, Jimmy's back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never understood the single male letting people down! after putting all the effort to get a meet it crazy.

I suppose for some the chase is far more exciting that the meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once again we've been let down by a single male. He made initial contact and messaged a lot. He asked on many occasions for a meet. Finally when we were available we made arrangements only to be ghosted by him. Considering he seemed more than keen we're at a loss to understand why this happens to lots of couples on here. Anyone care to give any insight.

NC 200 xxx"

His loss,

Lots of possibilities as to why like all the above. There are some genuine people here it’s delving through all the time wasters and messers. Don’t understand why they are on a swinging site if they just wanna mess people around

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By *ukeM8519Man
over a year ago

Leitrim & Dublin

Only he knows the answer.

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By *ildGroverMan
over a year ago

rathfarnham

If you've been on here long enough youve been let down, ghosted, blocked, blanked, ignored

Men, women, couples, TS, TV etc all have that in common.

Comes with the territory. It sucks, but c'est la vie

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"If you've been on here long enough youve been let down, ghosted, blocked, blanked, ignored

Men, women, couples, TS, TV etc all have that in common.

Comes with the territory. It sucks, but c'est la vie"

The only one on your list I've experienced is being blocked.

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By *ildGroverMan
over a year ago

rathfarnham


"If you've been on here long enough youve been let down, ghosted, blocked, blanked, ignored

Men, women, couples, TS, TV etc all have that in common.

Comes with the territory. It sucks, but c'est la vie

The only one on your list I've experienced is being blocked. "

I meant to say either but

Um

I guess it's

Congrats to you??

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