FabSwingers.com forum: Bar meet . Accept, Decline, Excuse

By *pringbok95 OP Couple
over a year ago

Limavady

This is 1 for all you guys lol

Curious to see what replies we get.

Your out in a bar on your own or with mates there is a lady ordering at the bar she strikes up a conversation or you start. Your both getting on well she says she is going back to her seat she invites you to come with her but you notice where her seat is there is a guy sitting she tells you it's her husband but it's fine.

Do you go and join them?

Decline her invite?

Make an Excuse?

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By *exesrangerMan
over a year ago

out and and about

Sure would be rude not to sit down with them for a bit. What's the worst hat can happen?

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

What a fantastic question

Id imagine if he's a confident man he'd be delighted especially in front of his mates if she's good looking

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I would treat it like a fab message.

No problem saying hello and chatting but I'm not getting naked with anyone on a first meet regardless of who, what, where and why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we'd be suprised by how many single guys not in the lifestyle would refuse the invite because the husband is sat at the table.

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By *rish In DubaiMan
over a year ago

Carlow

"I think we'd be suprised by how many single guys not in the lifestyle would refuse the invite because the husband is sat at the table. "

Join

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By *lderiregentMan
over a year ago

fermoy

I've done it before as in sat down / being invited with the couple to join at their had a chit chat was no problem. Don't think it was what I thought at time it was but hey non the less was good owl night chatting away so noting gained noting lost. I'd do it again no problem. I Probably wouldn't accept it if I'm with friends though

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By *eathernsilkMan
over a year ago

armagh

Initially I would refuse the invite, as it could be a ruse to wind up the husband if they are having a tiff. Unless he also invites to sit with them.

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By *itnessFitnessMan
over a year ago

Wicklow

In my mind:

Go over and assert your dominance, maybe even try it on with the husband to show your confidence

In reality:

Say yeah I'll be over in a few then quietly sneak to the bathroom and slip out through the window

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By *ligoMan
over a year ago

East Mayo

Join definitely

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By *exesrangerMan
over a year ago

out and and about

"In my mind:

Go over and assert your dominance, maybe even try it on with the husband to show your confidence

In reality:

Say yeah I'll be over in a few then quietly sneak to the bathroom and slip out through the window "

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I'd go and sit down as well she invited me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pop over for a drink anyway, if there's a bit of craic flowing why not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my mind:

Go over and assert your dominance, maybe even try it on with the husband to show your confidence

In reality:

Say yeah I'll be over in a few then quietly sneak to the bathroom and slip out through the window "

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By *rash26775Man
over a year ago

all over

Like to think I’d take up the offer

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By *aterpillar69Man
over a year ago

newry

Join them for a drink and a chat

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By *itIrishCplCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

A few years ago we were on holiday in Portugal and hubby was taking pics of me on the beach in one of my string bikinis. About 10 minutes into shooting this Adonis walks out of the water and stands close to where I am writhing around on the stand. Looking over.

We get chatting and invite him to join us on our towel. Long story short but it turns out he is a stripper in the local club. So we go that night. He gets me up on stage and I end up with my legs around his head as he holds me upside down on stage.

We ended up back at our hotel where him and hubby made sure I was a very happy girl.

I guess the moral of the story in relation to the original post is Nothing ventured nothing gained

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By *he wanerding bullMan
over a year ago

cavan

"I would treat it like a fab message.

No problem saying hello and chatting but I'm not getting naked with anyone on a first meet regardless of who, what, where and why. "

Is there something wrong with you!

IMO the majority off men would be balls deep if there was an attraction and quite a few even if they didn't fancy her.

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By *inkycoupleni123Couple
over a year ago

Belfast

Would love to do this! Mrs in her red sexy dress no bra or knickers and get chatting with an older businessman type. Back for spontaneous fun!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"I would treat it like a fab message.

No problem saying hello and chatting but I'm not getting naked with anyone on a first meet regardless of who, what, where and why.

Is there something wrong with you!

IMO the majority off men would be balls deep if there was an attraction and quite a few even if they didn't fancy her.

That's why I'm not the majority of men.

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By *isnameismargaretMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Accept.

Destiny doesn't knock like this very often.

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By *ameswXXXMan
over a year ago

Killarney

"This is 1 for all you guys lol

Curious to see what replies we get.

Do you go and join them?

Decline her invite?

Make an Excuse?

Join nothing ventured nothing gained

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland

"In my mind:

Go over and assert your dominance, maybe even try it on with the husband to show your confidence

In reality:

Say yeah I'll be over in a few then quietly sneak to the bathroom and slip out through the window "

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By *ohn heaneyMan
over a year ago

kildare

Go join

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By *aton28Man
over a year ago

galway/mayo

I would try to get a vibe off the husband to make sure they were both good with me joining, if all good then over I go...

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By *ndqtMan
over a year ago

The Wild West

Scan the room for candid camera would be my initial reaction.... after that... fortune favors the brave is my moto

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By *lue eyesMan
over a year ago

cavan

Nothing ventured .Nothing gained!

And good fortunes generally favours the brave so I'm all in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha, yeah pull the other one!

That would be my response

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By *oleinone2020Man
over a year ago

hungtown

Id even buy the next round ??

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By *ublad500Man
over a year ago

dublin

I'd buy around and go over and join them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've zero interest in that dynamic, so it would be a no from me in a pub/club as it is on here.

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By *oodieMan
over a year ago

Mayo

I’d join them, no worries

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By *amsevenMan
over a year ago

cork

Politely decline

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By *pringbok95 OP Couple
over a year ago

Limavady

Thanks guys some great replies and great to see most will join

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By *rAndMrsRightCouple
over a year ago

newtownabbey

"This is 1 for all you guys lol

Curious to see what replies we get.

Do you go and join them?

Decline her invite?

Make an Excuse?

If I'm out with my non fab friends- I always decline all advances from all randomers.

I rarely see my vanilla friends as is so prefer ending the night with the same company it started with.

If I'd be out with fab friends - Dirk would be out too, if both of us liked what we see - both of us would potentially joined the couple.

Missus

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

We get chatty and flirty with folk around us on a night out and do regularly end up sitting around together. I wouldn't read more into it than a chat.

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By *amson4DelilahCouple
over a year ago

ballina

"This is 1 for all you guys lol

Curious to see what replies we get.

Do you go and join them?

Decline her invite?

Make an Excuse?

That is a scenario I want for real..

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By *amson4DelilahCouple
over a year ago

ballina

"I think we'd be suprised by how many single guys not in the lifestyle would refuse the invite because the husband is sat at the table. "

Ya.. I'd bet... but if they could shake their Catholic Irish mentality, he'd be there in a shot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think we'd be suprised by how many single guys not in the lifestyle would refuse the invite because the husband is sat at the table.

Ya.. I'd bet... but if they could shake their Catholic Irish mentality, he'd be there in a shot. "

Or....they just aren't interested in being the 3rd person in a couples experience.

I'm amazed at the amount of people linking this to inhibitions or lack of confidence.

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By *ay_Gatsby_D4Man
over a year ago

City Centre, Dublin

"This is 1 for all you guys lol

Curious to see what replies we get.

Do you go and join them?

Decline her invite?

Make an Excuse?

On my own, I’d join

With my mates - decline

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By *otownkid1967Man
over a year ago

Portlaoise

"This is 1 for all you guys lol

Curious to see what replies we get.

Do you go and join them?

Decline her invite?

Make an Excuse?

On my own, I’d join

With my mates - decline"

As above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d probably give it a go if she was a looker to be fair

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By *rGirthNLengthMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Ive been in this scenario once in Belfast in the Crown Bar with a visiting American couple.... Then back to their hotel for endless fun. The other with a couple whom i had suspicions with and who were in a hotel in London I had been drinking in. Both were amazinf nights and i loved it

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By *cottybear74Man
over a year ago

kilkenny

Prob not as I'm never in a bar with my mates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is 1 for all you guys lol

Curious to see what replies we get.

Do you go and join them?

Decline her invite?

Make an Excuse?

If lm on my own ,no and if lm with friends it's a no , who da fuck knows who they are or what they do , they could be a modern day Bonnie & Clyde for all you know..you could go to a room with them and never be seen again.

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Politelty decline as I am out with my friends and they are my priority, but ask for her number and tell her to leave her husband at home the next time.

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By *ford dudeMan
over a year ago

County

If on my own yeah sure why not. It's just a social in a bar and see how things go.

If out with friends, probably politely decline as I wouldn't be trying to pull

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By *rish5Man
over a year ago

Enfield

We were out in a bar one night and we both agreed to pick a guy out and make his night,partner was very skimply dressed and chatted to a guy beside us ,heavy flirting with him,he kept asking me was it ok so I asked him to walk her to our car to get a jacket, while they were down the street at car she allowed him to finger her, they came back to the bar and he was blown away by our antics....

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By *ease_EMan
over a year ago

DDD12

"Would love to do this! Mrs in her red sexy dress no bra or knickers and get chatting with an older businessman type. Back for spontaneous fun! "

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

No harm in going for the chat

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By *pringbok95 OP Couple
over a year ago

Limavady

"We were out in a bar one night and we both agreed to pick a guy out and make his night,partner was very skimply dressed and chatted to a guy beside us ,heavy flirting with him,he kept asking me was it ok so I asked him to walk her to our car to get a jacket, while they were down the street at car she allowed him to finger her, they came back to the bar and he was blown away by our antics...."

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By *he MickMan
over a year ago

southside

"This is 1 for all you guys lol

Curious to see what replies we get.

Do you go and join them?

Decline her invite?

Make an Excuse?

If I was on my own I'd sit with them .

If I was with friends I'd politely decline

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By *agicGeorgeMan
over a year ago

Dublin 15

This happened to me once in a class in Tokyo, but unfortunately she only speaks Japanese and I speak Italian or French????????. After several translations with google translate, they decided to go to their home where you can understand the continuation yourself. It was strange at first but the smile on a woman's face tells you that she is happy no matter what language she speaks. And the answer to the question, yes, I would accompany her to the table, curious as to how the situation might turn out

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By *urious39Man
over a year ago

castlebar

Be no harm in accepting the invite and sitting down and chatting. If there’s chemistry,all the better, if not, at least you’d have had company for a couple of drinks and chat

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By *ommando4Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin

Decline

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

Yeah I'd go for a drink or two and see how it went. Nothing ventured...

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By *astelloWoman
over a year ago

Far far away

Drink and I'm robbing the TShirt acdc

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By *teppenwolfMan
over a year ago

Cork

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By *teppenwolfMan
over a year ago

Cork

Yeah would definately be interested in meeting for a drink.....those eyes...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd buy around and go over and join them x"

This and id sus out the vibe ...id know straight away if it was cool or not by his welcome

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By *oe Cool xxxMan
over a year ago

South Dublin

Join , if ya clicked step one lol

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By *erri KellyCouple
over a year ago

mayo

I would absolutely love this in a role reversal, I'm sitting at the table ,hubby is at the bar ,chatting with a girl with a naughty little look in her eye ,he invites her back to the table and we start building the sexual tension from there,

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By *teppenwolfMan
over a year ago

Cork

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By *teppenwolfMan
over a year ago

Cork

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great Question OP! Love reading the replies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it happened to me in carlow a few years ago and i went back to the table and we had a great chat about life when the hubby asked me did i fancy his blonde dds wife and i said yes,he wasnt drinking and asked did i want to go for a drive,he drove around carlow while we had awesome fun in the back,3 happy people going back to the pub and acted as if nothing happened.

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By *ilentnoiseMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Would definitely join!

Been in this situation before where the role was reversed and it was my gf who was at the bar speaking to another guy. Always a fun experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join without hesitation. I’m hoping that day comes soon

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By *angero3aMan
over a year ago

swords

yes have sexy married woman

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By *eeingWhatsHere21Man
over a year ago

Northside

Definitely join them! Why not see where it goes

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

"Drink and I'm robbing the TShirt acdc

I'd be delighted to see you changing into it

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By *rystalsswingCouple
over a year ago

Galway

"Great Question OP! Love reading the replies. "

Same!!

Definitely join and see where it goes

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

I probe a little and suggest her husband doesn't want me interrupting their night out, see what she says and if it's a positive or seductive response, I'd definitely join them for a drink and a chat.

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By *exerciseMan
over a year ago

Dublin

You’ve been invited for a reason, so go with it - nothing ventured, nothing gained. You need to be social to swing!

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By *arper8000Man
over a year ago

cork

you would have to join and see where it leads

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