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"ya nt a bad night" Ah good stuff. | |||
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"It's about the person, not where you meet them." Never a truer word said | |||
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"can ya build a relationship from meeting here to a vanilla lifestyle relationship " It depends on how you use the site, whether it's for 1:1 meets or for parties/group meets, both very different scenarios. For the former, absolutely it's possible, but for the latter, it's more the swingers lifestyle which I think is trickier to walk away from. It's more to do with the people themselves and how invested they are in the lifestyle they enjoy the most. | |||
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"can ya build a relationship from meeting here to a vanilla lifestyle relationship It depends on how you use the site, whether it's for 1:1 meets or for parties/group meets, both very different scenarios. For the former, absolutely it's possible, but for the latter, it's more the swingers lifestyle which I think is trickier to walk away from. It's more to do with the people themselves and how invested they are in the lifestyle they enjoy the most." Totally agree, we are not doing 1:1 meets, we are more interested in party's and going to club meets and we keep it to once every 4 to 6 wks | |||
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"What’s truly meant for you won’t pass you by " Yes 100% | |||
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"can ya build a relationship from meeting here to a vanilla lifestyle relationship " Yes can't see why not , we know a few couples that have met on here and since got married 
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"can ya build a relationship from meeting here to a vanilla lifestyle relationship " I think people are missing the actual question, which is can two singles who become an item on Fab then leave the lifestyle to conduct a monogamous relationship. I'm not too sure if they can, especially if they were very active as swingers, meeting couples and attending group meets. I think after a while the FOMO could get to them. Maybe not, it all depends on the individuals concerned. | |||
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"can ya build a relationship from meeting here to a vanilla lifestyle relationship I think people are missing the actual question, which is can two singles who become an item on Fab then leave the lifestyle to conduct a monogamous relationship. I'm not too sure if they can, especially if they were very active as swingers, meeting couples and attending group meets. I think after a while the FOMO could get to them. Maybe not, it all depends on the individuals concerned." I don't really think it's much different to having a lot of different partners while single, then committing to a monogamous relationship. It's a choice. | |||
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"can ya build a relationship from meeting here to a vanilla lifestyle relationship I think people are missing the actual question, which is can two singles who become an item on Fab then leave the lifestyle to conduct a monogamous relationship. I'm not too sure if they can, especially if they were very active as swingers, meeting couples and attending group meets. I think after a while the FOMO could get to them. Maybe not, it all depends on the individuals concerned." 
Ya, that's true. It can depend on the activities they do or used to do here, as singles or as a couple on here. | |||
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"can ya build a relationship from meeting here to a vanilla lifestyle relationship I think people are missing the actual question, which is can two singles who become an item on Fab then leave the lifestyle to conduct a monogamous relationship. I'm not too sure if they can, especially if they were very active as swingers, meeting couples and attending group meets. I think after a while the FOMO could get to them. Maybe not, it all depends on the individuals concerned. I don't really think it's much different to having a lot of different partners while single, then committing to a monogamous relationship. It's a choice." Oh but it's a different scene entirely and it can become addictive for some | |||
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"can ya build a relationship from meeting here to a vanilla lifestyle relationship I think people are missing the actual question, which is can two singles who become an item on Fab then leave the lifestyle to conduct a monogamous relationship. I'm not too sure if they can, especially if they were very active as swingers, meeting couples and attending group meets. I think after a while the FOMO could get to them. Maybe not, it all depends on the individuals concerned. I don't really think it's much different to having a lot of different partners while single, then committing to a monogamous relationship. It's a choice. Oh but it's a different scene entirely and it can become addictive for some "True, addictions are another matter entirely. | |||
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"I have met a lot of couples who have met here on a swing site, some work some don’t, but it’s like in any walk of life. If you decide to try a relationship from here, do, but if you feel you have to be constantly looking over your shoulder wondering where He/She is, then get out of it. Ideally you would need to leave the swing scene completely to try make it work. Be honest and truthful with each other always, then it actuality may work out. Best of luck " | |||
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"I couldnt honest see a relationship develope from here apart from maybe 6months to 2 years if ye are lucky. It is a good site for the purpose of swinging . I just read what a couple wrote about been happy and having kids together after meeting here i think it was but they are early 30somethings its not a site you would want to build a life off, its just abit of fun on here" I met my ex on a sex site and we were together for 6 years. If you form a connection with someone ir doesn't matter if you meet them on here or in a pub, a connection is a connection. | |||
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"I couldnt honest see a relationship develope from here apart from maybe 6months to 2 years if ye are lucky. It is a good site for the purpose of swinging . I just read what a couple wrote about been happy and having kids together after meeting here i think it was but they are early 30somethings its not a site you would want to build a life off, its just abit of fun on here I met my ex on a sex site and we were together for 6 years. If you form a connection with someone ir doesn't matter if you meet them on here or in a pub, a connection is a connection. " does it not say your single on your profile bio or am i reading it wrong lol | |||
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"Anything is possible. I started chatting with a lady on another site about 5 years ago( the one with the hamster title x ) we have become the best of friends. We meet occasionally and have a great relationship! Go for it if it feels right I say "oh friends are easy made on apps iv friends iv known for years throught apps as long as people are happy the should just go with the flow see how it goes instead of put a label on it it really wouldnt last long term | |||
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"Anything is possible. I started chatting with a lady on another site about 5 years ago( the one with the hamster title x ) we have become the best of friends. We meet occasionally and have a great relationship! Go for it if it feels right I say oh friends are easy made on apps iv friends iv known for years throught apps as long as people are happy the should just go with the flow see how it goes instead of put a label on it it really wouldnt last long term "I think you are misunderstanding my idea of what a “friend “ is . Apps are full of “friend” collectors to make them feel they are popular. That’s a discussion for another day rather than going off topic | |||
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"I couldnt honest see a relationship develope from here apart from maybe 6months to 2 years if ye are lucky. It is a good site for the purpose of swinging . I just read what a couple wrote about been happy and having kids together after meeting here i think it was but they are early 30somethings its not a site you would want to build a life off, its just abit of fun on here" Why not? Plenty have. | |||
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"Anything is possible. I started chatting with a lady on another site about 5 years ago( the one with the hamster title x ) we have become the best of friends. We meet occasionally and have a great relationship! Go for it if it feels right I say oh friends are easy made on apps iv friends iv known for years throught apps as long as people are happy the should just go with the flow see how it goes instead of put a label on it it really wouldnt last long term I think you are misunderstanding my idea of what a “friend “ is . Apps are full of “friend” collectors to make them feel they are popular. That’s a discussion for another day rather than going off topic "lol sorry about that a friend to me is someone you hang around with chat to and have the craic with. Some of these are people iv met on apps but yeah i dont want to go off topic. OP you would just have to take it day to day in terms of relationships | |||
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"I couldnt honest see a relationship develope from here apart from maybe 6months to 2 years if ye are lucky. It is a good site for the purpose of swinging . I just read what a couple wrote about been happy and having kids together after meeting here i think it was but they are early 30somethings its not a site you would want to build a life off, its just abit of fun on here" We know of least five long term couples that use the forums that have met through fab. Don't know why you think it wouldn't work out. | |||
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"I couldnt honest see a relationship develope from here apart from maybe 6months to 2 years if ye are lucky. It is a good site for the purpose of swinging . I just read what a couple wrote about been happy and having kids together after meeting here i think it was but they are early 30somethings its not a site you would want to build a life off, its just abit of fun on here We know of least five long term couples that use the forums that have met through fab. Don't know why you think it wouldn't work out." what age group are they and how long are the a couple | |||
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"I couldnt honest see a relationship develope from here apart from maybe 6months to 2 years if ye are lucky. It is a good site for the purpose of swinging . I just read what a couple wrote about been happy and having kids together after meeting here i think it was but they are early 30somethings its not a site you would want to build a life off, its just abit of fun on here We know of least five long term couples that use the forums that have met through fab. Don't know why you think it wouldn't work out. what age group are they and how long are the a couple" There's ourselves, jay was 33 and Dee 29 when we got together. Another couple are in their 40s/50s, another is 30s mid 40s another in their 30s. Plenty of couples here as couples for well over 5 years. That's just in the Ireland forums. Plenty of couples who met on here that don't use the Ireland forums. | |||
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"I couldnt honest see a relationship develope from here apart from maybe 6months to 2 years if ye are lucky. It is a good site for the purpose of swinging . I just read what a couple wrote about been happy and having kids together after meeting here i think it was but they are early 30somethings its not a site you would want to build a life off, its just abit of fun on here We know of least five long term couples that use the forums that have met through fab. Don't know why you think it wouldn't work out. what age group are they and how long are the a couple There's ourselves, jay was 33 and Dee 29 when we got together. Another couple are in their 40s/50s, another is 30s mid 40s another in their 30s. Plenty of couples here as couples for well over 5 years. That's just in the Ireland forums. Plenty of couples who met on here that don't use the Ireland forums. " well maybe your right i just couldnt see a relationship out of here for myself and to anyone else that might be reading this, im not here today for a heated debate i just dont have the head for it and im not the OP here so please respect the OP topic | |||
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"I couldnt honest see a relationship develope from here apart from maybe 6months to 2 years if ye are lucky. It is a good site for the purpose of swinging . I just read what a couple wrote about been happy and having kids together after meeting here i think it was but they are early 30somethings its not a site you would want to build a life off, its just abit of fun on here We know of least five long term couples that use the forums that have met through fab. Don't know why you think it wouldn't work out. what age group are they and how long are the a couple There's ourselves, jay was 33 and Dee 29 when we got together. Another couple are in their 40s/50s, another is 30s mid 40s another in their 30s. Plenty of couples here as couples for well over 5 years. That's just in the Ireland forums. Plenty of couples who met on here that don't use the Ireland forums. well maybe your right i just couldnt see a relationship out of here for myself and to anyone else that might be reading this, im not here today for a heated debate i just dont have the head for it and im not the OP here so please respect the OP topic "Your entitled to your opinion as are others and we aren't looking for a heated debate either. Happy fabbing | |||
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"I couldnt honest see a relationship develope from here apart from maybe 6months to 2 years if ye are lucky. It is a good site for the purpose of swinging . I just read what a couple wrote about been happy and having kids together after meeting here i think it was but they are early 30somethings its not a site you would want to build a life off, its just abit of fun on here" You seem to be projecting your insecurities while invalidating so many people's actual, long term relationships. If you would meet someone in real life and find out that person is on fab, would you go "ew slut" and quickly dismiss them too? | |||
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how many of your friends outside of fab know you are on fab im not looking for a relationship i havent got time for one so its not about insecurities | |||
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"Lol no i would dismiss them sure im on fab so i would be a hipocrite if i did how many of your friends outside of fab know you are on fab im not looking for a relationship i havent got time for one so its not about insecurities " I think plenty of people outside of Fab know that Missus and Dirk are on here | |||
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"Lol no i would dismiss them sure im on fab so i would be a hipocrite if i did how many of your friends outside of fab know you are on fab im not looking for a relationship i havent got time for one so its not about insecurities
I think plenty of people outside of Fab know that Missus and Dirk are on here "fair play to them | |||
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"Lol no i would dismiss them sure im on fab so i would be a hipocrite if i did how many of your friends outside of fab know you are on fab im not looking for a relationship i havent got time for one so its not about insecurities "Most of our friends and family and even work colleagues and bosses know we're on fab. Not through our choice, but it happened and there's no way back. That really isn't the point. The point of my question was: You explicitly said that you don't believe in meeting a serious partner for a long term relationship through fab. But you're okay with meeting a person outside fab who just happens to be also on fab and form a relationship with them? So the conclusion of your statement is if you meet someone through fab and form a bond with them it will only last 6months to 2years. It's not a valid relationship and you should treat it as discardable. If you meet that same person in real life, they're someone you're really into, but they're on fab. You never spoke or met before, but you both met other people. Relationship is solid and brilliant and you should both go ahead? Missus | |||
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if the person i did meet was on here and enjoyed the life style it wouldnt be my place to stand in her way | |||
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"Were ye married or together before ye join fab ? If i did meet someone on here i dout it would last long term it would just be abit of fun to me i wouldnt be interested in a long term thing if the person i did meet was on here and enjoyed the life style it wouldnt be my place to stand in her way "Our relationship is irrelevant to the original post- dirk was going through his divorce and was on fab for a while. He knew he didn't want a vanilla relationship going forward. I was single too, didn't want a vanilla relationship either. As some previous poster said- connection is connection. We weren't looking for a relationship but we met and fell in love and we love each other more than we could ever imagine loving another person is possible. Staying in swinging lifestyle wasn't out choice, it's something that we have discovered that makes us happy. We aren't kids. We're grown adults, we know what we want and how to make each other happy. You still didn't answer my question about you meeting a fellow fabber in vanilla setting If you met a girl you really fancied but she was also on fab, would you pursue a relationship with her or would you discard her as a whore nor worthy of your attention ? | |||
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"I couldnt honest see a relationship develope from here apart from maybe 6months to 2 years if ye are lucky. It is a good site for the purpose of swinging . I just read what a couple wrote about been happy and having kids together after meeting here i think it was but they are early 30somethings its not a site you would want to build a life off, its just abit of fun on here I met my ex on a sex site and we were together for 6 years. If you form a connection with someone ir doesn't matter if you meet them on here or in a pub, a connection is a connection. does it not say your single on your profile bio or am i reading it wrong lol" I'm single now yeah, that's why I said my ex lol | |||
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"Were ye married or together before ye join fab ? If i did meet someone on here i dout it would last long term it would just be abit of fun to me i wouldnt be interested in a long term thing if the person i did meet was on here and enjoyed the life style it wouldnt be my place to stand in her way
Our relationship is irrelevant to the original post- dirk was going through his divorce and was on fab for a while. He knew he didn't want a vanilla relationship going forward. I was single too, didn't want a vanilla relationship either.
As some previous poster said- connection is connection. We weren't looking for a relationship but we met and fell in love and we love each other more than we could ever imagine loving another person is possible. Staying in swinging lifestyle wasn't out choice, it's something that we have discovered that makes us happy. We aren't kids. We're grown adults, we know what we want and how to make each other happy.
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"can ya build a relationship from meeting here to a vanilla lifestyle relationship " Building a relationship yes, however a vanilla relationship - we doubt it. One of you will regret to leave the liberal mindset , unless both of you were here for dating rather than swinging | |||
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i think if you want to start a relationship on here be single coming into it because it will be an open relationship you can wrap it up what ever way you want but a swinging couple are just a way for people to openly cheat how may couples on here have joined the swing life i would bet its alway the male who brings it up with there partner jus think about it im sure ye will let me know | |||
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"The fact is if you are a swinger and in a relationship ye are probably not gonna last ye might get 5 years out of it but to me thats not long term i think if you want to start a relationship on here be single coming into it because it will be an open relationship you can wrap it up what ever way you want but a swinging couple are just a way for people to openly cheat how may couples on here have joined the swing life i would bet its alway the male who brings it up with there partner jus think about it im sure ye will let me know"If you think swinging is an opportunity to cheat without consequences, then of course it won’t last. It’s called a lifestyle for a reason and it’s not for everyone. But for those who are in the lifestyle and understand it, it can bring them closer and enhance the relationship | |||
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"Ye can call it vanilla but at the end of the day any couple that is on here is really down to inscurities in there own relationship" As we used to say, that's a hairy speak from the baldy child
You seem to be quite the authority on many things you apparently know nothing about Is this like the socials you were adamant cost €80 to go to and that event organisers and Fab were in cahoots to make money, before you admitted you'd never been to a M&G and had no idea how much the cover charge was?
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"The fact is if you are a swinger and in a relationship ye are probably not gonna last ye might get 5 years out of it but to me thats not long term i think if you want to start a relationship on here be single coming into it because it will be an open relationship you can wrap it up what ever way you want but a swinging couple are just a way for people to openly cheat how may couples on here have joined the swing life i would bet its alway the male who brings it up with there partner jus think about it im sure ye will let me know
If you think swinging is an opportunity to cheat without consequences, then of course it won’t last. It’s called a lifestyle for a reason and it’s not for everyone. But for those who are in the lifestyle and understand it, it can bring them closer and enhance the relationship "Meeting of the minds and personality, Compromise fun relaxing chill | |||
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"Ye can call it vanilla but at the end of the day any couple that is on here is really down to inscurities in there own relationship As we used to say, that's a hairy speak from the baldy child
You seem to be quite the authority on many things you apparently know nothing about Is this like the socials you were adamant cost €80 to go to and that event organisers and Fab were in cahoots to make money, before you admitted you'd never been to a M&G and had no idea how much the cover charge was?
"haha i honestly know nothing about swinging lifestyle | |||
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"Ye can call it vanilla but at the end of the day any couple that is on here is really down to inscurities in there own relationship As we used to say, that's a hairy speak from the baldy child
You seem to be quite the authority on many things you apparently know nothing about Is this like the socials you were adamant cost €80 to go to and that event organisers and Fab were in cahoots to make money, before you admitted you'd never been to a M&G and had no idea how much the cover charge was?
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"Ye can call it vanilla but at the end of the day any couple that is on here is really down to inscurities in there own relationship As we used to say, that's a hairy speak from the baldy child
You seem to be quite the authority on many things you apparently know nothing about Is this like the socials you were adamant cost €80 to go to and that event organisers and Fab were in cahoots to make money, before you admitted you'd never been to a M&G and had no idea how much the cover charge was?
haha i honestly know nothing about swinging lifestyle
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"Ye can call it vanilla but at the end of the day any couple that is on here is really down to inscurities in there own relationship As we used to say, that's a hairy speak from the baldy child
You seem to be quite the authority on many things you apparently know nothing about Is this like the socials you were adamant cost €80 to go to and that event organisers and Fab were in cahoots to make money, before you admitted you'd never been to a M&G and had no idea how much the cover charge was?
haha i honestly know nothing about swinging lifestyle"It really clearly shows that you don't. Why comment on something you haven't got a faintest clue about? | |||
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"Ye can call it vanilla but at the end of the day any couple that is on here is really down to inscurities in there own relationship As we used to say, that's a hairy speak from the baldy child
You seem to be quite the authority on many things you apparently know nothing about Is this like the socials you were adamant cost €80 to go to and that event organisers and Fab were in cahoots to make money, before you admitted you'd never been to a M&G and had no idea how much the cover charge was?
haha i honestly know nothing about swinging lifestyle
It really clearly shows that you don't.
Why comment on something you haven't got a faintest clue about?
"the OP asked a question and i gave my opinion on it i dont see where the harm is did you want me to say yes that a relation could work and they will get married grow old together . | |||
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"Oh no, Julie...do I feel, that this site is losing another fab girl?" my thoughts exactly Real! and a beautiful girl at that! | |||
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"I think yes you can find someone here and have a relationship, but I belive most of the people who is here they are more open for a non monogamous relationship. There comes in the trust and honesty, when you can openly talk about things, not getting jelous..... And you clearly know what you want and your partner then you two definitely can work things out. Don't put labels what a relationship need to be, make your own what is suit for you both." I agree with this. a fab relationship has a great chance in succeeding as one of the first conversations will be regarding wheather the relationship is going to be monogamous or other. Sex is a big part of vanilla relationships, and if one partner feels their needs aren't being met they will go elsewhere. that's the reality of it. Go for it op with an educated understanding that you met on a site where you both wanted no strings fun but now want some sort of commitment which is up to you two to iron out. really hope it works out x | |||
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"I think building a relationship anywhere is only going to be possible once the participants involved both want the same things. It's pretty simple, otherwise why have a relationship? As for changing from a swinging lifestyle to a vanilla one , this shouldn't be a problem if the people involved communicate and be truthful to each other and themselves. Pretty difficult but possible once the lines, boundaries, and respect is mutually shared. Good luck with it " Totally agree | |||
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"can ya build a relationship from meeting here to a vanilla lifestyle relationship " We met at a party organised here. | |||
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"We met here 2 years ago - not much time for swinging and still going strong "Way ta go | |||
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"If a woman is fully comfortable with her own sexuality there also comes a fearlessness intelligence and an outrageous comfort in her own skin which is amazing but on the other side makes her options on the dating pool far far smaller. Could I trust a man from fab to date be my partner most certainly not. I’ve met some fantastic men over the few years I’ve been here. I just couldn’t take them seriously in the non swinging world. " Are you saying that you would want to be monogamous in a new relationship and not swing together with him? If so then yes I agree that it might be difficult for a guy who is successful on here to revert to a monogamous relationship. On saying that, I have seen guys disappear from here after meeting someone on Fab and being very happily monogamous. | |||
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"If a woman is fully comfortable with her own sexuality there also comes a fearlessness intelligence and an outrageous comfort in her own skin which is amazing but on the other side makes her options on the dating pool far far smaller. Could I trust a man from fab to date be my partner most certainly not. I’ve met some fantastic men over the few years I’ve been here. I just couldn’t take them seriously in the non swinging world. Are you saying that you would want to be monogamous in a new relationship and not swing together with him? If so then yes I agree that it might be difficult for a guy who is successful on here to revert to a monogamous relationship. On saying that, I have seen guys disappear from here after meeting someone on Fab and being very happily monogamous." No not fully swing with him but I wouldn’t completely rule it out. But the chances be very slim. This was only ever meant to be a temporary life choice for myself. I have idea in my head of what I would want from my sex life with a partner b/f. Only catch 22 is what I and most in swinging would class as normal sexual behaviour. People who aren’t involved in the lifestyle would find our sexual life choices quite taboo. See what the universe throws my way anyways. But I couldn’t take any man seriously I have met via swinging/fab | |||
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" I couldn’t take any man seriously I have met via swinging/fab " Why? I don't think men on here are so different to men who aren't on here. Is it that you feel men on here are less trustworthy and more likely to cheat? | |||
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" I couldn’t take any man seriously I have met via swinging/fab Why? I don't think men on here are so different to men who aren't on here. Is it that you feel men on here are less trustworthy and more likely to cheat?" It’s a sex site. All of us here for the same thing. I’m aware people can develop relationships from fab but it’s an extremely rare occurrence. Not one man I know from fab is here to seek a relationship nor am I. | |||
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"I think any lady who has been on fab is a lady worth knowing " Jesus no.....there's some wagons on here....men and women | |||
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"I think any lady who has been on fab is a lady worth knowing Jesus no.....there's some wagons on here....men and women " Plus people will act differently in every day life, not just how they act on Fab and at meets. | |||
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" I couldn’t take any man seriously I have met via swinging/fab Why? I don't think men on here are so different to men who aren't on here. Is it that you feel men on here are less trustworthy and more likely to cheat? It’s a sex site. All of us here for the same thing. I’m aware people can develop relationships from fab but it’s an extremely rare occurrence. Not one man I know from fab is here to seek a relationship nor am I. " Are we really all here for the same thing? REALLY? | |||
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" I couldn’t take any man seriously I have met via swinging/fab Why? I don't think men on here are so different to men who aren't on here. Is it that you feel men on here are less trustworthy and more likely to cheat? It’s a sex site. All of us here for the same thing. I’m aware people can develop relationships from fab but it’s an extremely rare occurrence. Not one man I know from fab is here to seek a relationship nor am I. " I've certainly come across quite a few on fab that want a relationship. I've been surprised at how many do. | |||
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"When it's the right person it certainly can. Where you meet should have no impact on it." like-minded people get on in all aspects of life so enjoy life wherever you meet | |||
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"Absolutely, if both of you don't have that stupid "oh you were on fab, so you must be after anything with a pulse" mindset. Very many people who join fab aren't into swinging and are perfectly capable of happily living in a Vanilla relationship. It's all about starting it off and continuing with complete transparency and trust for each other. I've seen way too many people saying they could never be in a relationship with a fellow fabber because they're too scared of their potential partner being more inclined to cheat (which is an absolute nonsense assumption) Missus " Love this mind set and totaly agree, communication is key, | |||
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"It would be my preferred way to start a relationship now since I don't think I could do a monogamous relationship anymore. But I find alot of guys have a negative impression of a single lady on fab who has, let's say, enjoyed herself on here. " That's there loss Dee. One of the great ones you are | |||
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"It would be my preferred way to start a relationship now since I don't think I could do a monogamous relationship anymore. But I find alot of guys have a negative impression of a single lady on fab who has, let's say, enjoyed herself on here. That's there loss Dee. One of the great ones you are" Aww thank you  | |||
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We first met about 7 years ago in passing at RVC and then later in a foursome
Eventually crossed paths again and we were hooked, been together since.
One of the great thing about meeting each other on here is that we can be totally open about everything, nothing needs to be hidden. We also acknowledge and support each other when it comes to kinks or meets or even for those chance playtimes with others, either together or separately.
Since we met through the scene we both have the same ideas, so jealousy or ‘in house threats’ don’t come into it. A nod and a wink usually covers a ‘go for it’ attitude
Anyway, sorry for the long ‘speech’, that’s just how it has worked for us | |||
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"I couldnt honest see a relationship develope from here apart from maybe 6months to 2 years if ye are lucky. It is a good site for the purpose of swinging . I just read what a couple wrote about been happy and having kids together after meeting here i think it was but they are early 30somethings its not a site you would want to build a life off, its just abit of fun on here" I disagree completely, I met my ex on a sex site and we were together 13 years, our reasons for finishing were nothing to do with lack of trust or anything remotely related to a site like fab. There are people on fab very keen on a relationship with someone else from the site or similar as they likely have some similar interests, ie sex. I think long term relationships are definitely possible, just like meeting someone in any setting. If people are prone to jealousy, that will appear whether or which. | |||
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"It would be my preferred way to start a relationship now since I don't think I could do a monogamous relationship anymore. But I find alot of guys have a negative impression of a single lady on fab who has, let's say, enjoyed herself on here. " I’d agree Dee, I think if you’ve been on Fab and had fun with people and it fulfils your requirements then going back to being monogamous would be unsatisfying. Any guy who is on Fab looking for fun and then has a negative impression of single females is being a bit of a misogynist. And expects different standards to what he sets himself. Get a grip guys, life is for living. If you stumble upon a woman or man from fab who you want a relationship with then embrace it and give it a go. As the saying goes ‘you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a princess or prince’ | |||
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"Jesus no.....there's some wagons on here....men and women " What’s a wagon B …….i guess it all depends on personal situations and what has come before in ur life. Contrary to popular belief I’m not that confident and even though Im wild and love aspects of the swinging life I would feel stressed with all of the sexual partners I would be comparing myself too with any potential life partner. But that is due to to my relationship history and I wasn’t always like that lol give me a room and a stage and I was on it. Maybe finding a partner here with the same open mind and taking a break to explore each other first would be the thing. And the confidence or lack of won’t last forever I’m sure. Personal choice I guess but it is definitely harder to meet someone who is very vanilla when you aren’t. | |||
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