FabSwingers.com forum: Ladies. - how quickly do you cum an why?

By *dfab OP Man
over a year ago

Dunboyne

So I've been with women whom I can get to orgasm in 2mins and others in 20mins.

I've experienced both in oral/fingers/toys/penetration.

I'm asking the women of Fab how they orgasm, why, how quickly, the different types, g spot/clit/C spot/anal/etc. The scenarios that make a difference, the clothing you are wearing, whatever heightens your arousal.

Interested in the longer also and what gets you there.

Do you have a method that you use only alone that does it quicker and, if so, why you don't share that with your current or incoming partner? Or do you?

There are no wrong answers and the men of Fab are delighted with your answers in advance

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By *dfab OP Man
over a year ago

Dunboyne

"So I've been with women whom I can get to orgasm in 2mins and others in 20mins.

I've experienced both in oral/fingers/toys/penetration.

Interested in the longer also and what gets you there.

Do you have a method that you use only alone that does it quicker and, if so, why you don't share that with your current or incoming partner? Or do you?

There are no wrong answers and the men of Fab are delighted with your answers in advance

Nobody? Cum on ladies, give us some clues and we may give you some tips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I've been with women whom I can get to orgasm in 2mins and others in 20mins.

I've experienced both in oral/fingers/toys/penetration.

Interested in the longer also and what gets you there.

Do you have a method that you use only alone that does it quicker and, if so, why you don't share that with your current or incoming partner? Or do you?

There are no wrong answers and the men of Fab are delighted with your answers in advance

Nobody? Cum on ladies, give us some clues and we may give you some tips

I orgasm so easily that I really don't need any tips, but thanks for your concern.

Personally, I think a lot of it is psychological, in that there is an element of surrendering. Then, some women are merely luckier than others, when it comes to their ability to orgasm.

I experience different types of orgasm, in terms of their origin, as well as different levels. I enjoy them all, for varying reasons. I don't enjoy very intense vibrations, if using a toy, as it causes me to orgasm very quickly, but it doesn't tend to feel complete.

As much as I love to orgasm, I also really enjoy being brought very close to the edge, over & over, too.

As to methods, there is no one size fits all. I think that taking the time to explore one's body, alone, is key. Then, a partner can be guided and/or introduce some methods of their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hopefully you get more answers I need all the help I can get

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By *astelloWoman
over a year ago

Far far away

Definitely one size does not fit all. Every women has their own pace and arousal. One thing is that it takes time... My pet peeve is as quickly as an erection can pop up, does not equate to arousal on the female side..

Also less is more, the modus operandi on fab is fingers, tongues, toys, rewind, repeat... For me as a sensualist, I prefer a concentrated approach, with open feedback. Also my erogenous zones are not always the genitalia.

Aa stated above, each women has their own preferences..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I light a scented candle on my way out and they can do it themselves....

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Tricky to summarise any general rules just for myself not even to mention for all those fabulous women out there. Anyhow here some lines out of my instruction manual:

It takes me forever with oral, it gets so boring that the chances are way higher of me falling asleep than having an orgasm.

Fingerplay, the probably most reliable and fastest way to peak. However only my fingers can do it (by only I mean only). I never put a stop watch to it, but I'd say on average 10 to 15 minutes. The more I drag it out the more intense the orgasm, but it doesn't always work.

So that leaves the intercourse for the lads. The sucess formula is rather complicated and entails several variants such as intimacy, skills, position, mental stimuli, mood etc. I can however say with certainty that I don't cum after a few trusts and it needs some stamina to get me there.

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By *icevicebabyWoman
over a year ago

in the waves

I can cum quickly playing alone. Especially with my own fingers or certain toys. Within a couple minutes if I'm really amped up.

With men it depends on various things. Oral generally is the key to success, but it needs to be the right technique and not being attacked like a dogs dinner.

And for penetrative sex I cum easier on top, but other positions work well too depending on the guy.

There's no one size fits All approach.

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By *dfab OP Man
over a year ago

Dunboyne

Thanks to all who replied. Always interesting to read the different elements that work for different folks

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By *riendly_fun_guyMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"Thanks to all who replied. Always interesting to read the different elements that work for different folks

xx"

I agree - thanks to all who replied it was an interesting read and the only common thread was…. Everyone is different, but knowing, listening and giving guidance are the keys to success

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks to all who replied. Always interesting to read the different elements that work for different folks

xx"

You are welcome.

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

city

Ive always taken the approach that the woman has her orgasm, and the man is her assistant, he's not always necessary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think its obviously different for each individual.

Foreplay is sex for women in my opinion penetration is for the men to finsih

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"Think its obviously different for each individual.

Foreplay is sex for women in my opinion penetration is for the men to finsih "

Well that's bit general too. From comments on here I noticed that a fair amount of women beside myself love a good 'fuck' and not just a spurt on the finishing line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think its obviously different for each individual.

Foreplay is sex for women in my opinion penetration is for the men to finsih

Well that's bit general too. From comments on here I noticed that a fair amount of women beside myself love a good 'fuck' and not just a spurt on the finishing line.

General yes but the exception does not make the rule.

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By *llaboutfun..Man
over a year ago

Cavan

"Hopefully you get more answers I need all the help I can get

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By *unkildareguyMan
over a year ago

maynooth

"So I've been with women whom I can get to orgasm in 2mins and others in 20mins.

I've experienced both in oral/fingers/toys/penetration.

Interested in the longer also and what gets you there.

Do you have a method that you use only alone that does it quicker and, if so, why you don't share that with your current or incoming partner? Or do you?

There are no wrong answers and the men of Fab are delighted with your answers in advance

Nobody? Cum on ladies, give us some clues and we may give you some tips

I orgasm so easily that I really don't need any tips, but thanks for your concern.

Personally, I think a lot of it is psychological, in that there is an element of surrendering. Then, some women are merely luckier than others, when it comes to their ability to orgasm.

As much as I love to orgasm, I also really enjoy being brought very close to the edge, over & over, too.

As to methods, there is no one size fits all. I think that taking the time to explore one's body, alone, is key. Then, a partner can be guided and/or introduce some methods of their own. "

You like being brought to the boil and left to simmer for a while

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By *otass and scorpioCouple
over a year ago

limerick cork tipperary clare waterford

Women can have orgasms ? ?? Lol

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"Women can have orgasms ? ?? Lol

Yes and even without men's help, shock horror

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By *otass and scorpioCouple
over a year ago

limerick cork tipperary clare waterford

"Women can have orgasms ? ?? Lol

Yes and even without men's help, shock horror

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I don’t believe it … it’s a myth just like the g spot !!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Can we get an orgasm event thread please so guys can work out who they can squeeze into busy schedules?

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By *itlbeeCouple
over a year ago

It's not the exception.

You already came to a conclusion. and you're conclusion is not based on what women say about themselves.

I would definitely disagree with your view, based on the experience of sleeping with nearly entirely bi-women during our swaps. They always end up gravitating away from me and back to my guy. they definitely WANT penetration.

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By *itlbeeCouple
over a year ago

I think guys downplay how hugely mental it is.

I've seen it describing as women saying they need to 'focus' on order to orgasm. Whereas men say they need to focus in order to NOT orgasm.

I definitely need to really focus non the moment and get really mentally aroused. I noticed I often can't come at all if i've had one to many drinks.

There can be times that i'm feeling really into it, really comfortable and relaxed and having a long horny make out session and the slightest touch gets me off.

Other times where I'm a bit awkward, distracted, often with someone new, where no matter what he does, I am not going to get there. The right headspace is a requirement for me.

Another curveball I have is that my clitoris is really sensitive (in a bad way) and receiving direct friction on it feels terrible. So a lot of guys who try to rub me or eat me out actually are doing a terrible job, even though the same technique might work with other women.

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By *oursexyassWoman
over a year ago

Westmeath/rosscommon

What about women that cant orgasam

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"I think guys downplay how hugely mental it is.

I've seen it describing as women saying they need to 'focus' on order to orgasm. Whereas men say they need to focus in order to NOT orgasm.

I definitely need to really focus non the moment and get really mentally aroused. I noticed I often can't come at all if i've had one to many drinks.

There can be times that i'm feeling really into it, really comfortable and relaxed and having a long horny make out session and the slightest touch gets me off.

Other times where I'm a bit awkward, distracted, often with someone new, where no matter what he does, I am not going to get there. The right headspace is a requirement for me.

I can identify with all of that

A woman's body is one big erogenous zone which responds to lots and lots of kissing and sensual touch.

But guys often go straight for the clit and it feels like an electric shock for all the wrong reasons

I find this happens a lot at parties...presumably because they want to get to the main act as quickly as possible, or because they don't know what works.

We may be different in what works but I'm pretty confident that a long horny make out session (as mentioned above

) works for all of us ladies.

So guys sensuality, kissing, patience and communication is really the key to unlocking what works for us (in case you were quietly wondering)

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By *ATINE_SATINEWoman
over a year ago

Kilbarrack

I take a medication that makes me take HOURS to cum.

Most part of the times I have sex I don't cum at all.

Even masturbating I can take hours.

I always inform my partners before getting into the bedroom.

At the moment, the only way I can cum with a partner is using my Satisfyer and having both nipples at the same time.

The bright side is that my orgasm is fucking more intense and long. Yay!??

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By *dfab OP Man
over a year ago

Dunboyne

Brilliant responses, thanks folks.

I've often found variety to be key but the most essential element is reading the signals correctly.

Some enjoy the slow sensual stroking and kissing, exploring softly before touching the vulva. Others try to encourage you to get straight to it.

These approaches can often be from the same woman but at different times, so awareness of her mood is key and don't be a point focussed partner at the wrong time.

For the sensitive clit, or for teasing the ones who want you to dive in, I often find the lying sideways and paying oral attention across the labia and clit hood gives more enjoyment.

Others can be further aroused when you include a little rimming, whereas some will direct you away.

There's obviously a lot that can happen before that, such as nipple/breast play, spanking, hot/cold play (don't), toys, others, etc. but for brevity we are going to stick to vanilla foreplay and orgasms for women here.

Everybody's different and reading the body is best, cos reading the mind of any partner will likely require an aspirin!

Thanks again to all who got involved and for your very honest responses. All are read in good humour and with an open and learning mind

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"It's not the exception.

You already came to a conclusion. and you're conclusion is not based on what women say about themselves.

His conjecture might be a better match with his stamina.

Sure what would we women know anyway...

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

From my experience women absolutely need penertration. It's an essential part of the mental stimulation which is big part for an orgasm. While a direct orgasm from penetration might be less common than other means, that feeling of a hard cock inside them is almost impossible to replicate through a toy.

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By *uppy2017Woman
over a year ago

galway

Maybe you need to conduct a controlled experiment …

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

I have a friend who can cum without any physical stimulation…..

She says she thinks of me…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a friend who can cum without any physical stimulation…..

She says she thinks of me…..

To stop it happening in public?

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

"I have a friend who can cum without any physical stimulation…..

She says she thinks of me…..

To stop it happening in public?"

Probably…….

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By *ATINE_SATINEWoman
over a year ago

Kilbarrack

"From my experience women absolutely need penertration. It's an essential part of the mental stimulation which is big part for an orgasm. While a direct orgasm from penetration might be less common than other means, that feeling of a hard cock inside them is almost impossible to replicate through a toy. "

You couldn't be more wrong

Sex can offer orgasms without penetration.

People with vulvas are so diverse that you must learn what your partner enjoys. It seems you are that kind of person that approaches all ladies in the same way.

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By *indenMan
over a year ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

Which goes to show the difference in people and their experiences, I’ve had women cum from nothing more that the tip of my finger or my tongue, and I’ve had previously married women cum from penetrative sex for the first time.

Everyone is different, it’s what makes it fun.

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

There's no one right answer for me. So many different factors - how long since I've had sex, how long since I've masturbated, where am I in my cycle, how is my mood, my physical and emotional health, who am I having sex with and what is going on within that relationship/friendship? What vibes is he sending off etc, etc...

These factors all impact on how I orgasm and how quickly or slowly I get there, if I do get there, which isn't always and I'm ok with that too because it's about the journey not the destination

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By *traight sligoguy67Man
over a year ago

sligo

"I light a scented candle on my way out and they can do it themselves...."

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

A cock comes with a pulse and body temperature

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

city

It's not often i flatly disagee with comments on the forum, but THIS!

I understand your opinion is based on your experience, fair enough, but

I totally disgree.

Every woman you ask will give a different answer to this. A La Carte outlines it very well above. A hard cock might give great satisfaction, but then there are countless women who dont come from penetration. There are many women who dont like a hard cock, or the man attached to it. Women orgasm in many mysterious ways, a head massage, hair pulling, foot massage, sucking her toes, clitoral, labial or G spot stimulation, spanking, gentle caresses, anal play, a man with just the right sexy voice and accent whispering into her ear. And that's just with a man, the experience with a woman is different again. So, the rigid hard cock in the pussy idea... Yes, works for some, but there's so much more.

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By *dfab OP Man
over a year ago

Dunboyne

A La Carte and Tantra Massage both right

Many factors at play.

Unfortunately women don't come with an AI pop-up that shows their mood and likely scenario to get them where we would like them, orgasmic and happy, so we can tell them that shirt needs ironing

Kidding

Need penetration to orgasm? Absolutely not!

My wife has orgasmed strongly from just nipple play.

What was the next thing she wanted?

Me inside her, as she always does after oral/finger play but that's just a want, not what she needs to orgasm.

If you get a BJ you still want to fuck.

We're all a bunch of animals at the end of the day and the procreation gene is in all of us. Thanks be to the baby jaysus and the carpenter for rubber is all I'll say

Thanks again for all those who gave considered, genuine responses. Your insight is illumination for those of us with a true interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, I think a lot of it is to do with connection. Attraction is obviously key but what's going on in the brain is a great start...

You gotta know what the woman wants

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

"A La Carte and Tantra Massage both right

Many factors at play.

Unfortunately women don't come with an AI pop-up that shows their mood and likely scenario to get them where we would like them, orgasmic and happy, so we can tell them that shirt needs ironing

Kidding

Need penetration to orgasm? Absolutely not!

My wife has orgasmed strongly from just nipple play.

What was the next thing she wanted?

Me inside her, as she always does after oral/finger play but that's just a want, not what she needs to orgasm.

If you get a BJ you still want to fuck.

We're all a bunch of animals at the end of the day and the procreation gene is in all of us. Thanks be to the baby jaysus and the carpenter for rubber is all I'll say

Thanks again for all those who gave considered, genuine responses. Your insight is illumination for those of us with a true interest

Jaysus, I might even orgasm if someone were to iron for me while I watch

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By *dfab OP Man
over a year ago

Dunboyne

"A La Carte and Tantra Massage both right

Many factors at play.

Unfortunately women don't come with an AI pop-up that shows their mood and likely scenario to get them where we would like them, orgasmic and happy, so we can tell them that shirt needs ironing

Kidding

Need penetration to orgasm? Absolutely not!

My wife has orgasmed strongly from just nipple play.

What was the next thing she wanted?

Me inside her, as she always does after oral/finger play but that's just a want, not what she needs to orgasm.

If you get a BJ you still want to fuck.

We're all a bunch of animals at the end of the day and the procreation gene is in all of us. Thanks be to the baby jaysus and the carpenter for rubber is all I'll say

Thanks again for all those who gave considered, genuine responses. Your insight is illumination for those of us with a true interest

Jaysus, I might even orgasm if someone were to iron for me while I watch

Now that's a kink too far!

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By *on Juan the MADridMan
over a year ago

Lisbon/ North England/ Wales/ Madrid/

You couldn't be more wrong

Sex can offer orgasms without penetration.

People with vulvas are so diverse that you must learn what your partner enjoys. It seems you are that kind of person that approaches all ladies in the same way."

That’s the key, a woman is like a musical instrument and each one has their own way to be played, it both can find the rhythm the music sounds wonderful … that is why the emotion and sparks of a new body … new date.

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