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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I'm curious re the definition of shy especially on fab !

From Google

What Is Shyness? Shyness is an emotion that affects how a person feels and behaves around others. Shyness can mean feeling uncomfortable, self-conscious, nervous, bashful, timid, or insecure. People who feel shy sometimes notice physical sensations like blushing or feeling speechless, shaky, or breathless.

Now I don't consider myself shy in social settings I will chat yo the wall, will always make an effort to make people comfortable in any situation etc

But on fab I consider myself shy, I don't share pics in chat groups, I don't pm guys that might be going to a social, I very rarely message guys on here and I don't think I've ever messaged a guy asking to meet on here. I have been to over 20 socials and have always gone to bed alone and I don't think I've ever hooked up with anyone after meeting them at a social.

I'm at a stage with fab that I think I'm the worst swinger ever and that fab isn't actually for me other that I enjoy chatting and after hosting my first social I like that side.

What do you consider the meaning of shy?

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By *asual777Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

When you want to ask someone for a ride but you talk to them about coffee or the weather

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By *adger BrocMan
over a year ago

Co. Cork

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When you want to ask someone for a ride but you talk to them about coffee or the weather "

Oops was our coffee meet that bad

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By *adger BrocMan
over a year ago

Co. Cork

When you think three is a crowd and being the third wheel makes you feel like a bit of a wallflower can be a situation that makes you feel uncomfortable. One example of feeling shy or embarrassed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you want to ask someone for a ride but you talk to them about coffee or the weather "

I've discovered a remarkable talent for extracting someone's entire life story in less than 60 minutes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm your google/dictionary definition of shy. Painfully so. Sometimes in social situations I could actually cry, I feel so incredibly awkward and out of place. I'm aware this may come across to some as being aloof and unapproachable. I also suffer from mild agoraphobia so it probably exacerbates my feelings

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By *angero3aMan
over a year ago

swords

i am quite not shy i am stright guy looking to meet married couple but hard on here to find.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I would class myself as reserved rather than shy.

I've no desire to be the centre of attention but I've no problem engaging with anyone at any time.

I don't go out of my way to start conversations with random people which is probably why I don't go to a lot of socials.

I know very few people on here and don't want to spend my night trying to initiate conversation with circles of friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the definition given is pretty accurate. I used to be shy as a child, an introverted nature exacerbated by certain family circumstances meant I was terribly self-conscious and would go bright red if anyone spoke to me. I'm no longer shy, but definitely introverted, large social groups and events are simply draining. That's not a problem for me, my preference is to have meaningful connection with a small number of people.

We are all different, I think the question is whether or not you are getting what you want/need from your interactions. Perhaps it's a lack of confidence or fear of rejection more than shyness that prevents you making the first move with men - assuming that you do even want sex with any of them? Or even a reluctance to appear keen in case they think it's a "done deal" while you're just trying to get to know them better?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think the definition given is pretty accurate. I used to be shy as a child, an introverted nature exacerbated by certain family circumstances meant I was terribly self-conscious and would go bright red if anyone spoke to me. I'm no longer shy, but definitely introverted, large social groups and events are simply draining. That's not a problem for me, my preference is to have meaningful connection with a small number of people.

We are all different, I think the question is whether or not you are getting what you want/need from your interactions. Perhaps it's a lack of confidence or fear of rejection more than shyness that prevents you making the first move with men - assuming that you do even want sex with any of them? Or even a reluctance to appear keen in case they think it's a "done deal" while you're just trying to get to know them better? "

Definitely hold back due to lack of confidence and fear of rejection,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the definition given is pretty accurate. I used to be shy as a child, an introverted nature exacerbated by certain family circumstances meant I was terribly self-conscious and would go bright red if anyone spoke to me. I'm no longer shy, but definitely introverted, large social groups and events are simply draining. That's not a problem for me, my preference is to have meaningful connection with a small number of people.

We are all different, I think the question is whether or not you are getting what you want/need from your interactions. Perhaps it's a lack of confidence or fear of rejection more than shyness that prevents you making the first move with men - assuming that you do even want sex with any of them? Or even a reluctance to appear keen in case they think it's a "done deal" while you're just trying to get to know them better?

Definitely hold back due to lack of confidence and fear of rejection, "

That's something that can happen to anyone, even the most confident or out-going can have self-doubt. My approach is to think that I'll be no worse off regardless. Most of what we stress over is in our own heads.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think the definition given is pretty accurate. I used to be shy as a child, an introverted nature exacerbated by certain family circumstances meant I was terribly self-conscious and would go bright red if anyone spoke to me. I'm no longer shy, but definitely introverted, large social groups and events are simply draining. That's not a problem for me, my preference is to have meaningful connection with a small number of people.

We are all different, I think the question is whether or not you are getting what you want/need from your interactions. Perhaps it's a lack of confidence or fear of rejection more than shyness that prevents you making the first move with men - assuming that you do even want sex with any of them? Or even a reluctance to appear keen in case they think it's a "done deal" while you're just trying to get to know them better?

Definitely hold back due to lack of confidence and fear of rejection,

That's something that can happen to anyone, even the most confident or out-going can have self-doubt. My approach is to think that I'll be no worse off regardless. Most of what we stress over is in our own heads."

Unfortunately in my case I've been rejected quite publicly and quite nasty by guys on here and in life, and I know it says more about them but very hard to recover from it so I have a wall built high and honestly anytime I try to remove it someone comes along and just reinforces why the wall is there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the definition given is pretty accurate. I used to be shy as a child, an introverted nature exacerbated by certain family circumstances meant I was terribly self-conscious and would go bright red if anyone spoke to me. I'm no longer shy, but definitely introverted, large social groups and events are simply draining. That's not a problem for me, my preference is to have meaningful connection with a small number of people.

We are all different, I think the question is whether or not you are getting what you want/need from your interactions. Perhaps it's a lack of confidence or fear of rejection more than shyness that prevents you making the first move with men - assuming that you do even want sex with any of them? Or even a reluctance to appear keen in case they think it's a "done deal" while you're just trying to get to know them better?

Definitely hold back due to lack of confidence and fear of rejection,

That's something that can happen to anyone, even the most confident or out-going can have self-doubt. My approach is to think that I'll be no worse off regardless. Most of what we stress over is in our own heads.

Unfortunately in my case I've been rejected quite publicly and quite nasty by guys on here and in life, and I know it says more about them but very hard to recover from it so I have a wall built high and honestly anytime I try to remove it someone comes along and just reinforces why the wall is there.

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I understand. Perhaps then the best approach is to continue socialising since you enjoy it, and try to keep an open mind with regard to new encounters.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

When I was a young child I was quite out going and confident and somewhere along the road that all disappeared and I'm now quite shy. Especially when in a crowd of people I don't know I find myself wishing the ground would swallow me up a lot of the time. I despise with a passion being made center of attention as well. It just makes me really uncomfortable when it happens.

On here I have sent first messages to people when I liked their profile or something they said in the forums caught my eye etc. I have been the first to bring up meeting someone as well at times. It doesn't bother me if they say no. Probably because it's online and not in person more than anything else.

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