FabSwingers.com forum: Tips on getting a meet

By *edonism NI OP Couple
over a year ago

strabane

Is this a question on tips for others?

Dare I say we r a pretty popular couple … we host socials with regular attendance of 100+ so we’re Well verified.

When we get time off we do like to plan a fab night of fun every now and again, and this is the problem!

We do of coarse post in the meets section. We provide lots of info. Including where we r and what we’re after. R profile also has this info.

We also message people we like and Wink.

Alas, once again, this weekend was a flop.

Although we got a few messages, the fact that we weren’t looking gents , couldn’t host, nor travel 4hrs or willing to go bareback meant that we simply enjoyed each others company (not a bad complaint).

With this in mind, what’s ur tips and advice in regards to setting up a good fun meet with a weeks notice!!?

PS this weekends spring fling in Derry is SOLD OUT and set to be fab with 120+ confirmed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've given up looking for meets, the meet me section has never worked for me.

I just attend socials , hosted my first social recently and it was a great night, so I've realised I'm good at bringing people together but useless at meeting one for myself.

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By *edonism NI OP Couple
over a year ago

strabane

Looks like we’re in the same boat … although occasionally we do get invited to after parties

…. But only occasionally

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

It happens us all. Sods law is that when we don't have child care or any free time, the person/people you've been waiting to meet will be free!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It happens us all. Sods law is that when we don't have child care or any free time, the person/people you've been waiting to meet will be free!

Who ever invented Sod's Law should be taken outside with a large baseball bat!!! Always hateful when the best laid plans get scuppered!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tips for a meet ? ..jeez ...that's a tough question..from my experience a person has to beware of Timewasters and ghosters..tough thing to do tbh..they don't have or never will have any intention of meeting but a person unfortunately has to experience this

..if a person hasn't mentioned meeting within a week of chatting then it's never gonna happen .

I suppose both are negative but tips none the less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this a question on tips for others?

Dare I say we r a pretty popular couple … we host socials with regular attendance of 100+ so we’re Well verified.

When we get time off we do like to plan a fab night of fun every now and again, and this is the problem!

We do of coarse post in the meets section. We provide lots of info. Including where we r and what we’re after. R profile also has this info.

We also message people we like and Wink.

Alas, once again, this weekend was a flop.

With this in mind, what’s ur tips and advice in regards to setting up a good fun meet with a weeks notice!!?

PS this weekends spring fling in Derry is SOLD OUT and set to be fab with 120+ confirmed

Do you think people are a wee bit intimidated? Because you are so popular? I could be completely off base but if I was free I'm not sure i would msg social organiser's under the assumption they had there pick of friends and probably wouldn't be interested in Me. Just a thought, but also this place is feckin tricky to navigate

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

Was it a fun meet or a social you were looking for?

We usually do a social first and hookups (without a prior social) have no appeal for us unless they were verified by people we trusted.

I think most couples are the same? Maybe not?

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

Read it again and see that was a fun meet

Were they strangers or friends that you winked/messaged?

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By *r_Insatiable666Man
over a year ago

Cork

Might get flak but if they aren't well verified, you are taking a risk that it's a time waster.

However even well verified people can be just as difficult. It's hard to say what's the best approach for a meet. I know a good few people now who only meet people they've met before at socials.

At the end of the day, if you (anybody on here) offered to meet someone and they stood you up ect, it's their loss, not yours!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the fact it was Easter weekend played a factor. Lots doing family stuff over the Easter break

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By *leasurer77Man
over a year ago

Athlone

"Is this a question on tips for others?

Dare I say we r a pretty popular couple … we host socials with regular attendance of 100+ so we’re Well verified.

When we get time off we do like to plan a fab night of fun every now and again, and this is the problem!

We do of coarse post in the meets section. We provide lots of info. Including where we r and what we’re after. R profile also has this info.

We also message people we like and Wink.

Alas, once again, this weekend was a flop.

With this in mind, what’s ur tips and advice in regards to setting up a good fun meet with a weeks notice!!?

PS this weekends spring fling in Derry is SOLD OUT and set to be fab with 120+ confirmed

152 published verifications... I think you should be giving the advice not seeking it

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By *edonism NI OP Couple
over a year ago

strabane

"Is this a question on tips for others?

Dare I say we r a pretty popular couple … we host socials with regular attendance of 100+ so we’re Well verified.

When we get time off we do like to plan a fab night of fun every now and again, and this is the problem!

We do of coarse post in the meets section. We provide lots of info. Including where we r and what we’re after. R profile also has this info.

We also message people we like and Wink.

Alas, once again, this weekend was a flop.

With this in mind, what’s ur tips and advice in regards to setting up a good fun meet with a weeks notice!!?

PS this weekends spring fling in Derry is SOLD OUT and set to be fab with 120+ confirmed

Do you think people are a wee bit intimidated? Because you are so popular? I could be completely off base but if I was free I'm not sure i would msg social organiser's under the assumption they had their pick of friends and probably wouldn't be interested in Me. Just a thought, but also this place is feckin tricky to navigate

Please message us when ur free!!!

We’d like to think we’re very inclusive and approachable.

Hopefully we can get a chat at the freak show

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Might get flak but if they aren't well verified, you are taking a risk that it's a time waster.

However even well verified people can be just as difficult. It's hard to say what's the best approach for a meet. I know a good few people now who only meet people they've met before at socials.

At the end of the day, if you (anybody on here) offered to meet someone and they stood you up ect, it's their loss, not yours!"

I don't agree with you last line at all and never have done on here.

How can it be someone's loss if they choose not to accept an offer from someone they have no interest in or anything in common with?

You can't lose something you didn't have or weren't looking for in the first place.

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By *leasurer77Man
over a year ago

Athlone

"Might get flak but if they aren't well verified, you are taking a risk that it's a time waster.

However even well verified people can be just as difficult. It's hard to say what's the best approach for a meet. I know a good few people now who only meet people they've met before at socials.

At the end of the day, if you (anybody on here) offered to meet someone and they stood you up ect, it's their loss, not yours!

I don't agree with you last line at all and never have done on here.

How can it be someone's loss if they choose not to accept an offer from someone they have no interest in or anything in common with?

You can't lose something you didn't have or weren't looking for in the first place. "

I think that line was meant as a compliment rather than to be taken literally.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"Might get flak but if they aren't well verified, you are taking a risk that it's a time waster.

However even well verified people can be just as difficult. It's hard to say what's the best approach for a meet. I know a good few people now who only meet people they've met before at socials.

At the end of the day, if you (anybody on here) offered to meet someone and they stood you up ect, it's their loss, not yours!

I don't agree with you last line at all and never have done on here.

How can it be someone's loss if they choose not to accept an offer from someone they have no interest in or anything in common with?

You can't lose something you didn't have or weren't looking for in the first place. "

RB you just lost 3.7 million £ by picking the wrong lottery numbers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Might get flak but if they aren't well verified, you are taking a risk that it's a time waster.

However even well verified people can be just as difficult. It's hard to say what's the best approach for a meet. I know a good few people now who only meet people they've met before at socials.

At the end of the day, if you (anybody on here) offered to meet someone and they stood you up ect, it's their loss, not yours!

I don't agree with you last line at all and never have done on here.

How can it be someone's loss if they choose not to accept an offer from someone they have no interest in or anything in common with?

You can't lose something you didn't have or weren't looking for in the first place.

I think that line was meant as a compliment rather than to be taken literally."

Its their loss means 'when you think someone is being stupid for not taking a good opportunity.'

If people spend their time messaging to the stage where a meet is arranged and one side doesnt turn up for it.....apart from it being really bad manners... I think the person who was stood up should value themselves enough to know they were the better person and so yes, it could be argued it is the non attendees loss!

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By *rishOak12Man
over a year ago

I’ve found by going into the chats and forums like this, it gets easier to have a chat with people and getting the meets happening

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By *ancy38Woman
over a year ago

galway

"It happens us all. Sods law is that when we don't have child care or any free time, the person/people you've been waiting to meet will be free!

Very similar to my own situation. Very rarely I get to meet and when I get the time, the ones I'm keen to meet are busy then when they can meet, I can't get the time. Disheartening it can be. I thought after Christmas everything would have changed but it's the same as last year. Life just soooooooooooo busy

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast

I’m definitely not someone who’s qualified to give tips on getting a meet

But I’ve found a social meet to be a good introduction and the best way for both to see if there is a spark. My return on social meets to play meets is quite high, but that’s from a low number of social meets lol

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

I just want some sex ... egos left at the door ,, showered and dressed for eachother... can travel ..

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