FabSwingers.com forum: Never came from a Blowjob

By *ambon30 OP Man
over a year ago

Dublin

Is it me or the women I’ve been with??? Help!!!!!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Could be either or neither. Impossible for anyone else to know.

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By *ixedAestheticMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I used to have the same issue. Thought maybe it was impossible for me.

The answer is find someone better at blowjobs and are actually into it lol.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

Ah sure look..

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

There's a great article on askmen if you Google "can't cum from a blowjob".

Apparently it's a lot more common than you'd think and there really is no one correct answer. It's very individual, very situational.

But! Putting pressure on yourself to orgasm, whether through oral or penetration, is probably the most counterproductive way to achieve it.

There are so many different factors, between emotional, psychological, physical and factors you have no control over, outside of you, that it's more likely a minefield to find one common factor or reason as to the why.

If you are in a relationship, a professional (sex therapist) might be able to help. I'm sure they could help you too with finding insights as a singleton also.

Personally, I'd say don't let it bother you and anyone who has a problem with it, well, it's their problem because you are who you are, and if that's how you rock, then that's just how it is. Don't let anybody put you down over it

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

"I used to have the same issue. Thought maybe it was impossible for me.

The answer is find someone better at blowjobs and are actually into it lol."

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

"I used to have the same issue. Thought maybe it was impossible for me.

The answer is find someone better at blowjobs and are actually into it lol."

you are so nice.

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By *ceman 6969Man
over a year ago

Belfast

Definitely all about technique! You need to find a woman who really enjoy it I find

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely all about technique! You need to find a woman who really enjoy it I find"

This is true...but it could also be down to just how much sexual tension is in the build up...sometimes I find that a guy can be ready to explode before you even get your mouth around it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely all about technique! You need to find a woman who really enjoy it I find

This is true...but it could also be down to just how much sexual tension is in the build up...sometimes I find that a guy can be ready to explode before you even get your mouth around it

Yeah I’ve been that soldier

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland

Apparently its more common than you think,been plenty of post on these forums over the years regarding the same matter ,so you definitely aren't on your own .As sure its quite frustrating but most likely the same as some women not being able to orgasm through penetrative sex.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

A lot of it comes down to trust on both sides.

That makes it less of a challenge.

It's one thing blaming the giver or their technique but if you have poor receiving skills and feel you have to cum or that they have to make you cum that can have an effect too.

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By *ebelRoadMan
over a year ago

Cork / Wexford

I'd agree. Found it hard (no pun intended) to cum at first when first relationship ended as she never performed oral.

Once I know the person I'm with is happy for me to cum, and where, it's made me more relaxed and enjoy it much more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's mind over matter

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"It's mind over matter

If she doesn't mind, it doesn't matter

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

"It's mind over matter

If she doesn't mind, it doesn't matter

I wish everyone thought like you

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By *ixedAestheticMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"I used to have the same issue. Thought maybe it was impossible for me.

The answer is find someone better at blowjobs and are actually into it lol.

you are so nice."

I didn't mean it in a dismissive way but I did phrase it very bluntly.

What I was eluding to is that if the other person doesn't enjoy giving oral, especially blowjobs, then there are probably distinct reasons why they don't. Example being they suffer jaw pain from TMJ, Mouth is too small or they have their own personal reasons.

I think it's clear that OP enjoys oral and his problem could very well be that he's just squeezing the life out of his chap when he's jerking it and no mouth could ever compete with that kind of pressure.

Wasn't here for an argument, love you all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't cum.from blowjob's for years, i do now , (i know, you are all so relieved), for me it was a mental thing, i couldn't receive and enjoy, i was always waiting to reciprocate.

I don't think there should be any part of the body, once clean that you shouldn't enjoy sucking or kissing ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I didn't cum.from blowjob's for years, i do now , (i know, you are all so relieved), for me it was a mental thing, i couldn't receive and enjoy, i was always waiting to reciprocate.

I don't think there should be any part of the body, once clean that you shouldn't enjoy sucking or kissing .... "

Was there a genuine reason why you couldn't cum from receiving a blow job years ago, and can now, curious here....

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By *rishguy086Man
over a year ago

Limerick

You're not alone... I've never cum from a blowjob either. Have had the best sex of my life with woman but she never made me cum by only blowjob.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apparently its more common than you think,been plenty of post on these forums over the years regarding the same matter ,so you definitely aren't on your own .As sure its quite frustrating but most likely the same as some women not being able to orgasm through penetrative sex."

I've met guys who have said they don't cum from blowjobs, it happens , I don't cum or orgasm so way I see it just enjoy the experience Cumming or orgasming shouldn't be the only goal

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Its usually a part of the journey towards mutual orgasms so cuming first is not on the agenda.

However sometimes its just my journey and its nice to cum especially if thats what she really likes at that time

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By *ensualandslow321Man
over a year ago

Tullamore

Like everything to do with oral there's an art/technique to it and not everbody knows how to do it right. That cuts both ways whether its a man going down on a woman or vice a versa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like everything to do with oral there's an art/technique to it and not everbody knows how to do it right. That cuts both ways whether its a man going down on a woman or vice a versa"

Not necessarily. You can be the most skilled lover in the world, totally attuned to your partner's wants, needs and desires, and still one or other may struggle to orgasm. I hate the apportioning of "blame". Sometimes it just ain't happening no matter what

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

Arousal happens in the brain. So, arousal to orgasm needs lots of physiological and emotional factors in place. If any of them are missing at the time, either arousal or orgasm wont happen. With a loving, considerate lover(just one), that you're comfortable with, and both of you are honest, open, intimate, and patient, then you just might reach that elusive orgasm. It might take a while, for you to train your brain to allow it to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like everything to do with oral there's an art/technique to it and not everbody knows how to do it right. That cuts both ways whether its a man going down on a woman or vice a versa

God if I blamed the men I've been with for not making me orgasm or cun it's definitely time for me to leave here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had an issue cumming from blowjobs.i must have been lucky with women who sucked me off

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Is it me or the women I’ve been with??? Help!!!!! "

It’s more common than you think mate, I’ve not cum from a bj since 2017

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"Is it me or the women I’ve been with??? Help!!!!!

It’s more common than you think mate, I’ve not cum from a bj since 2017

Have you had one in that time though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never really been in to receiving blow job's never really been my thing, have tried many times over the years

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Arousal happens in the brain. So, arousal to orgasm needs lots of physiological and emotional factors in place. If any of them are missing at the time, either arousal or orgasm wont happen. With a loving, considerate lover(just one), that you're comfortable with, and both of you are honest, open, intimate, and patient, then you just might reach that elusive orgasm. It might take a while, for you to train your brain to allow it to happen. "

I think there’s a lot of truth in this, and for me personally, I’m sure my mind is ‘programmed’ that women only suck your cock to get you hard for penetration, and I’m only designed to cum inside a pussy (or bum lol)

If I could meet a woman who was happy to help me get around this ‘mental block’, then hopefully I can join the ranks of guys who do cum from a bj…..

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Is it me or the women I’ve been with??? Help!!!!!

It’s more common than you think mate, I’ve not cum from a bj since 2017

Have you had one in that time though? "

I’ve not met a woman since, who was happy to do a bj-only meet no….

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

Can say that hub has never either but he's likes to eat pussy more than get satisfied himself

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

"Is it me or the women I’ve been with??? Help!!!!! "

We programed the cock for grip during the years ... just forget about Cummings from bj and learn to fully enjoy them ... it will happen then ... also give up wanking for a bit .... change the mindset of your dick

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By *mmortalbMan
over a year ago

kildare

"Is it me or the women I’ve been with??? Help!!!!! "

Same never came from a bj

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is me, I'm definitely more of a giver than a taker

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By *oe Cool xxxMan
over a year ago

South Dublin

The way I see it is if you get a amazing BJ you'll cum or least be close

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast

I used to be the same but then one day it happened, and now I can’t turn the bloody thing off

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I used to be the same but then one day it happened, and now I can’t turn the bloody thing off

What changed it for you mate?

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Sometimes the person you're with really wants and likes to see you cum from a BJ .....and that's what makes it special....

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

"Sometimes the person you're with really wants and likes to see you cum from a BJ .....and that's what makes it special...."

Absolutely this i use a combination of mouth and hand so not totally a BJ but the endings are amazing

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By *immysmithMan
over a year ago

birr

Ive never cum from a BJ, either with a woman or a guy

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

I can count the number of times I've cum from a bj on one hand. It's no big deal, I've had more than my fair share of orgasms overall so zero complaints. She needs to be very talented and very determined for it to work. Would rather give oral then receive anyway.

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By *immy123456888Man
over a year ago

city

"I can count the number of times I've cum from a bj on one hand. It's no big deal, I've had more than my fair share of orgasms overall so zero complaints. She needs to be very talented and very determined for it to work. Would rather give oral then receive anyway."
That's a wank if you used one hand.

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By *ajRallying555Man
over a year ago

Galway .Limerick

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By *ajRallying555Man
over a year ago

Galway .Limerick

Got great BJs before, didn't cum. I do now. But of course, some are from Faced##king. Mm

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast

"I used to be the same but then one day it happened, and now I can’t turn the bloody thing off

What changed it for you mate? "

Someone who found what worked for me

(That’s concentrating on the head but don’t tell everyone or they’ll all be doing it to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely the woman your with LOL

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I used to be the same but then one day it happened, and now I can’t turn the bloody thing off

What changed it for you mate?

Someone who found what worked for me

(That’s concentrating on the head but don’t tell everyone or they’ll all be doing it to me

Glad you got there in the end mate! I'm still waiting to break my duck lol....

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By *rMotivator2.0Man
over a year ago

Donegal

Never have either and it's never the woman, unless she has a mouth like a vice then maybe lol

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By *hysoserious2012Man
over a year ago

meath louth border

I have few times but most of the time I'm not trying or wanna but definitely lucky enough to have it happen

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By *og2018Man
over a year ago

Letterkenny

"Is it me or the women I’ve been with??? Help!!!!! "

I used to have this problem too, but what I found to help me was

i) communication, know what you like and tell them you like it (e.g. I like it when you do this, could you do it more, I get really turned on when you do that)

ii) don't focus on cuming- I found when I just sat back and tried to enjoy receiving blow jobs without focusing on cumming I would actually cum

iii) get her hand and mouth around your cock and thrust into them to a rate you like, it will show them how you like it, it makes her job easier and you'll get there quicker.

Hope this helps

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