FabSwingers.com forum: Meeting a blockee at a social.

By *adger Broc OP Man
over a year ago

Co. Cork

Is it awkward if you meet someone from your blocked list at a social meet.

How should you react?

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By *rAndMrsRightCouple
over a year ago

newtownabbey

Don't react. Just avoid.

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By *adger Broc OP Man
over a year ago

Co. Cork

"Don't react. Just avoid. "

But you might not recognise them until you have started chatting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Build a rocket boy build a rocket boy

Haha elbow amazing

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

Happened to me...I just ignored

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Just ignore and move on done it plenty of times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See, this is why I have avoided big events.... nightmare scenario, social claustrophobia.

Can't avoid the undesirables the way I can by navigating away from them on here

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By *on Draper2.0Man
over a year ago

Maynooth

"Don't react. Just avoid.

But you might not recognise them until you have started chatting "

Well if the chatting goes well and they seem nice, perhaps you could reconsider you blockage.

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

"Don't react. Just avoid.

But you might not recognise them until you have started chatting

Well if the chatting goes well and they seem nice, perhaps you could reconsider you blockage."

Never unclog a blockage

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By *iscuits8Man
over a year ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

A stern old fashioned finger wag and move on I say...

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Make a really big deal about it and demand to why they blocked me or make a really big deal about and then I'll proceed to give them a detail explanation as to why I blocked them.

Seems the most mature way to deal with the situation imo.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

"Don't react. Just avoid.

But you might not recognise them until you have started chatting

Well if the chatting goes well and they seem nice, perhaps you could reconsider you blockage."

This! Some people are just rubbish at communicating online but are lovely face to face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Treat it like a normal pub scenario

There's always a knobend somewhere

So avoid

Simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Treat it like a normal pub scenario

There's always a knobend somewhere

So avoid

Simples "

This I've been to one or two socials and just avoided the blocked person

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By *rAndMrsRightCouple
over a year ago

newtownabbey

"See, this is why I have avoided big events.... nightmare scenario, social claustrophobia.

Can't avoid the undesirables the way I can by navigating away from them on here

Responsible organisers will always make sure that anyone who is known for "undesirable" behaviour won't be able to attend their event.

Also responsible organisers do listen to their guests and if someone has mistreated one of their guests and it gets reported to the organiser - they will not invite the offendee.

We have attended events where someone was on our block list for one reason or another and have never had an issue - there's always plenty of space and people to interact with, without having to bump into anyone you don't want to have a conversation or any other contact with.

Missus

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By *adger Broc OP Man
over a year ago

Co. Cork

I think;

For a blockee, (blocked by you)

Curt hello and a speedy retreat.

For a blocker, (they blocked you),

Full on charm offensive making them feel they have made a big mistake and now trying desperately to undo the damage.

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By *rAndMrsRightCouple
over a year ago

newtownabbey

"Don't react. Just avoid.

But you might not recognise them until you have started chatting "

Never had that happen personally, but I don't know...

If the chat is good and you genuinely have a connection - depending on what you blocked them for - you can either address the issue or just laugh it off.

Depending on the reason why the block happened - if its something serious and you most definitely stand by your block, just make polite excuse and move on.

If it was nothing serious i.e. you blocked a profile because they didn't reply quickly enough - then I don't see an issue with continuing contact.

Missus

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Let's be honest unless you're the one that done the blocking you don't know who has ye blocked would you really care if you did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't react. Just avoid.

But you might not recognise them until you have started chatting

Well if the chatting goes well and they seem nice, perhaps you could reconsider you blockage.

This! Some people are just rubbish at communicating online but are lovely face to face. "

Yes definitely this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Make a really big deal about it and demand to why they blocked me or make a really big deal about and then I'll proceed to give them a detail explanation as to why I blocked them.

Seems the most mature way to deal with the situation imo."

And mm definitely not this

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By *iscuits8Man
over a year ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

Jaysus... I'd love to be in a room with everyone who has me blocked on this! I'd genuinely just try and make light of it and knock some craic of the whole thing

(and have a swift exit plan in the event of awkwardness...)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on what the block is for.

I block some people because their status updates annoy me and clog up my feed, I'm sure they are grand people like.

If I had someone blocked for a specific reason, one that would mean I'd not want to socialise with them off of fab I'd have no problem cutting the conversation short.

For every person that is just bad at communicating online but lovely in person there is someone who is lovely face to face but let's their true nasty self out when they are safe behind a computer screen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it awkward if you meet someone from your blocked list at a social meet.

How should you react?

Dont tell them your username, get them all hot & bothered then tell them that they were blocked by you

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By *adger Broc OP Man
over a year ago

Co. Cork

"Let's be honest unless you're the one that done the blocking you don't know who has ye blocked would you really care if you did

Am I mistaken but if they come up in a general search and you click on them it will tell you that they have you blocked

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By *adger Broc OP Man
over a year ago

Co. Cork

"Is it awkward if you meet someone from your blocked list at a social meet.

How should you react?

Dont tell them your username, get them all hot & bothered then tell them that they were blocked by you

Fab needs to be fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jaysus... I'd love to be in a room with everyone who has me blocked on this! I'd genuinely just try and make light of it and knock some craic of the whole thing

(and have a swift exit plan in the event of awkwardness...)

Yippie lol

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

"Let's be honest unless you're the one that done the blocking you don't know who has ye blocked would you really care if you did

Am I mistaken but if they come up in a general search and you click on them it will tell you that they have you blocked "

I don't go looking for profiles so couldn't give a fiddler's fuck who has me blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let's be honest unless you're the one that done the blocking you don't know who has ye blocked would you really care if you did

Am I mistaken but if they come up in a general search and you click on them it will tell you that they have you blocked

I don't go looking for profiles so couldn't give a fiddler's fuck who has me blocked

Same here Lolly .. fuck them

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By *adger Broc OP Man
over a year ago

Co. Cork

"Let's be honest unless you're the one that done the blocking you don't know who has ye blocked would you really care if you did

Am I mistaken but if they come up in a general search and you click on them it will tell you that they have you blocked

I don't go looking for profiles so couldn't give a fiddler's fuck who has me blocked

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Not all of us are lucky enough to be inundated with messages and meet invites.

Surely the whole purpose of the site is for people to search for like-minded people who they can make contact with.

Otherwise why would there be a search button.

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

"Let's be honest unless you're the one that done the blocking you don't know who has ye blocked would you really care if you did

Am I mistaken but if they come up in a general search and you click on them it will tell you that they have you blocked

I don't go looking for profiles so couldn't give a fiddler's fuck who has me blocked

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Not all of us are lucky enough to be inundated with messages and meet invites.

Surely the whole purpose of the site is for people to search for like-minded people who they can make contact with.

Otherwise why would there be a search button.

Im not indutated with messages thank fuck ive my filters set as tight as a ducks ass but i can honestly say ive never clicked on a profile that i might be interested in that had me blocked ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But people also make people out too be what their not just so others are influenced by someone else’s opinion

Without all the big words trying too make them feel like I’m so educated it’s not funny

Ah fuck off

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By *adger Broc OP Man
over a year ago

Co. Cork

"Let's be honest unless you're the one that done the blocking you don't know who has ye blocked would you really care if you did

Am I mistaken but if they come up in a general search and you click on them it will tell you that they have you blocked

I don't go looking for profiles so couldn't give a fiddler's fuck who has me blocked

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Not all of us are lucky enough to be inundated with messages and meet invites.

Surely the whole purpose of the site is for people to search for like-minded people who they can make contact with.

Otherwise why would there be a search button.

Im not indutated with messages thank fuck ive my filters set as tight as a ducks ass but i can honestly say ive never clicked on a profile that i might be interested in that had me blocked ...."

And I have....

Maybe I give people more reason, not deliberately, to block me.

I guess we all have different experiences in our interactions with the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignore them. There's always enough people at socials for it not to be an issue.

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By *DSGCouple
over a year ago

That place in

I'd probably forgotten I blocked them or don't know I'm blocked by them

Was at a party once and we knew we were blocked by a couple but by the end of the night we were unblocked and since played with them lol

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

There's people on the forums that have me blocked but we share a conversation every now and then in a thread

Socials are normally so big that I'd imagine it would be hard to go looking for them to chat to anyway

Sure if you end up saying hello being polite if you're introduced then no harm for small talk for a minute or two and off again

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By *adger Broc OP Man
over a year ago

Co. Cork

"There's people on the forums that have me blocked but we share a conversation every now and then in a thread

Socials are normally so big that I'd imagine it would be hard to go looking for them to chat to anyway

Sure if you end up saying hello being polite if you're introduced then no harm for small talk for a minute or two and off again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's people on the forums that have me blocked but we share a conversation every now and then in a thread

Socials are normally so big that I'd imagine it would be hard to go looking for them to chat to anyway

Sure if you end up saying hello being polite if you're introduced then no harm for small talk for a minute or two and off again

I'd not be arsed. Life's too short to give pieces of me to folk I can't abide.

Tbh my block list is so long it's way way past the limit of what's listed on the tab. I have lots of different reasons for blocking. Filtering for not wanting to meet or not liking their profile or posts, lots of reasons.

I don't t remember the why for the majority but if they're there it's not for no reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope it wasn’t me who blocked you

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

If I was to worry about bumping in to people who have blocked me I'd never go to any social.

I don't fall for the yarn that some people are better face to face because a 5 min chat at a social tells me far less than the more consistent shitstirring face they present on the forums or in private messages.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Happened to me. Chatting to a girl at an event for ages, all going well, try to add her as a friend but can't find the profile. Check spelling, all good. Only later on realise she was on my blacklist.

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By *adger Broc OP Man
over a year ago

Co. Cork

"Hope it wasn’t me who blocked you

Not you.....we are totally unblocked.....

But who knows maybe one day I will get to block you.

And yes that is a euphemism.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I was to worry about bumping in to people who have blocked me I'd never go to any social.

Does drama have a whiff like gunsmoke?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"If I was to worry about bumping in to people who have blocked me I'd never go to any social.

Does drama have a whiff like gunsmoke?"

No idea because others are too busy blowing it up arses and it doesn't linger long.

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By *itemeagainMan
over a year ago

Wexford

Clear your block list before you go ... simples

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By *adger Broc OP Man
over a year ago

Co. Cork

Sadly the "big B" list grows longer.

Personal preferences prevail.

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By *allyWally19Woman
over a year ago

The Road to Nowhere

I didn't meet a blockee but I did run into someone I'd said no to. We were both able to have a laugh about it. I'll admit when I make a mistake...turned out to be a very good night indeed!

If I copped it was someone I'd blocked and was in conversation with them, I'd probably just try to politely phase them out and avoid

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south

"I didn't meet a blockee but I did run into someone I'd said no to. We were both able to have a laugh about it. I'll admit when I make a mistake...turned out to be a very good night indeed!

If I copped it was someone I'd blocked and was in conversation with them, I'd probably just try to politely phase them out and avoid "
you might not recognise them with their clothes on lol

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By *adger Broc OP Man
over a year ago

Co. Cork

"I didn't meet a blockee but I did run into someone I'd said no to. We were both able to have a laugh about it. I'll admit when I make a mistake...turned out to be a very good night indeed!

If I copped it was someone I'd blocked and was in conversation with them, I'd probably just try to politely phase them out and avoid "

I suppose its better not to burn your bridges ..... otherwise you could end up being the one that gets roasted.

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south

"I didn't meet a blockee but I did run into someone I'd said no to. We were both able to have a laugh about it. I'll admit when I make a mistake...turned out to be a very good night indeed!

If I copped it was someone I'd blocked and was in conversation with them, I'd probably just try to politely phase them out and avoid

I suppose its better not to burn your bridges ..... otherwise you could end up being the one that gets roasted.

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We should have a blocked social and if we don’t like them we can block them again lol

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By *adger Broc OP Man
over a year ago

Co. Cork

"I didn't meet a blockee but I did run into someone I'd said no to. We were both able to have a laugh about it. I'll admit when I make a mistake...turned out to be a very good night indeed!

If I copped it was someone I'd blocked and was in conversation with them, I'd probably just try to politely phase them out and avoid

I suppose its better not to burn your bridges ..... otherwise you could end up being the one that gets roasted.

We should have a blocked social and if we don’t like them we can block them again lol "

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Now that's a really good idea .

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By *unsigntwoCouple
over a year ago

athlone

"Happened to me...I just ignored

Happened us a few times you just ignore work around them, they may not know you have then blocked,and then some might have you blocked in return !!

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