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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

Or the stories you tell yourself

This is inspired by a lounge thread

Mine used to be really harsh . Not only is it much kinder these days but can be self motivating.

What’s your inner dialogue like ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or the stories you tell yourself

This is inspired by a lounge thread

Mine used to be really harsh . Not only is it much kinder these days but can be self motivating.

What’s your inner dialogue like ?

"

I don't have a inner .. thing .. why use such big words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's a narrative lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or the stories you tell yourself

This is inspired by a lounge thread

Mine used to be really harsh . Not only is it much kinder these days but can be self motivating.

What’s your inner dialogue like ?

"

Is this a spin off what what does your head talk too you about seen it early on the other place

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By *huCullainMan
over a year ago

Rathowen

Not an inner narrative but am inner narration.

Usually when I'm in super valu or Lidl and always by Sarah Millican or Michael McIntyre.

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By *ulu00Woman
over a year ago

Donegal

I can never hear mine, too many voices in my head chatting at once

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

This is an important post; your inner narrative has a profound influence on your attitude to your life.

Developing a positive but realistic inner narrative is an ongoing form of inner psychotherapy, that may be influenced by others in your life either positively or negatively.

Mine is a problem solving narrative; looking for and solving problems that will mostly benefit others and me to a much lesser extent

If negativity is creeping the turn it around; your inner narrative dictates whether daily life is a pleasure or laden with negativity.

If a toxic person comes into your life and sours your inner narrative, get rid of them immediately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've managed to set my to a constant loop of "none of this shit matters", which is very helpful in maintaining a positive mindset.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Mine is mostly arrogantly telling me i can literally do anything. It's the reason I'm building a kitchen right now rather than paying a kitchen fitter like I should have done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah must the same as the OP.

Used to be very harsh but much kinder these days.

It can take a long time to undo the effects of the harsh inner voice in my experience.

Much better to say

I AM AMAZING

And so are all of you. Yay!!!

Big kiss to all xxxx

Melanie the Motivator

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By *astelloWoman
over a year ago

Far far away

Such an important post.

Think people often default a lot to negative narrative.

Currently reading Brene Brown books on inner dialogue and the importance of the reset..

Key takeaway "worthiness"

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By *asual777 OP   Man
over a year ago

i travel all over


"What's a narrative lol"

What do you tell yourself in your head ? Is it nice things ? Or is it

I should have

I would have

I could have

Or even ‘I am a loser’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I compete in my sport at a very high level and my inner dialogue on race days in the past has always been focused on self loathing and calling myself a piece of shit hahaha

I made a switch last year my sports psych to focusing on being positive. Telling myself I am worth it, I have worked hard and i do deserve this. My results improved because i was able to commit and back myself truly. I’m not sure if it’s an Irish thing but we seem to be terrible at being kind to ourselves. Like really terrible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We built our own kitchen, my only advice is stop now and call a professional before it’s too late hahahahaha not a right angle in sight.

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By *adger BrocMan
over a year ago

Co. Cork

In real life situations are either positive or negative in the way they impact on you. Trying to play out something in your head as being positive when it is manifestly negative is mearly fantasy and escapism.

Better to accept the negative situation and deal with it.

Trying to change it in your head won't change it in the real world.

I am now telling myself that there will be a positive reaction to this post.

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

After what was the scariest situation in my life to date this week, in which I could have gone blaming myself, expected everyone else to blame me, I've realised that my mindset has drastically changed over the last few years.

Though there are times I think and talk negatively, and imagine worst possible scenarios and outcomes, I do have an overall positive outlook on life.

My mantra is that "everything happens for a reason" and bad situations can be turned into a positive.

It really is "just" a matter of turning your own mindset. It's easier said than done, needs time and dedication. Practicing mindfulness and gratitude daily has a huge impact.

For anyone struggling, I would suggest to think about 3 things daily that you are grateful for...and find 3 things daily that you like about yourself or situations you handled well.

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"In real life situations are either positive or negative in the way they impact on you. Trying to play out something in your head as being positive when it is manifestly negative is mearly fantasy and escapism.

Better to accept the negative situation and deal with it.

Trying to change it in your head won't change it in the real world.

I am now telling myself that there will be a positive reaction to this post.

"

Any situation can be turned into a positive if you can see it as a learning experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In real life situations are either positive or negative in the way they impact on you. Trying to play out something in your head as being positive when it is manifestly negative is mearly fantasy and escapism.

Better to accept the negative situation and deal with it.

Trying to change it in your head won't change it in the real world.

I am now telling myself that there will be a positive reaction to this post.

"

I don't agree with this at all.

You have the choice of how you react to a situation. It may not change the situation itself but can change how you feel about it.

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By *adger BrocMan
over a year ago

Co. Cork


"In real life situations are either positive or negative in the way they impact on you. Trying to play out something in your head as being positive when it is manifestly negative is mearly fantasy and escapism.

Better to accept the negative situation and deal with it.

Trying to change it in your head won't change it in the real world.

I am now telling myself that there will be a positive reaction to this post.

I don't agree with this at all.

You have the choice of how you react to a situation. It may not change the situation itself but can change how you feel about it."

I prefer to work towards changing the negative situation or remove myself from its influence if I am not in a position to change it.

I feel this is better than trying to hide from he truth with some "in my head" fairytale scenario.

A practical personality and an engineering background lead me to seek workable solutions to problems. If something is a negative you won't change it by imagining it is a positive or worse still that it doesn't exist.

You may feel positive about it but its still a big ol negative.

Change it in reality and it will no longer be a negative so no need for any internalising.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My inner monologue is a scatter of voices. One is planning my meals for the week, one is focusing on the laptop while I work, one is singing Carry on My Wayward son in the background and the final, female is telling me I need to stop this shit at once. CBD oil helps to cool the brain a bit

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"We built our own kitchen, my only advice is stop now and call a professional before it’s too late hahahahaha not a right angle in sight. "

Ours will 100% be the same. I've even got a neighbour who is a kitchen fitter... but no. I HAVE to listen to the overconfident voice telling me I can do it all on my own.

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin


"We built our own kitchen, my only advice is stop now and call a professional before it’s too late hahahahaha not a right angle in sight.

Ours will 100% be the same. I've even got a neighbour who is a kitchen fitter... but no. I HAVE to listen to the overconfident voice telling me I can do it all on my own."

Or you're just a sucker for punishment

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By *he English OneMan
over a year ago

west

I know voices in my head talk to regularly enough but never heard my inners speaking out to me although I hear a slight grumble whenever I get the dose of the hunger if that counts for talking

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