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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok I'm just going to put this out there for the dudes but ladies home in if you like.anyone one here suffer from body confidence issues? when I was younger I didn't care about it as much but now it's fucking me big time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok I'm just going to put this out there for the dudes but ladies home in if you like.anyone one here suffer from body confidence issues? when I was younger I didn't care about it as much but now it's fucking me big time"
I do have body confidence issues but it's much better than when I was younger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok I'm just going to put this out there for the dudes but ladies home in if you like.anyone one here suffer from body confidence issues? when I was younger I didn't care about it as much but now it's fucking me big time"

Stop straight away worrying or thinking negative about your body confidence,be happy in your own skin ..eg...how many women in the World ?...last time l checked there were only a handful of so called " super models " my way of thinking is if you're a guy or a gal not everyone becomes a person in that bracket and tbh with you l think they all have issues but that's another story ....please stop being concerned or worried about your body confidence, do what you love doing and everything else will follow..tbh l hate threads like these simply because they are by people that can look at the negative side of things, please don't .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think you asked this question before did you take any of that advice on than?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was younger more so, thankfully most of my doubts and insecurities have reduced/ become more manageable as I've gotten older.

It's its something you think you can manage or will improve with a little exercise and change in your body then invest some time and money into that.

If its something that really affects you day to day consider speaking to a Counsellor incase there is something deeper going on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has something about their bodies that they dont like..absolutely everyone.

Even when I was young and thin I still had issues, and my god do I wish I looked like that now

Whats the point in hating the greatest machine any of us will ever own?

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By *nwrap4funMan
over a year ago

Ireland

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By *nwrap4funMan
over a year ago

Ireland

First off, you need to be happy with who you are. Stop worrying about what other people think

I once got this message from a person here who said that she wouldn't see obese people.

Straight away, that block and avoid this person for me - why, I don't need her shallow negativity.

If you can't be happy in your own skin, your not going to be happy full stop and for someone to write that, well you certainly don't need that negativity.

I'm far from slim, I've a body that shows the scars of my previous profession but I like to think that I'm happy who I am.

Don't be negative, see the positive that life has to offer.

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By *iscuits8Man
over a year ago

Meath / Dublin / Birmingham

Confidence is a preference for the habitual voyeur of what is known as... PARKLIFE!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How do I go about loving myself if I can't meet someone who likes me for me.also the parklife comment gave me a chuckle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do I go about loving myself if I can't meet someone who likes me for me.also the parklife comment gave me a chuckle"

I think you have that 100% the wrong way round.

How can you meet someone who likes you for you until you do

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"How do I go about loving myself if I can't meet someone who likes me for me.also the parklife comment gave me a chuckle"

You need to learn to like yourself and who you are first rather than put the onus on someone else. Because while yes others can build you up they can also break you just as easy and then it's even harder to build up confidence again after.

Never live your life depending on others opinions of you.

And yes I'm talking from experience and no I haven't a lot of confidence in myself but I've more than I did when I was with someone who didn't care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do I go about loving myself if I can't meet someone who likes me for me.also the parklife comment gave me a chuckle"

Have to love yourself first, noone is going yo love you If you don't think your worth loving yourself

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By *traight sligoguy67Man
over a year ago

sligo


"Confidence is a preference for the habitual voyeur of what is known as... PARKLIFE!"

Can't beat a bit of oasis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was gonna say I wish I was taller, but I’ve made and seen grown men cry.

Gun to the head…

I’d say teeth are the most important to keep on top of from an early age.

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

The face PIC on your fab profile certainly conveys the impression of a guy who is seriously pissed off with 'something' which you have articulated as a dissatisfaction with your body.

Rather than viewing your situation negatively make a list of what you are grateful for; you are now young and in good health; try some volunteering with groups who assist those who are less fortunate than yourself.

If you view your attitude as a serious problem, then have a word with your GP; there is a condition that is called body dysmorphic disorder- a consultation with a specialist might be beneficial to identify if you have this condition and if so, what is its etiology (real origin).

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The face PIC on your fab profile certainly conveys the impression of a guy who is seriously pissed off with 'something' which you have articulated as a dissatisfaction with your body.

Rather than viewing your situation negatively make a list of what you are grateful for; you are now young and in good health; try some volunteering with groups who assist those who are less fortunate than yourself.

If you view your attitude as a serious problem, then have a word with your GP; there is a condition that is called body dysmorphic disorder- a consultation with a specialist might be beneficial to identify if you have this condition and if so, what is its etiology (real origin)."
tbh that's how I always look in pi cs and I volunteer in a charity in my hometown

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

What specifically are you unhappy about?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What specifically are you unhappy about?"
honestly my body and the way I look I see dudes on here with 6 pac abs and good looks and they are getting serious luck on here.i message someone and I'm just blanked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What specifically are you unhappy about? honestly my body and the way I look I see dudes on here with 6 pac abs and good looks and they are getting serious luck on here.i message someone and I'm just blanked."

Are you very unhappy with yourself and your looks in general or just how it impacts fab

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What specifically are you unhappy about? honestly my body and the way I look I see dudes on here with 6 pac abs and good looks and they are getting serious luck on here.i message someone and I'm just blanked.

Are you very unhappy with yourself and your looks in general or just how it impacts fab"

Honestly both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What specifically are you unhappy about? honestly my body and the way I look I see dudes on here with 6 pac abs and good looks and they are getting serious luck on here.i message someone and I'm just blanked.

Are you very unhappy with yourself and your looks in general or just how it impacts fab

Honestly both"

Well forget fab for now. Happy confident people do alot better on here than people with just abs.

If fab is feeding into the bad feelings then consider hiding or deleting your profile until your in a better place outside of fab

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin


"Ok I'm just going to put this out there for the dudes but ladies home in if you like.anyone one here suffer from body confidence issues? when I was younger I didn't care about it as much but now it's fucking me big time"

I used to but I got into doing cross training just before and during the pandemic. That did wonders for my body confidence and had the added benefit of being good for my health.

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Fab is a particularlytough environment and comparing your own situation with the 'alleged' success of others may not be good for your self-esteem that may be low in normality.

Try to make contact with others in a variety of situations to give yourself a boost; if you are overweight, then start an exercise regime, but not by going to a gym because the gym bunnies could exacerbate your feelings of inadequacy or inferiority.

Start slowly and give your self positive feedback for everything you achieve.

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By *r_Insatiable666Man
over a year ago

Cork

What's this about confidence? I consider myself very humble with my 1km schlong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes there are guys with 6 packs and women with flat stomachs..but most will agree that its a connection thats the most important thing.

I went to a party once a long time ago, i was looking forward to meeting this gorgeous guy..well he was so boring in person..turn off immediately.

Id suggest going to one of the unverified socials coming up..meet some people in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop comparing yourselves to others you'll never be happy. I was so insecure until I joined Fab. The first time I dressed down for a party I was seized with fear that a entire room of strangers were going to see my cellulite and and jelly belly. But maybe it was seeing sexy women and men of all shapes and sizes but over time I started not to see my imperfections and stopped dwelling on them so much and I become more confident. Confidence is extremely attractive trait and no you don't need a 6 pack or the perfect body to be able to exude that confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, never had that problem

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By *rystalsswingCouple
over a year ago

Galway

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By *rystalsswingCouple
over a year ago

Galway

Replied privately OP.

Jubal1 for president

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