FabSwingers.com forum: Opening message ideas?

By *rishguy086 OP Man
over a year ago

Limerick

Hey all, maybe it's just me but no matter what I put for an opening message or in the subject line, I can barely get any women to even read my messages not to mind respond. And when they do read them, most don't respond either.

I've tried the nice approach, the joke, the flirty, the naughty and honestly, the outright graphic lol

What do women on here reccomend?

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

When i send a first message its usually something they might have said on here (like i did with you) or id usually pick something from there bio or pic's and make something funny from that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you wanting profile tips or just messages?

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By *rishguy086 OP Man
over a year ago

Limerick

"Are you wanting profile tips or just messages?"

Well if you have any ideas to improve my profile which could get me more messages, I'm all ears

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

Ballsbridge, City Centre

Different strokes for different folks

You’re messaging different people with different personalities, why would you think there’s one style of message that works for everyone

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Ask yourself what is it about your profile, pictures and opening message that sets you apart from the hundreds of other guys profiles, pictures and opening messages.

If you can't answer that, Wathen there's your answer and work on trying set yourself apart by focusing on exentuating your own personality traits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you wanting profile tips or just messages?

Well if you have any ideas to improve my profile which could get me more messages, I'm all ears

There's nothing in your profile that I'd consider a red flag or off-putting. It just is a little low on wow-factor.

That being said, always be yourself in your pics and profile as that's who will be turning up to a date or a social.

Your pics are good to be fair. You look good. No toilets, no mess, nothing unpleasant, no 57978 dickpics.

Maybe add in variety or something that grabs attention more. Make sure it looks as good in the tiny size as when it's full size. Some can turn in to a blob when small and people will just scroll on by.

Some like a fun pose. But then some are put off by googly eyes and cartoon emojis. Again, don't do what you don't like yourself.

As far as your 'wordy bit' goes. It's fine and nice, you seem a vety decent guy, but perhaps a little too tentative and shy for the fab search style.

This will definitely suit many. Lots love a genuine and less braggy guy, too cocky isn't great imho, but too low-key won't stand out enough to make folk think 'ohhhh, I NEED to find out more about this guy'

One thing to consider is to maybe say if you are single or attached as having CANNOT ACCOM will be taken as a sign you are perhaps attached.

You seem like a lovely guy OP, good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignore the last part.

I'm a dope, you do say you're single.

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By *rishguy086 OP Man
over a year ago

Limerick

"Are you wanting profile tips or just messages?

Well if you have any ideas to improve my profile which could get me more messages, I'm all ears

There's nothing in your profile that I'd consider a red flag or off-putting. It just is a little low on wow-factor.

That being said, always be yourself in your pics and profile as that's who will be turning up to a date or a social.

Your pics are good to be fair. You look good. No toilets, no mess, nothing unpleasant, no 57978 dickpics.

Some like a fun pose. But then some are put off by googly eyes and cartoon emojis. Again, don't do what you don't like yourself.

As far as your 'wordy bit' goes. It's fine and nice, you seem a vety decent guy, but perhaps a little too tentative and shy for the fab search style.

One thing to consider is to maybe say if you are single or attached as having CANNOT ACCOM will be taken as a sign you are perhaps attached.

You seem like a lovely guy OP, good luck!"

Am I picking it up wrong or do u mean take pictures of himself when he's not excited? hahah

And I'd agree with the "woordy bit" but not sure what'd be too much and I also don't want too far that I sound like a pervert hahah

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By *rishguy086 OP Man
over a year ago

Limerick

"Ask yourself what is it about your profile, pictures and opening message that sets you apart from the hundreds of other guys profiles, pictures and opening messages.

If you can't answer that, Wathen there's your answer and work on trying set yourself apart by focusing on exentuating your own personality traits. "

I do think some of my opening messages are different than what's usually said by other guys but still don't get opened to be fair

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By *r_Insatiable666Man
over a year ago

Cork

"Are you wanting profile tips or just messages?

Well if you have any ideas to improve my profile which could get me more messages, I'm all ears

There's nothing in your profile that I'd consider a red flag or off-putting. It just is a little low on wow-factor.

That being said, always be yourself in your pics and profile as that's who will be turning up to a date or a social.

Your pics are good to be fair. You look good. No toilets, no mess, nothing unpleasant, no 57978 dickpics.

Some like a fun pose. But then some are put off by googly eyes and cartoon emojis. Again, don't do what you don't like yourself.

As far as your 'wordy bit' goes. It's fine and nice, you seem a vety decent guy, but perhaps a little too tentative and shy for the fab search style.

One thing to consider is to maybe say if you are single or attached as having CANNOT ACCOM will be taken as a sign you are perhaps attached.

You seem like a lovely guy OP, good luck!"

Do me next

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

If you read the profile and feel your what their looking for then id suggest an opening along the lines "Hi love your profile and I think I tick all the boxes, care to chat ?"

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Ask yourself the question would you respond to the message you've sent if you had read your own bio does it resemble anything as you would if you read another bio you're sending the message to

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Ask yourself what is it about your profile, pictures and opening message that sets you apart from the hundreds of other guys profiles, pictures and opening messages.

If you can't answer that, Wathen there's your answer and work on trying set yourself apart by focusing on exentuating your own personality traits.

I do think some of my opening messages are different than what's usually said by other guys but still don't get opened to be fair "

Most people look at the profile before deciding whether to open a message or not so in many cases the message content is irrelevant.

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

Hi...do you wanna ride?

can't beat that ...or hey...you have great fat tits

or arse

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By *ildGroverMan
over a year ago

rathfarnham

"Hey all, maybe it's just me but no matter what I put for an opening message or in the subject line, I can barely get any women to even read my messages not to mind respond. And when they do read them, most don't respond either.

I've tried the nice approach, the joke, the flirty, the naughty and honestly, the outright graphic lol

What do women on here reccomend?"

If they aren’t bothered to read then it doesn’t matter what’s in it.

I don’t know what the secret is tbh

Though I think that the drop off in the “read rate” since 10 years ago is probably the added 10 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP my rule of thumb is that of I can think of something naturally , that I'd personally find interesting to read, to send someone after seeing their profile/forum posts/updates then I just don't bother

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you wanting profile tips or just messages?

Well if you have any ideas to improve my profile which could get me more messages, I'm all ears

There's nothing in your profile that I'd consider a red flag or off-putting. It just is a little low on wow-factor.

That being said, always be yourself in your pics and profile as that's who will be turning up to a date or a social.

Your pics are good to be fair. You look good. No toilets, no mess, nothing unpleasant, no 57978 dickpics.

Some like a fun pose. But then some are put off by googly eyes and cartoon emojis. Again, don't do what you don't like yourself.

As far as your 'wordy bit' goes. It's fine and nice, you seem a vety decent guy, but perhaps a little too tentative and shy for the fab search style.

One thing to consider is to maybe say if you are single or attached as having CANNOT ACCOM will be taken as a sign you are perhaps attached.

You seem like a lovely guy OP, good luck!

Am I picking it up wrong or do u mean take pictures of himself when he's not excited? hahah

And I'd agree with the "woordy bit" but not sure what'd be too much and I also don't want too far that I sound like a pervert hahah"

No, no I didn't mean 'himself'.

Just yourself in general

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do me next

Do you mean it or are you kidding?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do me next

Do you mean it or are you kidding?

Oh dear god please make this an actual thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tiny size versus full size pics is what I had meant.

A pic can look great when filling your own mobile screen but when the pic is uploaded it is just a small icon.

It'll be small obv yes, but also has less pixel definition when it transfers to fab, so is much less clear and less likely to grab attention as well as you might have expected.

It's a good idea to take another look after you have uploaded it to see if it's what you hoped it would be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do me next

Do you mean it or are you kidding?

Oh dear god please make this an actual thread"

The PROFILINATOR thread

Sounds illegal in 50 states

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By *rishguy086 OP Man
over a year ago

Limerick

"Hi...do you wanna ride?

can't beat that ...or hey...you have great fat tits

or arse

Hahahah I'm sure women would virtually slap me across the face if I said that hahaha

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

Do me next

Do you mean it or are you kidding?

Oh dear god please make this an actual thread

The PROFILINATOR thread

Sounds illegal in 50 states"

Which is why there's a load of Kinky Fabbers in the other 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually just say Hi, how’s life? Tell me about yourself etc I’ll ask them to tell me about themselves but most don’t respond back or the message just goes unread, but others just want really dirty talk in their first message and it’s not for me! I like to get to know someone first before doing anything like that. It’s different for everyone I suppose but it’s all about gaining that trust isn’t it?

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By *alvin.Man
over a year ago

Cork/Dublin

I don't message. Other than to say thank you for something.

However I'm tempted to start sending ones saying. "Hi Hun" (I reckon the ladies love being called hun so I'm putting my best foot forward) And then follow it up with "my knob is aching" If it sparks the ladies interest I'll probably disappoint them by letting them know in my follow up text that I caught it in a mousetrap. It wasent their lovely legs that made it ache

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't message. Other than to say thank you for something.

I dare you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do me next

Do you mean it or are you kidding?

Oh dear god please make this an actual thread

The PROFILINATOR thread

Sounds illegal in 50 states"

Girl you should start charging for this next they’ll be asking you to do their returns

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

Things that I haaaaate in an opening message:

Having any fun on here?

I’m in Galway tonight, wanna entertain me.

Tell me about yourself (nothing makes me forget anything mildly interesting about myself more than that question).

Telling me what they’d do to me given half a chance.

It’s really hard to advise on the perfect opening message but usually referencing something in their profile or something they’ve said in the forum is a good start. Begin a conversation about something, give something to respond to. All else fails, tell a joke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Things that I haaaaate in an opening message:

Having any fun on here?

I’m in Galway tonight, wanna entertain me.

Tell me about yourself (nothing makes me forget anything mildly interesting about myself more than that question).

Telling me what they’d do to me given half a chance.

E.g

Hi Jaffa just wondering are you an easy peel

Haha

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

I think the best opener is to introduce yourself and explain how you are what the person you're mailing is looking for. Reading their profile to see what they are looking for is a good start.

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By *alvin.Man
over a year ago

Cork/Dublin

"I don't message. Other than to say thank you for something.

I dare you

Dare me!!!!. Like...just mail a complete stranger. Say hi Hun. My knob aches. That's a big dare. If I do it, do I get to dare you back?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't message. Other than to say thank you for something.

I dare you

Dare me!!!!. Like...just mail a complete stranger. Say hi Hun. My knob aches. That's a big dare. If I do it, do I get to dare you back?

Of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself. We like to just chat about normal stuff first before getting into anything fab. No rush.

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By *r_Insatiable666Man
over a year ago

Cork

Here's a tip:

Never write the first message, it has about the same success rate

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By *alvin.Man
over a year ago

Cork/Dublin

"I don't message. Other than to say thank you for something.

I dare you

Dare me!!!!. Like...just mail a complete stranger. Say hi Hun. My knob aches. That's a big dare. If I do it, do I get to dare you back?

Of course

Done

. I wonder will I get an answer!.

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

"I don't message. Other than to say thank you for something.

I dare you

Dare me!!!!. Like...just mail a complete stranger. Say hi Hun. My knob aches. That's a big dare. If I do it, do I get to dare you back?

Of course

Done

. I wonder will I get an answer!."

Don't mind me being nosy but what's the counterdare?

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By *alvin.Man
over a year ago

Cork/Dublin

"I don't message. Other than to say thank you for something.

I dare you

Dare me!!!!. Like...just mail a complete stranger. Say hi Hun. My knob aches. That's a big dare. If I do it, do I get to dare you back?

Of course

Done

. I wonder will I get an answer!.

Don't mind me being nosy but what's the counterdare?

I think that's what's called stirring the pot

I've a few ideas. Suggestions gratefully received btw.

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

"I don't message. Other than to say thank you for something.

I dare you

Dare me!!!!. Like...just mail a complete stranger. Say hi Hun. My knob aches. That's a big dare. If I do it, do I get to dare you back?

Of course

Done

. I wonder will I get an answer!.

Don't mind me being nosy but what's the counterdare?

I think that's what's called stirring the pot

I've a few ideas. Suggestions gratefully received btw.

Oh I'll stay outta that

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