FabSwingers.com forum: Going on a date date

By *rishguy086 OP Man
over a year ago

Limerick

Ok, so I have a date with a girl off Bumble next week in Kildare.

I was with my ex for practically 6 years and this will technically be my 1st actual date date since we broke up.

You'd swear I was 14 again but I have absolutely zero clue anymore where to take someone on dates when starting out.

Where and what do people even do on 1st dates nowdays?

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By *yche_xWoman
over a year ago

nearby

I'd always suggest something that requires you to talk to eachother. Hate cinema first dates when you don't get a chance to get to know someone.

Dinner, or if your really nervous try something like mini golf followed by something else.

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By *ineapple_PrincessWoman
over a year ago

in the waves

I prefer casual first dates where you can talk easily. So coffee or a drink. Maybe go somewhere nice where you can go for a walk and get a coffee after?

Save dinners and other stuff for subsequent dates, in my opinion.

Good luck

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By *rishguy086 OP Man
over a year ago

Limerick

It's a 5pm date cause she has a small one to put to bed so I thought it might be a bit early for a dinner date myself.

Mini golf is a good shout I must say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pineapple princess would love to take u on a date or even for a coffee and a stroll ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good advice so far just don’t go too a pub where you can’t hear one another

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By *rishguy086 OP Man
over a year ago

Limerick

Agreed, wasn't going to go near a pub, bit too early for that, plus I have to drive back to Limerick after hahah

I was thinking something fun where we can flirt and stuff but wouldn't no Kildare town in the slightest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agreed, wasn't going to go near a pub, bit too early for that, plus I have to drive back to Limerick after hahah

I was thinking something fun where we can flirt and stuff but wouldn't no Kildare town in the slightest "

She probably would just like a quiet coffee and a chat just don’t try to over impress

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was the same after 22 year relationship... I had a few pints first then went to a cocktail bar got levelled.... I drink pints was not ready for cocktails... Arrive SOBER

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By *azzaman1970Man
over a year ago

Belfast

Feel your pain bro, was with ex for 22 years as well and still haven’t had that first date and we been split 3 years now lol not looking forward to it as I think I would be like a dog chasing a car… wouldn’t know what to do if I caught it lol but hay good luck

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

So a coffee in Kildare village...with a lite bite to eat in one of the restaurants or in a nice pub.....good food in Silken Thomas pub

Depending on the day / weather

National stud or Japanese gardens

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By *otownkid1967Man
over a year ago

Portlaoise

Generally a coffee and a chat in a nice spot.

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By *astelloWoman
over a year ago

Far far away

Ah it's so fabulous to hear you're excited and nervous about your date.

Good luck with it, you sound lovely already so I'm sure it will go great.

Ah... I'm hankering for a date date now.... Sad face emoji

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By *rAndMrsRightCouple
over a year ago

newtownabbey

For our first date we went ice skating. Over 4 years later we're still together still mad about each other

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By *rishguy086 OP Man
over a year ago

Limerick

"For our first date we went ice skating. Over 4 years later we're still together still mad about each other

Last time I went ice skating I nearly broke my ankle hahah

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By *rishguy086 OP Man
over a year ago

Limerick

"Ah it's so fabulous to hear you're excited and nervous about your date.

Good luck with it, you sound lovely already so I'm sure it will go great.

Ah... I'm hankering for a date date now.... Sad face emoji "

Is this soft side to me going to ruin any "Fab swinger" rep I have, if any? Lol

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By *rishguy086 OP Man
over a year ago

Limerick

"So a coffee in Kildare village...with a lite bite to eat in one of the restaurants or in a nice pub.....good food in Silken Thomas pub

Depending on the day / weather

National stud or Japanese gardens

Decent ideas them unkow

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By *astelloWoman
over a year ago

Far far away

"Ah it's so fabulous to hear you're excited and nervous about your date.

Good luck with it, you sound lovely already so I'm sure it will go great.

Ah... I'm hankering for a date date now.... Sad face emoji

It's OK, your rep is intact

Is this soft side to me going to ruin any "Fab swinger" rep I have, if any? Lol"

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By *rAndMrsRightCouple
over a year ago

newtownabbey

"For our first date we went ice skating. Over 4 years later we're still together still mad about each other

Last time I went ice skating I nearly broke my ankle hahah"

You can be the slow skater and have a wee perve from behind, you can be an unconfident skater and ask to hold her hand for support... it's an active thing where you can have a conversation, bit of physical touch with mixed in adrenalin - perfect combo

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"Where and what do people even do on 1st dates nowdays?"

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Åfternoon Teå, OP, 'makes for a perfect ¹st date.

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By *rishguy086 OP Man
over a year ago

Limerick

"For our first date we went ice skating. Over 4 years later we're still together still mad about each other

Last time I went ice skating I nearly broke my ankle hahah

Well definitely like the touch part, thats for sure.. and the perv from behind

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

National stud"

Dam right……

Good shout on Kildare village, sit down coffee, or take it to go if the conversation takes a little while to flow, walking around the shops will give great opportunity for different subjects, you can get to know a lot about a person shopping or walking around shops.

Hope it goes well……

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By *inkiepairCouple
over a year ago

dublin

"So a coffee in Kildare village...with a lite bite to eat in one of the restaurants or in a nice pub.....good food in Silken Thomas pub

Depending on the day / weather

National stud or Japanese gardens

Check out kilcullen farm an nature trails again weather depending an obviously what herself may be into you need to take into account, she could hate walking for eg.

Im sure you will land on your feet. Keep it simple light hearted and have a giggle an it wont matter where you are after that.

Njoy

Decent ideas them unkow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just realize it could be her first date in awhile too so ask her where ye should go

If you are the one traveling if it’s on her home ground she’ll know

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By *rishguy086 OP Man
over a year ago

Limerick

"So a coffee in Kildare village...with a lite bite to eat in one of the restaurants or in a nice pub.....good food in Silken Thomas pub

Depending on the day / weather

National stud or Japanese gardens

Check out kilcullen farm an nature trails again weather depending an obviously what herself may be into you need to take into account, she could hate walking for eg.

Im sure you will land on your feet. Keep it simple light hearted and have a giggle an it wont matter where you are after that.

Njoy

Decent ideas them unkow

Who said to check out Kilcullen farm and nature trails? I can't see that suggestion atall

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By *rishguy086 OP Man
over a year ago

Limerick

But good idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well , have you decided that you're ready for dating . I mean are you just doing it for the sake of it, or actually wanting to meet someone with a viewv to a relationship

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By *rishguy086 OP Man
over a year ago

Limerick

"Well , have you decided that you're ready for dating . I mean are you just doing it for the sake of it, or actually wanting to meet someone with a viewv to a relationship "

I'd love a relationship. For me personally, no better feeling in the world than getting a message from your gf or the smile on thier face when they are happy to see you and about 50 other things that make it great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

@_astello
"Ah it's so fabulous to hear you're excited and nervous about your date.

Good luck with it, you sound lovely already so I'm sure it will go great.

Ah... I'm hankering for a date date now.... Sad face emoji "

There is always someone

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By *rish_GuyMan
over a year ago

Foxford

Firstly congratulations.

Try not to be thinking about it to much in your head. Just go with the flow(so to speak), you'll do great.

Your getting good advice from other's on here.

I'd be thinking alone the same lines as meeting in a coffee shop, quite pub, have a drink, chat & go for a walk, somewhere like the Japanese wall garden.

The ice skating is a great idea for them reasons. I'd never have though about any of them thing's happen. Also I'd be afraid to go near ice skating, cause of the fear of ending up A&E in a heap

Once again you'll do great, you've got this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best of luck and enjoy!!

And thank you for this thread as there is many who probably feels the same way

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By *ol_ieMan
over a year ago

Dublin west

Keep it simple for the first meet up and see how you get on.

Every journey has to start with a single step so go with the flow and see how you get on.

If either of you not feeling it during the first meeting then there is no pressure as you are not doing anything too grand.

If its ment to be it will. If it's not it wont..

You just got to roll with it and see what happens.

Good luck and enjoy it.

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By *apncookMan
over a year ago

Somewhere you aren't

We all require the result description from the above advice....

No nosiness here!!

"Ok, so I have a date with a girl off Bumble next week in Kildare.

I was with my ex for practically 6 years and this will technically be my 1st actual date date since we broke up.

You'd swear I was 14 again but I have absolutely zero clue anymore where to take someone on dates when starting out.

Where and what do people even do on 1st dates nowdays?"

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By *rishguy086 OP Man
over a year ago

Limerick

Hahahah I'll let ye know how it all goes.

And thanks for all the advice, I do think a a chill coffee meet and then go for a stroll so we could talk is probably the way to go alright for a 1st meet.

And if might seem off cause I'm on fab and everything and no offence to absolutely everyone on here, but genuinely for me personally, I'd love nothing more than to find a girl that I can have a proper connection with and can be 100% myself around them and they would love me for it...

Sorry for being all soppy lol

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By *efeinMan
over a year ago

cloonfad

"Ok, so I have a date with a girl off Bumble next week in Kildare.

I was with my ex for practically 6 years and this will technically be my 1st actual date date since we broke up.

You'd swear I was 14 again but have absolutely zero clue anymore where to take someone on dates when starting out.

Where and what do people even do on 1st dates nowdays?"
junction 14 monasterevan perfect ..

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By *rishguy086 OP Man
over a year ago

Limerick

"junction 14 monasterevan perfect .."

Forgive my ignorance but what's there to do in Monasterevan?

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By *ind PaddyMan
over a year ago

South County Dublin

There is a new section in Kildare Village, not all shops open. There is a van selling coffee, nice coffee by the way, with a few benches to sit on near by if it is not raining.

Best of luck on your date.

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By *rishguy086 OP Man
over a year ago

Limerick

Cheers, I'll ask what she thinks too and see what she's interested in doing.

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By *rishguy086 OP Man
over a year ago

Limerick

Well finally had that date today..

Met her at Kildare village, walked around for a while and had dinner. Had a great time and she wants to meet again so at least I did something right haha

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By *electableicecreamMan
over a year ago

The West

This was a sweet thread to read. Loads of support and great advice and a happy ending.

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By *rish_GuyMan
over a year ago

Foxford

"Well finally had that date today..

Met her at Kildare village, walked around for a while and had dinner. Had a great time and she wants to meet again so at least I did something right haha"

Glad to hear it happened & went very well for you

Before you know know it, you'll be leaving here,to constraint on ye're relationship.

Once again congratulations,new you could do it.

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"Well finally had that date today..

Met her at Kildare village, walked around for a while and had dinner. Had a great time and she wants to meet again so at least I did something right haha"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The advice is great, fair play OP it's not easy to be vulnerable. Give yourself every opportunity to get to know and allow her to get to know you. Stick to situation that you're comfortable with to start with, coffee and a stroll through a park, lake or around a castle, whatever floats your boat. Keep the chat light and get a feel for a second date that you can be a bit more adventurous on. Lockdown really did a number on some people's chances at dating.

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"Well finally had that date today..

Met her at Kildare village, walked around for a while and had dinner. Had a great time and she wants to meet again so at least I did something right haha"

Congrats

Delighted for ya

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By *rishguy086 OP Man
over a year ago

Limerick

Thanks for all the advice and kind words...

It's like I'm a proper child hahah

Getting back on this dating game at 32 is just mad weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you might be on here as a couple soon so?

only joking. delighted for you.

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"Thanks for all the advice and kind words...

It's like I'm a proper child hahah

Getting back on this dating game at 32 is just mad weird."

Your no a child ... to some of us .. your a hero

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By *rishguy086 OP Man
over a year ago

Limerick

"Thanks for all the advice and kind words...

It's like I'm a proper child hahah

Getting back on this dating game at 32 is just mad weird.

Your no a child ... to some of us .. your a hero

hahah

Well haven't heard from her since Sunday so I'm not hopefull anymore haha

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By *rish_GuyMan
over a year ago

Foxford

"Thanks for all the advice and kind words...

It's like I'm a proper child hahah

Getting back on this dating game at 32 is just mad weird."

Your not to bad. Imagine still dating while in your 40's. Believe me it's not easy at all.

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By *rish_GuyMan
over a year ago

Foxford

"Thanks for all the advice and kind words...

It's like I'm a proper child hahah

Getting back on this dating game at 32 is just mad weird.

Your no a child ... to some of us .. your a hero

hahah

Well haven't heard from her since Sunday so I'm not hopefull anymore haha"

Give it/her more time. It's only Tuesday yet.

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By *rishguy086 OP Man
over a year ago

Limerick

"Thanks for all the advice and kind words...

It's like I'm a proper child hahah

Getting back on this dating game at 32 is just mad weird.

Your no a child ... to some of us .. your a hero

hahah

Well haven't heard from her since Sunday so I'm not hopefull anymore haha

Give it/her more time. It's only Tuesday yet.

Before our date we messaged everyday

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"Thanks for all the advice and kind words...

It's like I'm a proper child hahah

Getting back on this dating game at 32 is just mad weird.

Your no a child ... to some of us .. your a hero

hahah

Well haven't heard from her since Sunday so I'm not hopefull anymore haha

Give it/her more time. It's only Tuesday yet.

Before our date we messaged everyday

Don’t read into that too much, could be lots of reasons…..

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