FabSwingers.com forum: Life gets in the way sometimes

By *og-Man OP Man
over a year ago

somewhere

Sometimes life gets in the way and schedules don't align to allow for a meet

Are you the type to have a meet within a week or two of the first contact.

What's the longest time you've ever had to wait between initial contact to a play meet ....Id imagine Covid caused a few problems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it takes to long I lose interest and move on

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Five weeks would have been somewhat the longest in a while back in January but he was well worth the wait, more recently by the time we meet up it will be 7 weeks but that's more to do with his work and distance but we're going to make a weekend out of it so it will be absolutely worth the wait

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By *og-Man OP Man
over a year ago

somewhere

I saw a status this morning

" if we haven't organised a meet within 5 messages ...its never going to happen...move on "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I saw a status this morning

" if we haven't organised a meet within 5 messages ...its never going to happen...move on "

Well I bet it wasn’t a man that wrote it

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

I like to have a social pretty quickly with someone but if we are taking it further then it can take a bit longer to organise. Life does get in the way and in most cases rightly so. If people don't understand that then I move on

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By *j TruckerMan
over a year ago

monaghan

Life definitely gets in the way and so does work as I'm on the road all the time I don't even know where I'm going to end up so trying to make plans is virtually impossible unfortunately

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

I like to meet within a week or two to save either of us wasting time but I have waited years to meet someone and fuck me it was worth the wait

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By *ister FriskyMan
over a year ago

Dublin 5

The phrase ‘Strike while the iron is hot’ exists for a reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it takes to long I lose interest and move on

Yep, attention span of a goldfish here

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Laura is very spontaneous. I like to take my time

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By *wingme22Man
over a year ago

Galway

"If it takes to long I lose interest and move on

Yep, attention span of a goldfish here"

Really that surprise me....

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By *illow and FionnCouple
over a year ago

Cork

"I like to have a social pretty quickly with someone but if we are taking it further then it can take a bit longer to organise. Life does get in the way and in most cases rightly so. If people don't understand that then I move on"

I agree with this 100%

Life especially with a young family and with ageing parents not to mention work and general life stresses can and does get in the way.

TBH if the person doesn't think we are worth their patience, time and effort then that's a good thing because they normally let that be known fairy quickly and they are exactly the type of people we don't want to meet.

Understanding is very sexy

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Could be weeks, could be months.

All depends on how the conversation goes.

In saying that, I haven't met anyone new in 3 years so there haven't been any conversations like that.

This is a hobby not a lifestyle so real life will always take priority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it takes to long I lose interest and move on

Yep, attention span of a goldfish here

Really that surprise me...."

It's an age thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with this 100%

Life especially with a young family and with ageing parents not to mention work and general life stresses can and does get in the way.

Understanding is very sexy"

I wouldn't say sexy exactly, but it speaks to a bit of maturity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it takes to long I lose interest and move on

Yep, attention span of a goldfish here

Really that surprise me....

It's an age thing "

Dunno how long I've got left so no point dilly dallying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it takes to long I lose interest and move on

Yep, attention span of a goldfish here

Really that surprise me....

It's an age thing

Dunno how long I've got left so no point dilly dallying

That too!

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

It could be anything from weeks to months to years. I’m like a slow cooker just bubbling away happily

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By *og-Man OP Man
over a year ago

somewhere

Isnt Dilly Dallying a great expression all the same

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By *wingme22Man
over a year ago

Galway

"If it takes to long I lose interest and move on

Yep, attention span of a goldfish here

Really that surprise me....

It's an age thing "

Ah fine wine pops into my head when I think of ye....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it takes to long I lose interest and move on

Yep, attention span of a goldfish here

Really that surprise me....

It's an age thing

Ah fine wine pops into my head when I think of ye...."

Sour?

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By *wingme22Man
over a year ago

Galway

"If it takes to long I lose interest and move on

Yep, attention span of a goldfish here

Really that surprise me....

It's an age thing

Dunno how long I've got left so no point dilly dallying

Haha get it done and dusted just in case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it takes to long I lose interest and move on

Yep, attention span of a goldfish here

Really that surprise me....

It's an age thing

Dunno how long I've got left so no point dilly dallying

Haha get it done and dusted just in case"

On the gravestone "should have had that last coffee meet"

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By *og-Man OP Man
over a year ago

somewhere

"If it takes to long I lose interest and move on

Yep, attention span of a goldfish here

Really that surprise me....

It's an age thing

Ah fine wine pops into my head when I think of ye....

Sour?

Since it's your favorite county Id go with Corked

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By *wingme22Man
over a year ago

Galway

"If it takes to long I lose interest and move on

Yep, attention span of a goldfish here

Really that surprise me....

It's an age thing

Ah fine wine pops into my head when I think of ye....

Sour?

Pmsl I think my palette is more refined than yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it takes to long I lose interest and move on

Yep, attention span of a goldfish here

Really that surprise me....

It's an age thing

Ah fine wine pops into my head when I think of ye....

Sour?

Since it's your favorite county Id go with Corked

Read that as Corklad first, said well if must ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it takes to long I lose interest and move on

Yep, attention span of a goldfish here

Really that surprise me....

It's an age thing

Ah fine wine pops into my head when I think of ye....

Sour?

Pmsl I think my palette is more refined than yours "

Wine is overrated in my book - a bit like fab stunning

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By *lue eyesMan
over a year ago

cavan

I'm a spontaneous sort of person so I'd meet after a message or two if it felt right!!

But currently I'm waiting months for a first social meet because of life throwing curve balls all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it takes to long I lose interest and move on

Yep, attention span of a goldfish here

Really that surprise me....

It's an age thing

Ah fine wine pops into my head when I think of ye....

Sour?

Pmsl I think my palette is more refined than yours

Wine is overrated in my book - a bit like fab stunning

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By *wingme22Man
over a year ago

Galway

"If it takes to long I lose interest and move on

Yep, attention span of a goldfish here

Really that surprise me....

It's an age thing

Ah fine wine pops into my head when I think of ye....

Sour?

Pmsl I think my palette is more refined than yours

Wine is overrated in my book - a bit like fab stunning

Ah a bit like fab stunning your just not picking the right ones....

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

It's usually a couple of weeks of chatting before I would meet someone for a social first. I met quickly off here once and it was the worst and scariest meet I've ever had on here so I'll never again meet quickly off here. If someone doesn't want to take the time to chat first it's fine they can move onto someone else.

To meet someone again for sex after a social it's usually just a few days if we could arrange a time and place to suit us both.

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By *adger BrocMan
over a year ago

Co. Cork

Life may put up some barriers but where there's a willingness there is always a way.

Part of the fun is in the anticipation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been fucked after back op and to be honest had no intrest in the hole fab thing ,But back to work now and mad for action,just hard to get back in the saddle again.

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By *amsevenMan
over a year ago

cork

Nothing gets I my way of a meet.. cept my face

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By *ome_wild_girlWoman
over a year ago

Antrim Town

Usually within a month of 1st contact depending on my work schedule but longest so far has been 3 and a half years from 1st contact, met in a chat group, kept teasing each other about meeting, covid happened then life got in the way, but met him last week and wasnt disappointed

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By *og-Man OP Man
over a year ago

somewhere

"Usually within a month of 1st contact depending on my work schedule but longest so far has been 3 and a half years from 1st contact, met in a chat group, kept teasing each other about meeting, covid happened then life got in the way, but met him last week and wasnt disappointed

Love happy endings

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By *ildarekinkstersCouple
over a year ago

kinkytown

For us we like to try do a social as soon as possible and then aim for play within 4 weeks. This year has been hectic with college, work and family along with other things so it means that there is unfortunately a gap of time, but we find most we meet are happy to wait

Dee

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By *ollypop9Woman
over a year ago

wouldn't you like to know

It's very hit and miss with my personal life schedule.

But I always make that known when I start chatting and we agree we'd like to meet for a cuppa.

Another thing is, that after being stood up one to many times, I'm no longer travelling miles for a cuppa.

I combine it with when I'm in that area or travelling through that area for other business anyway. That way its never a wasted journey.

And taking all that into consideration, it could well be that I'm seeing a guy who I'm only chatting with a week, before the guy whom I've been chatting with for 3 weeks. Just pot luck really.

But like I said, I explain that early on, so the guy can take it or leave it.

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By *rish_GuyMan
over a year ago

Foxford

At certain times of the year work life always gets in the way of thing's for me anyways. So it could be week's or month's before I'm able to meet someone. I imply that in my bio.

Can't answer the lenght of time it took to meet someone off here, just yet, anyways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Longest, currently 3 months, shortest 20 minutes.

Getting time that suits us is a nightmare, probably why we enjoy being spontaneous when we have the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few weeks longest and 1hr the shortest

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By *mmmm300Woman
over a year ago

cork

No great rush here, I'll meet when the time is right. If the conversation can keep me engaged, then that's ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few weeks chatting is normal before a social meet for me. Though there are a few guys I have been chatting to for months but between distance and availabity for us both, a meet is difficult to arrange. Hopefully a few will happen.

The longest I have chatted to a guy has been 6 or 7 years on and off. A social meet happened and 3 years later a hotel meet was eventually arranged which was probably one of the most disappointing meets I have had. So what you think you want is not always what you really need!

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