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By *amson4Delilah OP   Couple
over a year ago

ballina

Now before some smart arse chimes in with.."a place that sells coffee"

I get that..lol

The question is more about how you can interact with your potential playmate in different venues & what are the pros & cons of different venues you have had meets? .

Busy coffee shop?

Petrol stations? Hotel lobbies? Etc...

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

Coffee shops and hotel lobbies are the usual but one that stands out was the cafe in Fota with a stroll around the park afterwards

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

My preference is generally a stroll or a chat in the car. I don’t drink coffee/tea so I generally find coffee shops in a cafe etc awkward as fuck. I also find it difficult to have a proper chat when you’re concerned about people overhearing…Galway is very small

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By *adger BrocMan
over a year ago

Co. Cork


"My preference is generally a stroll or a chat in the car. I don’t drink coffee/tea so I generally find coffee shops in a cafe etc awkward as fuck. I also find it difficult to have a proper chat when you’re concerned about people overhearing…Galway is very small "

I think, for a first meet, a more public place is preferable from a safety point of view.

It may not always be wise to get into a car with a stranger for a first time meet.

Hotel lobby or shopping mall seating area is an alternative to a coffee shop or bar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now before some smart arse chimes in with.."a place that sells coffee"

I get that..lol

The question is more about how you can interact with your potential playmate in different venues & what are the pros & cons of different venues you have had meets? .

Busy coffee shop?

Petrol stations? Hotel lobbies? Etc...

"

Hotel lobbies for sure. Nice and open yet relaxed

Plus if things get hot can always book a room….

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By *eddybear37Man
over a year ago

everywhere kildare longford

Costa shops mc Donald’s motorway services stations definitely recommend for first time meets spacious and comfortable to chat im only talking from experience lol

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway


"My preference is generally a stroll or a chat in the car. I don’t drink coffee/tea so I generally find coffee shops in a cafe etc awkward as fuck. I also find it difficult to have a proper chat when you’re concerned about people overhearing…Galway is very small

I think, for a first meet, a more public place is preferable from a safety point of view.

It may not always be wise to get into a car with a stranger for a first time meet.

Hotel lobby or shopping mall seating area is an alternative to a coffee shop or bar.

"

I’ve been doing this for the guts of 15 years so I’m very capable of judging a situation

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Forest parks or a seaside walk that sports a really good coffee wagon, such as Hillsborough Forest Park or Crawfordsburn Country Park, which is actually on the north Down Coast.

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By *eddybear37Man
over a year ago

everywhere kildare longford


"My preference is generally a stroll or a chat in the car. I don’t drink coffee/tea so I generally find coffee shops in a cafe etc awkward as fuck. I also find it difficult to have a proper chat when you’re concerned about people overhearing…Galway is very small

I think, for a first meet, a more public place is preferable from a safety point of view.

It may not always be wise to get into a car with a stranger for a first time meet.

Hotel lobby or shopping mall seating area is an alternative to a coffee shop or bar.

I’ve been doing this for the guts of 15 years so I’m very capable of judging a situation "

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

The woods. At night. Its romantic under the stars.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

During the first lockdown we stayed in our own cars in a carpark of a petrol station in wexford

We parked in opposite directions to each other so that the drivers open windows were only 2 ft apart

I passed over a coffee to her from the petrol station....she passed over home made apple tart in a tuppaware box to me ....very handy

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By *nceuponatimecplCouple
over a year ago

The edge of town

So instead of bringing apples to the orchard, she brought a tart to a tart!

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By *ild WomanWoman
over a year ago

Carlow

Cafe that have lots of tables but also quite corners. I generally arrive early to scout the place so get a good seat. Order coffee and cake,pay then wait. So if no show still have something nice.

If does show up tell them grab cuppa and chat away with them

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"So instead of bringing apples to the orchard, she brought a tart to a tart! "

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By *ot neuteredMan
over a year ago

Kildare


"

I passed over a coffee to her from the petrol station....she passed over home made apple tart in a tuppaware box to me ....very handy "

Home made Apple tart, now there's a keeper

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Coffee shops that have plenty of seating do can chat away, during summer outdoor in a public place

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By *an I Kiss youMan
over a year ago

Manchester City Centre


"During the first lockdown we stayed in our own cars in a carpark of a petrol station in wexford

We parked in opposite directions to each other so that the drivers open windows were only 2 ft apart

I passed over a coffee to her from the petrol station....she passed over home made apple tart in a tuppaware box to me ....very handy "

.

Awwww, that is soooo cute. I am fukking trying this on the next coffee meet.

Junction 14 I would say

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By *OCONO5Couple
over a year ago

Sensual Center

Coffee in the hand and the great out doors ....can't go wrong

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By *eddybear37Man
over a year ago

everywhere kildare longford


"So instead of bringing apples to the orchard, she brought a tart to a tart! "

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By *eddybear37Man
over a year ago

everywhere kildare longford


"During the first lockdown we stayed in our own cars in a carpark of a petrol station in wexford

We parked in opposite directions to each other so that the drivers open windows were only 2 ft apart

I passed over a coffee to her from the petrol station....she passed over home made apple tart in a tuppaware box to me ....very handy "

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By *mmmm300Woman
over a year ago

cork


"Coffee shops and hotel lobbies are the usual but one that stands out was the cafe in Fota with a stroll around the park afterwards "

That sounds like the best coffee meet, Fota is the best spot, although I'd prefer the outdoor eating area for pizza and then off to see the Rhinos. Happy days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Park up in the corner of a busy cafe, eyeball every woman who walks in the door

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By *ancy38Woman
over a year ago

galway


"Coffee shops that have plenty of seating do can chat away, during summer outdoor in a public place "

Is that a strap-on on your harry the hunk in your second pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to take walks while I chat with a person but sitting in a coffee shop can be easier on people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now before some smart arse chimes in with.."a place that sells coffee"

I get that..lol

The question is more about how you can interact with your potential playmate in different venues & what are the pros & cons of different venues you have had meets? .

Busy coffee shop?

Petrol stations? Hotel lobbies? Etc...

"

Quite and intimate for me anyway, have been in places where it felt everyone else there was in on it too , quite & intimate where both can just be themselves , it doesn't matter where that is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really mind, some people do seem to find face to face sit down coffee meets quite uncomfortable, a walk (in a place with other people around) is fine too. I would never get into a stranger's vehicle or invite them into mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to meet in very public places. So Kildare Village or Junction 14 or Costa etc. I'm usually still in my office clothes and I bring my laptop as a decoy so if anyone sees us it looks work related. I try to sit as far away from others as possible. I was up in Junction 14 getting a coffee with a Fabber and when I got back to the car I got a super creepy message from a fabber asking had I enjoyed my coffee he was sitting directly behind us andeard us. I like places with larger car parks so I walk myself back to the car. I heard too many horror stories of people being followed home.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Motorway service stations are great for coffee meets in fairness

A very large turnover of customers and easy to drive in and out of.

There's a few coffee shops in Naas in Car Parks of retail parks that

are handy also

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Coffee shops are good especially if they are spacious and have large carparks as sometimes id rather grab a coffee and just sit in the car for a more intimate chat..

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By *lameBoyMan
over a year ago

Enfield & Dublin


"I was up in Junction 14 getting a coffee with a Fabber and when I got back to the car I got a super creepy message from a fabber asking had I enjoyed my coffee he was sitting directly behind us and heard us. "

Wow Rosy, what a nasty creepy person that was. That’s very disturbing I’d imagine. I hope at least your coffee meet went well.

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By *eddybear37Man
over a year ago

everywhere kildare longford


"Coffee shops are good especially if they are spacious and have large carparks as sometimes id rather grab a coffee and just sit in the car for a more intimate chat.. "
u kept that quite lol

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"Coffee shops are good especially if they are spacious and have large carparks as sometimes id rather grab a coffee and just sit in the car for a more intimate chat.. u kept that quite lol "

She said CAR

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By *ornywife20Couple
over a year ago

North Cork

We find if you use hotel bars or lobbies people tend to expect that there is going to be a play despite saying its a social. They see hotel and automatically think ok quick coffe then up to the room . Big turn off when people automatically assume a social meet leads straight to play. Yes it may but there has to be a strong attraction there.

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"We find if you use hotel bars or lobbies people tend to expect that there is going to be a play despite saying its a social. They see hotel and automatically think ok quick coffe then up to the room . Big turn off when people automatically assume a social meet leads straight to play. Yes it may but there has to be a strong attraction there. "

This happened to me before, we met in the hotel bar for a coffee one lunch time, chatting maybe 20mins he excused himself to use the bathroom then came back to say he asked at reception about booking a room for a few hours no idea where that came out of as we were just chatting in general so it totally shocked me told him it wasn't for me and i left

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"We find if you use hotel bars or lobbies people tend to expect that there is going to be a play despite saying its a social. They see hotel and automatically think ok quick coffe then up to the room . Big turn off when people automatically assume a social meet leads straight to play. Yes it may but there has to be a strong attraction there.

This happened to me before, we met in the hotel bar for a coffee one lunch time, chatting maybe 20mins he excused himself to use the bathroom then came back to say he asked at reception about booking a room for a few hours no idea where that came out of as we were just chatting in general so it totally shocked me told him it wasn't for me and i left"

Not quite the same but I was chatting to a woman in a couple for weeks and arranged to meet both of them for coffee after work one day in a coffee shop.

Then hubby got involved in the conversation and insisted the coffee should be in a particular hotel lobby.

I told him I didn't play on a first social and he said my options where this hotel or nothing and I was to book and pay for the room in advance.

That was the last I spoke to them.

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By *ornywife20Couple
over a year ago

North Cork


"We find if you use hotel bars or lobbies people tend to expect that there is going to be a play despite saying its a social. They see hotel and automatically think ok quick coffe then up to the room . Big turn off when people automatically assume a social meet leads straight to play. Yes it may but there has to be a strong attraction there.

This happened to me before, we met in the hotel bar for a coffee one lunch time, chatting maybe 20mins he excused himself to use the bathroom then came back to say he asked at reception about booking a room for a few hours no idea where that came out of as we were just chatting in general so it totally shocked me told him it wasn't for me and i left"

Jesus that was some cheek on his behalf . We try and stick to bars and coffee shops now for socials . There can still be a bit of expectation but we can leave.whereas if you are staying in the hotel you are kind of stuck there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if someone was being that presumptuous I would leave.

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By *umpkinnMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Getting flashbacks of a social meet in a hotel lobby and it turned out there was a debs being held there that evening. Was my first social meet from a swingers site, trying to be discreet with a bunch of nosy young ones milling about

Be careful of Fridays and Saturdays.

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By *ub23Man
over a year ago

wandering

A forest park is good !

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"We find if you use hotel bars or lobbies people tend to expect that there is going to be a play despite saying its a social. They see hotel and automatically think ok quick coffe then up to the room . Big turn off when people automatically assume a social meet leads straight to play. Yes it may but there has to be a strong attraction there.

This happened to me before, we met in the hotel bar for a coffee one lunch time, chatting maybe 20mins he excused himself to use the bathroom then came back to say he asked at reception about booking a room for a few hours no idea where that came out of as we were just chatting in general so it totally shocked me told him it wasn't for me and i left

Jesus that was some cheek on his behalf . We try and stick to bars and coffee shops now for socials . There can still be a bit of expectation but we can leave.whereas if you are staying in the hotel you are kind of stuck there "

I was mortified and felt very uncomfortable so told him id to leave he's excuse was id suggested the hotel so what else was he to think

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By *eddybear37Man
over a year ago

everywhere kildare longford


"Coffee shops are good especially if they are spacious and have large carparks as sometimes id rather grab a coffee and just sit in the car for a more intimate chat.. u kept that quite lol

She said CAR "
pmsl bog

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"Coffee shops are good especially if they are spacious and have large carparks as sometimes id rather grab a coffee and just sit in the car for a more intimate chat.. u kept that quite lol

She said CAR pmsl bog "

Not TRUCK!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We find if you use hotel bars or lobbies people tend to expect that there is going to be a play despite saying its a social. They see hotel and automatically think ok quick coffe then up to the room . Big turn off when people automatically assume a social meet leads straight to play. Yes it may but there has to be a strong attraction there.

This happened to me before, we met in the hotel bar for a coffee one lunch time, chatting maybe 20mins he excused himself to use the bathroom then came back to say he asked at reception about booking a room for a few hours no idea where that came out of as we were just chatting in general so it totally shocked me told him it wasn't for me and i left

Jesus that was some cheek on his behalf . We try and stick to bars and coffee shops now for socials . There can still be a bit of expectation but we can leave.whereas if you are staying in the hotel you are kind of stuck there

I was mortified and felt very uncomfortable so told him id to leave he's excuse was id suggested the hotel so what else was he to think "

I learnt that some men need it spelled out that nothing will be happening on a coffee social. You meeting in a hotel isn't a invite that something is going to happen. I had coffee with a guy before to help him get his first verify. I set clear boundaries before told him he wasn't my type but I was happy to give him advice and a verify. This coffee meet taught me never to let a guy walk me back to my car. He went to get into my car he said let's have a little kiss again I said no. Then he says I'm come out of my way to meet you (20 mins) and this is Fab so I was expecting a blowjob at least. I've met so many lovely guys for coffee but being put into this situation makes me wary of meeting anyone. So I just err on the side of caution.

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By *amsevenMan
over a year ago

cork


"We find if you use hotel bars or lobbies people tend to expect that there is going to be a play despite saying its a social. They see hotel and automatically think ok quick coffe then up to the room . Big turn off when people automatically assume a social meet leads straight to play. Yes it may but there has to be a strong attraction there.

This happened to me before, we met in the hotel bar for a coffee one lunch time, chatting maybe 20mins he excused himself to use the bathroom then came back to say he asked at reception about booking a room for a few hours no idea where that came out of as we were just chatting in general so it totally shocked me told him it wasn't for me and i left

Jesus that was some cheek on his behalf . We try and stick to bars and coffee shops now for socials . There can still be a bit of expectation but we can leave.whereas if you are staying in the hotel you are kind of stuck there

I was mortified and felt very uncomfortable so told him id to leave he's excuse was id suggested the hotel so what else was he to think

I learnt that some men need it spelled out that nothing will be happening on a coffee social. You meeting in a hotel isn't a invite that something is going to happen. I had coffee with a guy before to help him get his first verify. I set clear boundaries before told him he wasn't my type but I was happy to give him advice and a verify. This coffee meet taught me never to let a guy walk me back to my car. He went to get into my car he said let's have a little kiss again I said no. Then he says I'm come out of my way to meet you (20 mins) and this is Fab so I was expecting a blowjob at least. I've met so many lovely guys for coffee but being put into this situation makes me wary of meeting anyone. So I just err on the side of caution. "

What a ghowl. No wonder we have a bad name

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By *ebelRoadMan
over a year ago

Cork / Wexford

Usually a shopping centre or takeaway coffee by the woods or beach.

Some place public so everyone is comfortable but qith a private area if the desire arises

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"We find if you use hotel bars or lobbies people tend to expect that there is going to be a play despite saying its a social. They see hotel and automatically think ok quick coffe then up to the room . Big turn off when people automatically assume a social meet leads straight to play. Yes it may but there has to be a strong attraction there.

This happened to me before, we met in the hotel bar for a coffee one lunch time, chatting maybe 20mins he excused himself to use the bathroom then came back to say he asked at reception about booking a room for a few hours no idea where that came out of as we were just chatting in general so it totally shocked me told him it wasn't for me and i left

Jesus that was some cheek on his behalf . We try and stick to bars and coffee shops now for socials . There can still be a bit of expectation but we can leave.whereas if you are staying in the hotel you are kind of stuck there

I was mortified and felt very uncomfortable so told him id to leave he's excuse was id suggested the hotel so what else was he to think

I learnt that some men need it spelled out that nothing will be happening on a coffee social. You meeting in a hotel isn't a invite that something is going to happen. I had coffee with a guy before to help him get his first verify. I set clear boundaries before told him he wasn't my type but I was happy to give him advice and a verify. This coffee meet taught me never to let a guy walk me back to my car. He went to get into my car he said let's have a little kiss again I said no. Then he says I'm come out of my way to meet you (20 mins) and this is Fab so I was expecting a blowjob at least. I've met so many lovely guys for coffee but being put into this situation makes me wary of meeting anyone. So I just err on the side of caution.

What a ghowl. No wonder we have a bad name "

We as in all men don't have a bad name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We find if you use hotel bars or lobbies people tend to expect that there is going to be a play despite saying its a social. They see hotel and automatically think ok quick coffe then up to the room . Big turn off when people automatically assume a social meet leads straight to play. Yes it may but there has to be a strong attraction there.

This happened to me before, we met in the hotel bar for a coffee one lunch time, chatting maybe 20mins he excused himself to use the bathroom then came back to say he asked at reception about booking a room for a few hours no idea where that came out of as we were just chatting in general so it totally shocked me told him it wasn't for me and i left

Jesus that was some cheek on his behalf . We try and stick to bars and coffee shops now for socials . There can still be a bit of expectation but we can leave.whereas if you are staying in the hotel you are kind of stuck there

I was mortified and felt very uncomfortable so told him id to leave he's excuse was id suggested the hotel so what else was he to think

I learnt that some men need it spelled out that nothing will be happening on a coffee social. You meeting in a hotel isn't a invite that something is going to happen. I had coffee with a guy before to help him get his first verify. I set clear boundaries before told him he wasn't my type but I was happy to give him advice and a verify. This coffee meet taught me never to let a guy walk me back to my car. He went to get into my car he said let's have a little kiss again I said no. Then he says I'm come out of my way to meet you (20 mins) and this is Fab so I was expecting a blowjob at least. I've met so many lovely guys for coffee but being put into this situation makes me wary of meeting anyone. So I just err on the side of caution.

What a ghowl. No wonder we have a bad name

We as in all men don't have a bad name "

Exactly BM as I said not all men have bad name I've had so many wonderful coffee meets over the years with such lovely guys. They shouldn't all be tarnished because a few don't know boundaries

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"We find if you use hotel bars or lobbies people tend to expect that there is going to be a play despite saying its a social. They see hotel and automatically think ok quick coffe then up to the room . Big turn off when people automatically assume a social meet leads straight to play. Yes it may but there has to be a strong attraction there.

This happened to me before, we met in the hotel bar for a coffee one lunch time, chatting maybe 20mins he excused himself to use the bathroom then came back to say he asked at reception about booking a room for a few hours no idea where that came out of as we were just chatting in general so it totally shocked me told him it wasn't for me and i left

Jesus that was some cheek on his behalf . We try and stick to bars and coffee shops now for socials . There can still be a bit of expectation but we can leave.whereas if you are staying in the hotel you are kind of stuck there

I was mortified and felt very uncomfortable so told him id to leave he's excuse was id suggested the hotel so what else was he to think

I learnt that some men need it spelled out that nothing will be happening on a coffee social. You meeting in a hotel isn't a invite that something is going to happen. I had coffee with a guy before to help him get his first verify. I set clear boundaries before told him he wasn't my type but I was happy to give him advice and a verify. This coffee meet taught me never to let a guy walk me back to my car. He went to get into my car he said let's have a little kiss again I said no. Then he says I'm come out of my way to meet you (20 mins) and this is Fab so I was expecting a blowjob at least. I've met so many lovely guys for coffee but being put into this situation makes me wary of meeting anyone. So I just err on the side of caution. "

And did he get his 'met this gorgeous man for a coffee, don't pass him by ladies' veri?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We find if you use hotel bars or lobbies people tend to expect that there is going to be a play despite saying its a social. They see hotel and automatically think ok quick coffe then up to the room . Big turn off when people automatically assume a social meet leads straight to play. Yes it may but there has to be a strong attraction there.

This happened to me before, we met in the hotel bar for a coffee one lunch time, chatting maybe 20mins he excused himself to use the bathroom then came back to say he asked at reception about booking a room for a few hours no idea where that came out of as we were just chatting in general so it totally shocked me told him it wasn't for me and i left

Jesus that was some cheek on his behalf . We try and stick to bars and coffee shops now for socials . There can still be a bit of expectation but we can leave.whereas if you are staying in the hotel you are kind of stuck there

I was mortified and felt very uncomfortable so told him id to leave he's excuse was id suggested the hotel so what else was he to think

I learnt that some men need it spelled out that nothing will be happening on a coffee social. You meeting in a hotel isn't a invite that something is going to happen. I had coffee with a guy before to help him get his first verify. I set clear boundaries before told him he wasn't my type but I was happy to give him advice and a verify. This coffee meet taught me never to let a guy walk me back to my car. He went to get into my car he said let's have a little kiss again I said no. Then he says I'm come out of my way to meet you (20 mins) and this is Fab so I was expecting a blowjob at least. I've met so many lovely guys for coffee but being put into this situation makes me wary of meeting anyone. So I just err on the side of caution.

And did he get his 'met this gorgeous man for a coffee, don't pass him by ladies' veri? "

I would never verify someone like that who put me in a uncomfortable situation so I refused to verify him and he did get pissy over it. Thankfully he left site soon after.

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By *lameBoyMan
over a year ago

Enfield & Dublin


"We find if you use hotel bars or lobbies people tend to expect that there is going to be a play despite saying its a social. They see hotel and automatically think ok quick coffe then up to the room . Big turn off when people automatically assume a social meet leads straight to play. Yes it may but there has to be a strong attraction there.

This happened to me before, we met in the hotel bar for a coffee one lunch time, chatting maybe 20mins he excused himself to use the bathroom then came back to say he asked at reception about booking a room for a few hours no idea where that came out of as we were just chatting in general so it totally shocked me told him it wasn't for me and i left

Jesus that was some cheek on his behalf . We try and stick to bars and coffee shops now for socials . There can still be a bit of expectation but we can leave.whereas if you are staying in the hotel you are kind of stuck there

I was mortified and felt very uncomfortable so told him id to leave he's excuse was id suggested the hotel so what else was he to think

I learnt that some men need it spelled out that nothing will be happening on a coffee social. You meeting in a hotel isn't a invite that something is going to happen. I had coffee with a guy before to help him get his first verify. I set clear boundaries before told him he wasn't my type but I was happy to give him advice and a verify. This coffee meet taught me never to let a guy walk me back to my car. He went to get into my car he said let's have a little kiss again I said no. Then he says I'm come out of my way to meet you (20 mins) and this is Fab so I was expecting a blowjob at least. I've met so many lovely guys for coffee but being put into this situation makes me wary of meeting anyone. So I just err on the side of caution.

And did he get his 'met this gorgeous man for a coffee, don't pass him by ladies' veri?

I would never verify someone like that who put me in an uncomfortable situation so I refused to verify him and he did get pissy over it. Thankfully he left site soon after. "

No good deed goes unpunished!

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"We find if you use hotel bars or lobbies people tend to expect that there is going to be a play despite saying its a social. They see hotel and automatically think ok quick coffe then up to the room . Big turn off when people automatically assume a social meet leads straight to play. Yes it may but there has to be a strong attraction there.

This happened to me before, we met in the hotel bar for a coffee one lunch time, chatting maybe 20mins he excused himself to use the bathroom then came back to say he asked at reception about booking a room for a few hours no idea where that came out of as we were just chatting in general so it totally shocked me told him it wasn't for me and i left

Jesus that was some cheek on his behalf . We try and stick to bars and coffee shops now for socials . There can still be a bit of expectation but we can leave.whereas if you are staying in the hotel you are kind of stuck there

I was mortified and felt very uncomfortable so told him id to leave he's excuse was id suggested the hotel so what else was he to think

I learnt that some men need it spelled out that nothing will be happening on a coffee social. You meeting in a hotel isn't a invite that something is going to happen. I had coffee with a guy before to help him get his first verify. I set clear boundaries before told him he wasn't my type but I was happy to give him advice and a verify. This coffee meet taught me never to let a guy walk me back to my car. He went to get into my car he said let's have a little kiss again I said no. Then he says I'm come out of my way to meet you (20 mins) and this is Fab so I was expecting a blowjob at least. I've met so many lovely guys for coffee but being put into this situation makes me wary of meeting anyone. So I just err on the side of caution.

And did he get his 'met this gorgeous man for a coffee, don't pass him by ladies' veri?

I would never verify someone like that who put me in a uncomfortable situation so I refused to verify him and he did get pissy over it. Thankfully he left site soon after. "

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By *adger BrocMan
over a year ago

Co. Cork

Did a first meet in a Spa.

Sauna, steam room, outdoor jacuzzi, followed by coffee and a chat.

Had been chatting for a good while so we knew it wouldn't be awkward.

In fact it was absolutely amazing and continues to be.

No...not still in the spa but follow up meets elsewhere.

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By *ildGroverMan
over a year ago

rathfarnham


"Now before some smart arse chimes in with.."a place that sells coffee"

I get that..lol

The question is more about how you can interact with your potential playmate in different venues & what are the pros & cons of different venues you have had meets? .

Busy coffee shop?

Petrol stations? Hotel lobbies? Etc...

"

All of the above.

Ideally somewhere with somewhere quiet for a kiss (step 2) or more if we are both inclined.

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By *eddybear37Man
over a year ago

everywhere kildare longford


"Coffee shops are good especially if they are spacious and have large carparks as sometimes id rather grab a coffee and just sit in the car for a more intimate chat.. u kept that quite lol

She said CAR pmsl bog

I’ll get you in it yet

Not TRUCK!! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Coffee shops that have plenty of seating do can chat away, during summer outdoor in a public place

Is that a strap-on on your harry the hunk in your second pic"

Yep I bought him a Xmas gift

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

Somewhere that both parties feel comfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People kiss on a first meet

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By *osie2023Woman
over a year ago

Tallaght

Well wherever it happens please don’t be like the prick who kept messaging me, persuaded me to meet him for lunch today (I got all dressed up etc), he met me outside a garden centre which has a cafe in it, we went in and he said he had to use the bathroom, disappeared and left me standing there like an idiot. Blocked me and I’m sitting in the car park having a good old cry for myself now. I was really hungry too haha

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"Well wherever it happens please don’t be like the prick who kept messaging me, persuaded me to meet him for lunch today (I got all dressed up etc), he met me outside a garden centre which has a cafe in it, we went in and he said he had to use the bathroom, disappeared and left me standing there like an idiot. Blocked me and I’m sitting in the car park having a good old cry for myself now. I was really hungry too haha"

Thats an absolutely terrible thing to do by anyone ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well wherever it happens please don’t be like the prick who kept messaging me, persuaded me to meet him for lunch today (I got all dressed up etc), he met me outside a garden centre which has a cafe in it, we went in and he said he had to use the bathroom, disappeared and left me standing there like an idiot. Blocked me and I’m sitting in the car park having a good old cry for myself now. I was really hungry too haha

Thats an absolutely terrible thing to do by anyone ..."

That was a really lousy, mean thing to do. I'd like to believe most guys wouldn't be so mean, hope I'm not nieve. Treat others the way you would like them to treat you....

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By *amsevenMan
over a year ago

cork

What an ass**le.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

My pet hate is somewhere that is too quiet and with people very nearby so you can't talk property. If you can't chat about fab stuff then what's the point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well wherever it happens please don’t be like the prick who kept messaging me, persuaded me to meet him for lunch today (I got all dressed up etc), he met me outside a garden centre which has a cafe in it, we went in and he said he had to use the bathroom, disappeared and left me standing there like an idiot. Blocked me and I’m sitting in the car park having a good old cry for myself now. I was really hungry too haha"

Well fuck him he showed his true colours very fast you're better off not meeting anyone like that. Dry those tears because the only tears you should shed over a man are gagging on his dick!

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By *osie2023Woman
over a year ago

Tallaght

I mean even if I wasn’t your thing, just have a cup of coffee & head off or say do you know what I’m not feeling it?

He had loads of verifications too so must have just been me lol.

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By *osie2023Woman
over a year ago

Tallaght

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By *osie2023Woman
over a year ago

Tallaght


"Well wherever it happens please don’t be like the prick who kept messaging me, persuaded me to meet him for lunch today (I got all dressed up etc), he met me outside a garden centre which has a cafe in it, we went in and he said he had to use the bathroom, disappeared and left me standing there like an idiot. Blocked me and I’m sitting in the car park having a good old cry for myself now. I was really hungry too haha

Well fuck him he showed his true colours very fast you're better off not meeting anyone like that. Dry those tears because the only tears you should shed over a man are gagging on his dick! "

My favourite tears

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mean even if I wasn’t your thing, just have a cup of coffee & head off or say do you know what I’m not feeling it?

He had loads of verifications too so must have just been me lol."

Saying something is the very least someone can do before they leave. I just don't get some people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once we know each other a little after exchanging messages for a few days, I've enjoyed meeting in car, 2 nice takeaway coffees (or tea if you prefer) and a good fab chat, sometimes with a few kisses slipping in... xx

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"I mean even if I wasn’t your thing, just have a cup of coffee & head off or say do you know what I’m not feeling it?

He had loads of verifications too so must have just been me lol."

This is exactly the way to do it....polite coffee...give each other a bit of time and go your separate ways afterwards having enjoyed the company

Its good basic manners ...we don't have to like everyone we meet

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

My guess would be he’s attached and saw someone he knew.

Whatever his reasons were, it’s a reflection on him, not on you so don’t give him a second thought. Block him and forget about him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are many people here who lack basic manners and have poor concept of boundaries. Rosie that was a despicable arsehole who did that to you , I have found over the years here that any guy who pushes to meet usually at a time not convenient to you and expects you to turn up dressed up and etc will turn out to be a bad mannered arse like the one you just met . Just laugh it off , there are decent guys here .

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"

I was mortified and felt very uncomfortable so told him id to leave he's excuse was id suggested the hotel so what else was he to think

I learnt that some men need it spelled out that nothing will be happening on a coffee social. You meeting in a hotel isn't a invite that something is going to happen. I had coffee with a guy before to help him get his first verify. I set clear boundaries before told him he wasn't my type but I was happy to give him advice and a verify. This coffee meet taught me never to let a guy walk me back to my car. He went to get into my car he said let's have a little kiss again I said no. Then he says I'm come out of my way to meet you (20 mins) and this is Fab so I was expecting a blowjob at least. I've met so many lovely guys for coffee but being put into this situation makes me wary of meeting anyone. So I just err on the side of caution. "

I had something similar happen too when I met a guy for coffee and we went back to the cars after I was still in two minds about meeting him again he seemed okay while we had been chatting but there was something that just wasn't there for me to want to meet him for more.He grabbed me and kissed me at the cars then I literally had to use physical force to stop him mauling at me. He did apologise but his excuse was because I was on fab and met him he figured I'd be up for more He was also someone I had only chatted to for a day before I met him and why I won't meet anyone quickly anymore on here. To be fair he has been the only man I've met who was a dick head and didn't understand what a social was. Everyone else I've met were great even when they knew it wasn't going to go farther than a chat.

After that though I have been a lot more aware of where I park and park as close to the entrance of the place we meet and I make sure it is in a public place.

I have met some people in my car ina public place for a chat and it's been fine but I would now stick with a coffee and a chat in a coffee shop somewhere when I decide to do any new meets again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually meet where she wants and I bring the coffee and we sit and chat in her car in a nice public scenic area like a park or seaside. A nice location and nice company is good.

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"Well wherever it happens please don’t be like the prick who kept messaging me, persuaded me to meet him for lunch today (I got all dressed up etc), he met me outside a garden centre which has a cafe in it, we went in and he said he had to use the bathroom, disappeared and left me standing there like an idiot. Blocked me and I’m sitting in the car park having a good old cry for myself now. I was really hungry too haha"

Awwww no what a shitty thing to do....

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Well wherever it happens please don’t be like the prick who kept messaging me, persuaded me to meet him for lunch today (I got all dressed up etc), he met me outside a garden centre which has a cafe in it, we went in and he said he had to use the bathroom, disappeared and left me standing there like an idiot. Blocked me and I’m sitting in the car park having a good old cry for myself now. I was really hungry too haha"

What a horrible thing to do to anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well wherever it happens please don’t be like the prick who kept messaging me, persuaded me to meet him for lunch today (I got all dressed up etc), he met me outside a garden centre which has a cafe in it, we went in and he said he had to use the bathroom, disappeared and left me standing there like an idiot. Blocked me and I’m sitting in the car park having a good old cry for myself now. I was really hungry too haha

Well fuck him he showed his true colours very fast you're better off not meeting anyone like that. Dry those tears because the only tears you should shed over a man are gagging on his dick! "

Will you marry me ?

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By *eddybear37Man
over a year ago

everywhere kildare longford

Quick one for ye as some know I’m a trucker was chatting a lady for months one day was near by I said u fancy meeting for coffee she told me of great place to park truck she pulled up in car gave me two fingers drove off and blocked me now bearing in mind I had been both texting and chatting this lady on phone well was I taken for some ejot

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"Quick one for ye as some know I’m a trucker was chatting a lady for months one day was near by I said u fancy meeting for coffee she told me of great place to park truck she pulled up in car gave me two fingers drove off and blocked me now bearing in mind I had been both texting and chatting this lady on phone well was I taken for some ejot "

Thats feckin terrible

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By *ateniteCouple
over a year ago

Youghal

We use our local pub, plenty of quiet corners inside and lots of outdoor seating for the summer.

Mrs had to stop using it for solo meets because eyebrows were being raised when she was meeting a different guy each time

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

Service stations like others have said are good, just have to be careful that people can't hear your conversations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well wherever it happens please don’t be like the prick who kept messaging me, persuaded me to meet him for lunch today (I got all dressed up etc), he met me outside a garden centre which has a cafe in it, we went in and he said he had to use the bathroom, disappeared and left me standing there like an idiot. Blocked me and I’m sitting in the car park having a good old cry for myself now. I was really hungry too haha"

Sending you a massive hug, have had something similar with a guy, I'm very clear that I'm not skinny, always share a face pic and a full length pic before I meet, the guy I met for coffee walked in, looked me up and down , says "no thanks not for me" turned on his heels and left. I sat in my car and cried my eyes out and I'll be honest I've had very few coffee meets since as I just don't trust guys anymore.

And as Jaffa said its more about him than you, he's a twat.

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By *lameBoyMan
over a year ago

Enfield & Dublin


"I mean even if I wasn’t your thing, just have a cup of coffee & head off or say do you know what I’m not feeling it?

He had loads of verifications too so must have just been me lol."

It wasn’t you, don’t let thoughts like that enter your head. He was a pure asshole in how he carried on. He is the one in the wrong here.

Keep your head up and keep on being you.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"Quick one for ye as some know I’m a trucker was chatting a lady for months one day was near by I said u fancy meeting for coffee she told me of great place to park truck she pulled up in car gave me two fingers drove off and blocked me now bearing in mind I had been both texting and chatting this lady on phone well was I taken for some ejot "

Shocking behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We use our local pub, plenty of quiet corners inside and lots of outdoor seating for the summer.

Mrs had to stop using it for solo meets because eyebrows were being raised when she was meeting a different guy each time "

Very difficult to hide ok when it's a different guy everytime, other people are inclined to put 2+2 together.

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By *osie2023Woman
over a year ago

Tallaght


"Well wherever it happens please don’t be like the prick who kept messaging me, persuaded me to meet him for lunch today (I got all dressed up etc), he met me outside a garden centre which has a cafe in it, we went in and he said he had to use the bathroom, disappeared and left me standing there like an idiot. Blocked me and I’m sitting in the car park having a good old cry for myself now. I was really hungry too haha

Sending you a massive hug, have had something similar with a guy, I'm very clear that I'm not skinny, always share a face pic and a full length pic before I meet, the guy I met for coffee walked in, looked me up and down , says "no thanks not for me" turned on his heels and left. I sat in my car and cried my eyes out and I'll be honest I've had very few coffee meets since as I just don't trust guys anymore.

And as Jaffa said its more about him than you, he's a twat. "

Thanks for the hug and sending them back. Some men can be awful pricks with bad manners but I know They’re not all like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well wherever it happens please don’t be like the prick who kept messaging me, persuaded me to meet him for lunch today (I got all dressed up etc), he met me outside a garden centre which has a cafe in it, we went in and he said he had to use the bathroom, disappeared and left me standing there like an idiot. Blocked me and I’m sitting in the car park having a good old cry for myself now. I was really hungry too haha

Sending you a massive hug, have had something similar with a guy, I'm very clear that I'm not skinny, always share a face pic and a full length pic before I meet, the guy I met for coffee walked in, looked me up and down , says "no thanks not for me" turned on his heels and left. I sat in my car and cried my eyes out and I'll be honest I've had very few coffee meets since as I just don't trust guys anymore.

And as Jaffa said its more about him than you, he's a twat. "

Least he turned up , l have been ghosted after taking time off work ( cause that time suited her best ) drove for over an hour and Zilch .. nothing..a no show ...it can..and does.. happen...but what that guy did to you DD was horrible, he could..and should.. have at least have the coffee with you, if things weren't to go any further so be it but at least have the coffee and chat .

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"Well wherever it happens please don’t be like the prick who kept messaging me, persuaded me to meet him for lunch today (I got all dressed up etc), he met me outside a garden centre which has a cafe in it, we went in and he said he had to use the bathroom, disappeared and left me standing there like an idiot. Blocked me and I’m sitting in the car park having a good old cry for myself now. I was really hungry too haha

Sending you a massive hug, have had something similar with a guy, I'm very clear that I'm not skinny, always share a face pic and a full length pic before I meet, the guy I met for coffee walked in, looked me up and down , says "no thanks not for me" turned on his heels and left. I sat in my car and cried my eyes out and I'll be honest I've had very few coffee meets since as I just don't trust guys anymore.

And as Jaffa said its more about him than you, he's a twat.

Least he turned up , l have been ghosted after taking time off work ( cause that time suited her best ) drove for over an hour and Zilch .. nothing..a no show ...it can..and does.. happen...but what that guy did to you DD was horrible, he could..and should.. have at least have the coffee with you, if things weren't to go any further so be it but at least have the coffee and chat ."

That's a horrible thing to happen especially after taken time off and all, Ive gone on coffee meets and have had zero connection with the person and im sure ive gone and they had likewise with me we just had a coffee n chat then went on our separate ways after these things happen unfortunately...

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

I usually meet in a local hotel, its busy enough, but big enough so people can't earwig. Under the security cameras, too, in case she's a mad one. Ive only once met for a walk in a forest park, at her suggestion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well wherever it happens please don’t be like the prick who kept messaging me, persuaded me to meet him for lunch today (I got all dressed up etc), he met me outside a garden centre which has a cafe in it, we went in and he said he had to use the bathroom, disappeared and left me standing there like an idiot. Blocked me and I’m sitting in the car park having a good old cry for myself now. I was really hungry too haha

Sending you a massive hug, have had something similar with a guy, I'm very clear that I'm not skinny, always share a face pic and a full length pic before I meet, the guy I met for coffee walked in, looked me up and down , says "no thanks not for me" turned on his heels and left. I sat in my car and cried my eyes out and I'll be honest I've had very few coffee meets since as I just don't trust guys anymore.

And as Jaffa said its more about him than you, he's a twat.

Least he turned up , l have been ghosted after taking time off work ( cause that time suited her best ) drove for over an hour and Zilch .. nothing..a no show ...it can..and does.. happen...but what that guy did to you DD was horrible, he could..and should.. have at least have the coffee with you, if things weren't to go any further so be it but at least have the coffee and chat ."

Oh I've been ghosted, stood up,messed about its part of fab , hard to believe some guys consider themselves adults.

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By *amson4Delilah OP   Couple
over a year ago

ballina


"Did a first meet in a Spa.

Sauna, steam room, outdoor jacuzzi, followed by coffee and a chat.

Had been chatting for a good while so we knew it wouldn't be awkward.

In fact it was absolutely amazing and continues to be.

No...not still in the spa but follow up meets elsewhere. "

Now that sounds class

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By *adger BrocMan
over a year ago

Co. Cork


"Did a first meet in a Spa.

Sauna, steam room, outdoor jacuzzi, followed by coffee and a chat.

Had been chatting for a good while so we knew it wouldn't be awkward.

In fact it was absolutely amazing and continues to be.

No...not still in the spa but follow up meets elsewhere.

Now that sounds class "

She is a class lady so I had to raise my game....other things raised also but had to be discreet.... judicious use of the towel and robe provided.....lol

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By *ol_ieMan
over a year ago

Dublin west

I find mid week usually places are quieter or Sunday morning for a quiet coffee.

But it's only coffee so not that bothered who is in earshot really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to meet in very public places. So Kildare Village or Junction 14 or Costa etc. I'm usually still in my office clothes and I bring my laptop as a decoy so if anyone sees us it looks work related. I try to sit as far away from others as possible. I was up in Junction 14 getting a coffee with a Fabber and when I got back to the car I got a super creepy message from a fabber asking had I enjoyed my coffee he was sitting directly behind us andeard us. I like places with larger car parks so I walk myself back to the car. I heard too many horror stories of people being followed home. "

oh no!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well wherever it happens please don’t be like the prick who kept messaging me, persuaded me to meet him for lunch today (I got all dressed up etc), he met me outside a garden centre which has a cafe in it, we went in and he said he had to use the bathroom, disappeared and left me standing there like an idiot. Blocked me and I’m sitting in the car park having a good old cry for myself now. I was really hungry too haha"

ffs that's rotten

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By *rinibooWoman
over a year ago

clare


"Coffee shops are good especially if they are spacious and have large carparks as sometimes id rather grab a coffee and just sit in the car for a more intimate chat.. u kept that quite lol

She said CAR pmsl bog

Not TRUCK!! "

Loads of space In the truck cab .

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"Coffee shops are good especially if they are spacious and have large carparks as sometimes id rather grab a coffee and just sit in the car for a more intimate chat.. u kept that quite lol

She said CAR pmsl bog

Not TRUCK!!

Loads of space In the truck cab . "

Heard Volvo's are good that way alright

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Coffee shops are good especially if they are spacious and have large carparks as sometimes id rather grab a coffee and just sit in the car for a more intimate chat.. u kept that quite lol

She said CAR pmsl bog

Not TRUCK!!

Loads of space In the truck cab .

Heard Volvo's are good that way alright "

Feck wish I could drive ...

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By *ot neuteredMan
over a year ago

Kildare

Jebus, some horror stories here, I always let the other person choose a place to meet, though my preference would be outdoors, had a great social meet last year in PDI, thanks to the Who's Near facility here on Fab, both of us happened on the sunbeds at hut 6, both nude , it was brilliant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought it said stealing apples from the orchard

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By *adger BrocMan
over a year ago

Co. Cork


"Coffee shops are good especially if they are spacious and have large carparks as sometimes id rather grab a coffee and just sit in the car for a more intimate chat.. u kept that quite lol

She said CAR pmsl bog

Not TRUCK!!

Loads of space In the truck cab .

Heard Volvo's are good that way alright

Feck wish I could drive ... "

You drive me crazy....that's good enough for me.

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By *eddybear37Man
over a year ago

everywhere kildare longford


"Coffee shops are good especially if they are spacious and have large carparks as sometimes id rather grab a coffee and just sit in the car for a more intimate chat.. u kept that quite lol

She said CAR pmsl bog

Not TRUCK!! :

Loads of space In the truck cab . "

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By *eddybear37Man
over a year ago

everywhere kildare longford


"Coffee shops are good especially if they are spacious and have large carparks as sometimes id rather grab a coffee and just sit in the car for a more intimate chat.. u kept that quite lol

She said CAR pmsl bog

Not TRUCK!!

Loads of space In the truck cab .

Heard Volvo's are good that way alright "
bog m

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By *eddybear37Man
over a year ago

everywhere kildare longford


"Coffee shops are good especially if they are spacious and have large carparks as sometimes id rather grab a coffee and just sit in the car for a more intimate chat.. u kept that quite lol

She said CAR pmsl bog

Not TRUCK!!

Loads of space In the truck cab .

Heard Volvo's are good that way alright bog m "
it’s official _s lolly got into the Volvo lol

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"Coffee shops are good especially if they are spacious and have large carparks as sometimes id rather grab a coffee and just sit in the car for a more intimate chat.. u kept that quite lol

She said CAR pmsl bog

Not TRUCK!!

Loads of space In the truck cab .

Heard Volvo's are good that way alright bog m it’s official _s lolly got into the Volvo lol "

He gracefully helped me up into the cab but think he just wanted to look at my ass as i did

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By *eddybear37Man
over a year ago

everywhere kildare longford


"Coffee shops are good especially if they are spacious and have large carparks as sometimes id rather grab a coffee and just sit in the car for a more intimate chat.. u kept that quite lol

She said CAR pmsl bog

Not TRUCK!!

Loads of space In the truck cab .

Heard Volvo's are good that way alright bog m it’s official _s lolly got into the Volvo lol

He gracefully helped me up into the cab but think he just wanted to look at my ass as i did "
I swear I was a good boy

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Anonymous websites are a magnet for creeps, weirdos nutters and psychopaths; especially those that focus on liaisons between like-minded individuals who seek nsa relationships

It would be exceptionally unwise to meet anyone except in a location in which nearby members of the public can be summoned in the event of a first contact turning nasty.

But the cunning individual will of course present the best image at the first meeting in order to get their target to lower their defences.

Adverse experiences, not always involving the prospect of sexual contact have taught me it can take some time for wolves, in sheep's clothing, to truly reveal themselves!

Nasty individuals, with exploitative personalities often play a long game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our only experience of this wasn't half as bad as some of these horror stories but still shitty enough it's worth sharing.

A single WELL verified woman local to us had been asking us to meet for a social, we agreed, sorted a sitter and arranged to meet for coffee on a day we both had off work, morning of the social we had a look at fab and she'd hidden her profile, as it got closer to the time to meet her profile was still hidden, we left it there and didn't even bother going to the meet, she was back on fab 2 days later profile un hidden and just carrying on as normal, she never messaged us to see why we didn't turn up and we never messaged her, we just moved on, this was the beginning of last summer and until recently she was still on the site, she would send a wink every now and again lol the cheek of it.

Often enough she disappears for a week or so and returns with a status like "I'm back"

We definitely dodged a bullet with her because we'd heard some tales from other fabbers around Mayo about her and some of the shite she was at.

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

Have generally met for strolls in public places or coffee shops (pre couple's profile). Have been lucky enough to always meet respectful others.

As a couple, we either attend socials or meet in a coffee shop, bar or restaurant for a social. Again, have always met others who are respectful of boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a awkward enough coffee meet in a cafe last year with a couple.It was crowded,people in earshot,and it was like a job interview too lol.Find meeting in a car (always leave her choose whos car) somewhere public suits.Have done that a few times and has always went grand,can understand what some would be cautious though.

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By *amson4Delilah OP   Couple
over a year ago

ballina


"Our only experience of this wasn't half as bad as some of these horror stories but still shitty enough it's worth sharing.

A single WELL verified woman local to us had been asking us to meet for a social, we agreed, sorted a sitter and arranged to meet for coffee on a day we both had off work, morning of the social we had a look at fab and she'd hidden her profile, as it got closer to the time to meet her profile was still hidden, we left it there and didn't even bother going to the meet, she was back on fab 2 days later profile un hidden and just carrying on as normal, she never messaged us to see why we didn't turn up and we never messaged her, we just moved on, this was the beginning of last summer and until recently she was still on the site, she would send a wink every now and again lol the cheek of it.

Often enough she disappears for a week or so and returns with a status like "I'm back"

We definitely dodged a bullet with her because we'd heard some tales from other fabbers around Mayo about her and some of the shite she was at. "

Now that's another reason we don't play local. A person with issies the other end of the country is one thing.. deffo don't want that local.

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over a year ago


"Our only experience of this wasn't half as bad as some of these horror stories but still shitty enough it's worth sharing.

A single WELL verified woman local to us had been asking us to meet for a social, we agreed, sorted a sitter and arranged to meet for coffee on a day we both had off work, morning of the social we had a look at fab and she'd hidden her profile, as it got closer to the time to meet her profile was still hidden, we left it there and didn't even bother going to the meet, she was back on fab 2 days later profile un hidden and just carrying on as normal, she never messaged us to see why we didn't turn up and we never messaged her, we just moved on, this was the beginning of last summer and until recently she was still on the site, she would send a wink every now and again lol the cheek of it.

Often enough she disappears for a week or so and returns with a status like "I'm back"

We definitely dodged a bullet with her because we'd heard some tales from other fabbers around Mayo about her and some of the shite she was at.

Now that's another reason we don't play local. A person with issies the other end of the country is one thing.. deffo don't want that local. "

Makes sense. We've only met couples locally and they've been well worth meeting so can't complain.

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