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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What’s happened this site?

Is the site just full of a lot of fantasist's? should it be made to be a paid site, at a higher rate than what it currently is?

We’d a party last night and we were speaking to three single fellas about our party. One had the decency to message two days before but the other two were no shows. If they’d have grown the balls to be there they’d have been met with five very horny, experimental funny girls.

We really don’t get it. Should we only have parties with people we’ve met to make sure they’re actually what and who they say they are?

Would love to name and shame them but for some reason won’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hosted a social and I think 15 single guys got the link for ticket didn't buy one.

On the night 5 no shows and not a word to say why

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So fantasists then? It was so disappointing as the couples and singles ladies were there - just not the extra males to balance out the dynamic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So fantasists then? It was so disappointing as the couples and singles ladies were there - just not the extra males to balance out the dynamic "

Think some like the idea and are all talk but when it comes to attending they just bottle it

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By *azzaman1970Man
over a year ago

Belfast


"So fantasists then? It was so disappointing as the couples and singles ladies were there - just not the extra males to balance out the dynamic

Think some like the idea and are all talk but when it comes to attending they just bottle it"

Just asking the wrong young lads lol it happens with women as well. Organised a 3 some with a lady and she was all over it messaging all day then last minute she just went quiet

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By *ilderMan
over a year ago

dublin

It's not just lads that bottle it and are no shows but to answer your original question op it would be better to have met them in person first or if nothing else have them verified by someone you know and can chat to about them.

Ideally it wouldn't be their first party too. But we do all have to start somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So fantasists then? It was so disappointing as the couples and singles ladies were there - just not the extra males to balance out the dynamic

Think some like the idea and are all talk but when it comes to attending they just bottle it

Just asking the wrong young lads lol it happens with women as well. Organised a 3 some with a lady and she was all over it messaging all day then last minute she just went quiet "

The guys who got the link for my social, asked for the tickets snd weren't young fellas and yes I get that women mess people about too

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

I'm going to be really childish and suggest, maybe the boys are taking back this "control" everyone is on about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm going to be really childish and suggest, maybe the boys are taking back this "control" everyone is on about "

Oh now there's a theory lol

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

City Centre, Dublin

It was Easter ffs, they were prob too busy celebrating our lord rising from the dead to go rock your ladies world

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"It was Easter ffs, they were prob too busy celebrating our lord rising from the dead to go rock your ladies world"

Your lord

I'm voting for the other direction

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"I'm going to be really childish and suggest, maybe the boys are taking back this "control" everyone is on about

Oh now there's a theory lol"

No shmoke witout fir

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

City Centre, Dublin


"It was Easter ffs, they were prob too busy celebrating our lord rising from the dead to go rock your ladies world

Your lord

I'm voting for the other direction "

Voldemort?

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"It was Easter ffs, they were prob too busy celebrating our lord rising from the dead to go rock your ladies world

Your lord

I'm voting for the other direction

Voldemort?"

No ffs

Ozzy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In last 6 months alone over been let down by 3 single girls and 2 couples. No shows and all quiete when it came to day of meet.

It's part of here unfort gonna get timewaters. It ain't just guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was let down this evening it's a nuisance time wise as arrangements have to be made....

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By *oe Cool xxxMan
over a year ago

South Dublin


"What’s happened this site?

Is the site just full of a lot of fantasist's? should it be made to be a paid site, at a higher rate than what it currently is?

We’d a party last night and we were speaking to three single fellas about our party. One had the decency to message two days before but the other two were no shows. If they’d have grown the balls to be there they’d have been met with five very horny, experimental funny girls.

We really don’t get it. Should we only have parties with people we’ve met to make sure they’re actually what and who they say they are?

Would love to name and shame them but for some reason won’t.

"

I’m baffled hearing this , why would ya turn that down ?

Maybe social meet or deposits for party , they’ll show then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the looks of things it was definitely their loss

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

No there shouldn't be any changes to membership fees because that's one of the attractions for many people.

There will always be a risk when you invite random people you've never met before but at the same time there are many people on here who have never experienced a no show.

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By *ex coupleCouple
over a year ago

wexford


"What’s happened this site?

Is the site just full of a lot of fantasist's? should it be made to be a paid site, at a higher rate than what it currently is?

We’d a party last night and we were speaking to three single fellas about our party. One had the decency to message two days before but the other two were no shows. If they’d have grown the balls to be there they’d have been met with five very horny, experimental funny girls.

We really don’t get it. Should we only have parties with people we’ve met to make sure they’re actually what and who they say they are?

Would love to name and shame them but for some reason won’t.

"

All talk no action , we enjoy cuckolding and when we put on our status that we are looking for young bull we are inundated with texts, as the meet date cums closer they dwindle away and usually no show , so frustrating

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By *andytownMan
over a year ago

Gods Own Country


"What’s happened this site?

Is the site just full of a lot of fantasist's? should it be made to be a paid site, at a higher rate than what it currently is?

We’d a party last night and we were speaking to three single fellas about our party. One had the decency to message two days before but the other two were no shows. If they’d have grown the balls to be there they’d have been met with five very horny, experimental funny girls.

We really don’t get it. Should we only have parties with people we’ve met to make sure they’re actually what and who they say they are?

Would love to name and shame them but for some reason won’t.

"

Not sure how raising the price would make a jot of difference bar making sure we are all out of pocket when times are tight enough.

Sorry to hear of the no show but that's Fab life I guess, not just the single men as we have all experience of ladies suddenly "ghosting" when meets are arranged.

Hoping this experience didn't hinder your nights enjoyment, but it's good I suppose to be able to vent and get it off your chest..... Onwards and upwards

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area


"I hosted a social and I think 15 single guys got the link for ticket didn't buy one.

On the night 5 no shows and not a word to say why "

And yet you have the delusional loons on here saying that most of the single guys on here are reliable

The majority on here are an absolute disaster. Any event organizer will tell you that. Outside the core group of well known, respectful lads the rest are wasters

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

As mentioned above, you should meet them in advance for a social.

Most posts complaining of no shows don't seem to do this.

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By *otfun100Man
over a year ago

coleraine

There’s time wasters on both sides unfortunately and that gives everyone a bad name. I’ve a feeling I’m gonna be let down today. Arranged with a girl to meet and now no response

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By *rishOak12Man
over a year ago

D

There is time wasters all over the place as I seen on someone’s message before mine , there is a selective few that are reliable

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"No there shouldn't be any changes to membership fees because that's one of the attractions for many people.

There will always be a risk when you invite random people you've never met before but at the same time there are many people on here who have never experienced a no show.

"

Exactly! Social first, you'll get a better indication. Not a guarantee either but you'll see if they show for a social and then you can pick up on vibes for more...

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By *ildarekinkstersCouple
over a year ago

kinkytown

Mad how people feel the need to insult others because their opinions and experiences don't match their own.

Single guys, couples and single women will all no show at some stage. Vetting and social will alleviate and tell you the spoofers from the real deal. Can count on one hand how many have no showed with us and that's with a combined 20years swinging.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

The key is building rapport and connection beforehand. Never had a noshow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The key is building rapport and connection beforehand. Never had a noshow"

Fair play,

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Avoiding nervous/guilty/unreliable married people playing away helps I think too

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I'd say most like the idea and see themselves in their fantasy outperforming everyone, but when it comes to reality it can be rather daunting.

I think in order to avoid disappointment, ideally you should fab vet them (social or played with before) and/or have experience in a similar setting.

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By *r_Insatiable666Man
over a year ago

Cork

Not only will I show up, I also put on quite a show

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By *on Draper2.0Man
over a year ago

Maynooth

Maybe they are just married and won't be honest about it. Real life then stops them attending. They shouldn't get into the pool if they can't swim though. So many others out there who would love the chance for a doggie paddle.

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"Not only will I show up, I also put on quite a show "

In all honesty, posts like this don't encourage the nervous or new id rekon ... now nervous or new dosnt excuse the "ghoasting" bullshit either

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By *onderingpurposeMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Just turn up when you say you will.

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By *aterpillar69Man
over a year ago

newry

I'd love the chance to get a meet I'd show up for sure I'm really not having much luck on here at all

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area


"Maybe they are just married and won't be honest about it. Real life then stops them attending. They shouldn't get into the pool if they can't swim though. So many others out there who would love the chance for a doggie paddle."

Most of them are attached. It's generally easy to spot them. They post on the forum a lot and dont have recent verifications or if any....

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By *aterpillar69Man
over a year ago

newry

If no one will meet it not possible to get verifications

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By *ikewantstoplayMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"If no one will meet it not possible to get verifications "

Think outside the box, you’re in control ( there’s a thread on that )

Sell yourself ( there’s a thread on that also )

Don’t filter your pictures ( you guessed it there’s also a thread on that )

Get tips for arranging meets ( see above )

The forum has all the answers

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Varying answers here and all opinions are just that, opinions.

As for the socials. There wouldn’t be enough time to meet everyone, life goes on. We’ve had no shows from men just without the party, or last minute cancellations. The amount of sick family members must be a strain on the health service.

Happy swinging all.

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By *rAndMrsRightCouple
over a year ago

newtownabbey

From personal experience- when we organise large socials, we have 99% attendance from single men.

When we organise small socials (at ladies lunches guys are allowed to join the craic in the evening) - almost zero ever turn up.

When we arrange to meet single guys for a drink - I could count on my fingers how many turned up after I made it very clear that a drink means a drink and its not some code name for a bj in the toilets.

After a really bad (rapey) experience I categorically refuse to promise anyone any kind of sex.

If the vibe is right - we are both open to take things further. Do we need to put that expectation into someone's head? Nope.

Missus

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By *iImBrunoMan
over a year ago

midlands


"I hosted a social and I think 15 single guys got the link for ticket didn't buy one.

On the night 5 no shows and not a word to say why "

Did my invite get lost? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know it can be a daunting experience for single males to show up and perform in front of strangers, of course they will agree to meeting as it sounds great to go ballsdeep in someones wife but when the time comes they might feel different the horn has disappeared anyway people are under no obligation to meet anyone here even if they say they will and not show up, you shouldn't be upset this is no strings move on find someone else

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By *pacekittyWoman
over a year ago

dublin

Ah that’s shit to hear

Also happened to us before. Can’t believe it’s the same story again.

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By *angero3aMan
over a year ago

swords

yes not always single guy who not show

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"You know it can be a daunting experience for single males to show up and perform in front of strangers, of course they will agree to meeting as it sounds great to go ballsdeep in someones wife but when the time comes they might feel different the horn has disappeared anyway people are under no obligation to meet anyone here even if they say they will and not show up, you shouldn't be upset this is no strings move on find someone else "

And that there is part of the problem - the fact that (some) men seem to think they have to "perform".

From what I understand, the OP had a party. Generally a party isn't about performance but about having fun - if that involves play, then still nobody should feel that they need to "perform" like a circus monkey when having sex.

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By *rishguy086Man
over a year ago

Limerick

I never get why lads wouldn't show up meeting couples... Even if you were nervous about the whole situation, worse comes to worse you have a conversation with 2 people for a bit and then head home, no harm done...

I've had it before where I was very nervous before hand and met anyway and ended up having a fantastic night

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By *ancy38Woman
over a year ago

galway

I've had some no shows. Very disheartening because I rarely get time to play. Getting ready for a night out then no answer or late msg saying can't make it does put a sour taste in ones mouth.

Admittedly I was a no show myself once. It wasn't so much a no show but I was in company with other friends and was supposed to meet up with a single guy at a certain time that night. I kept changing the time because I was really enjoying myself and was hoping my meet would wait. It got too late and he msgs saying he now can't meet now. I will never do this again thou because I felt awful after it. All that excitement for him only for me to ruin his night by changing the time through the night. He did accept my apologies and understands, although never again will I let anyone down on here. We live and learn from our mistakes.

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

It nots difficult to find reliable single guys. Might require a small bit of and effort, but that isn't difficult.

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By *rish_GuyMan
over a year ago

Foxford

That's shit.

It's no wonder that single guy's get/have a bad name.

Can't see how raising the price for here, will help out in the long run.

A meetup seem's to be the only way to really sus a person out, 1 way or the other.

If the host can't do it, maybe other goers can do it for them?

Easier said than done I know.

Hopefully ye all had a great night. It was there loss BIG time.

I though I was going to meetup with a couple. As time past & getting nearer to the finalise meeting time, etc. They stopped messaging me. It wasn't nice at the time. It was they're loss, at the end of the day.

I personally would only say yes to a part, social, event's, if I was 100%sure that I'd be able to attend. That'll be why it'll be at certain times of the year I'll be saying yes to them, along with what day, evening, night it's on aswell.

Ya, a meetup to be verified, is hard enough to get alright. As good as the forum & thread's are, it still takes a person/couple to put the hand out to meetup & verify the other person/couple. In a lot of cases if the person is a single guy.

Not everybody have the confidence or believe in themselves to sell themselves, so to speak. Despite with forum's & threads about it.

If you have that idea in your head, that your going to be balls deep inside someone's wife or a lady at the party, social. That could do your headin as you could be over thinking it. That can go for women thinking about husbands & single guy's aswell, I'm sure. You'd be better to have a mind set of let's see how it goes.

I'm sure the people would rodder you showed up in the first place, even if it just turned out to for a few drinks & a chat.

Hopefully this hasn't put you & other's off inviting or meeting single guy's in the future.

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"Maybe they are just married and won't be honest about it. Real life then stops them attending. They shouldn't get into the pool if they can't swim though. So many others out there who would love the chance for a doggie paddle.

Most of them are attached. It's generally easy to spot them. They post on the forum a lot and dont have recent verifications or if any.... "

Thats your criteria to know if someone is attached and lying about it ?

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"You know it can be a daunting experience for single males to show up and perform in front of strangers, of course they will agree to meeting as it sounds great to go ballsdeep in someones wife but when the time comes they might feel different the horn has disappeared anyway people are under no obligation to meet anyone here even if they say they will and not show up, you shouldn't be upset this is no strings move on find someone else "

Actually no-shows are against fab rules

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By *hysoserious2012Man
over a year ago

meath louth border

Don't paint us all with the one brush lol always showed or gave loads of notice. It's hard enough getting to meet genuine people

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By *adHatMan
over a year ago

Dublin

So wait, there were guys who managed to get the invitation to a proper party and did not show up?

Apart from: RUDE,

here I am, unable to get even an invitation for a social to get verified :/

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By *rish_GuyMan
over a year ago

Foxford


"So wait, there were guys who managed to get the invitation to a proper party and did not show up?

Apart from: RUDE,

here I am, unable to get even an invitation for a social to get verified :/ "

Exactly, I'm the same as that meself aswell.

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By *rish_GuyMan
over a year ago

Foxford


"I've had some no shows. Very disheartening because I rarely get time to play. Getting ready for a night out then no answer or late msg saying can't make it does put a sour taste in ones mouth.

Admittedly I was a no show myself once. It wasn't so much a no show but I was in company with other friends and was supposed to meet up with a single guy at a certain time that night. I kept changing the time because I was really enjoying myself and was hoping my meet would wait. It got too late and he msgs saying he now can't meet now. I will never do this again thou because I felt awful after it. All that excitement for him only for me to ruin his night by changing the time through the night. He did accept my apologies and understands, although never again will I let anyone down on here. We live and learn from our mistakes. "

What would have happened, if the shoe was on the other foot in that case?

Would you give him another chance?

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By *umon337Man
over a year ago

Offaly

That's not good at all. I hope you don't judge all the single lads by those few eejits tho OP, because sometimes a cancellation can't be avoided. But, at the very least, they should have the manners to text and apologise.

I've had similar experiences with women where a date has been tentatively arranged, and suddenly their profile disappears or they block me a few days beforehand or on the day.

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By *am74Man
over a year ago

inbetween north west ,sligo ,galway

I wouldn't complain you probably ended up with all five to yourselves.

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By *upermanslovechildMan
over a year ago

Glasnevin


"What’s happened this site?

Is the site just full of a lot of fantasist's? should it be made to be a paid site, at a higher rate than what it currently is?

We’d a party last night and we were speaking to three single fellas about our party. One had the decency to message two days before but the other two were no shows. If they’d have grown the balls to be there they’d have been met with five very horny, experimental funny girls.

We really don’t get it. Should we only have parties with people we’ve met to make sure they’re actually what and who they say they are?

Would love to name and shame them but for some reason won’t.

"

No shows happen with everyone, I've been no showed by couples as well as single women before, chatting away on the day up until an hour before the agreed meet up time and radio silence then.

So glad lads just happen to do it more because it's a numbers game 1000 lads for every couples/single woman on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know it can be a daunting experience for single males to show up and perform in front of strangers, of course they will agree to meeting as it sounds great to go ballsdeep in someones wife but when the time comes they might feel different the horn has disappeared anyway people are under no obligation to meet anyone here even if they say they will and not show up, you shouldn't be upset this is no strings move on find someone else

And that there is part of the problem - the fact that (some) men seem to think they have to "perform".

From what I understand, the OP had a party. Generally a party isn't about performance but about having fun - if that involves play, then still nobody should feel that they need to "perform" like a circus monkey when having sex."

Of course they have to perform.. Do you know what site you're on?

So I arrive at a so called even there are 10 men there and 5 women all 10 of us sit back and say hey I don't feel like sex today I just came here to talk, what kind of reception do you think they would get?

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Nobody has to perform. It's fine to go to a party and decide you're not in the mood or there is noone there you fancy, and having a chat and a drink and going home. I've been to loads of play events and hosted quite a few and I can count on 1 hand the number of times I've actually had sex. I much prefer more personal meets.

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"You know it can be a daunting experience for single males to show up and perform in front of strangers, of course they will agree to meeting as it sounds great to go ballsdeep in someones wife but when the time comes they might feel different the horn has disappeared anyway people are under no obligation to meet anyone here even if they say they will and not show up, you shouldn't be upset this is no strings move on find someone else

And that there is part of the problem - the fact that (some) men seem to think they have to "perform".

From what I understand, the OP had a party. Generally a party isn't about performance but about having fun - if that involves play, then still nobody should feel that they need to "perform" like a circus monkey when having sex.

Of course they have to perform.. Do you know what site you're on?

So I arrive at a so called even there are 10 men there and 5 women all 10 of us sit back and say hey I don't feel like sex today I just came here to talk, what kind of reception do you think they would get? "

So anyone who agrees to meet with you should know in advance that performing is a requirement, a have too even ?

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By *rAndMrsRightCouple
over a year ago

newtownabbey


"You know it can be a daunting experience for single males to show up and perform in front of strangers, of course they will agree to meeting as it sounds great to go ballsdeep in someones wife but when the time comes they might feel different the horn has disappeared anyway people are under no obligation to meet anyone here even if they say they will and not show up, you shouldn't be upset this is no strings move on find someone else

And that there is part of the problem - the fact that (some) men seem to think they have to "perform".

From what I understand, the OP had a party. Generally a party isn't about performance but about having fun - if that involves play, then still nobody should feel that they need to "perform" like a circus monkey when having sex.

Of course they have to perform.. Do you know what site you're on?

So I arrive at a so called even there are 10 men there and 5 women all 10 of us sit back and say hey I don't feel like sex today I just came here to talk, what kind of reception do you think they would get? "

Attitudes like this is one of the reasons why I refuse to attend play parties.

How many men go to them with the "I'm going have sex tonight whatever it takes" attitude...

Missus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know it can be a daunting experience for single males to show up and perform in front of strangers, of course they will agree to meeting as it sounds great to go ballsdeep in someones wife but when the time comes they might feel different the horn has disappeared anyway people are under no obligation to meet anyone here even if they say they will and not show up, you shouldn't be upset this is no strings move on find someone else

And that there is part of the problem - the fact that (some) men seem to think they have to "perform".

From what I understand, the OP had a party. Generally a party isn't about performance but about having fun - if that involves play, then still nobody should feel that they need to "perform" like a circus monkey when having sex.

Of course they have to perform.. Do you know what site you're on?

So I arrive at a so called even there are 10 men there and 5 women all 10 of us sit back and say hey I don't feel like sex today I just came here to talk, what kind of reception do you think they would get?

So anyone who agrees to meet with you should know in advance that performing is a requirement, a have too even ? "

Ah there you are me aul flower, nobody has to do anything they don't want too however by implication attending a so called swinging event would mean you are down to have sex to put it bluntly or why else would you go? You can socialise in any pub or setting, why go to 1 of these events and not partake, if you did that you wouldn't be invited to the next 1 as you didn't perform as a single male so there is pressure for men to perform that's the point I'm making and for many that pressure is something they don't like hence no shows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know it can be a daunting experience for single males to show up and perform in front of strangers, of course they will agree to meeting as it sounds great to go ballsdeep in someones wife but when the time comes they might feel different the horn has disappeared anyway people are under no obligation to meet anyone here even if they say they will and not show up, you shouldn't be upset this is no strings move on find someone else

And that there is part of the problem - the fact that (some) men seem to think they have to "perform".

From what I understand, the OP had a party. Generally a party isn't about performance but about having fun - if that involves play, then still nobody should feel that they need to "perform" like a circus monkey when having sex.

Of course they have to perform.. Do you know what site you're on?

So I arrive at a so called even there are 10 men there and 5 women all 10 of us sit back and say hey I don't feel like sex today I just came here to talk, what kind of reception do you think they would get?

Attitudes like this is one of the reasons why I refuse to attend play parties.

How many men go to them with the "I'm going have sex tonight whatever it takes" attitude...

Missus "

I think you misunderstood what I said

Me

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"You know it can be a daunting experience for single males to show up and perform in front of strangers, of course they will agree to meeting as it sounds great to go ballsdeep in someones wife but when the time comes they might feel different the horn has disappeared anyway people are under no obligation to meet anyone here even if they say they will and not show up, you shouldn't be upset this is no strings move on find someone else

And that there is part of the problem - the fact that (some) men seem to think they have to "perform".

From what I understand, the OP had a party. Generally a party isn't about performance but about having fun - if that involves play, then still nobody should feel that they need to "perform" like a circus monkey when having sex.

Of course they have to perform.. Do you know what site you're on?

So I arrive at a so called even there are 10 men there and 5 women all 10 of us sit back and say hey I don't feel like sex today I just came here to talk, what kind of reception do you think they would get?

So anyone who agrees to meet with you should know in advance that performing is a requirement, a have too even ?

Ah there you are me aul flower, nobody has to do anything they don't want too however by implication attending a so called swinging event would mean you are down to have sex to put it bluntly or why else would you go? You can socialise in any pub or setting, why go to 1 of these events and not partake, if you did that you wouldn't be invited to the next 1 as you didn't perform as a single male so there is pressure for men to perform that's the point I'm making and for many that pressure is something they don't like hence no shows "

I didn't perform when I went and I was asked back again.

A couple who were also at their first event didn't perform and just had some food and drink.

Apart from me there were 4 other men there and 2 of them didn't perform either and were invited back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know it can be a daunting experience for single males to show up and perform in front of strangers, of course they will agree to meeting as it sounds great to go ballsdeep in someones wife but when the time comes they might feel different the horn has disappeared anyway people are under no obligation to meet anyone here even if they say they will and not show up, you shouldn't be upset this is no strings move on find someone else

And that there is part of the problem - the fact that (some) men seem to think they have to "perform".

From what I understand, the OP had a party. Generally a party isn't about performance but about having fun - if that involves play, then still nobody should feel that they need to "perform" like a circus monkey when having sex.

Of course they have to perform.. Do you know what site you're on?

So I arrive at a so called even there are 10 men there and 5 women all 10 of us sit back and say hey I don't feel like sex today I just came here to talk, what kind of reception do you think they would get?

So anyone who agrees to meet with you should know in advance that performing is a requirement, a have too even ?

Ah there you are me aul flower, nobody has to do anything they don't want too however by implication attending a so called swinging event would mean you are down to have sex to put it bluntly or why else would you go? You can socialise in any pub or setting, why go to 1 of these events and not partake, if you did that you wouldn't be invited to the next 1 as you didn't perform as a single male so there is pressure for men to perform that's the point I'm making and for many that pressure is something they don't like hence no shows

I didn't perform when I went and I was asked back again.

A couple who were also at their first event didn't perform and just had some food and drink.

Apart from me there were 4 other men there and 2 of them didn't perform either and were invited back."

That's the wonder of life, we all have different experiences

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I'm fairly certain that "five horny, experimental women" were expecting the men they invited over to perform. The idea that they weren't is fairly comical tbh.

I certainly don't think the men were invited over to make animal balloons to keep them satisfied.

That doesn't justify them not showing up though. They knew what they were getting themselves into and bottled it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve kinda stopped wasting my time with messaging back single males here. I now choose to meet them at socials. Saves me a lot of time filtering out who’s serious about meeting and who’s just here cause they are horned up at that moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm fairly certain that "five horny, experimental women" were expecting the men they invited over to perform. The idea that they weren't is fairly comical tbh.

I certainly don't think the men were invited over to make animal balloons to keep them satisfied.

That doesn't justify them not showing up though. They knew what they were getting themselves into and bottled it. "

For the record I've never been to a swinging event it's not my style I like 1 on 1 meets or couples even and I've never let anyone down but have been let down myself

Men are expected to be horny all the time and to never refuse sex and when they do say no like not showing up they are branded the worst in the world for it

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"I’ve kinda stopped wasting my time with messaging back single males here. I now choose to meet them at socials. Saves me a lot of time filtering out who’s serious about meeting and who’s just here cause they are horned up at that moment

"

Exactly why we prefer to meet people at socials

See you tomorrow night PB xxx

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"You know it can be a daunting experience for single males to show up and perform in front of strangers, of course they will agree to meeting as it sounds great to go ballsdeep in someones wife but when the time comes they might feel different the horn has disappeared anyway people are under no obligation to meet anyone here even if they say they will and not show up, you shouldn't be upset this is no strings move on find someone else

And that there is part of the problem - the fact that (some) men seem to think they have to "perform".

From what I understand, the OP had a party. Generally a party isn't about performance but about having fun - if that involves play, then still nobody should feel that they need to "perform" like a circus monkey when having sex.

Of course they have to perform.. Do you know what site you're on?

So I arrive at a so called even there are 10 men there and 5 women all 10 of us sit back and say hey I don't feel like sex today I just came here to talk, what kind of reception do you think they would get?

Attitudes like this is one of the reasons why I refuse to attend play parties.

How many men go to them with the "I'm going have sex tonight whatever it takes" attitude...

Missus "

I would hope very few

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"You know it can be a daunting experience for single males to show up and perform in front of strangers, of course they will agree to meeting as it sounds great to go ballsdeep in someones wife but when the time comes they might feel different the horn has disappeared anyway people are under no obligation to meet anyone here even if they say they will and not show up, you shouldn't be upset this is no strings move on find someone else

And that there is part of the problem - the fact that (some) men seem to think they have to "perform".

From what I understand, the OP had a party. Generally a party isn't about performance but about having fun - if that involves play, then still nobody should feel that they need to "perform" like a circus monkey when having sex.

Of course they have to perform.. Do you know what site you're on?

So I arrive at a so called even there are 10 men there and 5 women all 10 of us sit back and say hey I don't feel like sex today I just came here to talk, what kind of reception do you think they would get?

So anyone who agrees to meet with you should know in advance that performing is a requirement, a have too even ?

Ah there you are me aul flower, nobody has to do anything they don't want too however by implication attending a so called swinging event would mean you are down to have sex to put it bluntly or why else would you go? You can socialise in any pub or setting, why go to 1 of these events and not partake, if you did that you wouldn't be invited to the next 1 as you didn't perform as a single male so there is pressure for men to perform that's the point I'm making and for many that pressure is something they don't like hence no shows "
I'm guessing from that reply you have never actually been to any of these events?.

Holy s*** . Thank God most people don't think like you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve kinda stopped wasting my time with messaging back single males here. I now choose to meet them at socials. Saves me a lot of time filtering out who’s serious about meeting and who’s just here cause they are horned up at that moment

Exactly why we prefer to meet people at socials

See you tomorrow night PB xxx"

So excited see ye two fine things

Tomorrow xxx

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"You know it can be a daunting experience for single males to show up and perform in front of strangers, of course they will agree to meeting as it sounds great to go ballsdeep in someones wife but when the time comes they might feel different the horn has disappeared anyway people are under no obligation to meet anyone here even if they say they will and not show up, you shouldn't be upset this is no strings move on find someone else

And that there is part of the problem - the fact that (some) men seem to think they have to "perform".

From what I understand, the OP had a party. Generally a party isn't about performance but about having fun - if that involves play, then still nobody should feel that they need to "perform" like a circus monkey when having sex.

Of course they have to perform.. Do you know what site you're on?

So I arrive at a so called even there are 10 men there and 5 women all 10 of us sit back and say hey I don't feel like sex today I just came here to talk, what kind of reception do you think they would get?

So anyone who agrees to meet with you should know in advance that performing is a requirement, a have too even ?

Ah there you are me aul flower, nobody has to do anything they don't want too however by implication attending a so called swinging event would mean you are down to have sex to put it bluntly or why else would you go? You can socialise in any pub or setting, why go to 1 of these events and not partake, if you did that you wouldn't be invited to the next 1 as you didn't perform as a single male so there is pressure for men to perform that's the point I'm making and for many that pressure is something they don't like hence no shows

I didn't perform when I went and I was asked back again.

A couple who were also at their first event didn't perform and just had some food and drink.

Apart from me there were 4 other men there and 2 of them didn't perform either and were invited back.

That's the wonder of life, we all have different experiences"

Sounds like you had a pretty s***** controlling experience, Hosted by people who only want to f*** y** at a party. Because of this you believe this is the correct behavior and this is how all swinging events go.thats sad

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"I'm fairly certain that "five horny, experimental women" were expecting the men they invited over to perform. The idea that they weren't is fairly comical tbh.

I certainly don't think the men were invited over to make animal balloons to keep them satisfied.

That doesn't justify them not showing up though. They knew what they were getting themselves into and bottled it. "

I would argue it's far more likely that all the females warned at all that shallow and probably had the expectation of some fun and flirts and see where it goes. Any opinions on your expectations females?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know it can be a daunting experience for single males to show up and perform in front of strangers, of course they will agree to meeting as it sounds great to go ballsdeep in someones wife but when the time comes they might feel different the horn has disappeared anyway people are under no obligation to meet anyone here even if they say they will and not show up, you shouldn't be upset this is no strings move on find someone else

And that there is part of the problem - the fact that (some) men seem to think they have to "perform".

From what I understand, the OP had a party. Generally a party isn't about performance but about having fun - if that involves play, then still nobody should feel that they need to "perform" like a circus monkey when having sex.

Of course they have to perform.. Do you know what site you're on?

So I arrive at a so called even there are 10 men there and 5 women all 10 of us sit back and say hey I don't feel like sex today I just came here to talk, what kind of reception do you think they would get?

So anyone who agrees to meet with you should know in advance that performing is a requirement, a have too even ?

Ah there you are me aul flower, nobody has to do anything they don't want too however by implication attending a so called swinging event would mean you are down to have sex to put it bluntly or why else would you go? You can socialise in any pub or setting, why go to 1 of these events and not partake, if you did that you wouldn't be invited to the next 1 as you didn't perform as a single male so there is pressure for men to perform that's the point I'm making and for many that pressure is something they don't like hence no shows

I didn't perform when I went and I was asked back again.

A couple who were also at their first event didn't perform and just had some food and drink.

Apart from me there were 4 other men there and 2 of them didn't perform either and were invited back.

That's the wonder of life, we all have different experiences

Sounds like you had a pretty s***** controlling experience, Hosted by people who only want to f*** y** at a party. Because of this you believe this is the correct behavior and this is how all swinging events go.thats sad"

Take a break me aul flower

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"I'm fairly certain that "five horny, experimental women" were expecting the men they invited over to perform. The idea that they weren't is fairly comical tbh.

I certainly don't think the men were invited over to make animal balloons to keep them satisfied.

That doesn't justify them not showing up though. They knew what they were getting themselves into and bottled it.

For the record I've never been to a swinging event it's not my style I like 1 on 1 meets or couples even and I've never let anyone down but have been let down myself

Men are expected to be horny all the time and to never refuse sex and when they do say no like not showing up they are branded the worst in the world for it"

If that is all the people that you surround yourself with expect u as a man ...get some new peopke

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"I'm fairly certain that "five horny, experimental women" were expecting the men they invited over to perform. The idea that they weren't is fairly comical tbh.

I certainly don't think the men were invited over to make animal balloons to keep them satisfied.

That doesn't justify them not showing up though. They knew what they were getting themselves into and bottled it.

For the record I've never been to a swinging event it's not my style I like 1 on 1 meets or couples even and I've never let anyone down but have been let down myself

Men are expected to be horny all the time and to never refuse sex and when they do say no like not showing up they are branded the worst in the world for it"

If that is all the people that you surround yourself with expect u as a man ...get some new peopke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm fairly certain that "five horny, experimental women" were expecting the men they invited over to perform. The idea that they weren't is fairly comical tbh.

I certainly don't think the men were invited over to make animal balloons to keep them satisfied.

That doesn't justify them not showing up though. They knew what they were getting themselves into and bottled it.

For the record I've never been to a swinging event it's not my style I like 1 on 1 meets or couples even and I've never let anyone down but have been let down myself

Men are expected to be horny all the time and to never refuse sex and when they do say no like not showing up they are branded the worst in the world for it

If that is all the people that you surround yourself with expect u as a man ...get some new peopke"

Look at the hot pics loads of boobies there wow

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"You know it can be a daunting experience for single males to show up and perform in front of strangers, of course they will agree to meeting as it sounds great to go ballsdeep in someones wife but when the time comes they might feel different the horn has disappeared anyway people are under no obligation to meet anyone here even if they say they will and not show up, you shouldn't be upset this is no strings move on find someone else

And that there is part of the problem - the fact that (some) men seem to think they have to "perform".

From what I understand, the OP had a party. Generally a party isn't about performance but about having fun - if that involves play, then still nobody should feel that they need to "perform" like a circus monkey when having sex.

Of course they have to perform.. Do you know what site you're on?

So I arrive at a so called even there are 10 men there and 5 women all 10 of us sit back and say hey I don't feel like sex today I just came here to talk, what kind of reception do you think they would get?

So anyone who agrees to meet with you should know in advance that performing is a requirement, a have too even ?

Ah there you are me aul flower, nobody has to do anything they don't want too however by implication attending a so called swinging event would mean you are down to have sex to put it bluntly or why else would you go? You can socialise in any pub or setting, why go to 1 of these events and not partake, if you did that you wouldn't be invited to the next 1 as you didn't perform as a single male so there is pressure for men to perform that's the point I'm making and for many that pressure is something they don't like hence no shows

I didn't perform when I went and I was asked back again.

A couple who were also at their first event didn't perform and just had some food and drink.

Apart from me there were 4 other men there and 2 of them didn't perform either and were invited back.

That's the wonder of life, we all have different experiences

Sounds like you had a pretty s***** controlling experience, Hosted by people who only want to f*** y** at a party. Because of this you believe this is the correct behavior and this is how all swinging events go.thats sad

Take a break me aul flower "

Whats wrong has the chain on your back peddling bike snapped

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"I'm fairly certain that "five horny, experimental women" were expecting the men they invited over to perform. The idea that they weren't is fairly comical tbh.

I certainly don't think the men were invited over to make animal balloons to keep them satisfied.

That doesn't justify them not showing up though. They knew what they were getting themselves into and bottled it.

For the record I've never been to a swinging event it's not my style I like 1 on 1 meets or couples even and I've never let anyone down but have been let down myself

Men are expected to be horny all the time and to never refuse sex and when they do say no like not showing up they are branded the worst in the world for it"

But they didn't say no, they just didn't show up. Lying is generally considered a fairly negative trait, so men who lie shouldn't be surprised if they get treated negatively for it. The same goes for women who lie as well.

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By *nribanMan
over a year ago

Sligo

I'm a single male now, after 20yrs.

I was also a no-show for my first social!

I did tell the organiser in advance, but having young kids can provide an obstacle to attending if something crops up.

That said, I'm determined to be better organised in future. I'm also generally quiet and shy on first meets, but if I get a nice vibe the ice will break easy.

I guess some people bottle it when it comes to first meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a good friend once told me "the problem with single men on fab...they arent single".

Mrs S

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area


"As a good friend once told me "the problem with single men on fab...they arent single".

Mrs S

"

Nailed it Mrs S

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By *nribanMan
over a year ago

Sligo


"As a good friend once told me "the problem with single men on fab...they arent single".

Mrs S

"

That's understandable.

What would someone have to do (like me) to prove they are single?

Bring divorce papers to a meet?

Seems reasonable.

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"As a good friend once told me "the problem with single men on fab...they arent single".

Mrs S

That's understandable.

What would someone have to do (like me) to prove they are single?

Bring divorce papers to a meet?

Seems reasonable."

Ya .... how do you meet the acceptable standard of believably single?

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By *ick dundee1000Man
over a year ago

Town

Unbelievable that amount of no shows didn't think it was that bad. Why bother going to the trouble of making plans and not showing or messin up other people plans.

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over a year ago

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By *ikewantstoplayMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"As a good friend once told me "the problem with single men on fab...they arent single".

Mrs S

"

Couldn’t have said it better myself

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By *nribanMan
over a year ago

Sligo


"As a good friend once told me "the problem with single men on fab...they arent single".

Mrs S

That's understandable.

What would someone have to do (like me) to prove they are single?

Bring divorce papers to a meet?

Seems reasonable.

Ya .... how do you meet the acceptable standard of believably single? "

Lol! I was being daft. All the same, how do you prove it? Considering, I would imagine, a lot of meets/socials are discreet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a good friend once told me "the problem with single men on fab...they arent single".

Mrs S

That's understandable.

What would someone have to do (like me) to prove they are single?

Bring divorce papers to a meet?

Seems reasonable."

Once they not willing to sit in a coffee shop and have a coffee with ya usually confirms their attached

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By *ildkildsreMan
over a year ago

athy

Maybe the verifications should be changed to a review sort of system, as it is verifications only show those who have met, chatted on cam etc and are happy with the experience. But if it was setup as a review system it could still show those who have had good experiences but also those with negative experiences, but there are downsides to it, disgruntled people could post negative reviews because they were annoyed by being turned down by someone

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By *nribanMan
over a year ago

Sligo


"As a good friend once told me "the problem with single men on fab...they arent single".

Mrs S

That's understandable.

What would someone have to do (like me) to prove they are single?

Bring divorce papers to a meet?

Seems reasonable.

Once they not willing to sit in a coffee shop and have a coffee with ya usually confirms their attached"

That should pretty much do it!

Erm...just thinking, anyone fancy a coffee some evening?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe the verifications should be changed to a review sort of system, as it is verifications only show those who have met, chatted on cam etc and are happy with the experience. But if it was setup as a review system it could still show those who have had good experiences but also those with negative experiences, but there are downsides to it, disgruntled people could post negative reviews because they were annoyed by being turned down by someone "

That will never work, I've met people who had great veris and walked away wondering wtaf and thinking something wrong with me.

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By *nribanMan
over a year ago

Sligo


"

That will never work, I've met people who had great veris and walked away wondering wtaf and thinking something wrong with me. "

That's simply bad form, but it doesn't surprise me.

Some people are just pricks, not just men either.

Everyone meeting for first time is taking a chance. If they are not into someone, basic manners should prevail. It sets a standard.

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By *ildkildsreMan
over a year ago

athy


"Maybe the verifications should be changed to a review sort of system, as it is verifications only show those who have met, chatted on cam etc and are happy with the experience. But if it was setup as a review system it could still show those who have had good experiences but also those with negative experiences, but there are downsides to it, disgruntled people could post negative reviews because they were annoyed by being turned down by someone

That will never work, I've met people who had great veris and walked away wondering wtaf and thinking something wrong with me. "

Maybe I'm a conspiracy theorist but I think a lot of verifications aren't genuine either, you give me a good verification and ill do the same for you sort of deal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe the verifications should be changed to a review sort of system, as it is verifications only show those who have met, chatted on cam etc and are happy with the experience. But if it was setup as a review system it could still show those who have had good experiences but also those with negative experiences, but there are downsides to it, disgruntled people could post negative reviews because they were annoyed by being turned down by someone "

Dear God no! One man's meat is another man's poison

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"Maybe the verifications should be changed to a review sort of system, as it is verifications only show those who have met, chatted on cam etc and are happy with the experience. But if it was setup as a review system it could still show those who have had good experiences but also those with negative experiences, but there are downsides to it, disgruntled people could post negative reviews because they were annoyed by being turned down by someone

Dear God no! One man's meat is another man's poisson "

That's a little fishy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe the verifications should be changed to a review sort of system, as it is verifications only show those who have met, chatted on cam etc and are happy with the experience. But if it was setup as a review system it could still show those who have had good experiences but also those with negative experiences, but there are downsides to it, disgruntled people could post negative reviews because they were annoyed by being turned down by someone

That will never work, I've met people who had great veris and walked away wondering wtaf and thinking something wrong with me.

Maybe I'm a conspiracy theorist but I think a lot of verifications aren't genuine either, you give me a good verification and ill do the same for you sort of deal"

Thats why need to makeup your own mind about a person

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By *nribanMan
over a year ago

Sligo

I have no verifications.

Thats because;

a) anybody who has met me didn't like me?

b) anybody who has met me died shortly afterwards?

c) I haven't met anyone yet in swinging scene?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe the verifications should be changed to a review sort of system, as it is verifications only show those who have met, chatted on cam etc and are happy with the experience. But if it was setup as a review system it could still show those who have had good experiences but also those with negative experiences, but there are downsides to it, disgruntled people could post negative reviews because they were annoyed by being turned down by someone

Dear God no! One man's meat is another man's poisson

That's a little fishy

"

Ffs

I don't multitask well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have no verifications.

Thats because;

a) anybody who has met me didn't like me?

b) anybody who has met me died shortly afterwards?

c) I haven't met anyone yet in swinging scene? "

B

No? Just us? As you were

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By *nribanMan
over a year ago

Sligo


"I have no verifications.

Thats because;

a) anybody who has met me didn't like me?

b) anybody who has met me died shortly afterwards?

c) I haven't met anyone yet in swinging scene?

B

No? Just us? As you were "

I have no verifications...confused.com.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"As a good friend once told me "the problem with single men on fab...they arent single".

Mrs S

That's understandable.

What would someone have to do (like me) to prove they are single?

Bring divorce papers to a meet?

Seems reasonable."

I'd suggest at the very least putting it in your profile. Not foolproof but at least say it.

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"As a good friend once told me "the problem with single men on fab...they arent single".

Mrs S

That's understandable.

What would someone have to do (like me) to prove they are single?

Bring divorce papers to a meet?

Seems reasonable."

Do nothing. Don't feel you have to prove you are single. If someone can't figure that one out for themselves, maybe they are best avoided.

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By *nribanMan
over a year ago

Sligo

I have taken your advice...see how it blows..ty

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"I have taken your advice...see how it blows..ty"

You took my advice! Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a good friend once told me "the problem with single men on fab...they arent single".

Mrs S

That's understandable.

What would someone have to do (like me) to prove they are single?

Bring divorce papers to a meet?

Seems reasonable.

I'd suggest at the very least putting it in your profile. Not foolproof but at least say it."

Gonna take this advice.....

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By *en CahillMan
over a year ago

Ratoath

Maybe the wrong guys were chosen, not starting an argument here but I have had couple/female no show. Didnt bother to notify until few days after the arranged meet.So it is what it is.Just please don't crucify all single males on here. I do admit that there might be a few shit heads on here but not All of us. I do apologise in advance if I may or have upset persons on here.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"As a good friend once told me "the problem with single men on fab...they arent single".

Mrs S

That's understandable.

What would someone have to do (like me) to prove they are single?

Bring divorce papers to a meet?

Seems reasonable.

I'd suggest at the very least putting it in your profile. Not foolproof but at least say it.

Gonna take this advice....."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ffs of to bed really

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By *en CahillMan
over a year ago

Ratoath

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By *nribanMan
over a year ago

Sligo


"I have taken your advice...see how it blows..ty

You took my advice! Best of luck "

Yes, why not? Divorce is pretty shitty...if I ever do get involved with someone again last thing I want is drama. I want peace of mind more than anything.

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By *ealmc1973Man
over a year ago

Limerick, Clare, Tipperary


"What’s happened this site?

Is the site just full of a lot of fantasist's? should it be made to be a paid site, at a higher rate than what it currently is?

.....

"

If they are not paid-up members, the chances are, that they are not serious.

That goes to anyone regardless of sex, age, location, status or lovely photos in my books. If someone is not willing/able/arsed to fork out a few bob per year, there is a pretty good chance that they will not be able/willing/arsed to turn-up.

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By *edonism NICouple
over a year ago

strabane

We’ve hosted gang bans before. We asked for a small upfront Donation to cover apartment drinks and refreshment. 15 guys were booked to attend and 5 showed. We over booked as we knew there would b no shows!!! I guess their girlfriends/wives wouldn’t let them out in the end lol

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"As a good friend once told me "the problem with single men on fab...they arent single".

Mrs S

That's understandable.

What would someone have to do (like me) to prove they are single?

Bring divorce papers to a meet?

Seems reasonable.

Once they not willing to sit in a coffee shop and have a coffee with ya usually confirms their attached"

Or your ugly

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"I have no verifications.

Thats because;

a) anybody who has met me didn't like me?

b) anybody who has met me died shortly afterwards?

c) I haven't met anyone yet in swinging scene? "

All 3

Your out

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"What’s happened this site?

Is the site just full of a lot of fantasist's? should it be made to be a paid site, at a higher rate than what it currently is?

.....

If they are not paid-up members, the chances are, that they are not serious.

That goes to anyone regardless of sex, age, location, status or lovely photos in my books. If someone is not willing/able/arsed to fork out a few bob per year, there is a pretty good chance that they will not be able/willing/arsed to turn-up."

I don't think paying to be a site supporter is a very good indication of someone who will turn up. The best indicator is having previously turned up (in person meet verification)

Also lol @ those men have never been to play parties trying to manspalin how men should perform at play parties.

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"What’s happened this site?

Is the site just full of a lot of fantasist's? should it be made to be a paid site, at a higher rate than what it currently is?

.....

Lorry loads of bullshit

If they are not paid-up members, the chances are, that they are not serious.

That goes to anyone regardless of sex, age, location, status or lovely photos in my books. If someone is not willing/able/arsed to fork out a few bob per year, there is a pretty good chance that they will not be able/willing/arsed to turn-up."
lorry load or shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is quite frustrating to hear as I'm a single male and been "swinging" for 15 years on and off

And I never found it as hard to get meets(unless via social parties/clubs) because alot of guys on this are ruining it for the genuine guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is quite frustrating to hear as I'm a single male and been "swinging" for 15 years on and off

And I never found it as hard to get meets(unless via social parties/clubs) because alot of guys on this are ruining it for the genuine guys "

I tend to agree with you the most genuine fellas are always ignored and then they lament the fact they can't get single guys, there are literally hundreds of single guys willing to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is quite frustrating to hear as I'm a single male and been "swinging" for 15 years on and off

And I never found it as hard to get meets(unless via social parties/clubs) because alot of guys on this are ruining it for the genuine guys

I tend to agree with you the most genuine fellas are always ignored and then they lament the fact they can't get single guys, there are literally hundreds of single guys willing to meet"

Remember RB's screw analogy?

There might as well be none if the hundreds aren't what the person is looking for

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By *ysteryforareasonWoman
over a year ago

Tyrone


"What’s happened this site?

Is the site just full of a lot of fantasist's? should it be made to be a paid site, at a higher rate than what it currently is?

We’d a party last night and we were speaking to three single fellas about our party. One had the decency to message two days before but the other two were no shows. If they’d have grown the balls to be there they’d have been met with five very horny, experimental funny girls.

We really don’t get it. Should we only have parties with people we’ve met to make sure they’re actually what and who they say they are?

Would love to name and shame them but for some reason won’t.

"

Agree with others on this thread, it's not a behaviour that's exclusive just to men. But I know a few men who enjoy the group meet scene and they'd always expect a social or at least a solo meet first before anything group was confirmed. But ultimately the site has lots of fantasists, timewasters, penpal enthusiasts and it's difficult trying to navigate them all and avoid. We all get stung the odd time.

But it definitely sounds like their loss!

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By *antricswingMan
over a year ago

louth

No shows are never great As a single guy I’ve met some exceptional women and couples . Maybe I’ve been lucky . Manners cost nothing .letting people down at the last min is disrespectful especially when they have planned parties or socials .

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

I don't get any praise for all the great sex some single men have on here so I'm not going the say the one's that dont show are ruining it for me to be honest.

Red flags are exactly that ....if you go ahead with plans after a few have been flown then you should look at what you can do to avoid people that fly them

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