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"You messaged her to quickly.always leave it a day or two." We messaged like every day for the last couple of weeks before the date | |||
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"Could be busy with work/life midweek. If it was me (male here) I'd pop a message on Friday asking how she is and any plans for the weekend. If she says she has plans, wish her an enjoyable weekend and say you might catch up next week and see what she says. If she says no, ask her if she fancies doing something. If she says yes, great. If she says no, I'd just give up at that point. " I would but I'm working this weekend unfortunately hahah but i get where you're coming from | |||
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"Society would dictate a standard 3 days after the first date. That allows for both parties to screw up the conversation so many times in their heads that by the third day a decent response comes out naturally. I also will send the 'I had fun, did you get home safe, etc' texts." Yeah, we did that, that's when I said it. But because we would message every day evem before the date, I didn't think waiting 3 days would be a good idea | |||
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"I would leave it for now. If she's interested she knows where you are." Female of the couple here. Completely agree with this. The ball is in her court now. No offence meant to previous posters but the idea that there’s set rules or timelines when it comes to communicating is nonsense. If you contacting her before some arbitrary holding period is over affects her opinion of you then she didn’t like you in the first place and/or she’s a gobshite. As long as you’re respectful, sane and not pushy then it shouldn’t matter how soon you contacted her. | |||
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"She's just not that into you Next!!" This! I'm afraid going quiet on you is never a good sign. Plenty more out there waiting for you... | |||
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"She's just not that into you Next!!" ....................... Harsh ..... but most likely the truth. Not everyone comes across as well face to face as they might in online chats. Conversation skills, dress sense, manners, mannerisms, accent, personal grooming, flirting skills, etc. are all subjective and may or may not add to the other persons initial online attraction. "Every failure is a step closer to success". | |||
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"I would leave it for now. If she's interested she knows where you are. Female of the couple here. Completely agree with this. The ball is in her court now. No offence meant to previous posters but the idea that there’s set rules or timelines when it comes to communicating is nonsense. If you contacting her before some arbitrary holding period is over affects her opinion of you then she didn’t like you in the first place and/or she’s a gobshite. As long as you’re respectful, sane and not pushy then it shouldn’t matter how soon you contacted her. "  There's not much I hate more than unclear communication and teenage games of timelines and who's contacting who first! You're both adults and can each make decisions for yourselves and communicate those respectively, respectfully.
As for other comments with regards to her not being into you after all - considering the sudden lull in communication - that may be true but she may also have personal issues she needs to deal with surrounding dating...after one date you won't know the half of what goes on in her life and mind...
Personally, I'd follow up on the unresponded text to seek clarification, politely. That's just me - you'll know from her response or lack of, where you stand...best of luck  | |||
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"Op....you took my advice the last time Go to her house, stand outside with a ghetto blaster above your head playing Peter Gabriel singing "In your eyes" on a high volume.....what could possibly go wrong "Glad we all agree that he should visit her house | |||
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"Don’t die wondering OP Your best bet is to go to her house in the early hours of the morning, politely knock the door and ask her how she feels Have your headlights on full beam facing the door so she can’t see you and can only hear your voice, it’ll be be extremely romantic" Have a few G&T’s beforehand too for added confidence  | |||
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"You messaged her to quickly.always leave it a day or two. We messaged like every day for the last couple of weeks before the date" Don't listen to him. If she was interested she would have messaged. I would move on as sounds to me that you were more an option for her then anything. Bit harsh I know, but it's the truth. Misses | |||
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"Send her a dick picture to reignite the spark. "If she's not into then you have nothing to lose by texting her again in a couple of days. If she is into you she might appreciate you following up. She's not going to write you off for sending a few texts if, as said above, you are sane and polite. | |||
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Op best of luck xx | |||
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"Send her a dick picture to reignite the spark. "Stupid advice | |||
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"I would leave it for now. If she's interested she knows where you are. Female of the couple here. Completely agree with this. The ball is in her court now. No offence meant to previous posters but the idea that there’s set rules or timelines when it comes to communicating is nonsense. If you contacting her before some arbitrary holding period is over affects her opinion of you then she didn’t like you in the first place and/or she’s a gobshite. As long as you’re respectful, sane and not pushy then it shouldn’t matter how soon you contacted her. There's not much I hate more than unclear communication and teenage games of timelines and who's contacting who first! You're both adults and can each make decisions for yourselves and communicate those respectively, respectfully.
As for other comments with regards to her not being into you after all - considering the sudden lull in communication - that may be true but she may also have personal issues she needs to deal with surrounding dating...after one date you won't know the half of what goes on in her life and mind...
Personally, I'd follow up on the unresponded text to seek clarification, politely. That's just me - you'll know from her response or lack of, where you stand...best of luck "I agree . Some of the above answers are perfectly acceptable if you're both 16. However as adults it is perfectly acceptable for you to send another message politely Confirming the situation and leaving the ball in her court. You might say something like, I know you may be busy don't want to be pestering you I leave it for you to get back to me,.... Or something like that | |||
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"Op....you took my advice the last time Go to her house, stand outside with a ghetto blaster above your head playing Peter Gabriel singing "In your eyes" on a high volume.....what could possibly go wrong
Glad we all agree that he should visit her house"We should all visit her house together... for moral support like | |||
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"Send her a dick picture to reignite the spark.
Stupid advice"He was being funny All these threads should have a warning like the financial regular warning on the bank ads | |||
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"I would leave it for now. If she's interested she knows where you are." Good advice and if I remember correctly you did say she has a child be patient all good things come to those who wait | |||
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"OP let us know how things turn out, I'm a nosey git sry. "No word from her 3 hours ago.. | |||
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"Send her a dick picture to reignite the spark.
Stupid advice"Tbf it was still better than your "wait 3 days so you don't cone across as eager" i thought people grew out of that approach once they reached 17? | |||
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"Send her a dick picture to reignite the spark.
Stupid advice
He was being funny
All these threads should have a warning like the financial regular warning on the bank ads " | |||
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"Nothing yet anyway... I might give her another message tomorrow maybe. Something might have happened and she just completely forgot, I can understand that does happen. What I don't get is as an adult, if someone isn't interested I don't see why not say something like we're looking for different things or not compatible or whatever but the whole ghosting thing is childish I think." Some people (more than you'd imagine) are really uncomfortable with saying things like that, and they see it as more convenient to just ignore someone. | |||
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"Nothing yet anyway... I might give her another message tomorrow maybe. Something might have happened and she just completely forgot, I can understand that does happen. What I don't get is as an adult, if someone isn't interested I don't see why not say something like we're looking for different things or not compatible or whatever but the whole ghosting thing is childish I think." Its a social media kinda cultural thing . People think noting of not replying anymore.... weather its work , family etc .. can't wait till this time next year ... my God will we all have a different view  | |||
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"Nothing yet anyway... I might give her another message tomorrow maybe. Something might have happened and she just completely forgot, I can understand that does happen. What I don't get is as an adult, if someone isn't interested I don't see why not say something like we're looking for different things or not compatible or whatever but the whole ghosting thing is childish I think. Its a social media kinda cultural thing . People think noting of not replying anymore.... weather its work , family etc .. can't wait till this time next year ... my God will we all have a different view "Why will we all have a different view? | |||
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"Nothing yet anyway... I might give her another message tomorrow maybe. Something might have happened and she just completely forgot, I can understand that does happen. What I don't get is as an adult, if someone isn't interested I don't see why not say something like we're looking for different things or not compatible or whatever but the whole ghosting thing is childish I think. Its a social media kinda cultural thing . People think noting of not replying anymore.... weather its work , family etc .. can't wait till this time next year ... my God will we all have a different view
Why will we all have a different view?"Watch the skies ... and the congress | |||
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"Nothing yet anyway... I might give her another message tomorrow maybe. Something might have happened and she just completely forgot, I can understand that does happen. What I don't get is as an adult, if someone isn't interested I don't see why not say something like we're looking for different things or not compatible or whatever but the whole ghosting thing is childish I think. Its a social media kinda cultural thing . People think noting of not replying anymore.... weather its work , family etc .. can't wait till this time next year ... my God will we all have a different view
Why will we all have a different view?
Watch the skies ... and the congress "I watch the skies for weather but I'm still none the wiser with what you mean | |||
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"Nothing yet anyway... I might give her another message tomorrow maybe. Something might have happened and she just completely forgot, I can understand that does happen. What I don't get is as an adult, if someone isn't interested I don't see why not say something like we're looking for different things or not compatible or whatever but the whole ghosting thing is childish I think. Its a social media kinda cultural thing . People think noting of not replying anymore.... weather its work , family etc .. can't wait till this time next year ... my God will we all have a different view
Why will we all have a different view?
Watch the skies ... and the congress
I watch the skies for weather but I'm still none the wiser with what you mean "I'm with you in that, I'm confused myself | |||
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