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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi guys, how you deal with “ when fun went to far “ , or regular fuck buddy felt in love with you, but you are can’t afford it to take place in your life outside of fab. How long in your opinion can have a regular fb to have just nsa fun time . Please share your experience and opinions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On way home from meeting a couple after a few meets. Text from female saying she loves me

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By *adger BrocMan
over a year ago

Co. Cork

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a guy for a year when I joined first, was never anything other than fwb, he was seeing other women and coupled up with one of them , I missed the friendship but would never have been anything more than fwb for me

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By *adger BrocMan
over a year ago

Co. Cork

Be careful how you trifle with other people's emotions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On way home from meeting a couple after a few meets. Text from female saying she loves me "

Ok night

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Be careful how you trifle with other people's emotions. "

I didn’t he did a big impact on me ,threatened me to come to my house and tell husband that he loves me, he followed me in every social media, called me on the phone day and night, two years took me to get rid of him. I lost weight and was stressed out. Now he found me again . I want just have a happy time here without any hassle, do I ask to much

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By *iscuits8Man
over a year ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

If he is currently hassling you on Fabz get the profile reported to admins asap

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"Be careful how you trifle with other people's emotions.

I didn’t he did a big impact on me ,threatened me to come to my house and tell husband that he loves me, he followed me in every social media, called me on the phone day and night, two years took me to get rid of him. I lost weight and was stressed out. Now he found me again . I want just have a happy time here without any hassle, do I ask to much "

I saw your update yesterday and I presume the admin deleted his account otherwise he's just looking at you posting here anyway

He can also read the threads as a non member just using Google

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I counteract this by ensuring my fab meets have a terrible time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If he is currently hassling you on Fabz get the profile reported to admins asap "

I blocked him, but not sure if he opened an other profile as he did before. I don’t want my life turn to hell again.

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland

Sounds like he is stalking you ,if he persists you might want to involve the guards !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If he is currently hassling you on Fabz get the profile reported to admins asap

I blocked him, but not sure if he opened an other profile as he did before. I don’t want my life turn to hell again. "

Obviously people shouldn't be run off by assholes.

But would you not question if being on fab is worth the potential stress and hassle again

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By *ellhithereMan
over a year ago

dublin

Wow

I am shocked- there does seem to be a few obsessives out there

It is important to keep a distance and stick to your own rules - never relent - as a lifestyle it’s important to separate and keep boundaries to protect your other life

I’m always worried about that

Stay safe ! And play safe

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If he is currently hassling you on Fabz get the profile reported to admins asap

I blocked him, but not sure if he opened an other profile as he did before. I don’t want my life turn to hell again.

Obviously people shouldn't be run off by assholes.

But would you not question if being on fab is worth the potential stress and hassle again"

I enjoying fab and happy to be part of the fab community, unfortunately I believe people more than somebody deserve it.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town


"If he is currently hassling you on Fabz get the profile reported to admins asap

I blocked him, but not sure if he opened an other profile as he did before. I don’t want my life turn to hell again. "

I guess when you meet someone regularly some do take the friends with benefits to the next level where feelings can come into the equation. While its not your fault and its easier to meet people regularly. Not saying all but it can look that your only meeting as you have feelings too. If it's gotten to stage where he's hassling you, report profile if he still persists and its getting more serious than you may have to contact the guards

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wow

I am shocked- there does seem to be a few obsessives out there

It is important to keep a distance and stick to your own rules - never relent - as a lifestyle it’s important to separate and keep boundaries to protect your other life

I’m always worried about that

Stay safe ! And play safe "

I thought it safe I am living in Wicklow, he is in Cork . The fun part was amazing then it turned wrong, he called me when I was with other guys on the middle of the meetings. Putting pressure on me all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi guys, how you deal with “ when fun went to far “ , or regular fuck buddy felt in love with you, but you are can’t afford it to take place in your life outside of fab. How long in your opinion can have a regular fb to have just nsa fun time . Please share your experience and opinions "

Friendships can easily turn into more especially in fuck buddy relationships, especially if you are both exclusive and not meeting others.

Having sex is one of the most intimate thing for 2 people, add close friendship and living part of your life that you couldn't discuss with anyone else, then yes feelings can easily form.

It obviously depends on the people but in my opinion and from previous experience, emotions do get involved and it can become awkward if and when one pulls the plug!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As you are being harassed and pursued both on and off fab, this is a matter for the Gardai. Keep a record of all contact and report him asap

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If he is currently hassling you on Fabz get the profile reported to admins asap

I blocked him, but not sure if he opened an other profile as he did before. I don’t want my life turn to hell again. I guess when you meet someone regularly some do take the friends with benefits to the next level where feelings can come into the equation. While it’s not your fault and its easier to meet people regularly. Not saying all but it can look that your only meeting as you have feelings too. If it's gotten to stage where he's hassling you, report profile if he still persists and its getting more serious than you may have to contact the guards "

I told him I going to get guards if he not leave me alone, I didn’t have any feelings for him only one as I terrified of him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If he is currently hassling you on Fabz get the profile reported to admins asap

I blocked him, but not sure if he opened an other profile as he did before. I don’t want my life turn to hell again. I guess when you meet someone regularly some do take the friends with benefits to the next level where feelings can come into the equation. While it’s not your fault and its easier to meet people regularly. Not saying all but it can look that your only meeting as you have feelings too. If it's gotten to stage where he's hassling you, report profile if he still persists and its getting more serious than you may have to contact the guards

I told him I going to get guards if he not leave me alone, I didn’t have any feelings for him only one as I terrified of him "

If he causing you distress please go to the guards, it's harassment if it's ongoing. Keep copy of all contact to show it's ongoing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi guys, how you deal with “ when fun went to far “ , or regular fuck buddy felt in love with you, but you are can’t afford it to take place in your life outside of fab. How long in your opinion can have a regular fb to have just nsa fun time . Please share your experience and opinions

Friendships can easily turn into more especially in fuck buddy relationships, especially if you are both exclusive and not meeting others.

Having sex is one of the most intimate thing for 2 people, add close friendship and living part of your life that you couldn't discuss with anyone else, then yes feelings can easily form.

It obviously depends on the people but in my opinion and from previous experience, emotions do get involved and it can become awkward if and when one pulls the plug!!!

"

Forgot to add it happened to me years ago. Stalked etc so I had to leave Fab and just blanked him via other media.

Good luck with getting it sorted x

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By *ellhithereMan
over a year ago

dublin

You need the cops to have a word

They will call to him and will be confidential in dealing with your involvement - as far as your relationship and life is concerned

But you can’t let this continue

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

He still on fab and he in my block list. I don’t use anymore Facebook, instagram , he blocked on my Snapchat and his phone number is blocked on my phone , few days ago somehow he contacted me on kik ( he was blocked in there) I just wrote him back “ leave me alone or I will contact guards” . Now I am hope he got this message for sure. I don’t want to make a big deal but I can’t get it going again .

Thank all of you for supporting and help really appreciate

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By *iscuits8Man
over a year ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham


"He still on fab and he in my block list. I don’t use anymore Facebook, instagram , he blocked on my Snapchat and his phone number is blocked on my phone , few days ago somehow he contacted me on kik ( he was blocked in there) I just wrote him back “ leave me alone or I will contact guards” . Now I am hope he got this message for sure. I don’t want to make a big deal but I can’t get it going again .

Thank all of you for supporting and help really appreciate "

Has he contacted since the Kik message when you threatened garda action?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He still on fab and he in my block list. I don’t use anymore Facebook, instagram , he blocked on my Snapchat and his phone number is blocked on my phone , few days ago somehow he contacted me on kik ( he was blocked in there) I just wrote him back “ leave me alone or I will contact guards” . Now I am hope he got this message for sure. I don’t want to make a big deal but I can’t get it going again .

Thank all of you for supporting and help really appreciate

Has he contacted since the Kik message when you threatened garda action?"

Not yet and hopefully won’t, I threatened him before and he goes quite for a while and then come back. I just want to be left alone is that hard to get that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi guys, how you deal with “ when fun went to far “ , or regular fuck buddy felt in love with you, but you are can’t afford it to take place in your life outside of fab. How long in your opinion can have a regular fb to have just nsa fun time . Please share your experience and opinions

Friendships can easily turn into more especially in fuck buddy relationships, especially if you are both exclusive and not meeting others.

Having sex is one of the most intimate thing for 2 people, add close friendship and living part of your life that you couldn't discuss with anyone else, then yes feelings can easily form.

It obviously depends on the people but in my opinion and from previous experience, emotions do get involved and it can become awkward if and when one pulls the plug!!!

Forgot to add it happened to me years ago. Stalked etc so I had to leave Fab and just blanked him via other media.

Good luck with getting it sorted x"

I did leave Fab for 2 years after happened and opened new profile ( that what I have now is second secret one, but he found me on it again)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If he is currently hassling you on Fabz get the profile reported to admins asap

I blocked him, but not sure if he opened an other profile as he did before. I don’t want my life turn to hell again. I guess when you meet someone regularly some do take the friends with benefits to the next level where feelings can come into the equation. While its not your fault and its easier to meet people regularly. Not saying all but it can look that your only meeting as you have feelings too. If it's gotten to stage where he's hassling you, report profile if he still persists and its getting more serious than you may have to contact the guards "

That why I can’t reply to guys as soon as I see “ I am looking for a regular partner in crime “ is put me in stress straight away, I think it’s getting attached again to close , same I afraid to meet a second time with a guy ( even it was great fun) just in case he start going be same way again.

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By *lassy lady 216Woman
over a year ago

Craigavon

This is why I very much stay single on this have been on here over 8yrs and have never had a regular while yes it would be nice I don't want feelings and emotions getting in the way I work very long hrs and my job is very stressful so this is my realease don't need the hassle of someone falling for me and giving me hassle some very sad people out there who just love causing people hassle and stress

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is why I very much stay single on this have been on here over 8yrs and have never had a regular while yes it would be nice I don't want feelings and emotions getting in the way I work very long hrs and my job is very stressful so this is my realease don't need the hassle of someone falling for me and giving me hassle some very sad people out there who just love causing people hassle and stress "

Completely agree with you

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"On way home from meeting a couple after a few meets. Text from female saying she loves me "

Forward it to her partner

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"Be careful how you trifle with other people's emotions.

I didn’t he did a big impact on me ,threatened me to come to my house and tell husband that he loves me, he followed me in every social media, called me on the phone day and night, two years took me to get rid of him. I lost weight and was stressed out. Now he found me again . I want just have a happy time here without any hassle, do I ask to much "

just talk to a decent gard and they will tell him back of ... discreetly...

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"On way home from meeting a couple after a few meets. Text from female saying she loves me

Forward it to her partner "

Definitely not.....delete and block.....why would you try to destroy a couple....feelings can develop so you remove yourself away from them

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"Wow

I am shocked- there does seem to be a few obsessives out there

It is important to keep a distance and stick to your own rules - never relent - as a lifestyle it’s important to separate and keep boundaries to protect your other life

I’m always worried about that

Stay safe ! And play safe

I thought it safe I am living in Wicklow, he is in Cork . The fun part was amazing then it turned wrong, he called me when I was with other guys on the middle of the meetings. Putting pressure on me all the time "

Take steps to put an end to it or sleep in the bed you made . If blocking isn't enough and he is becoming a stalker then go to the guards. If he is going to tell your partner things you don't want them to know stop doing the things, Or take all his control and tell your partner yourself. Maybe consider removing yourself from areas where he can Be in contact with you. It's a tough one but if you do nothing it will get even tougher. What do you think you should do

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford


"On way home from meeting a couple after a few meets. Text from female saying she loves me

Forward it to her partner

Definitely not.....delete and block.....why would you try to destroy a couple....feelings can develop so you remove yourself away from them "

Honesty is the best policy...

Its not a case of destroying anything ...would you want to know bog if you were evolved?

I do take your point .. might be easier to just block and not meet again ,

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"On way home from meeting a couple after a few meets. Text from female saying she loves me

Forward it to her partner

Definitely not.....delete and block.....why would you try to destroy a couple....feelings can develop so you remove yourself away from them

Honesty is the best policy...

Its not a case of destroying anything ...would you want to know bog if you were evolved?

I do take your point .. might be easier to just block and not meet again , "

I'm not a couple on here inviting someone else into a relationship but I'd imagine one of the things they discuss is what happens if one of us gets feelings for an fb

I'd imagine they remove the third person if thats the case

But if one is lying because they get some feelings then it has to be up to the third person to do the right thing.....in my opinion

I know couples on here who are the result of developing feelings and marriages torn apart but I'd say just because its a sex site doesn't make it any easier than a marriage breakdown with sex behind someone's back

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