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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve been ghosted so many times over the past fortnight and I’m hoping my fab friends can give me a possible reason why?

I have chatted, exchanged pics, chatted some more, exchanged numbers etc everything is good then nothing!!!!

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By *amsevenMan
over a year ago

cork

More or less my experience of fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People lose interest. Don't take it personally, you're not what they're looking for, simple as

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"People lose interest. Don't take it personally, you're not what they're looking for, simple as "

Pretty much this.

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By *alwayVixenWoman
over a year ago

Galway

Women particularly, get a lot of messages and I know I’m guilty of reading and forgetting to reply, so it might be worth a follow-up message.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

A lack of inperson verification won't be helping you. Get yourself to an event and get meet verified. That should help reassure potential play meets.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Maybe look at what all those conversations have in common.

Are you coming across as too keen?

Exchanging phone numbers too fast?

It could be any number of things as well as lack of interest on their part but there is usually a common denominator if it is happening so often in such a short space of time.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick


"I’ve been ghosted so many times over the past fortnight and I’m hoping my fab friends can give me a possible reason why?

I have chatted, exchanged pics, chatted some more, exchanged numbers etc everything is good then nothing!!!! "

Sometimes we chat without checking out the profile. Maybe there's something in there that turns them off when they eventually check it out? Your attached status maybe?

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By *ol_ieMan
over a year ago

Dublin west

Happens here and on all the dating apps.

It's just part of life a d you have to get used to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women particularly, get a lot of messages and I know I’m guilty of reading and forgetting to reply, so it might be worth a follow-up message."

Just to cover all your bases.. try a few follow up messages lol ??????

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By *allyWally19Woman
over a year ago

The Road to Nowhere


"People lose interest. Don't take it personally, you're not what they're looking for, simple as "

This but also...is it ghosting if you haven't met them?

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Don't invest so much of your time in online coversations. Also, if you've agreed to exchange numbers I'd also suggest doing it on the back of arranging a phone/video call. Work towards naturally progressing interactions rather than endless online chat, unless it's very short, intermittent messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Webster dictionary definition of Ghosting "the act or practice of abruptly cutting off all contact with someone (such as a former romantic partner) usually without explanation by no longer accepting or responding to phone calls, instant messages, etc.

I think what you're experiencing is something different to ghosting had the people arranged a meet etc. I've chatted to people and conversations might tail off but I wouldn't call that being ghosted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People lose interest. Don't take it personally, you're not what they're looking for, simple as

This but also...is it ghosting if you haven't met them? "

Not in my book, no. People invest way too much in online interaction

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By *allyWally19Woman
over a year ago

The Road to Nowhere


"People lose interest. Don't take it personally, you're not what they're looking for, simple as

This but also...is it ghosting if you haven't met them?

Not in my book, no. People invest way too much in online interaction "

Different strokes for different folks I guess

Based on the definition provided, yep, could be classed as ghosting OP. And an ideal world, everyone would be polite & do the whole 'thanks but no thanks bit'. I think you possibly ARE investing too much in online interactions and maybe, for yourself, take a step back & look at that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Tbh I think that’s utter nonsense! How long does it take you to figure out that someone isn’t for you? I doubt it gets to the point were you have already given them your number!?

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By *oe Cool xxxMan
over a year ago

South Dublin

Because ur not In the fab Clique maybe

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"Tbh I think that’s utter nonsense! How long does it take you to figure out that someone isn’t for you? I doubt it gets to the point were you have already given them your number!? "

Giving a number out within 2 weeks of just chatting could lead to problems later to be honest

Your number could be linked to to your social media ,then the blackm**l attempts start

Very easy to fall into that trap

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"Because ur not In the fab Clique maybe "

Most people aren't in any group of friends or know anyone until they go to a social or party

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because ur not In the fab Clique maybe "

I love the clique and collect service on Fab so handy

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By *idoMan
over a year ago

dublin/meath

It's just the way fab is get over it eventually someone will meet up.just go with the flow and don't get you're Hope's up until your in a room with the person lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tbh I think that’s utter nonsense! How long does it take you to figure out that someone isn’t for you? I doubt it gets to the point were you have already given them your number!? "

What do you think the reason is yourself then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tbh I think that’s utter nonsense! How long does it take you to figure out that someone isn’t for you? I doubt it gets to the point were you have already given them your number!? "

Op some people are together for twenty or thirty years before they realize they weren’t meant for each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tbh I think that’s utter nonsense! How long does it take you to figure out that someone isn’t for you? I doubt it gets to the point were you have already given them your number!?

Op some people are together for twenty or thirty years before they realize they weren’t meant for each other "

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Tbh I think that’s utter nonsense! How long does it take you to figure out that someone isn’t for you? I doubt it gets to the point were you have already given them your number!? "

Well you must give out your number pretty quickly if you have been ghosted a load of times in the last fortnight.

And if you think the issue isn't that they lose interest or you aren't for them why do you think they cut off contact ?

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By *traight sligoguy67Man
over a year ago

sligo

I presume women get a lot of messages so they're probably chatting a few people at a time, nothing wrong with that and then maybe they just find someone they "click" with a bit better, nothing wrong with that also.

And then probably just don't wanna go explaining things, pretty standard really I'd say.

I've been chatting a few people myself, getting on grand then nothing.

Just the way it goes man.

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By *traight sligoguy67Man
over a year ago

sligo


"Because ur not In the fab Clique maybe

I love the clique and collect service on Fab so handy

"

Is there a link

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By *oe Cool xxxMan
over a year ago

South Dublin

I’ve gut something for you to clique and collect ????

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

It happens to us all don't take it to heart just block them and move on don't let it get you down

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