FabSwingers.com forum: Situations you find awkward

By *asual777 OP Man
over a year ago

i travel all over

Going into a clothes shop and staff immediately asking me if I need help . Tend to leave immediately

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

Being in unfamiliar surroundings, meeting people I don’t know and sometimes meeting people I do know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I hold the door open for someone after I enter somewhere and then other people arrive so I continue to hold it and then I’m left there holding the door awkwardly like a feckin door man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Going into a clothes shop and staff immediately asking me if I need help . Tend to leave immediately

Hate this you'd only in the door

I'm a grown adult I can look for myself and if I need help I can ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Family gatherings when you have to speak to people you actually don't like but kinda have to....

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Funerals.....don't know what to do

Don't know what to say .....

Once said to a friends wife at her mothers funeral

" you'll get over it" ....don't know why because I was thinking of saying " sorry for your loss"

Hate them

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By *xplicitMan
over a year ago

donegal

Clothes shops, family gatherings and funerals… probably only completely content when I’m naked, think I need help

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By *iggtommy2000Man
over a year ago

Gorey

"When I hold the door open for someone after I enter somewhere and then other people arrive so I continue to hold it and then I’m left there holding the door awkwardly like a feckin door man"

I like to shout YOU'RE WELCOME just after this happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Going into a clothes shop and staff immediately asking me if I need help . Tend to leave immediately

Think how awkward they feel, most times they are told my management to do this, and I've done it and it's horrible.

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By *ildGroverMan
over a year ago

rathfarnham

"Funerals.....don't know what to do

Don't know what to say .....

Once said to a friends wife at her mothers funeral

" you'll get over it" ....don't know why because I was thinking of saying " sorry for your loss"

Hate them "

Well, at least you didn’t say “no great loss”….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trying to Get a taxi home in full kink gear after an event...can be interesting lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens most of the time when lm in a shop , not a supermarket now , just a shop , l suppose they are just doing their job but at least give a person a few minutes to look around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I hold the door open for someone after I enter somewhere and then other people arrive so I continue to hold it and then I’m left there holding the door awkwardly like a feckin door man"

Did it for most of my time when l was going through them so l know what it's like and l'd always say " you're welcome " when the person ..man or woman would walk straight through and not even acknowledge that somebody held the door open ..now most of the time l go through but keep it open for the person behind but no more left holding the door.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

That situation when you arrive to do a job and the lady of the house asks you to come in the back door. You strip off, get the johnny on and the lube ready. Then you realise that she just meant to come in the back door of the house. Oh how we laughed.

Totally awkward and happens so often!

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

What about when you walk towards a door and hold it open for the next person not realising they're a bit further away than you thought

Do you let it go or do they run

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

"Funerals.....don't know what to do

Don't know what to say .....

Once said to a friends wife at her mothers funeral

" you'll get over it" ....don't know why because I was thinking of saying " sorry for your loss"

Hate them "

I was once called out to a house because they had no heating and hot water. When I turned up there were a load of cars out front so I wondered what was happening. Knocked on the door to be greeted by a grieving widow and all the guests at a removal from the house.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"Funerals.....don't know what to do

Don't know what to say .....

Once said to a friends wife at her mothers funeral

" you'll get over it" ....don't know why because I was thinking of saying " sorry for your loss"

Hate them

What did you do

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By *oo32Man
over a year ago

tipperary

Saying bye to someone after a coffee...

And then proceeding to walk the same way as them because they parked near where you parked

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

"Funerals.....don't know what to do

Don't know what to say .....

Once said to a friends wife at her mothers funeral

" you'll get over it" ....don't know why because I was thinking of saying " sorry for your loss"

Hate them

What did you do "

I fixed it and fucked off as fast as I could. Thankfully it was an easy fix and outside in the garage

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By * la carteCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

"That situation when you arrive to do a job and the lady of the house asks you to come in the back door. You strip off, get the johnny on and the lube ready. Then you realise that she just meant to come in the back door of the house. Oh how we laughed.

Totally awkward and happens so often!

Don't you just hate waking from a (potentially wet) dream

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By *ealcoupleCouple
over a year ago

"Funerals.....don't know what to do

Don't know what to say .....

Once said to a friends wife at her mothers funeral

" you'll get over it" ....don't know why because I was thinking of saying " sorry for your loss"

Hate them "

Sorry but i Lol'd

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

Totally awkward and happens so often!

Don't you just hate waking from a (potentially wet) dream

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Very frequently I have to pretend that I can hear what people are saying to me; mask-wearing during the pandemic was really bad for me because I was unable to see people's lips move.

The reason for my hearing loss was that I was in a building that was blown up by an IED (an improvised explosive device in a car) in the seventies and my hearing has never been the same since.

Any kind of background noise is a nightmare for me as it drowns out all other sounds, and voices.

Communication in writing is no problem for me, but conversations are almost impossible!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shaking hands at mass.

Pity they got rid of it long after I stopped going to mass

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By *astelloWoman
over a year ago

Far far away

Yes, not hearing people properly and you get to the stage you cant ask them to repeat the question again. I generally agree to what ever they've asked... Cringe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

buying condoms for me

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By *ursecretmischiefCouple
over a year ago

The West

"Funerals.....don't know what to do

Don't know what to say .....

Once said to a friends wife at her mothers funeral

" you'll get over it" ....don't know why because I was thinking of saying " sorry for your loss"

Hate them

Sorry but i Lol'd"

Same!

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By *oobopMan
over a year ago

Ballinasloe

"When I hold the door open for someone after I enter somewhere and then other people arrive so I continue to hold it and then I’m left there holding the door awkwardly like a feckin door man"

Haha snap

the cheeky feckers.let go of it and legged it one time cos it was getting silly,but couldn't be staying around to incur the wrath of strangers lol

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By *dfabMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne

The hearing thing.

If it's a crowded/noisy place, I find myself lip reading almost and then getting the odd strange look from people talking.

Recently actually left a work Christmas party because of the hum of chatter.

Perhaps time for a hearing aid!

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By *atherjackhackettMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

"Funerals.....don't know what to do

Don't know what to say .....

Once said to a friends wife at her mothers funeral

" you'll get over it" ....don't know why because I was thinking of saying " sorry for your loss"

Hate them "

My sympathies or My condolences and move on. Simple. No need to over think it

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Funerals are a nightmare in that one never knows what to say; I have found a simple solution to this problem: I do not attend wakes or funerals and have not done so for decades.

Relatives and friends of the deceased should be allowed to grieve in peace

Death is an inevitable part of a natural cycle!

When my old dog died I was really devastated, because he was my companion for a long time and I truly cared for him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People being absolute beyond beyond beyond what's reasonable, totally offensive asses ....and biting my tongue.

I try.

Sometimes I succeed.

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By *cl2010Couple
over a year ago

cork

"Funerals.....don't know what to do

Don't know what to say .....

Once said to a friends wife at her mothers funeral

" you'll get over it" ....don't know why because I was thinking of saying " sorry for your loss"

Hate them

My sympathies or My condolences and move on. Simple. No need to over think it"

My condolences. Move on.

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By *oriumTergoMan
over a year ago

City Centre

"Trying to Get a taxi home in full kink gear after an event...can be interesting lol"

Go on outa that. You love it

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"Funerals are a nightmare in that one never knows what to say; I have found a simple solution to this problem: I do not attend wakes or funerals and have not done so for decades.

Relatives and friends of the deceased should be allowed to grieve in peace

Death is an inevitable part of a natural cycle!

When my old dog died I was really devastated, because he was my companion for a long time and I truly cared for him!"

You probably don't know what to say because you're out of practice.

Death is indeed inevitable, but showing empathy with grieving people is a positive thing. Leaving people to grieve on their own is fine if they know that that's what they want. Showing empathy and offering support is much more positive though.

I grew up in a part of rural Ireland where there is still a very strong culture around death and bereavement. This means big traditional wakes with large funerals. It is incredibly different to what happens in most of urban Dublin where in many cases even relatively close neighbours ignore the event.

The former may seem a bit cringey to many city dwellers but it's a much more positive way of dealing with the loss and people get to express their grief in a way that is much more conducive to healing than in the latter case.

This may be a personal opinion but it's based on decades of experience with both versions.

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"The hearing thing.

If it's a crowded/noisy place, I find myself lip reading almost and then getting the odd strange look from people talking.

Recently actually left a work Christmas party because of the hum of chatter.

Perhaps time for a hearing aid!

That kind of deafness is caused by nightclub music and is very common. We are both the same here, tone deaf when lots of noise/chatter around us. That's why I hate noisy pubs, can't chat and just end up drinking more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Competing Infront of a large public crowd. Or public speaking.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

"The hearing thing.

If it's a crowded/noisy place, I find myself lip reading almost and then getting the odd strange look from people talking.

Recently actually left a work Christmas party because of the hum of chatter.

Perhaps time for a hearing aid!

Some restaurants are too loud....TGI's for a start....refuse to go there now

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

I have never understood why some restaurants and cafes insist on playing music so loudly; in many instances it (loud musak) is for the benefit/ amusement of the staff rather than the paying customers.

SLM places that I frequent in the early morning are as loud as a disco; I bring 37db ear defenders which are sufficient for working at an airport in close proxity to jets and turboprops!

These noisy, excessively noisy, places are not really conducive to intimate conversation.

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By *he MickMan
over a year ago

southside

One on One I'm not too bad but any social occasion/function and I'm struggling big time.

Looking for the exit after 10 minutes

Hate that about myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm going throu something similar not going into detail but since covid my 16yo is struggling bigtime he only leaves the house to go to school .. he hates crowds and loud music, don't know why shops have to have the music so loud.. I know some shops do have quiet time for special needs people ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One on One I'm not too bad but any social occasion/function and I'm struggling big time.

Looking for the exit after 10 minutes

Hate that about myself "

I'm the opposite now, when I joined fab first I'd go to socials and sit at table, now I'm up, mingling and chatting but always home alone. The whole one on one thing is scary now and I've stopped even having coffee meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was never much of a drinker so if I’m in a pub or similar I feel like an imposter and that everyone knows it

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By *wingme22Man
over a year ago

Galway

"Funerals.....don't know what to do

Don't know what to say .....

Once said to a friends wife at her mothers funeral

" you'll get over it" ....don't know why because I was thinking of saying " sorry for your loss"

Hate them

Sorry but i Lol'd"

This made me blush

Rembered walking into a funeral and saying "pleased to meet you" to the first 4or5 mourners,

They were my nabours ffs

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By *ofusplusCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

"Funerals.....don't know what to do

Don't know what to say .....

Once said to a friends wife at her mothers funeral

" you'll get over it" ....don't know why because I was thinking of saying " sorry for your loss"

Hate them

Sorry but i Lol'd

This made me blush

Rembered walking into a funeral and saying "pleased to meet you" to the first 4or5 mourners,

They were my nabours ffs"

Omg hilarious

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By *verage DMan
over a year ago

waterford

Trying to have a wank at mass!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funerals.....don't know what to do

Don't know what to say .....

Once said to a friends wife at her mothers funeral

" you'll get over it" ....don't know why because I was thinking of saying " sorry for your loss"

Hate them "

At least you didn't say you're next...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chuggers on the street,

You know, those students wanting you to fill out a form to direct debit you for Barnardos or Guide Dogs. The slightest bit of eye contact and they'll try stop you.

I would literally re-arrange my route on foot in town to not get that awkward encounter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very few at this stage, except perhaps a coffee meet with someone who can't string a sentence together, I feel bad for them which is an instant turn-off

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Coffee meets in general.

It's just a weird concept, meeting someone to check out fuckability and regardless of the result go home afterwards. It's just awkward! If compatible you meet again for sex if not compatible write a 'don't pass him/her by veri' and never talk again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Trying to Get a taxi home in full kink gear after an event...can be interesting lol"

That awkward conversation wearing a gimp mask...are ya going anywhere nice for your holidays

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By *ixie and dixie2022Couple
over a year ago

villiage

Walking into a M&G to see your nephew standing there sharp turn and back out they door

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By *eddybear37Man
over a year ago

everywhere kildare longford

"Walking into a M&G to see your nephew standing there sharp turn and back out they door"
awkward surely

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By *ulu00Woman
over a year ago

Donegal

Life

Funerals

Socials

Sober bathroom conversations lol

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